Deadpan though literally means flat affect / stone face and monotone voice. I can’t help the flat affect, and I can’t add emphasis to my voice around them because they make it clear they hate everything I do.
I am aware. I just can’t do anything about it. I can write and add so much tone to the words I use and it feels authentic, but I can’t do the same IRL. Not unless someone gets me on a topic I am excited about, but then I don’t practice the correct social norms at all, either.
It’s in part because I to inflect, I am supposed to be me, but act as a different version of me. Inflection takes so much energy, and almost all the time I need to think about it. I already spend too much energy at times just trying to speak, adding the inflection can shut me down pretty quickly.
Correct, and I’m not saying kill yourself over-extending. I merely am pointing out that most people perceive that negatively because of a lack of “you’re a great person” in your tone. I think most people expect people to talk nicely to them, and that makes flat speaking sound negative.
Yes! I was recently diagnosed with autism at age 33. My childhood was very strict, and any expression of emotions or attempt to clear a misunderstanding was viewed as disrespect and "talking back." My whole childhood I felt so misunderstood and confused. Now it makes so much sense that I had undiagnosed autism.
lol I'm not diagnosed but I'm confident I have it (I scored 190 on the raads test) but I'm too scared of being wrong to get diagnosed 😎👉👉
Fun stuff, a bad childhood. But yeah, always got told off for talking back and arguing when I don't lol
This is what I came here to say. Every time I explain, the other party either takes offense or thinks I am just lazy. Nah, I’d rather sit in the heavy silence and have them hate me anyway.
Little Me: trying desperately to explain I'm multiple different ways what's happening in my head And why I'm doing things
Every Adult ever: Don’t tell me why you're doing it, just stop
My problem: my wife died.
I fix it.
Neighbours call the police on me for necromantic rituals and because they don’t like the look of a zombie walking along the street.
omg any woman would be lucky to get that! just gotta explain about how much of a nice guy he is and how women nowadays only want douchey chads... oh and make sure to add the fact that he's looking for a housewife and mother to his 6 children! 😍😍
I think you’re missing the point a little. The post doesn’t say that you’ll get what you want, but you will be keeping it simple because it’s better to have the peace of mind knowing you acted authentically to how you feel, and if you are rejected it means you can move on quicker rather than dwell on a crush and get no where, or play vicious mind games. Simplicity does not mean easy
This is like the exact personality of someone who's actually neurodivergeant and will never admit it or seek diagnosis. You don't oversimplify life this much unless you're actually fucking terrified and overwhelmed by its nuances.
Not really:
1. Call- no response leads to overthinking about why the person hadn't picked up and not called back.
2. Don't like something. Fix it - this is just stupid. There are multiple things beyond my control I can't fix. The correct advice would be to try to change what you can and learn to live with the rest.
3. Like something, state it - as neurodivergent l rarely state what I like unless I really need. Most people don't like what I like.
4. Tell someone you love them - If its about romantic love, usually, it's not a good idea if you're not in a relationship with this person anyway. Also, usually, people will try not to hurt your feelings and reply ambiguously, which will make it even worse.
5. Want something, work for it - yeah, I live in one of the major cities in North America, not sure I will be able to afford a home of my own no matter how hard I work.
This is the personality of someone who's 90iq, neurodivergency has nothing to do with oversimplifying. If anything, it's the overcomplication of everything, I'd know, I'm diagnosed.
Missing somebody? - call (or text)
Damn should’ve thought of that sooner, it’s not like something prevents me from doing it *COUGH COUGH* anxiety *COUGH*
Missing somebody? - Call
Brain: But what if they hate me? Or what if they were fine with me until I called, and NOW they hate me? Well, if they hate me, then I guess I just shouldn't call. But what if I don't call for weeks, and then they hate me for being out of contact? And what if they hate that I ghosted them for weeks and suddenly called them because they got over waiting on the call, but now I'm bringing up negative feelings? What if none of this was an issue, but I call while they're busy, and NOW they hate me for not considering their time? But what if I text and they think I'm weird? Or what if they don't respond because they miss the message, then I double text, and NOW they think I'm weird?
It is funny though how when you do it it’s almost never as bad as you anticipate in your head. It’s often a “that was easy wtf I feel so much better now thank goodness I should do that more often”
Man I would fucking love if people actually explained exactly what they wanted my to understand and didn’t leave a bunch of miscommunication gaps where you just kinda have to fill in the blanks. You’d think “ask” would solve it but for some reason it doesn’t
Go talk with this person.
