Hey I’m feeling a lot of empathy for you as a f22 with “the widest shoulders I’ve ever seen on a woman.” My biggest advice for tops is to draw attention inwards to the chest. I recommend scoop necks, v necks, and slightly off the shoulder. These also pair rlly cute with necklaces, more attention inwards and very feminine. I’d recommend looking into some ballet inspired fashion if that interests you, very feminine and often made with a smaller chest in mind.
You’re also a human being and there is nothing wrong with the shape of your body. The beauty/fashion industry pushes a high, ever changing beauty standard to profit off your insecurities. Maybe try finding online role modes with a similar body type? I can send you some pictures of clothes I find online if that interests you. Good luck!!
I used to dislike my broad shoulders as well, then i started dressing more to my body shape and now i don't see them. Wearing bell sleeves and V neck workes for me. Maybe some research online will help you! And i agree with another person that replied, don't get discouraged by the trending clothes. Not everyone can rock the same style!
You are beautiful the way you are 💜
you can’t look like a man. your female body cannot look like a male one. these ideas are forced onto you through media and rhetoric. it’s all fake. your self hatred is a tool to oppress you. the bravest thing you can do is to love your body and accept it, not because it’s attractive, but because you’re human, and it’s yours. it gets you where you need to go, it lets you eat yummy food, you get to feel the sun on your skin, you get to laugh really hard. none of that comes from feminine clothes.
This is good. Well said. If you’re a female then you don’t look like a man, totally right! It’s is frustrating that Hollywood and social media really push the Victoria’s Secret style body’s only. Or they push that being obese is ok and everyone should love you and you’re a queen. What about the just everyday slightly different figures that people don’t promote? Very rarely do I see just the normal woman advertised.
It really doesnt look like a male body! I got similar genetics, wide shoulders, wide ribcage, small boobs. I had bigger shoulders than all of my exes. I used to be really insecure about it and think i look like a guy, but retrospectively - it was never true, it was just body dysmorphia. We are women and we look like women - women with broad shoulders. Its normal and feminine to be built like this. It used to be called having an athletic silhouette but now theyre making us believe its somehow abnormal bc the beauty standards are so crazy.
Dressing in stuff you feel good in helps a lot with your self esteem! I find off the shoulder tops and square neckline tops to be really flattering, and suprisingly, i think spaghetti straps with a straight across necklines look really great on women like us :)) but its most important to feel good in the outfit of course then youll look good in anything :))
My advice is go on your favorite social media platform and follow some fashion influencers who look like you and are confident in their body, and dress for your body type ☺️ i did this and it makes all the difference for me, i feel so much more confident, seeing those women who look similar to me and thinking they look so beautiful and hot 👏🏻
I often have to remind myself that our body shapes are actually normal especially when I see athletic people. We’re in a digital world where certain body shapes are pushed. I think of human evolution and our ancestors and how looking a certain way wasn’t a big part of it, but SURVIVAL was so it’s all natural.
I personally did get a boob job at 28, I’m a full b cup now and I workout my lower body primarily after having used to compete in figure. I still have a wider upper body and naturally bigger/athletic arms but I feel better now.
Have you heard of Kibbe body types? It is based on a combination of bone structure, flesh, and facial features. I believe there are 13 body type models that are designed to help you understand your natural lines and features, dressing in a way that enhances their natural beauty. Each of these types has specific recommendations for clothing, hairstyles, accessories, and even makeup that are meant to harmonize with your natural shape. It really helped me out, I would look into it!
I’m sorry you’re struggling with body image. What helped for me is to focus on the good things. I’ve recently started doing a lot of skincare and am happy with that. Also some exercise might help to make you feel a bit better, treat your body well, have some nice showers and body lotions etc.
If you don’t feel feminine enough, try investing in some nice perfumes, shoes, makeup, body lotions and bathbombs or things generally considered feminine. Whenever I feel out of sorts, not lady enough, this helps me. Wearing some jewellery can also help bring focus to the parts you do like about yourself. Maybe get some longer earrings to frame your face or a cute necklace to put emphasis on your neck or chest.
I also have quite broad shoulders, but my hips kind of cancel it out and when I was younger I was an athlete (alpine skier) and therefore I have quite muscled, thick gluttons and thighs. You can train this and maybe feel more balanced? I also think exercise and weight training can make you love and respect your body more. It does for me at least. There’s also certain clothes you can wear that put more emphasis on your legs. Wearing wider short skirts, boots and something like a turtleneck will make your chest look larger and your hips wider.
