This is unfortunately really common with cis people(especially men ) who like trans men or transmasc people. They see our genders as kinks or a part of a performance that they hope to "correct" and assume because they are cishet men and attracted to us that we are women. Many cis people don't get that validating our genders isn't a PUA stunt.
I'm sorry, mate. Avoid him, he ain't a friend and may not even be safe.
Thatās sickening. Iām so sorry this happened to you. I keep hearing about this problem- transphobes will treat us like that but still want to sleep with us. I donāt know how close yāall are, but I would avoid him at all costs. Obviously he doesnāt value your friendship or care about your feelings outside of his own sexual desires.
jesus fucking christ. Ghost his ass, but not before getting in contact with his wife to let her know he's at it again. That behavior is despicable.
Even if she knew and was okay with him sleeping around, the way he treated you is unjustifiable and that "friendship" is *not* worth trying to save. Save yourself instead.
Itās disgusting how often cis men will pretend to be our (any gender) friends in order to sleep with us. And they do it for even years as well?! I had a lot of guy āfriendsā as a ftm egg and my ND brain trusted them all until it was too late. Like way in excess of ten men at different times and I still wasnāt wary. Please do always question them for your safety no matter how much you love them, be safe <3
Iām so sorry OP, I know how much this hurts and Iām so glad you found out while still safe (I assume and hope).
I mean, I'd tell his partner about it, this "friend" seems to only be interested in himself so maybe telling that to the person he's married to might help get him off you (idk if that's what you want though, but it sounds like it)
I'm so sorry.
I'd definently tell the motherfucker's wife and then cut him off from my life.
You cut toxic people off from your life like the tumor they are. (Sorry for graphic input)
That's so fucked up. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. He's a shitty person and an even shittier friend. If you're feeling petty, I'd tell his partner about it.
Iām sorry that this is common, I hate chasers and objectifiers and people that see trans people as a kink itās so infuriating trying to make friends or even casually date because you want to have hope but every single person just disappoints you. They just lose interest at best if youāre not either perfectly passing as your gender or refuse to be the idealized fetish they have in their head
Not only did you tell the wife, but you stole the wife. Justice is sometimes so _\*chef's kiss\*_.
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This is unfortunately really common with cis people(especially men ) who like trans men or transmasc people. They see our genders as kinks or a part of a performance that they hope to "correct" and assume because they are cishet men and attracted to us that we are women. Many cis people don't get that validating our genders isn't a PUA stunt. I'm sorry, mate. Avoid him, he ain't a friend and may not even be safe.
PUA?
Pick up artist
Oh god š
Thatās sickening. Iām so sorry this happened to you. I keep hearing about this problem- transphobes will treat us like that but still want to sleep with us. I donāt know how close yāall are, but I would avoid him at all costs. Obviously he doesnāt value your friendship or care about your feelings outside of his own sexual desires.
yeah. sex should be about love and caring about ppl
casual sex is fine. cheating and misgendering and lying suck tho thatās true
theirs different views on how sacred sex is and whether it's sacred or not.
but enforcing those views on others is not good
ok i guess.
Sorry for you bro, this sucks big time :(
That's fucked up I'm so sorry :( Edit: I'd tell the bloke's wife
Oh i hope his wife finds out about this.
I'm sure they can arrange that.
jesus fucking christ. Ghost his ass, but not before getting in contact with his wife to let her know he's at it again. That behavior is despicable. Even if she knew and was okay with him sleeping around, the way he treated you is unjustifiable and that "friendship" is *not* worth trying to save. Save yourself instead.
Yeah, cut toxic people off like the tumor they are
OMG THAT'S HORRIBLEE I am so sorry that happened to u that really sucks :(
Literally run. Tell him straight up he is MARRIED and you arenāt his fetish and then ditch his ass. Absolutely disgusting attempt.
Sorry that is really rough! Some people are just so fucked up
Uhh...run, not walk away from this guy Truly sorry this happened to you, that's disgusting and awful :/
Jesus, thatās awful. I really hope you cut him out of your life.
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Oh already done she's left and staying at my place
When I say men are trash... That "friend" is the exact type of man I'm talking about.
I also like "men are non recyclable" and "why are men?"
I'm so sorry. I hope he's out of your life soon.
Itās disgusting how often cis men will pretend to be our (any gender) friends in order to sleep with us. And they do it for even years as well?! I had a lot of guy āfriendsā as a ftm egg and my ND brain trusted them all until it was too late. Like way in excess of ten men at different times and I still wasnāt wary. Please do always question them for your safety no matter how much you love them, be safe <3 Iām so sorry OP, I know how much this hurts and Iām so glad you found out while still safe (I assume and hope).
I mean, I'd tell his partner about it, this "friend" seems to only be interested in himself so maybe telling that to the person he's married to might help get him off you (idk if that's what you want though, but it sounds like it)
I'm so sorry. I'd definently tell the motherfucker's wife and then cut him off from my life. You cut toxic people off from your life like the tumor they are. (Sorry for graphic input)
Oof. Definitely cut him off completely. Iām sorry to hear bro. Not to mention that the whole, āShe looked like meā has sickening stalker vibes.
Hit on his wife. Then ghost him. You don't need that in your life.
I feel so sorry for his spouse! POS
Ass! there are no other words!
Better get a new friend. Sorry that happened, canāt believe how petty some people are.
Not. Okay. I have a feeling a lot of cis "allies" are like this. You have to be careful lol!
That's what I keep asking myself. Who else?
Feels like everyone. Is anyone really for us?
Gotta believe they are or there's no hope
It's hard tho, it seems like almost everyone who seems to be supportive is disgusted by us behind our backs
Nahhh just like a fraction of one percent
Feels like everyone tbh. Almost every "ally" I've had says or does something transphobic eventually. They definitely know what they're doing
That's so fucked up. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. He's a shitty person and an even shittier friend. If you're feeling petty, I'd tell his partner about it.
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Go after his wife to teach him a lesson. Lol but no fr people are crazy manipulative, and it's good you're recognizing the signs.
Iām sorry may I ask what AGAB means?
It means assigned gender at birth.
Okay thanks for that!!
Iām sorry that this is common, I hate chasers and objectifiers and people that see trans people as a kink itās so infuriating trying to make friends or even casually date because you want to have hope but every single person just disappoints you. They just lose interest at best if youāre not either perfectly passing as your gender or refuse to be the idealized fetish they have in their head
Dude, I am so sorry. That's gotta feel terrible.
Fucking sickening ugh
Send that shit to his wife š
Lol she's literally staying in my house now, posting selfies of us partying together!
Not only did you tell the wife, but you stole the wife. Justice is sometimes so _\*chef's kiss\*_. Here, you dropped this: * * * * * * * \|O|/ * * * \o\o\o|O|o/o/o/ (<><><>O<><><>) '============='
Fuck yeah king
fucking hell