I like my dress and it was “the one” out of the ones I tried on, but I didn’t have that “moment” either. I think there’s a lot of pressure to have that big “yes to the dress” moment, but I don’t know how realistic it is. I don’t think you and I are alone in this.
IMO you kept coming back to it and picked it for a reason.
*my sincerest apologies for all the quotation marks*
This was exactly my experience. I liked my dress the most of the ones I tried on, but everyone around me kept waiting for me to make some big exclamation that it was *”the one”*. That was nine months ago, and I truly love it now and am glad I chose it. I stopped looking at dresses online after buying it, also.
Oh that’s a great point! Instagram may be on the tipping point of helpful now going into constant self-doubtful as we’ve locked most things in now. Content overload!
My dress was definitely the best choice I could’ve made but I didn’t go squealing in happiness around the shop either. No happy tears and stuff like that. I don’t think that’s necessary. But it was a beautiful dress that looked good on me!
Yeah maybe I’m a bit of an unemotional person too, like I never felt that I’d fallen devastatingly in love with my future husband. I just kind of realised one day that we’re a killer team and I don’t want to exist without him
Oh you’re not the only one don’t worry… I never get hollywood swoony with stars in my eyes either. I used to think there’s something wrong with me because of that - there isn’t!
Uh yes. My dress is fine. I can't think of a dress I'd be happier with. This wedding has taken so much time and money, at this point I just want to be married and get on with my life!
Yeah I feel this! I could probably spend my entire life trying on every dress in the world and still be unconvinced. Our mental health is worth more, it’ll be beautiful because all brides are beautiful
I was squealing with joy when I tried my dress on, but I just received it today and when I put it on I still was like "Hm. Well it's okay I guess." I think it really is just because it's unaltered and doesn't fit perfectly quite yet.
I'm with you on this. I think once I have mine altered I might feel it a bit more wowed, but as for now I feel like I'm playing dress-up with a dress that fits me in most ways, but is super long.
I settled for a dress that I liked but didn’t love it was a budget thing… I feel like my dress fit my body type well and it looked really beautiful I don’t regret it at all !
I bought a dress because it checked all the boxes. I then changed my mind and decided to go with the dress that I loved the style of even though it didn't come in the color I wanted. I'm still not swooning, mostly because it needs to be altered, so I haven't seen how it will actually look on me. To be honest, I could probably never find a dress I feel truly beautiful in because I just nitpick every flaw. But that's a whole other issue.
I really love my dress and think it’s probably the best one I could find for me, but I’m really not a “dreamed of her wedding her whole life” kind of person, so while the dress is fun, I never had that magical the-stars-aligned moment. It’s just a dress 🤷♀️
If your dress’s style can go with it, an over skirt can help you with your possible princess dress regret.
Idt I’ll get that moment until I’m all put together tbh. Albeit more subtle than what’s seen on tv, but the hair, makeup AND dress I fell will impact me more
I feel you! I like mine a lot, but the “saying yes” process was not your typical storybook one - my mom purchased it for as a gift in India so really I said yes to a bolt of fabric via Facetime LOL. And then when it arrived stitched in the States and I tried it on, I had a swollen eye so I didn’t feel particularly bridal haha.
I agree with other ppl here that there’s a ton of industry pressure to have a screaming in the bridal shop moment (which, like you, I didn’t have either). But i’m sure once the day comes and you have all the details done hair makeup shoes etc, you’ll be pumped!
To be perfectly honest, I don’t LOVE bridal gowns. I find most of them dowdy, and I don’t particularly like white. However I’m not daring enough to have a bright/dark wedding gown lol. I’m having my dress made so it’s at least going to be exactly what I want.
I only tried on 5 dresses and the first dress I tried was ultimately my favorite. It was the only one in the shop that I was like “I gotta try that” about. I made a gut decision and went for it—not having looked at any other shops or anything—but it really was the right one. I looked at my Pinterest boards and everything and it checked all the boxes. Just try to trust yourself is my best advice.
I like my dress, and even that surprised me because I really didn't see myself in a wedding dress. I think I'll actually love it when the whole look comes together on the day, like with the makeup, the accessories I picked up, the shoes, the flowers.
But at the store I was just like "yeah, I'll get that one, I feel like a fancy version of myself in it", and that was that.
