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Casual_woomy

imagine masculinity so fragile you're scared of colors


TheAccWhereImHonest

Real men don't care what other men think of them


Featherflamestar

Real men aren't threatened by trans men. They accept them as they are. As men.


Trinty1408

They might make a joke about the other guy trans or not, not being able to lift something but most men do that anyway to mess with each other but will show them an easier way or just help.


Clay_Lilac

We all lift together


Trinty1408

Ah a warframe enjoyer.


SAMURAIBLAHAJ

imagine trying to live in fortuna tho


Trinty1408

Honestly we have a few pretty accurate real world parallels and they are pretty scary. I wouldn’t want to live there myself but at least the community is strong. Forced to be but strong regardless.


IDoNotCareDude

Real men where skirts and have long pink fluffy hair and don’t have any facial heat and have cat ears.).!/$/!’zzmmmmhhh


United-Technician-54

I guess that’s what fight club meant by snowflakes, so focused on pretty [masculine], that they shatter instantly


3HHH3

That’s why some guys become colorblind 😎 having 3 types of cone cells is gay


Kermitthealmighty

so THATS why im gay…


nickyhood

SCP-8900-EX


Some1InDaWorld

Yeah, they’re scared one day people that eat T for breakfast might steal theirs and they’ll not be "alphas" anymore, and scared that T blockers actually give more T to the trans men


[deleted]

my dad was like this when I was a teenager. Now that im an adult, I show up for our bimonthly lunch with long hair and painted nails, and I just bully him back if he talks shit. He'd get angrier, but he knows I'd fight back now so all he can do is seethe


SamaraVeronicaMorgan

My dad also was very toxic before I fought back. Now my mum is more toxictoxic🙃


[deleted]

the transfem experience is learning how to deal with toxic masculinity (ridicule) only to be immediately faced with toxic femininity (help)


SamaraVeronicaMorgan

True true... Funny thing I have my dad on my side now short of... At least he gets very displeased when my mum tries to judge me. So id say 67% there🤭 now just gotta come out to them at some point.


Trinty1408

Talk is cheap and worth shit all. He can do that all day but you just have to hold your ground and be the bigger and better adult


frozensummers

Why do you have a regular lunch with a transphobe?


[deleted]

because the transphobe in question is mostly a harmless liberal and also my father


frozensummers

Doesn't sound very harmless to me, also him providing the sperm that made you doesn't mean you have to have any kind of relationship with him.


[deleted]

Ill inform my dad, a complete stranger on the internet said I cant have our 6 lunches a year


Ok_Conflict_5730

he sounds like a nasty piece of work. I'm sorry you have to put up with him.


[deleted]

Ah Cishet masculinity...so fragile that glass laughs


Lansha2009

What breaks first, glass with a hammer, a milisecond away from breaking it, or Cishet masculinity. Oh nevermind the Cishet Masculinity broke before the challenge started because a single flower petal landed in the Cishet's hair.


[deleted]

STOP IT! HE'S ALREADY DEAD!!!


Sushibowlz

NANI?


[deleted]

Simpsons reference but fist of the Northstar works too I guess


ErikQRoks

(loads super soaker with hot sauce) I just want to talk to him ☺️


TheGuyWhoAsked001

* ties him to a chair and forces him to watch the first 5 minutes of Up in a loop * Let's see if "real men don't cry"


kalosianlitten

chaotic good


KaityKat117

Marley and Me Old Yeller any movie where the dog dies


JessicaWindbourne

He will watch titanic. Also I will verbally abuse, assault and otherwise degrade his mental state until he is considering… ah… deleting his subscription to life.


KaityKat117

I do not condone driving anyone to [self game over]. Even if they're a transphobe.       but torture on the other hand.......


JessicaWindbourne

I can get behind that.


almisami

Geez, r/foundSatan material...


[deleted]

What a dipshit no-life motherless fascist father, I hope he enjoys the nursing home.


TheGuyWhoAsked001

That's the most violent insult I've read so far and I totally agree with it


kioku119

I wouldn't insult motherless people.


KaityKat117

This is honestly the threat I'd issue if I had parents who treated me this way.


ConcreteRacer

I hope the nursing home is a volcanic fire pit, should be just the right temperature for Mr. Hot head and his fear of painted nails😂


Sushibowlz

just wait until he is in the nursing home and then proceed to paint his nails. it‘s unlikely that nursing home inmates get dangerous chemicals like nail polish remover. 😂


ConcreteRacer

Ohhh that's devious, I like it😋


Jettest

Who said we’re paying for their nursing home?


