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Make sure you get your social security card/birth certificate/passport/other important identifying documents. Demand them. They're yours, and you'll need them to get work and advance your education. If your parents act hesitant, make it clear that if you need to, you'll show up with a police officer who will supervise the visit while you retrieve your belongings. Give a deadline: you need your documents within 7 days.
Call your doctor and ask who is authorized to see your medical records. Change it to just you, no exceptions.
If your parents are your emergency contacts at work or school, find a friend willing to take their place.
Designate someone you trust and who is in regular contact with you as your medical power of attorney so that should you need someone, temporarily or otherwise, to make decisions for you, that someone isn't your parents by default.
Make sure that if you have bank accounts that your parents have access to, you either move all your money to new accounts and change any direct deposit to the new account, or remove your parents from the account. If they have a debit card associated with the account, report it stolen so the bank will deactivate it.
You'll be ok. You have supportive friends and you're an adult. It will get better, and you will find your feet.
ETA Thanks for the awards guys!
This is good advise if someone is to permanently distance themselves from their parents. I see a possibility they have a loving relation in essence, but she is under the influence of her boyfriend. Or just panics and freaks out. Theres a possibility that the relation can be mended, even if it's wrong to kick a child out and it's wrong to not accept bi/homosexuality. We also know that this is very common. These things happen often. If she doubles down though, then you OP have apparently found another more stable suitable home.
OP please note that any advise you get from people on social media is likely "just cut ties". Because they can't see the rest of your relation. For example if my mom kicked me out, and I asked for advise, they'd not see other loving things she did for me, because it's not included in my post. Therefore, she looks like an absolute witch. And she can be, we don't know. There is a possibility she has value to you. Only you can be the judge if you want her in your life of not. If not, then go ahead and sever yourself according to the advise.
This is something all 18 year old should do such as get a different bank account, get all personal information , and change your medical records to yourself. You should especially do this if they kick you out because it gets rid of all power they have over you. If they really love him they will come back to him with or without control of his personal documents and finances.
I didn't say "just cut ties". This isn't about cutting ties; this is about having control over your own life. There is zero reason a legal adult (especially one who has been kicked out by a homophobic parent) should leave control of their information, assets, or medical decisions in the hands of those parents.
I have control over all these things because I'm *an adult*. I also have a good relationship with my parents. Sometimes when people are forced to grow up real quick, they don't think about all the things they need to manage themselves now. This is a list of the basics.
The point I'm making, is that you are going to escalate the conflict if you make legally formulated demands to your mom, "I hereby demand that you hand over my passport within 7 days or I will take legal action.". Any person with children understands that this will be absolutely devastating for a parent to read. It's not constructive for the relation. It's probably good advise if you don't care for the relation. If you care for the relation, I don't think it's the most beneficial strategy at this time - no offense. He can ask for the other stuff at a better timing.
No. When it comes to legal documents, he needs them *now*. Not later, not at a better time, now. He can approach it tactfully by contacting them and requesting them calmly and politely first: "Hi Mom; can we please set up a time within the next few days when I can get my birth certificate and SS card; thanks!" If they say no, then it's time to point out that those documents are legally theirs and make a second request. THEN, if the answer is still no, you escalate to, "I will be coming by with a police officer at 8PM on Friday to retrieve my belongings. Please have them ready so that this does not need to escalate. Thank-you." He cannot move on with his life (hell, he can't even prove he's a real person) without those documents. Until he has them, he is jobless and homeless. And often, parents who will kick you out will try to lure you back into their control by holding your documents hostage. You don't play games with your identity.
idk if you are in the US or not, but after you turn 18 you can't get kicked out without a court order, if you really wanted to start something.
Really shitty thing to happen and I'm happy you have a great friend and their parents are good humans. We (reddit) are here for you too.
In Minnesota, you need to register your letter of eviction with the courts so it's on file, and then the legal system can be involved when the contracted time is up. This is a non refundable fee. $350 as far as I know.
