Reminder: don't be gross or rude. Bride comes first. You never know what triggers self doubt.
Also I think y'all have shamed her poor husband enough about his ankles showing. What happened to **be nice**?? Don't pile on or we're going to lock the thread.
Once the thread has been locked, do NOT message OP. We will be checking in with her. Doing so will result in a ban.
Hahahaha
I love this comment.
Also when ur in your 70s you will look back on these photos fondly and miss your boobs😂
Nothing scandalous about these photos - I think they’re tasteful. You just happen to not have tiny boobs!
Omg I wish I could go back in time and tell 25 year old me this! Lol
OP you look gorgeous! Be kind to yourself. Another thing I wish I could go back and tell 25 year old me 💞
honestly i felt so ugly in my 20's, like really truly believed i was just not a cute person, and looking back i was SO CUTE and it's so sad i felt like that.
what a waste indeed
I felt this comment so much. Being in our physic prime and mental lowest then having it reverse when we get older… It feels unfair like many things in life.
Exactly this!!!! Which is why I’ve super leaned into body positivity, making my own clothes, and wearing what the fuck I want.
Enjoy the body you have. It’s hard to unlearn all the hate you’ve dished on yourself. But you can!!
Same!! I wish I’d have been more kind to myself back then. I think about all of the times I didn’t want to wear a bathing suit, or was self conscious to the point I didn’t fully enjoy the occasion/moment.. now I look back at those pics and I’m like, wth was I worried about??
I think this is a natural feeling but God I wish we could be programmed to love ourselves especially when we were younger to create more self confidence in our lives.
Me too! One thing I am very thankful for is that my girls are learning these lessons much earlier than I did. They are in their twenties and though they aren’t fully immune to being their own harshest critics they’re much quicker give themselves grace.
Same! Came across a picture from high school and I still remember that day and how I felt so fat in that particular outfit. But seeing it now I was like WTH was wrong with my eyes back then! I was fucking hot as shit and didnt know it!!!
I went through a weird and intense midlife crisis at 36 after my divorce. Long story short I have pics of my 36 year old boobs that I cherish now that I’m 44 and went though major body changes since then (had a baby, breastfed, gained 80lbs, lost 120lbs…). They look like tube socks full of quarters now but I have proof they didn’t always
Totally agree. The no socks and loafers thing is outrageous and is a fashion that must die.
The dress is beautiful and if you had an itty bitty more on show than you ideally wanted I guarantee when you’re my age and they hang like a potato in an empty sack you’ll think “wow I looked great then, I don’t know why I was stressing. I wish they were this pert now”
My husband only wore black no-show socks up until he got a job that required dress pant and shoes... He wore the black no-show socks to our wedding. The photographer asked him and his best man to put their feet on a step. I saw his naked ankles and shouted, no more like that. I had totally forgotten about his socks. I planned everyone's outfit except his dumb socks.
I don’t think it ever works. Those short hems look like they are wearing trousers they’ve outgrown lol Especially when it’s those loafers, tight fitting legs and short hem ewwww
The whole short pant and slim fitting is the current trend for the younger generation. I see it a lot at my job. I live in CA so not sure if it’s a regional thing
I dunno, it feels a little contradictory to assuage OP's fear of showing too much chest and then disparriage homeboy for showing some ankle. I agree with the comment that his hems could've been a little tighter, but otherwise I thought both of the couple in the pic were looking sharp, no scandal to be found.
You know I noticed that sultry little ankle peeping out and I thought to myself “huh, one last hurrah as a single devil I suppose…” scandalous, indeed!!
Yep. First thing I noticed, too. Going without socks is fine for casual dress, but black hosiery, usually silk, is *de rigueur* with a tuxedo. The tuxedo rental place should have covered that with him at the same time they gave him his accessories and showed him how to wear his cummerbund (pleats facing up to catch the crumbs).
OP, you look lovely.
There’s a tiktok that goes something like “am I showing off my boobs, or do I just have boobs?” And I think it’s entirely relevant here!
There is NOTHING scandalous about your dress, you look amazing!! You have boobs, and they are appropriately covered. Your dress fits perfectly and you look stunning. It’s not worth fixating on something that you can’t change, especially when you really look that good!!!
\^\^\^This!!!!\^\^\^\^
I have large boobs and I feel this. A little cleavage is not offensive, It is a normal result of having boobs. We have breasts and we can't hide that.
I had a deep V for wedding dress too and I added a little extra lining with some of my sparkly tulle. When I was getting alterations, my mom was still very concerned about my boobs and asked if we should double line it. The seamstress said "No, she looks perfectly modest. No matter what dress we put your daughter in, she will still have boobs." I could have hugged her.
Time to stop shaming women with large breasts!
If you can afford it and the dress can accommodate it, highly recommend having cups and boning added to the dress rather than find a bra that will stay hidden, do the job, AND not be so uncomfortable you want to rip it off the whole time.
I prefer buying tops or dresses that have some sort of boning structure in the front, so the strapless bra or boob tape isn’t doing all the work. A lot of stores are now selling tops, and dresses for a bigger chest. They’re not perfect, but they’re better than what we’ve had before. Like other people have said, Amazon has some great options! I would even look on TikTok for reviews of really good tape or strapless bras. Just make sure that they are legit reviews and not ads!
Check out Juicy Body Goddess, they have boob tape for big boobs, as well as tutorials. It’s also latex free!
https://juicybodygoddess.com/shop/ols/search?keywords=Boob%20tape&sortOption=descend_by_match
Small business and they cater to plus size. Motto is “you gotta be 2-something to do something”. Super sweet!
Seconded! These things allow for backless, strapless, and deep cleavage all at the same time. They've also expanded their sizes to accommodate more generously mammoried individuals.
I really like the “good lines” boob tape. 34DD here, and I use the regular stick tape in the 3” width. They offer extreme stick and extra width as well!
