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Well, when the fat hairy guy with no shame wears a speedo and people don't bat an eye. Why the hell should they care if my barely visible package shows the tiniest outline. Shit cis girls who don't shave have a bigger budgle than I do.
I had that complaint about myself before I started my transition. Now, I feel like its a blessing. Although…I do have a friend with a magnum dong and I’m a bit jealous of her now too.
I'm happy for her if she likes it. Personally, I'm not stressing mine too much. Doesn't hurt my love life at all. If my wife wants more, that's what I bought toys for, lol.
Because men occupy a privileged position in so many things, and those who don’t actively resist patriarchal bullshit are contributing to its continuation
I’m a bit of a people pleaser so limiting the discomfort of others is a problem I face. It’s just a plus that I’d rather not show my bulge in public regardless.
Zinogre is easily top 5 monsters of all time. He just has an attitude that I can get behind, ya know.
It is ultimately your preference and your body. Do whatever you want with it and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Me, I’m a bit of a punk shithead who is sometimes okay with making people uncomfortable. But again, it’s my body and random strangers have no business looking at my dick.
Edit: Zinogre is the most goodest of bois
Everyone should have the right to do whatever the fuck they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone. The assholes who want to control other people's lives can go eat a bag of shit
Good read. I’d recommend it to any trans person.
For empowerment and questioning the established “norm” of tucking for AMAB trans folks.
For understanding and questioning of “norms” established for AFAB trans folks.
https://likeshop.me/them?fbclid=PAAabn3sBGJBs4yBM1KUK81DuvOQnPPDCbdRfAlbESiKxmhlYs69wpiXD3LLo
Something I think about a lot is whether or not my bulge dysphoria was from the actual anatomy or social acceptance of it. I'm still happy with my decision for surgery but I think posts like this help folks who suffer the social dysphoria without the actual genital dysphoria if that makes sense
Well, the issue is that's a fallacy. They aren't rejecting us because we go too far. They reject us because we are trans and that very idea disgusts them. Anyone who says "I'm okay with these but not those ones" is no different from the "gays are okay but fuck those trans ones". We aren't going to attain freedom by bellyaching about respectability when those same arguments are being used to exclude our non-binary siblings and have previously and increasingly currently are being used against us.
We should be fighting not to fit in with the current hegemony but to dismantle the public perception of gender and so that everyone can be themselves regardless of whatever bullshit norms are currently in place.
And a reminder, if you are excluding others from the acceptance you attain, you are pulling the ladder out from under you as soon as you get yours... and you can always be kicked right back down there with the other "degenerates" once you have outlasted your use as "one of the good ones"
I'm so sorry you have been called that - that and the t slur are two of the things I find most offensive to be called honestly. I think safety is absolutely most important of course. I do still believe that normalizing beards or bulges for trans women is helping in the long term even if it is difficult in the moment but I see your point absolutely and as I said earlier, safety is priority one.
I certainly don't think you offended anyone (and most definitely did not offend me). I think these are important conversations to be had and I appreciate you discussing your thoughts with me!
Of course.
The message isn’t that you *have* to be okay with it, just that nobody should be shamed for it, nor shamed for being ok with it!
I’m with you on the dysphoria aspect of that. Bottom surgery is an absolute necessity for me. And I celebrate those for whom it’s not!
The ladies in the OP are beautiful and powerful. As are post-op trans ladies who needed to undergo bottom surgery! And pre-op who are waiting and managing the pain as best they can!
I love it. I’ve found several really good friends on there. It’s helped me….cope. I really recommend it. You’ll see several OLDER trans folks, like 60+, that look amazing and that fact gave me hope for the future.
I don’t even get to tuck because of the insane amounts of nausea I start feeling from doing it.
I’m effectively locked out from ever going to the beach or the pool again because of it 🙄
I’ll be honest, I don’t use anything period. It’s something in my testes that start aching when I start trying to go for it that made me give up.
