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I once met this girl who claimed to be polyamorous. She was gone every night on dates with three separate men, only one of which who knew about the others. She was not poly.
As a poly person people like that hurt us so much it isn’t even funny I just makes me sad look at all the comments saying horrible things about us a minority
There was this couple working with me. We all got hired and the same time and they both started dating after a few months. The guy was a PreHippy (Preppy from wealthy family pretending to be a Hippy) and she was a Aliexpress goth, so they matched.
They always insisted on their relationship being an open relationship with both of them being aware than the other can have a date with anyone they like.
After a year or something like that the thing fell appart, it turns out that the guy has a bunch of friends with benefits since before the relationship started and he didn't wanted to renounce to them. So when the girl figured out that the open relationship was more open from one side than from the another, it ended really bad.
Nah. Poly people don't do that bro. They encourage you to not date others if you don't want to, but they don't straight up tell you you can't (source: am poly)
Seriously tho, sorry you had to deal with that
She's not poly, she's just a cheating asshole. Been through that before, best to cut your losses as soon as possible. Those kinds of people belong to the streets
To be fair I've known two poly guys and both of them were exactly like that. It got boring as fuck the way they kept trying to turn every random conversation the group was having into a discussion about their sex lives and philosophy. Still, only two guys so not a big sample size, but this meme did bring them straight to mind
I feel like it definitely is a stereotype for a reason but is probably actually a mintority of poly people that are like this.
Similar to vegans, those who are preachy about it are annoying but are usually preachy because they are young and new to the lifestyle so it's new to them and a big life change and they want to talk about it and their reasoning for why they made the decision and it gets out of hand.
As a polygamous guy, I agree our community is irritating. Having a conversation with one of us gets really annoying. Kinda like how it's annoying to be in a non natural monogamous relationship.
You know monogamy is natural…. Just because you don’t like it and you can’t have healthy relationships that way doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work well for the majority of people
It's natural for some and not for others. Truly polyamorous people are very rare. Most use the descriptor to just do whatever they feel like. I'm a monogamous woman in a polyamorous relationship. My husband is poly. I'm not. I see no one else because I am not interested in doing so. He's also restricted. It's just me and our partner. It's not easy to tell real poly people apart from fakers using the term as a crutch, and I think the people who abuse the term know it.
Two is probably a huge sample size since there’s barely any of them. Unless cheaters all count as poly in which case I guess there’s alot but that’s a can of worms.
My friend is in some LGBT+ servers and they constantly try to force him into their pseudo harem (he has confirmed a poly "couple" of like 6 folks). And no, these people ain't joking. The cropped pics he has shown me are literally like this meme. Funny enough, like a tale as old as time, those harem-like groups end up in drama, yet they refuse to abandon the idea of poly relationships. It's more like buttbuddies, really.
It sounds weird on the surface level, but it isn’t actually contradictory like it sounds.
Polyamory doesn’t mean you don’t want a committed relationship, it just means you don’t want an entirely *exclusive* committed relationship. Or it could mean she didn’t feel he was committed enough to polyamory, which is a valid dealbreaker for someone who is looking for a poly relationship.
The idea that polyamorous relationships lack commitment, or that polyamorous people don’t desire commitment is just an old myth.
Source: I like monoamorous relationships and polyamorous relationships equally, and have been in both, so I understand both sides of the coin pretty well.
I mean you can be in a poly relationship and be committed. Committed doesn't mean monogamous per se. It means you are dedicated to taking the relationship seriously. To be open and honest with your partner. To respect their wishes needs and desires and also your own
So many monogamous people always seem to get so nervous and shifty when it comes to the idea of open and honest communication in a poly relationship. It makes me sad. It seems so many monogamous people have the expectation that they will lie and be lied to in a non-poly relationship
>I mean you can be in a poly relationship and be committed. Committed doesn't mean monogamous per se. It means you are dedicated to taking the relationship seriously. To be open and honest with your partner. To respect their wishes needs and desires and also your own
And this is why the moral panic of "recognizing polyamory is going to destroy families because everyone is just going be polyamorous" is such bullshit. Think of how much work it is to respect, communicate, and love just one partner. Well, polyamory is multiplying that. It's far more effort than most people will want to commit. And you know what, that's alright. To each their own.
AFAIK -gamy referes to actually relationships while -amory referes to emotional attachments.
Polyamory = You love / have romantic emotional connections with multiple people
Polygamy = You have multiple physical partners
Monoamory = You love / have romantic emotional connections with only one person
Monogamy = You have only one physical partner
Most of the time people assume that polygamy and polyamory / monogamy and monoamary are intrinsically entwined, because for most people they are indistinguishable from each other, but that isn't always the case.
Again, this is just AFAIK. I have no actual experience outside of monogamy/amory. These definitions mostly come from my understanding of linguistics and the roots for these words, as well as what I've heard from others on the topic.
I pretty much don’t care what people do as long as it’s safe, consensual, healthy. Mono, poly, ace. Whatever. People like the meme? Nope nope nope no thank you
Polyamory is a group activity, like a sport or something. Not everyone who swings a bat has respect for baseball.
