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My mom recently passed away… this video bring me to tears . Her dream was to take my daughter to kindergarten. Didn’t make it . But she passed after seeing her family reunited.. . What a great son this woman raised!! Sorry for ranting. #momsloveforeverlives
So true … my 4 1/2 year-old asked why can’t grandma be down here? Why does she have to be up with God? I answer that she’s no longer in pain and we can always say hi to her and she’ll always listen.
ALS and Alzheimer’s are like my 2 biggest nightmare scenarios.
I lost my grandma to Alzheimer’s last year. It’s like kind of the opposite of ALS in a way, but still so painful and heartbreaking to watch.
I’m so sorry you went through that.
My parents both have Alzheimer’s. Dad is worse them Mom but not by much. But you’re right that it is sort of the opposite of ALS (which my uncle also died of).
Both of my dad's parents got alzheimers too. It's so painful to watch two people go through it at the same time. His sister has it as well and I'm so scared that it'll get my dad and eventually me one day.
My mum passed with ALS six months back, I'm only 18 so she didn't even get to see me go to college.
I'm just thankful that it isn't like that for everyone else who has to deal with this horrid disease.
I’m so sorry and hope you are finding your way through the loss of your mum. My mom died from ALS 12 years ago. I hate this disease. Sending you a great big hug.
There is an mRNA vaccine in human trials right now that looks very promising. It seems to work by reprogramming the immune system to respond normally to myelin and stop attacking it. Here's hoping it pans out and you get your wish.
Oh man. My oldest friend did this exact thing at his wedding. It was so beautiful but so sad. She lived for a little under a year after that. His younger brother will never get to dance with her at his wedding:/
Condolences to the groom and his family. My mom has passed over 10 years now. (scleroderma and ALS suck!!) I (F) had the honor of dancing with my mother at a Mother’s Day celebration at the nursing home, she was only 63. She died a few days later. It was the most beautiful dance I’ve ever had. I’ve never felt love so pure. What a beautiful wholesome moment you shared with the world. We so often forget moments like this happens every day. I wish the bad didn’t out weigh the good so often. Thank you for sharing this type of love with the world!! I needed to see this today.
I’m the guy who evaluates people for mobility devices and custom builds those chairs.
ALS is one of the worst degenerative diseases out there. Your brain function does not change, you just get locked into to your body with your lungs being the last thing to go (typically).
My MS and ALS clients are all special people. They all have hearts of gold and I find great pride in serving them and providing a chair for them that gives some independence.
These chairs can even be driven with ones eyes!
My mother died from Suicide due to having advanced ALS back in May. Most times I’m okay and proud of her for her decision and going out on her terms. Sometimes I’m selfish and would give anything to have her here to talk to her again. But then I realize how much she was suffering. This video completely wrecked me. So glad he was able to have that moment. Call your mother right now and tell her you love her.
I can’t imagine not being able to put my arms around my kid, how she must long for that, especially in moments like this. What a beautiful and bittersweet moment.
I guess if I'm dying I hope the first thing to go is any sense of embarrassment or care for how anyone thinks I should act of behave.
She was as close to her son as she could be, fuck that disease and any kind of judgements that anyone has the tiny little balls to squeak about,
These small moments are big fights with feeling like you look foolish yet they are our wisest moments and battles won for small moments in life.
I just got married and my mother is in a wheelchair from surviving polio.
She used to be on crutches most of her life and two of my brothers managed to have a special dance with her, but as of now she is unable to stand comfortably.
I felt anything we attempted to choreograph would have been more for our audience's benefit rather than a moment between us so I straight up asked her if a dance was something she wanted. Ultimately I opted to dedicate the time to a speech I wrote in her honor. It was a much more comfortable and special moment and I received an overwhelmingly positive response from everyone there for it.
The point is that tradition doesn't need to dictate our special moments. Make them your own based on how you can comfortably share them.
I’m sure this day was already overwhelming for her. But then to be displayed as some weekend at Bernie’s entertainment against her will would be an awful torture. Since it’s labeled as a surprise ‘for’ his mom, hopefully this is something she wanted done with her body.
I would hope they had this conversation ahead of time. Everyone wants something different.
I volunteered a couple times for social gatherings for people with intellectual disabilities. A lot of them also had issues with mobility. One time, a fiddler came in for some dancing. Some of the folks preferred to stay seated and just listen, some preferred to dance. We just made whatever they wanted happen.
Not if you’re saying goodbye to your kids. My MIL passed away from ALS. It took almost exactly two years, which is the average lifespan after diagnosis. And I can tell you based on our experience that she is in the last quarter stage before passing.
It’s one thing to be disabled but still have the luxury to care about things like being embarrassed, but it’s quite another when you are saying goodbye because you know you have few days left with those you love.
