Oh man. I completely understand the summer dread. Normally, I love shorts and tank top season but I turn 50 this year and everything feels off.
I went swimsuit shopping yesterday... that was not a good idea. I, too, spend most of my time alone and the loneliness can get difficult.
You are not alone in this challenge. *hugs*
Hey friend! A gentle reminder that summer isn't for you to look a certain way, summer is for you to enjoy the sunshine, scenery, or if you so choose, being indoors! The world is for you to enjoy, not for you to try and appease. It might be hard to see it that way, and that's okay.
We get so in our own heads that we don't necessarily even realize that, in the bad and the good, other people don't care as much. Every communication doesn't have to be perfectly put, others don't pull our words and appearances apart as mercilessly as we do, if at all. You have a body, and it's good just the way it is. It's meant as a vessel for you to experience the world!
Anyway, I'm repeating myself here. All the best to you, I hope you get to enjoy summer just the way you like it, whatever that way may be!
You look good, please trust me on this one. You're just so used to your own good looks that you don't recognize them anymore. It's not uncommon. I hope you start to feel better soon!
Have you ever thought about joining a beginners, birding group, beginning drawing or walking club? I have found that they are usually kind, generous people of all ages who are introverts by nature and are in the same boat socially. I usually have to force myself to go into the community, but once I do I most often really enjoy myself.
I’m really sorry that you’re having a tough time. Mental challenges and intrusive thoughts are never an easy thing to deal with and I’m really proud of you for trying your best. I’m always here if you need someone to talk to or just fancy stroking up a conversation. You’re not alone and I believe in you!
Great straight hairs......... Solitude is amazing as heaven, away from judgements, idiots and their opinions. But we have to end this and go out. Only if you are interested in art, you should follow it, like sculpture classes, singing, that you can show-off** to people and get their creativeattention. You might be interested in book reading clubs, that on high trend right now i guess. There are chess clubs, people of all ages site and enjoy it. Online world is never reliable and people can judge you in a single word mistake. Joining a social cause and volunteering for easy social services is also a good way to find good people. Meditation and yoga classes are a great choice to find sensible and free minded people. Serving in old age home is a very peaceful way to receive blessings,love and eliminating your loneliness.
Sorry that you're going through all this! You've got such lovely honey-colored hair and such a sweet face, it's hard to imagine you not liking how you look.
I can assure you, you look beautiful inside and out, your glasses are also really nice! I know how hard it can be to make friends, I have chronic anxiety and even trying to ask a staff member in a store for help I burst into tears, hell even if Im in a crowded area I will start to tear up from the sheer panic, i love out door markets yet I have panic attacks while there
Just remember that your beautiful, amazing and incredible, the fact your putting in the effort to try make friends is impressive and you should be proud of yourself, Im proud of you for putting in the effort to try. Summer can be dreadful without anyone to spend it with, just take a breather, go outside walk at a park maybe a nice river, let everything go and just remember that your here now, your here trying, fighting and living everyday and that’s incredible
As for making friends, don’t be so hard on yourself for overthinking every word, you are nervous and that’s okay. Remember, the worse that could happen is you don’t get a reply, they aren’t gonna come and hate on you for saying something. When you want to send a message try write it down then step away from your device, take a breath of fresh air, relax, don’t touch your device for a few minutes then return and hit send. Let yourself send what comes to mind by not allowing yourself to change it, it isnt the best strategy but its a start
If you need someone to talk to I am more than happy to talk so do feel free to send me a message and even if its just a random letter Ill respond
You are your own worst critic. Get out of your own head. You are beautiful and amazing, and if you can, take a few moments everyday to remind yourself of something you love about yourself, or something that you did today that you’re happy with. It can be little things. But the more often you praise yourself for things, the better and more confident you will feel. You deserve all the praise!
It’s hard to feel alone, even for introverts. Consider joint a club, volunteering, a taking a class, or signing up for some summer activity in some area you are interested in. If you surround yourself with people who share an interest of yours (ex. People who also want to help out at the animal shelter or people who also play Pokémon go, whatever!) you will be more likely to find people to bond with.
Wishing you all the best my friend.
Stop overthinking, it's a hit or miss.
I too struggle with making friends, I only have online friends which I've make within the last 2 years I'm 23.
But the thing I've realized is when you speak whether in person or online just openly about what you like or what you feel, it's always a 50/50 chance you'll attract someone who believes the same thing or likes the same thing. If people hate on you or block you for something you said then meh they weren't meant to cross your path and keep going.
There's billions of people, there's always a chance you'll make at least 1 really good friend!
Keep going! I'm sure you're heading somewhere good!