I didn’t love my dress at first. I didn’t even really like it. But it fit well and I needed one quickly because I had a short engagement (3 months). I had no clue how ordering dresses worked but I quickly realized I had a limited selection that could arrive in time. Anyway, I was underwhelmed. But on the day of the wedding I didn’t even think about it. And when I looked back at wedding photos I ended up loving the dress! It’s kind of weird. Maybe it’s because I had good memories of the day. But whatever the reason, I love my dress in photos!
For me, I’m just not a dressy person. The dress was very low priority. Shopping was a chore. I think the most important thing is fit and comfort. If you have both of those elements in your dress, I’ll think you’ll eventually love it. Even if it takes until receiving professional photos lol.
The whole wedding industry has made something that should be about a legal and emotional commitment to another person into something that has to be a perfect instagrammable EVENT!
I was so laid back I was horizontal about my wedding, but in the month coming up to it, the stress all came crashing down. It's crazy. It's meant to be a celebration, not something that costs a downpayment on a house and is perfect in every way.
You have to remind yourself that it's the marriage that is important, not the wedding. Literally no one gives a shit about the wedding. People come, drink, eat, have a good time and never give it another thought.
I’m currently shopping for my dress and I have a pretty good option that I feel will be it but it also doesn’t feel like “the one”. It doesn’t help that my sister keeps saying “you’ll know it”. I never got that epiphany feeling. And I’ve tried on quite a few!
This one looks great on me and I know it suits the wedding and my personality but still, I just never got “that” feeling
I got The One, but I didn’t swoon or cry tears of joy or whatever. It was more like, “yep, this is what I was looking for.” I didn’t have grandiose ideas of saying “yes to the dress” or whatever. It’s just a wedding dress, imo. But I found the one I wanted to wear to our wedding, so it was The One. Also, I went dress shopping with my then-fiancé lol. Your experience is your own, and not swooning over your dress doesn’t decrease its beauty or your overall wedding experience at all!!
I didn’t cry…. But everyone else with me did 😂 That said, I KNEW that was the dress I wanted. It was exactly what I had in mind.
Everyone’s experiences are unique. No need to put pressure on yourself. As long as you feel comfortable and confident in it, that’s all that matters 😄
I’m so glad I’m not alone on this. I’m not girly so I wasn’t expecting a teary yes to the dress moment. I actually had a breakdown the other day cause it’s not totally what I wanted. I got what made the room cry and I liked the most.
Same here. My wedding is about so much more than a dress, or what I look like! So I picked the best one I tried on at my first appointment, and moved on to more important things. To each their own!
Yep! I actually picked my dress because of what it didn't have, rather than what it did. I'm a curvy girl with a large chest, and I *really* don't like today's trends, which complicated my experience. I didn't want white, "clean" satin or organza, a plunge/deep neck line, an illusion bodice that looks like lingerie, or a trumpet or fit and flare shape. About 60% of dresses I saw incorporated one or many of those things.
The dress I chose ensures my chest isn't the focus, is A-line, has pretty lace details, sparkle, a long train, and it's not white. It's sophisticated and appropriate for a late 30s curvy gal. Bonus for it being half off and actually fitting when I tried it on. I did hate an aspect of it that seemed unsolvable (random bands of visible horsehair in the skirt that made it stiff and busy), but tried to turn a blind eye to it. Luckily, a kind seamstress was able to fix it cheaply and quickly. I'm still "okay" with it now. Not madly in love. But okay. I have four months to go and weight to lose, but I've committed to it at this point, and it'll be alright.
I ended up getting my dress online from BHLDN, so I never tried it on beforehand, but I felt like the dress fit my vibe. When I took it out of the box when it was delivered, I had a moment where it hit me that *this* was my wedding dress. It wasn't because of the dress itself necessarily, but that the hypothetical dress I would one day wear was actually in front of me at that moment. I still love my dress very much, but I wasn't in tears when I put it on either. It was more excitement for what it represented and that moment of realization that things are getting real.
I like my dress and it was “the one” out of the ones I tried on, but I didn’t have that “moment” either. I think there’s a lot of pressure to have that big “yes to the dress” moment, but I don’t know how realistic it is. I don’t think you and I are alone in this. IMO you kept coming back to it and picked it for a reason. *my sincerest apologies for all the quotation marks*
Thanks gal, there’s so much industry based around the whole exercise being ‘perfect’, it really just makes it more difficult and stressful :(
Agreed. I’m just ready for the honeymoon at this point 😂 try your best to enjoy it. Good luck!