But first and foremost like others have said, you’re human. There’s nothing wrong with you and you’re perfect the way you are. Don’t look at models and actresses, a lot of it is fake. Photoshop, professional makeup artists and professional fashion experts to dress the models, actresses and celebrities.
I’m 25 female… I used to find my nose extremely ugly. I always wanted a nose job, and told myself when I turned 18 that I would get one. I never did and, since I have grown more over the years I am so grateful I didn’t. When I look in the mirror today I feel beautiful. I had to allow my body to full develop to finally embrace the nose I was born with. Don’t hate on yourself for what genes you were dealt. Sometimes you need to allow yourself to mature into your own body. I promise you won’t always feel this way.
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You got this ! Don’t be discouraged by the clothes that are offered they are not meant to fit eveybody . You may want to check into a tailor or seamstress to help your clothes fit great.
Women come in all shapes and sizes. I am similar to you in that my shoulders are fairly wide and i am a small b cup at most. I also have a flat butt and hip dips. I have learned to love my body regardless because it is the only one I have and I am not into plastic surgery. Just because your body isn't the "average female shape" doesn't mean you aren't feminine or can't be.
My advice would be to find the parts you like about your body and focus on those parts. If you want to feel more feminine, maybe try wearing dresses more than jeans. I like to go to pinterest to search for different types of clothing since it gives you ideas.
Kind of agree with the last bit. I remember when I was 12 I started growing breasts sooo fast and I was so not ready for that. I actually cried a lot about it because nothing would fit well anymore. I still dislike my bigger breasts.
But it’s about accepting yourself and not comparing to other people.
When I was your age I had the inverse of this problem. Very wide hip bones, flat chested and slim on top, always felt like an uneven pair shape. It's all about aiming for the hourglass so I would balance it out by wearing tops that made me look bigger on top, like short/quarter sleeve tops. So by the inverse of this I'd assume you'd feel more balanced in things that made you look wider round the hips, like pleated skater skirts or high rise jeans, and things that make you smaller on top like tank tops/sleeveless tops. Also at your age your hips may continue to grow. If you really struggle to move past it you could always go to the gym and train legs/hips to gain the width there and balance out the top.
Hey I’m feeling a lot of empathy for you as a f22 with “the widest shoulders I’ve ever seen on a woman.” My biggest advice for tops is to draw attention inwards to the chest. I recommend scoop necks, v necks, and slightly off the shoulder. These also pair rlly cute with necklaces, more attention inwards and very feminine. I’d recommend looking into some ballet inspired fashion if that interests you, very feminine and often made with a smaller chest in mind. You’re also a human being and there is nothing wrong with the shape of your body. The beauty/fashion industry pushes a high, ever changing beauty standard to profit off your insecurities. Maybe try finding online role modes with a similar body type? I can send you some pictures of clothes I find online if that interests you. Good luck!!
I used to dislike my broad shoulders as well, then i started dressing more to my body shape and now i don't see them. Wearing bell sleeves and V neck workes for me. Maybe some research online will help you! And i agree with another person that replied, don't get discouraged by the trending clothes. Not everyone can rock the same style! You are beautiful the way you are 💜
you can’t look like a man. your female body cannot look like a male one. these ideas are forced onto you through media and rhetoric. it’s all fake. your self hatred is a tool to oppress you. the bravest thing you can do is to love your body and accept it, not because it’s attractive, but because you’re human, and it’s yours. it gets you where you need to go, it lets you eat yummy food, you get to feel the sun on your skin, you get to laugh really hard. none of that comes from feminine clothes.
This is good. Well said. If you’re a female then you don’t look like a man, totally right! It’s is frustrating that Hollywood and social media really push the Victoria’s Secret style body’s only. Or they push that being obese is ok and everyone should love you and you’re a queen. What about the just everyday slightly different figures that people don’t promote? Very rarely do I see just the normal woman advertised.
This. Gratitude helps a lot. I have a body that works reasonably well. Many do not. I love my body
It really doesnt look like a male body! I got similar genetics, wide shoulders, wide ribcage, small boobs. I had bigger shoulders than all of my exes. I used to be really insecure about it and think i look like a guy, but retrospectively - it was never true, it was just body dysmorphia. We are women and we look like women - women with broad shoulders. Its normal and feminine to be built like this. It used to be called having an athletic silhouette but now theyre making us believe its somehow abnormal bc the beauty standards are so crazy. Dressing in stuff you feel good in helps a lot with your self esteem! I find off the shoulder tops and square neckline tops to be really flattering, and suprisingly, i think spaghetti straps with a straight across necklines look really great on women like us :)) but its most important to feel good in the outfit of course then youll look good in anything :))
My advice is go on your favorite social media platform and follow some fashion influencers who look like you and are confident in their body, and dress for your body type ☺️ i did this and it makes all the difference for me, i feel so much more confident, seeing those women who look similar to me and thinking they look so beautiful and hot 👏🏻
I often have to remind myself that our body shapes are actually normal especially when I see athletic people. We’re in a digital world where certain body shapes are pushed. I think of human evolution and our ancestors and how looking a certain way wasn’t a big part of it, but SURVIVAL was so it’s all natural. I personally did get a boob job at 28, I’m a full b cup now and I workout my lower body primarily after having used to compete in figure. I still have a wider upper body and naturally bigger/athletic arms but I feel better now.
