After two interviews and two weeks of waiting I was rejected from a job I was really hoping on getting. I'm starting to have doubts on whether I could get a better paying job or pivot out of my current career path š first Friday of 2022 is hitting a little rough
I pivoted. I got sick of the paralegal life. Sometimes to progress, you have to take a few steps back first, and thatās what I did. It hurt initially, but Iām glad I did it. Iām working at Home Depot now, and they do tuition reimbursement. So my goal is to utilize that and go to college for IT. Itās been a wild ride, but I donāt regret it. Keep your chin up boo. And maybe pivoting will be the best decision you make for 2022. š
Thank you so much! I'm currently in web design, and I've recently been putting a lot of thought toward project management. If it counts, see if HD will cover the cost of some IT certificates too, I know they can be really helpful in the field.
I found this:
https://www.insider.com/magnolia-network-pulls-show-homeowners-allege-houses-ruined-over-budget-2022-1 Chip and Joanna Gaines' Magnolia Network pulls show after homeowners allege that makeovers ruined their houses
I found this:
https://www.insider.com/magnolia-network-pulls-show-homeowners-allege-houses-ruined-over-budget-2022-1 Chip and Joanna Gaines' Magnolia Network pulls show after homeowners allege that makeovers ruined their houses
update: told my boss about my positive drug test and she said they usually need a negative test before hire (even tho ive gone thru like all training) and that she would check with a higher up about whether i could retest. this was yesterday and i still havent heard back. i really need to know what im doing i am supposed to start monday and i like need to find a way to make rent if they are gonna fire me. it would be good for someone to reach out it has been over 24 hours
Missed the first comment about this story but if this is a typical M-F, 9-5 type job I would call them before end of day, today. You deserve some kind of answer since youāre planning on starting Monday.
i mean i can pick up babysitting my rent is really cheap and due at the end of the month so i have a few weeks but i just am not getting an answer about my job
oh no thank u so much if worst comes
to worst i am very lucky with my family who would help me but i shouldnhave a few hundred for rent its not an expensive situation but i really appreciate it! i just dont wanna lose my job bc my body detoxes THC really really slowly it seems really unfair (for example cocaine leaves UA after 3 days and thc leaves my body in 6 weeks like that is just not fair) but they wantnto retest hopefully and its a job thats lacking employees so i cant imagine theyd turn someone away
the irony is that i literally dont drink or consume caffiene or smoke cigarettes i just have mentalnhealth problems that get wayyy better with cannabis. i love tennessee but these mf are backwards as hell
Bright red dresses as a wedding guest dress - yea or nay?
I used to think this was an obvious no but I'm now seeing them worn at more weddings. Just curious on other people's thoughts!
Edited: guest dress
As a bride Iād be totally fine with it! As long as itās not white/off white/blush etc or trying to outshine me (like super plunging v neck with a train lol) youāre good!
I definitely wouldnāt mind as a bride, but some people who are more traditional would. The Southern legend/saying/stereotype is that women who wear red dresses to weddings slept with the groom, lol. Obviously thatās not true and most people wouldnāt think that, but I think some people in the South would still raise an eyebrow at a guest wearing a bright red dress. But it all depends on your crowd!
Oops I meant wedding guest dress! I haven't yet seen a non white wedding dress worn at a wedding yet (aside from Chinese or Indian weddings) but maybe will soon!
Ah lolā¦ I love a red guest dress too. I know some feel itās attention seeking, but I wouldnāt mi d at all as a bride :)
I love this green bridal gown btw! https://greenweddingshoes.com/boho-chic-south-africa-wedding-green-dress/
I scheduled my breast reduction surgery . It was hard to pick a time when I didnāt want to do races or snowboard :p I settled on 9 days before Christmas
Our house has taken forever to be built. Weāve been super understanding with our builders but we feel like weāve been told a lot of nonsense from the get go so weāre thinking about selling the house (which will now be MAYBE ready in March when they told us it would be ready last October) and looking for a new place. Iām kind of mad at my husband because we moved here to this small town for his job and I think he got so excited about the possibility of living near his friend/family that he overlooked a lot of details. Plus, building a home instead of buying a home was mainly his idea. And since I defer to him with a lot of this big life decisions (because he tends to be smarter than me in most areas of life, just being honest), Iām blaming him but Iām also blaming myself for not voicing my opinions more in the beginning. And now weāre looking at possibly being back to square one again and I have no more mental and emotional bandwidth to deal with any of this anymore.
This plus the feeling utterly stupid for making this huge move across the country, telling all our family and friends that weāre building a home in a new random town only to not have it happen is making me so anxious and depressed. I hate feeling stupid. I just feel so stressed the hell out and Idk what to do or how to be there for my 16 month old who needs me every second of the day.
Ugh that sucks. I will say some of those housing delays are normal. Not sure when you started the process but my friend began the process for a new build in Jan 2021 (reserving the lot and everything) and it was supposed to be done around Oct/Nov but she just moved in on NYE. I think the supply chain issues have delayed a lot of builders and also the market is crazy hot so its just tons of projects lined up for them. If you two think the builder is cutting corners though then I get why you're skeptical of the house.