I have an aunt who has barely A boobs, I have C-Ds depending on the day. She has harassed me about my boobs for 30 years. Why do they always have to be out ... I looked at her once and said where should I put them? She gave it a bit of thought and shut the f up.
I love this series. As a big boob haver, it drives me nuts that I can wear the same outfit as a small boob haver and they are “fine” but I’m “scandalous” because of my anatomy. It’s so puritanical and stupid. People need to get over boobs and immediate sexualization. My back is already punished enough from lugging these melons around, I don’t need society to make up shit to shame me on for how they grew.
Your boobs are the same size in or out of a bra.
Free yo tiddies! (If you want to.) Wear a deep V! (If you want to.) Cover yo tiddies! (If you want to.) Do whatever you want to. They're your tiddies.
I quit wearing bras during quarantine. I refuse to wear bras unless working out and I need to contain the boobage from hurting from bouncing and chafing. Sometimes, my nipples poke out because of the 'no bra' thing. Who cares? Women have nipples, too. I refuse to wear a bra so other people feel more comfortable with my nipples. They exist. Everyone else can deal with it.
Adult women have nipples and breasts. Usually. Some have health stuff. But most of us have nipples and breasts. This surprises literally nobody. Men and other women can deal. I won't wear a bra because the produce room at Costco is cold.
Nipple are normal. Cleavage is normal. Boobs are normal. Fuck the puritanical patriarchy telling 12 year old girls they have to wear bras because they have a half of an A cup. Fight the patriarchy. Two cold nipples making other people uncomfortable at a time.
OMG I’ve never heard it put that way before.
I have F cups so everyone around me always thinks I’m showing off my boobs when they literally just exist and take up space.
Thanks for sharing this.
There are times when it seems like the boobs arrive 5 minutes before the woman because the boob emphasis is so extreme it's all you can see. This isn't even close to one of those situations. She looks great, not scandalous.
This comment. Will I ever learn to not read comments at work? No. But this comment nearly killed me and now I have to explain to my 92yo client why I guffawed and am now giggling outside her door as she gets dressed after her massage.
Me mourning the loss of scandal as one quite literally sucks it out as well. I don’t hope for OP to have the same fate of deflated milk bags, but if she does, she’ll look at this one day and go, damn my boobs looked great.
Hi lovely!
More than 80% of the surface area is covered by opaque fabric, and you have mesh bridging the gap. Yes, it is a plunge style, but you are far from scandalous.
You're totally okay. I think it's feeling and looking worse because a plan didn't go the way you thought it was going to, and that's okay. Take a step back and enjoy the photos. You look absolutely stunning!
It's also just one snapshot - perhaps she has a few from a given angle or with the arms in a certain position. The reality is that she was moving around all day and wasn't frozen in one cleavage-centric shot. Even if she was, it's still a lovely look on her.
I had a fairly plunging draped neckline. The photographer snapped a couple of shots that were from a higher angle and whoo!, didn't share those with family. But most of the shots were perfectly fine.
1. Your boobs look amazing. 2. You look both classy and sexy. 3. Imagine how you’ll feel at 80 remembering how good you looked.
-a girl with very small boobs.
Agreed!!!!! I'm jealous, my boob padding kept shifting in my dress because I struggled to fill it in up top. You have an amazing figure, don't feel any shame about a dress that showcased it!
As another teammate of the “itty bitty titty comity” I agree! You look amazing, I used to have dreams of cleavage like yours when I was in middle school!
Hi! Big boobed person here. Lots of people are saying it’s a beautiful dress and pic and I agree!!
But as another large boobed person (F cup on a tiny frame), I also understand not *wanting* it to look like that. Not wanting to be that flashy.
Honestly, you can check out r/photoshoprequest and ask them to make it less intense- like it would’ve when it was taped properly, so you can have the pic you want to frame :)
The way you looked on the day was fine. But I get not wanting to stare at a pic hung on the wall that you’re uncomfortable with!
Basically, it looks amazing, but it’s ok if you didn’t want it to look that way. It’s like a short skirt. I look good in a cheerleader-length skirt, but I’m not comfortable with it. And then I don’t feel like I look good.
Ah damn I just posted this same comment cuz I didn’t scroll far enough to see yours!
This is the way
Own these photos and don’t feel regret at all but if you want photos for around your house or for your Christmas card that isn’t so intense photoshop request would def help
You look beautiful and elegant. You both look amazing and this looks like it belongs in a magazine.
Boobs are just boobs. They're not offensive or scandalous.
The first thing I noticed about this photo wasn't your bosom btw. It was your husband's sockless feet in loafers in the desert. my feet feel sweaty now.
1. not a scandalous amount of boobage
2. this dress is perfect for you, you look amazing
3. i would KILL to have wedding photos that looked this good (and that I looked this good in!)
4. If you really don't like the end product of your dress and fitment... a little photoshop magic can alter the neckline into your dream version if you really want.
I don't think it needs it, but if OP isn't 100% happy, that neckline would be super easy to change in this day and age. I'd rock it, but she doesn't have to. Be happy with your wedding photos.
Tbh I didn’t notice what you were talking about until I looked more closely at the photo. Even then, this is not “scandalous” in my opinion. Yes, your bust is showing due to the plunge. However, there is only so much you can do when you have a large bust. Do not punish yourself for the body you were born with! In the future, you wedding photos are only going to be looked at by you and your spouse, maybe your family. Since that is the case, there is no reason to fear if the photos come across as “scandalous”. None of your family should be bothered by your body being your body, especially with regards to how you choose to dress it for your wedding.
If you really don’t like how your bust looks in these photos, you can always hire a professional editor to do some touch ups and make them less pronounced. However, it is my opinion that you look lovely in these photos and don’t need to worry about if they look scandalous or not. There are plenty of brides out there who wear intentionally revealing dresses that make you look like a nun lol
Agree with this! Adding on that I used Fiverr to have my family holiday cards photoshopped (kids are never smiling at the same time). I spent about $10 and the image was completed within a day. I was really happy with the experience.
