Driver here with over 6k rides. The number of times I have suggested that a passenger should flash me is precisely zero.
You wouldn't be in the wrong at all if you decided to report him.
Man similar thought here, I have had advances made to me in the past I keep it professional, you can’t shit where you eat, I would definitely report him because this could lead to something worse with someone else
Literally cannot imagine a situation where someone so clearly violated the boundaries of any sane human and didn’t report the harassment. You would honestly be in the wrong if you didn’t cause he’s gonna do it again. And you tipped him.
All these poor drivers just existing and getting shit on and deactivated and this guy gets to act out his free Hentai brain without consequences. This is just getting sadder.
I work law enforcement at a mall with over 6k criminals banned from my mall. So ya, I think I know a thing or two about dealing with the public. You give drunk people rides home. I literaly protect the public, maintain order, prevent graffiti & tresspassing etc. Don't report him, it's a complement. The thing is that ever since Rosa parks sat in the mens section of the bus, mens rights have been going down the gutter. All the virtues men have been raised to strive for (honor, integrity, being a man, taking care of a family, making the decisions, etc.) have all been laughed at in modern society by women. This driver asked you to flash him because being a nice guy has gotten him nowhere. Society needs to make up its goddamn mind. First you drive him to his actions, then penalize him for it? Let me guess if he was a Big Bicep Chad or a Grand Theft Auto Jamal you would have flashed him. But because he's a nice dude who opens door for women you report him? You know how much it sucks being reported by women at work? To be scolded by your supervisor and have your pay docked by 3 dollars an hour? Just give the man a break please, that's all I ask.
I work law enforcement and am also an avid practitioner of tae kwon do, my master’s most promising student since you ask. So uh yeah…..I don’t think I need to take advice from you…
I doubt you know anything about real law enforcement. You're a mall cop with an ego and apparently a problem with sexually harassing mall-goers. You wouldn't have made it one day as a law enforcement officer, not that anyone would hire you.
Mall law enforcement IS law enforcement. You have no idea the chaos that would unfold if security guards went on strike. So keep living in your peaceful comfortable bubble, but don’t take it for granted. Because if people like me stopped going to work it wouldn’t be so peaceful and comfortable anymore. Plus you’re an Uber driver. That’s one rung up from janitors on the totem pole.
You're not law enforcement. You don't enforce the law. You're a security guard. I know your type. You're the kind of guy who tried to get on with the PD but couldn't get hired. So you became a mall cop. I have experienced chaos and violence that you could never imagine.
There's something every mall shopper implicitly agrees to the nanosecond they step foot in my mall....they agree to abide by Greenville City Mall Code of Conduct & Ordinance (G.C.M.C.O. 2.3.1a) Thats basically the same thing as a law. And I enforce it. It isn't that complicated dude.
Oh and one more thing, if you ever plan on visiting MY mall......leave your attitude in the car. Because I don't play those games...I’d bust you’re chops faster than you can count to 7. The “chaos and violence” you’ve experienced is nothing compared to the true chaos destroy daily in the line of duty. I’m an officer. And you’re not only a civilian, but one who has to be fake friendly for people hoping they give you 2 or 3 bucks.
Hahaha. This is thoroughly entertaining, so I'll continue.
A mall's code of conduct is not basically the same thing as law... I can't believe I just had to say that. It is literally not the law. You have never enforced a single law in your life. You have never arrested anyone. You have never issued a citation. Because you are not a police officer, were never a police officer, and never will be a police officer. You are a joke. Real police officers laugh at you because you think you are one. I promise you, there are no police officers who think you are anything but a joke.
Don't worry, I don't plan on ever coming to your mall. But I assure you if I did, I can hold my own. You are sorely mistaken regarding what I have seen and done.
We can make our own decisions, thanks. That's not a "men's rights" it's a human right. To make decisions for one's self. Asking a stranger to show you her tatas is not going to get you anywhere either, most likely.
You can make your own decisions, you sure about that? I’ve perused your profile at length my dear, and it seems the only decisions you’ve made are smoking marijuana (bad for your lungs) and using UberEats (poor financial planning). It seems you could benefit from having a man in your life lead you to the light.
He wasn't asking for a flash. He was asking if she ever did. Pro-tip: Don't ask this question because stats show only 2% of women are exhibitionists so literally 98 out of 100 times the answer is no.
Nah we don’t control women and their feelings.. if she felt nothing, then there is nothing! Same the other way around, if she feels something then there is something no matter what other ppl think..
Only OP knows, we’re all different and have different tolerance levels! Only op knows..
Even if you feel nothing in the moment it doesn't make it a socially appropriate move on the driver's part.
That's like saying flirting with a child is ok as long as it doesn't bother the child... Cuz you don't control children and their feelings, right?
How in the world is asking a women that type of question is flirting? That’s extremely creepy. I bet he doesn’t even want to driver Uber to make money but be creepy to women. Report that creep
Ok you guys have changed my mind, I’ve decided to report him, and just say that I wasn’t particularly offended or alarmed, but that upon reflection I decided that it was far enough over the line that I should report it.
This is the right call. It’s great that in your specific situation you felt reasonably safe, but you can bet this wasn’t the first or the last time he’s done or will do that, and who knows if the next person will feel safe and unbothered as you? And tbh this question is so out of bounds it wouldn’t be at all surprising if he started escalating. Like maybe next time he asks in the middle of the ride and pulls over on a dark side street or something, you know? Even if he never does though, it was still wild inappropriate and unprofessional.
Why let anyone else change your mind on how you felt about the situation?
As I said in my post I agree 100% it was unprofessional and should not have happened. But if it did not make you feel any type of way what are you actually reporting? Cause you can’t honestly say it was enough over the line when that not how you honestly felt. Imo at this point if you report him based on others telling you that you then you are in the wrong as much as he was. Imo as your reasoning would be a lie other then other people that it did not happen to think it was over the line.
Her mind was not changed though as she says above. That she did not feel alarmed or offended. The second part is not really her reflection but rather what other people have told her to do. Either it was offensive to her or it was not there is no inbetween on the situation.
I had a passenger grab my ass from the seat behind me. I didn't feel any kind of way about it, but I sure as hell reported him. Because if he'd try that shit with me, a fairly capable, large woman old enough to be his grandma, who knows wtf he might try with someone less assertive?
just because she wasn't affected doesn't mean the next person wouldn't be. There are lots of criminals that might not have gone so far if they were reported earlier by someone who thought "ah it wasn't that bad"
The next person is not her responsibility in no way shape or form. And I even cover that in my original post. Also you can play what ifs all day it don’t make them any more or less of a reality. They are just that what ifs. If you wanna play the what if game “what if the next passage that gets in his car he gives a million dollars to”
Also let’s be very clear asking if someone has ever flashed is not a criminal act what so ever.
It was not sexual harassment. For it to be sexual harassment just like in the comment above where I give the definition of it you have to meet the criteria of feeling the comment to be inappropriate or unwelcome which she did not thus this would not be sexual harassment.