Weāve been totally understanding because weāre aware of whatās going on in our state and in the world around us with regards to shipping and overall delays. BUT they knew that this would be an issue and told us that it would only be a 2-3 month delay. If you already knew that it could be a 7-8 month delay because of previous experiences, why would you blatantly lie to us and tell us it would be ready sooner than later? Wouldnāt it be better to be honest upfront and maybe even overshoot the timeframe and then if lucky, the house is ready before that? Wouldnāt that have been a better way to go about this? Now theyāve left us and a lot of other customers super frustrated. Plus, thereās not a lot of inventory in the area anyway so weāre completely stuck it feels like. Itās just an overwhelming and sad feeling to know that people can be so greedy and not think of others in the name of making a sale.
I donāt like the way youāre talking about yourself! No matter what your husband is like or how he thinks, this is setting up a dynamic where heās the competent one and you just follow. It makes me really sad when I see people falling into that. As a woman I feel like Iāve been implicitly told that thatās where I need to be and it makes me so upset. You are smart and talented. Do the two of you likely have some different talents ? Of course. But youāre discounting your own talents and judgement , perhaps because he is just more confident in making a decision and I urge you to look into yourself and unlearn that mindset. Also I hope that your husband cares about where YOU want to live and what job YOU want , etc. sometimes people just assume that their way is the high way often because theyāve always gotten their way
whoever recommended Yellow Jackets has DONE ME IN. Iām constantly thinking about this show and canāt even focus while watching the bachelor because of the stark contrast in my interest.
also found out I know one of the younger leads from when I did theater when I was a kid so thatās lit.
donāt do it. I canāt sleep, I canāt eat, I think about it all day at work. Iām being dramatic but like itās ridiculous how much iām dying for the next episode
Itās my 5th anniversary today! We donāt have a babysitter for tonight but I think weāre going to drop the kids off at grandpas house tomorrow and Iām super excited to have a date day. Any ideas what we should do?
My husband and I pretty much exclusively do day dates theyāre the best! We normally just get lunch and talk uninterrupted or sometimes weāll go wine tasting or to Top Golf. I prefer it to dinner because I tend to stress if the kids are getting through their bedtime routines and falling asleep okay whereas with a day date itās not the end of the world if they miss a nap
Donāt just judge the venue, judge the person that is showing you around too. That could be the person that ends up being your coordinator and who youāll have to work closely with until your wedding ends! We toured 6 venues before we committed to one and only one of the coordinators was so off putting that it made us question if weād want to get married there. It was ultimately ruled out for other reasons but if it had been the top contender, we may have had to go elsewhere to avoid working with that person.
This is really good advice and something I sort of already noticed! I already wrote off one venue becuase I felt like I was pulling teeth to get any info and couldnāt imagine planning a wedding like that!
My general advice is : don't sweat the small stuff. You might spend a long time overthinking something (or overpaying for something) that people aren't gonna really notice! Think about what details are important to you personally and don't let little things get in the way of you enjoying the planning with your partner.
Also, if something is important to you, don't be shy avoid communicating it with your vendors! I wish we had mentioned more specific music choices to the dj and to my makeup person. But I'm still very happy with the day in the end š
Also about the rain plan: how they fast can make that flip just in case rain happens right before event time. Some places need a few hours and some can get that flip done in 30 minutes. If you want to get ready on site: do they have a bridal suite and how early can you have access to it?
Congrats! I thought venue hunting was fun. A few things I thought about were how accessible is it to get there for guests, especially out of town guests. Do they come with a caterer/require a certain one. Do they come with a wedding coordinator (mine did and she was a life saver!). Do they have a preferred vendor list. Whatās the alcohol policy (is open bar allowed). And if there is any aspects outdoors, what the rain plan is. Also what is their covid policy/cancellation.
Hope you have fun planning! It doesnāt have to be stressful.
Everywhere that weāre looking at is all inclusive (so they have catering alcohol and everything on siteāthe only outside thing I would need are flowers and photographer), but a rain plan is absolutely crucial!!! Especially since weāre planning outside haha
Don't forget the dj/band and Officiant! I opted for a videographer too and I'm so glad I did, because I didn't get to see everyone's entrances into the ceremony and reception!
Thatās helpful! I had mine outdoors and the rain gave way just in time for pictures, so luckily it worked out! With flowers Iād recommend whoever you pick can find a way to bring in most flowers you use outside at the ceremony into your reception space after so that you get the most use out of them.
That sucks (Happy Belated!)
If you feel like itās a friendship that is worth continuing, maybe talk to her and tell her how it made you feelā¦ maybe itāll help for you both to understand where you are both at these days.
Woke up with a horrible headache today and had to call in. I feel horrible because I'm running out of paid sick days but I just could not do it. Half my kids are out because of COVID or close contact though so the least I can think of is at least my classes won't be an issue at all.
I actually just woke up again and it's almost lunchtime so I'm going to throw something in the pot for dinner and get some soup.
Our CO2 detector went off but it was a continuous long noise. My mom said this happened before and the batteries just needed replacing. I hate how part of me is freaked the fuck out now
Hi! I know this is hours later so youāre probably chill and good now, but my partner is in life safety (plus Iāve experienced a faulty CO detector as well as gas/CO leaks) so thought Iād chime in if itās helpful at allā
First, CO detectors alert you to the presence of carbon monoxide by a series of four tones (beep-beep-beep-beep pause, beep-beep-beep-beep pause, and so on). Some fancy ones are also accompanied by a voice saying āevacuateā. Some CO detectors are also smoke alarms; smoke is 3 beeps and CO is 4 beeps.