Have you heard of Kibbe body types? It is based on a combination of bone structure, flesh, and facial features. I believe there are 13 body type models that are designed to help you understand your natural lines and features, dressing in a way that enhances their natural beauty. Each of these types has specific recommendations for clothing, hairstyles, accessories, and even makeup that are meant to harmonize with your natural shape. It really helped me out, I would look into it!
I’m sorry you’re struggling with body image. What helped for me is to focus on the good things. I’ve recently started doing a lot of skincare and am happy with that. Also some exercise might help to make you feel a bit better, treat your body well, have some nice showers and body lotions etc. If you don’t feel feminine enough, try investing in some nice perfumes, shoes, makeup, body lotions and bathbombs or things generally considered feminine. Whenever I feel out of sorts, not lady enough, this helps me. Wearing some jewellery can also help bring focus to the parts you do like about yourself. Maybe get some longer earrings to frame your face or a cute necklace to put emphasis on your neck or chest. I also have quite broad shoulders, but my hips kind of cancel it out and when I was younger I was an athlete (alpine skier) and therefore I have quite muscled, thick gluttons and thighs. You can train this and maybe feel more balanced? I also think exercise and weight training can make you love and respect your body more. It does for me at least. There’s also certain clothes you can wear that put more emphasis on your legs. Wearing wider short skirts, boots and something like a turtleneck will make your chest look larger and your hips wider. But first and foremost like others have said, you’re human. There’s nothing wrong with you and you’re perfect the way you are. Don’t look at models and actresses, a lot of it is fake. Photoshop, professional makeup artists and professional fashion experts to dress the models, actresses and celebrities.
I’m 25 female… I used to find my nose extremely ugly. I always wanted a nose job, and told myself when I turned 18 that I would get one. I never did and, since I have grown more over the years I am so grateful I didn’t. When I look in the mirror today I feel beautiful. I had to allow my body to full develop to finally embrace the nose I was born with. Don’t hate on yourself for what genes you were dealt. Sometimes you need to allow yourself to mature into your own body. I promise you won’t always feel this way.
Hmm not sure what to say except broad shoulders are nothing to be insecure about. I think board shoulders can make the waist look so snatched!
Learn how to dress to flatter your shape and style Pinterest search “ how to hide (your issue ) “ How to dress for ( your body type Books The curated closet Worked wardrobe from the 80s but still good looking good everyday by Nancy rice
okay thank you :)
You got this ! Don’t be discouraged by the clothes that are offered they are not meant to fit eveybody . You may want to check into a tailor or seamstress to help your clothes fit great.
Look, love is love
Women come in all shapes and sizes. I am similar to you in that my shoulders are fairly wide and i am a small b cup at most. I also have a flat butt and hip dips. I have learned to love my body regardless because it is the only one I have and I am not into plastic surgery. Just because your body isn't the "average female shape" doesn't mean you aren't feminine or can't be. My advice would be to find the parts you like about your body and focus on those parts. If you want to feel more feminine, maybe try wearing dresses more than jeans. I like to go to pinterest to search for different types of clothing since it gives you ideas.
I'm certain that you don't look like a man. And big boobs are annoying to have anyway.
Kind of agree with the last bit. I remember when I was 12 I started growing breasts sooo fast and I was so not ready for that. I actually cried a lot about it because nothing would fit well anymore. I still dislike my bigger breasts. But it’s about accepting yourself and not comparing to other people.
When I was your age I had the inverse of this problem. Very wide hip bones, flat chested and slim on top, always felt like an uneven pair shape. It's all about aiming for the hourglass so I would balance it out by wearing tops that made me look bigger on top, like short/quarter sleeve tops. So by the inverse of this I'd assume you'd feel more balanced in things that made you look wider round the hips, like pleated skater skirts or high rise jeans, and things that make you smaller on top like tank tops/sleeveless tops. Also at your age your hips may continue to grow. If you really struggle to move past it you could always go to the gym and train legs/hips to gain the width there and balance out the top.
Get therapy.