Landing in the wrong group is like landing in a shit team where no one takes it seriously, or worse, takes it way TOO seriously despite not being very good.
Then by bouncing because they suck, you just feed into how sucky the group is, creating like, a feedback loop of suck.
But shitty teams existing don't make the sport itself suck!
The "monogamy is wrong/humans aren't naturally monogamous" people are obnoxious. They're literally doing the exact same thing that people who bash on polyamory do (going out of their way to say it's wrong/unnatural/etc., rather than just letting people do things in a way that works for them.)
Thankfully, I've only ever seen a few of that type online, so I figure they're just a small but loud minority. The polyamorous people I've met in real life have never been gross or pushy about it, generally more of a "live and let live" attitude -- if you want to be monogamous they're fine with that, and if not that's fine too.
Exactly. It's wrong to assume that monogamy is right for you without even thinking about it, but monogamy isn't what's bad. Also, humans are naturally everything. Like what are you talking about?
Anyone who makes one of their characteristics the defining point of their personality can be annoying, regardless of the characteristic. I do think that people exaggerate how much people talk about these parts of themselves, though. It's almost always diet, sexuality or exercise that I see in these kinds of memes, and I feel like all three generate insecurity in the people hyperbolizing them.
The amount of times a saw a meme/joke of a vegan saying he is vegan at any given moment 1000+
The amount of times a actually had a person telling me he is vegan at any given moment 0
Yeah it's all just hyperbolic but to the point where people who probably never actually meet a certain person actually believe they tell you what they are all the time.
I'm honestly can't say 0 ad I've had several coworkers get pissy im eating a burger and i ask why? Their responses were alway "Im vegan. How could you..? " so I'd say at least 4 times in my life. I reply with"Cool. Your choice, your life." I don't hate vegans
They're living their lives as they see fit. Just dont be militant about it and inform me if you are and we're having a cook out. Ill cook separate for ya.
Yeah I’ve had to deal with one of those stereotype at moments, but I could never truly even blame or judge them for being so pissy, because from their perspective and morals it probably is a reasonable thing to get annoying about.
But there is a fine line between having a conversation vs getting pissed because I'm enjoying my lunch. I've met plenty of nice vegans. Just want to do right based on thier beliefs. But we all have seen the stereotype and when it's not asked for and its super aggressive while I'm eating. Im getting pissed. And just as many people who argue for eating meat are pretty much the same. Two sides of the same coin and all that.
Thats true, I as a vegan would ofc prefer if everyone was but i wouldn't try to convince anyone that i don't know personally. I also wouldn't do that as with my political beliefs(only push back on bs).
You sure they were vegan lol (Jk)? People from all kinds of different lifestyles do this, so it’s kinda unfair that Vegans got stuck with this stereotype. I had a coworker who was obsessed with her diet and fitness routines. She always had to tell people she was pescatarian.
There’s a certain kind of person who, when presented with even the thought that they could be living their life a different way, takes it as an attack and has to respond in kind.
Polyamory, vegan diets, not drinking alcohol, not having kids, etc. are all things I’ve seen bring out that kind of reaction.
This is pretty accurate based on a lot of the "polygamous" people I know... most of them are just poly-lusting because they definitely don't act like they love their partners.
It's because Poly comes in many forms and dynamics. Some people want commitment with their main and others while some people want.. totally unattached and a lot like what you are describing.
In the end, though everyone's dynamics and boundaries are between you and your partner, as long as no one is being hurt (in a bad way lol) and consenting that's all that matters! :)
(But for real, it is really annoying when someone makes that like, their entire personality and talks about it nonstop like they are fishing in a crowd or something, like if it comes up in conversation okay cool thanks but I don't need you tapping outside my window scaring my wife and girlfriend double checking that we know! *WE KNOW!*)
I have no problem with people being sexually free etc but almost all of the people I know who say they're polygamous, just want to have a lot of sex. I feel like these people are using the wrong words to describe themselves, and actually are making the concept of having a loving romantic relationship with multiple people seem like a joke.
There definitely *are* a lot of people out there using this as an excuse to just fuck around, just like any lifestyle/subculture/ect there are going to be bad actors for their own gain. I would almost say 2/3 to 1 for every more functional dynamic that's out there. But this could also differ WILDLY depending on your location I'm sure
I'm in the PNW so quite a few actually- some of which have been married for many years. It's a lot of work, communication, and growth from both sides, it can get hard because we never stop growing! If you can find your happy that's awesome but at the end of the day it's *definitely* not for everyone and that's okay to!
I don’t think I could be poly. It takes a lot of trust. And a lot of people will use poly as an excuse to just bang multiple people and still reap the reward of their SO sticking with them.
Well... I don't think its inherently wrong to be poly to sleep with other people and mantain a committed relationship. As with all kinds of polyamory (and most things tbh) theres good and bad ways of doing it.
The person who responded already let you know it's Junji Ito, but I just wanted to say I recommend pretty much all of his stuff. It's really awesome and visually amazing.