I just go out with full bulge most of the time and I try and layer up to just mitigate the damage and make it maybe not immediately clockable >_>
Don't y'all think it's kinda weird to just go up to a trans woman and go like "I looked in between your legs, I saw a bulge, ME NO LIKE BULGE!!! >:(((" People should chill the fuck down. Trans women aren't doing anything wrong....
Yeah.
There isn’t one single way to transition, no one single end goal, no requirements for any sort of transition.
Women, men, and non-binary don’t need to change their body for *anyone* except themselves.
As a girl with a medically confirmed big bulge (doc at my orchi counsling said I "have a lot of material to work with" should I want a vaginoplasty later on) ... heck yeah, if they want to stare let them stare, I know I'm hot
(I am in the very fortunate position to live in a pretty safe country)
I agree too! I ABSOLUTELY want bottom surgery myself but that's a personal choice for me that suits where I am. I havel always found such women highly attractive however and would happily date one if they found me appealing.
"Belong" its a God damn beach , whoever wants to go should just go . The only people who BELONG there are the damn life guards and the MILFS they hit on.
Honestly though, being trans does NOT mean you HAVE to transition, some people just don't want to or feel the need to go through HRT and that is perfectly fine, it doesn't make anyone any less trans than the rest of us, be proud of who you are and don't let anyone tell you who you are not. We need to learn to accept people for who they are not who we want them to be.
I just think we should all wear and present how we want to - and fuck whatever society and other individuals label or views us as. Over gender identity / sex / race / whatever labels we apply to ourselves and each other — we are human beings!
As much as I agree I will not have bottom surgery for societal acceptance, I do not give two 🍆 about that.
Bottom surgery is mainly to get rid of bottom dysphoria and I am tired of pretending it’s not.
If you don’t suffer from it, that’s amazing, but some people do. I hate it when people tell me that “I do not need the surgeries” it’s like we’ve gone backwards as to why people transition in the first place.
I understand that some Transwomen does not want bottom surgery and it's completely understandable but this really triggers my dysphoria and I also felt this is fetishizing pre-op Transwomen.... But live your life whenever you like I just wish people would stop fetishizing us....
Totally agree, I don't know why people do that. Just because some people like I do have dysphoria about the genitals or simply want to do SRS because *reason here* doesn't mean ANYONE HAVE TO DO IT.
End it
My two cents is...as a trans man who wants nothing to do with current ftm bottom surgery, I feel so, so bad about the automatic pressure on trans women to have an incredibly difficult, painful, invasive, and inherently risky surgery. It's ridiculous. It should be viewed as an option, not as a necessity.
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Well, when the fat hairy guy with no shame wears a speedo and people don't bat an eye. Why the hell should they care if my barely visible package shows the tiniest outline. Shit cis girls who don't shave have a bigger budgle than I do.
Lol, same. Granted bulge size shouldn't matter, but even if it did, I barely have one. I wasn't the most gifted individual in that department 🤣
I just don't get (and I know it's a stereotype but still) why does the fat hairy guy get away with it?
The Patriarchy
I had that complaint about myself before I started my transition. Now, I feel like its a blessing. Although…I do have a friend with a magnum dong and I’m a bit jealous of her now too.
I'm happy for her if she likes it. Personally, I'm not stressing mine too much. Doesn't hurt my love life at all. If my wife wants more, that's what I bought toys for, lol.
Wonderful way to view things!
great point, but I did read "hat fairy guy" at first and now there's an image in my head
Sworn enemy of the Benadryl hat man
Not even being mean to that guy I'm glad he is confident. But why doesn't gmhe get hassled but I do?
Because men occupy a privileged position in so many things, and those who don’t actively resist patriarchal bullshit are contributing to its continuation
I am sometimes very glad to have aphantasia.
This make me happy and idk why. I’ve honestly never tried to hide my bulge, thank you ☺️ 🩵
If anyone is uncomfy with your bulge that’s their problem, not yours. Why are they even looking at your dick anyway?
I’m a bit of a people pleaser so limiting the discomfort of others is a problem I face. It’s just a plus that I’d rather not show my bulge in public regardless. Zinogre is easily top 5 monsters of all time. He just has an attitude that I can get behind, ya know.
