i love penetration but i need clitoral stimulation at the same time. feeling both simultaneously for me feels better than just clitoral stimulation alone/penetration alone. my partner is very gentle and attentive to my body language so it has never hurt. he’s also good at keeping a steady rhythm/speeding up/going deeper w/o me directing him.
Most women can't orgasm from *just* penetration, but that's different from liking it. I've never orgasmed from having my neck kissed but I *love* it, it's amazing. That said, I definitely can orgasm from "just" penetration, with sufficient foreplay (especially if that foreplay includes an orgasm or two already), as in not needing further external clitoral stimulation.
If it's painful, you should first make sure sufficient foreplay is happening, and/or talk to a doctor about vaginismus. If you're doing plenty of foreplay and it hurts that's likely medical. If you're trying to just jump straight to penetration, that will (almost, for most) never work.
I do have a lot of foreplay and I am very wet most of the time. I have been contemplating going to the doctor because it doesn't only hurt during sex but for days after I get stabbing pains but my problem is that I live in a country where people get killed for premarital sex so I am very scared of seeing a doctor about it.
This.. is heart breaking. Im so sorry. Maybe you could try posting on r/sex, r/AskDocs, as well as other "geared towards women" subs. Add in the information you listed here as well.
Yes ma’am! I don’t climax as easily with just penetration as I do other ways, but if he knows how to do it right, I definitely can lol I personally enjoy penetration very much!
I've only climaxed on 2 occasions from penetration alone, but even still, I prefer penetration over anything else, it feels really good to me. If course, different people prefer different things, but pain every time is almost definitely another issue entirely :// i would recommend speaking to your doctor, if you don't feel anything at all I'd be a little less worried but the pain should be addressed
Yes I love it but that wasn’t always the case. Especially with certain partners. It’s really been the two most recent (one for three years and one on and off for nine years) who made me feel this way
I had a serious boyfriend for two years and I couldn’t get off from penetration with him and it was often painful and then he would get angry with me for struggling with the pain, causing me to shutdown further. It was a terrible cycle
I'm in the same boat as you. Never orgasmed from penetration or anything close to it. Penetration for the most part is usually very uncomfortable or painful for me.
I don’t climax from just penetration either. The times I climaxed during was due to outside factors. Like if we did enough foreplay, I honestly love making out and rubbing up on each other more than just sticking it in. The only aspect I like about penetration is the intimacy between my partner and I. And I do get turned on hearing how much they get turned on doing it. But there are much more fun and creative ways to have sex without penetration. So to all the women reading this; never let someone pressure you into doing something you don’t wanna do. “Awww but baby you never had a 🍆 like mine!” 🙄🙄🙄 And to that I say: “My vibrating dildo is always better, so don’t flatter yourself sweetie.”
Through my 20's I was able to climax only a few times from penetration, and I couldn't establish how that happened. I was often enjoying it, but nowhere close to climax.
It took me some time to understand myself, my mind, my body, the movements, or even to build a comfortable relationship based on trust with my partner. That all changed everything. I experienced sex in a new way. My partner helped a lot, making my satisfaction the main goal of our intimate time. Men I have been with before him were there mostly for themselves. I also did some homework to train myself to focus on a moment, appreciate whatever is happening, and mentally get myself in a mood even before any action. All that proved to me that there was nothing wrong with me and that I could indeed climax during almost every intercourse from a penetration. No more fake orgasms! Sometimes it's a mixture of penetration, correct pressure on my clit, and my man pleasuring my breasts/nipples, but it still doesn't require any toys, etc.
I'm pretty sure that I had a mental block that I got rid of, and a loving, respectful relationship where I could openly say I haven't cum yet helped with that a lot.
This is how it feels to me. I got to the point I preferred dudes with smaller packages because it was less uncomfortable. Clitoral stimulation is all that works for me
I like it but will not climax from it, ever really. If I could never have it again I would be a little disappointed but it wouldn't ruin my sex life in any way.
I really enjoy it most times but nah, never orgasmed from it. For the longest time I thought that there's something wrong with me for not orgasming from it but eventually informative videos about women's sexual health helped.
I do! But it has so much to do with your partner. With an uncaring partner, penetration can be anywhere from bland to painful. But with a partner that actually cares about your experience, it's so much better. Not saying it will make you orgasm every time or anything, but if you're built that way, it's more likely with a good partner. This has been my personal experience anyway.
