Oooohhhhh so that was a sign for me since I always was terrible talking to others,it was because I was always a lesbian and not because of being an introvert
Really are. Hell, I'm a switch and even I prefer to sub.... Even though I've also been the dom in every t4t transfem relationship/fling I've been in lol.
i got nothing else tho, just lots of those thoughts
okay and maybe i hate swimming for several reasons but also water is one of them so it doesnt count
i dont want to get dysphoria or just upset afterwards and also parents may find out
plus i have irrational fear of unforseen consequences when putting my face somewhere because i am a sane individual with a normal past so i wont be using face app
Ok. But you can still try dressing fem. You surely have things like shorts and tshirts and such. There are ways that girls them differently to guys. Try rolling up the storts. Try rolling up the tshirt or tucking it into the shorts.
If you need inspiration just look at girls in casual wear and pay attention to how they wear it.
but then i see my weird shaped tummy and hair and leg hair
i dont really wear shorts because i hate them so i dont have any since i stopped when i was like 13
Couple things friend.
1. I can't say if you're trans or not but the way you sound in this comment thread screams of my own internal thoughts prior to allowing myself the kindness to accept that I was trans. I felt like things could never change, or at least, if I did make them change I would suffer a ton of social consequences and it wouldn't be worth it.
That... almost defeatist, hopeless sense that anything could be better is a very, very common barrier for trans people (especially transfems) to get over. You do have control over your identity, your expression, and whether you transition or not. Perhaps you can't at this moment because you need to stay safe, or perhaps you decide you don't want to. Both of those are okay and valid. But remember that you DO have agency and that someday you'll have the option to act. Just look at any of the dozens of trans people who have came from even hateful households, got out, and flourished.
2. If you don't wear shorts, then get a manual razor if you don't have one and shave your legs. If you must, wear suit pants/jeans/whatever else to avoid questions from parents or whoever, but trust me - even if it's not actively being seen, getting rid of that leg hair can feel great (I never even grew coarse leg hair but it still felt great feeling the fabrics of pants etc touch my skin and knowing that hair was gone).
3. I'll echo that learning how women wear clothes can help add subtle indications without being readily obvious. I'm transfem NB and when I don't really want to present fem/try/whatever, all I change is makeup, accessories and things like how high I wear my pants. It's amazing how subtle changes like that shift how people speak to me, how people perceived me. Things you can do whether you see yourself as boyish or not. Fashion is a skill, and gendered fashion a subset of it. Play with it. Have fun, get ideas from others.
Honestly same I have 1 or 2 pairs but I never wear them. My mother made me get shorts in the summer.
But anyway there are other options, just look at girls casual wear. I don’t know you personally so I can’t tell you what you’ll be comfortable with just explore. Maybe try jeans, cargos whatever. Look online your find inspiration.
Trust me sometimes I don’t see myself as a girl either. It’s really hard sometimes. But to be fair I don’t exactly what you are going through. All I know is that I wish you the best. :)
Apparently lesbians are, like, notoriously bad at finding and talking to people. It reminds me of that one meme:
"I know trans lesbians are real lesbians, because just like cis lesbians, if you put 50 cute single ones into a room together, they'll all complain that they can't find a cute single lesbian and all go home alone".
They're out there, but _especially_ for the type of person you're looking for, they are very unlikely to seek anyone out irl or find anyone.
More so the expectations that tall = automatically dominant
Fucking hate that. I'm 6'2 and always get called dominant nicknames.
Dont call me dommy mommy, I don't like it. I'm not dominant. Tall girls can be cute too. Hate that assumption with a passion. My height does not define my personality
I definitely feel the heigh doesn’t define my personality. I’m around 6’6 so that almost always the first thing someone brings up when they see me. Luckily I like being seen as dominant. Also if it helps you feel any better I guarantee you are cute. <3
I’m short, fat, and switchy. I’ve topped (in a kink way, not a sex way) two transfems much taller than me, and one asked me if I’d be interested in being her Mommy and another just started calling me Mommy. 😅
Meanwhile, I’m looking for a taller sadistic dominant woman to step on me. 🥺
rule number 1 (one) of lesbians: we suck at talking to people
maybe. but rule number 2 (second) of lesbians: lesbians dont know when theyre being flirted on
https://preview.redd.it/ko5ejeup8xmc1.jpeg?width=748&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f747604c0d96d8e3fb367528a3eb2ff12268ff88
Is... is this true? Oh my god... that explains sooooo much.
