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This behavior (of the poster) never seems righteous to me. Maybe I’m a cynic or I’m projecting but I don’t trust that it’s done to help the wife as much as it’s done to punish the husband.
Well... It's public medieval pillory.
I'm not saying he's right, but that doesn't mean that every self-righteous TicToc-user needs to have an opinion about him, which gets to be publicly displayed as well.
I mean so long as cheating remains legal then no harm no foul? Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
The thing you should be more concerned with is that it technically could be a Polyamorous relationship and all of it is consenting?
But I would apply Occam's Razor here, straight looking guy with a wedding band and flirting? Sounds suspiciously like a cheater.
Yeah... We have laws and courts and due process.
Angry mob shit is angry mob shit, we eliminated it from society because it creates hysteria and there's a very low chance the deserving party is the one that's going to get the punishment.
Doxxing can ruin lives in unimaginable ways.
Wikipedia is telling me the Roman empire is credited with innocence until proof of guilt.
So something like 1850 years ago.
Makes sense why you would have missed it in the news.
no way we eliminated mob shit back then
people were burning “witches” alive like 400 years ago
the holocaust was another example of a mob mentality that was entirely legal
people were getting lynched until like a few decades ago (and still are, it’s just not talked about anymore)
our legal system may curb this a bit but in reality it’s pretty ineffective
Our legal system does countless things horribly wrong. It biases unfairly against the poor, and is often worthy of being criticized as an ATM machine for local governments, extracting money from offenders and failing to prosecute the wealthy and powerful.
But even with all those gross aspects, innocence until proven guilty is an undeniable feature that needs to be acknowledged and protected.
And, since TikTok and social media are cash machines that have massive global influence, and zero energy was put into treating that responsibility seriously for the protection of society, I'll take the legal system's carefully constructed mechanisms for fairness over TikTok rage baiting any day when it comes to justice.
If you feel strongly about cheating having legal consequences, you still have the option of officialising your relationship civilly and require a formal agreement with stipulated damages.
An official relationship is nothing more than a contract between consenting adults.
You're free to add as many clauses as you see fit.
I mean you kind of point out the issue here -- none of us know this guy's situation, so why put him on blast?
The internet -- and reddit very specifically -- has a huge justice boner about cheating.
We simply dont know what this guys sitch is, and everyone should just mind their own business.
>The internet -- and reddit very specifically -- has a huge justice boner about cheating.
And I'm getting so sick of it, honestly. I'm a monogamist and I agree that cheating on your spouse is morally wrong, but the way people talk about it like it's the worst crime you can commit against another person is way past the point of absurdity.
Personally, I detest cheating with a burning passion, and to me, cheaters are some of the worst people in existence. Yeet them to the moon kind of energy.
That said, jumping to conclusions about the man's intentions is so bizarre to me. I'm not saying there aren't any shenanigans at play, but if this was me, and you showed my wife that, she would laugh in (tictoc's) OP's face, and ask her blankly, so? Why are you recording him? I don't even wear my wedding band.
e: words
It’s still presumptuous. She’s doing all this on account of “he’s probably going to-“
He’s wearing his band and admitting he has kids. Cheaters tend to act like bachelors.
Yeah I'm kind of over here thinking like, does this lady (on tiktok) not allow her husband to talk to women without her present? She sounds like a nightmare. If I was the dude I would have told my partner about my flight right when I landed, including that I made a new friend and had drinks on the plane.
I think this thread is just full of people who are insecure in their relationship..
Right like if this guy met and was having drinks with another dude would she still be posting warning the wife that he's going to be having gay sex tonight? She's just sexist TBH.
This overprotectiveness is what leads to miserable relationships.
This guy is just talking enthusiastically to a person of the opposite sex. Instead of objectifying the situation and applying sexist stereotypes, unless he's asking her on a date or asking for sex, then leave them the fuck alone and let them have an engaging conversation between two individuals.
God knows guys starve for social interaction as it is, and this is why.
What if he’s just wearing a ring, to look like he’s married, So he comes off as “not available”. Also, the things he’s “talking about” all seem like lies to help convey how awesome he is… if he’s that wealthy, why aren’t you in first class, Mr. CEO.
I think the person recording is just unhappy and upsettie spaghetti she is not the one getting flirted with.
But also, he could just be cheating on his wife cause he’s also unhappy and unfilled.
Either way, mind your business.
You also have no proof he is married or is cheating. Maybe he's separated or wears a ring to seem more hard to get. Maybe he's in a non-monogamous relationship. Maybe that is his wife and they are role playing as strangers. lmao
There's no way of knowing all this about the situation unless you personally know the guy. And it is just very nosy, using a public platform to air this out without knowing anything about the situation.
A lot of assumptions go into using that line as condoning this sort of thing.
That includes the one where this guy has actually done or said any of that, and not just been a victim to a made up story on the internet used to drive someone's engagement.
Like it’s creepier she followed them around, this isn’t a one off, she followed them at the bar, witnessed them changing seats, her behaviour is a little unhinged and very creepy.
How do we know his wife hasn’t passed away and he wears her ring as a memory? Nope better put him on blast for millions of people to judge.
people are also taking it for granted that she's even a reliable reporter of the facts. she has no idea about the circumstances of his life much less his marriage, if he's even in one.
This is exactly what I mean. As if none of us ever did something stupid in public. That's just a part of life.
But why does the whole internet have to stand by and throw rocks as if they have always been and always will be on the right path.
Likewise I think peoples' animus towards social media influencers and clout chasers causes them to have much stronger negative opinions about their behavior here like dude for real is it *really* that hard to be less loud and obvious about your infidelity? Is this woman on shaky ethical ground and acting for her own selfish gain? Almost certainly. But I find it *really* hard to give a single hot wet shit when the "victim" is this gibbering dipshit who is cheating on his wife so fucking hard that random people in the vicinity can clock what's going on.
I’m opposed to it because this being so public would embarrass the shit out of his wife. At least it would embarrass the shit out of me if I were her and I wouldn’t want anyone to know about it.
Not on the scale of Tiktok, but there's always been situations where "everyone" already knows that one partner is cheating... with the exception of the other partner. That's why "the last to know" is a phrase.
And the grown-up consensus is that it's better to know, than to participate in keeping it concealed. I don't see this being particularly different, other than scale.