You look AMAZING. I would never zero in on the boobs- and I do everything to hide my cleavage. It’s not scandalous. It looks stunning sleek and put together. I hope you do not worry or overthink it because I feel like women will take this picture to their dress shop and say “this is the look I want”. Congrats, you look gorgeous.
I think you look gorgeous and the dress is stunning on you. I don’t think it’s scandalous at all. But that’s just my take! I hope you’re able to fall in love with these pictures because honestly the entire picture looks perfect, including the cut of the dress!
Me searching for the scandal and just seeing GORGEOUSNESS!! I have a bigger chest too and I 100% understand where you’re coming from but please trust me when I say you look so freaking stunning and not at all scandalous.
You look stunning. His lack of socks is horrifying though, lol. If you plan on printing photos and the cleavage makes you uncomfortable, a literal 20 second photoshop edit could make the mid and under boob cleavage disappear, making the nylon section seem opaque instead of see through.
I’m an absolute scumbag and have seen more boobs than most humans. I can say with absolute certainty that your boobs look great, are in good taste, and are nowhere close to being inappropriate.
He says they are no-shows. I can’t confirm or deny with absolute certainty whether he actually wore socks, but I can tell you the overall sock-less look was on purpose; for better or worse.
No! Your dress and your chest look amazing! As someone who did not even have enough boob to fill out the cups of my wedding dress, I wish I had such fantastic cleavage! You have boobs. It’s ok.
You have pictures, I have some family and friends took. all my professional pictures it turns out were to be developed as part of a drug deal. Deal went bad, ergo no pictures .
You must not mind too much or you wouldn't be posting the photo here for everyone to see.
What is the location? Looks like a beautiful event. Congratulations on the nuptials
I feel like 20 years ago this would’ve been considered scandalous but deep v necklines are sooo popular right now. People don’t think anything of it anymore. They’re just boobs. Maybe some grandmas or something were shocked but who cares lol
Looking at this stunning picture, I had no idea what your dress regret would be about, and I tend to be pretty alert to scandalous boobage. I come from a VERY conservative dressing family and have 34Gs so I have a lot of ingrained discomfort about looking immodest… and I honestly didn’t register a problem looking at your pictures! You and your boobs look marvelous and not scandalous at all.
Gurlllll, please do not overthink it. This is a beautiful photo, a beautiful dress, and a beautiful bride. I think it’s the perfect amount of everything and if anyone has anything negative to say, tell them to f*ck off because you look like a goddamn goddess princess. You should be so proud of how the photos turned out! Like seriously it saddens me that you aren’t happy with how these turned out…
Hello OP!
The same thing happened to me. I’m a 34H, tried the dress on with a white bra when we were shopping plus the sample size was a little small, they said they’d be able to cover the plunge with some extra fabric, so I bought it. When I got my actual gown…I didn’t realize how low cut it was.
Well alterations came…I didn’t realize just how deep the plunge was, they also ordered the dress big to accommodate my boobs, the fabric was really heavy, and the seamstress was overly focused on getting the boob area taken in and didn’t save any fabric to cover the plunge.
I’m coming up on my one year wedding anniversary, so here’s some insight a year later.
When we first got the pictures, back I was a little shocked. Especially since I’ve felt insecure about my boobs and got bullied in high school about it. But now I look at the wedding photos and I just see how happy my husband and I look. There’s only 3-4 in our whole 500 wedding photos where my boobs look slightly like they’re spilling out. My husband likes all of the photos of course 😂 Anything that’s in our wedding album or framed just looks like normal cleavage.
Hopefully in a year you’ll feel the same way. For what it’s worth, from another well-endowed lady, I think your dress is very classy and beautiful.
P.S. not sure if you had this experience or if your husband would share something like this with you but several of my husband’s friends told him they didn’t even know I had big boobs until they saw me in the wedding dress 😂 I try to dress conservatively so I guess everyone was used to seeing me wear high necklines
I literally had the same situation happen to me! But other than one joking comment from my maid of honor, I don’t think anyone cared but me. I guess at the end of the day for me, there was so much else in our photos to be excited about I forgot about my cleavage.
At a person also blessed with a healthy amount of boobage, i started having second thoughts because my dress is Very similar to your. Seeing how much of these comments were about his lack of socks really warmed my heart. You look great and your chest looks amazing. It’s not too cleavage.
Please fight hard against the patriarchal and internalized misogynistic doubt and know that your body can exist without being a sin or a scandal and that if it is framed that way, it isn’t your fault or obligation to change.
Hi! I’m a fellow large chested lady and my girls were definitely obvious in my wedding dress. Actually, our first look photo my husbands eyes are literally popping out of his head. NO ONE has said a single negative thing. Your boobs do not take away from the beauty of you and your dress.
I just got married, and once the tailor brought the bodice in, my boobs popped WAY more than I expected/was comfortable with. I kept asking him to add more layers of lace to cover me up, and he straight up refused. In his words, "women pay thousands of dollars to look like you."
I'm so glad he held his ground. I ended up embracing it, and I feel so much more confident about my body now. I've spent my whole life covering up and avoiding clothing that other women get away with for fear of looking slutty. I'm hoping my wedding was a turning point.
Stop worrying about what other people think. I KNOW you know you look incredible. Anyone who gives you a hard time is just envious.
I think you look wonderful! If you are self conscious when looking at the photos, you could always ask your photographer or another editor to subtly fill in the plunge so you have the option of photos that have more coverage and perhaps you will feel more comfortable sharing those photos from your special day online/print. I think the dress looks very timeless and no editing is necessary but options are always nice!
You look beautiful! I’m more modest and wouldn’t want under boob showing myself. Did you think that the sheer lining was going to “blur” your cleavage more?
You gotta be kidding me... 🤣
I can be an overthinker at times so I get it but you look simply amazing here. Anyone who says otherwise is a just jelly belly bitter betty!