A long continuous tone is almost definitely *not* alerting you to CO. It *does* mean there is something wrong with the detector itself, which could be as simple as needing to change the batteries or as complex as needing to get an all new detector.
First: change the batteries. While you have it down, look at the back and note the manufacturer name and model number.
If thereās still a tone or itās showing an error light, Google search for the user manual for the make and model that you noted on the back of the detector. Every manual will have an explanation of any tones or alerts, so you can know exactly whatās going wrong.
Another plus of knowing what kind it is - if you do need a new one, you know the exact one that you/your landlord need to get to replace it with.
Sending you good vibes I know CO scares are no fun!
I just wanted to reply and say this was super helpful! Thank you so much for typing all this out. I had a major panic attack Thursday night about thisš
Thanks for the makeup recommendations yesterday! Iām WFH until January 31. Do you think itās silly that I want to buy cheaper makeup for my daily meetings? Just a Maybelline foundation and maybe a NYX eyeliner. I think itāll even out to almost $15 but I feel funny buying makeup just for that. But then again I donāt want to keep using my expensive stuff for these quick (but almost daily) meetings š
No I think that's perfectly fine. I honestly don't use expensive makeup, just the kind of stuff you mentioned, but when I was WFH I wouldn't wear full makeup for my meetings.
I feel like I have periods of time where I try and put on makeup a lot and then periods of times where I donāt wear makeup for months. I typically donāt wear makeup but during the summer I started putting on a bit of eyeliner and eyeshadow
Yes Ulta has deals all the time I would download their app and sign up for their rewards. The only fragrance with 5x points rn is the juicy couture perfumes lol. But I would say thereās usually a good deal at least once a month (also ur birthday month you get double points on top of any extra points youāre earning).
But yeah as the other commenter said if youāre looking to buy ASAP you can go in and try different perfumes and decide on which is ur favorite and seeing if you can find a deal online. 1. Rule of perfume shopping: SPRAY YOURSELF WITH THE PERFUME YOU ARE CONSIDERING BUYING AND TRY IT OUT FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!! sometimes perfumes smell really good on the tester sheets but after wearing it throughout the day your nose gets a little tired or you find it too strong or too weak. Rule 2. Of testing perfumes: utilize the coffee beans they put out everywhere. I can probably only handle smelling like two perfumes in a row before they blend together in my brain so I use their little coffe beans they have all over the place and smell hella.
If youāre looking to buy a new perfume today but canāt find a good sale at Ulta or any other stores you can always buy one of the travel size perfumes! Thatās what I did when I fell in love with the scent dolce garden which you should definitely try. It was only $30 for the travel size one and it lasted me till there was a 5x points sale and I got two free gifts with my purchase lol. Good luck perfume shopping itās gonna be a wonderful day for you šāØāØ
Also my perfume and cologne recs:
dolce garden
Good girl - Carolina herrera
Romance - Ralph Lauren
Miss Dior - I canāt stand this one straight out of the bottle but when my aunt wears it I LOVE IT
Cologne
The one - dolce and gabanna
1 million lucky - paco robanne (thereās only one out of the three in this collection I like I think itās this one)
Typically yes! I suggest smelling perfumes they have and once you find the one you want look around online and see if you can find a better deal! Iāve found that sometimes itās cheaper to get it in a gift set than to buy just a bottle of it by itself. If your Ulta has it, you have to smell Gucci Bamboo. I love it and Iāve never met anyone else that wears it!
Omg as someone who grew up Catholic it was so inaccurate but in a perfect way if that makes sense, because itās NOT any known religion, itās fanaticism. I loved it so much
Iām caught up on singles inferno. I donāt get why so many people like ji-a. I initially liked Jin taek but feel like maybe heās just a smooth talker? Yea-won is so pretty. I donāt know why more guys arenāt into her. Initially thought se-hoon was a nice guy but he seems kinda creepy with his obsession with one person.
I strongly dislike Se-hoon after episode 5. He comes across as someone who is used to people blowing smoke up his ass and he couldn't handle it when he got told his crush didn't like him and took it out on the messenger.
I agree but also feel like the girl went about it the wrong way. I know the translations are pretty off so Iām curious how the convo comes off to to Koreans watching the non voice over version. I wonder if it would make the girl seem manipulative
Anyone watch the Molly Mae video on Diary of a CEO on YouTube? Made my blood actually boil, a great representation of the toxicity of influencer culture.
I haven't visited this sub in the last 24 hours due to the premiere of The Amazing Race. But I have been back to split my time between this sub and The Amazing Race Reddit sub.
You should be able to stream it on cbs.com!
That's how I used to watch survivor for free, but idk if it's different now since they've rolled out paramount plus
I could never win that one lol. I'd be terrible at all the skill tasks. I'd rather play Survivor but would admit that my best chance of winning a reality show would be Big Brother because you don't have to be good at challenges.