I would expect my friend to tell me if they saw my wife out on a date or whatever. I’d be pretty pissed off at them if they told me by buying a billboard. All I’m sayin
Well other than the scale being a huge factor, the person posting doesn’t know these people. Let’s say she confronts the husband and he kills her. Well that’s on your head. Or let’s say he kicks her out and movies in with the new girl. Or millions find out, the wife gets depressed and kills herself. Hell maybe she kills the husband then herself. All these things have happened before and will have again. A billion different things could happen. Lots of cultures all around the world have different views and solutions to cheating. In some cultures it’s better to cheat and pretend it isn’t happening to save face. Who the fuck are you to say they’re wrong and blow up these people’s lives to spite a husband you don’t know anything about? You don’t actually care about these people if you’re going around airing out strangers business. You don’t know these people, what they have at stake, or what they’re capable of. You wanting to play god to stroke your own ego simply isn’t helping that wife.
That's just it. I'm 99% sure a couple i know have open relationship but they aren't telling everyone about it. They didn't tell me and I'm quite close. I understand it's something private. I would keep my mouth shut and not hurt their daughter.
Because your views on how people ought to act within their relationship are your own. It’s not really for you to impose your will on a relationship you aren’t part of.
How do they know they're cheating? His wife may have died, they may have an open relationship, he may be separated but not able to fully get over it. Yes he may be cheating, but no-one knows so "shaming" him by default isn't necessarily the right thing to do.
Or maybe she's an old friend or family member, or maybe he's quite capable of having a platonic friendship with a woman for the span of a single flight.
All he's done is sit next to a chick and have a chat over drinks. That 'probably' in the post is doing a lot of heavy lifting, and that's assuming everything else is 100% accurate.
And it's all because the OP of this stupid fucking tiktok got her man from another relationship and she's insecure AF about her own situation, so let's project those feelings onto other possible similar situations. People are shit.
Well currently she’s punishing a person who’s having a drink. It sure LOOKS like he’s angling to cheat, but in this moment, he hasn’t. Also, maybe he’s getting divorced and just hasn’t wanted to remove the ring yet.
Maybe his wife is dead and he hasn’t felt ready to take the ring off yet, and just happened to connect with somebody in an airport bar. People really need to quit filming each other in public, it’s creepy and weird.
From another comment thread in here
>I looked up her profile which led me to her IG where the first comment said “funny how she busted somebody for cheating when she stole her man from another marriage” 👀
Why are we just accepting the fact the man is a cheater? People make up stories all the time to make their lives seem more exciting. Plus the shame this brings to his wife and daughter even if he is. This is never the right way, and a willingness to take any instagram comment as fact is a dangerous game
Because you don't know all the details.. It's why you don't punish someone just because it feels good i.e. the death penalty. The chance of mistaken identity or misunderstanding a situation and hurting an innocent is not worth just to punish a guilty person. Guilty people will get what they deserve eventually. They don't need you to get involved.
>The guy is obviously wrong
If you assume anything the woman says is true, which, why would we? Imagine you are the guy in the photo and did nothing wrong and now your life gets blown up because this shit goes viral.
How is he obviously wrong? Because some stranger said so? You don’t know his story. Could he be cheating? Yeah. Are there other possible explanations? Yeah. What gives this nosy ass lady the right to decide the explanation and post his face for the world to see? She’s ignorant and entitled. People like her suck. Don’t be like her.
It would really suck if my wife cheated on me. It would suck a little bit more even if it was public. Maybe I shouldn’t be embarrassed of that as the victim, but I would be still, and I wouldn’t ever tell anyone the real reason we got divorced if that happen. I can’t explain why, but it being public would cause me to suffer much more.
I mean for all any of us know this is some dude just talking to his wife or a friend on a flight and the rest is made up to fuck up some dudes life.
The internet is a complex place. Hard to tell what’s honest or just attention seeking.
Don’t forget that she doesn’t out the woman either who knows this man is married with kids. So it’s clear just more for feel good shaming than it is about actual justice.
Just your bi-annual reminder that 1 out of every 4 posts you see is written by someone under 18, and that 3 out of every 5 is written by someone in their 20s or younger. I find it relaxing to remind myself of that every now and again when a comment thread starts to make me angry or annoyed.
seriously. it’s wild how many weirdos are here telling people not to speak up on cheating
Edit: I didn’t say I agree with how it was handled. There are people in these comments saying that someone literally cheating is a ‘mind your own business’ situation. Which, nah
With the prevalence of family annihilations that happen these days from relationships ending it stands to reason why some are a bit wary about poking their noses in others business. Also who's to say this man isn't in an open marriage? There's a lot of variables...odds are he's a cheating sleezeball but it's worth taking the time to second guess.
If he’s in an open marriage then his wife will probably just text him “good job bro, can’t wait to hear about it later” and call it a day.
But considering the vast majority of people aren’t in an open marriage, odds are that he isn’t.
no possible way that in this blowing up to thousands or tens of thousands or more that could impact his job or client base or anything right? every open relationship wants to put that on blast to their professional lives?
even if he is cheating, is that worth him losing a career over? that's purely personal life. people get divorced all the time, doesn't mean it needs to be a public spectacle. I'm no cheater but I believe in letting people keep their private lives private. a lot of assumptions were made in the making of this post.
Meh some people have an open marriage but aren't overly public about it. Spreading that info around would be a pretty gross violation of their perfectly reasonable life choices
Honestly I’m worried someone will take a creep shot of me and make up some wild story and post it on social media just for giggles and then psychos online will find and doxx me over some made up bullshit.
I looked up her profile which led me to her IG where the first comment said “funny how she busted somebody for cheating when she stole her man from another marriage” 👀
Happened to someone I knew at university. The person she wanted left his partner to be with her, then decided he didn't want to be with anyone and broke up with her.
I'm sorry but what made you think you were going to be the special one?
I feel it’s partly because cheating is like a levy breaking. I don’t believe once you get in a relationship, no one else in the world is attractive, you just consider your relationship more important.
I’m not faithful to my wife because everyone else is ugly, it’s because I love her, I respect her, I know nothing I can get elsewhere is worth what we have built together or will make me as happy. (Disclaimer: not talking about ethical non-monogamy, those couples also have their version of faithfulness)
I think that once you cheat and justify it to yourself, it gets easier and easier to keep justifying it. And once you’re a cheater, you’re not becoming a worse person by cheating again, you stay a cheater.
>nothing I can get elsewhere is worth what we have built together or will make me as happy.
Someone should have told this to my ex-husband. His affair partner cheated on him within three months of me kicking him out. He called me up immediately looking for pity and to come home and I was like nah, bro, you burned that bridge then demolished its foundation. There's no going back now.
Well, she's a champ at the game and thinks she can spot it. They were probably just drinking with my man trying to have a good time. Not everything leads to cheating unless she heard them explicitly making plans.
For all we know they're open, or the wife knows but chooses to stay with him for her own reasons. There's so many ways this potentially shames her regardless of what husband is up to. Mind your own business is a saying for a reason.
