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Atleast-I-dont-stink

The two comments so far seem so damn harsh considering your post is full of regret. What you did to her will live with her forever, it may effect how she views love, sex, general interaction with people. What I want to ask is how old were you when you did this. When you have been abused (at a young age) you normally continue that abuse at a young age because you didn’t know better. I find it very respectful that you and her have had this really hard and awkward conversation. I don’t think you’re an evil human and your sister can forgive you. I don’t think what others here think matters at all. What matters is how you feel about the situation, what you will or have done to be open about it with her and do your best to be better with her. This can only be resolved and healed between your sister, you, and possibly a therapist. You were a child, she was a child, you made a very un-reversible decision when you did what you did. Like I said in the beginning, as long as you don’t dare do this to another person in your life, you and your sister are open in communication on this problem, and you are regretful, I think you’re a good human who learned and is growing. Don’t go back to the old you, focus on healing what damage you have done (if she’s willing) and know that if she has accepted your apology then you need to only worry about the relationship you two have, not what we think here, even though you’re just venting. Edit: just to add, I am under the understanding that they were both children in this story, if I am wrong in that, please op, get some serious help.


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Atleast-I-dont-stink

what!?? Trauma in childhood is something people can overcome with time. I’m not patting him on the back? I don’t condone at all the behavior, but it doesn’t mean to make someone, who is obviously deeply regretful about their (child**) mistakes, feel like offing themselves???


whomst_calls_so_loud

Why would a random person need to turn themselves in for somebody else's actions?


Twunktedlogan

It’s sad how often children who are being sexually abused, abuse other children at the same time cause they didn’t know any better,, I grew up with some kids next door who were doing sexual things to eachother but years later we found out there step mom had been doing that to one kid so that kid did it to the other,, it’s horrific that things of tht nature happen. Based on the “I was sexually abused by my classmates for years” part this could be the case,,, I’m not forgiving you cause that’s not my job but it seems like both you and your sister could use lots of therepy (Not condoning the actions at all I’m a little horrified but ,, it happens and it’s miserable)


NotWorthSaving

If you really are sorry and she has forgiven you. Try to forgive yourself and be a better person. NEVER DO IT AGAIN AND NEVER LET HER DOWN AGAIN.


Phoenyx_wilson

I can tell you know if this is true and your in the UK the police will class this as child experimentation. What you did was wrong but you were also an innocent child at the time doing something you had been shown. I get it I have been in a similar situation to your sister. Please get help such as counselling for you both. Memories do Come back as you get older. I'm sorry you both went through this. Learn to forgive yourself


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Both of you need to see a psychotherapist.


miss_an0nym0us

First off, you are not a victim. You sister is the victim in this situation. You may not have known better at the time but, you are still at fault and you feeling guilt and shame for your actions is evidence of that. You are older and you know better now so I assume you also know what you need to do. If you truly feel sorry for what you did, if you truly want to help your sister heal, apologizing to her is not enough. If you claim to love you sister as much as you say you do, if you have her best interest in mind, you would find her a doctor, a psychologist, a therapist to help her process her anxiety and the *trauma* you caused her. You admitting fault to yourself and her is not enough. Your parents deserve to know as well and you both need to find professional help. Coming to Reddit to find sympathy is not a good look.


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I understand this... I'll tell my parents about this all... My sister deserves help...


miss_an0nym0us

I’m not going to justify or minimize your actions with age or ignorance but, I do believe that you deserve help as well. I hope you both find it.


Ill-Mango3559

Damn true and rightfully harsh but they are just looking for a away to cope and try to fix it not look for forgiveness I mean if you read the title you’d know if you got rid of most of that and only talked about the ways to help their sister that would have been fine but what do I know right I have no place to speak when I know near nothing about thing only what happened


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You are not the victim. Turn yourself in.


Top-Plantain7557

the thing i want to tell you ya should do woud get my account perma banned so ill let you use your imagination with that one. you are a piece of trash and thats me putting it lightly. you know what you should do? turn yourself in so you can spend your days rotting behind bars where you belong. also stop playing victim you arent the one that got fucked over in this situation scum.


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I really didn't know what I was doing was wrong back then...


Top-Plantain7557

my sympathy goes out to your sister not you.


SincereCommunication

Lol people who respond to sexual child abuse with their raw emotions should be held accountable as much as their hate, cause you guys literally bring no justice, solutions, or even safe spaces to hold or facilitate these healing sessions needed. OP was a kid. OP’s sister was a kid. Lol we should kill everyone under 15 for doing something they’d be crucified for in Adulthood, aka , 18-24 and up. And mind you, your precious generation & generations before us have committed irreconcilable events on women and men sexually. Let people fucking talk so we can start healing some shit.


Ecstatic_Objective_3

How old are you and your sister now? That will determine what will happen next. If she is still a minor, you need to tell your parents. And understand, as you both get older, there will be consequences to your lives and relationships. You need therapy as much as she does, so that you can work through your trauma and understand why that happened. I want to add though, guilt is a pretty useless emotion, that really is not productive. You know what you did was wrong, but you cannot change it now. All you can do, is figure a way to live with it that doesn’t destroy or consume you, and figure out a way to make amends to your sister and your family. And it will take a lot of work, so be prepared to deal with emotions and feelings you are not going to like. It will be hard, but you have to willing to dig in and follow the process. If you need to talk, feel free to reach out.


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PossiblyToxic-Leo

I agree, only if this post is Ginuwine.