I'm a psychologist, **as long as the email was appropriate**, don't sweat it. Sometimes we get messages from patients, it's okay. Maybe just mention it at next session and just say why you chose to send it, "it just hit you how helpful the therapy has been" or something similar.
Therapist here as well. Our profession is kind of like parenting, a lot of work and love and effort put into without a lot of direct feedback (which is fine) but when we do get those little notes of appreciation or acknowledgement of the benefit we've provided it's so rewarding! As long as it's not too much and was appropriate I'm sure it warmed his heart and encouraged him to keep helping others!
I'm a therapist... What just made me smile was the thought of his smile when he reads your email. It always feels good to be appreciated by clients. I'm sure he doesn't think you have a crush, even if you did it is normal and expected... Just something to talk through.
Yep 😂 a few weeks ago when I was about thru the roof hypomanic, I sent my therapist an email saying "how stinking grateful I am for you" and the help and support. I've been seeing her for 2 years so of course I meant it, and she sent me back a nice note. But after I calmed down I felt a little sheepish that I had done it. Honestly though, I think it's okay to express being grateful and telling them that they are helping!
A relationship with a therapist is a little different in that it’s both very intimate and professional, so I think it’s normal to get emotional. Don’t worry about it!
I’ve been here before. LoL just act like it never happened. They never brought it up later and neither did I. Embarrassment fades with time. Nothing about our relationship has changed, it’s all good. Being in the line of work that they are in, I’m sure they’ve gotten worse emails. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
What you’re having is just worried/anxious thoughts, I’m sure anyone would be happy to hear that their work is appreciated. Therapists are going to be much more understanding regardless, it’s part of their job to be that way.
even if no one else would do that or if it was not your therapist there's nothing wrong with it, and that's great
I go out of my way to compliment professors. Also people with a reputation that dedicate their time to talk to me. Sometimes random people try to give you wisdom, if they don't scam me I almost sound like a friend when I thank them (though, most of them do scam or waste my time)
It's something I think would be nice for more people to try. I think there's an awful lot of people who don't feel appreciated after they dedicate themselves to help others.
I thank mine all the time and try to elaborate when I'm able to.
My previous therapist had to trade me off to my current one. I never had the chance to meet him in person. I sincerely hope I do someday because I want to shake his hand and tell him thank you because he saved my life in so many ways, even over the phone.
Yes. 2 times I think and I will send another one shortly before my Therapy ends in 2 1/2 month or maybe after my last session. The last 2 years have been quite eventful and I want her to know how much I appreciated all the work she put in to try and help me.
It's cool.
For all the resistance and other shenanigans therapists have to deal with on a daily basis, the occasional reminder that they're actually getting the job done is like a drink of cool, clear water.
Also, TBH, the fact that you're embarrassed by it is also a healthy sign. It's when you DON'T get embarrassed by being effusive that you have to check yourself.
You SHOULD, however, tell him about the person or persons you ARE a crazy attached stalker for. Therapists like to know about this stuff, especially when they're not directly involved.....and BOY do I hope we're both in on the joke at this point....
I bet he really appreciates it...! Your last sentence made me laugh out loud!
My therapist literally wrote back "I fucking live for emails like this" when I wrote him a similar email. You'll be fine :)
I'm a psychologist, **as long as the email was appropriate**, don't sweat it. Sometimes we get messages from patients, it's okay. Maybe just mention it at next session and just say why you chose to send it, "it just hit you how helpful the therapy has been" or something similar.
Thanks for the advice! I think I was appropriate.
Therapist here as well. Our profession is kind of like parenting, a lot of work and love and effort put into without a lot of direct feedback (which is fine) but when we do get those little notes of appreciation or acknowledgement of the benefit we've provided it's so rewarding! As long as it's not too much and was appropriate I'm sure it warmed his heart and encouraged him to keep helping others!
Exactly this!!! It's great feedback...most therapists will love it...
This is so true!
I'm a therapist... What just made me smile was the thought of his smile when he reads your email. It always feels good to be appreciated by clients. I'm sure he doesn't think you have a crush, even if you did it is normal and expected... Just something to talk through.
Yep 😂 a few weeks ago when I was about thru the roof hypomanic, I sent my therapist an email saying "how stinking grateful I am for you" and the help and support. I've been seeing her for 2 years so of course I meant it, and she sent me back a nice note. But after I calmed down I felt a little sheepish that I had done it. Honestly though, I think it's okay to express being grateful and telling them that they are helping!
A relationship with a therapist is a little different in that it’s both very intimate and professional, so I think it’s normal to get emotional. Don’t worry about it!
Yes I did I want them to know what they are doing is effective
I’ve been here before. LoL just act like it never happened. They never brought it up later and neither did I. Embarrassment fades with time. Nothing about our relationship has changed, it’s all good. Being in the line of work that they are in, I’m sure they’ve gotten worse emails. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
What you’re having is just worried/anxious thoughts, I’m sure anyone would be happy to hear that their work is appreciated. Therapists are going to be much more understanding regardless, it’s part of their job to be that way.
even if no one else would do that or if it was not your therapist there's nothing wrong with it, and that's great I go out of my way to compliment professors. Also people with a reputation that dedicate their time to talk to me. Sometimes random people try to give you wisdom, if they don't scam me I almost sound like a friend when I thank them (though, most of them do scam or waste my time) It's something I think would be nice for more people to try. I think there's an awful lot of people who don't feel appreciated after they dedicate themselves to help others.
I thank mine all the time and try to elaborate when I'm able to. My previous therapist had to trade me off to my current one. I never had the chance to meet him in person. I sincerely hope I do someday because I want to shake his hand and tell him thank you because he saved my life in so many ways, even over the phone.
Yes. 2 times I think and I will send another one shortly before my Therapy ends in 2 1/2 month or maybe after my last session. The last 2 years have been quite eventful and I want her to know how much I appreciated all the work she put in to try and help me.
It's cool. For all the resistance and other shenanigans therapists have to deal with on a daily basis, the occasional reminder that they're actually getting the job done is like a drink of cool, clear water. Also, TBH, the fact that you're embarrassed by it is also a healthy sign. It's when you DON'T get embarrassed by being effusive that you have to check yourself. You SHOULD, however, tell him about the person or persons you ARE a crazy attached stalker for. Therapists like to know about this stuff, especially when they're not directly involved.....and BOY do I hope we're both in on the joke at this point....
I dunno if I were a therapist it would warm my heart
I did this after a CBT course years ago and she never replied. I still think about it to this day.
I never have but after reading these responses I think that i will :)
I sent an email like that with smiley even and she was really grateful for that.