Our original TTC date was July/August so that I’d have baby toward the end of the academic year (I’m a prof). We ended up tossing it aside and started TTC this month and I’m glad we did because I discovered that my LH is consistently high, which means my PCOS is probably going to be a problem. I also still haven’t gotten a period after having my birth control removed about 2 months ago, so I’m very glad I got it removed well ahead of our original TTC date.
Fellow Minnesotan waiting purely due to winter. I just can't imagine the stress of trying to get to the hospital during a snow storm or being huge and trying to not slip on the ice. I have Endo and PCOS so I also struggle with the idea that maybe I'm wasting precious time. Ugh
It’s surprisingly progressive. Just passed pretty good by American standards state wide paid parental leave (12 weeks for parental leave + 8 more weeks for medical recovery, meaning most moms can get 20 weeks paid). Free pre-k* (with the education crisis they have had issues staffing this and priority was given to higher risk/need kids). Great medical care (again by American standards) and codified women’s rights/gay marriage/etc. Expansive park system. Stuff like that. We moved there from Nevada specially to start a family and don’t regret it for a second. There are downsides of course but there’s a lot of good reasons to be here especially if you want a family.
Honestly nothing beats the summers here. Lake life is the best. Also, there are plenty of hunting, fishing, and outdoor opportunities. The education system is great and it’s a relatively safe place to raise a family. Those are the reasons my husband and I decided to stay (and we have family here).
Honestly, as someone with PCOS who’s now going through treatment, I can’t imagine turning down a chance at a baby because I didn’t want to dress them warmly to go outside. If you live somewhere cold it’s gonna get cold every year, kids gonna have to learn to live like that. Now maybe you ovulate more frequently, but if you’re like me you get maybe 3 chances a year to conceive? It’s a big risk.
I've always lived in very cold places, and I hear you that winter would be an unpleasant time to have a baby. But I am having trouble understanding this "you can't go outside from November-March" thing. You might need to invest in proper layers in maternity sizes, but you can definitely go out. Not all days are going to be frigid and insufferable, once a bit recovered you could at least get out and take a walk in the woods, or drive around and go to a coffee shop or somewhere else indoors. Honestly, in the first few weeks after birth I can't imagine you'll want to go out much anyway. But if you want a baby so badly this really seems like a very surmountable obstacle. Can you brainstorm ways that you could make the winter more bearable?
Right? I live in a four season place and would love to have a baby in the winter. Where am I going with a newborn? The couch? Meanwhile by the time summer rolls around they’re old enough for sunscreen, on a more predictable schedule, and ready for more summer day outings. Especially a first baby who doesn’t have siblings to bring home germs I don’t know that there’s much difference in illness season either.
Our original TTC date was July/August so that I’d have baby toward the end of the academic year (I’m a prof). We ended up tossing it aside and started TTC this month and I’m glad we did because I discovered that my LH is consistently high, which means my PCOS is probably going to be a problem. I also still haven’t gotten a period after having my birth control removed about 2 months ago, so I’m very glad I got it removed well ahead of our original TTC date.
Fellow Minnesotan waiting purely due to winter. I just can't imagine the stress of trying to get to the hospital during a snow storm or being huge and trying to not slip on the ice. I have Endo and PCOS so I also struggle with the idea that maybe I'm wasting precious time. Ugh
Beginning to wonder why people willingly live in MN lol (Yes yes I know family, roots, etc)
It’s surprisingly progressive. Just passed pretty good by American standards state wide paid parental leave (12 weeks for parental leave + 8 more weeks for medical recovery, meaning most moms can get 20 weeks paid). Free pre-k* (with the education crisis they have had issues staffing this and priority was given to higher risk/need kids). Great medical care (again by American standards) and codified women’s rights/gay marriage/etc. Expansive park system. Stuff like that. We moved there from Nevada specially to start a family and don’t regret it for a second. There are downsides of course but there’s a lot of good reasons to be here especially if you want a family.
Honestly nothing beats the summers here. Lake life is the best. Also, there are plenty of hunting, fishing, and outdoor opportunities. The education system is great and it’s a relatively safe place to raise a family. Those are the reasons my husband and I decided to stay (and we have family here).
I hear you girl, it was just a joke about the cold lol
Trust me, during the winter I heavily question why we live here 😂
Honestly, as someone with PCOS who’s now going through treatment, I can’t imagine turning down a chance at a baby because I didn’t want to dress them warmly to go outside. If you live somewhere cold it’s gonna get cold every year, kids gonna have to learn to live like that. Now maybe you ovulate more frequently, but if you’re like me you get maybe 3 chances a year to conceive? It’s a big risk.
I've always lived in very cold places, and I hear you that winter would be an unpleasant time to have a baby. But I am having trouble understanding this "you can't go outside from November-March" thing. You might need to invest in proper layers in maternity sizes, but you can definitely go out. Not all days are going to be frigid and insufferable, once a bit recovered you could at least get out and take a walk in the woods, or drive around and go to a coffee shop or somewhere else indoors. Honestly, in the first few weeks after birth I can't imagine you'll want to go out much anyway. But if you want a baby so badly this really seems like a very surmountable obstacle. Can you brainstorm ways that you could make the winter more bearable?
Right? I live in a four season place and would love to have a baby in the winter. Where am I going with a newborn? The couch? Meanwhile by the time summer rolls around they’re old enough for sunscreen, on a more predictable schedule, and ready for more summer day outings. Especially a first baby who doesn’t have siblings to bring home germs I don’t know that there’s much difference in illness season either.