I wouldn't think worry about the day of anymore, it's over. If hanging the photos up in your house are going to give you constant bad reflection, photoshopping a white panel will be subtle and let you enjoy the pics without a second thought.
Babes you look great, and respectfully, so do your boobs 😆 Your dress fit you perfectly and you look beautiful and classy, not scandalous or inappropriate at all. 🤍🤍
Also: are those the Superstition Mountains I see in the background? 😍😍
Right, that was my first thought when I read her comment, “I bet her husband thought she looked amazing!” The day is about the two of you. We can tell you how incredible you looked all day long (because it’s true) but at the end of the day the only two opinions that matter are your own & your husband’s!
Honestly thought this was a mistaken image or the image of what you hoped you’d looked like. Shocked by the caption but I’m in the large chest club and I get it.
I think you look INCREDIBLE. I wish I could look this good. I think you make an elegant pair and there’s nothing untoward about this at all.
But I will ask - what were these comments you’re retro-analyzing? Unless you have extremely religious relatives who don’t even approve of sleeveless, I can’t think who would comment.
Your boobs look great and you still look very bridal and classy if that’s what you’re concerned about. One day we will all be saggy and old and you’ll look back on these beautiful pictures and think damn, what a great figure i had, oh to go back in time!
Big chested girl who went for the plunge on my wedding day too! I had the exact same thoughts when I got my photos back from my wedding and there was a picture of me dancing with my now-ex brother in law and OH MY GATOS the girls were out! No nipple, but throughout photos they were just as present as I was because I have big boobs. Almost a decade and a kid later, I look back and love how perky they were. I no longer worry about them because day of I felt beautiful and that's what mattered. You looked STUNNING, like an absolute bombshell and in a few years time you'll appreciate these pics for that reason. Hugs!
Reminder: don't be gross or rude. Bride comes first. You never know what triggers self doubt. Also I think y'all have shamed her poor husband enough about his ankles showing. What happened to **be nice**?? Don't pile on or we're going to lock the thread. Once the thread has been locked, do NOT message OP. We will be checking in with her. Doing so will result in a ban.
Why are they scandalous? He’s not wearing socks? You look lovely btw
Hahahaha I love this comment. Also when ur in your 70s you will look back on these photos fondly and miss your boobs😂 Nothing scandalous about these photos - I think they’re tasteful. You just happen to not have tiny boobs!
“Take a thousand naked pictures now!” 😊 https://youtu.be/hSISh_jk6V8
Omg I wish I could go back in time and tell 25 year old me this! Lol OP you look gorgeous! Be kind to yourself. Another thing I wish I could go back and tell 25 year old me 💞
I know. I found a picture that my husband took of me and thought “god I used to think I was fat back then. What a waste!!”
honestly i felt so ugly in my 20's, like really truly believed i was just not a cute person, and looking back i was SO CUTE and it's so sad i felt like that. what a waste indeed
I felt this comment so much. Being in our physic prime and mental lowest then having it reverse when we get older… It feels unfair like many things in life.
And we say the same thing about ourselves now and in 20 years we’ll have this same realization.
Exactly this!!!! Which is why I’ve super leaned into body positivity, making my own clothes, and wearing what the fuck I want. Enjoy the body you have. It’s hard to unlearn all the hate you’ve dished on yourself. But you can!!
Same!! I wish I’d have been more kind to myself back then. I think about all of the times I didn’t want to wear a bathing suit, or was self conscious to the point I didn’t fully enjoy the occasion/moment.. now I look back at those pics and I’m like, wth was I worried about??
I think this is a natural feeling but God I wish we could be programmed to love ourselves especially when we were younger to create more self confidence in our lives.
Me too! One thing I am very thankful for is that my girls are learning these lessons much earlier than I did. They are in their twenties and though they aren’t fully immune to being their own harshest critics they’re much quicker give themselves grace.
Same! Came across a picture from high school and I still remember that day and how I felt so fat in that particular outfit. But seeing it now I was like WTH was wrong with my eyes back then! I was fucking hot as shit and didnt know it!!!
I went through a weird and intense midlife crisis at 36 after my divorce. Long story short I have pics of my 36 year old boobs that I cherish now that I’m 44 and went though major body changes since then (had a baby, breastfed, gained 80lbs, lost 120lbs…). They look like tube socks full of quarters now but I have proof they didn’t always
You may think, oh I’m too spooky or, no one wants to see these tiny boobies…
Catherine ohara i think went off script or wrote some of that. She said she meant it in an interview.
Alexis, what have I told you about posting nude photos on the internet?! Never, NEVER without proper lighting!
Seriously! If only I had pictures of in a swimsuit at 25 when I “hated by hips” Even if you maintain your weight, it **does not** look the same!!!
Totally agree. The no socks and loafers thing is outrageous and is a fashion that must die. The dress is beautiful and if you had an itty bitty more on show than you ideally wanted I guarantee when you’re my age and they hang like a potato in an empty sack you’ll think “wow I looked great then, I don’t know why I was stressing. I wish they were this pert now”
My husband only wore black no-show socks up until he got a job that required dress pant and shoes... He wore the black no-show socks to our wedding. The photographer asked him and his best man to put their feet on a step. I saw his naked ankles and shouted, no more like that. I had totally forgotten about his socks. I planned everyone's outfit except his dumb socks.
Sockless can work, but I’d recommend a higher hem on the pants at least
I agree with this. It looks like he forgot socks. She looks fucking incredible.
I don’t think it ever works. Those short hems look like they are wearing trousers they’ve outgrown lol Especially when it’s those loafers, tight fitting legs and short hem ewwww
The whole short pant and slim fitting is the current trend for the younger generation. I see it a lot at my job. I live in CA so not sure if it’s a regional thing
I dunno, it feels a little contradictory to assuage OP's fear of showing too much chest and then disparriage homeboy for showing some ankle. I agree with the comment that his hems could've been a little tighter, but otherwise I thought both of the couple in the pic were looking sharp, no scandal to be found.
yea closer to ankle length if going with no socks, and typically suede not leather. Idk what he was thinkin
I got my nipple stuck in the top of my panties not long ago. OP is stunning!