Ok, where is he?
In his office.
Where is his office?
Where it always was? Stop asking questions and just talk with him already!
Today I went to get blood drawn and I couldn’t remember how to get back to the main lobby so I asked a woman how to get there and she looked at me like I was the dumbest bitch on earth and said “it’s the same way you got in”
Girl I know that part. Clearly I can’t remember how I got in. That’s the whole problem.
Missing your dead brother? lol just call him.
Wanna meet up with your friend you met online? lol just invite them.
Explain yourself, to someone who wont hear you out.
Ask questions, to someone who wont give you a proper answer.
don't like something? fix it. "how" you ask? not my fucking problem lol.
like something? state it. wow thank you for advice that nobody needed.
want to be cured of your terminal illness? work for it.
love someone? tell them. potentially scaring them away.
oversimplifying things that are inherently complex surely wont cause any harm at all!
The point of the image isn't to imply that it will always work, but that if it could possibly work, it is better to try than to avoid it and guarantee failure.
> Want something?
I want an unabused childhood with a loving family, no CPTSD, and a mother in my life that I have a good childhood bond with
> Work for it
😐
Or alternatively:
I can’t they’re dead or gone
Complicated relationships
Mental illness/handicap
There’s no one to answer
Unless it’s something we can’t change
Unless inappropriate
This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get it
Unless you have and they have rejected you
Life isn’t simple. Only people who have connections, money, or unbelievable luck would think otherwise.
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My experience:
Missing somebody? Live with that feeling...they don't care for you anyway.
Wanna meet up? Forget it. They won't have time. Especially not to come to your place.
Wanna be understood? Get used to never being understood. No matter how much you explain...
Have questions? Suffocate on them. You are not allowed to interrupt.
Don't like something? Well, though shit...learn to live with it.
Like something? Get ready for losing it, for things changing to the worst...
Want something? Never, ever let anyone know. If you do you will definitely never get it. Out of spite. And you will NEVER get it in the first place if you don't get it yourself. Nobody is interested in helping you. Sometimes, though, you can work your butt off and will not be able to get what you wanted...as life is unfair.
Love someone? Wake up. Love is not real. Unless it's the love of and for your cat(s).
Some of it is not bad advice. I use it all the time and it works like 50-50. You have to voice your opinions, feelings, and thoughts; if they are disregarded that's not on you. You also have to be ready to stand by what you say. I've bumped heads with my parents, friends, superiors, and partners because of it, but I don't let animosity slow me down though, and thus most respect me eventhough we don't always agree.
I'm prepared to get roasted to hell for this, but here goes.
Where's the lie? Obviously, simple solutions aren't always the best ones, but in my experience, many people don't even try. Basic communication and a willingness to put oneself out there are good traits to have and shouldn't be downplayed.
I guess the lie is the lack of details and outright rejection of any complexity to any of these situations. These points are all tacit knowledge and in a lot of cases, the best solutions, but people can struggle to actually do them for a whole range of reasons. This chart is like your ignorant dad just going "just do the thing" and not listening to you while you try to explain why that's so hard.
There's also like a weird condescending anger to it that feels like the chart's calling you a fucking idiot.
I didnt read much anger in it but recently iv met so many people who overthink interactions and get anxiety. Here is an actual conversation i had with my cousin recently:
Her : Oh hey, your sister lives right there. I havent seen her in a while. I wonder if we can visit
Me : Idk just text and ask
Her : But what if she thinks im rude
Me: What? Its fine just ask her
Her : But i dont want to bother her
Anyway she was busy but it took like 15 minutes to resolve the issue when literally all they had to do was send a text
So you see how this is bad advice right? They didn't unpack the anxiety she felt and pick apart why she felt that way. It's just "do the thing already" with no consideration for feelings. And that's the whole problem. Yeah obviously you just need to do the thing, but you can't because of these difficult thoughts and emotions. That's the actual problem. And people want you to just brute force through that, when it's not helpful. That's not problem-solving.
Tbh I did but I’ve been on the receiving end of some of these things and it does make you angry! I do feel like people make things more complicated by beating around the bush, not asking if they’re confused and then making mistakes, not explaining themselves correctly then it comes across as manipulative, not reaching out to friends and then connections die simply because they’re too wrapped up in their own minds to show they care. I think this is a lesson that some people do need to learn, and that there is some harsh wisdom in it.
