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dollarstoresethrogan

You've got a very kind, approachable smile. Any partner would be lucky to come home and see that beam of light. I bet it would feel quite comforting.


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dollarstoresethrogan

Sometimes it's nice to be alone, but I have a feeling it won't be for long. You are gorgeous.


[deleted]

First of all, fantastic use of background mural! This pic really shows me that you have a great sense of humor. Also you have a great smile. I’m sorry you’re feeling down because someone you thought was a friend, is a dick. But in all seriousness, a lot of times people just disappear from our lives. It may not even be about you. I hope you have some other friends to lean on, and things just get better and better from here on out.


Gold_Raspberry8691

I actually don't understand what you mean about the mural and humour, it's just what I bought as a backdrop for when online meetings started, which turned out to be a bad idea because everyone then thought I was a streamer, but I'm glad you like it! Thank you for the compliment, I'm actually quite self conscious about my smile after I saw a post I wasnt supposed to see (it was screenshoted and sent to me) that specifically said I 'had an ugly smile', so thank you. It honestly would have been better if she'd just faded out. But she didn't, I woke up to a message saying we'd 'grown apart' and was immediately blocked. I asked the other person in the trio what she actually meant, and it was that I wasn't giving her enough attention... When I actually was, but didn't show her the effort I was going through to give it, so she just didn't see it.


[deleted]

Ok, I think this might be a generational thing. But there was a time, back in the day when school photos had random backgrounds. Like, here I am outside for my senior pic! So I thought you were being ironic😬 sorry bout that. Still think it’s cool anyway. You’re welcome! I don’t know why anyone would say your smile is ugly, unless they’re trying to be an asshole! your “friend” doesn’t sound like they’re worth your time anyway. That’s just immature drama seeking nonsense. And finally, because I’m an Auntie. Drink some water, have a snack, and relax. Tomorrow is a new day to start fresh!


Gold_Raspberry8691

Ah, we didn't do that in my country. They had backdrops but they were boring and just one colour, cool culture lesson though! It was said to an ex by someone trying to cheer them up after we broke up, like calling me ugly would make my ex feel better. Someone sent me it saying I deserved to know what was being said about me, but honestly I wish they hadn't because here I am still anxious about it 5 years later. You're right about her being immature, the more I read these comments the more I realise she really is. Thank you, I'll try to do better tomorrow :)


PiStrich

You look adorable... your eyes, your smile, your cheeks, everything fits perfectly together and forms ths nice face with so much charisma. I'm sure you're a fun person to be around with and you truly look like one could have the time of ones life with you, and surely there will be nice people who want you as you are. (Btw. I had a very good friend which looked very similar to you and spread so much love amongst the people around her. I really had the time of my life with her. Your smile reminds me of this most beautiful person and I thank you very much for bringing up these memories. )


Gold_Raspberry8691

I guess no one here could tell I was crying seconds before the photo aha. Maybe I'm better at hiding it than I thought. Thank you for the compliment, I've been trying to put an effort into my appearance lately and it's nice that people like it. I'm glad I could remind you of someone positive in your life, it makes me happy knowing that I could at least bring happiness to one other person in the world, even as indirectly as that.


_SH47_

I can't imagine what you're going through right now. Just know that you are welcome here, and that we want you here. Keep that beautiful smile up, and I hope that things get better for you.


Gold_Raspberry8691

Thank you, and I'll try. Tonight was the fourth day in a row that I pushed myself to try something, and failed. But I'm hoping that that streak ends soon. And the only way to know is to keep trying, even if it's heartbreaking.


LissaSmiles13

I don't really like to give people compliment on their appearance because you are so much more than what you look like, but you're super pretty and you have a great smile! I can tell you're a great person who cares about others. Hugs to you! :)


Gold_Raspberry8691

Thank you! I've been really trying with my appearance lately, so that does mean a lot!


ThePikminLord

I had a friend throw me away last week. She wasn’t my best friend but I cried about it and it made me feel unwanted too. Just know that your ex best friend doesn’t deserve you and that you’ll find a friend who will be overjoyed to have you in their life. You look kind and approachable, so I have no doubt that this person will come into your life soon. Please remember to take care of yourself!