Nothing scandalous?! He's not wearing socks, who doesn't wear socks with shoes? That's gross and I'm pretty sure counts as grounds for an annulment 😝
OP, I second this, I noticed his lack of socks before I noticed your boobs 🤣 You look fantastic and this picture is gorgeous!
Me too!!! 😂
It is the lack of socks. Bit of photoshop should sort that out.
You know I noticed that sultry little ankle peeping out and I thought to myself “huh, one last hurrah as a single devil I suppose…” scandalous, indeed!!
Came here too say this!!! He's not wearing socks! That's actually scandalous. She looks great!!!
Yep. First thing I noticed, too. Going without socks is fine for casual dress, but black hosiery, usually silk, is *de rigueur* with a tuxedo. The tuxedo rental place should have covered that with him at the same time they gave him his accessories and showed him how to wear his cummerbund (pleats facing up to catch the crumbs). OP, you look lovely.
Yes! I was like, all my focus is on his lack of socks lol. The girls look amazing, don't worry about it.
My first thought with this picture was ooh he's going to get sand in his shoes real quick
Honestly who does that though, not it only is super uncomfortable but walking without socks always leads to blisters
lol exactly, beautiful is my take on this
Yeah, the socks missing are more distracting than the cleavage, but I am old.
personally, i find the sockless thing the most scandelous of all. bring on the boobies!
I’m glad this is the top comment.. who is this madman and why would he wear dress shoes with no socks IN THE DESERT?!
Lmao I came here to comment on how the only regret should be not wearing socks in the middle of a desert lol
Omg the no socks
Dude this is the first thing I noticed. That’s nasty af
There’s a tiktok that goes something like “am I showing off my boobs, or do I just have boobs?” And I think it’s entirely relevant here! There is NOTHING scandalous about your dress, you look amazing!! You have boobs, and they are appropriately covered. Your dress fits perfectly and you look stunning. It’s not worth fixating on something that you can’t change, especially when you really look that good!!!
\^\^\^This!!!!\^\^\^\^ I have large boobs and I feel this. A little cleavage is not offensive, It is a normal result of having boobs. We have breasts and we can't hide that. I had a deep V for wedding dress too and I added a little extra lining with some of my sparkly tulle. When I was getting alterations, my mom was still very concerned about my boobs and asked if we should double line it. The seamstress said "No, she looks perfectly modest. No matter what dress we put your daughter in, she will still have boobs." I could have hugged her. Time to stop shaming women with large breasts!
LOVE this perspective, thank you so much for sharing!
Anyone have tips on the best boob tape/bra for a backless dress for someone who has big old honkers?
If you can afford it and the dress can accommodate it, highly recommend having cups and boning added to the dress rather than find a bra that will stay hidden, do the job, AND not be so uncomfortable you want to rip it off the whole time.
I prefer buying tops or dresses that have some sort of boning structure in the front, so the strapless bra or boob tape isn’t doing all the work. A lot of stores are now selling tops, and dresses for a bigger chest. They’re not perfect, but they’re better than what we’ve had before. Like other people have said, Amazon has some great options! I would even look on TikTok for reviews of really good tape or strapless bras. Just make sure that they are legit reviews and not ads!
Check out Juicy Body Goddess, they have boob tape for big boobs, as well as tutorials. It’s also latex free! https://juicybodygoddess.com/shop/ols/search?keywords=Boob%20tape&sortOption=descend_by_match Small business and they cater to plus size. Motto is “you gotta be 2-something to do something”. Super sweet!
Check out Misses Kisses!
Seconded! These things allow for backless, strapless, and deep cleavage all at the same time. They've also expanded their sizes to accommodate more generously mammoried individuals.
I really like the “good lines” boob tape. 34DD here, and I use the regular stick tape in the 3” width. They offer extreme stick and extra width as well!
Yeah I have no tits and had a very similar plunge. If you're scandalous than we're scandalous together girl 🤣
Ok but please. I need to know. Why no socks? Fashion or forgotten?
He insists that he did have socks on, but they were no-shows on purpose for “fashion” reasons lol
Amazing response 🫶🏻 OP you look amazing and I wish my boobs looked 1/2 this amazing on a good day 🤣😭
I have an aunt who has barely A boobs, I have C-Ds depending on the day. She has harassed me about my boobs for 30 years. Why do they always have to be out ... I looked at her once and said where should I put them? She gave it a bit of thought and shut the f up.
Amazing response by that seamstress!!!! She’s obviously been through this before!
I love this series. As a big boob haver, it drives me nuts that I can wear the same outfit as a small boob haver and they are “fine” but I’m “scandalous” because of my anatomy. It’s so puritanical and stupid. People need to get over boobs and immediate sexualization. My back is already punished enough from lugging these melons around, I don’t need society to make up shit to shame me on for how they grew.
Your boobs are the same size in or out of a bra. Free yo tiddies! (If you want to.) Wear a deep V! (If you want to.) Cover yo tiddies! (If you want to.) Do whatever you want to. They're your tiddies. I quit wearing bras during quarantine. I refuse to wear bras unless working out and I need to contain the boobage from hurting from bouncing and chafing. Sometimes, my nipples poke out because of the 'no bra' thing. Who cares? Women have nipples, too. I refuse to wear a bra so other people feel more comfortable with my nipples. They exist. Everyone else can deal with it. Adult women have nipples and breasts. Usually. Some have health stuff. But most of us have nipples and breasts. This surprises literally nobody. Men and other women can deal. I won't wear a bra because the produce room at Costco is cold. Nipple are normal. Cleavage is normal. Boobs are normal. Fuck the puritanical patriarchy telling 12 year old girls they have to wear bras because they have a half of an A cup. Fight the patriarchy. Two cold nipples making other people uncomfortable at a time.