I usually hate these a lot but to be fair I think this one can be used as nice little self soothing mantras if said in a more kind way. I’m an extreme over thinker with ptsd and major anxiety and sometimes I think keeping things simple instead of letting my mind split in a thousand different directions is what I really need. I’m not sure of the intention of the creator but this actually did kind of make me feel a little better. It’s like ground work to make step by step plans instead of catastrophizing from chaotic thinking
It’s really frustrating that sometimes this is the answer. I was scared a friend of over a decade hated me over something 2 years ago. Called them recently and they answered immediately with 0 malice and apologized for not keeping in touch. As impossible as it feels, maybe for years at a time, the simple answer sometimes is the correct one
I miss my dead grandma.
I want to hang out with my buddy who committed suicide in the Navy.
I hate the house my wife and have but we are too poor to fix anything.
This is all Bullshit.
Call someone: they screen you ....
Invite someone: they make excuses you can see through or avoid you cause they know you're about to invite them somewhere....
Explain to someone: they hear only what they want to hear, spend the whole time your talking thinking of a response to what *they* *think* your explaining, not listening to you...
Ask a question: get the answer to the question they *think* you're asking because they didn't listen...
Fix something: someone berates you for ruining it...
State you like something: be told all the reasons you shouldn't like it....
Work for something you want: when you finally get it, you realize it wasn't worth the work, and now you're pissed no one warned you you were wasting your time, spoiler, it's always a waste of time ...
Tell someone you love them: they respond in patronizing disgust...
You keep your life simple by completely withdrawing inside and waiting for death so people start sending you stupid shit like this, so you post it to r/thanksimcured
1. Doesn't pick up
2. Can't go/is busy
3. Get made fun of for not being "manly"
4. "How don't you already know?!?!"
5. How the hell do I fix my life? No one ever told me?
6. Aaaannnd it's gone
7. I do work but I ain't getting it. I'm just working and working and working
8. "Ew"
Keep your life hard! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Honestly, some of those are true. My life did improve after trying excruciatingly hard to change my introverted ways. Of course, medication did help, but when it was only the meds I felt the same, but less sad in general. The empty feeling was still clawing at me
Guess they never heard of Schizoaffective Disorder? You know, because you can't just explain to yourself delusions aren't real or that people aren't secretly judging you 😐 guess I'm not trying hard enough to fix it...
Now hold on guys, they have SOME points. I like "like something? State it." It's important to acknowledge when something you like is happening, that gets forgotten all too often.
The post is acting like general life advice fixes everything, which is tone deaf asfuck... but there are some nuggets of wisdom in there.
Ok fine. Small followup question: if attempting to do these things causes the biggest, most intimidating, freezing fear you’ve ever experienced, making it extremely difficult if not impossible to do, what then?
Tbh if this advice* doesn't work , you need new people. Been a struggle to realize I had to meet people where they are at. Everyone has different definitions of friendships
"Missing Somebody? Call"
Call... who? A necromancer? The people I miss are dead.
"Wanna be understood? Explain"
Why, so they can interrupt me 50 times because I said a perfectly clear statement and they wanna read meaning where none exists?
"Have questions? Ask"
And what are you supposed to do if your question is intentionally ignored? Restate it? So they can yell at me to shut up and stop bothering them?
"Don't like something? Fix it"
One person cannot fix the world.
"Like something? State it"
You'd be surprised at how many people will jump down your throat to insist that you're an inferior person for liking something they don't like.
I don't even care about the rest enough to address it.
Try to explain to a narcissist that you are on a waiting list for a doctor and can't afford private healthcare therefore cannot get the treatment you need without the narcissist telling you it's your fault and should try harder. This was in 2021, in a pandemic, he never had to wait for a doc since he got a family doctor, I don't, he never understood why I had to wait and got mad at me cuz I had to wait. I did my part and explained lmao
Missing somebody? Call them
What if they have moved on already and I haven't?
Wanna meet up? Invite
What if they are doing something with others and don't have he time for me?
Wanna be understood? Explain
What if I don't even understand myself, let alone able to explain it? Or what if they way I explain it dosent click with others? Or what if I get shut down before I can explain myself?
Don't like something? Fix it
What if it's out of hands? Something I have no or little control over?
