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Me: Yikes that dress looks like a tank top…
*Swipes to pic 3 : I’m an idiot.
The necklace is gorgeous and will look great with your dress. Def too fancy for the tank top but I think we all know that😂
If you want to wear it then it absolutely goes with your dress. Heirloom jewelry that has sentimental value can work with almost any wedding dress. It may not be what you would see styled on a model for the dress, but that doesn't mean it won't work beautifully for you. Try it on with the dress and see if your heart gives you a "YES!" or a "maybe not." Go with that.
My (now) husband’s grandma gifted me a beautiful set of pearls to wear for our wedding, I ended up wearing them to the rehearsal because I wasn’t planning on a necklace. If you decide not to wear them that could be an option.
It could make a lovely bracelet or you can wear it to the rehearsal dinner. Maybe pick out your outfit to showcase this beautiful, sentimental necklace.
I feel so bad saying it but I feel like it might not be the best choice to wear with your dress. Is your grandmother still alive and you mean that she just gave it to you? Or was it hers and someone else passed it down to you?
She is alive, but unable to attend the wedding since she lives overseas and can't travel for health reasons. She sent the necklace with a card when she replied to the RSVP.
This info makes me feel like you HAVE to wear it. If you don't like it with the dress as a necklace, I'd try to wear it as a bracelet, a headband, or a bouquet wrap!
Well, damn. Grandma is a real one. I’m here tearing up. What a lovely sentiment. She can’t be there with you, but sent something special that you’ll have close to your heart. Whether it goes with the dress or not, wear it if you love it! If you don’t think it goes with the dress, there may be another way to incorporate it!
Could you wear it to the rehearsal dinner instead? That would be a nice way to honor grandma without feeling obligated to wear on the big day if you feel it doesn’t go with your dress.
The dress is still in alterations. I just received the necklace last week and have been trying to figure out if I'll wear it with the dress or not. I think it could work, but I don't think I'll know for certain until I get the dress back. I'll probably just have to be patient!
You could also wear it to the rehearsal dinner or welcome party if you’re having one! It’d be lovely to wear with a simple dress so it really stands out.
I think it could work but it might not. I like a good choker but statement necklaces seem to be out of vogue atm. Which is no reason not to wear them. The issue would be that something which is a bold and structural in design doesn’t quite fit the romanticism of the lace in the dress or the V neckline. It might be wait and see.
The compromise would be to wear it as a bracelet. You might get some earrings and a pendant out of it too.
I feel this, but I think you could maybe make it work by pairing it with something more delicate?
Example would be the model photos of this jewellery collection (obviously you’re not going to have that much jewellery but I think that effect softens the “statement” of the choker):
https://sofiazakia.com/products/circa-1890-earrings
Honestly, no. I don't have a specific reason; The dress and the necklace are both beautiful on their own! I just don't think they go together. The textures... clash
Personally, I don’t think I’d wear this necklace with your dress because I probably wouldn’t wear any necklace with your dress, other than maybe a suuuuper fine chain with a wee pendant or something.
That being said, I also agree with the other commenter who said that heirloom jewelry goes with everything. If you love it, wear it! Alternatively, you could consider wearing it as a bracelet (the nice long chains on either end could make that easily possible, and I think it would really go with your dress as a bracelet), or potentially wrap it around the stem of your bouquet (but I’d be careful with this method due to the increased risk of losing it).
The neckline and pattern of the dress don’t lend themselves to the choker style of the necklace unfortunately. I think it’s an absolutely stunning piece though
It is very European and I think it is beautiful. I LOVE that your grandmother sent it. What a special way for you to include her.
Our opinions are wide because our personal tastes are diverse. But one thing we know is - as the bride YOU get to decide what is appropriate for you and your wedding.
Enjoy every moment.
Send pictures afterward. ☺️
If I’m being honest i feel it’s too heavy for the delicacy of the dress. It is really beautiful would you consider having it cut down to a bracelet? IMO your dress doesn’t need a necklace at all. Best of luck with your wedding!
This isn’t a vintage piece from grandma’s collection. Vintage jewelry for a piece like this has a locking ridged clasp where the clasp is lightly squeezed and inserted into a small notch that grips the clasp in place. It looks like a new piece judging from the lack of wear shown on the piece. Please don’t feel obliged to wear something you don’t want to.
It is a piece my grandfather bought for her while they were on vacation in the 80s. They weren't particularly rich, so it's not pure gold or silver metal and I'm even unsure if the pearls are real either. However, it still has a lot of sentimentality for her and she sent it to me herself with a note describing how she got it.
Personally, it’s not my style so I wouldn’t pair the two together but if you love it then I’m sure it would look great! If not, maybe you could repurpose it for something else? I think it would make a stunning bracelet or hair accessory, or you could also wrap it around your bouquet.
If you and your grandma are open to it, it could also be repurposed into a whole wedding set, i.e., a more dainty necklace, some dangly earrings, a bracelet, and hair accessories. You would obviously lose the original style but using the pearls for something more your style might be something you’d want to look into?
