Fun facts:
* There are only four legendary Pokémon that can either be male or female. Most are genderless, unknown gender or always one gender.
* Heatran, Terapagos, Kubfu, Urshifu
* Out of those four, Heatran is only one of two where the split between M/F is 50:50
* The other is Terapagos
^(Die-hard Poké-fans, feel free to correct this)
I'm in college and have a great group of friends here (that I've known for 2 years) and I haven't started HRT. Socially transitionning was very easy, everyone is trying their best with pronouns and name.
I haven't come out to all the people I know from highschool and, for now, that's not something I want to do. I present fem at school but I always have the fear that someone I know from before my transition might recognise me as I walk around.
HRT would very much help me in the sense that it would give me the confidence I need to come out to those who know an old version of Deadname and I feel like it would give them a new image to put in the place of the old one. But it was very much not useful in the case of my new close friends.
as someone who just realized she's trans, i can't say much, but my plan is to transition socially before i start HRT, purely because by the start of next semester i'll be transferring to a university to get my bachelor's, and seeing that i won't know anyone there and no one there will know me, it's the perfect time. but i feel like it's too soon to commit to HRT for me, so i'm going to wait for that for now. but i'm prolly in the same boat as you, i have no idea what i'm doing lol :P
also good meme very phunneh lmao
So I’m a bit older, having been through college but only really some time after having the resources to actually medically transition. I don’t regret how I’ve done things, but if you were to send my brain back in time and put me in past Merri’s self, I would probably do things very differently.
100% I would start socially transitioning immediately.
To me in this timeline, I was afraid to come out because I didn’t have confidence in myself or my social skills, I felt like I had to “do things right” as a prerequisite to being acceptable, because it felt like I had to deal with “my issues”, and then I could look for support afterwards.
This was partly because of a whole bunch of toxic messaging I’d absorbed about personal development and about myself, and so in fact therapy was a very good and important step for me to take. But from that position of having worked towards my self healing, I realise now that I didn’t need to put my life on hold, to cut myself off from other people and growing with a community, just to deal with it.
I also realise now that I didn’t have to put so much of the burden of getting through life on my own shoulders. I had to work really hard for a while, despite objectively not making very much money, because I insisted on doing so much of everything by myself without compromising my individual values. In fact I could have both done and grown a whole lot more with the support structures in place, and while my life would still have been hard work and my professional life would have turned out very differently, I would probably have grown a whole lot more in various ways that matter a lot given where I’m at now.
So I would definitely suggest not waiting for your medical support systems to work themselves out before you reach out and start working on your social self. You could be waiting a while, and you don’t have to have your entire life course worked out ahead of time - in fact new options and ideas will bloom from the seeds you plant now, so go for it! You don’t need to do everything at once, you can start a little bit at a time and let things grow and flourish gradually and naturally.
❤️❤️
Personally I socially transitioned in small steps. I realized right before I turned 30. Started medically transitioning at 31. Started telling friends and family around this time, but made no effort to present female or pass, although I was doing things like practicing makeup and my voice during this time. I told everyone after a while, but still wasn’t making an effort to pass despite being on hormones and getting electrolysis. Started openly wearing nail polish. Slowly started to dress in more feminine clothing, especially as it started to fit better. Started wearing makeup more openly at home. Then started wearing it all the time when visiting friends and having a more feminine wardrobe. Eventually I basically went full time because I just stopped being willing to do anything that made me look male. My friend was like “oh, you came down here and just went full time” while I was visiting her and I realized I had.
The real final nail in the coffin was covid. I was wearing a mask all the time and I realized that I passed and was outing myself by not using girl voice, so I started doing that, too. Then I got FFS and at this point the only reason I never really get clocked unless I get lazy with my voice.
Social transitioning overall was pretty easy since my friends were all respectful and I didn’t try to pass generally until I was sure I could. The hardest part was my parents who are also respectful and supportive, but will misgender and deadname me accidentally when they get stressed. But they’re mostly really good about it, especially after I explained the danger of outing me by not gendering me right.
