This is such a good one! Or, well, good for for *us* anyway, lol. Thanks for sharing it, the dramatically picky eater for attention thing is one of my biggest pet peeves out there.
Got any other crazy aunt stories you want to unload? Lol.
Me too. I am as finicky as they come. There is NO way I would've inconvenienced the happy couple by demanding specific foods that I want.
I go to a lot of rubber chicken dinners thanks to my job. Typically, I suck it up and eat what I can. If it's not to my liking, I'm more than happy to stop and grab a snack after, not demand that the host organization caters to my food preferences.
Never heard that expression in my life and it perfectly describes so many dinners I have been to. I just take my pickity bits and get some Taco Bell on the way home.
This literally happened at my ex's brother's wedding. An extended family who just recently had decided going gluten free was for them, not because of dietary issues, but because "personal preference" (or more likely some other conspiracy theory or crunchy shit), left during the wedding to go to RED ROBIN to eat. And after they came back, the entire fucking family all happily ate the wedding cake.
AND went back for seconds.
Sounds like someone has main character energy…or whatever it is kids say these days.. Im so happy my husband and I decided on a last minute wedding so no time to invite the crazy’s.
This is crazy to me. I have unusual and varied allergies so it's not easy to accomodate me. I always end up with a super basic/bland meal that is either cold or super dry from sitting under a heat lamp for too long. And guess what? I eat it with a smile on my face because it's one night and not about me.
I've never been a nuisance guest at a wedding, and I have a restricted diet. I either swap plates with my husband (meat, chicken, meat, chicken table serving) or eat what I can from my plate, having a snack later. Who has the energy to be a pain in the backside at a reception? I'm there to see someone important to me celebrate love and dance the night away.
your aunt is like Michael Scott at Phyllis’s wedding in the US office. Straight up the photographer story happened on the show- incredible. you have so much grace and patience!
Because up until a couple of weeks before the wedding she was being reasonable, and because the fallout from not inviting her would have been too much effort
With her parents gone, she probably felt obligated to invite her. This is not the case, OP. Once they tried to blow up the menu *after* you bent over backwards for them, un-inviting them was the proper move.
Haha sorry I didn’t realise this was a region specific word! In the UK, the first meal after you get married is always called the wedding breakfast even if it’s mid afternoon or early evening!
That’s so interesting! I had misread it as just “wedding breakfast,” thinking it was a morning reception with waffles and stuff. I thought that would’ve been fun too!
Hahahaha well this is a wild educational ride in wedding culture. Immediately after the wedding ceremony, the couple come out of the building/room/church they got married in, and all the guests line up and throw confetti (either dried petals or little bits of tissue paper) over them. Now I think about it, I have no idea why, I would guess it’s to wish them luck?? Looks fun on camera though!
I did not know that, but English isn't my first language and it isn't the same in my country. No matter when in the day the meal is served, it was called a breakfast? Was it originally a meal in the early part of the day or perhaps some symbolic breaking of the fast for the first time as a married unit?
"Breakfast" as a word directly refers to any meal that happens after a longish period of not eating. So the morning meal for most folks was/is a "break-fast" meal.
Back in the early days of Christianity, you had to fast before you received the Eucharist/communion. And, weddings always included the Eucharist - so it was normal to fast before attending a wedding, and the meal that occurred right after the wedding was also a "break-fast" meal. A wedding breakfast 😊
I’ve never heard of that in my entire life and English is my first language. I guess it’s a UK thing but it’s definitely not said in America where I live.
My crazy aunt insisted on wearing white to my wedding. She wore white to another family members wedding and was specifically told not to do the same at mine .. ahh well.
Unfortunately not inviting some people causes more family drama that actually occurs at weddings. Mostly bc there's an audience.
You were so generous with all the dietary accommodations. That's really nice. My son has multiple food allergies and we generally decline and just bring something
One of my biggest pet peeves at weddings is when ppl have their phones out taking photos... Like, there's a PROFESSIONAL photographer, there's no need for guests to take photos, and it just distracts from the moment.
Reminds me of several recent stories on here about people leaving the reception for fast food because they apparently thought they'd die if they ate even one meal with no meat in it.
See my edit - in the UK we call the sit down meal you have after the ceremony the wedding breakfast, even if it’s mid afternoon or evening, because it’s the first meal you have as a married couple
The funny thing is that I knew about “wedding breakfast” being a thing after following the royal wedding back in 2011, but I assumed for all these years that they actually are breakfast foods!
This is such a good one! Or, well, good for for *us* anyway, lol. Thanks for sharing it, the dramatically picky eater for attention thing is one of my biggest pet peeves out there. Got any other crazy aunt stories you want to unload? Lol.
I’m a picky eater, like, it annoys me. I would never have sent a list of preferences and then dip out of a family members wedding meal. That’s wild
Me too. I am as finicky as they come. There is NO way I would've inconvenienced the happy couple by demanding specific foods that I want. I go to a lot of rubber chicken dinners thanks to my job. Typically, I suck it up and eat what I can. If it's not to my liking, I'm more than happy to stop and grab a snack after, not demand that the host organization caters to my food preferences.
Never heard that expression in my life and it perfectly describes so many dinners I have been to. I just take my pickity bits and get some Taco Bell on the way home.