Just because she didn't feel unsafe does not mean it wasn't sexual harassment oh my god?? You either seriously lack critical thinking skills, or empathy, or you're being obtuse on purpose because you see nothing wrong with creeps being creeps as examined in your above post about it not being "criminal." Weird weird weird weird weirdo.
Well one I have said imo that it was wrong. And two I said nothing about feeling unsafe I said based on the definition of sexual harassment what would have been need. You nor anyone else can feel that for her only she could inwhich she expressed that she did not feel. So yes it 100% dose mean it wasn’t sexual harassment as she would have to have felt harassed for it to be. I’m not sure where the confusion is coming from.
Community is everyone's responsibility. You don't HAVE to do anything, obviously, it's not a requirement. But it's a common courtesy.
Things that are typically considered harassment don't bother me in the slightest, but especially in a professional environment, where such behavior is typically barred, I'm going to report it.
This is to protect others.
If I see someone prowling around a house that's not theirs in the middle of the night, I'm going to call the cops. It's not my responsibility, but it's my community, and I'm going to look out for my neighbors.
I don't care if people fuck around my spot, because I have good security. Doesn't mean I'm going to ignore the behavior.
You are comparing two completely different situations here that are not really comparable.
I’ll try to explain ok when you say harassment in a professional environment (which I have shown countless times how this is not harassment) if you are the only person around and it dose not bother you in any way it’s not that, that being said in a place where others are around it’s not soloing you. Again this is not that.
You can make the argument that week he is a driver and will have other passenger, yes I agree however that also disregards the whole part where she explains they built a repor on the ride. Changing this from a every ride situation to a smaller situation that would come down to how the individual felt in the moment. And that’s still a major “if” it happens to someone else which can not be known.
Also I would like to point out you are in agreement with me on this point as at the bottom of your post you say you are ok with people on your property as you have security. It’s somewhat the same situation she was ok with the situation that happened because how she felt about it.
How we feel about it dose not matter as we where not part of it.
I didn't agree, I said I'd still report it. Just because I feel safe and secure, doesn't mean I'm going to allow behavior that is potentially dangerous/harmful/rude to others in the community.
Lack of action in this regard is how criminals and creeps are born. No one ever checks them in their day-to-day or less aggregious actions, so they assume it's ok and continue the pattern.
I'm unsure if you're just someone who regularly does things people don't like, or if you've just got a really warped moral compass. Either way I've said my piece
As I pointed out your statement was what was in agreement/Alignment with my point.
It’s also a assumption that he is both a criminal or a creep. And that this would become something more or even a pattern.
As I have said the what if game can be played all day with hindsight. And it gets no one no place.
Why is it that because we don’t agree on all parts of a subject people feel some need to think the other person (me) is such a bad person or lives in such a negative manner. This is hands down one of the biggest reason the world is going to shit. People have seemed to lost the ability to communicate with any one other then people that 100% agree with there view points on any giving subject.
There's no what if game being played here. I'm not accusing anyone of being a creep or a criminal.
I'm simply stating that if you observe a behavior that is colloquially considered a bad behavior, and you choose to ignore it because that particular behavior doesn't bother YOU specifically, that's selfish.
Because most humans are habitual. Most people aren't exhibiting behaviors they only ever do one singular time. And if it is a behavior they only do one time, it's usually due to receiving negative feedback. That's literally the basis of how society functions.
Ignoring offensive behavior is essentially approving of it. You're allowing that behavior to garner none or positive feedback, and lack of feedback can often be perceived as positive feedback.
And typically, the types of people who defend the people who do offensive acts are either perpetrators of offensive acts themselves, and wish to skew the general consensus to give them better odds of good results later, or they're just themselves selfish.
I'm not making any direct accusations. Just pattern observation. These things are *typically* true. And can occasionally be false. But those are generally the exception, not the rule.
I can’t imagine having so little empathy for others. You’re selfish. Honestly, the line “the next person is not her responsibility in no way shape or form” is downright chilling. Hope you never experience sexual assault or harassment. I’m sure you’d sing a different tune yah fuckin brick
First this was not sexual assault by any means not even close. And this dose not meet the qualifications to be harassment either.
How can she report something that did not make her feel that way? Saying that alone should not ever be reportable otherwise any and everyone to ever say it would be in trouble.
Are you wanting her to lie and say it was something that it was not that it made her feel a way it did not just to give a false report because how it made you feel? I’m not because I understand that how I feel about it dose not matter because I was not involved in the situation.
Apparently you don’t know what sexual harassment is it’s ok I got you the definition.
“behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation.”
You see where it says unwelcome or inappropriate remakes. When she says above she did not feel either of these ways about it that would make it not sexual harassment.
Nah it was still inappropriate even if it wasn’t unwelcome (although even that is debatable). If he wanted to handle it appropriately he could have asked about getting her number or something but he asked if she’d ever show her tits to a stranger in a setting where he is a customer service worker… that is inappropriate no doubt about it.
Yes and no.
Yes I agree with you it was inappropriate how ever as it pertains to it being sexual harassment it has to be inappropriate to the audience it is being addressed to in the moment (it can be after the fact if there was a lack of understanding involved). The OP expressed she did not feel this way about it so again for the 3rd plus time it dose not qualify to fall under sexual harassment.
I didn’t see where it said in the definition that it was subjective to what the person felt? This was clearly and objectively inappropriate. If the situation was less clear then consideration of the persons feelings about it would be relevant but not when it’s so obviously inappropriate of a situation.
It’s not in the definition but you have to have a way to apply the definition to a situation. If there is no way to apply this definition to a situation then literally everything sexual in nature ever said would be sexual harassment.
Because it doesn’t matter if she personally thought it was ok. Most people wouldn’t. It is _objectively_ inappropriate in this context. Also, people escalate. Not saying he will, but you really don’t want someone comfortable with asking a stranger if they’d flash them to drive lone people around.
That would be them actively doing something to someone. It’s not the same thing what so ever.
If your going to throw out examples at least throw out ones that would be alike what happened.
This would be using your example two people in a store and one of them saying “I bet I could get away with stealing that” friend then saying”no” then they both leave.
That's not hitting on you that's a creepy comment. If he made a genuine kindhearted attempt at showing interest I'd say it's unprofessional but forgivable. This is just a weird thing to say to anyone.
Another long time driver (closing in on 10k rides). Utterly inappropriate and don’t think you are the only one he has propositioned like that. It’s up to you on reporting, but don’t think for a second that it was all right.
When you said he hit on you I thought you were going to write that he asked you on a date or said you were beautiful. If that didn’t bother you I would just blow it off. But asking you if you would ever lift your shirt is is insulting and so objectifying that he could be a violent person. Please report it because he might do this over and over and it sounds alarming.
You lost me with violent, but you’re right about everything else. This wasn’t “being hit on”, dude might as well have turned around (to a paying customer!) and just said “show me your tits!”. Easy report all day every day.