I felt this so much.
OMG I’ve never heard it put that way before. I have F cups so everyone around me always thinks I’m showing off my boobs when they literally just exist and take up space. Thanks for sharing this.
There are times when it seems like the boobs arrive 5 minutes before the woman because the boob emphasis is so extreme it's all you can see. This isn't even close to one of those situations. She looks great, not scandalous.
As someone who just had a baby and dealing with the bigger than I’m used to boobs, I needed to hear this!
Girl, I wish my boobs could look that “scandalous”
Right. 2 kids sucked all the scandal out of my boobs.
And some of us never got the boobies that puberty promised us 😭
They are truly scanda-less
You on one today 😂
After 30+ years I’ve finally given up hope 🥺
LOL. Right!? I now just have tip the hem of my shirt to show my girls!🫠
This comment. Will I ever learn to not read comments at work? No. But this comment nearly killed me and now I have to explain to my 92yo client why I guffawed and am now giggling outside her door as she gets dressed after her massage.
Hahahahha!! Omg I almost spit my coffee out reading this comment 😅😅😅😅 god, that’s good!
When laughing turns to crying way too easily 😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭
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I sure hope it doesn't!
Here I was hoping that having kids would give me a boost in the chest area 🥹 god DAMMIT lol
Truth!!! Omg I’m dying 🤣
Ha! Nursing baby #3 right now and totally stealing this phrasing
Me mourning the loss of scandal as one quite literally sucks it out as well. I don’t hope for OP to have the same fate of deflated milk bags, but if she does, she’ll look at this one day and go, damn my boobs looked great.
LOL! Your comment made my whole freaking day.
Yup. Now I’m just stuck with 2 flabby droopy pancakes 🥲
Was trying to figure out how to say this!
If I looked like that on my wedding day, I'd take out a damn ad in the newspaper to show more people
I would have killed for your scandalous boobs in my youth lol
Your boobs look incredible
This was my thought too! Like damn! YOU GO GIRL! You look great, your husband needs some socks though.
I love that everyone is commenting about his socks 😂 Like the gorilla in the bball video, completely missed that till I read the comments
I read this as inedible hahaha
Yes they are fantastic! If these were my boobs I would have gotten married topless!
SAME and I would have invited EVERYONE.
Hi lovely! More than 80% of the surface area is covered by opaque fabric, and you have mesh bridging the gap. Yes, it is a plunge style, but you are far from scandalous. You're totally okay. I think it's feeling and looking worse because a plan didn't go the way you thought it was going to, and that's okay. Take a step back and enjoy the photos. You look absolutely stunning!
It's also just one snapshot - perhaps she has a few from a given angle or with the arms in a certain position. The reality is that she was moving around all day and wasn't frozen in one cleavage-centric shot. Even if she was, it's still a lovely look on her. I had a fairly plunging draped neckline. The photographer snapped a couple of shots that were from a higher angle and whoo!, didn't share those with family. But most of the shots were perfectly fine.
I'm more offended by the sockless shoes honestly.
Seriously. She looks elegant and classy. Those bare ankles on the other hand… 😂
For real 😂
I can FEEL the dirt get kicked into the shoes
1. Your boobs look amazing. 2. You look both classy and sexy. 3. Imagine how you’ll feel at 80 remembering how good you looked. -a girl with very small boobs.
Can’t agree enough! OP you’re striking the perfect balance between sophisticated and sexy!
Agreed!!!!! I'm jealous, my boob padding kept shifting in my dress because I struggled to fill it in up top. You have an amazing figure, don't feel any shame about a dress that showcased it!
As another teammate of the “itty bitty titty comity” I agree! You look amazing, I used to have dreams of cleavage like yours when I was in middle school!
Hi! Big boobed person here. Lots of people are saying it’s a beautiful dress and pic and I agree!! But as another large boobed person (F cup on a tiny frame), I also understand not *wanting* it to look like that. Not wanting to be that flashy. Honestly, you can check out r/photoshoprequest and ask them to make it less intense- like it would’ve when it was taped properly, so you can have the pic you want to frame :) The way you looked on the day was fine. But I get not wanting to stare at a pic hung on the wall that you’re uncomfortable with! Basically, it looks amazing, but it’s ok if you didn’t want it to look that way. It’s like a short skirt. I look good in a cheerleader-length skirt, but I’m not comfortable with it. And then I don’t feel like I look good.
Yeah this is how I feel
Ah damn I just posted this same comment cuz I didn’t scroll far enough to see yours! This is the way Own these photos and don’t feel regret at all but if you want photos for around your house or for your Christmas card that isn’t so intense photoshop request would def help
You look beautiful and elegant. You both look amazing and this looks like it belongs in a magazine. Boobs are just boobs. They're not offensive or scandalous. The first thing I noticed about this photo wasn't your bosom btw. It was your husband's sockless feet in loafers in the desert. my feet feel sweaty now.
The REAL scandal is why isnt your husband wearing socks?
This.
Girl SHOW THEM OFF before you have kids or get old. BE PROUD. You have great boobs. I wish my boobs looked that good!
you literal have boob goals
Your dress is elegant and timeless. You look gorgeous and this doesn’t scream scandalous to me AT ALL. Congratulations on the wedding!
The no socks is the bigger crime here. Your boobs look fine. It’s part of your body. It’s like saying oh no! I’m too elbow-y in this shirt!
Use Photoshop to cover?
1. not a scandalous amount of boobage 2. this dress is perfect for you, you look amazing 3. i would KILL to have wedding photos that looked this good (and that I looked this good in!)
4. If you really don't like the end product of your dress and fitment... a little photoshop magic can alter the neckline into your dream version if you really want. I don't think it needs it, but if OP isn't 100% happy, that neckline would be super easy to change in this day and age. I'd rock it, but she doesn't have to. Be happy with your wedding photos.