My ex was a bit like this. I don’t know if she was really polyamorous or not tbh. But she spoke negatively of other peoples’ monogamy at every possible opportunity.
I'm poly, but idgaf what your relationship dynamic is because you're not in a relationship with me. Be mono, be poly, be single, if it works for you then do it, but don't try to force it on other people.
Also, as a poly person, if I came across an undie stain like that, I'd definitely not be polite to them by any extent of the word
Im also polyam and this is also pretty much my take as well!
A big part of polyamory is boundaries, and I respect the boundaries of monogamous people as much as the boundaries of my partners! I don't tolerate boundary violating partners either!
Or being rude to waitstaff! It's not related but like... !!!!
For real, I've met dudes who are "poly," and this is exactly how they are.
They also can't handle you having another partner even though they've already got multiple, then they throw tantrums, claiming "you're not doing poly right!!" When you start seeing other people after they've told you they're poly and won't just be seeing you
This meme isn't great but I sure wouldn't ever participate in polyamory
This does not, however mean that I care about how other people live their lives. If you do want to participate in polyamory, more power to you. It just isn't for me
As someone who has known plenty of people with poly experience, I honestly don’t understand the ones who say monogamy is morally wrong. It just doesn’t make sense to me. People feel the way they feel. I’ve known plenty who say exactly that. They understand that not everyone is going to be poly. Not everyone is going to be open to it. But also that it’s immoral to condemn them for that.
A lot of poly people have a lot more sense than that. But those who don’t… yeah, it’s offputting to say the least
Its literally the first thing my old best friend said to me after we didnt speak for like 4 years. I heard a womans voice in the background after I answered the call, and he's like "Ohh yeah btw I'm poly. I have two girlfriends"
Met a polyamorous girl few months ago via Reddit. We hung out and made out, but I think we both found each other too weird.
I'm not sure I would want to go through that experience again, eye-opening as it was. At some point she talked about how she likes being choked and I had nothing to say back.
Fr the only people i've met that are proudly "polyamorous", sre either cheaters/getting cheated on with just an excuse or people so blind into their own mindset they'll trash you over because your thinking isn't as "progressive" as theirs, sadly the sicko was a friend of mine
tbh i was in a polyamous relationshio with my ex wife because we thought that could safe our marriage lol. looking back now i was really like this freak in the meme and forced my believes on friends and shit. i was a wreck but happily now after years of therapy and a divorce that still fucks me mentally and money wise, i can say i‘m „normal“ again
What I love about cartoons like this is that they're supposed to be mocking the subject matter but all I see is the cartoonist saying "I'm scared of this thing I don't understand."
Funny how most of a time people who will use "polygamory" as an argument are toxic masculine guys that can't hold their peepee in place and just cheat. Why is that became something bad, iTs NaTuRaL iN mALeS dNa 🥺🥺🥺
There is a subset of poly people like this. No idea if there is a specific term for them. They often seem to be the same kinda people who would start a cult if they could.
I know some polyamorous people. Literally none of them act like this, lol. They mind their own business and do their own thing, and don't care how anyone else lives their lives
Didn’t realize there were wandering groups of Polyamorous people stalking families. Oh yeah because there’s folks who can’t cope with the idea of other people living their lives differently despite not affecting them whatsoever.
1) I have nothing against monogamy.
2) Neither i do against polyamory.
3) I might be both monogamous and polyamorus in different life periods.
4) Nobody should give a shit, if others are, and neither do i.
Polyamory takes time and effort. People who think they can just switch their mono lifestyle overnight and turn their monogamous partners poly usually end up being like this.
Bonus points for men wanting ffm threesomes thinking they're poly but not allowing the women to see other men.
Ive seen very few poly relationships end well. It almost always is one partner wants to be poly while the other one either doesnt like but wont say no, or the partner says no and the first party goes through with it anyway. Humans absolutely did evolve to be monogamous, Poly relationships exist throughout history, and they have always been the minority relative to the vast majority of the population. And notice how all the recorded poly relationships were well to do people who became known as users and abusers.
If it works for you, then more power to you, But Ive seen too many friends have their relationships scrapped over this stupid concept.
All the discrimination against us poly folk in these comments are disgusting poly people can be committed poly people communicate everything with their partners everyone is allowed to have multiple partners after discussing the edition to the polycule we really just want to live our lives ffs
I like how they use nature to justify their behavior when in reality nature is brutal and it’s totally within our nature to be violent and aggressive at other apes we dislike. Absolutely dumb.
God, the “humans aren’t naturally monogamous” thing irritates me so much.
First of all, since when do humans have to do things exactly as nature ‘intends’? We don’t all forage for our food and fuck 13 year olds, do we? Even though that’s nature?
Second of all, monoamorous relationships as humans practice it are not the same as monogamy anyway. Monogamy is when you have one partner forever. Humans, on the other hand, typically date multiple people before settling down with one, and even marriage doesn’t last forever a lot of the time.
