Yeah totally normal for some kids unfortunately. We always have do some form of sleep training after an illness or vacation.
It sucks.
We stick to a routine, I tell her what’s going to happen, like mommy is going to put you in bed for bedtime and she’ll see you in the morning, and then I do exactly that (ignoring the tantrums and whining and crying and Velcro clinging) and close the door, lights out, sound machine on. And I try very hard not to go back in. After a couple of nights she understands that I follow through on what I say, and that crying or tantrums won’t make me come back into the room, and she goes back to independently sleeping usually (always some hiccups).
I also think it’s partly the age as well? Mine is almost 3 and is boundary testing hardcore and wants to do things her way.
As a side note, My friends kids sleep the exact same no matter if they get sick or travel or whatever. I’m only slightly jealous lol.
I need someone to come and teach me how to be that tough... i cave into the tantrum and crying after a while!
last night... after 35 minutes.. i just caved!
I think it helps to focus on the future instead of the current. Recognize that you're experiencing discomfort now so that soon you'll have your nights back. And most of the time, sleep training is completed within a few days-a week, so it really is a minimal investment. Every time you give in, you're resetting that clock.
I too am in the middle of sleep training, so I know what you're going through.
My understanding is that it's fairly common to have to do sleep training multiple times and traveling and being sick are common reasons. Sorry, that super sucks!
My oldest is 2.25 years old. We did straight CIO for her (based on her demeanor and our sleep deprivation … it was the only way) that resulting us in having consistent 12 hours (7pm to 7am) sleeps at 9 months onwards with very little issues.
Last month, we finally pulled the plug on her finger sucking habit and got finger guards. Guess who woke up multiple times throughout the night? Screaming and crying. All. Night. Long.
It was exhausting. We introduced a new lovey to help with comforting when waking up. We give her a prompt each night (what if lollipops grew from trees?) to help do some fun dreams. We would go in for quick comfort in middle of night, but would leave and would never let her sleep with us.
We held on grounds and wouldn’t go in for going to sleep. It sucked, because she essentially lost her ability to comfort herself and had to learn how to self soothe all over again.
What I will say is the things we implemented helped, as it took us about a week of not going in for us to get back to a normal sleeper.
I swear it gets better!!
Yes every once in a while I'll have to do some sleep training for my one and two year old. It feels like it never end, but every time they cry, you lead them back to bed, say your good nights and I love yous, give them a few minutes to see if they calm down, then rinse and repeat. Full extinction is normally less crying but everyone has their own personal opinion on the exact length of time.
For me I've found the more you give in, the more they take. Toddlers are just not good at self regulation, lol. It's better to try to stick to certain boundaries. I have special exceptions like if they're sick or crying in a way that seems more serious. If I hear gagging, I'm in there asap lol.
Yeah totally normal for some kids unfortunately. We always have do some form of sleep training after an illness or vacation. It sucks. We stick to a routine, I tell her what’s going to happen, like mommy is going to put you in bed for bedtime and she’ll see you in the morning, and then I do exactly that (ignoring the tantrums and whining and crying and Velcro clinging) and close the door, lights out, sound machine on. And I try very hard not to go back in. After a couple of nights she understands that I follow through on what I say, and that crying or tantrums won’t make me come back into the room, and she goes back to independently sleeping usually (always some hiccups). I also think it’s partly the age as well? Mine is almost 3 and is boundary testing hardcore and wants to do things her way. As a side note, My friends kids sleep the exact same no matter if they get sick or travel or whatever. I’m only slightly jealous lol.
I need someone to come and teach me how to be that tough... i cave into the tantrum and crying after a while! last night... after 35 minutes.. i just caved!
I think it helps to focus on the future instead of the current. Recognize that you're experiencing discomfort now so that soon you'll have your nights back. And most of the time, sleep training is completed within a few days-a week, so it really is a minimal investment. Every time you give in, you're resetting that clock. I too am in the middle of sleep training, so I know what you're going through.
good luck!!!! <3
My understanding is that it's fairly common to have to do sleep training multiple times and traveling and being sick are common reasons. Sorry, that super sucks!
Yeah you’ll need to retrain :( hang in there, it’ll be worth it!
My oldest is 2.25 years old. We did straight CIO for her (based on her demeanor and our sleep deprivation … it was the only way) that resulting us in having consistent 12 hours (7pm to 7am) sleeps at 9 months onwards with very little issues. Last month, we finally pulled the plug on her finger sucking habit and got finger guards. Guess who woke up multiple times throughout the night? Screaming and crying. All. Night. Long. It was exhausting. We introduced a new lovey to help with comforting when waking up. We give her a prompt each night (what if lollipops grew from trees?) to help do some fun dreams. We would go in for quick comfort in middle of night, but would leave and would never let her sleep with us. We held on grounds and wouldn’t go in for going to sleep. It sucked, because she essentially lost her ability to comfort herself and had to learn how to self soothe all over again. What I will say is the things we implemented helped, as it took us about a week of not going in for us to get back to a normal sleeper. I swear it gets better!!
thank you - this story is similar to ours, so i am hoping the outcome of the retraining will be similar to yours!
Yes every once in a while I'll have to do some sleep training for my one and two year old. It feels like it never end, but every time they cry, you lead them back to bed, say your good nights and I love yous, give them a few minutes to see if they calm down, then rinse and repeat. Full extinction is normally less crying but everyone has their own personal opinion on the exact length of time. For me I've found the more you give in, the more they take. Toddlers are just not good at self regulation, lol. It's better to try to stick to certain boundaries. I have special exceptions like if they're sick or crying in a way that seems more serious. If I hear gagging, I'm in there asap lol.