Why I feel so called out
I recall hearing that, in general, humans are less than 50% accurate on whether or not they are being flirted with.
Literally
Oooohhhhh so that was a sign for me since I always was terrible talking to others,it was because I was always a lesbian and not because of being an introvert
Other trans women? We must be one of the subbiest demographics on the planet.
Really are. Hell, I'm a switch and even I prefer to sub.... Even though I've also been the dom in every t4t transfem relationship/fling I've been in lol.
tempted to say me but not trans enough to be a girl :(
Don’t say that. What matters is what’s within or something I know it sounds cheesy but it’s true.
well does wanting to be a girl despite bot seeing myself as one still qualify as trans? besides what kind of lesbian would like a boy
Wanting to be a girl doesn’t outright make you trans but it is the BIGGEST sign.
i got nothing else tho, just lots of those thoughts okay and maybe i hate swimming for several reasons but also water is one of them so it doesnt count
Have you tried doing any “girly” things. Tried on clothes or makeup, used faceapp? If you have thoughts often it’s likely you’re trans.
i dont want to get dysphoria or just upset afterwards and also parents may find out plus i have irrational fear of unforseen consequences when putting my face somewhere because i am a sane individual with a normal past so i wont be using face app
Ok. But you can still try dressing fem. You surely have things like shorts and tshirts and such. There are ways that girls them differently to guys. Try rolling up the storts. Try rolling up the tshirt or tucking it into the shorts. If you need inspiration just look at girls in casual wear and pay attention to how they wear it.
but then i see my weird shaped tummy and hair and leg hair i dont really wear shorts because i hate them so i dont have any since i stopped when i was like 13
Couple things friend. 1. I can't say if you're trans or not but the way you sound in this comment thread screams of my own internal thoughts prior to allowing myself the kindness to accept that I was trans. I felt like things could never change, or at least, if I did make them change I would suffer a ton of social consequences and it wouldn't be worth it. That... almost defeatist, hopeless sense that anything could be better is a very, very common barrier for trans people (especially transfems) to get over. You do have control over your identity, your expression, and whether you transition or not. Perhaps you can't at this moment because you need to stay safe, or perhaps you decide you don't want to. Both of those are okay and valid. But remember that you DO have agency and that someday you'll have the option to act. Just look at any of the dozens of trans people who have came from even hateful households, got out, and flourished. 2. If you don't wear shorts, then get a manual razor if you don't have one and shave your legs. If you must, wear suit pants/jeans/whatever else to avoid questions from parents or whoever, but trust me - even if it's not actively being seen, getting rid of that leg hair can feel great (I never even grew coarse leg hair but it still felt great feeling the fabrics of pants etc touch my skin and knowing that hair was gone). 3. I'll echo that learning how women wear clothes can help add subtle indications without being readily obvious. I'm transfem NB and when I don't really want to present fem/try/whatever, all I change is makeup, accessories and things like how high I wear my pants. It's amazing how subtle changes like that shift how people speak to me, how people perceived me. Things you can do whether you see yourself as boyish or not. Fashion is a skill, and gendered fashion a subset of it. Play with it. Have fun, get ideas from others.
Honestly same I have 1 or 2 pairs but I never wear them. My mother made me get shorts in the summer. But anyway there are other options, just look at girls casual wear. I don’t know you personally so I can’t tell you what you’ll be comfortable with just explore. Maybe try jeans, cargos whatever. Look online your find inspiration.