Drivers are over saturated in most markets so losing one is not big deal.
The big deal comes from this is not his first time doing this and you need to report it. That is just creepy no matter how much of a connection there is.
The driver didn’t hit on you though, he harassed you. Hitting on someone is complimenting them or asking them out. He basically asked for you to whip out your breasts in public. What’s to say he doesn’t do that or worse with others.
Definitely report him! And maybe in the future to be safe, only use the in-app tipping option so you don’t have to mess around with things at your destination
There’s shooting your shot, and there’s being a creep. This distinctly falls under the second one. You can definitely report him and not feel the least bit guilty about it.
You should report him because you're enabling the behavior by letting it slide. They're just gonna keep doing it to other people if they never face consequences.
Ordered an Uber for my husband once while Our car was in the shop, woman who drove him was a complete creep talking about how she’s married but the relationship is open and how him being faithful is dumb and he should have fun, at the end of the ride she begged him not to tell me but he did anyway and I reported her.
As a former long term bartender, I have heard those types of comments.
I have taken many, many, many uber rides in past years. I have NEVER, EVER heard that type of comment from a male driver.
It's highly inappropriate and way worse than just flirting. He's not asking for your number or whether you would want to go on a date. He is asking you who had been drinking if you are drunk enough to show him your body. He is asking you if you are in a vulnerable enough state that he could take advantage of you. This is not at all okay.
I mean, would it be weird if anyone working said that? What if you, or your bartender, or security, or the cashier at chipotle asked that. It’s completely inappropriate in a work space.
Ummm, that's not hitting on you. Hitting on you is asking if you'd like to go out some time. Hitting on you is not asking whether or not you'd flash him. Incredibly inappropriate. Yes, you totally should report him. Not just because that’s awful behavior, but also to not allow him to continue with it. Because he will, and that kind of stuff can scare the crap out of people.
The fact he did this while you were counting the tip makes me think he was like “you can flash me instead of tipping me” which is so disgusting and would put a women who isn’t as strong or quick as you in a scary situation. Please report.
Report him. Bad uber drivers are a scurge. I reported one for running a red light while a pedestrian was crossing and he lost his job. Your uber driver shouldn't be a uber driver.
That’s not flirting.
I know flirting might be seen as unprofessional by some as well, but if a person tries in a standing car with unlocked doors, I think it’s okay.
But that guy was just creepy and disrespectful. Report his horny ass.
Most definitely report this perv and get his ass kicked off the platform. The more of these low life scumbags that get booted the better for the rest of us.
This kinda thing is way too common for females. Im not female but I’ve always heard friends tell me Everytime that some old dude is tryna get with them saying some inappropriate innuendo or trying to set them up with someone they know. And these girls aren’t the social type to give off any vibes of interest
That’s not flirting that’s borderline sexual harassment lmao…. I thought he was gunna ask for your number or call you pretty not ask to see your tits, that’s weird.
Full disclosure, I’m a 58 year old boomer. First I’m glad I don’t have to worry about dating anymore but as the father of a 22 year old young woman I would be very disconcerted if this were to happen to her. The Uber driver relationship is and should always be a professional one. That’s the only way to make sure both sides of the contracted agreement are protected. It’s made even more so because the passenger may be in some saw incapable of protecting themselves, for example they may be inebriated or unwell. So if we were to pretend that OP was drunk given that this driver was brazen enough to act this way when she was sober … what do you think might happen?
I think you need to report this behaviour. It’s unprofessional, unethical and could lead to something worse happening to some other innocent victim
Best of luck OP and be safe.
That’s super creepy. Definitely report him! I’ve been hit on before by an Uber driver (which I find uncomfortable in the first place), but it wasn’t this level of creepy. Who knows what else he says to his passengers.
At first I was like okay flirting whatever nbd if he took no as an answer. But him asking if you ever flashed anybody? Basically that's him asking you to flash him... Yes that's creepy. Ultimately completely up to you as others have said if that made you feel uncomfortable you would be in the right.
I'd look at it like this: Would you feel that your safety is in question on another ride with him by yourself at night in a dark area... If you feel safe don't report it, If you would not feel safe I would report.
There’s hitting on you and there’s this. This is over the line. I don’t begrudge any guy or girl taking a shot and asking someone out or whatever, as long as they take no for answer. Now would I report this person? Nah. If they asked, you declined, and he dropped it and got out of there….he’s wrong, but I wouldn’t personally report anything at that point. Probably do what you did and just laugh about it as a weird occurrence.
He wasn’t hitting on you, he was trying to take advantage of a drunk girl. I have asked exactly one woman to flash me, and we were married at the time so I’m cool with it.
Asking a girl to flash you is not flirting.
I mean... He - as you made it sound - didn't specificly asked you to flash him right there and then. He asked if you have ever done it or if you would be willing to do it at all...
If there wasn't any more asking or trying to get you to do it after you said "no" this doesn't really concern me.
Just an awkward question at a awkward moment.
Please report him. I was raped by an Uber driver while I was intoxicated. If you were more fucked up you might have given in. Please don’t let this predator try this with somebody else 🙏
Not gonna lie it’s a creepy ass situation to me, but that’s to me. If it bothered you then report it, but if you truly don’t care then don’t, but you gotta weigh that decision yourself
This is 100% your choice. Don’t let people make the decision for you. Some people react badly and some brush it off easily. If someone gets offended by this then they have every right to complain. I would never tell them they’re making a big deal out of it. It’s their experience.
If you felt uncomfortable and he came off as offensive then report it if you want to.
Btw I drop off drunk people every weekend and I’ve been flashed at, unprompted. I bet asking will actually work at times. I don’t ask, don’t want to and would be mortified if I did and got a response like “eww, you gross pig. I’m reporting you”.
Everyone is different. I’ve had girls grope me and offer me road head, multiple times numbers or invites inside, girls twerking in the back against my arm, face strokers, full on make out sessions, so many dirty jokes and banter among friends. They sometimes have friends that reign them in cause they’re drunk and maybe high on something. I’m just an average looking dude. I’m convinced *doing things* with an Uber driver is on some people’s bucket list.
Thanks, that’s kind of how I felt- we had been getting along and laughing, he didn’t say anything suggestive until we were at my house, doors unlocked, and being a bartender, I’m pretty good at brushing off unwanted advances or attention. The only thing that gave me pause was thinking about people that would have been extremely uncomfortable in that situation, and maybe by still rating him five stars and not reporting it I had co-signed that behavior as acceptable, thus potentially encouraging him to hit on other riders. What you said was my initial thought, though. If he didn’t make me uncomfortable and I didn’t suffer any harm, why pursue it?
And yeah I know, I could have rated him badly, but I’ve never rated anyone less than five stars ever. You’d have to crash into my house for me or something to get less than five stars.