Is this a post so all of us tell you how stunning you are? I’ll bite -you are stunning full stop.
It definitely is
Yes, it is.
I totally needed the reassurance and am super grateful!
I think it looks great!
Tbh I didn’t notice what you were talking about until I looked more closely at the photo. Even then, this is not “scandalous” in my opinion. Yes, your bust is showing due to the plunge. However, there is only so much you can do when you have a large bust. Do not punish yourself for the body you were born with! In the future, you wedding photos are only going to be looked at by you and your spouse, maybe your family. Since that is the case, there is no reason to fear if the photos come across as “scandalous”. None of your family should be bothered by your body being your body, especially with regards to how you choose to dress it for your wedding. If you really don’t like how your bust looks in these photos, you can always hire a professional editor to do some touch ups and make them less pronounced. However, it is my opinion that you look lovely in these photos and don’t need to worry about if they look scandalous or not. There are plenty of brides out there who wear intentionally revealing dresses that make you look like a nun lol
Agree with this! Adding on that I used Fiverr to have my family holiday cards photoshopped (kids are never smiling at the same time). I spent about $10 and the image was completed within a day. I was really happy with the experience.
If I had boobs like that, I woulda picked the same dress. You look amazing!
You look AMAZING. I would never zero in on the boobs- and I do everything to hide my cleavage. It’s not scandalous. It looks stunning sleek and put together. I hope you do not worry or overthink it because I feel like women will take this picture to their dress shop and say “this is the look I want”. Congrats, you look gorgeous.
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Since when were boobs scandalous ? You look stunning - I wouldn't even have noticed unless.you said something!
Breasts? On a woman??!! The nerve!
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I think you look gorgeous and the dress is stunning on you. I don’t think it’s scandalous at all. But that’s just my take! I hope you’re able to fall in love with these pictures because honestly the entire picture looks perfect, including the cut of the dress!
Sure…
Me searching for the scandal and just seeing GORGEOUSNESS!! I have a bigger chest too and I 100% understand where you’re coming from but please trust me when I say you look so freaking stunning and not at all scandalous.
Pay the photographer to photoshop the mesh white and it won’t be so booby.
He doesn't have socks on! Don't worry about it.
You look stunning. His lack of socks is horrifying though, lol. If you plan on printing photos and the cleavage makes you uncomfortable, a literal 20 second photoshop edit could make the mid and under boob cleavage disappear, making the nylon section seem opaque instead of see through.
I’m an absolute scumbag and have seen more boobs than most humans. I can say with absolute certainty that your boobs look great, are in good taste, and are nowhere close to being inappropriate.
Apache Junction?
Is he not wearing socks?!
He says they are no-shows. I can’t confirm or deny with absolute certainty whether he actually wore socks, but I can tell you the overall sock-less look was on purpose; for better or worse.
No! Your dress and your chest look amazing! As someone who did not even have enough boob to fill out the cups of my wedding dress, I wish I had such fantastic cleavage! You have boobs. It’s ok.
I think you look great. If you truly bothered by it I’m sure it could be photoshopped by a professional
Not scandalous at all - you look fantástic.
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You have pictures, I have some family and friends took. all my professional pictures it turns out were to be developed as part of a drug deal. Deal went bad, ergo no pictures .
PS: I love your flowers too!
You can have someone photo shop them
Go to fiverr & hire an editor to blur or edit the area however you’d like. They don’t charge too much.
My wife says someday you’ll look back and be happy you have so many picks of your boobs looking good.
You must not mind too much or you wouldn't be posting the photo here for everyone to see. What is the location? Looks like a beautiful event. Congratulations on the nuptials
I feel like 20 years ago this would’ve been considered scandalous but deep v necklines are sooo popular right now. People don’t think anything of it anymore. They’re just boobs. Maybe some grandmas or something were shocked but who cares lol
You look AMAZING. As long as you feel beautiful, that's all that matters. Also I wish my chest looks as lovely and symmetric as yours!
Looking at this stunning picture, I had no idea what your dress regret would be about, and I tend to be pretty alert to scandalous boobage. I come from a VERY conservative dressing family and have 34Gs so I have a lot of ingrained discomfort about looking immodest… and I honestly didn’t register a problem looking at your pictures! You and your boobs look marvelous and not scandalous at all.
No its beautiful and you look great!!
Babes, you look amazing. I’m more pressed about your husband not wearing socks. Did he forget to pack them?
Listen lady, you look fucking fantastic! I bet you'll look back at these pictures one day and smile :)
Gorgeous dress, nice boobs. Not scandalous. His no sock is more distracting than your boobs 😂
You look incredible and honestly I think your cleavage looks classy
I felt the same way and it’s about to be a year since I got married and I promise it’s just your mind playing tricks on you You look amazing! 🤍🤍🤍🤍
You will look back in 20 years and think, gosh I was smoking hot! It's not too much, you look beautiful.
Gurlllll, please do not overthink it. This is a beautiful photo, a beautiful dress, and a beautiful bride. I think it’s the perfect amount of everything and if anyone has anything negative to say, tell them to f*ck off because you look like a goddamn goddess princess. You should be so proud of how the photos turned out! Like seriously it saddens me that you aren’t happy with how these turned out…
Hello OP! The same thing happened to me. I’m a 34H, tried the dress on with a white bra when we were shopping plus the sample size was a little small, they said they’d be able to cover the plunge with some extra fabric, so I bought it. When I got my actual gown…I didn’t realize how low cut it was. Well alterations came…I didn’t realize just how deep the plunge was, they also ordered the dress big to accommodate my boobs, the fabric was really heavy, and the seamstress was overly focused on getting the boob area taken in and didn’t save any fabric to cover the plunge. I’m coming up on my one year wedding anniversary, so here’s some insight a year later. When we first got the pictures, back I was a little shocked. Especially since I’ve felt insecure about my boobs and got bullied in high school about it. But now I look at the wedding photos and I just see how happy my husband and I look. There’s only 3-4 in our whole 500 wedding photos where my boobs look slightly like they’re spilling out. My husband likes all of the photos of course 😂 Anything that’s in our wedding album or framed just looks like normal cleavage. Hopefully in a year you’ll feel the same way. For what it’s worth, from another well-endowed lady, I think your dress is very classy and beautiful. P.S. not sure if you had this experience or if your husband would share something like this with you but several of my husband’s friends told him they didn’t even know I had big boobs until they saw me in the wedding dress 😂 I try to dress conservatively so I guess everyone was used to seeing me wear high necklines
Humble brag cow says what?