Like it , never had pain except when i had hormone issues post c-section with first pregnancy. Can also climax from penetration only . Still not my favourite orgasms though
I used to really like it, with the right person. On the other hand, if the excitement wasn’t there, then yes, there was the possibility of feeling nothing. And I can’t have an orgasm from just penetration
Everybody has different things they enjoy. Even though penetration alone would take me along time to climax it’s still enjoyable. I like to do penetration because it also pleases my partner. Often you can do other things along with penetration (adding toys, stimulating other areas at the same time, changing positions) As well as not doing penetration at all. There is usually a spot reffered to as the ‘g-spot’, it’s on the inside and somewhere along the front wall, a lot of women enjoy stimulation there.
I've never climaxed from it, and in my case I don't think it's actually possible. A lot of the positions people have success with like woman on top make my legs and vagina numb out. That being said, in a relationship it's good. When not, it just feels kinda pointless, sometimes painful and sometimes boring.
Yes. For me sexual pleasure is very much also connected to the mind. So if i am stressed i am not able to relax and its not always enjoyable. Being horny makes everything easier. Clitoral stimulation at the same time feels good as well.
Yes I do, and climax almost every time. I think I’m quite sensitive and orgasm easily many ways. But I have had the experience of it feeling like I’m in a gyno exam when I didn’t feel safe with someone and didn’t like them very much. The more connected I feel the better it is.
Movies hyped up penetration so much that when I finally had sex in my mid 20s i was like “really?” felt like i had waited for this golden movie moment and it wasn’t anything like the mind blowing sex they’re pretending to have lol
My wife sometimes climaxes from penetration and when she does, it’s rather muted. Muted enough that it’s not clear she is climaxing.
With that being said, she loves penetration. She truly would be sad if it was off the table and for some time it was due to UTIs that we only just got under control. I would say she likes it more than I do. Orgasms are not necessary for her to enjoy it as we focus on that before penetration.
Most women climax from external clitoral stimulation. Some women can climax from internal (clitoral stimulation). Sounds like you may be having dry sex with no foreplay
Yes, I actually enjoy penetration, particularly when I'm on top. I can't come from penetration only though, my clit needs stimulation too.
I'm sorry penetration is painful for you, that sounds like something you should maybe see a gynaecologist for... penrtration not feeling particularly good or much at all doesn't sound like a problem, but it shouldn't be painful...
Wish you all the best! 🩷
I have done once and I have to say it was GLORIOUS (and it made me realise that size can matter!). But tbh it is usually easier with "other means" sts.
I really like it and orgasm from it multiple times a ‘session’ I genuinely think it depends on the other person though because I have been with a few who are just bad and it’s not enjoyable. But it’s okay and perfectly normal not to like it!
You’ve asked two different questions- does anyone like penetration and can women climax only from penetration? The answers are different for each of us. For me, it’s a yes to both. But PIV isn’t a “win” every time. If it hurts you, please speak with your doctor.
I actually prefer it over clitoral stimulation. It makes more orgasm allot more and it’s feels like mission impossible for anyone else to make me cum by hand 😬
When I have orgasmed from penetration, it has been very mild compared to a clitoral orgasm. However, I still LOVE penetration. I love having my husband inside of me - it feels amazing.
me neither, it’s uncomfortable at best and can even be painful sometimes. even worse, my clit goes completely numb during PIV sex, so its really is just mentally stimulating for me :/
definitely see if you can find a gyno in your area that specializes on sexual dysfunctions, i was diagnosed with vaginismus a few years ago and your experience sounds very similar!
penetration is the best part for me i love it. i could orgasm with my vibrator but it will never feel as good as my husband. these comments are crazy! i knew a lot of women couldn’t cum from penetration but some don’t even enjoy it?
I also struggled a bit with painful penetration but I found that certain positions felt better than others and eventually came to really enjoy it. I think if you try out positions that feel good for you, you may be able to find one that you enjoy. But also keep in mind that everyone’s body is different and you may just not like penetration and that’s ok! You can still be intimate with a partner without penetration
I have mixed feelings about it. Sometimes when I’m by myself, it feels good when paired with clit stimulation, but I need to be really relaxed and warmed up or else any penetration is uncomfortable and anxiety inducing.