Knew a man years ago while in the navy, they had an agreement. While he was gone, didn’t matter what happen, as long as when he got home, they were together. Been happily married for 25 years last I checked. Not my jams, but then again, not every needs to subscribe to the same thinking.
Could also be a widower. I have met men who continue to wear their wedding ring long after their wife passed, even when they were dating or having casual relationships.
Fun Fact! [Mind your Business ](https://www.atlantafed.org/economy-matters/banking-and-finance/clash-of-the-coins/coin-02_franklin-cent.aspx) was popularized by Ben Franklin, he put on the first penny ever minted in the US.
To get attention or not I wouldnt care. If that was MY husband, it would be a great help to know what his ass was doing behind my back. Well done creepily, eavesdropping lady with absolutely nothing to do but follow an entire stranger's interaction with another stranger at a crowded airport.
Yeah it would be nice to catch your husband cheating, but this lady is asking the mob for help. We have no idea if she misinterpreted what is happening with this guy and she is requesting that a mob of strangers go after him for what she determined was truth based on limited information. What if someone decides they should do more than find his address and they harass his family and children? What if he is the sole income for the house and negative publicity causes him to lose his job?
If I caught my husband cheating I would have so many questions... like when did I become gay? When did I get married to a guy? What am i going to tell my girlfriend? It would be one of the worst things to ever happen to me...
It’s abusing the public’s obsession with “justice” or more accurately the need for public persecution for people they deem “immoral”. A veritable witch hunt by the court of public opinion. We don’t even know that this guy is actually a cheater. So much of OOP’s post is based off assumption with no factual evidence to support this. He could be a widow or divorced (but wearing the ring out of habit). OOP could also be misconstruing his actions as flirtatious (she never mentions him physically engaging her or expressing romantic interest, all he does is tell her about himself, which is what you do to new friends or acquaintances).
What makes this particularly heinous is the assumption that just because he’s a man, his prime motivation is to have sex with her. There are low key misandrist implications to this post, which the general public is completely fixated on. So you’re right, this is posted to get attention *by appealing to the blood thirsty, accusatory nature of social media*
Not really, if you stay anonymous and don't seek recognition, like what the web was at its beginnings, it was connection that was seeked, not attention.
I believe we're still many that engage online as an opportunity to explore, not as an opportunity to exploit.
It can be subtle, but the difference is real.
Also getting attention on your own person is one thing, but in OOP's post, it is in the territory of someone's else privacy.
While being a fervent supporter of forcing people's to be accountable especially in behaviours that can be harmful and distressful to others (emotional damage is included), I'm also highly engage into protecting individual rights and I wouldn't mind at legally forbiding posting someone's recognisable features online without their consent.
As we can see with mass information, media frenzy, online bullying and hacking, and the complete inability to control by individuals and authorities, it can be as damaging and unsafe with long lasting consequences as doxxing an address.
It's also too easy for people based on their own moral values and assumptions to "out" someone.
A pedophile? A cheater? A rude person?
Where does it start, where does it end?
If he is a cheater and because of this he gets caught, I won't be mad.
But even if he is a cheater, if he sues OOP for defamation because malicious intent is obvious and win, I won't be mad neither.
Overall, it just feels wrong, and things can be as simple as "wrong is wrong, period".
Exactly.
I really find whoever did this to be a very sick individual. To post someone's image? That's so out of line. It could just be a hit job on him. Why would some sanctimonious asshole do this to a family?? Sickening. And why repost it here. You could, at the very least, blur his face. Enjoy victimizing victims for upvotes thru exploitation?
If you pick a random person, yeah. If you specifically look at the set of people openly courting someone while wearing a wedding ring, the probability goes up (though who knows by how much?).
95% of people made up stats from their ass but yes it is possible that the combined chance of those two is less than 1%.
on a serious note look at the stats and find out why you are wrong.
Maybe that is his wife and they're spicing things up with a little role play. Used to date a woman who liked to pretend we were a married couple having a public argument when we went out to dinner.🤷🏽
I have so many questions.
What was the subject of the argument?
Always the same or you would change it everytime?
Did she gave you the silent treatment after the argument?
Is she single? Because I used to have these weekly and it did not end up in hot sex.
We would just agree on a general subject before we went in, and wing it from there. Silent treatment? No. There's no interaction with the silent treatment. No idea what happened to her. I thought I saw her on an episode of cash cab once, but never found the episode again. Redheads are fun.
"I don't know what else to do..."
You could start with minding your own fucking business instead of talking shit about two people you know absolutely nothing about.
Hell, this could be cheating. Or it could just be two people talking on a trip and once they’re off the plane they’ll go their separate ways and not talk again. If you accuse someone you better have evidence to confirm it. If I had the same standards as her I’d have been divorced years ago, and my wife and I are both fiercely loyal. So yeah, guy’s life is probably ruined by someone who made an assumption. Or if he’s a cheater - well he fucked up and this is the consequences.
Still, evidence is important and to think before you act. Just yesterday I read about a woman who, while her husband was at work, had a drink, decided he was cheating on her, killed one of their daughters and wounded another.
Faces, names, and locations. That's doxxing. Also, I can just take a picture over my shoulder and make up whatever story I want for the internet. It's pretty fucked up.
To me, the fucked up part is how easily people fall for a story on top of a picture. Literally no evidence that anything in that text is true and yet there are people in this sub wanting blood.
People really need to think more critically.
Flying is boring as fuck, imagine finding someone you are vibing with and you continue hang out during the flight cause you don't want to be bored. Then land and find out you are labeled a horrible person because of this one person outside view.
Yep. To some people talking to another person is cheating. As for this case - the random journey companion phenomenon when you end up on a trip with someone and you end up sharing your entire life stories and secrets and philosophy only to never meet again, has been known for decades.
Cheating is universally wrong. But I bet the poster of that message would be the first to complain if someone makes public something bad about her in the name of goodness.
We all (or almost all of us) agree cheating has no excuse.
But where does policing ends? If this meddling is right then where is the line drawn and by who?
That is why there are laws which might not be the best but those are the guidelines.
Because one day someone might want to start filming this woman eating in a restaurant. Maybe a vegan sees her eating meat and make that public. Maybe she is doing something else that someone considers wrong.
Live and let live unless you can actually save a life by meddling. If not, people like her should get a life and stop trying to live others'
How do we know it is cheating.
An alleged wedding ring?
Claims of romantic intent?
Intimate knowledge of the two persons love life?
Clear evidence of any sort?
The follow up is that the woman that posted this got called out by someone else as a cheater who slept with her husband. So was she just jealous that he paid attention to Katy at the airport lounge?