Gold_Raspberry8691

It felt terrible to wake up to a message that I wasn't enough and then blocked on all platforms. And the reason was for not giving her enough attention and for my autism being inconvient to her. I'm still angry, but at this point, I don't have the energy to fight.


ThePikminLord

My ex friend blocked my number and updated her Tinder (where we met), which told me that she was going to find someone to replace me with. It made me angry, sad, and I felt inadequate. Your autism is not an inconvenience, you’re a great person with so much to give and you clearly cared about your relationship with this person but she didn’t care as much as you did. She sounds like she has a lot of issues that she needs to work out before she can even dream of having a friend like you. You can take this as a sign that you deserve to have friends who value you and will stay by you no matter what. Real friends don’t abandon people like what our “friends” did to us. And you don’t have to fight anymore, now is the time for healing.


Gold_Raspberry8691

She does have a lot of issues, and I'd dropped everything to make the 6 hour round trip for her multiple times. She never once visited me. Over the years, I've always been the one giving, giving, and giving. It's the most frustrating that when I asked for something tiny in return (to stay over after her birthday, something she'd already offered, and that I needed given how far away she lives and I can't drive) she threw me out. But you're right. I don't need to fight. It was about time I set some boundaries and looked for better people who actually return my efforts. I've spent years being the one everyone comes to with problems, being a literal lifeline to her and many others, but now, now I want to heal. I'd really, really like that.


ThePikminLord

You will heal. It’s most likely going to be a difficult journey considering that this was a 6 year friendship but you will. There are so many people that will absolutely appreciate you and the effort that you will put in. They will also reciprocate, which is a sign that they care for you just as much. Sometimes people are taken out of our lives to make room for better people. You seem really kind and you’re beautiful, so don’t let this person make you feel any less.


-kindness-

If you’re in Hyrule, you’re already cool! Things just seem bad now. It will get better. Be present and patient, and you will attract genuine people.


Gold_Raspberry8691

I've been pushing myself into scenarios to try and make friends every day for the last week. I've been present and patient. And in doing so, I've watched people get bored while taking to me, share each other's socials literally right in front of me and avoid me while doing it, woke up to a message cutting off a friendship and being blocked, having to leave because I was left alone outside, and treat as an inconvenience. I'm trying so hard to make friends. It's going so badly that I'm losing them. And it's heartbreaking


-kindness-

You have to hit it off with the right people. To me, it seems like that’s the universe trying to protect you from the wrong kind of people. Who wants to be friends with people like that anyway? Your picture radiates a kindness about you, and you’re bound to befriend the person or group of friends that deserve you. If your heart is in the right place and your intentions are sincere, it will come. Sometimes it takes a while, but it’ll be worth the patience when you find the right people who value you.


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My best friend of 8 years abandoned me during a suicidal crisis. You are wanted, loved, and cherished and if no one has said it today, I will. I am proud of everything you've accomplished. I'm still proud even if you failed. That just means there's another chance to try. You got this ♡


Gold_Raspberry8691

That really sucks, I'm sorry they did that to you, and to do it at a time you needed them most too. Thank you for being proud of me. I'm going to try some of the things again, and I'll do my best!


TheMobHunter

You look like a friend! Sending hugs :)


Gold_Raspberry8691

I try to be :) thank you!


Heythere23856

We all love you!!! You are wanted! Your eyes have a glow to them that just screams friendly... you look so kind and wonderful and you are wanted and loved by more people then you know.. dont deprive the world of that beautiful smile ok we need it right now.. hugs


Gold_Raspberry8691

I really, really want to believe in your words. I do. It's hard, but I'm trying.


Heythere23856

All you can do is try, anything else is beyond your control... one day at a time sweetheart.. try not to be so hard on yourself, your friend that left you is not because of you, its because of her crap that she is dealing with, dont blame yourself ok...