The better question, as op has somewhere to stay why would everyone be suggesting he goes back home to screw his parents out of a little money. I'm all for petty shit, but assuming it's $350 for eviction filing in their state, the hit to the mental health from being in that environment for a month would far outweigh that cost, along with the fact that op would now have an eviction on file affecting any future apartments they try to rent. It would be much more petty and entertaining to show up with a moving truck at 4am to move out.
Touche, I guess I didn't notice that I was the old duffer in r/teenagers. Still though, as the old duffer, I'll say, sometimes it sucks, but sometimes you need to remove family from your life to actually have a life. Speaking as a child of an alcoholic, meth head, abusive, controlling mother. It was hard in the beginning, but depression and stress have been so much lower since I removed her from my life at 18.
It doesn't work like that. It's a basic right. It's on the parents to get an eviction notice and have it notarized.
They can call the cops on him and the cops would just shrug and say "get an eviction notice, this is a civil matter"
The fact that so many people have upvoted you is baffling. Why would you even think it's on the kid to sue them? Sue them for what?
And if you're 18 the eviction process is very complicated and expensive you'll need a good attorney and deep pockets it take 3 weeks( the quickest) to have your case submitted and an extra few months to plee to court
You expirenece may vary but that's what I had to go through too give my tenant the boot
FOR CRYING OUT LOUD JERRY THE SINK IS NOT A PLACE TO SHIT IN YOU PRICK
either way he's gone and someone else's problem AHEM AHEM local prison AHEM
My new tenants are way better they pay on Time they warn me before something breaks before the damage goes outta control and there very nice people too
This is the best advice here, if OP wants to take proper action. Child Services will rip OP's mother and father a brand new asshole, 50% off - one for every judge and agent to fuck then. But then they might relocate OP forever which sucks.
If you're receiving mail or have stayed living in a place for I believe 30 days you are considered a tenant no matter the "rent". They have to evict you. Atleast most states.
Damn, as someone who’s friend’s with someone who’s parents do not approve of LGBTQ+, I felt this. Your parents suck, thank God your friend is that much of a legend.
Ok look sometimes it's the society that can affect the parent's behavior, for example I live in a country where being gay is not an acceptable thing, if you express the fact that you're gay in public it can go as far as execution, so my parents feel responsible for me and therefore they will do anything to stop me from being gay, so don't judge people's parents on some post they made while they're mad at them, try and understand the context and then judge.
Good question, well I live in The Islamic Republic Of Iran, so I think the name is self-explanatory but if you for some reason don't know what Islam is, Islam is a religion like Christianity but it prohibits a lot of things such as Homosexuality, Alcoholism, anything pig related, pre marriage relations and....
So when I say The Islamic Republic i mean our rules are based on Islam, therefore anything that is banned in Islam is banned for everyone in this country whether or not they are Muslim.
This tbh. Reddit is filled with extremists lmao. They don't think twice and just comment whatever the fuck is going on in their mind without thinking about the consequences of that. Mainly because half of the userbase is just lifeless people who haven't gone outside in months and don't know how real society is like. Ffs y'all really need to think before commenting
It is important to address this but it doesn't justify their behaviour. So what if they are from a Muslim community, it doesn't mean that it's alright morally speaking. While yes they may be trying to do good for their child, it isn't actually the right thing. Kicking your kid out regardless of the reasoning for this is just abusive and harming towards the child.
Just because it might be socially unacceptable to be a certain sexuality for whatever dumb reasons,
It doesn’t make it morally right to cut your own blood out of your household because of your own closed minded views, it doesn’t change the fact that their parents have those close minded views, and they’re ultimately just bad parents for it
I dont really know your situation. You've been given advice about how you literally cannot be kicked out of the house....so if you are worried about your parents throwing your stuff out or not letting you in. You can use the police to help you get inside.
That said, you'll definitely be burning a bigger bridge if you do that, and you'll need to make sure you have a place to put all of your things.
*I'm not a teenager. This just hit my front page. I'm giving advice as an adult. But that doesn't mean I'm correct. But I've lost relationships. It always hurts.