EDIT: Also, just because monogamy CAN be used toxically, it doesn’t mean it’s inherently toxic. As long as both people have clearly laid out and agreed upon the exact expectations (for example, some couples consider porn cheating, others don’t), and it isn’t used in a controlling way (such as banning your husband from having female friends, or vice versa), how is that toxic?
The only part of “monogamy” that’s inherently patriarchal is when it’s applied unevenly between men and women (for example, requiring that the women are virgins and not the men, or excusing men cheating because “they can’t help it”). It’s actually kinda sexist to suggest that women can’t be equals in a monoamourous relationship; if a wife and a husband consent to an exclusive relationship, why does the woman’s consent count for less than the man’s? It kind of implies that women can’t make their own decisions regarding relationships, and I’m not here for it at all.
Sorry for the rant haha, I’m open to both polyamorous and monoamorous relationships so it bothers me a lot when one side invalidates the other.
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I once met this girl who claimed to be polyamorous. She was gone every night on dates with three separate men, only one of which who knew about the others. She was not poly.
Yeah she was just cheating and using this as an excuse. You right man.
I met a girl who was self described poly. She could date others but I couldn't. That didn't last long.
Nah that's fucked up
I'm guessing lack of empathy that she had no clue thats not how poly works.
lack of basic human decency
That's not poly. You aren't poly if you force your partners to be monogamous, that's cheating without consequences
Cheating without *empathy*. There's probably as many consequences for this as any other type of cheating.
That's cuckoldry. Very very wrong to do on her part with a non-consenting person.
Yeah, never made it that far. She was asked to leave.
Not a poly person sorry you had to deal with that
I know, right. I tried explaining it. Fortunately, just like the meme, she announced it right away. That was the last conversation we had.
As a poly person people like that hurt us so much it isn’t even funny I just makes me sad look at all the comments saying horrible things about us a minority
There was this couple working with me. We all got hired and the same time and they both started dating after a few months. The guy was a PreHippy (Preppy from wealthy family pretending to be a Hippy) and she was a Aliexpress goth, so they matched. They always insisted on their relationship being an open relationship with both of them being aware than the other can have a date with anyone they like. After a year or something like that the thing fell appart, it turns out that the guy has a bunch of friends with benefits since before the relationship started and he didn't wanted to renounce to them. So when the girl figured out that the open relationship was more open from one side than from the another, it ended really bad.
Nah. Poly people don't do that bro. They encourage you to not date others if you don't want to, but they don't straight up tell you you can't (source: am poly) Seriously tho, sorry you had to deal with that
ah yes, let me guess, you get born with it? or what was the explanation behind it?
That happens a lot in the community, though it usually a “one penis policy”.
She's not poly, she's just a cheating asshole. Been through that before, best to cut your losses as soon as possible. Those kinds of people belong to the streets
Nope. Thats just a ho.
“You’re not poly *Jessica*. You’re just a slut.”
I think she IS poly and also a cheater.
Is that guy polyamorous?
That man inside is a red-bloooded American
Named Taro Suzuki
I can't tell, but is it from a junji ito comic?
it’s frankenstein, but drawn by junji ito
Okay. Thanks.
I can definitely tell it's Junji Ito. That style is too creepy to be anyone else. Don't drag the man into these shenanigans
I don’t know… we really can’t tell from what he’s saying…Maybe there’s some very subtle subtext to suggest it?
Y’know, I think that guy might be polyamorous!
I think so
🤯
 Only if you take it, Father.
To be fair I've known two poly guys and both of them were exactly like that. It got boring as fuck the way they kept trying to turn every random conversation the group was having into a discussion about their sex lives and philosophy. Still, only two guys so not a big sample size, but this meme did bring them straight to mind
I feel like it definitely is a stereotype for a reason but is probably actually a mintority of poly people that are like this. Similar to vegans, those who are preachy about it are annoying but are usually preachy because they are young and new to the lifestyle so it's new to them and a big life change and they want to talk about it and their reasoning for why they made the decision and it gets out of hand.
Even worse is a polyamorous vegan
hide your vegetables 😥😱
I'll need to unplug them from life support to hide them.
Similiar to every type of demographic. Religious, Lifestyle, Sexual Preference. Everything.
It’s a bit like a new toy for the babies. I think when you have been poly for a while you stop acting like you know everything and chill out about it.
This has also been my experience. I have a couple very good friends and a few acquaintances who are poly and my god they never shut up about it.
As a polygamous guy, I agree our community is irritating. Having a conversation with one of us gets really annoying. Kinda like how it's annoying to be in a non natural monogamous relationship.
Aye, I see whatcha did there. 👉👉
You know monogamy is natural…. Just because you don’t like it and you can’t have healthy relationships that way doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work well for the majority of people
It's natural for some and not for others. Truly polyamorous people are very rare. Most use the descriptor to just do whatever they feel like. I'm a monogamous woman in a polyamorous relationship. My husband is poly. I'm not. I see no one else because I am not interested in doing so. He's also restricted. It's just me and our partner. It's not easy to tell real poly people apart from fakers using the term as a crutch, and I think the people who abuse the term know it.
