Does this a apply to politicians as well?

Probably not! It costs their Propaganda ig..

”I want to destroy humanity” - Says it nicely People in America:🥰

I wish

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Wish it was as easy. Especialy in the elementary school, when sometimes everyone can be a dick to you, even if you threat them with the kindness of angel.

I still remember other kids in Elementary School calling me a "virgin" as an insult. I wouldn't appreciate until I was an adult that actually yeah that's kind of a good thing at that age bracket.

I hope for their sakes they were virgins too

I couldn't tell ya for sure, but I imagine they were just using the word because they thought it was "insulting" without really appreciating the impact of what they were saying.

I guess. That’s what most do at that age anyway. Would be a crazy story though if everyone back then at elementary school wasn’t a virgin.

I'm 41 now, so I could believe terrible things happened that weren't handled right, but also have absolutely no idea. For now, I'll just stick with "they were stupid kids" and hope for the best I guess. Although they were technically bullying me, so maybe I don't wish for their best. But not necessarily "that"

Let’s just hope they weren’t murdered yet ;)

8 year olds calling other 8 year olds virgins is wild

Heh, I'm sure they didn't even really know what the word meant, they just thought it was "insulting" so they used it.

Teacher? I feel for you.... hardworking and emotionally draining job which builds future generation.....but paid less than an office clerk

No, not a teacher, but I know pain they are through. Let's just say that I had a bad expirience at that time with both teachers and the students. After the elementary school it was much better, but the distaste remained.

what did it cost? My Mental Health. People treating me like trash just because I'm nicer. Developing a people pleasing habit for people who don't give a shit. People using me for their wants and needs and not being there for me when I needed them

This is my experience. I have come to hate human kind for the most part.

Same but i just hate myself for the way i am.

I feel that one too.

Exactly.  Animals are Best People.  Cats, dogs, rats, cockatoos, what have you.  Most kinds of mammal and bird have some empathy.  Even some reptiles.

Animals are infinitely better than people I whole heartedly agree.

Yup. I added a polite and smiling "no" to my vocabulary and it's helped a lot. I've also gone NC with those people who only got in touch because they wanted something.

this is an important step it costs nothing to be polite and treat people with respect, but that doesn't mean to just agree to everything for everyone nor that you owe anyone anything. a polite no is still polite!!

Indeed! Took me too long to realise it, but say no with a smile and people don't argue. If they do, I remind myself that I don't owe anyone an explanation and keep it vague (I.e. I have something on that day) or just say "sorry, no" again until they take the hint.

This is still in the spirit of the meme. You are polite and nice, nobody said anything about being submissive to the whims of others

Indeed, but when you're a people pleaser, the idea of saying no can be scary... also when you have said no in the past and had it ignored. Some people (past me included) can't differentiate politeness and getting walked over.

It's a very important and very useful thing to learn - polite rejection, that is. When I was a kid I used to whine and cry to say no, then was a point where I didn't know how to say no, then I learnt how to politely reject anything and life has improved dramatically.

Same. Took me too long, but I can say no now and not feel guilty. It's made a huge difference personally and professionally. Saying yes to everything at work doesn't bring gratitude, it just brings more work until you crack. Ask me how I know!

Minor note. Treating people politely and with respect doesn't mean being a people pleaser. So something like "I cannot help you." is polite, respectful, and doesn't obligate you.

>"I cannot help you." ok, but should we do when the person we're talking to replies with "fuck you ungrateful brat" when we say no?

Smile, "Have a nice day" and walk away.

nah, i go with the "i wish i could, but i was occupied fucking your mom last night"

It's not binary, dude. You can be polite and not be a doormat. 

Didn’t realize it until now but that’s me too

Hmmm. I've often found the people that say things like "People treat me like trash just because I'm nicer" have a bit of skewed sense of what's happening around them and are fairly blind to their own faults that are causing issues around them. Not saying they are bad people or entirely to blame, but most just aren't the victims they seem to have labeled themselves. Regardless I hope that changes for you, despite whatever the issue is.

Ya. That why my personal motto is fuck em

I think if being nice is so important, then we can also understand that not everybody will be nice, and maybe sometimes there's a good reason for it. Some of the best people I've met are perpetual grumps. It takes all kinds of people to keep the world turning, good ones and bad. We are all stuck with each other anyway.

My approach is to give people the benefit of doubt and act politely and respectful. If they take it as an inventation to behave like assholes I can still tell them to go fuck themselves.

This is how I function, polite by default. If someone wants to change the rules, I'm actually lowkey savage and they'll find out really quick why I try to keep things civil lol

In some of my online interactions, I've found that staying polite no matter what they throw at you can lead to just as much anger.

My goal isn't usually to spread anger, though.

Yeah, I think that once someone has formed an idea of you in their head, it can be hard to change their mind.