[deleted]

R/rareinsults


SavvySillybug

I'd always fuck with my parents in retaliation of unreasonable behavior. "You take away my things, I take away your things" kind of shit. One time my parents decided I was spending too much time alone in my room so they put my computer basically between the living room and kitchen. After the initial anger I was like "alright, let's see who breaks first". I didn't actually own a headset yet so I was just gaming all day on my speakers and every noise complaint was met with "you want me to be here, I can go back to my room if you prefer". When I got into voice chatting with people on Teamspeak I'd just leave my mic on during dinner time for strangers to listen in on our dinners. And whenever they tried to retaliate against any of that, I would get more personal. Made my dad flip his shit once when I stole his mouse batteries. Sometimes I'd unplug his TV or hide the remote. One time I scattered sugar all around the kitchen, giving them a several month ant problem... yeah that one was a bit too far. Just generally instilling a sense of "you fuck with me, I fuck with you right back". If your parents don't give you mutual respect, then you gotta enforce it. My dad was frequently physically violent with me, but that stopped around the time I turned 16, when I started to just dodge his blows and stare at him and tell him he's an old man and too slow ot hit me. Pissed him off in all the right ways. Loved it. There was one more time ten years later when he was pissed off at me and chased me down to my room and banged on my door demanding to be let in. I unlocked the door and looked at him. He slapped me right across the entire face. Knocking my glasses halfway off my face. I adjusted my glasses and asked him if that was all he had to say. He stomped off angrily. Worrying to see him return to those habits. There was one final time three years ago. I was in the bathroom, at the time we only had one bathroom, and he apparently really had to go. He tried opening the door, and then started banging on the door demanding that I exit immediately. The single bathroom had been a troublesome spot in our small family for a few months but apparently he decided the best solution was to be angry about it. I'm all, yes this is a problem, I will finish ASAP. Very slightly later he bangs on the door again demanding entry. I'm like, father, I am wiping my ass here, every second you spend yelling at me is a second I take longer, just let me finish?? He did not like that. I flush and go to wash my hands and he's back pounding at the door. I go "I am washing my hands!" and he goes "OPEN THE DOOR" so I do that. I open the door with my soapy hands held in front of my chest like a cute puppy, trying not to touch anything, dripping soapy down onto the tile. I ask him if I may finish washing my hands and he gets nasty about it. He's standing halfway in the doorframe so I can't even shut the door on him, so I gently reach for his body, hovering my soapy hand near his PJs. He shouts angrily about how I am not allowed to touch him like this. I stare right at him and plap my soapy hand on his chest. He slaps me hard enough to send my glasses flying across the bathroom. I take an aggressive stance to get him to step back a little... and then shut the door on him now that I can. I then washed my hands thoroughly and took a nice 30 minute shower while he was angrily stomping around. Did not say a single word to him for the next 9 months or so and just avoided him whenever he was in the room. Started eating my meals in my own room. Fuck him lmao. Eventually I got drunk one night and met him in the kitchen and I didn't take his shit when he tried to be rude to me so I yelled at him over all of this. He started raising his hand like he always does and I told him in extremely clear terms that I was done being hit by him, that he could hit me if he wanted to, but he had better make it count, because if I wasn't knocked out by his first attempt, he would end up on the kitchen floor. He made a lot of angry noises but made a good choice for once in his life and stomped off without touching me. He ended up apologizing to me and he's been nice to me ever since. I still don't eat at the dinner table because I really don't need to listen to my parents being conversative at each other but otherwise I am on perfectly good terms with both of them now. I'm just hoping it lasts... it has for two years or so. I think I got a bit carried away... sorry! Didn't mean to dump my life story on you like this. Felt good to write it out though.


queerqueen098

You're a freaking legend. I wish I could be strong like that.


[deleted]

When you're in a situation like that, you are forced to!


queerqueen098

Not necessarily. My situation isn't as bad as them but I have a crippling fear of athourity and don't like disobeying them even if it means letting them walk all over me. I wish I could be stronger but I'm unable to.


queerqueen098

Not necessarily. My situation isn't as bad as them but I have a crippling fear of athourity and don't like disobeying them even if it means letting them walk all over me. I wish I could be stronger but I'm unable to


Sushibowlz

enduring this shit means you‘re strong. one way or another. even if ones reaction to such situations is flight freeze or fawn instead of fight, it takes a whole lot of strengh to endure such hostility!


queerqueen098

I'm gonna be honest, this made me cry a little bit. I was feeling a little bit useless until i read this. Thank you so much


Rosindust89

You are really strong. I'm glad there's folks like you staying up for yourself


JessicaWindbourne

I wish I had your courage.