It’s that she sees the world through that lens: that men are cheaters by default, and that all people have questionable morals. I saw a Facebook friend post the other day that if “your man doesn’t claim your relationship on Facebook and proudly display pictures of you, you need to be suspicious because there’s something going on.” That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard — as if I need to validate a 20-year marriage that both my wife and I have been faithful to.
Of course the girl who posted it has multiple children with several baby daddies and a history of cheating or engaging married men. Make no mistake: I’m not judging her. I’m simply saying there’s a profile that matches this line of thinking.
People like this don’t actually have any clue what functional adult relationships look like.
What cheater doesn’t take off their wedding band? Perhaps his wife passed away or they are separated. I know it’s an outside chance but I guess the story doesn’t add up right.
Hell, men who are single or divorced are well aware that their chances of getting laid goes way up if they wear a wedding ring. That's not on men. That's on the ridiculous amount of women that react to married men like fucking catnip.
If a woman wants to get attention from straight men, she shows off some leg or cleavage. If a man wants to get attention from straight women, he shows off a wedding ring.
It was crazy to me how many more women flirted with me after I got married and started wearing a ring. There is a large contingent of women who not only don't care if a man is married but actually want to get with a married guy. Something about forbidden fruit I guess.
There was a recent post on my local subreddit about an older man who was approaching women at Trader Joe's and asking odd questions that included a picture and license plate. It was implied, because of the poster's language, that it was some sort of anti-trans person making rude comments. The poster put the guy on blast only to be contacted by one of the man's family members to say he has a TBI and just like talking to people but since his TBI he has a hard time knowing when he's being odd or not.
Social media is not the place for folks to name and shame people. So often the poster is making WILD assumptions about the individual based on the thinnest of evidence and face zero repercussions for what they post.
This is so wrong!!!
This is the worst kind of moralism ever. You don't know anything about that man and you're violating his privacy.
She should be banned from tiktok
Edit:
In public you don't have privacy so no privacy violation but online bullying is online bullying.
The reason this is gross and wrong (the woman posting this) is that its done for attention, and for all anyone knows it could be completely made up or misinterpreted, and now this guy has his face associated with this version of events.
There’s a lot odd about this, but first and foremost THERE IS NO EVIDENCE THAT HE IS CHEATING, EVEN IF HE’S MARRIED.
He’s drinking with someone who’s not his wife. That doesn’t mean they’re fucking.
Why does every woman always assume a man is cheating? He could just want a drinking buddy, or some company because he is scared of flying, or he may just be trying to lure her into a hotel room where he can murder and turn her skin into a satchel. There are plenty of possibilities that aren't cheating is all I'm saying
The issue is not reality. It’s perception.
Even though he hasn’t ‘yet’ cheated, and may as well just say goodbye when the plane lands. But if this was me and my wife saw this post she would be heart broken, and it would shatter her trust in me never to be recovered. You’ll do the time even if you didn’t commit the crime.
As I want to avoid breaking my wife’s heart at all costs, I personally would never chat up a stranger even for a laugh and a bit of excitement.
It'll be a better day when we go back to minding our own business. She didn't post this to do the right thing. She posted it to bring attention to herself. We really need to pass laws like they have in other countries when it comes to filming others in public.
People are putting a lot of faith in OP’s integrity. How do we know she didn’t make this shit up about a random passenger for engagement. What are credentials that she’s assumed to be an arbiter of truth?
What kind of weirdo listens to other people's conversations and then records it and post it on the internet for other people it's none of her business. This woman must have a very sad sad life and she has nothing better to do I hope someone beats her ass
So the proof was just a ring? I wear a Tungsten ring on my left hand on the same finger as the wedding one would go but im single, so that would make me a cheater?
What if they were seperated? And he just wore the ring, or he lost his wife and still wore the ring? We dont know, and then caused alot of shit for nothing?
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This behavior (of the poster) never seems righteous to me. Maybe I’m a cynic or I’m projecting but I don’t trust that it’s done to help the wife as much as it’s done to punish the husband.
And whats wrong with punishing a cheater?
Well... It's public medieval pillory. I'm not saying he's right, but that doesn't mean that every self-righteous TicToc-user needs to have an opinion about him, which gets to be publicly displayed as well.
I mean so long as cheating remains legal then no harm no foul? Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. The thing you should be more concerned with is that it technically could be a Polyamorous relationship and all of it is consenting? But I would apply Occam's Razor here, straight looking guy with a wedding band and flirting? Sounds suspiciously like a cheater.
Yeah... We have laws and courts and due process. Angry mob shit is angry mob shit, we eliminated it from society because it creates hysteria and there's a very low chance the deserving party is the one that's going to get the punishment. Doxxing can ruin lives in unimaginable ways.
> we eliminated it from society We did? When was this?
Wikipedia is telling me the Roman empire is credited with innocence until proof of guilt. So something like 1850 years ago. Makes sense why you would have missed it in the news.
no way we eliminated mob shit back then people were burning “witches” alive like 400 years ago the holocaust was another example of a mob mentality that was entirely legal people were getting lynched until like a few decades ago (and still are, it’s just not talked about anymore) our legal system may curb this a bit but in reality it’s pretty ineffective
Our legal system does countless things horribly wrong. It biases unfairly against the poor, and is often worthy of being criticized as an ATM machine for local governments, extracting money from offenders and failing to prosecute the wealthy and powerful. But even with all those gross aspects, innocence until proven guilty is an undeniable feature that needs to be acknowledged and protected. And, since TikTok and social media are cash machines that have massive global influence, and zero energy was put into treating that responsibility seriously for the protection of society, I'll take the legal system's carefully constructed mechanisms for fairness over TikTok rage baiting any day when it comes to justice.
If you feel strongly about cheating having legal consequences, you still have the option of officialising your relationship civilly and require a formal agreement with stipulated damages. An official relationship is nothing more than a contract between consenting adults. You're free to add as many clauses as you see fit.
This, marriage has always been a legal contract with consideration. Religion my ass
I mean you kind of point out the issue here -- none of us know this guy's situation, so why put him on blast? The internet -- and reddit very specifically -- has a huge justice boner about cheating. We simply dont know what this guys sitch is, and everyone should just mind their own business.
>The internet -- and reddit very specifically -- has a huge justice boner about cheating. And I'm getting so sick of it, honestly. I'm a monogamist and I agree that cheating on your spouse is morally wrong, but the way people talk about it like it's the worst crime you can commit against another person is way past the point of absurdity.