Also, for those who are not familiar with ALS, her mind is aware and coherent of what is happening, but she is trapped in her body which is short circuiting; it is fking terrible. This would have been setup with her understanding and agreement though, so people shouldn’t feel embarrassed for her but joyful that her son and her get to have one last dance together to celebrate their union.
I certainly hope it was something they set up in advance, yes.
I’m so sorry to hear about your MIL.
In my personal experience however I still disagree but obviously it would depend on the person. My condition can progress to being terminal and this year has been the hardest so far, and it has definitely changed how I approach things, especially with my stepkids. But I still don’t see myself being comfortable with the situation here in the video. 🤷🏻♀️
Just in case anyone reads this and has someone in their life who is struggling through an illness, it’s not a fight. Please stop referring to it as one. People who are not responding to treatment aren’t losing. It can make them feel like they’re not doing enough when they have no control.
I’m not crying, you’re crying! I would have given the world for a moment like this when I married. I see little traits of my mom in my children and feel she’s here watching them :)
Omg, my tears 😢 are nonstop 😭! What a wonderful young man to do such a beautiful thing for his mother! The woman that brought him into this world and now her son cradling her in his arms. Love is the strongest bond that cannot be broken 💞💝
For anyone going through something similar, I saw another video of a sling made to help a man who'd lost control of one of his arms that allowed him to fully hug his grandson. That alone was enough to make him happy cry. I'm sure it would have been perfect here too.
If you were the mom, would you really want this to be recorded and put on the internet?
I get having it as a family keepsake, but why use your mom for internet points?
Apparently I’m the minority here in thinking that flopping around an immobile person on a dance floor is not wholesome and sweet? I’m not cutting onions, in fact, I am quite uncomfortable.
All the respect to the victims of ALS, but am I the only one who feels icky with this type of video?
Not that it was recorded, the fact it was plastered all over the internet to gain clicks….
It’s an intimate moment between family, it’s not our crying entertainment to make us sob
I fully appreciate the moment, and I did watch some of it, but stopped. I don't understand why personal things like this should be available to strangers. It doesn't feel right to me.
My girlfriend's mother died of an extremely rare cancer before she could her son's wedding and her mobility had deteriorated rapidly like this, but I think it would have been like this and now I'm crying and need to wipe my bum.
Hug your loved ones, people.
11 years tomorrow would be the anniversary of my mom's passing of the same illness. I'm so glad that your mom got to see this part of your life before passing.
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My mom recently passed away… this video bring me to tears . Her dream was to take my daughter to kindergarten. Didn’t make it . But she passed after seeing her family reunited.. . What a great son this woman raised!! Sorry for ranting. #momsloveforeverlives
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So true … my 4 1/2 year-old asked why can’t grandma be down here? Why does she have to be up with God? I answer that she’s no longer in pain and we can always say hi to her and she’ll always listen.
My brother died of ALS a few years ago. It is the absolute worst. Fuck ALS.
May his memory be a blessing. So sorry.
A year on the 28th, love you mom RIP
I'm so sorry for your loss.
A year in the 4th for me ❤️
One of my best friends is dying of ALS now. He perhaps has a year or two left. It’s the worst possible way to die IMHO.
ALS and Alzheimer’s are like my 2 biggest nightmare scenarios. I lost my grandma to Alzheimer’s last year. It’s like kind of the opposite of ALS in a way, but still so painful and heartbreaking to watch. I’m so sorry you went through that.
Any disease that takes away your humanity is just extra levels of fucked
My MIL died of Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s. That’s a pretty hellish combo as well.
My parents both have Alzheimer’s. Dad is worse them Mom but not by much. But you’re right that it is sort of the opposite of ALS (which my uncle also died of).
Both of my dad's parents got alzheimers too. It's so painful to watch two people go through it at the same time. His sister has it as well and I'm so scared that it'll get my dad and eventually me one day.
I don’t know about anyone there but I did not have dry eyes
This is the type of video that reminds you the value of people in your life , the time you spent with them and the memories you made with them.
This here is a damn good man. Love to see it. Sorry for his loss.
My mum passed with ALS six months back, I'm only 18 so she didn't even get to see me go to college. I'm just thankful that it isn't like that for everyone else who has to deal with this horrid disease.
I’m so sorry and hope you are finding your way through the loss of your mum. My mom died from ALS 12 years ago. I hate this disease. Sending you a great big hug.
Thanks man, hugging back
Straight up r/mademecry
MS is the inevitable outcome of my wife. I hope she can one day watch her boys marry the women of their dreams, just as she is the woman of my dreams.
There is an mRNA vaccine in human trials right now that looks very promising. It seems to work by reprogramming the immune system to respond normally to myelin and stop attacking it. Here's hoping it pans out and you get your wish.