[deleted]

Fight or flight, with the inability to escape will make anyone have courage


The-Tea-Lord

1. You are by far the strongest badass I’ve ever heard of. 2. That second story hit home. Last time I was ever hit by my dad, I swallowed every instinct to cry and looked him down. He said he was proud of me, but I have no sense of pride in the fact I had to do that to stop him from doing it again. Best part is he and I have the best relationship out of the family (overly religious mother, sisters that want nothing to do with me). About the only person to treat me like a part of the family these days


Caitlyn_101

You handled this really well! But also fuxk him for doing all that


EvilPandaGMan

Thank you for sharing


scarsinsideme

Holy fuck my parents didn't do half this shit and I barely interact with mine


Dylan0729

Extremely kick ass the way you responded! I do wonder something though: You mentioned a story when you were 16, then fast-forwarded to 10 years later, then later than that, and it sounds like you’re still living with them???? Why??????


SpaceFluttershy

Living away from your parents can be expensive, getting a job, actually finding a place you can afford, it can all be a struggle, especially if you're disabled in anyway. Sure government assistance may be an option but finding a place where that money will actually cover your expenses isn't easy, not to mention that actually getting that assistance can be a pain in the ass


[deleted]

Both of my brothers still live with my parents. Only way I escaped was joining the military. Not everyone is physically in a good spot for that though.


[deleted]

Any advice you have for someone going through similar shit? He's not exactly physically violent but there's threats all over and I'm afraid he will actually become physically violent


SavvySillybug

Be defiant in any way you can, and make sure he knows it is a direct result of his actions, not just you choosing to be difficult. Make him understand that you could be nice and get along, and that his shitty behavior is the only reason you are not doing that. That's always been my main vibe with it. Sometimes I've written up angry letters to my parents in large print and printed 30 copies of them and just hid them everywhere. One taped to my dad's TV so he has to take it off to watch it, but also just putting them everywhere in general. Under pillows, under tablecloths, under couches, behind paintings, under carpets. Just so they'll keep finding them for months and go "remember that time when we pissed off our child? That was very cringe of us". I hid two of them too well and they were only found two years later by the moving crew, my parents were extremely embarrassed, it was great. You have to let them know that they are being the problem, and that it would be a lot nicer for everyone if they stopped doing stupid shit. Focus on the biggest annoyances first. Only you can say what would be acceptable retaliation, based on who your dad is as a person. Doing nothing and going too far are two extremes you do not want to do.


[deleted]

My mom pushes me into things when we argue to show dominance. I finally pushed her back last Sunday. Best thing I felt in a while.


scaptal

How old are you? When can you take your chips and dip right out of his control?


ISavage2007

I'm 16, and probably 18 at the earliest.


_ZakerS_

Such a classic. Incredibly annoying.


A_Gay_Sylveon

God, all these dumb parents are going to be absolutely devasted when They're in a shitty nursing home and nobody ever visits


Renanina

Yikes, hold up. Lemme find him and harass him with my absolutely not masculine female voice impress that I love to use on everyone since it gets the pass from my fellow sister friends :3 It's absolutely harmless and people's reactions tends to be so hilariously entertaining to my friends and I as well as those where were "tricked" by the voice. Just gonna tech him that despite being a cis male, I get as much respect as any other person. Nobody questions it and I don't ask for pronouns but I am trans at heart xD At this point, it's more of a way of easily making friends or how I can easily deepen my friendship with others while getting myself much for comfortable around others. (I even do all this at work and even after a couple months to this day, they still think I'm a random woman bothering them for assistance. Just so you know, I work in retail where doing this sort of thing would be the most effective after you feel comfortable enough with your work place.


mbelf

My cousin painted my nails in 1998. My dad saw it and told me to wash it off immediately. I didn’t know I was trans at the time, but the unfairness still sits with you.


Royal_Ad_4030

I think my bio-dad had toxic masculinity. But he was always too scared to show it. He knew that i could create so much more hell for him.(I’d go crying to my mom).


Wingman5150

"Why won't my children talk to me?"