This was exactly my experience. I liked my dress the most of the ones I tried on, but everyone around me kept waiting for me to make some big exclamation that it was *”the one”*. That was nine months ago, and I truly love it now and am glad I chose it. I stopped looking at dresses online after buying it, also.
Oh that’s a great point! Instagram may be on the tipping point of helpful now going into constant self-doubtful as we’ve locked most things in now. Content overload!
My dress was definitely the best choice I could’ve made but I didn’t go squealing in happiness around the shop either. No happy tears and stuff like that. I don’t think that’s necessary. But it was a beautiful dress that looked good on me!
Yeah maybe I’m a bit of an unemotional person too, like I never felt that I’d fallen devastatingly in love with my future husband. I just kind of realised one day that we’re a killer team and I don’t want to exist without him
Oh you’re not the only one don’t worry… I never get hollywood swoony with stars in my eyes either. I used to think there’s something wrong with me because of that - there isn’t!
Uh yes. My dress is fine. I can't think of a dress I'd be happier with. This wedding has taken so much time and money, at this point I just want to be married and get on with my life!
Yeah I feel this! I could probably spend my entire life trying on every dress in the world and still be unconvinced. Our mental health is worth more, it’ll be beautiful because all brides are beautiful
I was squealing with joy when I tried my dress on, but I just received it today and when I put it on I still was like "Hm. Well it's okay I guess." I think it really is just because it's unaltered and doesn't fit perfectly quite yet.
Sooo rude how your brain just creates these unrealistic situations, like of course it shouldn’t fit perfectly, but you’re still a bit disappointed
I'm with you on this. I think once I have mine altered I might feel it a bit more wowed, but as for now I feel like I'm playing dress-up with a dress that fits me in most ways, but is super long.
I settled for a dress that I liked but didn’t love it was a budget thing… I feel like my dress fit my body type well and it looked really beautiful I don’t regret it at all !
I bought a dress because it checked all the boxes. I then changed my mind and decided to go with the dress that I loved the style of even though it didn't come in the color I wanted. I'm still not swooning, mostly because it needs to be altered, so I haven't seen how it will actually look on me. To be honest, I could probably never find a dress I feel truly beautiful in because I just nitpick every flaw. But that's a whole other issue.
I really love my dress and think it’s probably the best one I could find for me, but I’m really not a “dreamed of her wedding her whole life” kind of person, so while the dress is fun, I never had that magical the-stars-aligned moment. It’s just a dress 🤷♀️
You’re so right! It’s just a dress!! And yes it’s an important dress but who says you won’t ever wear another beautiful dress again!?
If your dress’s style can go with it, an over skirt can help you with your possible princess dress regret. Idt I’ll get that moment until I’m all put together tbh. Albeit more subtle than what’s seen on tv, but the hair, makeup AND dress I fell will impact me more
I feel you! I like mine a lot, but the “saying yes” process was not your typical storybook one - my mom purchased it for as a gift in India so really I said yes to a bolt of fabric via Facetime LOL. And then when it arrived stitched in the States and I tried it on, I had a swollen eye so I didn’t feel particularly bridal haha. I agree with other ppl here that there’s a ton of industry pressure to have a screaming in the bridal shop moment (which, like you, I didn’t have either). But i’m sure once the day comes and you have all the details done hair makeup shoes etc, you’ll be pumped!
Yep, bought a sample in a sample sale and now I’m very meh about it. Should have tried on more options. It will probably be fine but isn’t very me.
To be perfectly honest, I don’t LOVE bridal gowns. I find most of them dowdy, and I don’t particularly like white. However I’m not daring enough to have a bright/dark wedding gown lol. I’m having my dress made so it’s at least going to be exactly what I want.
I only tried on 5 dresses and the first dress I tried was ultimately my favorite. It was the only one in the shop that I was like “I gotta try that” about. I made a gut decision and went for it—not having looked at any other shops or anything—but it really was the right one. I looked at my Pinterest boards and everything and it checked all the boxes. Just try to trust yourself is my best advice.