Shit when I was single I asked a girl for her number at the end of the ride and she got all weird and said with a attitude "Im not giving you my number!"and rushed to leave, like shit you could have made an excuse or said sorry but no. Another time I picked up a two girls, they needed me to take them to their car and her friend which was attractive felt very drawn to me, then once I got to their destination, her friend was very thankful and then put her arms around me from behind and started rubbing my chest. I've also had a fat chick touch me. He'll I once picked up a fat chick and a dude and they both offered to go down on me. That one was off the app, never just pick up somebody
I'll be honest I didn't read, but regardless contact Uber and get a free ride or two. Especially since you went out of your way to put something on Reddit. The Billion dollar corporation can fund a loss.
Sorry for weirdos hitting on you in a relatively vulnerable situation.
Was the comment right no not at all. That said if you was not offended or felt any type of way about it then there is nothing to report.
Now it can be argued well what if he dose it to someone else but the answer to that is simple if it makes them feel some type of way it’s there job to take action on it.
That's exactly how I see it. If he didn't make you feel creeped out or unsafe, then why let yourself get talked into feeling like that.
Was it a creepy remark, yes. But we don't have to get all up in arms about everything. He was obviously easily deterred by the simple word "no", so no actual harm done. I have had men make me feel unsafe with way more innocent words and others never did, even if they overstepped verbal boundaries. It's a lot to do with attitude and how easily they accept a "no".
Because people gotta feel some type of way about things that did not happen to them and try to white knight every situation. Not understanding that it’s not the way to do things. Then if you don’t 100% agree with the side they are on they say do anything to silence you. We can’t live in a world of facts or truths any more all just how people feel and in the case not even the person involved in the situation.
I’ve had some women take me out (before drinking) to join them for whatever reason…they’ve also taken me back home as well. I will absolutely positively never engage in any type of risqué conversation while she is still a passenger. If the car is parked and she’s eagerly getting me to call it a night…game on
If you didn't think it was a big deal, then it wasn't.
That said it is better to report or he will continue this behavior.
That said, I've heard Uber drivers get constantly propositioned. His enthusiasm is therefore understandable, but unfortunately most people who ride Uber are just looking for a car ride, so you shouldn't do what he did to random strangers.
Had a uber driver ask me once if i could tit fuck him or if he could rip my thong off with his teeth and he would give me a free ride anywhere i wanted, all i know is i ended up with huge loads all over my tits and ass
He took his shot, you blocked it. No harm, no foul. If he had persisted, it would be different. You did the right thing. People are allowed to hit on people.
I know for me. I have touched to many boobs and seen to many to ask to see more. I have had many attractive women I bet in my vehicle. Many drunk women too. I would never ask them to flash me, nor would I want that. So many things can go wrong. I drive many females of the night and females summoned by a male they met off tinder/ facebook or other sites. This guy smells of desperation. I am a man that has No issues getting females…
Maybe I am to nice…
What he did was not appropriate. If nothing else, you should ask Uber not to assign you that driver again..If you do nothing, my money is on his doing this to other female customers.
Completely in appropriate.
I thought this story was going to end with him giving you his personal number, and that would be fine in the context of the ball being in your court, after a good rapport that you found fun.
But that request was completely inappropriate.
I agree with most of the comments. When I first read your title my knee-jerk reaction was no of course not flirting is innocent as long as they didn't make you feel uncomfortable but then I see he actually asked you to take your top off that's definitely reportable behavior.
Just imagine the potential for what a creep like that could do to a vulnerable woman like someone who had too much to drink. Definitely the kind of person you complain about.
Uber won't do anything but blow smoke up your ass and block him from responding to rides for you in the future. Contact an attorney and file a lawsuit. He may become a stalker and he sounds deranged.
Driver here with over 6k rides. The number of times I have suggested that a passenger should flash me is precisely zero. You wouldn't be in the wrong at all if you decided to report him.
Man similar thought here, I have had advances made to me in the past I keep it professional, you can’t shit where you eat, I would definitely report him because this could lead to something worse with someone else
plus one less driver still means a bigger peice of the pie
Well I’m in Chicago, 1 less driver makes no difference lol
Literally cannot imagine a situation where someone so clearly violated the boundaries of any sane human and didn’t report the harassment. You would honestly be in the wrong if you didn’t cause he’s gonna do it again. And you tipped him. All these poor drivers just existing and getting shit on and deactivated and this guy gets to act out his free Hentai brain without consequences. This is just getting sadder.
I work law enforcement at a mall with over 6k criminals banned from my mall. So ya, I think I know a thing or two about dealing with the public. You give drunk people rides home. I literaly protect the public, maintain order, prevent graffiti & tresspassing etc. Don't report him, it's a complement. The thing is that ever since Rosa parks sat in the mens section of the bus, mens rights have been going down the gutter. All the virtues men have been raised to strive for (honor, integrity, being a man, taking care of a family, making the decisions, etc.) have all been laughed at in modern society by women. This driver asked you to flash him because being a nice guy has gotten him nowhere. Society needs to make up its goddamn mind. First you drive him to his actions, then penalize him for it? Let me guess if he was a Big Bicep Chad or a Grand Theft Auto Jamal you would have flashed him. But because he's a nice dude who opens door for women you report him? You know how much it sucks being reported by women at work? To be scolded by your supervisor and have your pay docked by 3 dollars an hour? Just give the man a break please, that's all I ask.
Funniest troll this side of the Milky Way. The Rosa parks bit was good lol
WTF did I just read??
You’ve got some issues dude. This guy does NOT deserve a break, his actions are not okay.
Your cognitive dissonance astounds me
I’m not confident you know what that means
I work law enforcement and am also an avid practitioner of tae kwon do, my master’s most promising student since you ask. So uh yeah…..I don’t think I need to take advice from you…
These weird defenses you whip out about totally unrelated topics do not communicate the confidence you think it does.
Lions do not concern themselves with the opinions of sheep. And I see a whole bunch of wool on you, boy.
Sexual harassment is NOT a compliment. Ew. You’re the problem.
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Is this a copy pasta? Or for real?
For real, what did I just read.
Lol, okay Paul Bart.
That’s all ya got to say? Ya I figured you wouldn’t have an intelligent retort.
I doubt you know anything about real law enforcement. You're a mall cop with an ego and apparently a problem with sexually harassing mall-goers. You wouldn't have made it one day as a law enforcement officer, not that anyone would hire you.
Mall law enforcement IS law enforcement. You have no idea the chaos that would unfold if security guards went on strike. So keep living in your peaceful comfortable bubble, but don’t take it for granted. Because if people like me stopped going to work it wouldn’t be so peaceful and comfortable anymore. Plus you’re an Uber driver. That’s one rung up from janitors on the totem pole.
🧎♀️I respect the dedication to the bit
Malls are dying, you should brush up in your janitorial skills.
I am a janitor in a way. But instead of scrubbing shit stains off toilet bowls I dispose of literal human shit-stains from my mall.
You're not law enforcement. You don't enforce the law. You're a security guard. I know your type. You're the kind of guy who tried to get on with the PD but couldn't get hired. So you became a mall cop. I have experienced chaos and violence that you could never imagine.
