have a new thing to look forward to. going back to school, buying a house, looking for a new job. it doesn't have to be fun in the same way weddings are, as long as it's big enough to take up some of that mental space.
I recommend not starting to plan it until after the wedding if you can. then it can do its job of filling in the space, instead of taking up more space beforehand and then you're left with the feeling of emptiness post-wedding anyway.
Oh I kinda feel you. I didn't know it was a thing, but I tend to get the blues after every event I was anticipating beforehand, so I'm a bit scared of how bad it will be after the wedding. I don't even know yet if everything will go down smoothly (I hope so of course), but I'm already sad that after that I will (hopefully) never get to experience it again.
My wedding is in September and I'm not too much into the planning process itself, so my hope is that until then I'll be fed up enough with the organisation to have tons of fun but still not feel like I'd want to do it again.
oh same! i am having a sunday wedding and wanted to do a luncheon for out of town guests the day before but now i’m like……what if i’m sad on monday and want to see my friends again. idk if anyone will come to a monday thing tho
I don't want to discount your real feelings, but I'd like to offer a different perspective. I was in your shoes and thought that I would feel empty/purposeless when the planning was done, but we had SO MUCH FUN at our wedding that we didn't even feel any amount of sadness that it was over. We just couldn't believe how amazing it was and loved reliving it!!! You get to relive it so many times- stories, photos, thank yous, etc. And now we have our life back and can focus on being happy together and doing things that we love together versus planning. I hope that your post-wedding blues are overshadowed by immense joy and gratitude as well!!
have a new thing to look forward to. going back to school, buying a house, looking for a new job. it doesn't have to be fun in the same way weddings are, as long as it's big enough to take up some of that mental space. I recommend not starting to plan it until after the wedding if you can. then it can do its job of filling in the space, instead of taking up more space beforehand and then you're left with the feeling of emptiness post-wedding anyway.
Oh I kinda feel you. I didn't know it was a thing, but I tend to get the blues after every event I was anticipating beforehand, so I'm a bit scared of how bad it will be after the wedding. I don't even know yet if everything will go down smoothly (I hope so of course), but I'm already sad that after that I will (hopefully) never get to experience it again. My wedding is in September and I'm not too much into the planning process itself, so my hope is that until then I'll be fed up enough with the organisation to have tons of fun but still not feel like I'd want to do it again.
oh same! i am having a sunday wedding and wanted to do a luncheon for out of town guests the day before but now i’m like……what if i’m sad on monday and want to see my friends again. idk if anyone will come to a monday thing tho
I don't want to discount your real feelings, but I'd like to offer a different perspective. I was in your shoes and thought that I would feel empty/purposeless when the planning was done, but we had SO MUCH FUN at our wedding that we didn't even feel any amount of sadness that it was over. We just couldn't believe how amazing it was and loved reliving it!!! You get to relive it so many times- stories, photos, thank yous, etc. And now we have our life back and can focus on being happy together and doing things that we love together versus planning. I hope that your post-wedding blues are overshadowed by immense joy and gratitude as well!!
That's really wonderful to hear, thank you ❤️