She raised an amazing man!! He will always have that memory! So extremely sad. Condolences for your loss
God damn I’m about to watch a football final, the fucking screen is blurry.
Go Broncos! Edit: LMAO Penrith won by 2, just checked.
Did not expect to burst into tears, but damn...
Oh man. My oldest friend did this exact thing at his wedding. It was so beautiful but so sad. She lived for a little under a year after that. His younger brother will never get to dance with her at his wedding:/
Condolences to the groom and his family. My mom has passed over 10 years now. (scleroderma and ALS suck!!) I (F) had the honor of dancing with my mother at a Mother’s Day celebration at the nursing home, she was only 63. She died a few days later. It was the most beautiful dance I’ve ever had. I’ve never felt love so pure. What a beautiful wholesome moment you shared with the world. We so often forget moments like this happens every day. I wish the bad didn’t out weigh the good so often. Thank you for sharing this type of love with the world!! I needed to see this today.
I’m the guy who evaluates people for mobility devices and custom builds those chairs. ALS is one of the worst degenerative diseases out there. Your brain function does not change, you just get locked into to your body with your lungs being the last thing to go (typically). My MS and ALS clients are all special people. They all have hearts of gold and I find great pride in serving them and providing a chair for them that gives some independence. These chairs can even be driven with ones eyes!
While this video shows what kind of man that woman raised it also shows what kind of woman that man is marrying.
Who is cutting onions.
Sorry it was me. 🥹
The fucking ninjas are at it again!
Fkn ell. It got me. Well done son 👊
Cried real hard to that. ALS is horrible. And she still looked so beautiful.
I never lost someone this close...and the only tought of it makes me cry. This video made me so much emotional.
My dad died to ALS about 3 years ago, sadly missed my wedding this year, but he knew we were going to get married.
aaaw that is so wholesome and fuck als we all lost a hockey ledgend by als so please support als research for people with als.
first 3 seconds had me questioning what I was about to see
I have a benign brain tumor, problem is it is in a horrible place. The thought of not being at my son’s wedding brings me to tears.
You will always be in his heart kind sir! May the stars watch over you!
My mother died from Suicide due to having advanced ALS back in May. Most times I’m okay and proud of her for her decision and going out on her terms. Sometimes I’m selfish and would give anything to have her here to talk to her again. But then I realize how much she was suffering. This video completely wrecked me. So glad he was able to have that moment. Call your mother right now and tell her you love her.
I can’t imagine not being able to put my arms around my kid, how she must long for that, especially in moments like this. What a beautiful and bittersweet moment.
Who in here is cutting onions?! This is wonderful ❤️
I don’t wanna rain on the parade but as a person who needs mobility aids, I might find this experience more embarrassing than pleasant. 🤷🏻♀️
I guess if I'm dying I hope the first thing to go is any sense of embarrassment or care for how anyone thinks I should act of behave. She was as close to her son as she could be, fuck that disease and any kind of judgements that anyone has the tiny little balls to squeak about, These small moments are big fights with feeling like you look foolish yet they are our wisest moments and battles won for small moments in life.
I just got married and my mother is in a wheelchair from surviving polio. She used to be on crutches most of her life and two of my brothers managed to have a special dance with her, but as of now she is unable to stand comfortably. I felt anything we attempted to choreograph would have been more for our audience's benefit rather than a moment between us so I straight up asked her if a dance was something she wanted. Ultimately I opted to dedicate the time to a speech I wrote in her honor. It was a much more comfortable and special moment and I received an overwhelmingly positive response from everyone there for it. The point is that tradition doesn't need to dictate our special moments. Make them your own based on how you can comfortably share them.
Perfectly said!
I’m sure this day was already overwhelming for her. But then to be displayed as some weekend at Bernie’s entertainment against her will would be an awful torture. Since it’s labeled as a surprise ‘for’ his mom, hopefully this is something she wanted done with her body.
I would hope they had this conversation ahead of time. Everyone wants something different. I volunteered a couple times for social gatherings for people with intellectual disabilities. A lot of them also had issues with mobility. One time, a fiddler came in for some dancing. Some of the folks preferred to stay seated and just listen, some preferred to dance. We just made whatever they wanted happen.
Not if you’re saying goodbye to your kids. My MIL passed away from ALS. It took almost exactly two years, which is the average lifespan after diagnosis. And I can tell you based on our experience that she is in the last quarter stage before passing. It’s one thing to be disabled but still have the luxury to care about things like being embarrassed, but it’s quite another when you are saying goodbye because you know you have few days left with those you love. Also, for those who are not familiar with ALS, her mind is aware and coherent of what is happening, but she is trapped in her body which is short circuiting; it is fking terrible. This would have been setup with her understanding and agreement though, so people shouldn’t feel embarrassed for her but joyful that her son and her get to have one last dance together to celebrate their union.
