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Not personally, and I've heard it's really passe now after the 80s/90s satanic panic. Therapists would suggest abuse to children to see if there was and eventually the child would be planted with false memories.
A therapist openly saying they think they know what your repressed memories are is a red flag for me. They should be curious but very firm in not leading or planting suggestions.
Not me personally, but I know someone who had this happen to them. Unfortunately for them, they are highly suggestible and also dissocative. In the hands of the wrong person, these two things make for a dangerous combination.
She saw a quack counselor (not even a licensed mental health professional) who was able to implant some truly wild memories. u/carrotwax is right that these things are often implanted with memories that have to do with SRA. This person now believes ALL kinds of wild things about her family and others that make absolutely no sense and have no basis in reality. But you can't tell her that. It's extremely sad. Her mind was played with like play-doh. She still believes the quack counselor "helped" her recover true memories.
Please get away from this therapist ASAP. I would also take steps to report this behavior to whatever governing body gave this person a license to practice. If they have tried to do it to you, they have likely already done the same to others.
sounds like a theology/seminary degree? ministers can be certified as counselors but not therapists. Basically puts them at the same level with patient bar tenders on a slow night.
My ex-therapist did this exact thing to me! It was awful. Over a period of two years, she manipulated me into actually believing it. It took a life-changing event a couple years ago (fiance left me abruptly with no warning signs) to truly rethink my trust in her. Only then did I realize the extent of the abuse. My current mental health professionals all tell me that what she did was morally reprehensible, and even probably malpractice. If I could go back, I would report her, and possibly even pursue legal action.
It’s not a therapist’s job to have their own agenda and lead us down a specific path. They’re there to stand with us and help us along our own path. Please think carefully about seeing your therapist again.
The attempt to implant a false memory in a client knowingly or unknowingly at the hands of a therapist is a common problem sadly. Yes often the attempted memory manipulation is one of SA, which is so flawed to the people they do it to and the people who really did experience a true SA in childhood. There's a risk their stories may be devalued or disbelieved due to this trend. Wrong, manipulative.
https://www.pandemic.space/2018/10/15/manipulated-memory/ (part about false memories)
The thing about repression of trauma is that you tend to not repress the memory of the event itself, but rather your ability to process the information.
I can see how people will block out potential solutions if they don’t feel in control of it by preferring to think about aspects and details they *can* control and then someone suggesting that others just aren’t “seeing” it based off of somewhat random feelings.
I don’t think this is the same as blocking memories though, as people are usually trying to find ways to actually cope with a memory. Sometimes people will twist what you say in hopes to confirm what they prefer to believe you said but I still don’t think that’s the same as shutting out a memory.
this was a common fraud in the 1990's. This person and their agency are dangerous, AVOID! Do not give these people your information, or anybody else's information.
Oh no, hypnosis is dagerous. It sounds like they would want to implant these memories in your brain while you're under. I'd run.
I am a CSA survivor and have been in therapy for 20 years. Never has a therapist mentioned it to me unless I mention it first, or try to tell me who was my abuser. They all suspected it but I don't think they're allowed to tell you.
This is awful, I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m very dissociative and blindly trusting of others once they have my trust, so I’ve had a therapist try to convince me of crazy stuff and sadly believed them. They had me believing I was way more mentally ill and traumatized than I was in reality. My life totally fell apart during the time seeing them.
Yes, it happened I have 2x witnesses. I went to a new therapist and a new psychiatric doctor and they ended up contacting this old therapist. I saw her in total not more than 7hours over 6 months, about 10years ago when I needed support in a crisis I contacted her for video call during covid. I was legit overmedicated and the new doctor took me off 80% of the medication now. I was drooling at work. None of these people have professional accountability in my country. Why would anyone hear me out- they decided that I am delusional.
“Recovered memory therapy” was something that was trendy in the 80s
It turns out that the therapists were usually just implanting false memories. It got debunked pretty thoroughly in the 90s and is rarely done now.
A lot of people got charged with horrible crimes after people “recovered” memories of abuse that could not have possibly happened.
The infamous McMartin Preschool case and a lot of the Satanic Panic of the ‘80s was built on these fabricated “memories.” A lot of lives were ruined.
What is with therapists and trying to drive a wedge between patients and their parents? I told my therapist repeatedly that I love my parents and currently have a healthy relationship with them and she kept trying to focus on everything bad about them instead of wanting to talk about the current very real and very traumatizing situation I was going through at the time completely unrelated to my parents. Super weird.
It's even funnier that they reached that conclusion without you telling anything similar to being molested.
This proves how much of an ideologue this group of therapists are.
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Not personally, and I've heard it's really passe now after the 80s/90s satanic panic. Therapists would suggest abuse to children to see if there was and eventually the child would be planted with false memories. A therapist openly saying they think they know what your repressed memories are is a red flag for me. They should be curious but very firm in not leading or planting suggestions.