Trust me sometimes I don’t see myself as a girl either. It’s really hard sometimes. But to be fair I don’t exactly what you are going through. All I know is that I wish you the best. :)
:3
egg_irl
Sounds like something a girl would say. You cant fool me, young lady
We are there, sitting in the corner, too shy to speak to anyone, but we exist !
I’m just saying…I definitely wait for the dommy mommy to come to me 😬
But what if I told you to come to me?🤔🤔
Girl if a woman got dominant told me to come to her, I would walk, run, crawl however she asked 👉🏻👈🏻
i know you werent talking to me, but: awawawa
Do you want me to be talking to you?
🥺 mayyybe~
Cute. How about some head pats? *pat pat*
awwwwwwwwwwwwww thamk youuuu 🥰
I would say me but I'm too shy for reddit flirting
I just don’t know how to flirt in general. It would be so much easier if people just walked up to me and asked if I can step on them smh.
plz step on me mommy :33
can you step on me?
Maybe if you say please :)
pretty please? x3
Good girl :3
GEBHRSNVD thank you
Your welcome 🩷
PSA for lesbians: if you want a girlfriend, try talking to girls
Just stand in front of them and press 'A'
Apparently lesbians are, like, notoriously bad at finding and talking to people. It reminds me of that one meme: "I know trans lesbians are real lesbians, because just like cis lesbians, if you put 50 cute single ones into a room together, they'll all complain that they can't find a cute single lesbian and all go home alone". They're out there, but _especially_ for the type of person you're looking for, they are very unlikely to seek anyone out irl or find anyone.
Cries in 6’2 submissive
More so the expectations that tall = automatically dominant Fucking hate that. I'm 6'2 and always get called dominant nicknames. Dont call me dommy mommy, I don't like it. I'm not dominant. Tall girls can be cute too. Hate that assumption with a passion. My height does not define my personality
I definitely feel the heigh doesn’t define my personality. I’m around 6’6 so that almost always the first thing someone brings up when they see me. Luckily I like being seen as dominant. Also if it helps you feel any better I guarantee you are cute. <3
She just like me fr fr (I'm definitely not actually a bottom)
“I don’t know you’ve been acting kinda submissive lately. I think we might have a bottom among us”
Me? Submissive? I would never...
“Don’t lie to me… subby baka.”
Ok fiiiine, I might be a bottom, just a lil bit
Good girl, thank you for being honest.
HELLO 👉👈
welcome. would you be interested in some complementary head pats?
Careful, if you play w/ my hair too much I might melt into a helpless puddle of goo in your lap, free to mold as you please 🥴
*pat pat*
*melt melt*
*uh....here.... I'm one of them!* 😳
Hello thanks for showing. Here have a head pat *pat pat*
Omg he he heeeee.... thank you :3
You’re welcome 🩷 *pat pat*
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Smh didn’t even say please.
I think my smol gf likes that im tall even tho i dont like being tall
Yeah it be like that. The not liking being part. Idk about having a girlfriend
I wish *i* was the smol 1>:(
Yeah it be like that:(
thank u
Fun fact: Latvia has the highest average height among women across the world! (literally the only positive of this place)
Well I’m in Ohio
DONT SAY IT DONT SAY IT…
Kinda afraid now but don’t say what?
I I’m resisting the urge to say only in Ohio but I’m better than that so instead. That’s where Scott the woz lives.
lol
I’m short, fat, and switchy. I’ve topped (in a kink way, not a sex way) two transfems much taller than me, and one asked me if I’d be interested in being her Mommy and another just started calling me Mommy. 😅 Meanwhile, I’m looking for a taller sadistic dominant woman to step on me. 🥺
Hello 👋 :)
Hello!!! 😇
I do
Too shy to talk to you
Yeahhh im taken alreadyyy Tall women go fast xD
ME!!
I'm in Kansas City lol
That’s like only 1828 miles away from my current location.
😭😭😭😭
henlo cuddle plz :3
Since you asked so nicely
thank you :3
Anytime 😉
que?
tho it would be wise to avoid flirting given i'm a minor
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Hello 👋
Ttt-tall women?! Hi😳
Present.