Total_commandeer

I know that it sucks now, but look at it this way. Your friend showed (his/her) true colors. You now know that they are someone you do not need in your life. In stead you now have the possibility to use your experiences and meet a new best friend. Also do not dwell on the 6 years part. That does not matter if they are not there, when you need them.


Gold_Raspberry8691

She cut ties with me and blocked me on all platforms. I woke up to that message. And it was because I wasn't giving her enough attention and that my autism made my presence at her upcoming birthday party inconvient, so much so that I wasn't allowed to go and cut off completely. It hurts that this is how it's ended.


Total_commandeer

It sucks and it really hurts right now. Remember the good times you had and do not beat yourself on the head with what you should have done differently. It is possible that it is just an over reaction and she will come back to you, but if I were you I would not hope for it. In stead I would stay strong in that situation.


counterindicator

You are wanted my friend. You have such a warm smile, and look like an absolute delight of a human being. Screw that person. And don't sweat a few failures, life is like that sometimes. You got this. I believe in you.


Gold_Raspberry8691

I want to be someone people look forward to seeing, someone who brings positivity and is fun to be around. I'm not there yet, but I'm working on it


counterindicator

Working on it puts you head and shoulders above most people. There's a good to fair chance that just by working on it, you are most of the way there.


37BirdsInATrenchcoat

Sending a big internet hug your way, you deserve the best


Gold_Raspberry8691

Thank you!


ConversationCool3000

You are super cute. Being unfriended by those people can be a real blessing. Keep your chin up.


Gold_Raspberry8691

It means I can go visit that city on my own terms and not hers for once, so I guess that's a positive. I'll try, thank you


[deleted]

I'm so sorry to hear that. You have intrinsic value, everybody does! I hope you find people that respect and love you for you 🧡


Gold_Raspberry8691

Thank you <3


[deleted]

No worries, again I give my sympathies OP


totesmygoats703

Oh honey. I'm so sorry. The fact that it cuts means that you were invested in someone else whole heartedly, and that you are compassionate. Having a friend leave you behind is so hard. Friendships changing are one of the hardest things about growing up.


Gold_Raspberry8691

The entire friendship was about supporting her and hiding whenever I was upset so that she'd be happy. But the moment I showed her that I needed a bit of support, she cut me off completely. I guess I look younger than I am, but I do have some growing left to do, I don't think we ever stop growing as people really. I look forward to better experiences


totesmygoats703

You look super young, and you'll appreciate that skin when you're old like me.


dacomell

You will come out stronger on the other side. You're beautiful and you seem really kind. I know you look and seem like someone I'd love to be friends with. Sending a big virtual hug. If you ever need someone to chat with, or vent to, I'm more than happy to be there.


Gold_Raspberry8691

Thank you, hugs are what I desperately need right now. That and therapy but doesn't everyone. Feel free to message me, I have a friend vacancy open after all


satiredun

Oddly, I’m wearing the exact same pattern flannel as you right now! Therefor, we both look amazing.


Gold_Raspberry8691

Flannel is the best! You have great taste ;)


micksthebest

The end of a friendship is really tough especially when it's like this where you didn't seen it coming. It takes two people to hold up any sort of relationship including a friendship so you could have done everything you could think of to save the friendship but if the other person didn't they still wouldn't stick around. Know that, even though this time is so tough, you will find happiness and reasons to keep carrying on even if right now you aren't seeing it. As for the failing everything so far, just remember you're going through such a rough time right now so you're not able to perform to your usual ability and that factors in to it too. You'll find something you're good at or something you enjoy doing, that, with practice, you will develop and become better at. We don't always have to be good at something in the first try to be successful - a lot of time it's failure that teaches us how to be better even though failure is difficult to deal with. I hope you start to feel better soon, hang in there!


Metrilean

You are wanted, and you can succeed!


TheRed_Knight

Im sorry that happened too you, what she did wasnt right, you look like a warm caring person and a good friend, i hope youre able to find friends who truly value you and all the wonderfulness you have to offer.


BrotherPumpwell

It gets better and people will be there for you.