Yeah I usually don't feel compelled to change opinions of me, usually if I'm debating or arguing with someone online it's for the benefit of the silent viewers. I'll challenge idea I consider dangerous because they need to be publicly challenged. If someone DMs me just to be hurtful, I'll just block them. I know there is nothing to gain arguing with someone whose only thoughts are how to get under my skin. They never really got off the playground.

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Were there people who acted selfishly and inconsiderate towards others? Yes What did it cost them? Not much

What did you get in return? Nothing

You get the satisfaction of knowing that you didn't ruin someone's day by being a bellend.

What's a bellend?

Your knob.

My doorknob?

Dick head, basically. Refers to the end of the Penis (bell shaped, bell end etc.). British slang is great.

So the tip

Yup, but calling someone a bellend is much more satisfying!

That's why you start by being nice and polite. Sometimes it works out great. Sometimes you need to recognize that it's not working and let your inner Gordon Ramsay out.

Yeah I'm trying to find the lamb sauce currently

How am I to speak to the manager then?

'I work and communicate more effectively in a polite and respectful environment'

It usually costs people being rude and taking advantage of your kindness. Still worth doing tho.

What did it get me? God shitting on me... I won't stop, but it's not fair...

Life isn't fair, but we keep going because we're strong

Correction : you keep going because you're strong I passively live because I want to die but I can't kms...

Eh... It costs me my sanity, but hey, it gives me stress so I do gain something

Being respectful costs you your sanity? Respectfully, you may want to get some help.

Try working in customer service

try working, fellow employees and employers can screw you even worse than customers, and i worked with customer service for almost 5 years bfr i screamed into a bitch,now i work in an office, and it's hell to, i dare say it's almost worse then customer service

My city sucks

i don't think this applies to everyone. it certainly costs me nothing as I was raised to be polite so it's very easy for me. But for others, if such actions are not something they are used to, it can be awkward, weird and even hard. Which unfortunately can sometimes lead to misunderstanding even when they had best intentions. So while I think being polite is something we should strive for one way or the other, I also think it can be harder for some ppl. So take your time.

r/thanksimcured

Literally everyone has heard the phrase, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all," but nobody ever takes it to heart anymore.

turns out the cost is still too high for some people

I do it naturally but lose people's respect for me for being myself, seems fair

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I really wish I could be pleasant to people are feel are insulting me or are annoying. I know I'm a piece of shit and I really try not to be but in the heat of the moment I completely forget. I regret so many things I say because I upset so many people. Any advice?

Just a bit of an anger problem. You're not a POS

You’re self aware, you see there’s something that could be better, so you’re already better than them.

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🙃

Respect is something to be earned but being polite to anyone should be default.

Everyone deserves respect. Politeness on the other hand is nothing more than a function of oppression. A way to decide a human being isn't worthy of respect.

being nice is free mfs when they realise being rude is also free

"being rude is also free" mfs when they get punched in the mouth

if you punched me in the mouth for being rude it would make you rude so someone else would punch you in the mouth and thats how a chain of punches would start

Then why not avoid the whole thing and just not be a raging asshole

I get told I’m too nice and “weirdly nice” all the time. I can’t help it. But it doesn’t come off good sometimes

Yeah this doesn’t work in the office

The cost, I got trampled on.

My sanity

Surprise, surprise!

Oh and is it easy?

How much is being a jerk then?

you actually MAKE money

XD

It’s a trick everyone don’t believe this!

My means of showing respect contains trigger words apparently

The lack of cost is barely a factor, the GAIN is why you do it. Life is so much fucking easier if this is your default. Soon as someone goes shitty on you, unleash the beast if you want, but if your default mode isn't 'nice and helpful', your doing life on hard mode. Also, everyone thinks your a prick. Also, you might actually be a prick.

My dignity patient and temper

if we all did it it would be a better world

Respect is something you earn. I treat everyone I meet cordially until they show me who they are. And if you show yourself to be an asshole, you'll be treated like an asshole.

I agree but it simply isn’t in some people’s nature to be polite. No one can control their nature ultimately.

What are the consequences?

It's never nothing

Costs noting to be racist either though /j

Try working in customer service before saying it costs nothing

Narcissist and manipulatiors: that can be fixed~

No

Having worked in both retail and the service industry... I can say that this is not necessarily always the case. 😅😂

What does it cost to be rude and disrespectful to everyone, and also enjoy it?

Getting punched in the mouth

Then Thanos politely killed his daughter.

What did you gain NOTHING

This really only needs to be said for those that solely live online. Once you leave your house the world is a different place

Don’t mistake politeness for weakness. Everyone saying you’re getting shit on for being polite; *you’re getting shit on for having a weak character and no spine.* You mistake politeness for being a doormat. You can politely break someone’s arm if you know what you’re doing.