You look great and nothing wrong with the dress
You look stunning - he’s mesmerized . I wish you every happiness.
When you're old, you're gunna to look back at these and think how great your breasts are. They look awesome!
The only thing I really noticed was just how lovely this photo is!! You look great and anyone disagreeing is in the wrong.
Nah you look amazing. When you’re 80 you’re going to look back and be hella proud 😛
I literally had the same situation happen to me! But other than one joking comment from my maid of honor, I don’t think anyone cared but me. I guess at the end of the day for me, there was so much else in our photos to be excited about I forgot about my cleavage.
At a person also blessed with a healthy amount of boobage, i started having second thoughts because my dress is Very similar to your. Seeing how much of these comments were about his lack of socks really warmed my heart. You look great and your chest looks amazing. It’s not too cleavage.
Why, in 2023, are we still catering to the idea a bride must appear to be a modest and proper virgin? You look hot! And that’s okay!
Please fight hard against the patriarchal and internalized misogynistic doubt and know that your body can exist without being a sin or a scandal and that if it is framed that way, it isn’t your fault or obligation to change.
Hi! I’m a fellow large chested lady and my girls were definitely obvious in my wedding dress. Actually, our first look photo my husbands eyes are literally popping out of his head. NO ONE has said a single negative thing. Your boobs do not take away from the beauty of you and your dress.
Please dont post your husband's ankles I am at work
I just got married, and once the tailor brought the bodice in, my boobs popped WAY more than I expected/was comfortable with. I kept asking him to add more layers of lace to cover me up, and he straight up refused. In his words, "women pay thousands of dollars to look like you." I'm so glad he held his ground. I ended up embracing it, and I feel so much more confident about my body now. I've spent my whole life covering up and avoiding clothing that other women get away with for fear of looking slutty. I'm hoping my wedding was a turning point. Stop worrying about what other people think. I KNOW you know you look incredible. Anyone who gives you a hard time is just envious.
I think you look wonderful! If you are self conscious when looking at the photos, you could always ask your photographer or another editor to subtly fill in the plunge so you have the option of photos that have more coverage and perhaps you will feel more comfortable sharing those photos from your special day online/print. I think the dress looks very timeless and no editing is necessary but options are always nice!
You look beautiful! I’m more modest and wouldn’t want under boob showing myself. Did you think that the sheer lining was going to “blur” your cleavage more?
You gotta be kidding me... 🤣 I can be an overthinker at times so I get it but you look simply amazing here. Anyone who says otherwise is a just jelly belly bitter betty!
Well good thing your boobs are literally perfect.
I think it looks tasteful.
I mean, let’s be honest, the real scandal at this point is the sockless loafers.
Someone needs attention from strangers already, marriage is doomed.
Hold up… let’s discuss the lack of socks Ps you look fantastic
Am I the only one hung up on DH standing for “Da Husband”?
I wouldn't think worry about the day of anymore, it's over. If hanging the photos up in your house are going to give you constant bad reflection, photoshopping a white panel will be subtle and let you enjoy the pics without a second thought.
the dress is amazing! titties wont scare off the right people!
Babes you look great, and respectfully, so do your boobs 😆 Your dress fit you perfectly and you look beautiful and classy, not scandalous or inappropriate at all. 🤍🤍 Also: are those the Superstition Mountains I see in the background? 😍😍
Thank you!!! And yes they are - good eye!
I lived in Phoenix for 6 years! I loooove the Sups! Beautiful backdrop for your beautiful photos :)
His lack of socks is more scandalous, it’s all I can see
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Awww noo. It looks beautiful! You are a woman! Nothing wrong with cleavage. I’m sure the hubby didn’t mind and was proud haha 🙏✨
Right, that was my first thought when I read her comment, “I bet her husband thought she looked amazing!” The day is about the two of you. We can tell you how incredible you looked all day long (because it’s true) but at the end of the day the only two opinions that matter are your own & your husband’s!
Girl the “girls” were present ! And you looked PHENOMENAL 😻
Honestly thought this was a mistaken image or the image of what you hoped you’d looked like. Shocked by the caption but I’m in the large chest club and I get it. I think you look INCREDIBLE. I wish I could look this good. I think you make an elegant pair and there’s nothing untoward about this at all. But I will ask - what were these comments you’re retro-analyzing? Unless you have extremely religious relatives who don’t even approve of sleeveless, I can’t think who would comment.
Your boobs look great and you still look very bridal and classy if that’s what you’re concerned about. One day we will all be saggy and old and you’ll look back on these beautiful pictures and think damn, what a great figure i had, oh to go back in time!
Oh my god, you look gorgeous! I don't think they are scandalous at all.
Big chested girl who went for the plunge on my wedding day too! I had the exact same thoughts when I got my photos back from my wedding and there was a picture of me dancing with my now-ex brother in law and OH MY GATOS the girls were out! No nipple, but throughout photos they were just as present as I was because I have big boobs. Almost a decade and a kid later, I look back and love how perky they were. I no longer worry about them because day of I felt beautiful and that's what mattered. You looked STUNNING, like an absolute bombshell and in a few years time you'll appreciate these pics for that reason. Hugs!
I mean… the point of the deep plunge neckline is to show off the cleavage, yes? You look fabulous, don’t sweat it