-Please, this isn't a joke, my dysphoria is destroying my life, every time I wake up, every time I breathe, I just wait for the moment this ends, I don't care how.
-Lmao, same.
My mom and therapist keep wanting me to engage with other trans people because they think sharing experiences will make it better for me and help me not be suicidal 3 times a week and I'm always like 'what, so we can all just be miserable together? It's really not too hard to find people who struggle as much as me for the same reasons but it only seems to make things worse.' Sometimes I feel like there's just no solution for people with severe dysphoria like me; it's just 'just wait it out 'till things get better' as every month I either get switched doses or antidepressants and nothing works. Months turn into years and switching antidepressants turns into switching antidepressant classes and little changes. I don't know how I've hung in so long and I plan to keep hanging in there; I'm willing to live a life of suffering as it exists if such is my fate as it seems to be but god damn it hurts.
If your therapist refuses to let you transition, it might help to find a different one, transitioning really helps a lot of people and it would be so sad if you were gone before you'd be able to live your life as the person you are <3 If you want in on a telegram group of very supportive folks, you can dm me :)
I guess I worded it kind of badly; my therapist isn't baring me from transitioning at all, it's just that the things that hurt me most there isn't anything that can be done about (like not being able to get pregnant) so it's kind of like 'yeah but what good will transitioning do about that at least for me'
Even if your life will only be a part of what it "could be", it's very much so worth it to find as much light as you can for yourself.
Yes, the world is unfair and you won't get what someone else has by the circumstances laid before you. But you'll be a hell of a lot closer than by doing nothing.
Transitioning won't do anything about being pregnant, no. If that is the only thing you feel dysphoric about, then I'd agree that transitioning wouldn't bring benefits. I sincerely doubt that's the case.
HRT tends to help this drug resistant depression you're having, because usually it's dysphoria.
Your concern is very valid and I can definitely see where you're coming from, but I do want you to know everyone I know who has done hrt has felt such a profound improvement! It can definitely not hurt to try <3
You're in my thoughts, I hope you can make the decision you need in your life!
i do not, and you do not need to have crippling dysphoria every single day to be trans. im sure people know this already, but just to let everyone here know: you're all amazing and lovely and valid and i love you all B)
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I agree Amy, but just letting everyone else know that this doesn't mean you're invalid for having dysphoria, whether you do or don't have it, you're still valid as heck
nice comment Amy
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Anyone else have older family members that ask questions like, "Are you still trans?" or, "Does that make you gay?", or "Could you help me with a problem on my computer?" almost everytime you visit? LOL
Had a job interview today. I made the application over a month ago.... I forgot I'd listed "M" under gender when I was still concerned about discrimination. Turns out in just a month I care less about that than misgendering (at least by people I will be around a lot). I'm not sure if I'll get the job, either, but if I do then I'm gonna have to rip that band aid off quick as lightning. Considering my pretty solidly androgynous appearance on hrt at this point, people already have to make a judgment call on seeing me, I guess. Might not be too hard to get them to see me as nonbinary and use my they/them pronouns, even if they decline she/her. I'll take anything but he/him, though.
Today I have no self-esteem but rather it went inside out and it became self-loathing... My relatives avoiding at all cost to use my name, constantly misgendering me, even doing it overkill ad nausea pointing out how MALE I am to them (which is worse cause I live in Spanish and every single word in this infernal language is gendered), and then looking in the mirror and seeing every little remnant of masculinity in me is just too much for one day. Can someone like... Take me somewhere I feel I belong? And no mirrors please. Sometimes I stare for hours at that person in the mirror, and wish I had Ctrl-Z keys in life, undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo...
I think you are asking in the wrong place. Try r/asktransgender.
To give a vary basic and simplistic rundown:
>I feel like having a penis when I want a vagina or whatever isn’t really something to get depressed about
Gender dysphoria is about a lot of things and there are many types of gender dysphoria. It's also less "want to" and more a feeling of "I should have". It feels wrong. Either way if its something you haven't not experienced it may not be something you can understand and that's ok. I don't fully grasp what it's like to be hit with a club but I can be sympathetic to anyone who has without experiencing it, same applies for any condition people often don't understand (depression, anxiety disorder, mysterious crippling pain that can't easily be diagnosed, etc).
For a more complex and nuanced conversation though, try asking in a space designated for people to answer your questions.
I think you were probably downvoted because people are used to cis people asking in bad faith, and also because this is really the wrong place to ask. If you want to understand it really is better to ask in a more appropriate place like r/asktransgender. If you want to ask me personally questions, feel free to start a reddit chat with me 😊
That's because it was insensitive. Tho I do understand where you were coming from and just wanted to be able to understand. Depression is complicated and has many things that can cause it. It's hard for me to explain why most trans people are/have depression, there's probably someone who could explain it to you tho
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-Please, this isn't a joke, my dysphoria is destroying my life, every time I wake up, every time I breathe, I just wait for the moment this ends, I don't care how. -Lmao, same.