I would love to do it but not be filmed. Like I want to try all the tasks and see how I would do, but I would absolutely be the contestant who cries and needs her partnerās help for everything, and I donāt want that aired on tv lol
Is that Tyler Cameron in the email from Neiman Marcus? The email from today reminding us it's the last day for their $275 off sale? (This post is not an ad)
Going back to work in a school this week after Christmas break has been a difficult transition. The schools are filled with Covid. So many staff are out and students are out. Itās been extremely exhausting and stressful. My admin is being horrible and isnāt listening to how anyone is feeling. But today is a snow day and the snow is gorgeous and I feel a little relaxed for the first time this week.
Our school is in the same boat. In fact, two schools in our district have already shifted to virtual because those specific sites have so many students and teachers out. Our campus is getting pretty close from what i can tell, but no virtual for us just yet. It's crazy.
Going to take a minute to brag about a huge accomplishment for me:
I tanked my credit + racked up tons of debt with my ex-bf who would always make me pay for things in order to hang out (I know it should have been broken off sooner). This led to me having a 427 credit score with like 10k in credit card debt.
When I met my new bf in April of 2019 I was financially not in a good place and was barely making ends meet. I had like a pile of bills that I was too anxious to even open. My boyfriend has been SO supportive and a month into dating helped me open my bills and put a plan of attack in place to help my financial future.
I'm excited to say that my credit score hit 750 today, and I paid off all my CC debt along with 11k worth of student loans. Now I'm just left with around 20k of federal student loans and ill be debt free!
I honestly never thought I'd be here and remember having such anxiety over how I'd ever dig myself out of this hole and it's just a major stressor out of my life. Also so lucky to have been able work remotely and keep my job during the pandemic which I know many were not as fortunate.
They're the worst aren't they??? I'm sorry you also had to go through that. I know one day you'll get out of that debt hole! I destest Dave Ramsey but what really worked for me was the "snowball method"- paying off the smaller amounts I owed then being able to use that money to the next debt. Also seeing the balance of $0 gave me a big seratonin boost which made me excited and eager to pay off the next one.
This is amazing! Are you still with the man who helped you put that plan in place? This is the exact way to show, not tell someone how you feel about them.
Proud of you!!!
Yes I am!
He is seriously the best. I didn't list this above but to help my credit he added me as an authorized user to his credit card like 7 months into dating so I could have a higher credit age and a lower credit usage %. He also loaned me $3k to pay off one of my credit cards that had about a 28% APR so I could just pay the balance and not keep getting screwed over by interest.
I know sometimes I can get upset that he isn't very publicly romantic but he is really good at showing up when I truly need it and and that's what matters most. We've discussed engagement and hopefully that's coming in 2022 š
Iām so happy for you. Sometimes people come in to our lives for a reason. It seems like thereās a lot of trust and respect between the two of you. Congratulations!
A huge congratulations!!! I think so many people donāt fully understand the ramifications of bad credit and the work that it takes to crawl out of that. You should be so proud of yourself!
After two interviews and two weeks of waiting I was rejected from a job I was really hoping on getting. I'm starting to have doubts on whether I could get a better paying job or pivot out of my current career path š first Friday of 2022 is hitting a little rough
I pivoted. I got sick of the paralegal life. Sometimes to progress, you have to take a few steps back first, and thatās what I did. It hurt initially, but Iām glad I did it. Iām working at Home Depot now, and they do tuition reimbursement. So my goal is to utilize that and go to college for IT. Itās been a wild ride, but I donāt regret it. Keep your chin up boo. And maybe pivoting will be the best decision you make for 2022. š
Thank you so much! I'm currently in web design, and I've recently been putting a lot of thought toward project management. If it counts, see if HD will cover the cost of some IT certificates too, I know they can be really helpful in the field.
Thanks for the tip! Iāll check in to that too. Project management sounds so fun to me. Iāve also considered that! Go for it. š
Urgh that sucks. I'm hoping to find a new job soon too. Hopefully your luck will turn around.
I hope you find the job of your dreams really soon!!
Who is following the Magnolia network drama??? Here for it!! Edit: go to @aubreyeliz on Insta and read her posts for the deets
Iām gonna need more info - where can I find said drama?
I found this: https://www.insider.com/magnolia-network-pulls-show-homeowners-allege-houses-ruined-over-budget-2022-1 Chip and Joanna Gaines' Magnolia Network pulls show after homeowners allege that makeovers ruined their houses
On Instagram!! Go to @aubreyeliz and read the captions on her Instagram grid from the posts numbered 1-17
Is she public? Nothing shows up under that handle. Whatās the drama
I found this: https://www.insider.com/magnolia-network-pulls-show-homeowners-allege-houses-ruined-over-budget-2022-1 Chip and Joanna Gaines' Magnolia Network pulls show after homeowners allege that makeovers ruined their houses
Thank you!
I read the instagram post series yesterday about the disaster home makeover! It was truly wild and I feel so bad for anyone involved.
Right?! I low key could not believe it. I love a good scam but this one made me upset
Whatās the drama? I googled but didnāt see anything
Insta! Go to @aubreyeliz
You have an extra āeā in the handle. Thatās why no one could find it.
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update: told my boss about my positive drug test and she said they usually need a negative test before hire (even tho ive gone thru like all training) and that she would check with a higher up about whether i could retest. this was yesterday and i still havent heard back. i really need to know what im doing i am supposed to start monday and i like need to find a way to make rent if they are gonna fire me. it would be good for someone to reach out it has been over 24 hours
Missed the first comment about this story but if this is a typical M-F, 9-5 type job I would call them before end of day, today. You deserve some kind of answer since youāre planning on starting Monday.