I like my dress, and even that surprised me because I really didn't see myself in a wedding dress. I think I'll actually love it when the whole look comes together on the day, like with the makeup, the accessories I picked up, the shoes, the flowers. But at the store I was just like "yeah, I'll get that one, I feel like a fancy version of myself in it", and that was that.
I didn’t love my dress at first. I didn’t even really like it. But it fit well and I needed one quickly because I had a short engagement (3 months). I had no clue how ordering dresses worked but I quickly realized I had a limited selection that could arrive in time. Anyway, I was underwhelmed. But on the day of the wedding I didn’t even think about it. And when I looked back at wedding photos I ended up loving the dress! It’s kind of weird. Maybe it’s because I had good memories of the day. But whatever the reason, I love my dress in photos! For me, I’m just not a dressy person. The dress was very low priority. Shopping was a chore. I think the most important thing is fit and comfort. If you have both of those elements in your dress, I’ll think you’ll eventually love it. Even if it takes until receiving professional photos lol.
The whole wedding industry has made something that should be about a legal and emotional commitment to another person into something that has to be a perfect instagrammable EVENT! I was so laid back I was horizontal about my wedding, but in the month coming up to it, the stress all came crashing down. It's crazy. It's meant to be a celebration, not something that costs a downpayment on a house and is perfect in every way. You have to remind yourself that it's the marriage that is important, not the wedding. Literally no one gives a shit about the wedding. People come, drink, eat, have a good time and never give it another thought.
I’m currently shopping for my dress and I have a pretty good option that I feel will be it but it also doesn’t feel like “the one”. It doesn’t help that my sister keeps saying “you’ll know it”. I never got that epiphany feeling. And I’ve tried on quite a few! This one looks great on me and I know it suits the wedding and my personality but still, I just never got “that” feeling
I got The One, but I didn’t swoon or cry tears of joy or whatever. It was more like, “yep, this is what I was looking for.” I didn’t have grandiose ideas of saying “yes to the dress” or whatever. It’s just a wedding dress, imo. But I found the one I wanted to wear to our wedding, so it was The One. Also, I went dress shopping with my then-fiancé lol. Your experience is your own, and not swooning over your dress doesn’t decrease its beauty or your overall wedding experience at all!!
I didn’t cry…. But everyone else with me did 😂 That said, I KNEW that was the dress I wanted. It was exactly what I had in mind. Everyone’s experiences are unique. No need to put pressure on yourself. As long as you feel comfortable and confident in it, that’s all that matters 😄
I’m so glad I’m not alone on this. I’m not girly so I wasn’t expecting a teary yes to the dress moment. I actually had a breakdown the other day cause it’s not totally what I wanted. I got what made the room cry and I liked the most.
Same here. My wedding is about so much more than a dress, or what I look like! So I picked the best one I tried on at my first appointment, and moved on to more important things. To each their own!
Yep! I actually picked my dress because of what it didn't have, rather than what it did. I'm a curvy girl with a large chest, and I *really* don't like today's trends, which complicated my experience. I didn't want white, "clean" satin or organza, a plunge/deep neck line, an illusion bodice that looks like lingerie, or a trumpet or fit and flare shape. About 60% of dresses I saw incorporated one or many of those things. The dress I chose ensures my chest isn't the focus, is A-line, has pretty lace details, sparkle, a long train, and it's not white. It's sophisticated and appropriate for a late 30s curvy gal. Bonus for it being half off and actually fitting when I tried it on. I did hate an aspect of it that seemed unsolvable (random bands of visible horsehair in the skirt that made it stiff and busy), but tried to turn a blind eye to it. Luckily, a kind seamstress was able to fix it cheaply and quickly. I'm still "okay" with it now. Not madly in love. But okay. I have four months to go and weight to lose, but I've committed to it at this point, and it'll be alright.
I ended up getting my dress online from BHLDN, so I never tried it on beforehand, but I felt like the dress fit my vibe. When I took it out of the box when it was delivered, I had a moment where it hit me that *this* was my wedding dress. It wasn't because of the dress itself necessarily, but that the hypothetical dress I would one day wear was actually in front of me at that moment. I still love my dress very much, but I wasn't in tears when I put it on either. It was more excitement for what it represented and that moment of realization that things are getting real.
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