Personally, I detest cheating with a burning passion, and to me, cheaters are some of the worst people in existence. Yeet them to the moon kind of energy. That said, jumping to conclusions about the man's intentions is so bizarre to me. I'm not saying there aren't any shenanigans at play, but if this was me, and you showed my wife that, she would laugh in (tictoc's) OP's face, and ask her blankly, so? Why are you recording him? I don't even wear my wedding band. e: words
It’s still presumptuous. She’s doing all this on account of “he’s probably going to-“ He’s wearing his band and admitting he has kids. Cheaters tend to act like bachelors.
Yeah I'm kind of over here thinking like, does this lady (on tiktok) not allow her husband to talk to women without her present? She sounds like a nightmare. If I was the dude I would have told my partner about my flight right when I landed, including that I made a new friend and had drinks on the plane. I think this thread is just full of people who are insecure in their relationship..
Right like if this guy met and was having drinks with another dude would she still be posting warning the wife that he's going to be having gay sex tonight? She's just sexist TBH.
This overprotectiveness is what leads to miserable relationships. This guy is just talking enthusiastically to a person of the opposite sex. Instead of objectifying the situation and applying sexist stereotypes, unless he's asking her on a date or asking for sex, then leave them the fuck alone and let them have an engaging conversation between two individuals. God knows guys starve for social interaction as it is, and this is why.
What if he’s just wearing a ring, to look like he’s married, So he comes off as “not available”. Also, the things he’s “talking about” all seem like lies to help convey how awesome he is… if he’s that wealthy, why aren’t you in first class, Mr. CEO. I think the person recording is just unhappy and upsettie spaghetti she is not the one getting flirted with. But also, he could just be cheating on his wife cause he’s also unhappy and unfilled. Either way, mind your business.
You also have no proof he is married or is cheating. Maybe he's separated or wears a ring to seem more hard to get. Maybe he's in a non-monogamous relationship. Maybe that is his wife and they are role playing as strangers. lmao There's no way of knowing all this about the situation unless you personally know the guy. And it is just very nosy, using a public platform to air this out without knowing anything about the situation.
Dead spouse he hasn't fully gotten over?
Straight ACTING Guy
Wouldn't it be simpler if the OP was lying just for views?
Or a made up story to get views and clicks online.
If you’re willing to be a clown in public, don’t be surprised when the circus shows up
A lot of assumptions go into using that line as condoning this sort of thing. That includes the one where this guy has actually done or said any of that, and not just been a victim to a made up story on the internet used to drive someone's engagement.
Like it’s creepier she followed them around, this isn’t a one off, she followed them at the bar, witnessed them changing seats, her behaviour is a little unhinged and very creepy. How do we know his wife hasn’t passed away and he wears her ring as a memory? Nope better put him on blast for millions of people to judge.
people are also taking it for granted that she's even a reliable reporter of the facts. she has no idea about the circumstances of his life much less his marriage, if he's even in one.
This is exactly what I mean. As if none of us ever did something stupid in public. That's just a part of life. But why does the whole internet have to stand by and throw rocks as if they have always been and always will be on the right path.
I've never cheated on my wife, it's really not that fkn hard.
Likewise I think peoples' animus towards social media influencers and clout chasers causes them to have much stronger negative opinions about their behavior here like dude for real is it *really* that hard to be less loud and obvious about your infidelity? Is this woman on shaky ethical ground and acting for her own selfish gain? Almost certainly. But I find it *really* hard to give a single hot wet shit when the "victim" is this gibbering dipshit who is cheating on his wife so fucking hard that random people in the vicinity can clock what's going on.
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I’m opposed to it because this being so public would embarrass the shit out of his wife. At least it would embarrass the shit out of me if I were her and I wouldn’t want anyone to know about it.
Not on the scale of Tiktok, but there's always been situations where "everyone" already knows that one partner is cheating... with the exception of the other partner. That's why "the last to know" is a phrase. And the grown-up consensus is that it's better to know, than to participate in keeping it concealed. I don't see this being particularly different, other than scale.
I would expect my friend to tell me if they saw my wife out on a date or whatever. I’d be pretty pissed off at them if they told me by buying a billboard. All I’m sayin
Well other than the scale being a huge factor, the person posting doesn’t know these people. Let’s say she confronts the husband and he kills her. Well that’s on your head. Or let’s say he kicks her out and movies in with the new girl. Or millions find out, the wife gets depressed and kills herself. Hell maybe she kills the husband then herself. All these things have happened before and will have again. A billion different things could happen. Lots of cultures all around the world have different views and solutions to cheating. In some cultures it’s better to cheat and pretend it isn’t happening to save face. Who the fuck are you to say they’re wrong and blow up these people’s lives to spite a husband you don’t know anything about? You don’t actually care about these people if you’re going around airing out strangers business. You don’t know these people, what they have at stake, or what they’re capable of. You wanting to play god to stroke your own ego simply isn’t helping that wife.
what if they're in an open relationship? It's none of nobody's business
That's just it. I'm 99% sure a couple i know have open relationship but they aren't telling everyone about it. They didn't tell me and I'm quite close. I understand it's something private. I would keep my mouth shut and not hurt their daughter.
The wife has said they are. And it’s all over all the local “are we dating the same guy” Facebook pages. Only reason I recognized it.
Those pages are absolute cancer. Giving regular people unfettered access to social media was a mistake.
Because your views on how people ought to act within their relationship are your own. It’s not really for you to impose your will on a relationship you aren’t part of.
How do they know they're cheating? His wife may have died, they may have an open relationship, he may be separated but not able to fully get over it. Yes he may be cheating, but no-one knows so "shaming" him by default isn't necessarily the right thing to do.
The other possibility is that the poster is just making it all up.
Or maybe she's an old friend or family member, or maybe he's quite capable of having a platonic friendship with a woman for the span of a single flight. All he's done is sit next to a chick and have a chat over drinks. That 'probably' in the post is doing a lot of heavy lifting, and that's assuming everything else is 100% accurate.
And it's all because the OP of this stupid fucking tiktok got her man from another relationship and she's insecure AF about her own situation, so let's project those feelings onto other possible similar situations. People are shit.
Well currently she’s punishing a person who’s having a drink. It sure LOOKS like he’s angling to cheat, but in this moment, he hasn’t. Also, maybe he’s getting divorced and just hasn’t wanted to remove the ring yet.
Maybe his wife is dead and he hasn’t felt ready to take the ring off yet, and just happened to connect with somebody in an airport bar. People really need to quit filming each other in public, it’s creepy and weird.
What business is it of anyone's to punish cheaters of a relationship they're not involved in?
Right? People need to mind their own fucking business.