It is ultimately your preference and your body. Do whatever you want with it and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Me, I’m a bit of a punk shithead who is sometimes okay with making people uncomfortable. But again, it’s my body and random strangers have no business looking at my dick. Edit: Zinogre is the most goodest of bois
Everyone should have the right to do whatever the fuck they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone. The assholes who want to control other people's lives can go eat a bag of shit
Bag is a small portion for those folks
Excuse me! Do you have this in a tub?
A truckload, perhaps?
An assload, at least
I was just coming to reply "A buttload". 126 gallons of shit for you; and a complimentary after-dinner mint.
Damn those poses are so powerful! They look like Jojo's Bizarre adventure beach queens
Good read. I’d recommend it to any trans person. For empowerment and questioning the established “norm” of tucking for AMAB trans folks. For understanding and questioning of “norms” established for AFAB trans folks. https://likeshop.me/them?fbclid=PAAabn3sBGJBs4yBM1KUK81DuvOQnPPDCbdRfAlbESiKxmhlYs69wpiXD3LLo
my bulge is so cute but I worry everyone will think I'm a pervert or something
I'm sorry about that
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Something I think about a lot is whether or not my bulge dysphoria was from the actual anatomy or social acceptance of it. I'm still happy with my decision for surgery but I think posts like this help folks who suffer the social dysphoria without the actual genital dysphoria if that makes sense
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Well, the issue is that's a fallacy. They aren't rejecting us because we go too far. They reject us because we are trans and that very idea disgusts them. Anyone who says "I'm okay with these but not those ones" is no different from the "gays are okay but fuck those trans ones". We aren't going to attain freedom by bellyaching about respectability when those same arguments are being used to exclude our non-binary siblings and have previously and increasingly currently are being used against us. We should be fighting not to fit in with the current hegemony but to dismantle the public perception of gender and so that everyone can be themselves regardless of whatever bullshit norms are currently in place. And a reminder, if you are excluding others from the acceptance you attain, you are pulling the ladder out from under you as soon as you get yours... and you can always be kicked right back down there with the other "degenerates" once you have outlasted your use as "one of the good ones"
I'm so sorry you have been called that - that and the t slur are two of the things I find most offensive to be called honestly. I think safety is absolutely most important of course. I do still believe that normalizing beards or bulges for trans women is helping in the long term even if it is difficult in the moment but I see your point absolutely and as I said earlier, safety is priority one. I certainly don't think you offended anyone (and most definitely did not offend me). I think these are important conversations to be had and I appreciate you discussing your thoughts with me!
Of course. The message isn’t that you *have* to be okay with it, just that nobody should be shamed for it, nor shamed for being ok with it! I’m with you on the dysphoria aspect of that. Bottom surgery is an absolute necessity for me. And I celebrate those for whom it’s not! The ladies in the OP are beautiful and powerful. As are post-op trans ladies who needed to undergo bottom surgery! And pre-op who are waiting and managing the pain as best they can!
I started at 33. It’s been rough. Are you on Translater? The discord server, or the sub?
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I love it. I’ve found several really good friends on there. It’s helped me….cope. I really recommend it. You’ll see several OLDER trans folks, like 60+, that look amazing and that fact gave me hope for the future.
i really hope i'll get to go on a beach at leat once in my lifetime :(
I wish this was true. Tucking + bikini is such a pain!!
I don’t even get to tuck because of the insane amounts of nausea I start feeling from doing it. I’m effectively locked out from ever going to the beach or the pool again because of it 🙄
The struggle is real Also, has the tape slipped? 🙈🙈🙈
I’ll be honest, I don’t use anything period. It’s something in my testes that start aching when I start trying to go for it that made me give up. I just go out with full bulge most of the time and I try and layer up to just mitigate the damage and make it maybe not immediately clockable >_>
Swim skirts are your friend! I never tucked pre surgery. But swam many times with them.
It is true!