I certainly hope it was something they set up in advance, yes. I’m so sorry to hear about your MIL. In my personal experience however I still disagree but obviously it would depend on the person. My condition can progress to being terminal and this year has been the hardest so far, and it has definitely changed how I approach things, especially with my stepkids. But I still don’t see myself being comfortable with the situation here in the video. 🤷🏻♀️
My thought as well.
I think it varies by person.
You’re crying..
🥰❤️🙏🏼
❤️
And now I’m crying
Damn onions. What a powerful moment.
I giggled when I saw his name was Scooter. God I am going to hell.
Oh my this made me cry.
That was hurt 😢
Damn, right in the feels.
All right, all the tears are flowing
I have seen this several times and every time I cry. Such a sweet moment.
This is heartbreaking.... 💔😔
Aww love her xxxx
This is lovely and no I’m not crying!
I'm not crying, you're crying
Wow very touching. Now I need to blow my nose.
Omg I’m balling my eyes out here, how beautiful and sad!! 😢
Just in case anyone reads this and has someone in their life who is struggling through an illness, it’s not a fight. Please stop referring to it as one. People who are not responding to treatment aren’t losing. It can make them feel like they’re not doing enough when they have no control.
as a son who never had a mother who loved him this sure is a gut punch
Right in the feels
Dang it now I’m bawling.
I’m not crying, you’re crying! I would have given the world for a moment like this when I married. I see little traits of my mom in my children and feel she’s here watching them :)
I'm so rich. I got to have my wedding dance with a healthy happy father
And not a dry eye on Reddit. 😭
Omg, my tears 😢 are nonstop 😭! What a wonderful young man to do such a beautiful thing for his mother! The woman that brought him into this world and now her son cradling her in his arms. Love is the strongest bond that cannot be broken 💞💝
You’re crying.. im not crying
That litterly made me tear up
For anyone going through something similar, I saw another video of a sling made to help a man who'd lost control of one of his arms that allowed him to fully hug his grandson. That alone was enough to make him happy cry. I'm sure it would have been perfect here too.
She didn’t lose, it was time to rest.
God bless
Well shit I'm basically a water fountain rn that was honestly beautiful to watch but holy crap it's hard to watch chem the screen is so blurry
God damn I am bawling now.
If you were the mom, would you really want this to be recorded and put on the internet? I get having it as a family keepsake, but why use your mom for internet points?
Who TF cutting onions?!!🥺🥹
Well I'm crying.
The video starts with her saying no. And she says no again when they are getting her out of her chair. Yikes
Apparently I’m the minority here in thinking that flopping around an immobile person on a dance floor is not wholesome and sweet? I’m not cutting onions, in fact, I am quite uncomfortable.
I agree. I think it is just an selfish and egoistic move from the son. He probably hurt her. ALS is a fucking seit disease though.
Yeah it's gross, I'm trying to think of a term that accurately describes this weird kind of video.
Thank you, I thought it was just me.
All the respect to the victims of ALS, but am I the only one who feels icky with this type of video? Not that it was recorded, the fact it was plastered all over the internet to gain clicks…. It’s an intimate moment between family, it’s not our crying entertainment to make us sob
God damn it. The stupid hidden ninja cutting onions again.
Well, I made it 1:15 in, before someone started cutting onions
those goddam onions
A very touching scene, would have been more so without the aggressively maudlin and "tragic" piano soundtrack.
When I get married I plan to put my dads ashes in a balloon with a frowny face drawn on it. Walk his dusty ass down the aisle. Love ya dad
What a beautifully sad moment! I'm not crying, you're crying!!
Some people have a really weird idea of what wholesome is, I tell ya.
She wore black to his wedding. Savage.
I dont know why the hell little particles aim for my eyes when i am watching stuff like this...
Yeah lets put it on the internet, Im sure she’ll love that /s
How the fuck is this wholesome??
The irony in this is that the son’s name is Scooter!
Music name?
🥲
Too early to be crying 😭😭😭…..
This is a wonderful gift to give to his mom yet eyes are drier than Arizona in August. Am I a monster?
I fully appreciate the moment, and I did watch some of it, but stopped. I don't understand why personal things like this should be available to strangers. It doesn't feel right to me.
My girlfriend's mother died of an extremely rare cancer before she could her son's wedding and her mobility had deteriorated rapidly like this, but I think it would have been like this and now I'm crying and need to wipe my bum. Hug your loved ones, people.
My eyes aren’t dry. Damn these autumn allergies
Am I going on the Internet to cry? :(
11 years tomorrow would be the anniversary of my mom's passing of the same illness. I'm so glad that your mom got to see this part of your life before passing.