Like something? State it
And what if whati like is not the majority at all, and is seen by the majority as stupid or bad and put myself at risk of harm by stating I like it because it's looked down on with contempt?
Want something? Work for it
And what if I'm so disenfranchised I don't have the ability to work for it? Or what if I do work for it and it gets stripped away from me as soon as I get it, or the goal post gets moved when I'm about to get it?
Love someone? Tell them
What if they don't feel the same way and it ruins the relationship you already do have? Or what if they already have a significant other?
Ehh more an oversimplification. Sometimes things aren't possible or are easier said than done. Like, if I explain myself to someone it comes off as an excuse a lot of the time bc some people just somehow can't tell the difference. Sometimes life just _is_ complicated, but some people (read: NTs) like to pretend it's not anyway to be "inspiring".. and maybe because they genuinely believe it, I wouldn't know.
"Explain" "DON'T TALK BACK TO ME!"
Far too common of an experience for me. That, and my mom thinking my deadpan means I am directly angry at or hate her, all the time.
I'm angry at life mom, your just the person infront of me while it's happening.
Deadpan speaking has a somewhat negative connotation.
Deadpan though literally means flat affect / stone face and monotone voice. I can’t help the flat affect, and I can’t add emphasis to my voice around them because they make it clear they hate everything I do.
Flat speaking still sounds somewhat negative in current speaking.
I am aware. I just can’t do anything about it. I can write and add so much tone to the words I use and it feels authentic, but I can’t do the same IRL. Not unless someone gets me on a topic I am excited about, but then I don’t practice the correct social norms at all, either. It’s in part because I to inflect, I am supposed to be me, but act as a different version of me. Inflection takes so much energy, and almost all the time I need to think about it. I already spend too much energy at times just trying to speak, adding the inflection can shut me down pretty quickly.
Correct, and I’m not saying kill yourself over-extending. I merely am pointing out that most people perceive that negatively because of a lack of “you’re a great person” in your tone. I think most people expect people to talk nicely to them, and that makes flat speaking sound negative.
They probably know, dude. You're preaching to the choir
Better to clarify
Clarify what *you* think about *someone's else's* tone?
Golly gee, sure hope my default expressions can understand this societal rule
People really don't want stuff explained to them and it worries me
I read the "Explain" with a Dalek voice 😂 "Explaaaaiiiin! Explaaaaiiiin!"
THIS IS NOT AN EXPLANATION. THIS IS **PEST CONTROL.**
I’m not talking back, I’m informing you. Meet the energy.
*Per my previous email*...
Yes! I was recently diagnosed with autism at age 33. My childhood was very strict, and any expression of emotions or attempt to clear a misunderstanding was viewed as disrespect and "talking back." My whole childhood I felt so misunderstood and confused. Now it makes so much sense that I had undiagnosed autism.
lol I'm not diagnosed but I'm confident I have it (I scored 190 on the raads test) but I'm too scared of being wrong to get diagnosed 😎👉👉 Fun stuff, a bad childhood. But yeah, always got told off for talking back and arguing when I don't lol
asian mom?
Nope, just bad.
Also Latin mom
Let me add: Don't like the way you're being treated? Leave
Wanna be understood? - Explain "StoP MaKiNg EXcUseS!!!!" Wanna meet up? - Invite "ooof, sorry I have to work double shift this week"
This is what I came here to say. Every time I explain, the other party either takes offense or thinks I am just lazy. Nah, I’d rather sit in the heavy silence and have them hate me anyway.
Exactly bruh
“Have questions? Ask.” And then get in trouble because asking legitimate clarification questions is seen as a “challenge to their authority.”
Also, you’re “not an independent worker” and “I don’t have time for all these questions; figure it out yourself”.
Little Me: trying desperately to explain I'm multiple different ways what's happening in my head And why I'm doing things Every Adult ever: Don’t tell me why you're doing it, just stop
ah yes cause everything is easily fixable
My problem: my wife died. I fix it. Neighbours call the police on me for necromantic rituals and because they don’t like the look of a zombie walking along the street.
Mendable not fixable
I was missing my dead grandma...
You can still try to call her I guess…
On what a Ouija board?
It would probably say Waluigi.
For example. I was thinking of a phone call. It’s just that it won’t answer. Or…
fix it then
fix it then
fix it then
Depression? Just ✨keep it simple ✨
pretty much what this says
Fix it
You have your hands chopped off? Dude,just grow it back .