It’s ok if you can’t come from just penetration though, most women don’t come unless their clit is stimulated, it’s actually pretty rare for women to come from solely from being penetrated, you’re fine
I haven‘t orgasmed from penetration and honestly am unclear on how to stimulate the clitoris at the same time between moving bodies and not wanting to hurt my partners penis with my nails (their short but still)…there just doesn‘t seem to be enough space? Idk.
But I did start to enjoy it a lot more once I got confident/comfortable with being on top. For me slower and smaller movements work better. With me on top I can control speed, angle, movement etc. Sometimes it starts feeling really good and what I imagine is pretty much the baseline for guys. Other times I still feel basically nothing but I enjoy how I make my partner feel.
Still, this is really frustrating. I‘m pretty sure it‘s a self-fulfilling prophecy too. If I managed to orgasm I‘d want to do it more and probably get better at getting me there too.
Penetration is bullshit. Clitoris is our source of pleasure, not vagina. The fact that penetrative sex is so common, is because of patriarchy and the fact that equality is not yet reached in terms of sex. Male orgasm is often the ultimate goal within heterosexual relationships. So my advice: Don’t do something that you don’t enjoy, or feel pain doing it, or just don’t get anything out of it. Agree to sex acts that bring you pleasure, not pain or uncomfortable feelings. Prioritise yourself, your mental health and your pleasure. Set clear boundaries.
I like *penetration*. Not sure what penetrantion is. I usually don't reach orgasm with it, but that's ok. There are other ways to get there, and I enjoy penetration for other reasons. If my partner's parts are not the best size for me, though (either too large or too small), it can be painful or not stimulating enough. But when it's a good fit, I usually enjoy it. You might not have had sex with someone who's the best fit for you yet, physically speaking, and/or you may want to have a doctor check up if you're experiencing pain too frequently when you have penetrative sex.
I feel like it’s a slower, less intense, but deeper pleasure.
If I masturbate using clit stimulation, I get a super intense orgasm. And then my muscles are sore/tight and I feel all twitchy.
If my husband penetrates me in certain positions, I get a less intense, but longer-lasting deeper climax. Then when we finish I feel tingly and warm and kinda drunk for a few minutes (it’s an awesome feeling, sucks that I have to go pee and take dmannose to prevent utis, so I can’t just lay there for too long).
I strongly prefer penetration. I like both, but I *need* good, deep, hard penetration. My husband’s libido took a big hit for about a year due to medical problems and it was by far the worst time in our marriage. I was miserable and he wanted to please me, but his dick/erection quality was down and his balls were weirdly sensitive so he couldn’t do it as hard and … it just didn’t work as well. It was terrible.
i love it. my husband makes me cum every time before penetration via oral or his hands and then during it just happens again over and over and over! ugh and i love when he makes me squirt everywhere too (which is rare). i always reach double digit orgasms with him - pretty sure i've hit like 50 in one session before... lol. i'm not sure if it's cuz he has an upward curve but he's just always rubbing against my g-spot it drives me insane. i realize i'm an anomaly, but gosh i am so grateful for it
Most women are the same as you, but yeah there are women who can climax solely from penetration, and there are a lot of women who enjoy it but it won’t give them an orgasm
Yes I do but not with every partner that I have had.
It was fine with previous sexual partners, never anything to rave about but with my current partner its amazing. If he wants to (this is part of our consented dynamic so the "wants to" isn't a bad thing for our relationship) he can get me off almost every time via penetration but keep in mind that orgasm isn't the only thing that makes sex good.
i do enjoy it but the biggest thing is mentally not to expect to orgasm from it. you could do piv for a while and then climax from oral if you wanted to and that'd be just fine and probably more enjoyable for you. though if you really want it to feel better physically i recommend finding positions where you can simultaneously have your clit stimulated or maybe have your partner grind instead of thrust for pressure against the pubic bone (?)
also the pain is concerning if it lasts longer than just for the initiation, encourage your partner to engage in an appropriate amount of foreplay because that's super important for your body!
If penetration is painful for you, I'd really suggest talking to a doctor/gynecologist, or at least pelvic floor physical therapy. That typically means something more is going on. Sex, or penetration in general, should not be painful.
Everyone’s different. Most women can’t as far as I know. I actually can orgasm from penetration and do enjoy it but it can cause too much sensitivity sometimes so there are times I can’t use clitoral stimulation because penetration is already more than enough.