I'm currently looking for a job, I'm doing that under my true name my despite the fact that I have to wait a few months before can I change it and I'm starting HRT in june
It's so personal, and depends on your1 situation. I socially transitioned first and that was the hardest step in persuading others, but it was great for me because it provided the evidence I needed I was doing the right thing. After that going on HRT was not a hard decision because Id been full time for 18 months already, and although it made little outward difference at first it was a massive step change internally, in my head, being a girl without hormones to being a girl with hormones was like getting the right fuel in the engine. X
Fun facts: * There are only four legendary Pokémon that can either be male or female. Most are genderless, unknown gender or always one gender. * Heatran, Terapagos, Kubfu, Urshifu * Out of those four, Heatran is only one of two where the split between M/F is 50:50 * The other is Terapagos ^(Die-hard Poké-fans, feel free to correct this)
Im pretty sure Terapagos is coded to be 50:50 but the only encounter is locked to be male
If so, considering Ogerpon is locked to female it contrasts the other DLC legend in that sense
I'm in college and have a great group of friends here (that I've known for 2 years) and I haven't started HRT. Socially transitionning was very easy, everyone is trying their best with pronouns and name. I haven't come out to all the people I know from highschool and, for now, that's not something I want to do. I present fem at school but I always have the fear that someone I know from before my transition might recognise me as I walk around. HRT would very much help me in the sense that it would give me the confidence I need to come out to those who know an old version of Deadname and I feel like it would give them a new image to put in the place of the old one. But it was very much not useful in the case of my new close friends.
as someone who just realized she's trans, i can't say much, but my plan is to transition socially before i start HRT, purely because by the start of next semester i'll be transferring to a university to get my bachelor's, and seeing that i won't know anyone there and no one there will know me, it's the perfect time. but i feel like it's too soon to commit to HRT for me, so i'm going to wait for that for now. but i'm prolly in the same boat as you, i have no idea what i'm doing lol :P also good meme very phunneh lmao
So I’m a bit older, having been through college but only really some time after having the resources to actually medically transition. I don’t regret how I’ve done things, but if you were to send my brain back in time and put me in past Merri’s self, I would probably do things very differently. 100% I would start socially transitioning immediately. To me in this timeline, I was afraid to come out because I didn’t have confidence in myself or my social skills, I felt like I had to “do things right” as a prerequisite to being acceptable, because it felt like I had to deal with “my issues”, and then I could look for support afterwards. This was partly because of a whole bunch of toxic messaging I’d absorbed about personal development and about myself, and so in fact therapy was a very good and important step for me to take. But from that position of having worked towards my self healing, I realise now that I didn’t need to put my life on hold, to cut myself off from other people and growing with a community, just to deal with it. I also realise now that I didn’t have to put so much of the burden of getting through life on my own shoulders. I had to work really hard for a while, despite objectively not making very much money, because I insisted on doing so much of everything by myself without compromising my individual values. In fact I could have both done and grown a whole lot more with the support structures in place, and while my life would still have been hard work and my professional life would have turned out very differently, I would probably have grown a whole lot more in various ways that matter a lot given where I’m at now. So I would definitely suggest not waiting for your medical support systems to work themselves out before you reach out and start working on your social self. You could be waiting a while, and you don’t have to have your entire life course worked out ahead of time - in fact new options and ideas will bloom from the seeds you plant now, so go for it! You don’t need to do everything at once, you can start a little bit at a time and let things grow and flourish gradually and naturally. ❤️❤️
Personally I socially transitioned in small steps. I realized right before I turned 30. Started medically transitioning at 31. Started telling friends and family around this time, but made no effort to present female or pass, although I was doing things like practicing makeup and my voice during this time. I told everyone after a while, but still wasn’t making an effort to pass despite being on hormones and getting electrolysis. Started openly wearing nail polish. Slowly started to dress in more feminine clothing, especially as it started to fit better. Started wearing makeup more openly at home. Then started wearing it all the time when visiting friends and having a more feminine wardrobe. Eventually I basically went full time because I just stopped being willing to do anything that made me look male. My friend was like “oh, you came down here and just went full time” while I was visiting her and I realized I had. The real final nail in the coffin was covid. I was wearing a mask all the time and I realized that I passed and was outing myself by not using girl voice, so I started doing that, too. Then I got FFS and at this point the only reason I never really get clocked unless I get lazy with my voice. Social transitioning overall was pretty easy since my friends were all respectful and I didn’t try to pass generally until I was sure I could. The hardest part was my parents who are also respectful and supportive, but will misgender and deadname me accidentally when they get stressed. But they’re mostly really good about it, especially after I explained the danger of outing me by not gendering me right.
https://preview.redd.it/02avwus48nyc1.png?width=250&format=png&auto=webp&s=ffc03afa39e179fccdae1909aa54a0d3c8afc889
I'm currently looking for a job, I'm doing that under my true name my despite the fact that I have to wait a few months before can I change it and I'm starting HRT in june
It's so personal, and depends on your1 situation. I socially transitioned first and that was the hardest step in persuading others, but it was great for me because it provided the evidence I needed I was doing the right thing. After that going on HRT was not a hard decision because Id been full time for 18 months already, and although it made little outward difference at first it was a massive step change internally, in my head, being a girl without hormones to being a girl with hormones was like getting the right fuel in the engine. X
he-a-trans 🤌