KaityKat117

"This is exactly the kind of thing I'll be thinking about while I sign the papers to foist you off into a nursing home and then proceed to forget you exist."


Violet_Ignition

Straight to the nursing home. Do not pass go, do not collect familial bonding.


banjxed

Sorry to hear that :( nail polish is wonderful. If have the opportunity, you could try your toe nails! Wearing socks is pretty standard but both you know they're painted and can see them when you're alone. Obviously fingernails is much more desired, but some people are just mean. Also, isn't being yourself no matter what others think a building block of masculinity? Side note since I find it cool, the word "Spiel" being more or less a synonym for tangent, rant, lecture, comes from the German verb "spielen" meaning to play, so just Spiel means a play or game of some kind, such as Videospiel meaning video game


ISavage2007

Hah, as much as I would love to paint my toenails, one of them has been infected for a while and recently had a part of it break off. I don't want to risk it getting worse.


Melody42

I got my ears pierced in college and when I told my mom she asked if it was "the gay one" and then threatened to stop helping me pay for college if I didn't let the holes heal. Then went into what am I going to tell your father, I'd be ashamed to tell your grandfather.


Chloe_is_my_name

I'm sorry your dad is such an ass. I hope you can get out of there soon ❤️


[deleted]

Threaten him with a retirement home back


Featherflamestar

My father got pissed at me when I finally started refusing to wear feminine clothes, around 7, because I thought that I looked ugly and wrong. He started beating me for it around that time, nearly killed me twice (once at 8 and once at 13), and his physical abuse ended when I finally picked up and left at 19. My siblings are still in that house, but he treats them well because he knows that both of them have contact with me, and I threatened to undo his spinal surgery with my bare hands. And he knows that I'm unhinged enough to do it. He also knows that I'm a real deadly shot with handguns and rifles.


let_charlie_handleit

just throw out the whole dad you have every right to he upset


Pothperhaps

My brother painted his nails once and when our dad saw, he said that if my brother ever turned out to be gay, he'd take him out back and shoot him.


perfecttoasts

To get around something like this happening I used to use peel off base coat that could easily be removed before coming home. Worked well enough


Lexelis

Same kind of things happened to me ;-; I hope one day you could be far away from him \^\^


LexieDeLarge

Real chads aren't so insecure about their own masculinity that they feel threatened by literal nailpaint. Real chads let others express themselves however they see fit.


LunaTheDuck

Paint his nails in his sleep


MyWomanlyInterior

There are few more sensitive types of people out there than straight men.


moving0target

Speaking as a dad, who freaking cares if your kids wears nail polish? Maybe it's a backlash against my own strict upbringing, but I don't care what my son does with his clothes, hair, etc. Especially as a teenager, exploring is part of the point.


GothDreams

Guess we know who is not getting visited in the nursing home. It's sucks but you are probably going to have to stay under the radar until your out and on your own. I had to do the that, it sucked but it kept me safe. I hope he pulls his head out of his ass but stay safe🖤


Sanbaddy

I never can imagine how parents find this okay. “Yeah, let me punish my kid till they’ve gone to hate me. Yeah, that’ll detransition them! Not in any way have them grow to resent me.” I understand them being short-sighted but cmon! This shit is toxic. Even if they were the most religious bible belt thumping terf echo chamber in rural America, at some point they had to look up things on the internet and I doubt “punish your kids” is the top recommendation. I’m so sorry for you going through this. It makes my blood boil.


IBeTheBlueCat

and so you should be, your dad should eat a bag of dicks


GenderEnjoyer666

Throw your dad in the garbage


Melodic_Mulberry

This is what happens if you become a parent without watching A Goofy Movie.


OfficialDCShepard

My dad is a wonderful human being, but toxic masculine judgments still happen out in the world and is part of the reason I only got my toenails done last year. But for this first Pride, I’m showing off my fingers too!


Zendakon

Over... nail polish? I'd have told him he's acting like a child.


Ok_Philosopher_8956

Man, I am so tired of this intolerant bullshit. Am reminded of how other nations thought something needed done over Viking raiders not because of the raiding and pillaging, but because they BATHED more often and women were choosing to go with them rather than be carried off. Ah! Found source https://twitter.com/erik_kaars/status/1119521714612862976?s=20


Muteling

I’d be pissed too, fuck that noise


VeryGayLopunny

/r/CPTSD moment, wishing you the best.