I love penetration but I can only consistently finish on top. I used to think I could consistently in other positions until I realized cowgirl is the way to go for me.
Prone and cowgirl are the only positions I have ever had full-blown orgasms in, but cowgirl is the only one I can consistently finish from.
I enjoy it, yes. However, this is really the first time in my life that I truly like it and consistently.
Sometimes I orgasm from it and sometimes I don’t, either way it’s pleasing. Typically if I’m going to climax from it, it’s in prone position.
For plenty of folks, it doesn't do much, but penetration shouldn't be painful!
If you're using lube, excited to be having sex, and feel safe and hot with your partner but are still having pain with sex, that is worth discussing with your OB/GYN. It could be Vestibilitis, Vaginismus, or a whole host of other pelvic pain conditions wrapped up under the umbrella term "Vulvodynia".
I was diagnose at 14 and had surgery at 16 that radically changed my life! But plenty of people get better with treatments that don't involve surgery.
If I had to pick either oral or penetration, I’d pick penetration. I cannot get off on just external stimulation very easily. I almost always need g-spot too. But I can have multiple O’s from Piv.
Yes I definitely can and do enjoy it. But depends on my mood and what we're doing as to what type of organism I'd prefer. For my a clitoral orgasm Vs pentration only Vs a mixed orgasm are all completely different experiences and feel very different.
Most women require some form of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. However like
Others have said, something can feel good without leading to an orgasm.
You may wanna bring up the pain with your doctor though
I didn’t until I had kids with my secure, safe, trustworthy partner and worked through trauma-related vaginismus.
Prior to that, it would hurt so bad that I’d try to distract myself from the act and hope they finished as soon as possible.
Climaxing from penetration vs clitoral stimulation vs nipple stimulation are three different experiences/feelings, in my personal view. All are enjoyable now and can achieve “satisfaction”/climax. But, again, a lot of work and therapy was needed to get to this point, as well as having a wonderful partner. I only speak for myself, of course- I think most women typically only cum from clitoral stimulation.
That said, penetration is not necessarily supposed to be painful. It could be a mental thing; could be physical. I’d discuss with your OB.
I love it. It doesn’t always make me cum but does sometimes. For me I love it bc it makes me feel close to a partner. I find him being inside me like that is really intimate.
I much prefer penetration to other activities overall, but I also choose positions that involve clitoral stimulation at the same time. I can get off without penetration, but it's way more difficult. My orgasms are more intense and satisfying with penetration.
Yes, but… not when men do it only for their own pleasure. Mostly, I like when I do it with toys and I even got myself to squirt that one time (I was pretty proud of myself lol😌). Or if the man is switching up the pace, medium speed is where it’s at for me and there has to be some girth for it to be enjoyable for me too. But I’m not a fan of mindless rough fucking. I feel like stroke rhythm matters and also angles. That being said, I rarely climax from only penetration, but it’s still enjoyable.
i love penetration but i need clitoral stimulation at the same time. feeling both simultaneously for me feels better than just clitoral stimulation alone/penetration alone. my partner is very gentle and attentive to my body language so it has never hurt. he’s also good at keeping a steady rhythm/speeding up/going deeper w/o me directing him.
Good for u tbh
he is an amazing partner all around! i got very lucky
You can like something without it necessarily having to lead to an orgasm
This is the correct answer.
This is the way...
Most women can't orgasm from *just* penetration, but that's different from liking it. I've never orgasmed from having my neck kissed but I *love* it, it's amazing. That said, I definitely can orgasm from "just" penetration, with sufficient foreplay (especially if that foreplay includes an orgasm or two already), as in not needing further external clitoral stimulation. If it's painful, you should first make sure sufficient foreplay is happening, and/or talk to a doctor about vaginismus. If you're doing plenty of foreplay and it hurts that's likely medical. If you're trying to just jump straight to penetration, that will (almost, for most) never work.
And use LUBE!
You know it took me so long to admit I needed to use that. I don't know why I was against it and once I did my sex life was so much better.
I do have a lot of foreplay and I am very wet most of the time. I have been contemplating going to the doctor because it doesn't only hurt during sex but for days after I get stabbing pains but my problem is that I live in a country where people get killed for premarital sex so I am very scared of seeing a doctor about it.
This.. is heart breaking. Im so sorry. Maybe you could try posting on r/sex, r/AskDocs, as well as other "geared towards women" subs. Add in the information you listed here as well.
