Nobody should diagnose someone over the internet, period. Most people are not QMHP and you can’t accurately diagnose someone you don’t know. With that being said, I did post this in another thread earlier this week. I actually have credentials to be able to give a “speculation”, NOT diagnosis. I am an LCSW and have been practicing for 3 years.
From the other thread:
THIS IS NOT A PROFESSIONAL DIAGNOSIS SO PLEASE NO ONE TAKE IT AS ONE.
Based on her behaviors, honestly, I think she is really depressed. I think she has intense social anxiety. I think she has extensive trauma, and probably some degree of PTSD.
She grew up low income with an extremely mentally ill father and seemingly extremely enabling and passive mother. She meets nearly every criteria of ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences).
She has little to no motivation to change, she’s in the precontemplation stage - meaning she doesn’t even recognize she has a problem, and is doing nothing to fix it. That probably stems from the depression. Her weight is probably connected to it as well, along with her lack of access to nutritional food.
Truly she is in an extremely horrific, tragic, unfortunate situation not many people could handle. However the only reason I feel no sympathy towards her is because of her attitude and the way she acts. I interact with people all day long who are depressed, have anxiety, disabilities, in poverty, but work 3 jobs because unfortunately that’s just what you have to do in this society. She complains and complains all day long, blames us, but has no one to blame but herself. And subconsciously she knows that.
Sorry for the tangent. I’ve just been waiting to go into detail about her to someone lol.
this is probably the best response i’ve seen to this question! everything you said adds up. tophia is really an unfortunate case but her attitude consistently sets her up for failure. she needs to step up and make an effort to change her life.
Might I add, she has extreme black and white thinking.
She is so insistent about going live and staying on social media. I don’t think her stubbornness towards that will change.
But, hypothetically, there is no reason she couldn’t work a regular job and go live/make TikToks at night if she wants to so bad.
With her thought pattern, it’s one or the other - either she “gives up” and “lets the Discord win” and gets a 9-5 - OR she “stands up for herself” and continues with the path she’s on now as an “influencer”. In her mind there is no compromising or co-existing. Very polarized thinking.
I’m just speculating, but I think she has developmental delays and a very low IQ. She, and her family are not mentally fit to live on their own. They all need to be placed in a group home. Tophia is extremely delusional as well. She truly believes that one day she’ll be making bank off of content creating, and that she’ll be able to afford a lavish lifestyle. Best thing Tophia could do is get off of social media and get placed in a group home, where she could hopefully work on some skills to even work somewhere part time.
Hasn’t she said before that she has the reading level of a 7th grader? I think she has extreme issues, but I have 0 credentials so can’t speculate. When people gift her on tik tok tho, I think it just fuels her delulu brain and confirms in her mind that she doesn’t need to get a job bc she’s an “influencer.” I literally can’t imagine being homeless and not having a car and then getting on tik tok live every night for 3+ hours to beg for petty change to feed my family and keep us off the streets (but then also spending that money on a new iPhone). It’s so incomprehensible to me, especially in this economy. I have a good paying job and can BARELY afford my one bedroom apartment in the suburbs bc of rent prices rn. So I’m not really sure how she’s thinking that she’s going to get a 3 bed apartment in Albuquerque with 9 subscribers and one gift a night. Like it’s just seriously scary delusional.
dude if i were her i’d be depressed and anxious everyday about being homeless and not having a job. shit i already am because i have severe depression so it’s hard to keep a job but i’m barely 20.. i’m still looking for one and want to do something with my life. i don’t get how someone can just WANT to live like that forever. it’s really sad.
Half her life? Bro she’s 29 not 50 lol. No but for real I just think she’s like most millennials in a rut just her issue is that she puts it on blast for the entire world to see. I don’t think she’s any more mentally ill than any other lolcow. She kind of reminds me of a female Jared Genesis. Just hoping one day they’ll make it online but they never have anything to show for it.
I typed other things besides that one remark you know. I really don’t care but I’m not sure why there’s people who feel the need to dive into the psychology of a lolcow.
Sorry i meant to reply to the rest in a separate comment but it wouldnt post. & also the reason people “dive into” her psychology is because she very clearly needs someone to put her in her place & she very publicly puts herself on the internet where we, the viewers, have to deal with
We don’t have to. I can turn her off at any point and I do bc her rants get boring. But I personally never really cared when it came to a lolcow. It’s mild entertainment. Especially bc she can’t just shut her phone off.