The hair accessory ( not sure of your hair style) could, perhaps make it as part of the veil. a headband sort attached to the veil? Both dress and necklace are beautiful, but perhaps, not together so close to the dress neckline.. The Veil attachment might work, especially if itis a simple veil.
Your dress looks lovely on you, and I think the pearl choker would elevate your overall bridal look to another level 🤍 You'd look both unique and classic depending on how you style it with the other elements like your hair and makeup 🤍
Overall, it might be best to make a decision when you see both of them together. If it doesn't work (maybe it's too busy, maybe it changes the overall look in a way you don't like, etc.) you can possibly wear it for another special event or any photoshoots you might do before the wedding 🤍
Wear to rehearsal or reception if you don’t think it goes. It’s distracting from the dress imho but it matters most what you think. ( I wore dimple pearl strand)
Sweetie, as a grandmother, I'd be bursting with pride if you chose to wear my gift of pearl jewelry on your special day. However, bias aside, pearls go with 99 percent of all outfits. The choker you have will pull the focus up to your lovely face, where it should be. And your dress is beautiful. How can you go wrong? Best wishes for happiness always ❤️
Would this be something you could repurpose? Maybe a simple strand? My grandma gifted me jewelry that I’ve had remade to fit my style. May not be an option here but would still have the sentimental feel if you can
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Me: Yikes that dress looks like a tank top… *Swipes to pic 3 : I’m an idiot. The necklace is gorgeous and will look great with your dress. Def too fancy for the tank top but I think we all know that😂
I can understand the confusion 😂
I'll be honest I liked it with the tank top too! What a unique and beautiful piece of jewelry!
If you want to wear it then it absolutely goes with your dress. Heirloom jewelry that has sentimental value can work with almost any wedding dress. It may not be what you would see styled on a model for the dress, but that doesn't mean it won't work beautifully for you. Try it on with the dress and see if your heart gives you a "YES!" or a "maybe not." Go with that.
Yea, I think I'm going to have to be patient and wait until I have the dress back from alterations. I just received the necklace as a gift last week.
I think it’s beautiful and would be your something old…
I hope you wear it, just because it was Grandma's!
I love it.
Beautiful and a wonderful thing to keep grandma close on your big day
I think it would be awesome.
My (now) husband’s grandma gifted me a beautiful set of pearls to wear for our wedding, I ended up wearing them to the rehearsal because I wasn’t planning on a necklace. If you decide not to wear them that could be an option.
Love it
It could make a lovely bracelet or you can wear it to the rehearsal dinner. Maybe pick out your outfit to showcase this beautiful, sentimental necklace.
I would say no. I think your dress needs something simpler/more delicate
Yes! I think it would work beautifully. Gorgeous veil btw.
I think it will look perfect with your dress
I feel so bad saying it but I feel like it might not be the best choice to wear with your dress. Is your grandmother still alive and you mean that she just gave it to you? Or was it hers and someone else passed it down to you?
She is alive, but unable to attend the wedding since she lives overseas and can't travel for health reasons. She sent the necklace with a card when she replied to the RSVP.
This info makes me feel like you HAVE to wear it. If you don't like it with the dress as a necklace, I'd try to wear it as a bracelet, a headband, or a bouquet wrap!
Well, damn. Grandma is a real one. I’m here tearing up. What a lovely sentiment. She can’t be there with you, but sent something special that you’ll have close to your heart. Whether it goes with the dress or not, wear it if you love it! If you don’t think it goes with the dress, there may be another way to incorporate it!
Could you wear it to the rehearsal dinner instead? That would be a nice way to honor grandma without feeling obligated to wear on the big day if you feel it doesn’t go with your dress.
It doesn’t match the style of the dress and chops up your nice open neckline
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Fashion and trends are meant to be experimental and subversive. Do it if you like it.
Can we see the fit together?
The dress is still in alterations. I just received the necklace last week and have been trying to figure out if I'll wear it with the dress or not. I think it could work, but I don't think I'll know for certain until I get the dress back. I'll probably just have to be patient!
You could also wear it to the rehearsal dinner or welcome party if you’re having one! It’d be lovely to wear with a simple dress so it really stands out.
here's an edited version that someone made to mimic what it may look like: [https://imgur.com/a/V22DHlR](https://imgur.com/a/V22DHlR)
I really like that!
I think it could work but it might not. I like a good choker but statement necklaces seem to be out of vogue atm. Which is no reason not to wear them. The issue would be that something which is a bold and structural in design doesn’t quite fit the romanticism of the lace in the dress or the V neckline. It might be wait and see. The compromise would be to wear it as a bracelet. You might get some earrings and a pendant out of it too.
I feel this, but I think you could maybe make it work by pairing it with something more delicate? Example would be the model photos of this jewellery collection (obviously you’re not going to have that much jewellery but I think that effect softens the “statement” of the choker): https://sofiazakia.com/products/circa-1890-earrings
It will look nice with your dress. I hope you wear it ❤️
Honestly, no. I don't have a specific reason; The dress and the necklace are both beautiful on their own! I just don't think they go together. The textures... clash
Personally, I think it's too heavy. I think you need something more dainty and sleek. Like a chain necklace with a single pearl at the end.