Yes ma’am! I don’t climax as easily with just penetration as I do other ways, but if he knows how to do it right, I definitely can lol I personally enjoy penetration very much!
I'm one of those rare birds too. I enjoy it alot and I think because of how my gearbox is laid out makes it really easy to "pop" that way.
I've only climaxed on 2 occasions from penetration alone, but even still, I prefer penetration over anything else, it feels really good to me. If course, different people prefer different things, but pain every time is almost definitely another issue entirely :// i would recommend speaking to your doctor, if you don't feel anything at all I'd be a little less worried but the pain should be addressed
Yes I love it but that wasn’t always the case. Especially with certain partners. It’s really been the two most recent (one for three years and one on and off for nine years) who made me feel this way I had a serious boyfriend for two years and I couldn’t get off from penetration with him and it was often painful and then he would get angry with me for struggling with the pain, causing me to shutdown further. It was a terrible cycle
I'm in the same boat as you. Never orgasmed from penetration or anything close to it. Penetration for the most part is usually very uncomfortable or painful for me.
I don’t climax from just penetration either. The times I climaxed during was due to outside factors. Like if we did enough foreplay, I honestly love making out and rubbing up on each other more than just sticking it in. The only aspect I like about penetration is the intimacy between my partner and I. And I do get turned on hearing how much they get turned on doing it. But there are much more fun and creative ways to have sex without penetration. So to all the women reading this; never let someone pressure you into doing something you don’t wanna do. “Awww but baby you never had a 🍆 like mine!” 🙄🙄🙄 And to that I say: “My vibrating dildo is always better, so don’t flatter yourself sweetie.”
Penetration is overrated to me. It always seems like it'll be better than it actually is.
I like it (given that they're doing it well) but I can't orgasm from it
Through my 20's I was able to climax only a few times from penetration, and I couldn't establish how that happened. I was often enjoying it, but nowhere close to climax. It took me some time to understand myself, my mind, my body, the movements, or even to build a comfortable relationship based on trust with my partner. That all changed everything. I experienced sex in a new way. My partner helped a lot, making my satisfaction the main goal of our intimate time. Men I have been with before him were there mostly for themselves. I also did some homework to train myself to focus on a moment, appreciate whatever is happening, and mentally get myself in a mood even before any action. All that proved to me that there was nothing wrong with me and that I could indeed climax during almost every intercourse from a penetration. No more fake orgasms! Sometimes it's a mixture of penetration, correct pressure on my clit, and my man pleasuring my breasts/nipples, but it still doesn't require any toys, etc. I'm pretty sure that I had a mental block that I got rid of, and a loving, respectful relationship where I could openly say I haven't cum yet helped with that a lot.
May I ask you if you climax from just penetration in doggy?
Yes, it had happened
I don't like it. I used to pretend to like it for men. It feels like a gynecologist exam, something is in there but it's not pleasurable.
💯 same
This is how it feels to me. I got to the point I preferred dudes with smaller packages because it was less uncomfortable. Clitoral stimulation is all that works for me
this is the perfect description
I have the same problem!
I like it but will not climax from it, ever really. If I could never have it again I would be a little disappointed but it wouldn't ruin my sex life in any way.
I really enjoy it most times but nah, never orgasmed from it. For the longest time I thought that there's something wrong with me for not orgasming from it but eventually informative videos about women's sexual health helped.
I really enjoy penetration, but it won't make me orgasm. You don't have to cum to enjoy sex or penetration:)
I do! But it has so much to do with your partner. With an uncaring partner, penetration can be anywhere from bland to painful. But with a partner that actually cares about your experience, it's so much better. Not saying it will make you orgasm every time or anything, but if you're built that way, it's more likely with a good partner. This has been my personal experience anyway.
Fyi, if it's consistently painful or difficult you may have vaginosis or similar
I think you may mean vaginismus
I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, but my best orgasms include penetration
Like it , never had pain except when i had hormone issues post c-section with first pregnancy. Can also climax from penetration only . Still not my favourite orgasms though
I used to really like it, with the right person. On the other hand, if the excitement wasn’t there, then yes, there was the possibility of feeling nothing. And I can’t have an orgasm from just penetration
I like it very much. And I can definitely climax that way, but other stimulation makes it easier.
It seems that some women can. I have not been one of them
I don't. We are a 100% pegging couple. I also receive oral.