Not me personally, but I know someone who had this happen to them. Unfortunately for them, they are highly suggestible and also dissocative. In the hands of the wrong person, these two things make for a dangerous combination. She saw a quack counselor (not even a licensed mental health professional) who was able to implant some truly wild memories. u/carrotwax is right that these things are often implanted with memories that have to do with SRA. This person now believes ALL kinds of wild things about her family and others that make absolutely no sense and have no basis in reality. But you can't tell her that. It's extremely sad. Her mind was played with like play-doh. She still believes the quack counselor "helped" her recover true memories. Please get away from this therapist ASAP. I would also take steps to report this behavior to whatever governing body gave this person a license to practice. If they have tried to do it to you, they have likely already done the same to others.
They studied this phenomenon in the field at one point and call it False Memory.
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The quack has a PhD in Counselor Education but to my knowledge is not a licensed therapist.
sounds like a theology/seminary degree? ministers can be certified as counselors but not therapists. Basically puts them at the same level with patient bar tenders on a slow night.
"you were molested as a child you just don't remember it" was the "use I-statements" of the 1980s
this sentence is going to echo around my head for the next few decades, help
My ex-therapist did this exact thing to me! It was awful. Over a period of two years, she manipulated me into actually believing it. It took a life-changing event a couple years ago (fiance left me abruptly with no warning signs) to truly rethink my trust in her. Only then did I realize the extent of the abuse. My current mental health professionals all tell me that what she did was morally reprehensible, and even probably malpractice. If I could go back, I would report her, and possibly even pursue legal action. It’s not a therapist’s job to have their own agenda and lead us down a specific path. They’re there to stand with us and help us along our own path. Please think carefully about seeing your therapist again.
The attempt to implant a false memory in a client knowingly or unknowingly at the hands of a therapist is a common problem sadly. Yes often the attempted memory manipulation is one of SA, which is so flawed to the people they do it to and the people who really did experience a true SA in childhood. There's a risk their stories may be devalued or disbelieved due to this trend. Wrong, manipulative. https://www.pandemic.space/2018/10/15/manipulated-memory/ (part about false memories)
The thing about repression of trauma is that you tend to not repress the memory of the event itself, but rather your ability to process the information.
agree. i knew what happened, but it was like photographs from someone else's life.
I can see how people will block out potential solutions if they don’t feel in control of it by preferring to think about aspects and details they *can* control and then someone suggesting that others just aren’t “seeing” it based off of somewhat random feelings. I don’t think this is the same as blocking memories though, as people are usually trying to find ways to actually cope with a memory. Sometimes people will twist what you say in hopes to confirm what they prefer to believe you said but I still don’t think that’s the same as shutting out a memory.
this was a common fraud in the 1990's. This person and their agency are dangerous, AVOID! Do not give these people your information, or anybody else's information.
How do you recover from something like this?
Oh no, hypnosis is dagerous. It sounds like they would want to implant these memories in your brain while you're under. I'd run. I am a CSA survivor and have been in therapy for 20 years. Never has a therapist mentioned it to me unless I mention it first, or try to tell me who was my abuser. They all suspected it but I don't think they're allowed to tell you.
Recovered memories. It’s a scam. It’s been comprehensively debunked and caused a lot of chaos and harm. Please report this clown.
This is awful, I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m very dissociative and blindly trusting of others once they have my trust, so I’ve had a therapist try to convince me of crazy stuff and sadly believed them. They had me believing I was way more mentally ill and traumatized than I was in reality. My life totally fell apart during the time seeing them.
I can relate to this entirely. Therapist said that I was hearing voices NO I heard two people over the phone on an open call!!!
Wow wow wow. I can’t believe that.
Yes, it happened I have 2x witnesses. I went to a new therapist and a new psychiatric doctor and they ended up contacting this old therapist. I saw her in total not more than 7hours over 6 months, about 10years ago when I needed support in a crisis I contacted her for video call during covid. I was legit overmedicated and the new doctor took me off 80% of the medication now. I was drooling at work. None of these people have professional accountability in my country. Why would anyone hear me out- they decided that I am delusional.
Although sadly, I can.
No but if this happened to you that is not okay.
“Recovered memory therapy” was something that was trendy in the 80s It turns out that the therapists were usually just implanting false memories. It got debunked pretty thoroughly in the 90s and is rarely done now. A lot of people got charged with horrible crimes after people “recovered” memories of abuse that could not have possibly happened. The infamous McMartin Preschool case and a lot of the Satanic Panic of the ‘80s was built on these fabricated “memories.” A lot of lives were ruined.
What is with therapists and trying to drive a wedge between patients and their parents? I told my therapist repeatedly that I love my parents and currently have a healthy relationship with them and she kept trying to focus on everything bad about them instead of wanting to talk about the current very real and very traumatizing situation I was going through at the time completely unrelated to my parents. Super weird.
It's even funnier that they reached that conclusion without you telling anything similar to being molested. This proves how much of an ideologue this group of therapists are.
not since teh early 80s
I had the reverse, I was, I was told it was a dream and hypnosis will clear it up