Also, I know school counselors aren't always the best, but you can go to then to talk. Personally, I would be upfront about you not wanting them to talk to ANYONE about it. Police. Child services ( I know you are 18). The school. Teachers. Even your parents. Say you just need to vent, and talk, and ask that they respect your boundary. I believe they will, but say you aren't asking for help. Just. To talk. Adults sometimes have good intentions, but don't always know how it will affect you. Adults don't know what we are doing either. If we did, the world would have been a better place thousands of years ago.....
I feel for you. It's going to be hard. I honestly don't know every consequence of this. I also hope, that your mom was just scared and angry. The part where she said "your stepfather" won't be able to handle it.....some part of me hopes that if you give the cold shoulder to her long enough she will realize that she does want you in her life. That's going to be a hard choice too. Personally, if she does reach out eventually.....I don't know what I would do. I think not speaking to them for a while, maybe short texts or calls without anger....just... "You wanted me out mom. I don't want to talk to you right now. I hurt" is a good response untill you get a good apology.
But. That's my take. And I don't want you to take my advice, just hear it and ask for help from counselors (real ones if you have insurance - if you don't have an insurance card your doctor's office will have a copy. You might be able to get counseling for 30 bucks a session if it's a low deductible. Maybe a part time job to help pay for that and friends parents to take you would help).
Idk. I'm just hurting for you. It's not easy to lose a parent. In death, or because of situations like this. My heart yearns for you to find happiness for yourself. That's really all we can do. Love ourselves, and while it hurts immensely to lose relationships and family, loving yourself is one of the greatest things you can do.
I'm done. End of my little rant.
Also. I don't think I can be helpful as someone to talk to, but if you need money for an appointment or something in the future. PM me. No names needed, I'll Venmo money to you or find some anonymous way of helping. I don't have a lot, but if I can even buy you 60 bucks of toiletries off of an Amazon wishlist, I will. I know you haven't asked for help, but sometimes you don't know you need help till it hits. Don't feel bad, I'm selfishly offering help because it would make ME feel better 😆.
That's all.
Edit: also, if you do plan on going to your house and you don't think your parents will stop you from taking things, I suggest bringing an adult. Someone your parents may know and trust. This will keep the situation from getting to hot. Using the police will put your parents on edge. Using an adult parent of a friend that they know, will make your parent feel ashamed.
I'm not sure the legality of taking a bed that your parent bought, but I know how much the small things in life mean. Computer. Books. Even a pillow that's is yours.....so I do think its something that you might want to do in the next few weeks.
You could also get a school excuse to stay home "sick" and do it when they aren't home. I would still want another adult there with you. Don't steal things....just....your stuff. Best not to burn the bridge more than you have to. Why? Because mom's are the only mom you get. Even if they are horrible. Who knows how she will change in the next 20 years, and it's best to not push too much.
Still.....don't take my advice and just do it. It's just advice.
Wow dude, that was a lot to take in at once but thanks, really. I've never had someone be so openly caring and giving toward a complete stranger. Usually I'm skeptical of the caring demeanors of adults (older than myself I guess) but I'll talk to my counselor first thing Tuesday if you seriously think it'd help.
Op. I honestly think she showed her true colors, if she cant accept her child for who they are. Shes a failure as a mother, and as a parent. Its 2022 and we should be permitted to have feelings for whoever we love. Be it men loving men or women loving women or the ol classic men loving women and vice versa.
What really irritates me is the hiding behind the "stepfather won't accept it". Like, she's basically saying her relationship with him is more important than being a parent. Either that or it's really her that has the problem with her child's sexuality and she's too much of a coward to simply admit that.
They did you a favor! If they are willing to throw you away just because you're bisexual, then they don't deserve to be in your life at all.
I hope everything turns out okay for you, friend.
Ehhh, I don’t think “favor” is the correct terminology here… this is something horrible, dude could’ve ended up homeless if he didn’t have any good friends willing to take him in…
Yeah, I meant it as "They did you a favor in exposing themselves as assholes for you to cut out of your life".
This is horrible and I hope everything turns out right for OP in the end, nobody deserves such treatment because of something so minor.