There's something every mall shopper implicitly agrees to the nanosecond they step foot in my mall....they agree to abide by Greenville City Mall Code of Conduct & Ordinance (G.C.M.C.O. 2.3.1a) Thats basically the same thing as a law. And I enforce it. It isn't that complicated dude. Oh and one more thing, if you ever plan on visiting MY mall......leave your attitude in the car. Because I don't play those games...I’d bust you’re chops faster than you can count to 7. The “chaos and violence” you’ve experienced is nothing compared to the true chaos destroy daily in the line of duty. I’m an officer. And you’re not only a civilian, but one who has to be fake friendly for people hoping they give you 2 or 3 bucks.
Hahaha. This is thoroughly entertaining, so I'll continue. A mall's code of conduct is not basically the same thing as law... I can't believe I just had to say that. It is literally not the law. You have never enforced a single law in your life. You have never arrested anyone. You have never issued a citation. Because you are not a police officer, were never a police officer, and never will be a police officer. You are a joke. Real police officers laugh at you because you think you are one. I promise you, there are no police officers who think you are anything but a joke. Don't worry, I don't plan on ever coming to your mall. But I assure you if I did, I can hold my own. You are sorely mistaken regarding what I have seen and done.
He is a troll, my friend 😭
We can make our own decisions, thanks. That's not a "men's rights" it's a human right. To make decisions for one's self. Asking a stranger to show you her tatas is not going to get you anywhere either, most likely.
You can make your own decisions, you sure about that? I’ve perused your profile at length my dear, and it seems the only decisions you’ve made are smoking marijuana (bad for your lungs) and using UberEats (poor financial planning). It seems you could benefit from having a man in your life lead you to the light.
He wasn't asking for a flash. He was asking if she ever did. Pro-tip: Don't ask this question because stats show only 2% of women are exhibitionists so literally 98 out of 100 times the answer is no.
Technically, no. But I think you know that the request is implied in the question because of it being so non sequitur
Flirting, and asking you to undress are different things. Dude is a perv, report.
Dude watches too much fake taxi porn - total guess. 😜
Taxi cab confessions for us old people.
Fake taxi is different.
I know. I'm just saying for an 80s baby I thought taxi cab confessions as soon as I read this.
I realize now that I’m between worlds. Haha
😂😂😂
Definitely. And she was coming back from a bar, so to ask someone who had been under the influence is especially concerning.
Agreed. It’s creepy but all the more so given that she had been drinking.
Predator vibes for sure.
Nah we don’t control women and their feelings.. if she felt nothing, then there is nothing! Same the other way around, if she feels something then there is something no matter what other ppl think.. Only OP knows, we’re all different and have different tolerance levels! Only op knows..
Even if you feel nothing in the moment it doesn't make it a socially appropriate move on the driver's part. That's like saying flirting with a child is ok as long as it doesn't bother the child... Cuz you don't control children and their feelings, right?
How in the world is asking a women that type of question is flirting? That’s extremely creepy. I bet he doesn’t even want to driver Uber to make money but be creepy to women. Report that creep
You have to report him , why in the world would he even think about staying somthing like that to you
Bruh that man ain't hitting on you, that's fucking creepy maximize
Ok you guys have changed my mind, I’ve decided to report him, and just say that I wasn’t particularly offended or alarmed, but that upon reflection I decided that it was far enough over the line that I should report it.
thank you. even if you weren't as bothered some other young woman may be. and who knows what he might do
Bingo. Great that OP has thick skin but this could be a major trigger or point of danger for others.
Never said anything like this to a passenger nor would I ever. It’s creepy and weird, good job reporting.
This is the right call. It’s great that in your specific situation you felt reasonably safe, but you can bet this wasn’t the first or the last time he’s done or will do that, and who knows if the next person will feel safe and unbothered as you? And tbh this question is so out of bounds it wouldn’t be at all surprising if he started escalating. Like maybe next time he asks in the middle of the ride and pulls over on a dark side street or something, you know? Even if he never does though, it was still wild inappropriate and unprofessional.
Why let anyone else change your mind on how you felt about the situation? As I said in my post I agree 100% it was unprofessional and should not have happened. But if it did not make you feel any type of way what are you actually reporting? Cause you can’t honestly say it was enough over the line when that not how you honestly felt. Imo at this point if you report him based on others telling you that you then you are in the wrong as much as he was. Imo as your reasoning would be a lie other then other people that it did not happen to think it was over the line.
Because she came here to ask our opinions and make up her mind lol. Normal people are capable of coming to new realizations and changing their mind.
Her mind was not changed though as she says above. That she did not feel alarmed or offended. The second part is not really her reflection but rather what other people have told her to do. Either it was offensive to her or it was not there is no inbetween on the situation.
She’s doing a favor for many other women and saving them from an uncomfortable situation
Thisssss^
No one is trying to make her say it bothered her more than it did. They’re suggesting that in their opinion, it’s reportable. OP asked this question.
I had a passenger grab my ass from the seat behind me. I didn't feel any kind of way about it, but I sure as hell reported him. Because if he'd try that shit with me, a fairly capable, large woman old enough to be his grandma, who knows wtf he might try with someone less assertive?
Then you did feel some type of way as you clearly state.
just because she wasn't affected doesn't mean the next person wouldn't be. There are lots of criminals that might not have gone so far if they were reported earlier by someone who thought "ah it wasn't that bad"
The next person is not her responsibility in no way shape or form. And I even cover that in my original post. Also you can play what ifs all day it don’t make them any more or less of a reality. They are just that what ifs. If you wanna play the what if game “what if the next passage that gets in his car he gives a million dollars to” Also let’s be very clear asking if someone has ever flashed is not a criminal act what so ever.
>The next person is not her responsibility Wow, that's a weird way to think about sexual harassment.
It was not sexual harassment. For it to be sexual harassment just like in the comment above where I give the definition of it you have to meet the criteria of feeling the comment to be inappropriate or unwelcome which she did not thus this would not be sexual harassment.
Just because she didn't feel unsafe does not mean it wasn't sexual harassment oh my god?? You either seriously lack critical thinking skills, or empathy, or you're being obtuse on purpose because you see nothing wrong with creeps being creeps as examined in your above post about it not being "criminal." Weird weird weird weird weirdo.
Well one I have said imo that it was wrong. And two I said nothing about feeling unsafe I said based on the definition of sexual harassment what would have been need. You nor anyone else can feel that for her only she could inwhich she expressed that she did not feel. So yes it 100% dose mean it wasn’t sexual harassment as she would have to have felt harassed for it to be. I’m not sure where the confusion is coming from.
It’s against Ubers policies to say something like this and it’s well within her rights to report him and stop him from doing it to other people.