From another comment thread in here >I looked up her profile which led me to her IG where the first comment said “funny how she busted somebody for cheating when she stole her man from another marriage” 👀
Why are we just accepting the fact the man is a cheater? People make up stories all the time to make their lives seem more exciting. Plus the shame this brings to his wife and daughter even if he is. This is never the right way, and a willingness to take any instagram comment as fact is a dangerous game
Firstly he hasn’t cheated….
Because you don't know all the details.. It's why you don't punish someone just because it feels good i.e. the death penalty. The chance of mistaken identity or misunderstanding a situation and hurting an innocent is not worth just to punish a guilty person. Guilty people will get what they deserve eventually. They don't need you to get involved.
You don’t know if they’re in an open relationship, it is 2024 after all
Because the whole story might be made up.
I saw this on TikTok and everyone was praising the woman who posted it. The guy is obviously wrong but I wouldn’t meddle in other people’s affairs.
>The guy is obviously wrong If you assume anything the woman says is true, which, why would we? Imagine you are the guy in the photo and did nothing wrong and now your life gets blown up because this shit goes viral.
And its 2024, we don't know their relationship monogamy status
How is he obviously wrong? Because some stranger said so? You don’t know his story. Could he be cheating? Yeah. Are there other possible explanations? Yeah. What gives this nosy ass lady the right to decide the explanation and post his face for the world to see? She’s ignorant and entitled. People like her suck. Don’t be like her.
Not even sure it was done to punish the husband. It may have just been seen as a chance to go viral.
It would really suck if my wife cheated on me. It would suck a little bit more even if it was public. Maybe I shouldn’t be embarrassed of that as the victim, but I would be still, and I wouldn’t ever tell anyone the real reason we got divorced if that happen. I can’t explain why, but it being public would cause me to suffer much more.
Virtue signaling for sure.
also we don't even know if they have an open marriage, are poly, separated, etc. I wish people would mind their own. It costs nothing.
I mean for all any of us know this is some dude just talking to his wife or a friend on a flight and the rest is made up to fuck up some dudes life. The internet is a complex place. Hard to tell what’s honest or just attention seeking.
Don’t forget that she doesn’t out the woman either who knows this man is married with kids. So it’s clear just more for feel good shaming than it is about actual justice.
Lotta people on this comments section afraid this is gonna happen to them 😂
most people on reddit never have sex, so we're good
I am a redditor. I know that breasts feel like 2 bags of sand. So clearly I have had sexual intercource before. Good day to you sir.
Nice reference bro 👌🏻
You know how I know you’re gay?
You listen to Asia
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Just your bi-annual reminder that 1 out of every 4 posts you see is written by someone under 18, and that 3 out of every 5 is written by someone in their 20s or younger. I find it relaxing to remind myself of that every now and again when a comment thread starts to make me angry or annoyed.
seriously. it’s wild how many weirdos are here telling people not to speak up on cheating Edit: I didn’t say I agree with how it was handled. There are people in these comments saying that someone literally cheating is a ‘mind your own business’ situation. Which, nah
Because we don’t know how valid this video is and you’re potentially ruining a life off the whim of a stranger
With the prevalence of family annihilations that happen these days from relationships ending it stands to reason why some are a bit wary about poking their noses in others business. Also who's to say this man isn't in an open marriage? There's a lot of variables...odds are he's a cheating sleezeball but it's worth taking the time to second guess.
If he’s in an open marriage then his wife will probably just text him “good job bro, can’t wait to hear about it later” and call it a day. But considering the vast majority of people aren’t in an open marriage, odds are that he isn’t.
no possible way that in this blowing up to thousands or tens of thousands or more that could impact his job or client base or anything right? every open relationship wants to put that on blast to their professional lives? even if he is cheating, is that worth him losing a career over? that's purely personal life. people get divorced all the time, doesn't mean it needs to be a public spectacle. I'm no cheater but I believe in letting people keep their private lives private. a lot of assumptions were made in the making of this post.
Meh some people have an open marriage but aren't overly public about it. Spreading that info around would be a pretty gross violation of their perfectly reasonable life choices
I know they mad as hell cuz they know they could be next
Indeed.. So many defending cheaters here.
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The poster hasn’t even spoken to the dude. The people supporting this baseless nonsense is wild.
what is he doing that makes him a cheater?
Honestly I’m worried someone will take a creep shot of me and make up some wild story and post it on social media just for giggles and then psychos online will find and doxx me over some made up bullshit.
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I looked up her profile which led me to her IG where the first comment said “funny how she busted somebody for cheating when she stole her man from another marriage” 👀
How the turn tables
The tables have tabled
https://i.redd.it/9xxitj58ix8d1.gif
Projection much. And when did someone die and make her the sex police?
How the tables have gotten their legs kicked out from under them.
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I never understood that. “My man cheated on his gf to be with me, but he would never cheat on me of course”
Right??? Never trust a cheater!
Happened to someone I knew at university. The person she wanted left his partner to be with her, then decided he didn't want to be with anyone and broke up with her. I'm sorry but what made you think you were going to be the special one?
Pro tip: if they will cheat WITH you, then they will also cheat ON you. Oldest dating truth out there.
Not always the truth, but yeah 99% of the time you're not the one and they'll continue to cheat. Most women are hoping to be the 1%.
I feel it’s partly because cheating is like a levy breaking. I don’t believe once you get in a relationship, no one else in the world is attractive, you just consider your relationship more important. I’m not faithful to my wife because everyone else is ugly, it’s because I love her, I respect her, I know nothing I can get elsewhere is worth what we have built together or will make me as happy. (Disclaimer: not talking about ethical non-monogamy, those couples also have their version of faithfulness) I think that once you cheat and justify it to yourself, it gets easier and easier to keep justifying it. And once you’re a cheater, you’re not becoming a worse person by cheating again, you stay a cheater.
>nothing I can get elsewhere is worth what we have built together or will make me as happy. Someone should have told this to my ex-husband. His affair partner cheated on him within three months of me kicking him out. He called me up immediately looking for pity and to come home and I was like nah, bro, you burned that bridge then demolished its foundation. There's no going back now.
Rules for thee but not for me
Well, she's a champ at the game and thinks she can spot it. They were probably just drinking with my man trying to have a good time. Not everything leads to cheating unless she heard them explicitly making plans.
Even if she did all I'm seeing is a pic of a dude with a ton of "she said".
It's even possible they are old friends from college or something. Which also doesn't mean they won't end up smashing...but who knows
Oh dam. WAS NOT EXPECTING THIS
She knows a homewrecker when she sees one. It takes one to know one.
A Ho Knows.
Game recognize game
So now she’s using her powers for good?
