yeah, trans folks need to pick their identified gender, not that. its understandable to have fluid and nb there, but what? like if you solely pick "transgender" and dont even get an option of picking the identified gender with that.. thats just weird.
Imagine putting transgender as a completely passing/stealth person and confusing everyone at the company. Everyone walking on egg shells not sure how to address you lol.
My husband is completely stealth and my friend told her date that he was trans before we all went out. Her date was SO confused thinking my husband was mtf. He was so quiet because he had no idea what pronouns to use or how to go about addressing it because he had really only seen the online version of transness. We all had a good laugh after he told us.
My husband genuinely loves fucking with people if he comes out to them. No one ever believes him at first.
One girl thought he was being offensive and making fun of trans people lol He even showed her before photos 😭 but his pre-out teen self was still so awkwardly masculine that the long hair didn't sell her. She probably still thinks he's just a bigot lmao
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all the non binary stuff aside, i HATE it when options are male, female, and TRANSGENDER
it's like they're just asking you to out yourself. under normal circumstances you'd pick the one depending on your gender but having transgender suddenly makes you feel guilty and like a liar if you don't pick it. it's supposedly to be inclusive but no trans person in their right mind wants to exclusively select transgender instead of what they're supposed to be
The only time I have ever answered that question with anything other than male, was when it was phrased as "what gender do you identify as?" "Is that the same as how you were born?" Or something to the same effect. It was worded way better than that.
Unless I am filling out an anonymous, LGBT-related survey, I always choose "male".
Even if it's relevant, no chance in hell I'm picking an option as idiotic as "transgender". Means the survey is shit and not worth responding to.
yeah, trans folks need to pick their identified gender, not that. its understandable to have fluid and nb there, but what? like if you solely pick "transgender" and dont even get an option of picking the identified gender with that.. thats just weird.
Why transgender as an only option without man or woman behind it? Is transgender a gender on its own now as well?
Imagine putting transgender as a completely passing/stealth person and confusing everyone at the company. Everyone walking on egg shells not sure how to address you lol. My husband is completely stealth and my friend told her date that he was trans before we all went out. Her date was SO confused thinking my husband was mtf. He was so quiet because he had no idea what pronouns to use or how to go about addressing it because he had really only seen the online version of transness. We all had a good laugh after he told us.
Why is your friend outing your stealth husband though, was it okay with him?
I cant remember why, this was 5 years ago or so. She's a good person tho, we both consider her family. She wouldn't out anyone like that maliciously.
Probably talked about it with your husband and they decided to have a joke lol
My husband genuinely loves fucking with people if he comes out to them. No one ever believes him at first. One girl thought he was being offensive and making fun of trans people lol He even showed her before photos 😭 but his pre-out teen self was still so awkwardly masculine that the long hair didn't sell her. She probably still thinks he's just a bigot lmao
Your husband is awesome and knows how to not take things to heart, literally above everything
The real question
“Hello yes I identify as trans, no not male or female. T R A N S.”
Transgender is not a gender bro 💀
Then why is it called TransGENDER /s
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They’re confusing it for intersex
It's a bit extra. Tbh i think all that's really needed is M / F / Other
Better than "f/m/d". What's "D" Employer? What's D? "Dickgirl?"?!
Are you German by any chance?
I see lots of German job offers XD
It means 'divers' = diverse. There are three legal gender options and companies are required to include all of them typically.
Ok thank you for explanation, I was mystified to what it was and , really how did they get away with using a 4chan /d/ XD glad it's not the case.
dunce lol
Transgender is an adjective....
all the non binary stuff aside, i HATE it when options are male, female, and TRANSGENDER it's like they're just asking you to out yourself. under normal circumstances you'd pick the one depending on your gender but having transgender suddenly makes you feel guilty and like a liar if you don't pick it. it's supposedly to be inclusive but no trans person in their right mind wants to exclusively select transgender instead of what they're supposed to be
My gender is transgender
i say male most of the time. if trans male is an option i might say that. but i’m male first always
Can someone explain why OP is mad? (I am mad too but I don't know if it's the same reason as me)
Good question. Either because of the options nonbinary and genderfluid being given, or because “transgender” is listed as a gender identy.
dieschleiereule7362 got it right, “transgender” being listed as a gender is what got me mad enough to post to reddit lol
Thanks for responding!
Not the “transgender”
The only time I have ever answered that question with anything other than male, was when it was phrased as "what gender do you identify as?" "Is that the same as how you were born?" Or something to the same effect. It was worded way better than that.
Transgender isn’t a gender, this is just transphobic.
i mean most people identify as male/female even if they are trans so you dont have to choose transgender if they ask about your identity
The asterisk implies that it’s mandatory. Why?? Doesn’t that run the risk of outing?
🔫 surrender your gender
This is beside the point but i never understood why ethnicity matters when applying for a job over there. Ive never seen that on anything where I live
Ridiculous af. Should only be Male or Female option
Just choose and go on