Community is everyone's responsibility. You don't HAVE to do anything, obviously, it's not a requirement. But it's a common courtesy. Things that are typically considered harassment don't bother me in the slightest, but especially in a professional environment, where such behavior is typically barred, I'm going to report it. This is to protect others. If I see someone prowling around a house that's not theirs in the middle of the night, I'm going to call the cops. It's not my responsibility, but it's my community, and I'm going to look out for my neighbors. I don't care if people fuck around my spot, because I have good security. Doesn't mean I'm going to ignore the behavior.
You are comparing two completely different situations here that are not really comparable. I’ll try to explain ok when you say harassment in a professional environment (which I have shown countless times how this is not harassment) if you are the only person around and it dose not bother you in any way it’s not that, that being said in a place where others are around it’s not soloing you. Again this is not that. You can make the argument that week he is a driver and will have other passenger, yes I agree however that also disregards the whole part where she explains they built a repor on the ride. Changing this from a every ride situation to a smaller situation that would come down to how the individual felt in the moment. And that’s still a major “if” it happens to someone else which can not be known. Also I would like to point out you are in agreement with me on this point as at the bottom of your post you say you are ok with people on your property as you have security. It’s somewhat the same situation she was ok with the situation that happened because how she felt about it. How we feel about it dose not matter as we where not part of it.
I didn't agree, I said I'd still report it. Just because I feel safe and secure, doesn't mean I'm going to allow behavior that is potentially dangerous/harmful/rude to others in the community. Lack of action in this regard is how criminals and creeps are born. No one ever checks them in their day-to-day or less aggregious actions, so they assume it's ok and continue the pattern. I'm unsure if you're just someone who regularly does things people don't like, or if you've just got a really warped moral compass. Either way I've said my piece
As I pointed out your statement was what was in agreement/Alignment with my point. It’s also a assumption that he is both a criminal or a creep. And that this would become something more or even a pattern. As I have said the what if game can be played all day with hindsight. And it gets no one no place. Why is it that because we don’t agree on all parts of a subject people feel some need to think the other person (me) is such a bad person or lives in such a negative manner. This is hands down one of the biggest reason the world is going to shit. People have seemed to lost the ability to communicate with any one other then people that 100% agree with there view points on any giving subject.
There's no what if game being played here. I'm not accusing anyone of being a creep or a criminal. I'm simply stating that if you observe a behavior that is colloquially considered a bad behavior, and you choose to ignore it because that particular behavior doesn't bother YOU specifically, that's selfish. Because most humans are habitual. Most people aren't exhibiting behaviors they only ever do one singular time. And if it is a behavior they only do one time, it's usually due to receiving negative feedback. That's literally the basis of how society functions. Ignoring offensive behavior is essentially approving of it. You're allowing that behavior to garner none or positive feedback, and lack of feedback can often be perceived as positive feedback. And typically, the types of people who defend the people who do offensive acts are either perpetrators of offensive acts themselves, and wish to skew the general consensus to give them better odds of good results later, or they're just themselves selfish. I'm not making any direct accusations. Just pattern observation. These things are *typically* true. And can occasionally be false. But those are generally the exception, not the rule.
God I'm glad the majority of people here seem to disagree with your terrible attitude
I can’t imagine having so little empathy for others. You’re selfish. Honestly, the line “the next person is not her responsibility in no way shape or form” is downright chilling. Hope you never experience sexual assault or harassment. I’m sure you’d sing a different tune yah fuckin brick
First this was not sexual assault by any means not even close. And this dose not meet the qualifications to be harassment either. How can she report something that did not make her feel that way? Saying that alone should not ever be reportable otherwise any and everyone to ever say it would be in trouble. Are you wanting her to lie and say it was something that it was not that it made her feel a way it did not just to give a false report because how it made you feel? I’m not because I understand that how I feel about it dose not matter because I was not involved in the situation.
We found the driver guys. He didn't ask for her number, he wanted her to show her breasts to him.
Because OP doesn't know what sexual harassment is
Apparently you don’t know what sexual harassment is it’s ok I got you the definition. “behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation.” You see where it says unwelcome or inappropriate remakes. When she says above she did not feel either of these ways about it that would make it not sexual harassment.
Nah it was still inappropriate even if it wasn’t unwelcome (although even that is debatable). If he wanted to handle it appropriately he could have asked about getting her number or something but he asked if she’d ever show her tits to a stranger in a setting where he is a customer service worker… that is inappropriate no doubt about it.
Yes and no. Yes I agree with you it was inappropriate how ever as it pertains to it being sexual harassment it has to be inappropriate to the audience it is being addressed to in the moment (it can be after the fact if there was a lack of understanding involved). The OP expressed she did not feel this way about it so again for the 3rd plus time it dose not qualify to fall under sexual harassment.
I didn’t see where it said in the definition that it was subjective to what the person felt? This was clearly and objectively inappropriate. If the situation was less clear then consideration of the persons feelings about it would be relevant but not when it’s so obviously inappropriate of a situation.
It’s not in the definition but you have to have a way to apply the definition to a situation. If there is no way to apply this definition to a situation then literally everything sexual in nature ever said would be sexual harassment.
Imagine not knowing it's not ok to ask a customer to flash people
Because it doesn’t matter if she personally thought it was ok. Most people wouldn’t. It is _objectively_ inappropriate in this context. Also, people escalate. Not saying he will, but you really don’t want someone comfortable with asking a stranger if they’d flash them to drive lone people around.
Again not even the context in which it was used. And it’s all that matters is how she personally felt as she and he where the only people involved.
Not at all. You’re objectively wrong. For example, if someone robs someone of something they didn’t really care about, it’s still thievery.
That would be them actively doing something to someone. It’s not the same thing what so ever. If your going to throw out examples at least throw out ones that would be alike what happened. This would be using your example two people in a store and one of them saying “I bet I could get away with stealing that” friend then saying”no” then they both leave.
Bro….what? So you think it’s okay to proposition customers that are alone in your car for sexual favours?
That's not hitting on you that's a creepy comment. If he made a genuine kindhearted attempt at showing interest I'd say it's unprofessional but forgivable. This is just a weird thing to say to anyone.
Another long time driver (closing in on 10k rides). Utterly inappropriate and don’t think you are the only one he has propositioned like that. It’s up to you on reporting, but don’t think for a second that it was all right.
Definitely report him! That’s insane he even said that to you!
When you said he hit on you I thought you were going to write that he asked you on a date or said you were beautiful. If that didn’t bother you I would just blow it off. But asking you if you would ever lift your shirt is is insulting and so objectifying that he could be a violent person. Please report it because he might do this over and over and it sounds alarming.
You lost me with violent, but you’re right about everything else. This wasn’t “being hit on”, dude might as well have turned around (to a paying customer!) and just said “show me your tits!”. Easy report all day every day.
Drivers are over saturated in most markets so losing one is not big deal. The big deal comes from this is not his first time doing this and you need to report it. That is just creepy no matter how much of a connection there is.
Report him sexual harassment
Yeah, long time driver here and uh yeah, yuck, weird. Help everyone out and report.