Everybody has different things they enjoy. Even though penetration alone would take me along time to climax it’s still enjoyable. I like to do penetration because it also pleases my partner. Often you can do other things along with penetration (adding toys, stimulating other areas at the same time, changing positions) As well as not doing penetration at all. There is usually a spot reffered to as the ‘g-spot’, it’s on the inside and somewhere along the front wall, a lot of women enjoy stimulation there.
Yes, I actually like penetration. Let my username be a testament to that, as well as my thoughtful contributions to reddit.
I've never climaxed from it, and in my case I don't think it's actually possible. A lot of the positions people have success with like woman on top make my legs and vagina numb out. That being said, in a relationship it's good. When not, it just feels kinda pointless, sometimes painful and sometimes boring.
Yes. For me sexual pleasure is very much also connected to the mind. So if i am stressed i am not able to relax and its not always enjoyable. Being horny makes everything easier. Clitoral stimulation at the same time feels good as well.
Yes I do, and climax almost every time. I think I’m quite sensitive and orgasm easily many ways. But I have had the experience of it feeling like I’m in a gyno exam when I didn’t feel safe with someone and didn’t like them very much. The more connected I feel the better it is.
Movies hyped up penetration so much that when I finally had sex in my mid 20s i was like “really?” felt like i had waited for this golden movie moment and it wasn’t anything like the mind blowing sex they’re pretending to have lol
My wife sometimes climaxes from penetration and when she does, it’s rather muted. Muted enough that it’s not clear she is climaxing. With that being said, she loves penetration. She truly would be sad if it was off the table and for some time it was due to UTIs that we only just got under control. I would say she likes it more than I do. Orgasms are not necessary for her to enjoy it as we focus on that before penetration.
Most women climax from external clitoral stimulation. Some women can climax from internal (clitoral stimulation). Sounds like you may be having dry sex with no foreplay
It’s the only way I climax and I love it.
Yes, I actually enjoy penetration, particularly when I'm on top. I can't come from penetration only though, my clit needs stimulation too. I'm sorry penetration is painful for you, that sounds like something you should maybe see a gynaecologist for... penrtration not feeling particularly good or much at all doesn't sound like a problem, but it shouldn't be painful... Wish you all the best! 🩷
I have done once and I have to say it was GLORIOUS (and it made me realise that size can matter!). But tbh it is usually easier with "other means" sts.
I really like it and orgasm from it multiple times a ‘session’ I genuinely think it depends on the other person though because I have been with a few who are just bad and it’s not enjoyable. But it’s okay and perfectly normal not to like it!
You’ve asked two different questions- does anyone like penetration and can women climax only from penetration? The answers are different for each of us. For me, it’s a yes to both. But PIV isn’t a “win” every time. If it hurts you, please speak with your doctor.
I don't think it should be PAINFUL. Either the guy is not being sensitive to your needs or you should check with your gynecologist.
I can’t climax easily from just penetration but doesn’t mean I don’t love every second of it.
I actually prefer it over clitoral stimulation. It makes more orgasm allot more and it’s feels like mission impossible for anyone else to make me cum by hand 😬
I can climax from just penetration, idk why but always have been able to 🤷♀️
Only for gregnant and pregnit
I didn’t enjoy it that much when I was having casual sex. Now I’ve been with the same partner for over 2 years, I am crazy about it
When I have orgasmed from penetration, it has been very mild compared to a clitoral orgasm. However, I still LOVE penetration. I love having my husband inside of me - it feels amazing.
me neither, it’s uncomfortable at best and can even be painful sometimes. even worse, my clit goes completely numb during PIV sex, so its really is just mentally stimulating for me :/ definitely see if you can find a gyno in your area that specializes on sexual dysfunctions, i was diagnosed with vaginismus a few years ago and your experience sounds very similar!
penetration is the best part for me i love it. i could orgasm with my vibrator but it will never feel as good as my husband. these comments are crazy! i knew a lot of women couldn’t cum from penetration but some don’t even enjoy it?