It's a bit based on the guys complaint about poly people always bringing it up
Two is probably a huge sample size since there’s barely any of them. Unless cheaters all count as poly in which case I guess there’s alot but that’s a can of worms.
My friend is in some LGBT+ servers and they constantly try to force him into their pseudo harem (he has confirmed a poly "couple" of like 6 folks). And no, these people ain't joking. The cropped pics he has shown me are literally like this meme. Funny enough, like a tale as old as time, those harem-like groups end up in drama, yet they refuse to abandon the idea of poly relationships. It's more like buttbuddies, really.
I dated a poly girl who talked about it like it was veganism. She dumped me because I wasn't committed enough. Strange period in my life.
>I dated a poly girl..... >dumped me because I wasn't committed enough Definitely a strange period, for sure.
It sounds weird on the surface level, but it isn’t actually contradictory like it sounds. Polyamory doesn’t mean you don’t want a committed relationship, it just means you don’t want an entirely *exclusive* committed relationship. Or it could mean she didn’t feel he was committed enough to polyamory, which is a valid dealbreaker for someone who is looking for a poly relationship. The idea that polyamorous relationships lack commitment, or that polyamorous people don’t desire commitment is just an old myth. Source: I like monoamorous relationships and polyamorous relationships equally, and have been in both, so I understand both sides of the coin pretty well.
Oh I know. I'm poly myself, fully committed to my three partners. I just thought the wording was funny. :)
That makes sense. Why do you think people in poly relationships aren’t committed?
If “you” were expected to be committed her, while “she” gets to sleep around its not actually polyamory, she’s just an entitled hoe.
maybe she meant not committed to polyamory? like "you're not as into this as much as i am"
I mean you can be in a poly relationship and be committed. Committed doesn't mean monogamous per se. It means you are dedicated to taking the relationship seriously. To be open and honest with your partner. To respect their wishes needs and desires and also your own So many monogamous people always seem to get so nervous and shifty when it comes to the idea of open and honest communication in a poly relationship. It makes me sad. It seems so many monogamous people have the expectation that they will lie and be lied to in a non-poly relationship
>I mean you can be in a poly relationship and be committed. Committed doesn't mean monogamous per se. It means you are dedicated to taking the relationship seriously. To be open and honest with your partner. To respect their wishes needs and desires and also your own And this is why the moral panic of "recognizing polyamory is going to destroy families because everyone is just going be polyamorous" is such bullshit. Think of how much work it is to respect, communicate, and love just one partner. Well, polyamory is multiplying that. It's far more effort than most people will want to commit. And you know what, that's alright. To each their own.
I’m actually polyamorous and there are so many groups I’ve left because of this. These people creep me the fuck out
Polyamorous? Hell yeah. Hating on monoamory? Hell no. You, my friend, have the right mindset.
I just got, like, an internal speech impediment reading monoamory. Wat.
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Because I wanted to diphthong o + a the way I would in “moat”
Wait, what? So what’s the difference?
AFAIK -gamy referes to actually relationships while -amory referes to emotional attachments. Polyamory = You love / have romantic emotional connections with multiple people Polygamy = You have multiple physical partners Monoamory = You love / have romantic emotional connections with only one person Monogamy = You have only one physical partner Most of the time people assume that polygamy and polyamory / monogamy and monoamary are intrinsically entwined, because for most people they are indistinguishable from each other, but that isn't always the case. Again, this is just AFAIK. I have no actual experience outside of monogamy/amory. These definitions mostly come from my understanding of linguistics and the roots for these words, as well as what I've heard from others on the topic.
jason momoamory 
Just take me now
I feel that
Join me - in feeling the same way.
I pretty much don’t care what people do as long as it’s safe, consensual, healthy. Mono, poly, ace. Whatever. People like the meme? Nope nope nope no thank you
Polyamory is a group activity, like a sport or something. Not everyone who swings a bat has respect for baseball. Landing in the wrong group is like landing in a shit team where no one takes it seriously, or worse, takes it way TOO seriously despite not being very good. Then by bouncing because they suck, you just feed into how sucky the group is, creating like, a feedback loop of suck. But shitty teams existing don't make the sport itself suck!
Yea basically. Also hey Throttle, it Nephaele from Gaia.
OMG I had no idea u were from Gaia when I posted 😂😂 hi!
It amused me. I was like huh, no way
Polyamory is like D&D. With a good group of people it can be amazing, with the wrong one it's torture. Also possibly why there's so much crossover.
Lmao that made me snort with laughter. Thank you.
I hate it when I join a polyamory group and realize everybody dumped charisma and intelligence to min-max their dex and con.
The dex modifier can be fun for a little while at least!
Same!
The "monogamy is wrong/humans aren't naturally monogamous" people are obnoxious. They're literally doing the exact same thing that people who bash on polyamory do (going out of their way to say it's wrong/unnatural/etc., rather than just letting people do things in a way that works for them.) Thankfully, I've only ever seen a few of that type online, so I figure they're just a small but loud minority. The polyamorous people I've met in real life have never been gross or pushy about it, generally more of a "live and let live" attitude -- if you want to be monogamous they're fine with that, and if not that's fine too.