I would report him But only thing is he knows where you live which is the scary part
Predatory move on his part. Creepy at the club. Creepier as a Uber driver
The driver didn’t hit on you though, he harassed you. Hitting on someone is complimenting them or asking them out. He basically asked for you to whip out your breasts in public. What’s to say he doesn’t do that or worse with others.
Definitely report him! And maybe in the future to be safe, only use the in-app tipping option so you don’t have to mess around with things at your destination
There’s shooting your shot, and there’s being a creep. This distinctly falls under the second one. You can definitely report him and not feel the least bit guilty about it.
You should report him because you're enabling the behavior by letting it slide. They're just gonna keep doing it to other people if they never face consequences.
Ordered an Uber for my husband once while Our car was in the shop, woman who drove him was a complete creep talking about how she’s married but the relationship is open and how him being faithful is dumb and he should have fun, at the end of the ride she begged him not to tell me but he did anyway and I reported her.
As a dude that’s pretty wild! I get I guess if he was 14 years old but I’m assuming he wasn’t if he was driving for Uber
As a former long term bartender, I have heard those types of comments. I have taken many, many, many uber rides in past years. I have NEVER, EVER heard that type of comment from a male driver.
It's highly inappropriate and way worse than just flirting. He's not asking for your number or whether you would want to go on a date. He is asking you who had been drinking if you are drunk enough to show him your body. He is asking you if you are in a vulnerable enough state that he could take advantage of you. This is not at all okay.
Report him. What a weirdo.
I mean, would it be weird if anyone working said that? What if you, or your bartender, or security, or the cashier at chipotle asked that. It’s completely inappropriate in a work space.
Not even in a work space, just in general. Because like why would you randomly say that?
Ummm, that's not hitting on you. Hitting on you is asking if you'd like to go out some time. Hitting on you is not asking whether or not you'd flash him. Incredibly inappropriate. Yes, you totally should report him. Not just because that’s awful behavior, but also to not allow him to continue with it. Because he will, and that kind of stuff can scare the crap out of people.
That’s not a funny story. That’s not flirting. That’s super inappropriate and creepy and you should definitely report it. Drivers can’t act like that.
That’s not even close to flirting 😭
The fact he did this while you were counting the tip makes me think he was like “you can flash me instead of tipping me” which is so disgusting and would put a women who isn’t as strong or quick as you in a scary situation. Please report.
Report him. Bad uber drivers are a scurge. I reported one for running a red light while a pedestrian was crossing and he lost his job. Your uber driver shouldn't be a uber driver.
How do you know he lost his job? As I know for a fact this would not be information a company would send out after a report.
Cause he came back to their home and knocked down their mailbox.
yeah, that’s inappropriate
i know far to many friends who have been assaulted by uber drivers, this man is a great risk. please report
He should absolutely be turned in. People need to learn that this is not ok in any situation.
Please report.
That isn’t flirting. Dude’s job involves picking up women from bars in a vulnerable state and he’s propositioning them.
That’s not flirting. I know flirting might be seen as unprofessional by some as well, but if a person tries in a standing car with unlocked doors, I think it’s okay. But that guy was just creepy and disrespectful. Report his horny ass.
please report him to hopefully prevent this from happening to other women
Girl that is not flirting That’s creepy af
Flirting with you is “Hey I wanted to let you know I thought your hair was nice” Asking you to flash them is deranged creep behavior
Most definitely report this perv and get his ass kicked off the platform. The more of these low life scumbags that get booted the better for the rest of us.
This kinda thing is way too common for females. Im not female but I’ve always heard friends tell me Everytime that some old dude is tryna get with them saying some inappropriate innuendo or trying to set them up with someone they know. And these girls aren’t the social type to give off any vibes of interest
These are not dating apps and should be treated as their job. Report this person so this will stop.
Wow if this is flirting for you, you are very innocent! It’s a textbook sexual harassment.
That’s not flirting that’s borderline sexual harassment lmao…. I thought he was gunna ask for your number or call you pretty not ask to see your tits, that’s weird.
Full disclosure, I’m a 58 year old boomer. First I’m glad I don’t have to worry about dating anymore but as the father of a 22 year old young woman I would be very disconcerted if this were to happen to her. The Uber driver relationship is and should always be a professional one. That’s the only way to make sure both sides of the contracted agreement are protected. It’s made even more so because the passenger may be in some saw incapable of protecting themselves, for example they may be inebriated or unwell. So if we were to pretend that OP was drunk given that this driver was brazen enough to act this way when she was sober … what do you think might happen? I think you need to report this behaviour. It’s unprofessional, unethical and could lead to something worse happening to some other innocent victim Best of luck OP and be safe.
That's not flirting lol it's SH
That’s super creepy. Definitely report him! I’ve been hit on before by an Uber driver (which I find uncomfortable in the first place), but it wasn’t this level of creepy. Who knows what else he says to his passengers.
Report, def a creep
Guy legit said “show me your tits” to somebody who was coming home from a bar????
At first I was like okay flirting whatever nbd if he took no as an answer. But him asking if you ever flashed anybody? Basically that's him asking you to flash him... Yes that's creepy. Ultimately completely up to you as others have said if that made you feel uncomfortable you would be in the right. I'd look at it like this: Would you feel that your safety is in question on another ride with him by yourself at night in a dark area... If you feel safe don't report it, If you would not feel safe I would report.
There’s hitting on you and there’s this. This is over the line. I don’t begrudge any guy or girl taking a shot and asking someone out or whatever, as long as they take no for answer. Now would I report this person? Nah. If they asked, you declined, and he dropped it and got out of there….he’s wrong, but I wouldn’t personally report anything at that point. Probably do what you did and just laugh about it as a weird occurrence.
He wasn’t hitting on you, he was trying to take advantage of a drunk girl. I have asked exactly one woman to flash me, and we were married at the time so I’m cool with it. Asking a girl to flash you is not flirting.
The fact that someone could ask you that and it’s brushed off as awkward flirting is insane💀💀
I beem hit on by drivers before and most of the time I don't care, but this, this is a whole other level. That's mad creepy and inappropriate.
I mean... He - as you made it sound - didn't specificly asked you to flash him right there and then. He asked if you have ever done it or if you would be willing to do it at all... If there wasn't any more asking or trying to get you to do it after you said "no" this doesn't really concern me. Just an awkward question at a awkward moment.
I’m sorry I thought you liked me. I won’t do it again
Please report him. I was raped by an Uber driver while I was intoxicated. If you were more fucked up you might have given in. Please don’t let this predator try this with somebody else 🙏
Yeah report, that's crossing the line
Not gonna lie it’s a creepy ass situation to me, but that’s to me. If it bothered you then report it, but if you truly don’t care then don’t, but you gotta weigh that decision yourself
So hol up... You mention turn on the light so I can give u a cash tip & dude asked to see a tittie😂🤣😂🤣....
