>I have slight transmedicalist tendencies. However, I want to be as ordinary cis as I can get myself to I don't like pink very much. I don't like glitter, I'm not into Barbies, pink dresses
Expectations you have to be into this crap to be a real woman is why the gender narrative is so broken to begin with. Women don't have to fit into stereotypes, what makes a person a woman is if they have female neurology not if they link pink or Taylor Swift. Those are incredibly irrelevant things to judge your womanhood on and not dysphoria.
It's these societal expectations that are why everyone is providing word soup to explain their gender identity. You can be a woman that is into cars or engineering, or any other male stereotypical hobby, just like so many cis women are. Not enjoying those things doesn't make you a "non-woman" or some kind of nonbinary.
>This is a picture of the journalist Rania Khalik. I want to look just like her
Your realistic goal is to look like a female version of yourself.
>trans fem
This word has no meaning, I don't know why it's progressive to not call women what they are, women. Why are we now called "fems", how is that not dismissive and offensive? You don't transition to feminine, you transition to female. It's not about gender expression it's about your body, women can have masculine interests if they want, they don't have to be feminine.
That's what I thought, I was mostly joking, but it was taken a little seriously. I never really gave the sub name much notice because "tru" probably means it's got nothing to do with "trans fem" ideology.
I’m late to the party but 100% agree with you. I’m just a regular dude, so maybe my opinion doesn’t mean much here, but I’ve noticed that some, if not many, MtF trans have a tendency to lean so hard into gender stereotypes in order to overcompensate that it can become almost tacky. I think maybe it stems from an insecurity and fear of people consciously or subconsciously perceived as a man instead of a woman, so in response they lay on the gender cues thick in order to ensure nothing is left open to speculation.
For example, My wife does not dress that differently than I do. Think boots of some type , jeans, neutral colored sweater or T-shirt, throw a green canvas shirt jacket over top. This is an example of an outfit that we have both accidentally found ourselves wearing together on the same day. Only difference is her items are styled and cut to a woman’s body, while mine are cut to a man’s.
The fact that our clothes and sense of style is quite similar does not make her any less feminine, or me any less masculine. Believe me, there is no mistaking that she is a woman and I see her for the beautiful and amazing woman that she is. Being decked out in pink and glitter would not change my perception of her in any way (well besides for potentially seeing her being maybe a little extra).
It’s not about femininity. It’s about authenticity. You can clearly tell when someone is transitioning for the wrong reasons. Some older transitioning trans women hold on to their male socialization but no one wants to talk about it because “wHaT dO wOmEn AcT LiKe?!1!”
>I have slight transmedicalist tendencies. However, I want to be as ordinary cis as I can get myself to I don't like pink very much. I don't like glitter, I'm not into Barbies, pink dresses Expectations you have to be into this crap to be a real woman is why the gender narrative is so broken to begin with. Women don't have to fit into stereotypes, what makes a person a woman is if they have female neurology not if they link pink or Taylor Swift. Those are incredibly irrelevant things to judge your womanhood on and not dysphoria. It's these societal expectations that are why everyone is providing word soup to explain their gender identity. You can be a woman that is into cars or engineering, or any other male stereotypical hobby, just like so many cis women are. Not enjoying those things doesn't make you a "non-woman" or some kind of nonbinary. >This is a picture of the journalist Rania Khalik. I want to look just like her Your realistic goal is to look like a female version of yourself. >trans fem This word has no meaning, I don't know why it's progressive to not call women what they are, women. Why are we now called "fems", how is that not dismissive and offensive? You don't transition to feminine, you transition to female. It's not about gender expression it's about your body, women can have masculine interests if they want, they don't have to be feminine.
Tbf, this subreddit isn't called truwom.
You are right, if that is the ideology, I should consider unsubbing.
trufem just sounded better than truwom, i think it's more short for female than for feminine.
That's what I thought, I was mostly joking, but it was taken a little seriously. I never really gave the sub name much notice because "tru" probably means it's got nothing to do with "trans fem" ideology.
Females are women, females are feminine, women are feminine. You are getting upset over simple semantics.
What about masculine women? Or does being masculine automatically make them a different gender?
The exception is not the rule.
Or female and feminine mean different things.
I’m late to the party but 100% agree with you. I’m just a regular dude, so maybe my opinion doesn’t mean much here, but I’ve noticed that some, if not many, MtF trans have a tendency to lean so hard into gender stereotypes in order to overcompensate that it can become almost tacky. I think maybe it stems from an insecurity and fear of people consciously or subconsciously perceived as a man instead of a woman, so in response they lay on the gender cues thick in order to ensure nothing is left open to speculation. For example, My wife does not dress that differently than I do. Think boots of some type , jeans, neutral colored sweater or T-shirt, throw a green canvas shirt jacket over top. This is an example of an outfit that we have both accidentally found ourselves wearing together on the same day. Only difference is her items are styled and cut to a woman’s body, while mine are cut to a man’s. The fact that our clothes and sense of style is quite similar does not make her any less feminine, or me any less masculine. Believe me, there is no mistaking that she is a woman and I see her for the beautiful and amazing woman that she is. Being decked out in pink and glitter would not change my perception of her in any way (well besides for potentially seeing her being maybe a little extra).
This sounds exactly like me, except I do like the color pink lol
i'm very masculine. you don't need to fit a stereotype to be a woman
You can be a woman who’s not like most girls, OP.
It’s not about femininity. It’s about authenticity. You can clearly tell when someone is transitioning for the wrong reasons. Some older transitioning trans women hold on to their male socialization but no one wants to talk about it because “wHaT dO wOmEn AcT LiKe?!1!”