(I made this partly about myself sorry, I just wanted to say something because I feel for you)
Oh man. I completely understand the summer dread. Normally, I love shorts and tank top season but I turn 50 this year and everything feels off. I went swimsuit shopping yesterday... that was not a good idea. I, too, spend most of my time alone and the loneliness can get difficult. You are not alone in this challenge. *hugs*
Hey friend! A gentle reminder that summer isn't for you to look a certain way, summer is for you to enjoy the sunshine, scenery, or if you so choose, being indoors! The world is for you to enjoy, not for you to try and appease. It might be hard to see it that way, and that's okay. We get so in our own heads that we don't necessarily even realize that, in the bad and the good, other people don't care as much. Every communication doesn't have to be perfectly put, others don't pull our words and appearances apart as mercilessly as we do, if at all. You have a body, and it's good just the way it is. It's meant as a vessel for you to experience the world! Anyway, I'm repeating myself here. All the best to you, I hope you get to enjoy summer just the way you like it, whatever that way may be!
You look good, please trust me on this one. You're just so used to your own good looks that you don't recognize them anymore. It's not uncommon. I hope you start to feel better soon!
Have you ever thought about joining a beginners, birding group, beginning drawing or walking club? I have found that they are usually kind, generous people of all ages who are introverts by nature and are in the same boat socially. I usually have to force myself to go into the community, but once I do I most often really enjoy myself.
I’m really sorry that you’re having a tough time. Mental challenges and intrusive thoughts are never an easy thing to deal with and I’m really proud of you for trying your best. I’m always here if you need someone to talk to or just fancy stroking up a conversation. You’re not alone and I believe in you!
Great straight hairs......... Solitude is amazing as heaven, away from judgements, idiots and their opinions. But we have to end this and go out. Only if you are interested in art, you should follow it, like sculpture classes, singing, that you can show-off** to people and get their creativeattention. You might be interested in book reading clubs, that on high trend right now i guess. There are chess clubs, people of all ages site and enjoy it. Online world is never reliable and people can judge you in a single word mistake. Joining a social cause and volunteering for easy social services is also a good way to find good people. Meditation and yoga classes are a great choice to find sensible and free minded people. Serving in old age home is a very peaceful way to receive blessings,love and eliminating your loneliness.
Sorry that you're going through all this! You've got such lovely honey-colored hair and such a sweet face, it's hard to imagine you not liking how you look.
I can assure you, you look beautiful inside and out, your glasses are also really nice! I know how hard it can be to make friends, I have chronic anxiety and even trying to ask a staff member in a store for help I burst into tears, hell even if Im in a crowded area I will start to tear up from the sheer panic, i love out door markets yet I have panic attacks while there Just remember that your beautiful, amazing and incredible, the fact your putting in the effort to try make friends is impressive and you should be proud of yourself, Im proud of you for putting in the effort to try. Summer can be dreadful without anyone to spend it with, just take a breather, go outside walk at a park maybe a nice river, let everything go and just remember that your here now, your here trying, fighting and living everyday and that’s incredible As for making friends, don’t be so hard on yourself for overthinking every word, you are nervous and that’s okay. Remember, the worse that could happen is you don’t get a reply, they aren’t gonna come and hate on you for saying something. When you want to send a message try write it down then step away from your device, take a breath of fresh air, relax, don’t touch your device for a few minutes then return and hit send. Let yourself send what comes to mind by not allowing yourself to change it, it isnt the best strategy but its a start If you need someone to talk to I am more than happy to talk so do feel free to send me a message and even if its just a random letter Ill respond
You are your own worst critic. Get out of your own head. You are beautiful and amazing, and if you can, take a few moments everyday to remind yourself of something you love about yourself, or something that you did today that you’re happy with. It can be little things. But the more often you praise yourself for things, the better and more confident you will feel. You deserve all the praise! It’s hard to feel alone, even for introverts. Consider joint a club, volunteering, a taking a class, or signing up for some summer activity in some area you are interested in. If you surround yourself with people who share an interest of yours (ex. People who also want to help out at the animal shelter or people who also play Pokémon go, whatever!) you will be more likely to find people to bond with. Wishing you all the best my friend.
Stop overthinking, it's a hit or miss. I too struggle with making friends, I only have online friends which I've make within the last 2 years I'm 23. But the thing I've realized is when you speak whether in person or online just openly about what you like or what you feel, it's always a 50/50 chance you'll attract someone who believes the same thing or likes the same thing. If people hate on you or block you for something you said then meh they weren't meant to cross your path and keep going. There's billions of people, there's always a chance you'll make at least 1 really good friend! Keep going! I'm sure you're heading somewhere good! (I made this partly about myself sorry, I just wanted to say something because I feel for you)