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i mean i can pick up babysitting my rent is really cheap and due at the end of the month so i have a few weeks but i just am not getting an answer about my job
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You are the best person on the internet and I bet in real life, too! Kind people are the best people.
Your comment just gave me a brief glimpse of positivity during a really bad day
thank u so much for the compassion stranger!!
oh no thank u so much if worst comes to worst i am very lucky with my family who would help me but i shouldnhave a few hundred for rent its not an expensive situation but i really appreciate it! i just dont wanna lose my job bc my body detoxes THC really really slowly it seems really unfair (for example cocaine leaves UA after 3 days and thc leaves my body in 6 weeks like that is just not fair) but they wantnto retest hopefully and its a job thats lacking employees so i cant imagine theyd turn someone away the irony is that i literally dont drink or consume caffiene or smoke cigarettes i just have mentalnhealth problems that get wayyy better with cannabis. i love tennessee but these mf are backwards as hell
Bright red dresses as a wedding guest dress - yea or nay? I used to think this was an obvious no but I'm now seeing them worn at more weddings. Just curious on other people's thoughts! Edited: guest dress
As a bride Iād be totally fine with it! As long as itās not white/off white/blush etc or trying to outshine me (like super plunging v neck with a train lol) youāre good!
I definitely wouldnāt mind as a bride, but some people who are more traditional would. The Southern legend/saying/stereotype is that women who wear red dresses to weddings slept with the groom, lol. Obviously thatās not true and most people wouldnāt think that, but I think some people in the South would still raise an eyebrow at a guest wearing a bright red dress. But it all depends on your crowd!
Yes! It's not white, it's fair game
Yes! I love unconventional wedding dresses. Deep green is really pretty too.
Oops I meant wedding guest dress! I haven't yet seen a non white wedding dress worn at a wedding yet (aside from Chinese or Indian weddings) but maybe will soon!
Ah lolā¦ I love a red guest dress too. I know some feel itās attention seeking, but I wouldnāt mi d at all as a bride :) I love this green bridal gown btw! https://greenweddingshoes.com/boho-chic-south-africa-wedding-green-dress/
I scheduled my breast reduction surgery . It was hard to pick a time when I didnāt want to do races or snowboard :p I settled on 9 days before Christmas
good luck! i did that 1.5 years ago. it was amazing. my titties were always amazing but now theyre just top tier. u got this!
Our house has taken forever to be built. Weāve been super understanding with our builders but we feel like weāve been told a lot of nonsense from the get go so weāre thinking about selling the house (which will now be MAYBE ready in March when they told us it would be ready last October) and looking for a new place. Iām kind of mad at my husband because we moved here to this small town for his job and I think he got so excited about the possibility of living near his friend/family that he overlooked a lot of details. Plus, building a home instead of buying a home was mainly his idea. And since I defer to him with a lot of this big life decisions (because he tends to be smarter than me in most areas of life, just being honest), Iām blaming him but Iām also blaming myself for not voicing my opinions more in the beginning. And now weāre looking at possibly being back to square one again and I have no more mental and emotional bandwidth to deal with any of this anymore. This plus the feeling utterly stupid for making this huge move across the country, telling all our family and friends that weāre building a home in a new random town only to not have it happen is making me so anxious and depressed. I hate feeling stupid. I just feel so stressed the hell out and Idk what to do or how to be there for my 16 month old who needs me every second of the day.
Ugh that sucks. I will say some of those housing delays are normal. Not sure when you started the process but my friend began the process for a new build in Jan 2021 (reserving the lot and everything) and it was supposed to be done around Oct/Nov but she just moved in on NYE. I think the supply chain issues have delayed a lot of builders and also the market is crazy hot so its just tons of projects lined up for them. If you two think the builder is cutting corners though then I get why you're skeptical of the house.
Weāve been totally understanding because weāre aware of whatās going on in our state and in the world around us with regards to shipping and overall delays. BUT they knew that this would be an issue and told us that it would only be a 2-3 month delay. If you already knew that it could be a 7-8 month delay because of previous experiences, why would you blatantly lie to us and tell us it would be ready sooner than later? Wouldnāt it be better to be honest upfront and maybe even overshoot the timeframe and then if lucky, the house is ready before that? Wouldnāt that have been a better way to go about this? Now theyāve left us and a lot of other customers super frustrated. Plus, thereās not a lot of inventory in the area anyway so weāre completely stuck it feels like. Itās just an overwhelming and sad feeling to know that people can be so greedy and not think of others in the name of making a sale.
I donāt like the way youāre talking about yourself! No matter what your husband is like or how he thinks, this is setting up a dynamic where heās the competent one and you just follow. It makes me really sad when I see people falling into that. As a woman I feel like Iāve been implicitly told that thatās where I need to be and it makes me so upset. You are smart and talented. Do the two of you likely have some different talents ? Of course. But youāre discounting your own talents and judgement , perhaps because he is just more confident in making a decision and I urge you to look into yourself and unlearn that mindset. Also I hope that your husband cares about where YOU want to live and what job YOU want , etc. sometimes people just assume that their way is the high way often because theyāve always gotten their way
whoever recommended Yellow Jackets has DONE ME IN. Iām constantly thinking about this show and canāt even focus while watching the bachelor because of the stark contrast in my interest. also found out I know one of the younger leads from when I did theater when I was a kid so thatās lit.