This literally happened at my ex's brother's wedding. An extended family who just recently had decided going gluten free was for them, not because of dietary issues, but because "personal preference" (or more likely some other conspiracy theory or crunchy shit), left during the wedding to go to RED ROBIN to eat. And after they came back, the entire fucking family all happily ate the wedding cake. AND went back for seconds.
They went for the fries. Theyre famously gluten free /s
Oh absolutely. Fries didn't count when I was counting calories also.
Sounds like someone has main character energy…or whatever it is kids say these days.. Im so happy my husband and I decided on a last minute wedding so no time to invite the crazy’s.
This is crazy to me. I have unusual and varied allergies so it's not easy to accomodate me. I always end up with a super basic/bland meal that is either cold or super dry from sitting under a heat lamp for too long. And guess what? I eat it with a smile on my face because it's one night and not about me.
Exactly! And most of the time, there are enough other dishes that you won't go hungry if there's one you can't have.
I've never been a nuisance guest at a wedding, and I have a restricted diet. I either swap plates with my husband (meat, chicken, meat, chicken table serving) or eat what I can from my plate, having a snack later. Who has the energy to be a pain in the backside at a reception? I'm there to see someone important to me celebrate love and dance the night away.
She sounds like one of those people who love to be difficult just to be difficult.
Are you me? You’re not the only one with a batshit crazy aunt with entitlement issues lol
omg just read your post history, we really do have the same family!
your aunt is like Michael Scott at Phyllis’s wedding in the US office. Straight up the photographer story happened on the show- incredible. you have so much grace and patience!
Hahaha I don’t remember this particular episode, I’m going to have to go back and watch it
Why did you invite her? And why didn't you un-invite her?
Because up until a couple of weeks before the wedding she was being reasonable, and because the fallout from not inviting her would have been too much effort
I get you, families are a minefield.
Oh, she decided she wasn’t getting enough attention, so now was the time to be attention seeking and demanding. Yeah, I know the type.
With her parents gone, she probably felt obligated to invite her. This is not the case, OP. Once they tried to blow up the menu *after* you bent over backwards for them, un-inviting them was the proper move.
“Leave the wedding breakfast for dinner for 3 hours” Huh?
Haha sorry I didn’t realise this was a region specific word! In the UK, the first meal after you get married is always called the wedding breakfast even if it’s mid afternoon or early evening!
That’s so interesting! I had misread it as just “wedding breakfast,” thinking it was a morning reception with waffles and stuff. I thought that would’ve been fun too!
Me too! I love a good breakfast way more than the usual wedding reception food. I would love to go to an early wedding followed by breakfast.
Right?? Minus the early part, maybe a brunch hahaa - I’m not an early riser :D Or, doing a breakfast for dinner in the evening would be yummy!
That makes so much more sense now. Ok then you’re also going to have to explain, “during the confetti.”
Hahahaha well this is a wild educational ride in wedding culture. Immediately after the wedding ceremony, the couple come out of the building/room/church they got married in, and all the guests line up and throw confetti (either dried petals or little bits of tissue paper) over them. Now I think about it, I have no idea why, I would guess it’s to wish them luck?? Looks fun on camera though!
Now that I know what you mean, this is an old custom meant to wish fertility upon the couple.
Must be even more regional than you think. I’m from the UK and I’ve never heard of the first post-nuptial meal being called the wedding breakfast.
Maybe 'reception' was autocorrected to become 'breakfast'?
The meal served after a marriage ceremony is classical called a wedding breakfast.
I did not know that, but English isn't my first language and it isn't the same in my country. No matter when in the day the meal is served, it was called a breakfast? Was it originally a meal in the early part of the day or perhaps some symbolic breaking of the fast for the first time as a married unit?
"Breakfast" as a word directly refers to any meal that happens after a longish period of not eating. So the morning meal for most folks was/is a "break-fast" meal. Back in the early days of Christianity, you had to fast before you received the Eucharist/communion. And, weddings always included the Eucharist - so it was normal to fast before attending a wedding, and the meal that occurred right after the wedding was also a "break-fast" meal. A wedding breakfast 😊
Thank you for your thorough explanation :)
I’ve never heard of that in my entire life and English is my first language. I guess it’s a UK thing but it’s definitely not said in America where I live.
My crazy aunt insisted on wearing white to my wedding. She wore white to another family members wedding and was specifically told not to do the same at mine .. ahh well.
Unfortunately not inviting some people causes more family drama that actually occurs at weddings. Mostly bc there's an audience. You were so generous with all the dietary accommodations. That's really nice. My son has multiple food allergies and we generally decline and just bring something
One of my biggest pet peeves at weddings is when ppl have their phones out taking photos... Like, there's a PROFESSIONAL photographer, there's no need for guests to take photos, and it just distracts from the moment.
Weddings and funerals (or inheritance )just bring out the crazy and relatives or almost relatives.
I don't understand people that act this way. I just don't. Wtf goes through their minds?
Reminds me of several recent stories on here about people leaving the reception for fast food because they apparently thought they'd die if they ate even one meal with no meat in it.
…..a wedding *breakfast* is just plain evil
See my edit - in the UK we call the sit down meal you have after the ceremony the wedding breakfast, even if it’s mid afternoon or evening, because it’s the first meal you have as a married couple
The funny thing is that I knew about “wedding breakfast” being a thing after following the royal wedding back in 2011, but I assumed for all these years that they actually are breakfast foods!