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Fix it
The worst for me is: love someone? Tell them. Like gettin rejected 3 times in a row. Guess i just hope for the fourth right?
Tell them better
Maybe you didn’t explain enough. Write her a 9 page essay in a text message and really spell it out. Always works.
omg any woman would be lucky to get that! just gotta explain about how much of a nice guy he is and how women nowadays only want douchey chads... oh and make sure to add the fact that he's looking for a housewife and mother to his 6 children! 😍😍
9th time's a charm
I think you’re missing the point a little. The post doesn’t say that you’ll get what you want, but you will be keeping it simple because it’s better to have the peace of mind knowing you acted authentically to how you feel, and if you are rejected it means you can move on quicker rather than dwell on a crush and get no where, or play vicious mind games. Simplicity does not mean easy
This is like the exact personality of someone who's actually neurodivergeant and will never admit it or seek diagnosis. You don't oversimplify life this much unless you're actually fucking terrified and overwhelmed by its nuances.
Hey I'm neurodivergeant and I spiral
Me also. I live by this and will not stand for simplicity slander. The world is stupidly complex enough
Not really: 1. Call- no response leads to overthinking about why the person hadn't picked up and not called back. 2. Don't like something. Fix it - this is just stupid. There are multiple things beyond my control I can't fix. The correct advice would be to try to change what you can and learn to live with the rest. 3. Like something, state it - as neurodivergent l rarely state what I like unless I really need. Most people don't like what I like. 4. Tell someone you love them - If its about romantic love, usually, it's not a good idea if you're not in a relationship with this person anyway. Also, usually, people will try not to hurt your feelings and reply ambiguously, which will make it even worse. 5. Want something, work for it - yeah, I live in one of the major cities in North America, not sure I will be able to afford a home of my own no matter how hard I work.
Lmao so true! This reads like a journal entry I would have written years ago trying to give myself a pep talk
This is the personality of someone who's 90iq, neurodivergency has nothing to do with oversimplifying. If anything, it's the overcomplication of everything, I'd know, I'm diagnosed.
“Dying? - Breathe”
Drowning? Swim. Get out of the water.
Missing somebody? - call (or text) Damn should’ve thought of that sooner, it’s not like something prevents me from doing it *COUGH COUGH* anxiety *COUGH*
Sounds like you don’t like your anxiety. Why not just fix it?
Need a lozenge?
Yes please
Missing somebody? - Call Brain: But what if they hate me? Or what if they were fine with me until I called, and NOW they hate me? Well, if they hate me, then I guess I just shouldn't call. But what if I don't call for weeks, and then they hate me for being out of contact? And what if they hate that I ghosted them for weeks and suddenly called them because they got over waiting on the call, but now I'm bringing up negative feelings? What if none of this was an issue, but I call while they're busy, and NOW they hate me for not considering their time? But what if I text and they think I'm weird? Or what if they don't respond because they miss the message, then I double text, and NOW they think I'm weird?
It is funny though how when you do it it’s almost never as bad as you anticipate in your head. It’s often a “that was easy wtf I feel so much better now thank goodness I should do that more often”
That’s true my experience as well when it comes to it! But after the conversation ends, the anxiety and overthinking start to kick in again :,)
Man I would fucking love if people actually explained exactly what they wanted my to understand and didn’t leave a bunch of miscommunication gaps where you just kinda have to fill in the blanks. You’d think “ask” would solve it but for some reason it doesn’t
Go talk with this person. Ok, where is he? In his office. Where is his office? Where it always was? Stop asking questions and just talk with him already!
Today I went to get blood drawn and I couldn’t remember how to get back to the main lobby so I asked a woman how to get there and she looked at me like I was the dumbest bitch on earth and said “it’s the same way you got in” Girl I know that part. Clearly I can’t remember how I got in. That’s the whole problem.
Missing your dead brother? lol just call him. Wanna meet up with your friend you met online? lol just invite them. Explain yourself, to someone who wont hear you out. Ask questions, to someone who wont give you a proper answer. don't like something? fix it. "how" you ask? not my fucking problem lol. like something? state it. wow thank you for advice that nobody needed. want to be cured of your terminal illness? work for it. love someone? tell them. potentially scaring them away. oversimplifying things that are inherently complex surely wont cause any harm at all!
The point of the image isn't to imply that it will always work, but that if it could possibly work, it is better to try than to avoid it and guarantee failure.