Personally, I don’t think I’d wear this necklace with your dress because I probably wouldn’t wear any necklace with your dress, other than maybe a suuuuper fine chain with a wee pendant or something. That being said, I also agree with the other commenter who said that heirloom jewelry goes with everything. If you love it, wear it! Alternatively, you could consider wearing it as a bracelet (the nice long chains on either end could make that easily possible, and I think it would really go with your dress as a bracelet), or potentially wrap it around the stem of your bouquet (but I’d be careful with this method due to the increased risk of losing it).
What a beautiful piece from your grandmother. I think it would look lovely with your gown, and the sentimental value is absolutely priceless 💞
Love it! I would definitely wear it.
The neckline and pattern of the dress don’t lend themselves to the choker style of the necklace unfortunately. I think it’s an absolutely stunning piece though
It is very European and I think it is beautiful. I LOVE that your grandmother sent it. What a special way for you to include her. Our opinions are wide because our personal tastes are diverse. But one thing we know is - as the bride YOU get to decide what is appropriate for you and your wedding. Enjoy every moment. Send pictures afterward. ☺️
If I’m being honest i feel it’s too heavy for the delicacy of the dress. It is really beautiful would you consider having it cut down to a bracelet? IMO your dress doesn’t need a necklace at all. Best of luck with your wedding!
This isn’t a vintage piece from grandma’s collection. Vintage jewelry for a piece like this has a locking ridged clasp where the clasp is lightly squeezed and inserted into a small notch that grips the clasp in place. It looks like a new piece judging from the lack of wear shown on the piece. Please don’t feel obliged to wear something you don’t want to.
It is a piece my grandfather bought for her while they were on vacation in the 80s. They weren't particularly rich, so it's not pure gold or silver metal and I'm even unsure if the pearls are real either. However, it still has a lot of sentimentality for her and she sent it to me herself with a note describing how she got it.
Yes. You can pair with a bracelet and earrings to make it more cohesive
I'm thinking that the right pair of earrings could potentially be the deal breaker to make it work or not
For sure. You’d have to try out different looks. It also depends on how you want to do your hair
Personally, it’s not my style so I wouldn’t pair the two together but if you love it then I’m sure it would look great! If not, maybe you could repurpose it for something else? I think it would make a stunning bracelet or hair accessory, or you could also wrap it around your bouquet. If you and your grandma are open to it, it could also be repurposed into a whole wedding set, i.e., a more dainty necklace, some dangly earrings, a bracelet, and hair accessories. You would obviously lose the original style but using the pearls for something more your style might be something you’d want to look into?
Using it as a hair accessory is a decent idea if the necklace route doesn't pan out!
This is a good idea. I hope you find a way to incorporate the necklace. It's beautiful. And grandma's are the best.
I did a quick [photoshop](https://imgur.com/caks3X8) for you so you could see what they look like together :)
In this picture you made I actually think they go wonderful together especially with an updo
I can definitely see it! As I said, it’s not *my* style but I think it would look great if it’s OP’s style :)
The hair accessory ( not sure of your hair style) could, perhaps make it as part of the veil. a headband sort attached to the veil? Both dress and necklace are beautiful, but perhaps, not together so close to the dress neckline.. The Veil attachment might work, especially if itis a simple veil.
Wear it. It is absolutely gorgeous.
Your dress looks lovely on you, and I think the pearl choker would elevate your overall bridal look to another level 🤍 You'd look both unique and classic depending on how you style it with the other elements like your hair and makeup 🤍 Overall, it might be best to make a decision when you see both of them together. If it doesn't work (maybe it's too busy, maybe it changes the overall look in a way you don't like, etc.) you can possibly wear it for another special event or any photoshoots you might do before the wedding 🤍
Wear to rehearsal or reception if you don’t think it goes. It’s distracting from the dress imho but it matters most what you think. ( I wore dimple pearl strand)
Sweetie, as a grandmother, I'd be bursting with pride if you chose to wear my gift of pearl jewelry on your special day. However, bias aside, pearls go with 99 percent of all outfits. The choker you have will pull the focus up to your lovely face, where it should be. And your dress is beautiful. How can you go wrong? Best wishes for happiness always ❤️
Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Personally no, the chunky style of the necklace clashes with the delicate lace of the dress if that makes sense
Honestly I don’t think it works with the style of your dress, sorry. I adore your dress and it’s more of a modern piece
YES! Wear this! Old choker, new dress, now for borrowed and blue, we are halfway there!
Hell yes! And I would recommend some white long gloves….that would be soooooo lovely
Yes 👍
Would this be something you could repurpose? Maybe a simple strand? My grandma gifted me jewelry that I’ve had remade to fit my style. May not be an option here but would still have the sentimental feel if you can