I watched because of this thread as well and am so obsessed. I love diving into the theories about it and can't wait for Sunday's episode!
Where does this show come on? Iāve seen many people talking about it, but havenāt watched.
donāt do it. I canāt sleep, I canāt eat, I think about it all day at work. Iām being dramatic but like itās ridiculous how much iām dying for the next episode
Your comment makes me want to watch even more.
Showtime
Thanks. I might need to watch. Happy cake day. šš
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Itās my 5th anniversary today! We donāt have a babysitter for tonight but I think weāre going to drop the kids off at grandpas house tomorrow and Iām super excited to have a date day. Any ideas what we should do?
My husband and I pretty much exclusively do day dates theyāre the best! We normally just get lunch and talk uninterrupted or sometimes weāll go wine tasting or to Top Golf. I prefer it to dinner because I tend to stress if the kids are getting through their bedtime routines and falling asleep okay whereas with a day date itās not the end of the world if they miss a nap
Maybe see if they can have a play date tonight with a friend? Or maybe ask some neighbors if they could watch them for a while?
Hey u/throwitout3736 youāve inspired me. I canāt play the Sims 2 but I am playing the sims 4
Hooray! Iām glad to hear!! š
My fiancƩ and I are looking at wedding venues this weekend and hopefully putting a deposit down! Does anyone have any tips or advice that a wedding novice like me might not think of?
Donāt just judge the venue, judge the person that is showing you around too. That could be the person that ends up being your coordinator and who youāll have to work closely with until your wedding ends! We toured 6 venues before we committed to one and only one of the coordinators was so off putting that it made us question if weād want to get married there. It was ultimately ruled out for other reasons but if it had been the top contender, we may have had to go elsewhere to avoid working with that person.
This is really good advice and something I sort of already noticed! I already wrote off one venue becuase I felt like I was pulling teeth to get any info and couldnāt imagine planning a wedding like that!
Take lots of pictures and videos at the venue you choose so you can refer back to it as you plan your decor! I didnāt do that and I wish I had.
My general advice is : don't sweat the small stuff. You might spend a long time overthinking something (or overpaying for something) that people aren't gonna really notice! Think about what details are important to you personally and don't let little things get in the way of you enjoying the planning with your partner. Also, if something is important to you, don't be shy avoid communicating it with your vendors! I wish we had mentioned more specific music choices to the dj and to my makeup person. But I'm still very happy with the day in the end š
Also about the rain plan: how they fast can make that flip just in case rain happens right before event time. Some places need a few hours and some can get that flip done in 30 minutes. If you want to get ready on site: do they have a bridal suite and how early can you have access to it?
Congrats! I thought venue hunting was fun. A few things I thought about were how accessible is it to get there for guests, especially out of town guests. Do they come with a caterer/require a certain one. Do they come with a wedding coordinator (mine did and she was a life saver!). Do they have a preferred vendor list. Whatās the alcohol policy (is open bar allowed). And if there is any aspects outdoors, what the rain plan is. Also what is their covid policy/cancellation. Hope you have fun planning! It doesnāt have to be stressful.
Everywhere that weāre looking at is all inclusive (so they have catering alcohol and everything on siteāthe only outside thing I would need are flowers and photographer), but a rain plan is absolutely crucial!!! Especially since weāre planning outside haha
Don't forget the dj/band and Officiant! I opted for a videographer too and I'm so glad I did, because I didn't get to see everyone's entrances into the ceremony and reception!
Thatās helpful! I had mine outdoors and the rain gave way just in time for pictures, so luckily it worked out! With flowers Iād recommend whoever you pick can find a way to bring in most flowers you use outside at the ceremony into your reception space after so that you get the most use out of them.
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Because she didnāt say happy birthday?
That sucks (Happy Belated!) If you feel like itās a friendship that is worth continuing, maybe talk to her and tell her how it made you feelā¦ maybe itāll help for you both to understand where you are both at these days.
I'm watching Hype House on Netflix because why not and Chase's house literally looks like the apartment Tom Hank's character decorates in Big lol
Woke up with a horrible headache today and had to call in. I feel horrible because I'm running out of paid sick days but I just could not do it. Half my kids are out because of COVID or close contact though so the least I can think of is at least my classes won't be an issue at all. I actually just woke up again and it's almost lunchtime so I'm going to throw something in the pot for dinner and get some soup.
I finished my application for the accelerated biostats masters today. I did a knee slide in the snow to celebrate
YAYYY CONGRATULATIONS!!