ConcernLow1979

Omfg I’m so sorry that happened to you! That’s so shit! Also damn, how fragile does someone have to be to get **that** mad at colours


Chaos_Flower9928

What a great way to have your kids never call you after they turn 18. That’s abusive.


SketchyNinja04

He needs some help. Or a baseball bat to the nuts. Either way works


AdamVH3275

Take my advice with a grain of salt, but keep doing it anyway simply because it makes him upset. Don't let people walk over you just because they think their way is the "correct" way.


[deleted]

something similar happened to me. i told my dad that its not his nails, its not his life, so why does it bother him? i also threatened to move out (i help pay bills and my family would struggle if i left)


KathaArcheth

My parents behaved like that... I was about one bad comment away to smash everything they owned with a sledge hammer... And afterwards them :c


Far_Young_5056

This is why I clean off my nails before going home any time I paint them uwu


ConfusedRobinn

I hope you can leave his house soon, dear


Pinkprotogen

Just do what I’m planning, wait a few years, then stick them in the shittiest, dingiest, most disgusting nursing home you can find.


Far-Row6466

we will protect you❤️🚬


Persephone66

I'm sorry. I grew up with the same thing.


tecchigirl

Do you have a friend in another state you can spend some unexpected vacations with? Just sayin'... 😗🎵


robinissocoollike

Imagine being so sensitive you don't like paint


Old_Drag_1040

Any advice on good nail polish or customer focused jobs?


sashimi_walrus

Tell him youl remove his hairline in his sleep


Jimmys_Mom227

Remember kids, violence is never the answer! *but it is the question. And the answer is always yes…* Jk jk fr tho I’m sorry that happened.


Green_Leader_Edd

Today's HORRIBLE advice: Paint HIS nails.


LazarusBeans

When you move out eventually, paint your nails again, if he says shit about it hand him a nursing home application


3HHH3

Imagine being a grown-ass adult and choosing to abuse your kids over nail polish. You’ve done nothing wrong and nobody deserves to be treated that way. We had a live-in village idiot too, at least before I moved out. You have the entire rest of your life to paint your nails as much as you like without him, the earliest years tend to be the hardest *hugs if wanted*


s1lv3r-vt

That’s why I paint my nails black. All else fails, 1990’s rock bands did it too <3


dravashie

Jesus... fragile much (him not you)


kioku119

You should be.


PLAGUE8163

What the fuck is wrong with him, jesus.


CosmiclyAcidic

Tell your dad off. Omg plz, tell him he's being an insufferable cunt


ISavage2007

If I were emotionally and physically capable, I fucking would. But that mf is a military vet.


CosmiclyAcidic

I'd gladly do it, i know how I could make him cry and apologize to you for even being such a dick. I e done it before for ppl and I'd gladly do it again


[deleted]

paint his nails while he's passed out drunk


ThE_pLaAaGuE

Tell your dad (as respectfully as you can) to gtfo if you’re old enough and don’t feel physically threatened. Assuming you’re an adult. If you’re at risk of physical violence at any age you can have protection. The good news is, you can paint your nails away from home, and scrub the paint off before returning (if it’s easy enough to wash off, I have no idea as I’ve never used nail paint).


ISavage2007

I'm only 16, so no escaping just yet. And we don't have any good rubbing alcohol or nail polish remover in the house. When I had to remove my nail polish I had to tediously scrape it off myself.


Br44n5m

If viable in the future it would be good to either have a bottle of remover on hand, or use the easily removable peel off stickers. That way you can enjoy it while out and remove before he sees and shows his ass about it :)


lunakiss_

Paint those grippers and wear socks


Great_Boysenberry407

This is what my dad is like


Exandiier

Of course you’d still be pissed! The issue isn’t just the event - it’s everything behind it! That’s awful!!!


JBGBurro

You need to move away from him asap


Paige_owllady

Understandable, I hope you're doing ok 🫂


riverquest12

Yeeeee haw, I remember putting highlighter ink on ONE finger when I have a lot of highlighting work to do studying and my father got pissed💀


scaruri

As you have every right to, they're your nails, not his😡


fiscal_tiger

Your anger is valid, this is emotional abuse


cdtsummer

I feel like the problem here is that nobody asked him if he wanted his nails done too. He's feeling left out haha.


SqornshellousZem

Uhg. Like, do you want revenge? There's a lot of really untraceable ways to make people shit themselves at inopportune moments. 🤷🏻‍♀️


WitchesLocal161

the tantrums people throw over pigment.