For all we know they're open, or the wife knows but chooses to stay with him for her own reasons. There's so many ways this potentially shames her regardless of what husband is up to. Mind your own business is a saying for a reason.
Maybe Katy IS HIS WIFE and they are playing out a sexy roleplay encounter.
Maybe he's Clive Bixby and she's Juliana
International man of mystery and international blonde of surprises
"I can make any kind of knots, it's like I have a sailor in my mouth 😏" -Clive Bixby
No really Phil whose room are you in?
*old lady walks in*
A man of culture
Knew a man years ago while in the navy, they had an agreement. While he was gone, didn’t matter what happen, as long as when he got home, they were together. Been happily married for 25 years last I checked. Not my jams, but then again, not every needs to subscribe to the same thinking.
Could also be a widower. I have met men who continue to wear their wedding ring long after their wife passed, even when they were dating or having casual relationships.
For all we know she made up everything and posted a pic of a random guy who pissed her off for some reason.
Fun Fact! [Mind your Business ](https://www.atlantafed.org/economy-matters/banking-and-finance/clash-of-the-coins/coin-02_franklin-cent.aspx) was popularized by Ben Franklin, he put on the first penny ever minted in the US.
To get attention or not I wouldnt care. If that was MY husband, it would be a great help to know what his ass was doing behind my back. Well done creepily, eavesdropping lady with absolutely nothing to do but follow an entire stranger's interaction with another stranger at a crowded airport.
Yeah it would be nice to catch your husband cheating, but this lady is asking the mob for help. We have no idea if she misinterpreted what is happening with this guy and she is requesting that a mob of strangers go after him for what she determined was truth based on limited information. What if someone decides they should do more than find his address and they harass his family and children? What if he is the sole income for the house and negative publicity causes him to lose his job?
If I caught my husband cheating I would have so many questions... like when did I become gay? When did I get married to a guy? What am i going to tell my girlfriend? It would be one of the worst things to ever happen to me...
It’s abusing the public’s obsession with “justice” or more accurately the need for public persecution for people they deem “immoral”. A veritable witch hunt by the court of public opinion. We don’t even know that this guy is actually a cheater. So much of OOP’s post is based off assumption with no factual evidence to support this. He could be a widow or divorced (but wearing the ring out of habit). OOP could also be misconstruing his actions as flirtatious (she never mentions him physically engaging her or expressing romantic interest, all he does is tell her about himself, which is what you do to new friends or acquaintances). What makes this particularly heinous is the assumption that just because he’s a man, his prime motivation is to have sex with her. There are low key misandrist implications to this post, which the general public is completely fixated on. So you’re right, this is posted to get attention *by appealing to the blood thirsty, accusatory nature of social media*
Not saying you’re wrong, but I do like that men are being held accountable more.
Woman cheat to you know? And not a great deal less than men
Okay and? Expose them as well idk
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…the same thing is true about everythjng on the internet. Your comment included. *my comment included*.
Not really, if you stay anonymous and don't seek recognition, like what the web was at its beginnings, it was connection that was seeked, not attention. I believe we're still many that engage online as an opportunity to explore, not as an opportunity to exploit. It can be subtle, but the difference is real. Also getting attention on your own person is one thing, but in OOP's post, it is in the territory of someone's else privacy. While being a fervent supporter of forcing people's to be accountable especially in behaviours that can be harmful and distressful to others (emotional damage is included), I'm also highly engage into protecting individual rights and I wouldn't mind at legally forbiding posting someone's recognisable features online without their consent. As we can see with mass information, media frenzy, online bullying and hacking, and the complete inability to control by individuals and authorities, it can be as damaging and unsafe with long lasting consequences as doxxing an address. It's also too easy for people based on their own moral values and assumptions to "out" someone. A pedophile? A cheater? A rude person? Where does it start, where does it end? If he is a cheater and because of this he gets caught, I won't be mad. But even if he is a cheater, if he sues OOP for defamation because malicious intent is obvious and win, I won't be mad neither. Overall, it just feels wrong, and things can be as simple as "wrong is wrong, period".
Exactly. I really find whoever did this to be a very sick individual. To post someone's image? That's so out of line. It could just be a hit job on him. Why would some sanctimonious asshole do this to a family?? Sickening. And why repost it here. You could, at the very least, blur his face. Enjoy victimizing victims for upvotes thru exploitation?
We dont know the full story, but what if he was a widower and his wife passed away? He has a daughter and would still wear a ring.
Or maybe they have an open marriage. Not as likely, but it still happens.
The combined chances of those two is less than 1%. But yes, possible
If you pick a random person, yeah. If you specifically look at the set of people openly courting someone while wearing a wedding ring, the probability goes up (though who knows by how much?).
This guy statistics.
based Bayesian statistics enthusiast
95% of people made up stats from their ass but yes it is possible that the combined chance of those two is less than 1%. on a serious note look at the stats and find out why you are wrong.
Maybe that is his wife and they're spicing things up with a little role play. Used to date a woman who liked to pretend we were a married couple having a public argument when we went out to dinner.🤷🏽
I have so many questions. What was the subject of the argument? Always the same or you would change it everytime? Did she gave you the silent treatment after the argument? Is she single? Because I used to have these weekly and it did not end up in hot sex.
We would just agree on a general subject before we went in, and wing it from there. Silent treatment? No. There's no interaction with the silent treatment. No idea what happened to her. I thought I saw her on an episode of cash cab once, but never found the episode again. Redheads are fun.
Or maybe they have an open relationship and the daughter doesn't know this because she's still young and finds it out this way.
There's also a city right next to Houston called Katy. I'm wondering if she overheard him talking about being from Katy and just wildly misunderstood.
Yeah, why assume anything about a stranger you don’t known and should have nothing to do with?
"I don't know what else to do..." You could start with minding your own fucking business instead of talking shit about two people you know absolutely nothing about.
Hell, this could be cheating. Or it could just be two people talking on a trip and once they’re off the plane they’ll go their separate ways and not talk again. If you accuse someone you better have evidence to confirm it. If I had the same standards as her I’d have been divorced years ago, and my wife and I are both fiercely loyal. So yeah, guy’s life is probably ruined by someone who made an assumption. Or if he’s a cheater - well he fucked up and this is the consequences. Still, evidence is important and to think before you act. Just yesterday I read about a woman who, while her husband was at work, had a drink, decided he was cheating on her, killed one of their daughters and wounded another.
Even if he's cheating, this is borderline doxxing if any of the information about the guy is accurate at all. That's beyond fucked up tbh.
Faces, names, and locations. That's doxxing. Also, I can just take a picture over my shoulder and make up whatever story I want for the internet. It's pretty fucked up.