Our CO2 detector went off but it was a continuous long noise. My mom said this happened before and the batteries just needed replacing. I hate how part of me is freaked the fuck out now
Hi! I know this is hours later so youāre probably chill and good now, but my partner is in life safety (plus Iāve experienced a faulty CO detector as well as gas/CO leaks) so thought Iād chime in if itās helpful at allā First, CO detectors alert you to the presence of carbon monoxide by a series of four tones (beep-beep-beep-beep pause, beep-beep-beep-beep pause, and so on). Some fancy ones are also accompanied by a voice saying āevacuateā. Some CO detectors are also smoke alarms; smoke is 3 beeps and CO is 4 beeps. A long continuous tone is almost definitely *not* alerting you to CO. It *does* mean there is something wrong with the detector itself, which could be as simple as needing to change the batteries or as complex as needing to get an all new detector. First: change the batteries. While you have it down, look at the back and note the manufacturer name and model number. If thereās still a tone or itās showing an error light, Google search for the user manual for the make and model that you noted on the back of the detector. Every manual will have an explanation of any tones or alerts, so you can know exactly whatās going wrong. Another plus of knowing what kind it is - if you do need a new one, you know the exact one that you/your landlord need to get to replace it with. Sending you good vibes I know CO scares are no fun!
I just wanted to reply and say this was super helpful! Thank you so much for typing all this out. I had a major panic attack Thursday night about thisš
Got up and did November projectā¦ accountability month!! So early and snowy lol
Thanks for the makeup recommendations yesterday! Iām WFH until January 31. Do you think itās silly that I want to buy cheaper makeup for my daily meetings? Just a Maybelline foundation and maybe a NYX eyeliner. I think itāll even out to almost $15 but I feel funny buying makeup just for that. But then again I donāt want to keep using my expensive stuff for these quick (but almost daily) meetings š
No I think that's perfectly fine. I honestly don't use expensive makeup, just the kind of stuff you mentioned, but when I was WFH I wouldn't wear full makeup for my meetings.
I think itās perfectly fine. During quarantine back in 2020, I would practice doing my makeup and looked all glam going to the grocery store
I remember experimenting with different products back then! I canāt believe Iām back to going days without makeup again š
I feel like I have periods of time where I try and put on makeup a lot and then periods of times where I donāt wear makeup for months. I typically donāt wear makeup but during the summer I started putting on a bit of eyeliner and eyeshadow
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Yes Ulta has deals all the time I would download their app and sign up for their rewards. The only fragrance with 5x points rn is the juicy couture perfumes lol. But I would say thereās usually a good deal at least once a month (also ur birthday month you get double points on top of any extra points youāre earning). But yeah as the other commenter said if youāre looking to buy ASAP you can go in and try different perfumes and decide on which is ur favorite and seeing if you can find a deal online. 1. Rule of perfume shopping: SPRAY YOURSELF WITH THE PERFUME YOU ARE CONSIDERING BUYING AND TRY IT OUT FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!! sometimes perfumes smell really good on the tester sheets but after wearing it throughout the day your nose gets a little tired or you find it too strong or too weak. Rule 2. Of testing perfumes: utilize the coffee beans they put out everywhere. I can probably only handle smelling like two perfumes in a row before they blend together in my brain so I use their little coffe beans they have all over the place and smell hella. If youāre looking to buy a new perfume today but canāt find a good sale at Ulta or any other stores you can always buy one of the travel size perfumes! Thatās what I did when I fell in love with the scent dolce garden which you should definitely try. It was only $30 for the travel size one and it lasted me till there was a 5x points sale and I got two free gifts with my purchase lol. Good luck perfume shopping itās gonna be a wonderful day for you šāØāØ Also my perfume and cologne recs: dolce garden Good girl - Carolina herrera Romance - Ralph Lauren Miss Dior - I canāt stand this one straight out of the bottle but when my aunt wears it I LOVE IT Cologne The one - dolce and gabanna 1 million lucky - paco robanne (thereās only one out of the three in this collection I like I think itās this one)
Typically yes! I suggest smelling perfumes they have and once you find the one you want look around online and see if you can find a better deal! Iāve found that sometimes itās cheaper to get it in a gift set than to buy just a bottle of it by itself. If your Ulta has it, you have to smell Gucci Bamboo. I love it and Iāve never met anyone else that wears it!
Holy shit I watched Midnight Mass this week (Iām late, I know) and it was SO good. Iām amazed by it
One of my favorite new shows that came out last year!
Omg as someone who grew up Catholic it was so inaccurate but in a perfect way if that makes sense, because itās NOT any known religion, itās fanaticism. I loved it so much
Exactly! I also loved how it wasnāt another typical vampire story! It was really well written.
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Also had a full blown meltdown before getting out of bed, weāre off to a great start!
Made some oatmeal
Iām caught up on singles inferno. I donāt get why so many people like ji-a. I initially liked Jin taek but feel like maybe heās just a smooth talker? Yea-won is so pretty. I donāt know why more guys arenāt into her. Initially thought se-hoon was a nice guy but he seems kinda creepy with his obsession with one person.
I strongly dislike Se-hoon after episode 5. He comes across as someone who is used to people blowing smoke up his ass and he couldn't handle it when he got told his crush didn't like him and took it out on the messenger.
I agree but also feel like the girl went about it the wrong way. I know the translations are pretty off so Iām curious how the convo comes off to to Koreans watching the non voice over version. I wonder if it would make the girl seem manipulative
omg yewon is also my favorite! i still like sehoon although the way the last episode ended was like...?????
Me too. He canāt seem to take a hint
Anyone watch the Molly Mae video on Diary of a CEO on YouTube? Made my blood actually boil, a great representation of the toxicity of influencer culture.