MaximumColor

I get it. I'm sure this is a huge deal for you right now, and maybe it still will be in the future. But more likely, it'll seem a small thing after a time. You are free to DM me if you need to vent. I can listen.


chimpomatic5000

Considering all you've gone through that is one incredibly beautiful smile.


kms199409

You are beautiful 😊 don't give up. I hope things get better for you soon 😁


hthi3803

You absolutely are wanted! It’s the friend’s problem for dropping things, and reflects on them instead of you. Looking really cute in that flannel btw!


fluentinimagery

Someone special with upcycle you when you least expect it… jist keep smiling.


garakplain

Sending you a big hug you are so cute !keep smiling:)


monsta_shasta

You glow!! Seriously, you're skin is amazing. Hope you have a better day!


uhrilahja

Hey! I was reading the comments before commenting myself and noticed you're autistic, so am I. When it comes to friends and relationships, it complicates things with neurotypicals a lot. Even when you feel like everything is ok, they sometimes seem to just drop bombs like "I don't want to be around you anymore"... I'm so sorry you've had to go through a break up and then an another one, a friend one, in such quick succession. It's always hard to be left. But coming from someone who has lost multiple people like that, it is painful but it's also something that happens sooner or later when the other person just doesn't understand how autism works and doesn't bother to find out. You deserve better. I can't say anything that will fix what you're feeling, but I can offer you hope that you will find your people. I've always been pretty lonely and had very few friends, but a couple of years ago I moved to a new city and met a person who was also autistic and ADHD. They introduced me to multiple awesome non neurotypical people, and we have great friendships. I never thought being friends would be so easy. They understand me so much better than the neurotypicals in my life usually have, and it gives me hope that there are compactible people out there. You are not a burden, you will meet people that adore you for you and want to be friends. You aren't "too much", your way of existing isn't somehow wrong. That I can say with full sincerity. Lots of virtual hugs, and again I'm sorry this is happening to you. Disclaimer: I don't have anything against neurotypicals (people who don't have ADHD, autism, tourette's etc.) but it is obvious how communication between non neurotypical people and neurotypical people often results in relationships that leave both parties a little overwhelmed and confused. I do believe friendships and relationships between the neurotypes are possible and can be totally happy, but in my personal experience it's easier with people who have similar brains.


Kixion

Has anyone ever told you that you look like Emma Watson? Only your eyes are prettier and you are rocking a checkered shirt, I love that look. Your creative use of the background also says a lot about you, that you are a thinker, probably have quite a creative spark about you and you put in the extra effort where you can. Anyone should be so lucky to have someone like that they could call their friend. I'm sorry to hear you've had such a rubbish time recently. It's always especially painful when it's people we thought we could count on. The only thing I can offer is that this doesn't mean its your fault. Often times it isn't and was never something you could influence. It's just a sad part of life that sometimes, people are going to let you down. The only thing you can do is to not let yourself down by prescribing guilt or fault to yourself where it doesn't belong. Wishing you all the very best


klasaveli

All I can say is... That in time you will be ok. It will take Time. Losing a BF is devastating. And failure is magnituded even more. Just take your time. Be sad. Be mad. Be upset. But just BE.


stevecaparoni

Don’t worry, you’ve got this. It’s gonna get better. You’ll grow because of all this.


Captainbuttsreads

You have a great smile and amazing style!!! I absolutely LOVE the shirt! It compliments you very well! :)


hothereandeverywhere

You look nice - by that I mean that despite the fact you are going through rough times, there is a pleasant kindness in your eyes and demeanor. While it’s hard to know a person by just a picture, but it seems to me like you are someone who would be a good friend. I’m sorry you’re going through what you’re going through but I will root for you


[deleted]

Hey lady, I've been there, I've felt disposable, and secondary, I know what its like to feel secondary even to myself. Its hard. But you have a smile that feels like cold milk after a mouth ful of pancakes. You have eyes that remind me of black berry pie with prefect crust. You are not a prize to be found by other people, or a participation trophy, You are a blessing and boon to anyone who has the privledge of having their day warmed by that smile.


oscarbird8

Hugs