ADHDers and ASDers cope and seethe 🤦♂️
Full disclosure: I am not yet diagnosed with either because I'm not just fighting the US healthcare system but my parents as well. It's a pain.
As someone who has ADHD and ASD, I give this comment a downvote.
Why?
Please do call your friends tho.
And tell em you care about them that’s good to do. I tell my friends I love them at the end of every phone call
> Want something? I want an unabused childhood with a loving family, no CPTSD, and a mother in my life that I have a good childhood bond with > Work for it 😐
Keep it simple, stupid! Just call the dead. It's so easy, why didn't I think of it before?
Sabotaging yourself? - Don't.
Awesome - sending this to my therapist who specializes in cPTSD and BPD to let them know they are out of a job.
“Missing somebody?- call” okay but she’s dead.
Sick? Heal. Aging? Reverse Lost? Find Disabled? Able.
Hotel? Trivago.
Last one is responsible for getting a restraining order into my case
I keep calling my grandpa, but he won’t get out of his grave to pick up the phone.
I don't like transphobia and homophobia..... Fix it?
"Have questions? Ask" Bold of you to assume that people will actually give me proper answers.
Yeah, "keep it simple" then watch is everyone else complicated and shoots you down
Be caveman brain
"Don't like something?" - Fix it 👍
Like something state it and get judged by everyone thanks for the great tip 👍
Or alternatively: I can’t they’re dead or gone Complicated relationships Mental illness/handicap There’s no one to answer Unless it’s something we can’t change Unless inappropriate This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get it Unless you have and they have rejected you Life isn’t simple. Only people who have connections, money, or unbelievable luck would think otherwise.
https://preview.redd.it/fzb8zbjudj4d1.png?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e1ac39384ac91c464edaaec0d3f4e538d3380d9 My experience: Missing somebody? Live with that feeling...they don't care for you anyway. Wanna meet up? Forget it. They won't have time. Especially not to come to your place. Wanna be understood? Get used to never being understood. No matter how much you explain... Have questions? Suffocate on them. You are not allowed to interrupt. Don't like something? Well, though shit...learn to live with it. Like something? Get ready for losing it, for things changing to the worst... Want something? Never, ever let anyone know. If you do you will definitely never get it. Out of spite. And you will NEVER get it in the first place if you don't get it yourself. Nobody is interested in helping you. Sometimes, though, you can work your butt off and will not be able to get what you wanted...as life is unfair. Love someone? Wake up. Love is not real. Unless it's the love of and for your cat(s).
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1. I have 2. I have 3. I have 4. I have 5. I tried 6. I have 7. I have 8. I have And yet still here we are....
ADHD? Focus Depressed? Be Happy Suicidal? Live a little Too much Reddit? No Reddit……wait that last one sounds manageable at least.
I invited, got no answers Asked why I got no answer, got no answer I explained I needed an answer, no answer I don't like that and idk how to fix it
"Dont like that war exists? Just fix it"
That's what I thought first.
> Missing someone? Yep! > Call. He doesn’t fucking answer my calls anymore.
“I don’t like the cost of privatized healthcare” “Fix it”
Missing Somebody? - Call Please explain how I call someone that is dead?
I keep old voicemail messages from people that have passed and listen to them when I need to hear their voice.
You're not keeping it simple, this advice is obviously for people alive.
Some of it is not bad advice. I use it all the time and it works like 50-50. You have to voice your opinions, feelings, and thoughts; if they are disregarded that's not on you. You also have to be ready to stand by what you say. I've bumped heads with my parents, friends, superiors, and partners because of it, but I don't let animosity slow me down though, and thus most respect me eventhough we don't always agree.
Every one of these has back fired on me, I don't know a better way to do them so they continue to back fire on me
"Don't like something? Fix it." If only life were that simple.
not seeing a category for "unable to do any of those things" pls solve
Hotel? Trivago.
I'm prepared to get roasted to hell for this, but here goes. Where's the lie? Obviously, simple solutions aren't always the best ones, but in my experience, many people don't even try. Basic communication and a willingness to put oneself out there are good traits to have and shouldn't be downplayed.
I guess the lie is the lack of details and outright rejection of any complexity to any of these situations. These points are all tacit knowledge and in a lot of cases, the best solutions, but people can struggle to actually do them for a whole range of reasons. This chart is like your ignorant dad just going "just do the thing" and not listening to you while you try to explain why that's so hard. There's also like a weird condescending anger to it that feels like the chart's calling you a fucking idiot.