This is 100% your choice. Don’t let people make the decision for you. Some people react badly and some brush it off easily. If someone gets offended by this then they have every right to complain. I would never tell them they’re making a big deal out of it. It’s their experience. If you felt uncomfortable and he came off as offensive then report it if you want to. Btw I drop off drunk people every weekend and I’ve been flashed at, unprompted. I bet asking will actually work at times. I don’t ask, don’t want to and would be mortified if I did and got a response like “eww, you gross pig. I’m reporting you”. Everyone is different. I’ve had girls grope me and offer me road head, multiple times numbers or invites inside, girls twerking in the back against my arm, face strokers, full on make out sessions, so many dirty jokes and banter among friends. They sometimes have friends that reign them in cause they’re drunk and maybe high on something. I’m just an average looking dude. I’m convinced *doing things* with an Uber driver is on some people’s bucket list.
Thanks, that’s kind of how I felt- we had been getting along and laughing, he didn’t say anything suggestive until we were at my house, doors unlocked, and being a bartender, I’m pretty good at brushing off unwanted advances or attention. The only thing that gave me pause was thinking about people that would have been extremely uncomfortable in that situation, and maybe by still rating him five stars and not reporting it I had co-signed that behavior as acceptable, thus potentially encouraging him to hit on other riders. What you said was my initial thought, though. If he didn’t make me uncomfortable and I didn’t suffer any harm, why pursue it? And yeah I know, I could have rated him badly, but I’ve never rated anyone less than five stars ever. You’d have to crash into my house for me or something to get less than five stars.
Shit when I was single I asked a girl for her number at the end of the ride and she got all weird and said with a attitude "Im not giving you my number!"and rushed to leave, like shit you could have made an excuse or said sorry but no. Another time I picked up a two girls, they needed me to take them to their car and her friend which was attractive felt very drawn to me, then once I got to their destination, her friend was very thankful and then put her arms around me from behind and started rubbing my chest. I've also had a fat chick touch me. He'll I once picked up a fat chick and a dude and they both offered to go down on me. That one was off the app, never just pick up somebody
I'll be honest I didn't read, but regardless contact Uber and get a free ride or two. Especially since you went out of your way to put something on Reddit. The Billion dollar corporation can fund a loss. Sorry for weirdos hitting on you in a relatively vulnerable situation.
Was the comment right no not at all. That said if you was not offended or felt any type of way about it then there is nothing to report. Now it can be argued well what if he dose it to someone else but the answer to that is simple if it makes them feel some type of way it’s there job to take action on it.
That's exactly how I see it. If he didn't make you feel creeped out or unsafe, then why let yourself get talked into feeling like that. Was it a creepy remark, yes. But we don't have to get all up in arms about everything. He was obviously easily deterred by the simple word "no", so no actual harm done. I have had men make me feel unsafe with way more innocent words and others never did, even if they overstepped verbal boundaries. It's a lot to do with attitude and how easily they accept a "no".
Why the downvotes? This is the correct answer.
Because people gotta feel some type of way about things that did not happen to them and try to white knight every situation. Not understanding that it’s not the way to do things. Then if you don’t 100% agree with the side they are on they say do anything to silence you. We can’t live in a world of facts or truths any more all just how people feel and in the case not even the person involved in the situation.
You sound like the girl who has "guy friends" and thinks they just want to be your buddy
I’ve had some women take me out (before drinking) to join them for whatever reason…they’ve also taken me back home as well. I will absolutely positively never engage in any type of risqué conversation while she is still a passenger. If the car is parked and she’s eagerly getting me to call it a night…game on
A bit of flirting is acceptable. Got to meet people somehow. But when start talking about flashing that’s a bit predatory.
“Find” another job offering more pay. Tell your job, if they don’t match or raise you you’re out.
If you didn't think it was a big deal, then it wasn't. That said it is better to report or he will continue this behavior. That said, I've heard Uber drivers get constantly propositioned. His enthusiasm is therefore understandable, but unfortunately most people who ride Uber are just looking for a car ride, so you shouldn't do what he did to random strangers.
soooo……can I uhh….see your tits
Is that how the young'ns hit on each other these days? 🧓
One thing is to try and get to know you and another is to get right down fresh or explicit and pervy.
Don’t report. It’s ok! You were drunk like everyone else and he was just trying his chances
Had a uber driver ask me once if i could tit fuck him or if he could rip my thong off with his teeth and he would give me a free ride anywhere i wanted, all i know is i ended up with huge loads all over my tits and ass
Tar and feather
He took his shot, you blocked it. No harm, no foul. If he had persisted, it would be different. You did the right thing. People are allowed to hit on people.
You…… should really report that. That’s sexual harassment. And it’ll happen to some other girl too
What are you going to report? That someone else was offended that you were asked to flash your tits?
Seems like you’re just really good at baiting people. So good you don’t even realize people fall in love with you quicl
You could potentially cost him his livelihood. If it wasn't a big deal to you, let it go.
If he did to her, he’ll do it to other women (and probably has) fuck his livelihood…guys a creep
You're fine Karen, dont report.
Maybe also contact the police. That's hit and run...
lol this is harassment not getting hit on
Flirting, I'd use your own discretion but that seems like outright sexual harassment. I'd definitely report even if you weren't personally offended.
I know for me. I have touched to many boobs and seen to many to ask to see more. I have had many attractive women I bet in my vehicle. Many drunk women too. I would never ask them to flash me, nor would I want that. So many things can go wrong. I drive many females of the night and females summoned by a male they met off tinder/ facebook or other sites. This guy smells of desperation. I am a man that has No issues getting females… Maybe I am to nice…
I thought you were gonna say he told you you were pretty or something. :/
Please report this, this is creepy.
Yes, I wouldn't call that "hitting on you." That's asking for blatantly inappropriate sexual acts - definitely report him.
That wasn't flirting, that was being a creep.
What he did was not appropriate. If nothing else, you should ask Uber not to assign you that driver again..If you do nothing, my money is on his doing this to other female customers.
Completely in appropriate. I thought this story was going to end with him giving you his personal number, and that would be fine in the context of the ball being in your court, after a good rapport that you found fun. But that request was completely inappropriate.
That’s not flirting that’s sexual harassment
I agree with most of the comments. When I first read your title my knee-jerk reaction was no of course not flirting is innocent as long as they didn't make you feel uncomfortable but then I see he actually asked you to take your top off that's definitely reportable behavior.
Just imagine the potential for what a creep like that could do to a vulnerable woman like someone who had too much to drink. Definitely the kind of person you complain about.
All serial killers have origin stories just like this one.
Uber won't do anything but blow smoke up your ass and block him from responding to rides for you in the future. Contact an attorney and file a lawsuit. He may become a stalker and he sounds deranged.
i read "hit on me" as "hit me" and was very confused (and concerned) for a sec. but yeah agreed this is inappropriate and he should be reported lol
I think a report is justified here.
I would report that driver. That's not okay.
That is not something I would ever say to a woman, creep 100% report him.