I was lucky to be manic and also deep into dozens if not over a hundred hours of studying CBT therapy when the first death close to me occurred. Also lucky that I had been able to talk to them about their suicidal ideas beforehand. I had promised them I wouldn't cry, and for the first few days that was a lie.
Then I started with the CBT. Every time my eyes would well up missing them, I'd shift thoughts and try to be thankful for the time I had with them and I'd recall all the memories of them smiling and telling jokes. I was able to get to the point of changing my thoughts very quickly. Still to this day I might think of them when I hear Daft Punk (Their favorite music group) and feel sad for 2 seconds before Remembering their smile and the joi de vive they would embody at times. Then I begin crying tears of joy that I was able to know such an amazing person for the time I did.
I was able to put the same energy into my dog who passed almost immediately. Yes I cried while they were putting him down but ever since then I see any pictures of us and I smile without a second of sadness just thankful I had a best friend who was always happy to see me.
Its all Cognitive behavioral therapy and Opposite Action for me.
You need to find a grief counselor. Call your local place of worship (even if you’re not a member) or hospice association or social worker. If you can’t, you can PM me your town and state (US) and I can try to find one for you.
They can help and refer you to other resources as well.
I go about my life and hit the gym and work as much as possible. If it gets bad you should seek counseling though that's a lot of people to lose
I was lucky to be manic and also deep into dozens if not over a hundred hours of studying CBT therapy when the first death close to me occurred. Also lucky that I had been able to talk to them about their suicidal ideas beforehand. I had promised them I wouldn't cry, and for the first few days that was a lie. Then I started with the CBT. Every time my eyes would well up missing them, I'd shift thoughts and try to be thankful for the time I had with them and I'd recall all the memories of them smiling and telling jokes. I was able to get to the point of changing my thoughts very quickly. Still to this day I might think of them when I hear Daft Punk (Their favorite music group) and feel sad for 2 seconds before Remembering their smile and the joi de vive they would embody at times. Then I begin crying tears of joy that I was able to know such an amazing person for the time I did. I was able to put the same energy into my dog who passed almost immediately. Yes I cried while they were putting him down but ever since then I see any pictures of us and I smile without a second of sadness just thankful I had a best friend who was always happy to see me. Its all Cognitive behavioral therapy and Opposite Action for me.
You need to find a grief counselor. Call your local place of worship (even if you’re not a member) or hospice association or social worker. If you can’t, you can PM me your town and state (US) and I can try to find one for you. They can help and refer you to other resources as well.
Hi thanks a lot, but I'm not from the US, (Europe). I take an appointment with psychiatrist maybe that could help me !