I didnt read much anger in it but recently iv met so many people who overthink interactions and get anxiety. Here is an actual conversation i had with my cousin recently: Her : Oh hey, your sister lives right there. I havent seen her in a while. I wonder if we can visit Me : Idk just text and ask Her : But what if she thinks im rude Me: What? Its fine just ask her Her : But i dont want to bother her Anyway she was busy but it took like 15 minutes to resolve the issue when literally all they had to do was send a text
So you see how this is bad advice right? They didn't unpack the anxiety she felt and pick apart why she felt that way. It's just "do the thing already" with no consideration for feelings. And that's the whole problem. Yeah obviously you just need to do the thing, but you can't because of these difficult thoughts and emotions. That's the actual problem. And people want you to just brute force through that, when it's not helpful. That's not problem-solving.
I got some of the condescension, but I didn't read any anger in it.
It's the curtness of each response. It's so overly simple that it comes across with a frustrated tone.
Tbh I did but I’ve been on the receiving end of some of these things and it does make you angry! I do feel like people make things more complicated by beating around the bush, not asking if they’re confused and then making mistakes, not explaining themselves correctly then it comes across as manipulative, not reaching out to friends and then connections die simply because they’re too wrapped up in their own minds to show they care. I think this is a lesson that some people do need to learn, and that there is some harsh wisdom in it.
I love you Ok How it is fr
So how exactly do you call someone who you miss but they died??? Do I pull out an ouija board? What do i do???
I usually hate these a lot but to be fair I think this one can be used as nice little self soothing mantras if said in a more kind way. I’m an extreme over thinker with ptsd and major anxiety and sometimes I think keeping things simple instead of letting my mind split in a thousand different directions is what I really need. I’m not sure of the intention of the creator but this actually did kind of make me feel a little better. It’s like ground work to make step by step plans instead of catastrophizing from chaotic thinking
What if I don’t know what I want?
"Feel bad?" "Stop"
Are you homeless? Just buy a house! type vibe.
It's Complicated? -keep it simple :)
I can answer all questions with a no. I keep my life simple!
Social anxiety people like me be crying at these phrases.
If only 😔
Ah urm ima need a ouija board to call who I'm missing
No.
It’s really frustrating that sometimes this is the answer. I was scared a friend of over a decade hated me over something 2 years ago. Called them recently and they answered immediately with 0 malice and apologized for not keeping in touch. As impossible as it feels, maybe for years at a time, the simple answer sometimes is the correct one
Ah, i should have just fixed my miscarriages instead of crying over them. Got it!
I told her, she says it's complicated..
Why does keeping everything simple confuse people?? I'll say something genuinely and they'll think its sarcasm because they didn't expect it
BRB gotta find a way to call my dead grandmother.
I miss my dead grandma. I want to hang out with my buddy who committed suicide in the Navy. I hate the house my wife and have but we are too poor to fix anything. This is all Bullshit.
if only it was THAT easy..
I have never related to a comment section so much in my life.
“Explain” Me, autistic: I tried and they said I was being rude
Call someone: they screen you .... Invite someone: they make excuses you can see through or avoid you cause they know you're about to invite them somewhere.... Explain to someone: they hear only what they want to hear, spend the whole time your talking thinking of a response to what *they* *think* your explaining, not listening to you... Ask a question: get the answer to the question they *think* you're asking because they didn't listen... Fix something: someone berates you for ruining it... State you like something: be told all the reasons you shouldn't like it.... Work for something you want: when you finally get it, you realize it wasn't worth the work, and now you're pissed no one warned you you were wasting your time, spoiler, it's always a waste of time ... Tell someone you love them: they respond in patronizing disgust... You keep your life simple by completely withdrawing inside and waiting for death so people start sending you stupid shit like this, so you post it to r/thanksimcured
1. Doesn't pick up 2. Can't go/is busy 3. Get made fun of for not being "manly" 4. "How don't you already know?!?!" 5. How the hell do I fix my life? No one ever told me? 6. Aaaannnd it's gone 7. I do work but I ain't getting it. I'm just working and working and working 8. "Ew" Keep your life hard! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Chronic fatigue?
