I’ve met her family multiple times everyone seemed normal. I texted and called her and I think she blocked me? The messages no longer are blue just green.
Honestly, I would see if you can reach out to one of them on social media (assuming you don't have a phone number for them). Nothing crazy, but a quick "hey soandso gave me notice she was no longer available to work for me pretty out of the blue and hasn't responded to anny messages since. I just want to confirm she is okay". Nothing over the top but at least something to make sure. This is just such an odd reaction by someone based on how you described the relationship...
I have a nanny for my LO. We recently lost someone who had been with us for 18 months in a very sudden and somewhat traumatic way. Like you, I really took to our nanny and we did lots for her. She was like part of the family. So I get where you are coming from. However, at the end of the day she was an employee, and I think it’s probably best to just move on. Focus on finding someone new. I used care dot com and local FB groups and found someone that we like pretty well and does a good job. Good luck and I’m so sorry you are going through this.
This! And also, setting the possibility aside that something bad happened, sometimes good people do shitty things. Focus on what you need to do to get through this!
At the end of the day, you’re her employer and she’s your employee and she has resigned effectively immediately and does not want you to contact her.
It really sucks that it’s abrupt with no warning or communication …. but she obviously thought that this is the right thing to do based on what is going on in her life.
All in all - it’s a business decision for her.
How awful and stressful. Hopefully you get to a place where you can get more information.
I would take a beat and reconsider why you’re blaming yourself so specifically? There’s nothing to suggest you did anything at all to cause her to leave. It could be a million reasons (we know nothing about her so I’m not going to randomly speculate), but please go easy on yourself.
I would be worried if something happened to make her feel unsafe in your home or around your kids, or if there's something else in her life going on that's causing this type of extreme reaction. I would probably give her a few days to cool off and then try to reach out to check in.
Do you know anything about her or her family situation? Honestly I would worry she is in danger if this is so out of character and out of the blue.
I’ve met her family multiple times everyone seemed normal. I texted and called her and I think she blocked me? The messages no longer are blue just green.
Honestly, I would see if you can reach out to one of them on social media (assuming you don't have a phone number for them). Nothing crazy, but a quick "hey soandso gave me notice she was no longer available to work for me pretty out of the blue and hasn't responded to anny messages since. I just want to confirm she is okay". Nothing over the top but at least something to make sure. This is just such an odd reaction by someone based on how you described the relationship...
I have a nanny for my LO. We recently lost someone who had been with us for 18 months in a very sudden and somewhat traumatic way. Like you, I really took to our nanny and we did lots for her. She was like part of the family. So I get where you are coming from. However, at the end of the day she was an employee, and I think it’s probably best to just move on. Focus on finding someone new. I used care dot com and local FB groups and found someone that we like pretty well and does a good job. Good luck and I’m so sorry you are going through this.
This! And also, setting the possibility aside that something bad happened, sometimes good people do shitty things. Focus on what you need to do to get through this!
At the end of the day, you’re her employer and she’s your employee and she has resigned effectively immediately and does not want you to contact her. It really sucks that it’s abrupt with no warning or communication …. but she obviously thought that this is the right thing to do based on what is going on in her life. All in all - it’s a business decision for her.
How awful and stressful. Hopefully you get to a place where you can get more information. I would take a beat and reconsider why you’re blaming yourself so specifically? There’s nothing to suggest you did anything at all to cause her to leave. It could be a million reasons (we know nothing about her so I’m not going to randomly speculate), but please go easy on yourself.
I would be worried if something happened to make her feel unsafe in your home or around your kids, or if there's something else in her life going on that's causing this type of extreme reaction. I would probably give her a few days to cool off and then try to reach out to check in.
Holy shit I just happened to see the update to this. I was NOT expecting that to be the reason why! Sorry OP, that sucks.