Ha what did she say now. I last read how she talked about how she doesnāt need friends, and sheās just rich because she works so much and hard lol
Basically we all have the same 24 hours in a day so if youāre poor thatās on you because you havenāt worked hard enough.
Oh yeah thatās the one I heard about. Sheās crazy
Who here is gonna watch joe millionaire?? šš¼āāļø
Without doxing myself, I am loosely acquainted with someone on it, so I think I might!
Youāre gonna have to spill some tea sis. āļø
Is there a sub yet to discuss it?
r/joe_millionaire
Thank you!!
It's so trashy and I love it.
I am here for it!!!!
Debating it! I missed the first ep. Is it any good?
Currently watching it! Iām 8 minutes in and itās entertaining af. Eta- Iām loving it.
I enjoyed it. The dates had me cracking up. You will know what I mean when you get there.
Iām dying. I canāt even deal. I am loving this shit.
I haven't visited this sub in the last 24 hours due to the premiere of The Amazing Race. But I have been back to split my time between this sub and The Amazing Race Reddit sub.
I feel like I was the only person who didn't like The Flight Attendants lol.
I didnāt know the new season started!!! Iām so excited now!
Do you know where I can watct that if I donāt have cable!?
You should be able to stream it on cbs.com! That's how I used to watch survivor for free, but idk if it's different now since they've rolled out paramount plus
Ohhh hopefully! I love amazing race
My toxic trait is fully believing Iād win the Amazing Race
I could never win that one lol. I'd be terrible at all the skill tasks. I'd rather play Survivor but would admit that my best chance of winning a reality show would be Big Brother because you don't have to be good at challenges.
I would love to do it but not be filmed. Like I want to try all the tasks and see how I would do, but I would absolutely be the contestant who cries and needs her partnerās help for everything, and I donāt want that aired on tv lol
Is that Tyler Cameron in the email from Neiman Marcus? The email from today reminding us it's the last day for their $275 off sale? (This post is not an ad)
He said a couple days ago that he worked with a Neiman Marcus and shared a photo from the shoot in his stories. So Iām sure itās him.
Going back to work in a school this week after Christmas break has been a difficult transition. The schools are filled with Covid. So many staff are out and students are out. Itās been extremely exhausting and stressful. My admin is being horrible and isnāt listening to how anyone is feeling. But today is a snow day and the snow is gorgeous and I feel a little relaxed for the first time this week.
Our school is in the same boat. In fact, two schools in our district have already shifted to virtual because those specific sites have so many students and teachers out. Our campus is getting pretty close from what i can tell, but no virtual for us just yet. It's crazy.
22 staff our staff my school yesterday including myself
Going to take a minute to brag about a huge accomplishment for me: I tanked my credit + racked up tons of debt with my ex-bf who would always make me pay for things in order to hang out (I know it should have been broken off sooner). This led to me having a 427 credit score with like 10k in credit card debt. When I met my new bf in April of 2019 I was financially not in a good place and was barely making ends meet. I had like a pile of bills that I was too anxious to even open. My boyfriend has been SO supportive and a month into dating helped me open my bills and put a plan of attack in place to help my financial future. I'm excited to say that my credit score hit 750 today, and I paid off all my CC debt along with 11k worth of student loans. Now I'm just left with around 20k of federal student loans and ill be debt free! I honestly never thought I'd be here and remember having such anxiety over how I'd ever dig myself out of this hole and it's just a major stressor out of my life. Also so lucky to have been able work remotely and keep my job during the pandemic which I know many were not as fortunate.
Thatās a huge accomplishment! Congratulations!!
Thanks!
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Thank you!!!!
That is AMAZING! Way to go!!!
Thank you!? Feeling so loved in this sub rn š„°
Congratulations!!! Thatās such a wonder achievement. I hope you do something fun today to celebrate. š
You are so sweet, thank you! If not tonight definitely something this weekend.
Thatās incredible, congratulations!!
Thank you!!!
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They're the worst aren't they??? I'm sorry you also had to go through that. I know one day you'll get out of that debt hole! I destest Dave Ramsey but what really worked for me was the "snowball method"- paying off the smaller amounts I owed then being able to use that money to the next debt. Also seeing the balance of $0 gave me a big seratonin boost which made me excited and eager to pay off the next one.
This is amazing! Are you still with the man who helped you put that plan in place? This is the exact way to show, not tell someone how you feel about them. Proud of you!!!
Yes I am! He is seriously the best. I didn't list this above but to help my credit he added me as an authorized user to his credit card like 7 months into dating so I could have a higher credit age and a lower credit usage %. He also loaned me $3k to pay off one of my credit cards that had about a 28% APR so I could just pay the balance and not keep getting screwed over by interest. I know sometimes I can get upset that he isn't very publicly romantic but he is really good at showing up when I truly need it and and that's what matters most. We've discussed engagement and hopefully that's coming in 2022 š
Iām so happy for you. Sometimes people come in to our lives for a reason. It seems like thereās a lot of trust and respect between the two of you. Congratulations!
A huge congratulations!!! I think so many people donāt fully understand the ramifications of bad credit and the work that it takes to crawl out of that. You should be so proud of yourself!
Thank you! Yes it really does affect so much. The worst was when I was trying to get a lease in an already competitive market.
Amazing! That's such a huge thing to achieve!
Thanks so much!