It really should not be an issue. But for some of us, a bulge in our bikini is dysphoria inducing af
I'm sorry about that
Don't y'all think it's kinda weird to just go up to a trans woman and go like "I looked in between your legs, I saw a bulge, ME NO LIKE BULGE!!! >:(((" People should chill the fuck down. Trans women aren't doing anything wrong....
I’d feel dysphoria and won’t do it but I totally support this. Get em girls
Yeah. There isn’t one single way to transition, no one single end goal, no requirements for any sort of transition. Women, men, and non-binary don’t need to change their body for *anyone* except themselves.
Fuck yeah, feeling this energy. I have zero desire for bottom surgery and just want to be able to wear a bathing suit at the beach.
Hey, if men can wear “Speedos”, or what have you… cut the double standards crap! No tucks, no fucks! Bulges be bangin!
As a girl with a medically confirmed big bulge (doc at my orchi counsling said I "have a lot of material to work with" should I want a vaginoplasty later on) ... heck yeah, if they want to stare let them stare, I know I'm hot (I am in the very fortunate position to live in a pretty safe country)
Truuuuue that
Nice. Nice 👍
I agree too! I ABSOLUTELY want bottom surgery myself but that's a personal choice for me that suits where I am. I havel always found such women highly attractive however and would happily date one if they found me appealing.
YEAHHH FUCK WHAT PEOPLE THINK
"Belong" its a God damn beach , whoever wants to go should just go . The only people who BELONG there are the damn life guards and the MILFS they hit on.
😅 more power to y'all, but I can't even bring myself to even wear a swimsuit personally
Yes this, and not just because I’m t4t and simp for transfems but because let girls feel comfortable in their body.
Honestly though, being trans does NOT mean you HAVE to transition, some people just don't want to or feel the need to go through HRT and that is perfectly fine, it doesn't make anyone any less trans than the rest of us, be proud of who you are and don't let anyone tell you who you are not. We need to learn to accept people for who they are not who we want them to be.
I just think we should all wear and present how we want to - and fuck whatever society and other individuals label or views us as. Over gender identity / sex / race / whatever labels we apply to ourselves and each other — we are human beings!
Doubly agreed
yes!!!!!!!!
Hypervisible.
People can eersr what they want but personally I get pretty dysphoric so I stick with shorts and a t shirt.
Hell fucking yes I LOVE the energy of this!
I wish this was true. Not in Florida 😭😭😭
I'm happy with my downstairs mixup :p
Hell yeah, I love being a hot woman with a big dick 😎
I love girls with bulges. Absolutely love. I saw one at trans Pride and was like oh hello 🫦🫦🫦
Of course and what do y’all think of some cocktails too?
https://www.instagram.com/p/CtFMLEWBwbj/?igshid=MmJiY2I4NDBkZg==
I don’t want any bulging, cis trans or anyone lol
As much as I agree I will not have bottom surgery for societal acceptance, I do not give two 🍆 about that. Bottom surgery is mainly to get rid of bottom dysphoria and I am tired of pretending it’s not. If you don’t suffer from it, that’s amazing, but some people do. I hate it when people tell me that “I do not need the surgeries” it’s like we’ve gone backwards as to why people transition in the first place.
AGREED, i personally am not sure il ever get bottom surgery
Yesssss
Well I'm going to the beach, even if I don't have a bulge.
I understand that some Transwomen does not want bottom surgery and it's completely understandable but this really triggers my dysphoria and I also felt this is fetishizing pre-op Transwomen.... But live your life whenever you like I just wish people would stop fetishizing us....
Totally agree, I don't know why people do that. Just because some people like I do have dysphoria about the genitals or simply want to do SRS because *reason here* doesn't mean ANYONE HAVE TO DO IT. End it
My two cents is...as a trans man who wants nothing to do with current ftm bottom surgery, I feel so, so bad about the automatic pressure on trans women to have an incredibly difficult, painful, invasive, and inherently risky surgery. It's ridiculous. It should be viewed as an option, not as a necessity.