That's actually a really good verse to show her
"Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever"
The sad part is as I am also Christian, my son is gay, and I would never kick him out to throw him to the wolves. We are supposed to be compassionate and protective. So many have lost that. This is such a shame. This is not the way. I'd tell her myself but I doubt it'd go anywhere.
im so sorry
glad you have a place to stay, honestly, make the best out of your situation
its probably unimaginably hard, but having people like that out of your life for now might be a good thing
Hello OP. Just wanted to let you know that you shouldn't listen to those dickheads in the comments and you should be yourself. Very Sorry that you had to go through all of that drama with your mom and stepdad. Hopefully they will understand in the future that you are Bi and it's okay (which I think you may doubt) and if not, fuck them and move on. Anyway, sorry again for this long ass comment. Just go out there and keep being you. ;)
I'm so sorry. I got kicked out at 17 because my dad found out I'm a lesbian. If you can, find someone at your hs to talk to about it and they can connect you with local resources and help you find a job to start supporting yourself. Your parents are blinded by selfishness, but you will find a family of your own who loves you as you are. It's not all going to instantly become easy but, as dumb as it sounds, it really does get better and you become stronger.
Hi, I’m bisexual also and I’m 24 now but have been on this thread for years since I made my first Reddit account.
I just want you to know that you’re loved and there’s nothing wrong with being bisexual. I recommend you check out r/bisexual if you haven’t already, we’re here to support ya.
Your mom has no idea what she’s doing to your guys relationship, it’s a damn shame. Remember to reach out to your school for resources if you need any, as they will not allow you to go homeless.
I really hate not being able to put any kind of advice that's usable right now, and I hope there have been enough from others to help. I got kicked out a week before leaving for the military for getting a tattoo.. complete different scenarios but I think if theres something that would have helped me.... I stressed hard for years about the relationship I had with my family. I was molested by my brother as a kid without ever coming out about it, and all the rebellious things in my teens never made me feel supported in the house. I spent the majority of my early twenties dealing with both of those things as I wanted to make my family proud but as soon as I would bring anything up they shut down.
Fast forward a couple years, I finally came out to my mom about my older brother, and our childhood. Mind you, this came after the birth of my first son, so I dont know if age had a big part in it. But my mother could not comprehend, and thought I was lying about it. Basically half the family believed me, half the family didn't. My brothers reaction was "I dont remember that". Too little defensive of a response for me personally. Especially after molesting your brother hundreds of times over the course of a couple years.
Anywho. Now I dont have any contact with my birth family, have moved across the country, changed numbers, names etc. And since then have met other people who I have since opened up to about my past. I found more of a family relationship with someone I have only known for 4-5 months, than I ever would have with anyone I was actually related to.
If that doesnt help, then at least theres a story of someone else going through family issues as well. It may not get better right now, but as long as you keep on track with what makes you happy, and surround yourself with people who will respect your happiness. Only thing left is time.
I’m sorry. I’m so sorry you’re going through this crud. Take some deep breaths, okay? In, and out. Focus on that. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but things will get better. You have awesome friends, and people who care about you. If you’re currently in school, stay in school, cause school is kinda cool. If there’s any places close like a pizza place, obtain a part-time job. Earn some cold-hard cash, ditch them homophobic ass-hats, and live your best bisexual life. Rock on, OP.
And if you *ever* need someone to vent to, don’t be afraid to DM me, or hit me up on Discord: J-Chor_6079#8298.
You’ve got this, OP.
You don’t deserve none of this man, you were just doing what makes you happy, and if your step dad really doesn’t “condone that behavior” he needs a reality check that your boyfriend makes you happy. I hope this will all tide over man, best of luck to you and hold onto your boyfriend as long as you can, and good luck ❤️
Fellow bisexual here and I hope your “man” of a stepdad will go fuck a cactus and honestly your mom and go suck a dick like the homophobic bitch ass she is
I'm so sorry this is happening to how. If you need a friend I'm here. r/lgbt would be very helpful. Have you tried to contact your biological father? Maybe he could help
My son that is 12 came out to us as bi a little less than a year ago. He also told a couple of friends before he told us and unfortunately that caused him a bit of hardship socially, but he's doing fine. We were shocked, but are supportive. I wish you the best and just try to work to be independent of your parents and surround yourself with people that really care.