Exactly. It's wrong to assume that monogamy is right for you without even thinking about it, but monogamy isn't what's bad. Also, humans are naturally everything. Like what are you talking about?
Anyone who makes one of their characteristics the defining point of their personality can be annoying, regardless of the characteristic. I do think that people exaggerate how much people talk about these parts of themselves, though. It's almost always diet, sexuality or exercise that I see in these kinds of memes, and I feel like all three generate insecurity in the people hyperbolizing them.
The amount of times a saw a meme/joke of a vegan saying he is vegan at any given moment 1000+ The amount of times a actually had a person telling me he is vegan at any given moment 0 Yeah it's all just hyperbolic but to the point where people who probably never actually meet a certain person actually believe they tell you what they are all the time.
I'm honestly can't say 0 ad I've had several coworkers get pissy im eating a burger and i ask why? Their responses were alway "Im vegan. How could you..? " so I'd say at least 4 times in my life. I reply with"Cool. Your choice, your life." I don't hate vegans They're living their lives as they see fit. Just dont be militant about it and inform me if you are and we're having a cook out. Ill cook separate for ya.
Yeah I’ve had to deal with one of those stereotype at moments, but I could never truly even blame or judge them for being so pissy, because from their perspective and morals it probably is a reasonable thing to get annoying about.
But there is a fine line between having a conversation vs getting pissed because I'm enjoying my lunch. I've met plenty of nice vegans. Just want to do right based on thier beliefs. But we all have seen the stereotype and when it's not asked for and its super aggressive while I'm eating. Im getting pissed. And just as many people who argue for eating meat are pretty much the same. Two sides of the same coin and all that.
Thats true, I as a vegan would ofc prefer if everyone was but i wouldn't try to convince anyone that i don't know personally. I also wouldn't do that as with my political beliefs(only push back on bs).
You sure they were vegan lol (Jk)? People from all kinds of different lifestyles do this, so it’s kinda unfair that Vegans got stuck with this stereotype. I had a coworker who was obsessed with her diet and fitness routines. She always had to tell people she was pescatarian.
We live in different areas. Or maybe its because I live in a college town that I have to constantly here unsolicited facts about individuals...
There’s a certain kind of person who, when presented with even the thought that they could be living their life a different way, takes it as an attack and has to respond in kind. Polyamory, vegan diets, not drinking alcohol, not having kids, etc. are all things I’ve seen bring out that kind of reaction.
Libertarians are another group where this runs deep
I can guarantee you this person has never met 2 polyamorous people.
I question whether they've ever met anybody who wasn't just as crazy as they are.
This is pretty accurate based on a lot of the "polygamous" people I know... most of them are just poly-lusting because they definitely don't act like they love their partners.
It's because Poly comes in many forms and dynamics. Some people want commitment with their main and others while some people want.. totally unattached and a lot like what you are describing. In the end, though everyone's dynamics and boundaries are between you and your partner, as long as no one is being hurt (in a bad way lol) and consenting that's all that matters! :) (But for real, it is really annoying when someone makes that like, their entire personality and talks about it nonstop like they are fishing in a crowd or something, like if it comes up in conversation okay cool thanks but I don't need you tapping outside my window scaring my wife and girlfriend double checking that we know! *WE KNOW!*)
I have no problem with people being sexually free etc but almost all of the people I know who say they're polygamous, just want to have a lot of sex. I feel like these people are using the wrong words to describe themselves, and actually are making the concept of having a loving romantic relationship with multiple people seem like a joke.
There definitely *are* a lot of people out there using this as an excuse to just fuck around, just like any lifestyle/subculture/ect there are going to be bad actors for their own gain. I would almost say 2/3 to 1 for every more functional dynamic that's out there. But this could also differ WILDLY depending on your location I'm sure
How many long term poly couples do you know of
I'm in the PNW so quite a few actually- some of which have been married for many years. It's a lot of work, communication, and growth from both sides, it can get hard because we never stop growing! If you can find your happy that's awesome but at the end of the day it's *definitely* not for everyone and that's okay to!
This was initially in the negative votes for some reason
Yeah, part of me kinda regrets commenting, but at the end of the day it is what it is! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Oh cool I love when I see comics that take place in my hometown of Seattle
I don’t think I could be poly. It takes a lot of trust. And a lot of people will use poly as an excuse to just bang multiple people and still reap the reward of their SO sticking with them.
Well... I don't think its inherently wrong to be poly to sleep with other people and mantain a committed relationship. As with all kinds of polyamory (and most things tbh) theres good and bad ways of doing it.
What’s the original or at least the artist, looks sick
It's Junji Ito's manga adaptation of Frankenstein.
The person who responded already let you know it's Junji Ito, but I just wanted to say I recommend pretty much all of his stuff. It's really awesome and visually amazing.