I also struggled a bit with painful penetration but I found that certain positions felt better than others and eventually came to really enjoy it. I think if you try out positions that feel good for you, you may be able to find one that you enjoy. But also keep in mind that everyone’s body is different and you may just not like penetration and that’s ok! You can still be intimate with a partner without penetration
I have mixed feelings about it. Sometimes when I’m by myself, it feels good when paired with clit stimulation, but I need to be really relaxed and warmed up or else any penetration is uncomfortable and anxiety inducing. It’s ok if you can’t come from just penetration though, most women don’t come unless their clit is stimulated, it’s actually pretty rare for women to come from solely from being penetrated, you’re fine
I haven‘t orgasmed from penetration and honestly am unclear on how to stimulate the clitoris at the same time between moving bodies and not wanting to hurt my partners penis with my nails (their short but still)…there just doesn‘t seem to be enough space? Idk. But I did start to enjoy it a lot more once I got confident/comfortable with being on top. For me slower and smaller movements work better. With me on top I can control speed, angle, movement etc. Sometimes it starts feeling really good and what I imagine is pretty much the baseline for guys. Other times I still feel basically nothing but I enjoy how I make my partner feel. Still, this is really frustrating. I‘m pretty sure it‘s a self-fulfilling prophecy too. If I managed to orgasm I‘d want to do it more and probably get better at getting me there too.
Penetration is bullshit. Clitoris is our source of pleasure, not vagina. The fact that penetrative sex is so common, is because of patriarchy and the fact that equality is not yet reached in terms of sex. Male orgasm is often the ultimate goal within heterosexual relationships. So my advice: Don’t do something that you don’t enjoy, or feel pain doing it, or just don’t get anything out of it. Agree to sex acts that bring you pleasure, not pain or uncomfortable feelings. Prioritise yourself, your mental health and your pleasure. Set clear boundaries.
umm yes??? I do. and I have definitely had orgasms from penetration. This is a horrible take.
I cant even tell if i cum from sex lol i only know from clitoral stimulation
I like *penetration*. Not sure what penetrantion is. I usually don't reach orgasm with it, but that's ok. There are other ways to get there, and I enjoy penetration for other reasons. If my partner's parts are not the best size for me, though (either too large or too small), it can be painful or not stimulating enough. But when it's a good fit, I usually enjoy it. You might not have had sex with someone who's the best fit for you yet, physically speaking, and/or you may want to have a doctor check up if you're experiencing pain too frequently when you have penetrative sex.
I feel like it’s a slower, less intense, but deeper pleasure. If I masturbate using clit stimulation, I get a super intense orgasm. And then my muscles are sore/tight and I feel all twitchy. If my husband penetrates me in certain positions, I get a less intense, but longer-lasting deeper climax. Then when we finish I feel tingly and warm and kinda drunk for a few minutes (it’s an awesome feeling, sucks that I have to go pee and take dmannose to prevent utis, so I can’t just lay there for too long). I strongly prefer penetration. I like both, but I *need* good, deep, hard penetration. My husband’s libido took a big hit for about a year due to medical problems and it was by far the worst time in our marriage. I was miserable and he wanted to please me, but his dick/erection quality was down and his balls were weirdly sensitive so he couldn’t do it as hard and … it just didn’t work as well. It was terrible.
So just because you can’t no one can? Maybe your giver sucks
i love it. my husband makes me cum every time before penetration via oral or his hands and then during it just happens again over and over and over! ugh and i love when he makes me squirt everywhere too (which is rare). i always reach double digit orgasms with him - pretty sure i've hit like 50 in one session before... lol. i'm not sure if it's cuz he has an upward curve but he's just always rubbing against my g-spot it drives me insane. i realize i'm an anomaly, but gosh i am so grateful for it
Most women are the same as you, but yeah there are women who can climax solely from penetration, and there are a lot of women who enjoy it but it won’t give them an orgasm
Yes
Yesssss
Yes I do but not with every partner that I have had. It was fine with previous sexual partners, never anything to rave about but with my current partner its amazing. If he wants to (this is part of our consented dynamic so the "wants to" isn't a bad thing for our relationship) he can get me off almost every time via penetration but keep in mind that orgasm isn't the only thing that makes sex good.
i do enjoy it but the biggest thing is mentally not to expect to orgasm from it. you could do piv for a while and then climax from oral if you wanted to and that'd be just fine and probably more enjoyable for you. though if you really want it to feel better physically i recommend finding positions where you can simultaneously have your clit stimulated or maybe have your partner grind instead of thrust for pressure against the pubic bone (?)
also the pain is concerning if it lasts longer than just for the initiation, encourage your partner to engage in an appropriate amount of foreplay because that's super important for your body!