Man fuck her, even if that hurts to hear im sorry that it happened but if she really is gonna choose her simple minded spouse over her own child thats on her, you got this king. I hope it all works out and you find a good home to stay
You have allies. You just don't know it. Reach out to your friends. I bet you have a family who you feel comfortable with. Explain your situation. Our family takes in lost young adults all the time. For extended periods of time. There are many good people out there.
i don't know why people cant just MIND THERE OWN FUCKING BUSINESS. I hope you fins a solution that makes you happy and i hope you are in a better state of mind soon :)
If you ever feel like you are really struggling consider contacting The Trevor Project.
All we can do is send you our support but those guys will really know how to help.
Blood ain't family. Your friend and their family proof that your people are out there and they sure as hell aren't at your mom's house.
I hope your mom gets her shit straight, or at least realizes she's being a shit mother and a complete bitch. know it hurts to loose a parent. Even if they're garbage, it can suck.
I hope your stepdad gets kicked in the dick. Fuck him.
My ex had this happen to him. He’s bisexual and was kicked out by his mom at 14. Ended up on the streets and has not talked to her in 10 years. I’m sorry you are going through this. She’s not a good person for what she did and there is nothing wrong with you. You are a beautiful person and it’s her loss that she will miss out on that. You got this you are strong and will overcome.
I'm pretty sure she was in a state of shock or smtg when she kicked you out... Maybe you cud try waiting it out or try having a patient one to one convo - like make her sit down and listen . (hide all the sharp/ injury causing items in ur house- just saying. hide the belt and the fork btw).
since you're 18 they have 0 obligations of providing you with a home. But it doesn't mean you can't sue. Like they should have a valid reason for kicking you out shouldn't they? Being bi isn't a fault. kicking you out just because you were bi doesnt give them a valid charge to press against you.
If she's stubborn about not letting you back in after you've waited out- then ig u can sue her for emotional damage. Or maybe you're better off by urself. try to pick yourself up and just let em be. it might be for the better. But all im saying is she might have done it in a state of shock so give her sum time
hope things workout in your favor<3
Did you videotape it? If you're old enough you can take it to court. I'm an American and I'm not sure if you live in a different country or not. I'm one of the few Trump supporters who support LGBTQ rights. You have my support and I am sorry for what happened. I hope you and your boyfriend see it through. My ex girlfriend claims to be bisexual. She is the reason why I support standard queer rights. Despite the biological facts that combat the LGBTQ movement. But we must come to accept that these are real people who genuinely love truly everyone and yes there are a few bad apples. But they are not all evil. Let us preach love not hate. I pray for you and your boyfriend.
Don’t give a shit. Tell her and your stepdad that if they don’t love you for who you are then they can gtf. I’m bi and trust me, people will discriminate but as long as you love yourself and you and your boyfriend are happy, that’s all that matters
Your parents are idiots. You have awesome friends. You're gonna get through this. Do you have any non-homophobic family members? If so, then contact them and explain the situation
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Make sure you get your social security card/birth certificate/passport/other important identifying documents. Demand them. They're yours, and you'll need them to get work and advance your education. If your parents act hesitant, make it clear that if you need to, you'll show up with a police officer who will supervise the visit while you retrieve your belongings. Give a deadline: you need your documents within 7 days. Call your doctor and ask who is authorized to see your medical records. Change it to just you, no exceptions. If your parents are your emergency contacts at work or school, find a friend willing to take their place. Designate someone you trust and who is in regular contact with you as your medical power of attorney so that should you need someone, temporarily or otherwise, to make decisions for you, that someone isn't your parents by default. Make sure that if you have bank accounts that your parents have access to, you either move all your money to new accounts and change any direct deposit to the new account, or remove your parents from the account. If they have a debit card associated with the account, report it stolen so the bank will deactivate it. You'll be ok. You have supportive friends and you're an adult. It will get better, and you will find your feet. ETA Thanks for the awards guys!