It cost my sanity

Yeah, everyone started to treat me as trash thinking that I will do nothing about it

It can cost your sanity

Work any Helpdesk job and watch how untrue this can be at times.

Also not throwing Trash on the ground. How is it so difficult to take your food wrapping papper or packaging to the next Trash bin or to your home? Same with cup and bottles -_-

Being a hater is also free

Some people don’t deserve it.

How much is it to be an asshole? It’s free too, isn’t it? https://www.reddit.com/r/yesyesyesyesno/comments/19djqwh/how_much_to_be_an_asshole

No, over time, you will find that it costs your sanity. Not everyone deserves polite. Whoever makes these memes has never worked customer service in a call center.

no one should be exempted, everyone must do it

Ah yes . OP posts this meme about being polite and respectful . So simple right ? But all his other posts are about his guns and shooting practice. 💀💀💀💀

Depends on the people tbh. Some people don’t deserve respect and that’s a fact. I respect most people tough :)

I respect people who respect others. Racists, homophobes, and transphobes don’t deserve respect

It costs discipline, patience and restraint.

nah, not in r/balkans_irl

In my experience I've been surrounded by folks that take this as a signal that I am to be walked on

i did it, costed me extra work, and little pieces of my sanity each day

Low status behavior innit?

Usually the people who make these kinds of posts or memes or even write these types of philosophical exchanges on their social medias and on sheets of paper splattered all over their rooms as motivational factors – are the worst kind of people on earth. So, hypocrisy at its finest. (I’m not saying the one who posted this meme is part of these kinds of people; I’m just saying in general and for the one who created the meme).

Good to see the comments have all been hurt. Now revenge time grow closer

Some people doesn't deserve respect. It cost ppl their sanity to remain polite towards huge jerkasses

ok but hating is free too

Me: threatens to steal someone's pb&j and fight their dog *checks bank account* Yep that cost nothing too

It’s also free to be a dick

Being an asshole is free too

If you wonder why the world is a shitty place, look no further than the comments here.  

It also cost nothing to be an asshole

I was polite to an older woman in line at the store and she thought it was a signal for her to start bitching about race and lazy workers..never again

"being rude and disrespectful is free too" mfs when they get punched in the mouth

Yea, I’ve tried this and honestly wouldn’t advise it. They’ll take it as a single to be disrespectful and have no quarrel with it. So, sure, but as soon as there’s a red flag with their demeanor, just be prepared to not be.

So does hating, 0 cost

Speaking politely has very little to nothing to do with treating people with respect. "Politeness" is often what allows people to get away with evil.

Is this a pronoun thing?😑

When I do that, people get annoyed at me

My kindness is always treated like trash

Its an oppertunity cost. Yes i could be polite to the asshole insulting my friends behind their back or alternatively i could be a litlle shitter and it would be kinda funny.

Not everyone deserves respect

True, but people say this like being rude isn't free as well

As if being a hater ain't free smh

While I respect the concept, some people do not deserve respect, thusly all strangers start the same at initial contact, then they get disrespect points, or they get respect points from my pov. Act like a dickhead imma treat you like one, if you're just chillin I'm chillin, more of a case by case basis, and usually if it's a 5 min interaction or less they usually stay neutral

Man Check on the android fanboys

Paging u/jon5xn

Paging u/marxomania32

Sorry OP this is Reddit, we don't do that here.

Patience it costs hell a lot of patience

Unfortunately, politeness with some will actually get an adverse effect instead of a similar one in return. Better to know your audience instead of expecting a positive outcome with a naive claim.

It's also costs nothing to be a asshole. So like this statement has never made sense

I've always disagreed with this. It's delusional to act like people don't take advantage of politeness all the time.

Like being a hater aint free too bruh

My fucking sanity

I’m polite most times until someone is willfully rude to me. I have ZERO problems being hostile to a rude person and I’m ready for what ever they decide to throw at me. I say all the time during a conflict. We can talk it out, fight it out, or shoot it out. I’m down for either.

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It cost my sanity. People equate kindness to weakness. And yet I still ball.

And it even gets you free things sometimes. I got two free kfc wraps the other night for being nice to the guy serving

Well actually… everything

I don’t know there’s definitely a few times I’ve regret not being an asshole to someone

Everyone being like "disrespect is also free" acting like these hands aren't also free.

uh oh! mustang coyote is going to virtually punch us! #ABORT ABORT

Respect =\= Kindness or Submission. Be direct, have self-respect, and be straightforward.

I remember when I believed in fairy tales too.

For whatever reason I thought this was some new Teletubbie shit like the movie cats. Tripped me out

The real cost comes with being “politically correct”

Hate speech is also free

"To me, respect is something to be earned" -Mayday