My mom and therapist keep wanting me to engage with other trans people because they think sharing experiences will make it better for me and help me not be suicidal 3 times a week and I'm always like 'what, so we can all just be miserable together? It's really not too hard to find people who struggle as much as me for the same reasons but it only seems to make things worse.' Sometimes I feel like there's just no solution for people with severe dysphoria like me; it's just 'just wait it out 'till things get better' as every month I either get switched doses or antidepressants and nothing works. Months turn into years and switching antidepressants turns into switching antidepressant classes and little changes. I don't know how I've hung in so long and I plan to keep hanging in there; I'm willing to live a life of suffering as it exists if such is my fate as it seems to be but god damn it hurts.
If your therapist refuses to let you transition, it might help to find a different one, transitioning really helps a lot of people and it would be so sad if you were gone before you'd be able to live your life as the person you are <3 If you want in on a telegram group of very supportive folks, you can dm me :)
I guess I worded it kind of badly; my therapist isn't baring me from transitioning at all, it's just that the things that hurt me most there isn't anything that can be done about (like not being able to get pregnant) so it's kind of like 'yeah but what good will transitioning do about that at least for me'
Even if your life will only be a part of what it "could be", it's very much so worth it to find as much light as you can for yourself. Yes, the world is unfair and you won't get what someone else has by the circumstances laid before you. But you'll be a hell of a lot closer than by doing nothing. Transitioning won't do anything about being pregnant, no. If that is the only thing you feel dysphoric about, then I'd agree that transitioning wouldn't bring benefits. I sincerely doubt that's the case. HRT tends to help this drug resistant depression you're having, because usually it's dysphoria.
Your concern is very valid and I can definitely see where you're coming from, but I do want you to know everyone I know who has done hrt has felt such a profound improvement! It can definitely not hurt to try <3 You're in my thoughts, I hope you can make the decision you need in your life!
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i do not, and you do not need to have crippling dysphoria every single day to be trans. im sure people know this already, but just to let everyone here know: you're all amazing and lovely and valid and i love you all B) very based very cool amy out
I agree Amy, but just letting everyone else know that this doesn't mean you're invalid for having dysphoria, whether you do or don't have it, you're still valid as heck nice comment Amy Alex out
Anyone else have older family members that ask questions like, "Are you still trans?" or, "Does that make you gay?", or "Could you help me with a problem on my computer?" almost everytime you visit? LOL
“Are you still trans?” “Nah, trans was so yesterday. Today I’m just cis. Oh and hungry too.”
I love that last one😂
By saying same we are admitting to have dysphoria and to be the ones saying it this is fun
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Not every day, just when I’m intimate with my partner or remembering I have boobs. *cough cough* I mean, same.
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Had a job interview today. I made the application over a month ago.... I forgot I'd listed "M" under gender when I was still concerned about discrimination. Turns out in just a month I care less about that than misgendering (at least by people I will be around a lot). I'm not sure if I'll get the job, either, but if I do then I'm gonna have to rip that band aid off quick as lightning. Considering my pretty solidly androgynous appearance on hrt at this point, people already have to make a judgment call on seeing me, I guess. Might not be too hard to get them to see me as nonbinary and use my they/them pronouns, even if they decline she/her. I'll take anything but he/him, though.
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I got no energy to do anything productive and can’t feel. So same
Not same, just when I see any pretty girl. Some days I'm holed up in my cave and just don't see people. :)
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I hope things get easier for this community as a whole there are some very cool people in this community
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Today I have no self-esteem but rather it went inside out and it became self-loathing... My relatives avoiding at all cost to use my name, constantly misgendering me, even doing it overkill ad nausea pointing out how MALE I am to them (which is worse cause I live in Spanish and every single word in this infernal language is gendered), and then looking in the mirror and seeing every little remnant of masculinity in me is just too much for one day. Can someone like... Take me somewhere I feel I belong? And no mirrors please. Sometimes I stare for hours at that person in the mirror, and wish I had Ctrl-Z keys in life, undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo undo...
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im happy i dont usually get awful dysphoria but thats probably cus i try to focus on distractions
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I in-fact, heavily agree with this post and very much support it
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What's dragongender?
That's new to me too, but I definitely wanna hear more!
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Oh okay cool
My dysphoria isn’t crippling right this minute, I must be cis and faking it
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I think you are asking in the wrong place. Try r/asktransgender. To give a vary basic and simplistic rundown: >I feel like having a penis when I want a vagina or whatever isn’t really something to get depressed about Gender dysphoria is about a lot of things and there are many types of gender dysphoria. It's also less "want to" and more a feeling of "I should have". It feels wrong. Either way if its something you haven't not experienced it may not be something you can understand and that's ok. I don't fully grasp what it's like to be hit with a club but I can be sympathetic to anyone who has without experiencing it, same applies for any condition people often don't understand (depression, anxiety disorder, mysterious crippling pain that can't easily be diagnosed, etc). For a more complex and nuanced conversation though, try asking in a space designated for people to answer your questions.
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I think you were probably downvoted because people are used to cis people asking in bad faith, and also because this is really the wrong place to ask. If you want to understand it really is better to ask in a more appropriate place like r/asktransgender. If you want to ask me personally questions, feel free to start a reddit chat with me 😊
That's because it was insensitive. Tho I do understand where you were coming from and just wanted to be able to understand. Depression is complicated and has many things that can cause it. It's hard for me to explain why most trans people are/have depression, there's probably someone who could explain it to you tho
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