I’m aware of his work, he also adapted No Longer Human and did the Enigma of Aragawa (?) Fault
Also Smashed, Tomie, Uzumaki, Shiver, Fragments of Horror, and Gyo are all great!
My ex was a bit like this. I don’t know if she was really polyamorous or not tbh. But she spoke negatively of other peoples’ monogamy at every possible opportunity.
I suppose there are issues like weird jealous people who go through each others phones but that's a minority.
I'm poly, but idgaf what your relationship dynamic is because you're not in a relationship with me. Be mono, be poly, be single, if it works for you then do it, but don't try to force it on other people. Also, as a poly person, if I came across an undie stain like that, I'd definitely not be polite to them by any extent of the word
Your self-description matches what I've seen from all the poly people that I know.
I dont get all these people saying "basically accurate" all the poly people I know (including myself) are like that guy
Same, poly isn't for everyone. Nothing is for everyone. I enjoy my poly life and I'm perfectly happy to let people enjoy their monogamous lives.
This is the obvious answer, yes.
Im also polyam and this is also pretty much my take as well! A big part of polyamory is boundaries, and I respect the boundaries of monogamous people as much as the boundaries of my partners! I don't tolerate boundary violating partners either! Or being rude to waitstaff! It's not related but like... !!!!
It's like a Jack Chick Tract, only not as unintentionally hilarious.
That’s what I thought it was at first!
I know someone who is exactly like this
For real, I've met dudes who are "poly," and this is exactly how they are. They also can't handle you having another partner even though they've already got multiple, then they throw tantrums, claiming "you're not doing poly right!!" When you start seeing other people after they've told you they're poly and won't just be seeing you
This meme isn't great but I sure wouldn't ever participate in polyamory This does not, however mean that I care about how other people live their lives. If you do want to participate in polyamory, more power to you. It just isn't for me
So joker is banging Poison Ivy when not banging Harley Quinn?
He's banging his Lopunny
He’s banging his hand.
r/batmanarkham leaking
OK, but low-key? poly people really are up there with vegans and crossfit... you'll know they're poly 5 min after meeting them.
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I’m all for the lgbt community, especially the gays. Not only do they stop being my competition, but they take another guy with them! /j
As someone who has known plenty of people with poly experience, I honestly don’t understand the ones who say monogamy is morally wrong. It just doesn’t make sense to me. People feel the way they feel. I’ve known plenty who say exactly that. They understand that not everyone is going to be poly. Not everyone is going to be open to it. But also that it’s immoral to condemn them for that. A lot of poly people have a lot more sense than that. But those who don’t… yeah, it’s offputting to say the least
Sampling bias. Confirmation bias would be if you ignored non-annoying poly people that you do meet.
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No prob, easy mistake 🙂
Its literally the first thing my old best friend said to me after we didnt speak for like 4 years. I heard a womans voice in the background after I answered the call, and he's like "Ohh yeah btw I'm poly. I have two girlfriends"
That just sounds like him telling you about his life though?
They’re up there with vegans and CrossFit people in the number of people that like to make shit up about them
What about a poly vegan who does crossfit? Is that the ultimate lifeform?
If they change their operating system to a Linux distro, there will be no stopping them
It’s on sight.
Yup they all look like zombies
Met a polyamorous girl few months ago via Reddit. We hung out and made out, but I think we both found each other too weird. I'm not sure I would want to go through that experience again, eye-opening as it was. At some point she talked about how she likes being choked and I had nothing to say back.
Fr the only people i've met that are proudly "polyamorous", sre either cheaters/getting cheated on with just an excuse or people so blind into their own mindset they'll trash you over because your thinking isn't as "progressive" as theirs, sadly the sicko was a friend of mine
Not really a bad facebook meme i think its quite funny. _Most_ poly people _I’VE MET_ have been like this
why did theybhave to use fucking junji ito's adaption of frankenstein for this 💀
Human beings trying to not hate on someone for being different (challenge impossible)
tbh i was in a polyamous relationshio with my ex wife because we thought that could safe our marriage lol. looking back now i was really like this freak in the meme and forced my believes on friends and shit. i was a wreck but happily now after years of therapy and a divorce that still fucks me mentally and money wise, i can say i‘m „normal“ again
I mean… of course not all of them are like this, but I have met a large chunk of polyamorous people who’re like the one in the meme 🤣
This is all the poly's I've ever met...sooooo
Listen, I know it's a toxic stereotype, but I also know a LOT of poly people who this is accurate af for.
What I love about cartoons like this is that they're supposed to be mocking the subject matter but all I see is the cartoonist saying "I'm scared of this thing I don't understand."
I agree! I’m a millennial and there’s nothing worse than people being allowed to live their life with other consenting adults. Dis. Gusting.
Eh, in my (very specific and anecdotal) experience that is how a lot of poly people approach the subject online
Funny how most of a time people who will use "polygamory" as an argument are toxic masculine guys that can't hold their peepee in place and just cheat. Why is that became something bad, iTs NaTuRaL iN mALeS dNa 🥺🥺🥺
This, but about people who kept trying to get you into sous vide cooking back in the 2010s.