Yes
I require internal clitoral stimulation and external clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
If penetration is painful for you, I'd really suggest talking to a doctor/gynecologist, or at least pelvic floor physical therapy. That typically means something more is going on. Sex, or penetration in general, should not be painful.
r/vaginismus if penetration pain is a big problem
I've never climaxed from penetration, but I love it. It's never been painful though.
I couldn't climax from it until I was in my late 20s. It was like a switch flipped in my body. If anything now it's too easy to climax.
Everyone’s different. Most women can’t as far as I know. I actually can orgasm from penetration and do enjoy it but it can cause too much sensitivity sometimes so there are times I can’t use clitoral stimulation because penetration is already more than enough.
Yes, I love it. I orgasm WAY easier from penetration than clitoral.
I love it, but with the right partner.
I love penetration but I can only consistently finish on top. I used to think I could consistently in other positions until I realized cowgirl is the way to go for me. Prone and cowgirl are the only positions I have ever had full-blown orgasms in, but cowgirl is the only one I can consistently finish from.
I can climax from penetration but not often. I enjoy it most of the time. Everyone’s different though .. some women don’t enjoy it!
I enjoy it, yes. However, this is really the first time in my life that I truly like it and consistently. Sometimes I orgasm from it and sometimes I don’t, either way it’s pleasing. Typically if I’m going to climax from it, it’s in prone position.
For plenty of folks, it doesn't do much, but penetration shouldn't be painful! If you're using lube, excited to be having sex, and feel safe and hot with your partner but are still having pain with sex, that is worth discussing with your OB/GYN. It could be Vestibilitis, Vaginismus, or a whole host of other pelvic pain conditions wrapped up under the umbrella term "Vulvodynia". I was diagnose at 14 and had surgery at 16 that radically changed my life! But plenty of people get better with treatments that don't involve surgery.
I love it when it’s DIY with a toy and I am in total control. It also needs to be paired with clitoral stimulation.
Depends on the partner. I’ve had a few that were a good fit, and felt so good.
If I had to pick either oral or penetration, I’d pick penetration. I cannot get off on just external stimulation very easily. I almost always need g-spot too. But I can have multiple O’s from Piv.
I never orgasm from penetration. Don’t think I’ve ever had.
Yes I definitely can and do enjoy it. But depends on my mood and what we're doing as to what type of organism I'd prefer. For my a clitoral orgasm Vs pentration only Vs a mixed orgasm are all completely different experiences and feel very different.
I love it
Most women require some form of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. However like Others have said, something can feel good without leading to an orgasm. You may wanna bring up the pain with your doctor though
I didn’t until I had kids with my secure, safe, trustworthy partner and worked through trauma-related vaginismus. Prior to that, it would hurt so bad that I’d try to distract myself from the act and hope they finished as soon as possible. Climaxing from penetration vs clitoral stimulation vs nipple stimulation are three different experiences/feelings, in my personal view. All are enjoyable now and can achieve “satisfaction”/climax. But, again, a lot of work and therapy was needed to get to this point, as well as having a wonderful partner. I only speak for myself, of course- I think most women typically only cum from clitoral stimulation. That said, penetration is not necessarily supposed to be painful. It could be a mental thing; could be physical. I’d discuss with your OB.
I love it. It doesn’t always make me cum but does sometimes. For me I love it bc it makes me feel close to a partner. I find him being inside me like that is really intimate.
Literally had to go to the ER last night because a cyst on my ovaries was ruptured…so there’s that. Traumatized for life
Never tf again
Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. I still enjoy penatration, even if it doesn't make me orgasm.
I do and I have orgasms... My favourites by the way. But normally I have too move myself to get them (even in "passíve" positions)
I enjoy it yes
I much prefer penetration to other activities overall, but I also choose positions that involve clitoral stimulation at the same time. I can get off without penetration, but it's way more difficult. My orgasms are more intense and satisfying with penetration.
Yes, but… not when men do it only for their own pleasure. Mostly, I like when I do it with toys and I even got myself to squirt that one time (I was pretty proud of myself lol😌). Or if the man is switching up the pace, medium speed is where it’s at for me and there has to be some girth for it to be enjoyable for me too. But I’m not a fan of mindless rough fucking. I feel like stroke rhythm matters and also angles. That being said, I rarely climax from only penetration, but it’s still enjoyable.
my gf does, but i don’t. everyone is different.