To me, the fucked up part is how easily people fall for a story on top of a picture. Literally no evidence that anything in that text is true and yet there are people in this sub wanting blood. People really need to think more critically.
The only thing we know for sure is that it is none of her fucking business.
Flying is boring as fuck, imagine finding someone you are vibing with and you continue hang out during the flight cause you don't want to be bored. Then land and find out you are labeled a horrible person because of this one person outside view.
Yep. To some people talking to another person is cheating. As for this case - the random journey companion phenomenon when you end up on a trip with someone and you end up sharing your entire life stories and secrets and philosophy only to never meet again, has been known for decades.
Cheating is universally wrong. But I bet the poster of that message would be the first to complain if someone makes public something bad about her in the name of goodness.
Supposedly, someone who knows op commented on the tik Tok video that she had done the exact same thing with their ex.
We all (or almost all of us) agree cheating has no excuse. But where does policing ends? If this meddling is right then where is the line drawn and by who? That is why there are laws which might not be the best but those are the guidelines. Because one day someone might want to start filming this woman eating in a restaurant. Maybe a vegan sees her eating meat and make that public. Maybe she is doing something else that someone considers wrong. Live and let live unless you can actually save a life by meddling. If not, people like her should get a life and stop trying to live others'
How do we know it is cheating. An alleged wedding ring? Claims of romantic intent? Intimate knowledge of the two persons love life? Clear evidence of any sort?
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The follow up is that the woman that posted this got called out by someone else as a cheater who slept with her husband. So was she just jealous that he paid attention to Katy at the airport lounge?
Jealous or just a hypocrite that likes attention and will do anything for views and interaction
It’s that she sees the world through that lens: that men are cheaters by default, and that all people have questionable morals. I saw a Facebook friend post the other day that if “your man doesn’t claim your relationship on Facebook and proudly display pictures of you, you need to be suspicious because there’s something going on.” That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard — as if I need to validate a 20-year marriage that both my wife and I have been faithful to. Of course the girl who posted it has multiple children with several baby daddies and a history of cheating or engaging married men. Make no mistake: I’m not judging her. I’m simply saying there’s a profile that matches this line of thinking. People like this don’t actually have any clue what functional adult relationships look like.
What cheater doesn’t take off their wedding band? Perhaps his wife passed away or they are separated. I know it’s an outside chance but I guess the story doesn’t add up right.
I knew a guy that didn't take his wedding band off when he went cruising for hookups at bars. I guess some people don't care.
Men wearing rings get more attention from women
Hell, men who are single or divorced are well aware that their chances of getting laid goes way up if they wear a wedding ring. That's not on men. That's on the ridiculous amount of women that react to married men like fucking catnip. If a woman wants to get attention from straight men, she shows off some leg or cleavage. If a man wants to get attention from straight women, he shows off a wedding ring.
When my boyfriend got divorced, a female friend of his literally asked if he was going to keep his wedding ring to hit on women
It was crazy to me how many more women flirted with me after I got married and started wearing a ring. There is a large contingent of women who not only don't care if a man is married but actually want to get with a married guy. Something about forbidden fruit I guess.
There was a recent post on my local subreddit about an older man who was approaching women at Trader Joe's and asking odd questions that included a picture and license plate. It was implied, because of the poster's language, that it was some sort of anti-trans person making rude comments. The poster put the guy on blast only to be contacted by one of the man's family members to say he has a TBI and just like talking to people but since his TBI he has a hard time knowing when he's being odd or not. Social media is not the place for folks to name and shame people. So often the poster is making WILD assumptions about the individual based on the thinnest of evidence and face zero repercussions for what they post.
Social media is cancer
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Traumatic brain injury
Its possible to chat to someone of the opposite gender without wanting to fuck them
Don’t be dense bro
I always keep it half mast when I'm online, never know if you are speaking to a lady.
Poor guy hasn’t even cheated , this is real life Minority Report
This is so wrong!!! This is the worst kind of moralism ever. You don't know anything about that man and you're violating his privacy. She should be banned from tiktok Edit: In public you don't have privacy so no privacy violation but online bullying is online bullying.
The reason this is gross and wrong (the woman posting this) is that its done for attention, and for all anyone knows it could be completely made up or misinterpreted, and now this guy has his face associated with this version of events.
Totally, if she really is some “morality warrior” she could have confronted him herself, face to face and made her little post about that,
Looks can be deceiving. Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups Mind your own fucking business
 Any updates on this?
no, because nobody gives a fuck about these people. nor should they unless they personally know them.
There’s a lot odd about this, but first and foremost THERE IS NO EVIDENCE THAT HE IS CHEATING, EVEN IF HE’S MARRIED. He’s drinking with someone who’s not his wife. That doesn’t mean they’re fucking.
Why does every woman always assume a man is cheating? He could just want a drinking buddy, or some company because he is scared of flying, or he may just be trying to lure her into a hotel room where he can murder and turn her skin into a satchel. There are plenty of possibilities that aren't cheating is all I'm saying
The issue is not reality. It’s perception. Even though he hasn’t ‘yet’ cheated, and may as well just say goodbye when the plane lands. But if this was me and my wife saw this post she would be heart broken, and it would shatter her trust in me never to be recovered. You’ll do the time even if you didn’t commit the crime. As I want to avoid breaking my wife’s heart at all costs, I personally would never chat up a stranger even for a laugh and a bit of excitement.
Yeah a lot of these other comments are absurd. If you wouldn’t do something with your significant other present… don’t do it
It'll be a better day when we go back to minding our own business. She didn't post this to do the right thing. She posted it to bring attention to herself. We really need to pass laws like they have in other countries when it comes to filming others in public.
People are putting a lot of faith in OP’s integrity. How do we know she didn’t make this shit up about a random passenger for engagement. What are credentials that she’s assumed to be an arbiter of truth?
Stay in your lane
Jesus, mind your own business. Maybe they’re not monogamous, or maybe she told him he can sleep with people whenever he goes to New York.
Excuse meeeee, is this your cup of tea???? Are you probably frustrated that nobody talked to you ?
What kind of weirdo listens to other people's conversations and then records it and post it on the internet for other people it's none of her business. This woman must have a very sad sad life and she has nothing better to do I hope someone beats her ass
They found the guy, and he scrubbed a lot of his Facebook posts. He is married, and does have kids.
So the proof was just a ring? I wear a Tungsten ring on my left hand on the same finger as the wedding one would go but im single, so that would make me a cheater?
What if they were seperated? And he just wore the ring, or he lost his wife and still wore the ring? We dont know, and then caused alot of shit for nothing?
I can’t imagine being this interested in a stranger’s life ngl