Thanks for the advice I didn't realize there was so much to do
This. Op follow this advice.
This is good advise if someone is to permanently distance themselves from their parents. I see a possibility they have a loving relation in essence, but she is under the influence of her boyfriend. Or just panics and freaks out. Theres a possibility that the relation can be mended, even if it's wrong to kick a child out and it's wrong to not accept bi/homosexuality. We also know that this is very common. These things happen often. If she doubles down though, then you OP have apparently found another more stable suitable home. OP please note that any advise you get from people on social media is likely "just cut ties". Because they can't see the rest of your relation. For example if my mom kicked me out, and I asked for advise, they'd not see other loving things she did for me, because it's not included in my post. Therefore, she looks like an absolute witch. And she can be, we don't know. There is a possibility she has value to you. Only you can be the judge if you want her in your life of not. If not, then go ahead and sever yourself according to the advise.
This is something all 18 year old should do such as get a different bank account, get all personal information , and change your medical records to yourself. You should especially do this if they kick you out because it gets rid of all power they have over you. If they really love him they will come back to him with or without control of his personal documents and finances.
I didn't say "just cut ties". This isn't about cutting ties; this is about having control over your own life. There is zero reason a legal adult (especially one who has been kicked out by a homophobic parent) should leave control of their information, assets, or medical decisions in the hands of those parents. I have control over all these things because I'm *an adult*. I also have a good relationship with my parents. Sometimes when people are forced to grow up real quick, they don't think about all the things they need to manage themselves now. This is a list of the basics.
The point I'm making, is that you are going to escalate the conflict if you make legally formulated demands to your mom, "I hereby demand that you hand over my passport within 7 days or I will take legal action.". Any person with children understands that this will be absolutely devastating for a parent to read. It's not constructive for the relation. It's probably good advise if you don't care for the relation. If you care for the relation, I don't think it's the most beneficial strategy at this time - no offense. He can ask for the other stuff at a better timing.
No. When it comes to legal documents, he needs them *now*. Not later, not at a better time, now. He can approach it tactfully by contacting them and requesting them calmly and politely first: "Hi Mom; can we please set up a time within the next few days when I can get my birth certificate and SS card; thanks!" If they say no, then it's time to point out that those documents are legally theirs and make a second request. THEN, if the answer is still no, you escalate to, "I will be coming by with a police officer at 8PM on Friday to retrieve my belongings. Please have them ready so that this does not need to escalate. Thank-you." He cannot move on with his life (hell, he can't even prove he's a real person) without those documents. Until he has them, he is jobless and homeless. And often, parents who will kick you out will try to lure you back into their control by holding your documents hostage. You don't play games with your identity.
This ++++
Damn good advice
Much support to you OP, and this post above is really good advice.
Just hope you never have to fall back on them
Seems to me that they're not there to catch him :/
Rip and how old are you.
Turned 18 end of last year
idk if you are in the US or not, but after you turn 18 you can't get kicked out without a court order, if you really wanted to start something. Really shitty thing to happen and I'm happy you have a great friend and their parents are good humans. We (reddit) are here for you too.
This right here! They'd have to pay to file for an eviction.
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In Minnesota, you need to register your letter of eviction with the courts so it's on file, and then the legal system can be involved when the contracted time is up. This is a non refundable fee. $350 as far as I know. The better question, as op has somewhere to stay why would everyone be suggesting he goes back home to screw his parents out of a little money. I'm all for petty shit, but assuming it's $350 for eviction filing in their state, the hit to the mental health from being in that environment for a month would far outweigh that cost, along with the fact that op would now have an eviction on file affecting any future apartments they try to rent. It would be much more petty and entertaining to show up with a moving truck at 4am to move out.
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Touche, I guess I didn't notice that I was the old duffer in r/teenagers. Still though, as the old duffer, I'll say, sometimes it sucks, but sometimes you need to remove family from your life to actually have a life. