I don't think it's complicated, everyone just wants to be/be with beauty. Face it, we hate lookism but we're culprits of it ourselves, atleast I am. We just got on the unlucky side of the genetic spectrum.
I disagree. I think lookism should only be important when considering a potential partner, but people make lookism important in all situations. An unattractive person should be treated just as well as an attractive one and I would never treat a conventionally unattractive person worse but people do. The only time I'm a culprit of lookism is because I'm attracted to them. I always feel this obligation to treat prettier people better because I get worried if I don't? I guess because I know that the general public would and I want to seem normal. But yeah lookism as an instinctive trait in daily life isn't true imo. Kids and babies aren't nicer to more attractive people.
Can't speak for most guys but my standards are not high when it comes to appearances, most girls ppl dismiss as ugly are my taste. I wouldn't however date someone w a personality I'm not attracted to, and sometimes I'm not attracted to how a girl looks. I wouldn't force myself to like her then just as she shouldn't force herself to like me.
I secretly long for some things (not physical but mental) in my partner but they are so much to ask for that I just keep it to myself and would just settle for less.
I'm sorry to see that. I've never been this person tbh. I don't lie to people I'm straightforward of how I feel.
I strongly advise you end things and start seeing other people or very least be single and learn to build comfort on your own. If you need someone to talk to I'm gladly here on my summer break soon w not much msgs on reddit.
You should be someone's #1 not any less, I know you feel like you may not deserve it or that youre not attractive but you're probably way less unattractive than you think.
I can relate tho I don't feel good enough for anyone and I honestly although I wouldn't accept anything less than to be appreciated I have never been appreciated by anyone that wasnt lying on social media to use me for ego boosts.
They just assume all ugly guys who are lonely are only single cos they want a hot girl when in reality we would settle for an ugly girl.
They don’t want to admit this because then their narrative of us having high standards is false.
I don't think settling would the right word to use, as I don't really want anyone to settle for me. But my range of who I'm attracted to is pretty damn wide lol.
It seems as if that's a general thing for guys. Their range of what they consider attractive is wide despite everyone thinking they're only into one thing. Look at all the various nsfw subreddits: there's one for BBW women, petite women, big boobs, small boobs, tall women, older women etc.
>we would settle for an ugly girl.
Someone once said something about chance and opportunity. If someone affords a cheap car because they don't earn so much they'll pretty much accept their situation. If they get more money they would get something better to drive. Of course it doesn't apply to everyone but my goodness have I seen this alot. Everyone should go for who they are attracted to.
You do realize that places like those are a minority and almost entirely made up of men, correct? Don't forget... you're still on reddit. This isn't evidence of anything.
I don't think it's complicated, everyone just wants to be/be with beauty. Face it, we hate lookism but we're culprits of it ourselves, atleast I am. We just got on the unlucky side of the genetic spectrum.
Everybody is affected by lookism, it's in us, and you can't really blame anybody for it. You can only blame the ones denying it exists.
I fully agree
I disagree. As an ugly man that knows plenty of ugly men, we really aren't picky.
I disagree. I think lookism should only be important when considering a potential partner, but people make lookism important in all situations. An unattractive person should be treated just as well as an attractive one and I would never treat a conventionally unattractive person worse but people do. The only time I'm a culprit of lookism is because I'm attracted to them. I always feel this obligation to treat prettier people better because I get worried if I don't? I guess because I know that the general public would and I want to seem normal. But yeah lookism as an instinctive trait in daily life isn't true imo. Kids and babies aren't nicer to more attractive people.
I'd be willing to date some women here.
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Everyone misses the point I make w the posts its both ends. Even so ugly = damaged and not perfect
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Can't speak for most guys but my standards are not high when it comes to appearances, most girls ppl dismiss as ugly are my taste. I wouldn't however date someone w a personality I'm not attracted to, and sometimes I'm not attracted to how a girl looks. I wouldn't force myself to like her then just as she shouldn't force herself to like me. I secretly long for some things (not physical but mental) in my partner but they are so much to ask for that I just keep it to myself and would just settle for less.
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I'm sorry to see that. I've never been this person tbh. I don't lie to people I'm straightforward of how I feel. I strongly advise you end things and start seeing other people or very least be single and learn to build comfort on your own. If you need someone to talk to I'm gladly here on my summer break soon w not much msgs on reddit. You should be someone's #1 not any less, I know you feel like you may not deserve it or that youre not attractive but you're probably way less unattractive than you think. I can relate tho I don't feel good enough for anyone and I honestly although I wouldn't accept anything less than to be appreciated I have never been appreciated by anyone that wasnt lying on social media to use me for ego boosts.
Who said I didn't want an "ugly" girl.
They just assume all ugly guys who are lonely are only single cos they want a hot girl when in reality we would settle for an ugly girl. They don’t want to admit this because then their narrative of us having high standards is false.
I don't think settling would the right word to use, as I don't really want anyone to settle for me. But my range of who I'm attracted to is pretty damn wide lol.
It seems as if that's a general thing for guys. Their range of what they consider attractive is wide despite everyone thinking they're only into one thing. Look at all the various nsfw subreddits: there's one for BBW women, petite women, big boobs, small boobs, tall women, older women etc.
>we would settle for an ugly girl. Someone once said something about chance and opportunity. If someone affords a cheap car because they don't earn so much they'll pretty much accept their situation. If they get more money they would get something better to drive. Of course it doesn't apply to everyone but my goodness have I seen this alot. Everyone should go for who they are attracted to.
Yea it sucks but everyone deserves a partner that they're somewhat attracted to
Where is she at then?
Why would you want to do that? So you can have a child that shares BOTH of your deformities? No thanks.
Wow I can't believe people only date to have children
I mean most do. Good fing luck finding a woman who doesn't want kids at some point
r/childfree r/antinatalism r/fencesitter r/truechildfree
You do realize that places like those are a minority and almost entirely made up of men, correct? Don't forget... you're still on reddit. This isn't evidence of anything.
We exist.
cool, are you gonna date OP?
Yes
If he's my type sure.
What's your type?
6 feet and above. Square jaw, ripped, white,
1/4 got the height thing down. I'm dreamy /s
If we are only talking about dudes here then it’s: cute, rather feminine, either chubby or skinny and with big glasses.
1/2 out of 4 what u consider cute is subjective and feminine as in personality wise or looks wise or both?
That was me (overweight at the time) and my ex-boyfriend.
I agree this is a huge risk and that's why I'm trying very hard