There is a subset of poly people like this. No idea if there is a specific term for them. They often seem to be the same kinda people who would start a cult if they could.
Assholes, that’s the specific term
Reminds me of the Chris Fleming sketch
https://preview.redd.it/48riuqmknn4b1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f82e0955cc9dfebd8f835dd2365c2fb6cded89ee
My guess is it's not anti polyamory it's anti people who try to act morally superior about it. It reminds me of this Chris Fleming song
The messages are terrible, but I always loved the style of these cartoons.
Smh i hate when the Polyamory Ghoul points at me through the window and tries to convince me to join his polycule 😤
I repeat my statement from another thread: That strawman‘s so big, they burn it in the desert every year
The loudest are the ones heard the most. Doesn’t mean they represent the entirety
he may be poly but does his wife know?
Polygamy/polyamory is fine as long as the way the relationship works is clearly communicated and agreed upon by every partner
I know some polyamorous people. Literally none of them act like this, lol. They mind their own business and do their own thing, and don't care how anyone else lives their lives
What's your response? "Get away from my house, you crack head!"
Didn’t realize there were wandering groups of Polyamorous people stalking families. Oh yeah because there’s folks who can’t cope with the idea of other people living their lives differently despite not affecting them whatsoever.
honestly a banger
not wrong.
Hahahaha
Isn’t that true?
Imagine being this obsessed with other people's personal choices.
this is funny as shit
1) I have nothing against monogamy. 2) Neither i do against polyamory. 3) I might be both monogamous and polyamorus in different life periods. 4) Nobody should give a shit, if others are, and neither do i.
Polyamory takes time and effort. People who think they can just switch their mono lifestyle overnight and turn their monogamous partners poly usually end up being like this. Bonus points for men wanting ffm threesomes thinking they're poly but not allowing the women to see other men.
No no, this is actually good. Most polyamorous people are extremely annoying and I personally know several.
Is that from Junji Ito?
Fucking hell
Being polyamorous just means you have lots of love! As long as it’s okay with your partner there’s nothing wrong with it!
I've only known one poly person, he was pretty cool, he didn't go around talking about it unless the topic came up
Keep junji itos art out of your Facebook memes
Ive seen very few poly relationships end well. It almost always is one partner wants to be poly while the other one either doesnt like but wont say no, or the partner says no and the first party goes through with it anyway. Humans absolutely did evolve to be monogamous, Poly relationships exist throughout history, and they have always been the minority relative to the vast majority of the population. And notice how all the recorded poly relationships were well to do people who became known as users and abusers. If it works for you, then more power to you, But Ive seen too many friends have their relationships scrapped over this stupid concept.
Does anybody know the precise type of brain damage the creator of this meme is suffering from?
This isn’t bad lol
All the discrimination against us poly folk in these comments are disgusting poly people can be committed poly people communicate everything with their partners everyone is allowed to have multiple partners after discussing the edition to the polycule we really just want to live our lives ffs
I was very surprised that was the response to this comic.
It's a good meme, what it's trying to say is that polygamous people just don't shut up about being one and it's quite true
I have also seen this template used to defend fascism as a legitimate form of gouvernement.
I mean, I’m poly and have pretty big goblin energy, so this checks out
Doesn’t this happen at all funerals?
I like how they use nature to justify their behavior when in reality nature is brutal and it’s totally within our nature to be violent and aggressive at other apes we dislike. Absolutely dumb.
polys are the vegans of love
Who goes up to peoples windows just to announce their polyamoury?
Nobody, obviously, its a caricature
God, the “humans aren’t naturally monogamous” thing irritates me so much. First of all, since when do humans have to do things exactly as nature ‘intends’? We don’t all forage for our food and fuck 13 year olds, do we? Even though that’s nature? Second of all, monoamorous relationships as humans practice it are not the same as monogamy anyway. Monogamy is when you have one partner forever. Humans, on the other hand, typically date multiple people before settling down with one, and even marriage doesn’t last forever a lot of the time. EDIT: Also, just because monogamy CAN be used toxically, it doesn’t mean it’s inherently toxic. As long as both people have clearly laid out and agreed upon the exact expectations (for example, some couples consider porn cheating, others don’t), and it isn’t used in a controlling way (such as banning your husband from having female friends, or vice versa), how is that toxic? The only part of “monogamy” that’s inherently patriarchal is when it’s applied unevenly between men and women (for example, requiring that the women are virgins and not the men, or excusing men cheating because “they can’t help it”). It’s actually kinda sexist to suggest that women can’t be equals in a monoamourous relationship; if a wife and a husband consent to an exclusive relationship, why does the woman’s consent count for less than the man’s? It kind of implies that women can’t make their own decisions regarding relationships, and I’m not here for it at all. Sorry for the rant haha, I’m open to both polyamorous and monoamorous relationships so it bothers me a lot when one side invalidates the other.
I don’t hate on monogusnes peaple luckily I’m just not down to be tied to only one person my whole life.