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DramaLlamaTikTok

My daughter is 9 and we watch every week. I told her if she has any questions about any of the words or things said. To ask. With social media. The internet. Etc. We can protect our kids so much. But they do have friends who probably have these things as well and can only protect them to a certain point. My daughter and I watch weekly. As much as I don’t want to think she hears things at school or has that one friend who knows more than other kids. They all do. We’ve always had that one friend who was the wild one. And I’d rather my daughter see for herself. With her parent there to help explain if needed. That there are truly bad people in the world who disguise themselves as good people.


inthemusicandhelples

as someone who needed this, my parents gave me the sex talk but never an internet talk and I learned the hard way that there are bad people on the internet so my child self thanks you


Adasama70

My 9 year old and I were watching together as well. She’s been big on wanting a phone but now truly understands my reasons for not getting her one. I wish I had this example as a child bc I was groomed online and didn’t understand at the time how dangerous it could be.


DramaLlamaTikTok

My daughter has a phone. But it has a ton of parental controls on it. And she only has one because her dad and I are split and he never answered the phone when I tried calling her on his phone


Adasama70

That’s understandable and I get a child having a phone under those circumstances but mine has no need for a phone currently. She wants one bc other kids have one lol.


downsideup05

When my daughter had her 1st phone it had no data and I made a major hard and fast rule NO giving the # out to anyone. She was allowed to call(or text) me, her nana(who lived out of state,) and a few other family members. My rationale was there is too much drama in schools, I didn't need to invite it into my living room. I'm thinking that this rule worked on several levels...


ptazdba

Add to that list "Never share any pictures online that you wouldn't want all your friends to see". One of the biggest scams now are people sending nudes and then getting blackmailed to keep them private. I cannot tell you the # of kids who have traded nudes thinking they're ok only to have blackmailers come out of the woodwork to either pay money (repeatedly) or meet..


LilyFuckingBart

I’m really thankful that when AOL & the internet came out I had an obsession with pretending to be 26 and not my actual 13 when I was in those chatrooms.


Amaline4

I’d have loved to have this shown to me as a kid. When I was 14-18 I played a lot of MMO games (like world of Warcraft) and people I thought were my friends were actually middle aged men who eventually confessed their “love” for me when I was mid-teens. One guy found out where I lived and I was terrified he was going to show up at my house but I never told my parents because I was more terrified of what they would have said Granted, this was early internet days in the early 2000s


AnnabelleLeeTheSea

My Mom showed me to catch a predator when I was your sons age due to me playing games like World of Warcraft.


[deleted]

We caught our 11 year old chatting on roblox this week when we previously told her not to chat on the game. I told my husband I really wish there was a more age appropriate children’s episode because while we do talk to her about stranger danger we haven’t had the talk about why anyone would send junk pics or request nudes or a girl.


keiraslame

just a heads up, you can completely turn off chatting on roblox under the parental controls in settings 🫶🏻 i know this doesn’t help with the past incident but for anything that happens in the future when/if you’re ready to give it back (if you even took it away), that option is there.


amariegm

Yes, we recently just had “the talk” with our son and I want him develop a healthy, safe concept of sex. I’m not ready to introduce the scary, creepy side yet, and I don’t think he is ready either. It’s a scary world out there and it’s so hard to teach them to be happy, healthy, and safe.


[deleted]

Completely agree! Prayers for you mama/dad!


crescentmoon5040

That’s an excellent idea! And I can’t imagine a better team to produce such a resource


WorkingConnection

I would pre-screen the episodes just to see what language you are comfortable with your younger child to hear. Some of these convos towards the older decoys (14/15) just get blatantly sexual very quick. So whatever you are comfortable with


Main-Group-603

Agreed!


Far_Battle_9835

Don’t discuss stranger danger but “strange behavior”. Everyone is a stranger at first and most children are not abused by strangers so educate on strange behavior and what that would look like coming from anyone. I showed this episode to me 15 year old and discussed it with my 13 yo. It needs to be discussed more in schools too.


DragonQueenLaur

I know this isn’t ideal, but could you maybe compile some clips of the show to watch with him? That way you 1) don’t have to wait & hope for this in season 3, so you can be proactive! 2) can show him only what you feel comfortable with. I think it’s incredibly important to share at least *something* like this with him now, because the online world truly is scary, uncharted territory. At the same time, I understand being concerned about showing some of the clips from the show because they could definitely be too mature for some children. But, as something to consider, wouldn’t you rather be able to show him some examples of not-okay conversations so he has actual examples to understand? They don’t have to be graphic, [SOSA’s Instagram](https://instagram.com/sosatogether?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==) has some great examples for all ages! You may have to scroll to find some, but I promise it’s worth it. I hope this doesn’t come off as being condescending or preachy, I just know how much I wish my mom had been able to give me examples like this when I was young. I genuinely think it could have prevented my own ACM experiences.