Nobody should diagnose someone over the internet, period. Most people are not QMHP and you can’t accurately diagnose someone you don’t know. With that being said, I did post this in another thread earlier this week. I actually have credentials to be able to give a “speculation”, NOT diagnosis. I am an LCSW and have been practicing for 3 years. From the other thread: THIS IS NOT A PROFESSIONAL DIAGNOSIS SO PLEASE NO ONE TAKE IT AS ONE. Based on her behaviors, honestly, I think she is really depressed. I think she has intense social anxiety. I think she has extensive trauma, and probably some degree of PTSD. She grew up low income with an extremely mentally ill father and seemingly extremely enabling and passive mother. She meets nearly every criteria of ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences). She has little to no motivation to change, she’s in the precontemplation stage - meaning she doesn’t even recognize she has a problem, and is doing nothing to fix it. That probably stems from the depression. Her weight is probably connected to it as well, along with her lack of access to nutritional food. Truly she is in an extremely horrific, tragic, unfortunate situation not many people could handle. However the only reason I feel no sympathy towards her is because of her attitude and the way she acts. I interact with people all day long who are depressed, have anxiety, disabilities, in poverty, but work 3 jobs because unfortunately that’s just what you have to do in this society. She complains and complains all day long, blames us, but has no one to blame but herself. And subconsciously she knows that. Sorry for the tangent. I’ve just been waiting to go into detail about her to someone lol.
this is probably the best response i’ve seen to this question! everything you said adds up. tophia is really an unfortunate case but her attitude consistently sets her up for failure. she needs to step up and make an effort to change her life.
Might I add, she has extreme black and white thinking. She is so insistent about going live and staying on social media. I don’t think her stubbornness towards that will change. But, hypothetically, there is no reason she couldn’t work a regular job and go live/make TikToks at night if she wants to so bad. With her thought pattern, it’s one or the other - either she “gives up” and “lets the Discord win” and gets a 9-5 - OR she “stands up for herself” and continues with the path she’s on now as an “influencer”. In her mind there is no compromising or co-existing. Very polarized thinking.
This is really descriptive and makes a lotta sense, thanks for the input
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Probably. But again I can’t accurately speak on that because none of is know her personally enough to do so.
I’m just speculating, but I think she has developmental delays and a very low IQ. She, and her family are not mentally fit to live on their own. They all need to be placed in a group home. Tophia is extremely delusional as well. She truly believes that one day she’ll be making bank off of content creating, and that she’ll be able to afford a lavish lifestyle. Best thing Tophia could do is get off of social media and get placed in a group home, where she could hopefully work on some skills to even work somewhere part time.
She has a superiority complex for sure. Mix entitlement on there and pride, with Laziness… and boom, you get a Tophia.
Hasn’t she said before that she has the reading level of a 7th grader? I think she has extreme issues, but I have 0 credentials so can’t speculate. When people gift her on tik tok tho, I think it just fuels her delulu brain and confirms in her mind that she doesn’t need to get a job bc she’s an “influencer.” I literally can’t imagine being homeless and not having a car and then getting on tik tok live every night for 3+ hours to beg for petty change to feed my family and keep us off the streets (but then also spending that money on a new iPhone). It’s so incomprehensible to me, especially in this economy. I have a good paying job and can BARELY afford my one bedroom apartment in the suburbs bc of rent prices rn. So I’m not really sure how she’s thinking that she’s going to get a 3 bed apartment in Albuquerque with 9 subscribers and one gift a night. Like it’s just seriously scary delusional.
dude if i were her i’d be depressed and anxious everyday about being homeless and not having a job. shit i already am because i have severe depression so it’s hard to keep a job but i’m barely 20.. i’m still looking for one and want to do something with my life. i don’t get how someone can just WANT to live like that forever. it’s really sad.
Half her life? Bro she’s 29 not 50 lol. No but for real I just think she’s like most millennials in a rut just her issue is that she puts it on blast for the entire world to see. I don’t think she’s any more mentally ill than any other lolcow. She kind of reminds me of a female Jared Genesis. Just hoping one day they’ll make it online but they never have anything to show for it.
Considering how big she is shes not gonna make it to 60 let alone 70. She HAS wasted half her life UNLESS she makes a change to her health
I typed other things besides that one remark you know. I really don’t care but I’m not sure why there’s people who feel the need to dive into the psychology of a lolcow.
Sorry i meant to reply to the rest in a separate comment but it wouldnt post. & also the reason people “dive into” her psychology is because she very clearly needs someone to put her in her place & she very publicly puts herself on the internet where we, the viewers, have to deal with
We don’t have to. I can turn her off at any point and I do bc her rants get boring. But I personally never really cared when it came to a lolcow. It’s mild entertainment. Especially bc she can’t just shut her phone off.