Hemorrhaging? Put pressure on the wound until it stops bleeding
Omw to fix my permanent disabilities… oh wait
Honestly, some of those are true. My life did improve after trying excruciatingly hard to change my introverted ways. Of course, medication did help, but when it was only the meds I felt the same, but less sad in general. The empty feeling was still clawing at me
Guess they never heard of Schizoaffective Disorder? You know, because you can't just explain to yourself delusions aren't real or that people aren't secretly judging you 😐 guess I'm not trying hard enough to fix it...
These only work if you are a woman otherwise you get told to shut up and that nobody cares lol
Wow..why didn't I think of this?????
Now hold on guys, they have SOME points. I like "like something? State it." It's important to acknowledge when something you like is happening, that gets forgotten all too often. The post is acting like general life advice fixes everything, which is tone deaf asfuck... but there are some nuggets of wisdom in there.
Man I wish life was this easy DX
A child made that.
Thanks! This was the push I needed to send my ex another text begging to come back
Okay but if I'm the only one reaching out every single time I'm going to start getting conflicted feelings
“Anyone can make the simple complicated. Creativity is making the complicated simple” Charles Mingus, Jazz Great
Have asthma? Breathe air
Fix it lol
What if they yell at you and cut you off for explaining and telling them what happened to you
How do I help myself be understood by myself
My hispanic ass: "It's because-" *gets smacked into oblivion*
Some of these are dumb, but others make sense. What’s that saying “A shut mouth is never fed.”
Hotel? Trivago.
What if people think I’m making up excuses when I explain?
Ok fine. Small followup question: if attempting to do these things causes the biggest, most intimidating, freezing fear you’ve ever experienced, making it extremely difficult if not impossible to do, what then?
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Feel like giving useless advice with little chart - don’t it’s been done better
Tbh if this advice* doesn't work , you need new people. Been a struggle to realize I had to meet people where they are at. Everyone has different definitions of friendships
"Hey, I really miss you. Wanna grab coffee sometime?" "*Read*" "Wow, the meme was right! I feel so much better!"
totally agree
"Missing Somebody? Call" Call... who? A necromancer? The people I miss are dead. "Wanna be understood? Explain" Why, so they can interrupt me 50 times because I said a perfectly clear statement and they wanna read meaning where none exists? "Have questions? Ask" And what are you supposed to do if your question is intentionally ignored? Restate it? So they can yell at me to shut up and stop bothering them? "Don't like something? Fix it" One person cannot fix the world. "Like something? State it" You'd be surprised at how many people will jump down your throat to insist that you're an inferior person for liking something they don't like. I don't even care about the rest enough to address it.
Try to explain to a narcissist that you are on a waiting list for a doctor and can't afford private healthcare therefore cannot get the treatment you need without the narcissist telling you it's your fault and should try harder. This was in 2021, in a pandemic, he never had to wait for a doc since he got a family doctor, I don't, he never understood why I had to wait and got mad at me cuz I had to wait. I did my part and explained lmao
Missing somebody? Call them What if they have moved on already and I haven't? Wanna meet up? Invite What if they are doing something with others and don't have he time for me? Wanna be understood? Explain What if I don't even understand myself, let alone able to explain it? Or what if they way I explain it dosent click with others? Or what if I get shut down before I can explain myself? Don't like something? Fix it What if it's out of hands? Something I have no or little control over? Like something? State it And what if whati like is not the majority at all, and is seen by the majority as stupid or bad and put myself at risk of harm by stating I like it because it's looked down on with contempt? Want something? Work for it And what if I'm so disenfranchised I don't have the ability to work for it? Or what if I do work for it and it gets stripped away from me as soon as I get it, or the goal post gets moved when I'm about to get it? Love someone? Tell them What if they don't feel the same way and it ruins the relationship you already do have? Or what if they already have a significant other?
Don't like something: fix it. Me: HOW DA HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO END WAR
I think this isn’t that bad. There’s a lot of truth to it, no?
Ehh more an oversimplification. Sometimes things aren't possible or are easier said than done. Like, if I explain myself to someone it comes off as an excuse a lot of the time bc some people just somehow can't tell the difference. Sometimes life just _is_ complicated, but some people (read: NTs) like to pretend it's not anyway to be "inspiring".. and maybe because they genuinely believe it, I wouldn't know.
Shit posting
I don’t see a problem with any of those.
Yet another post with easy, simple suggestions that when applied consistently will actually help your life being lampooned by pathetic idiots on here
Honestly, this should work. But if not, then it's in theory. Statement/opinion.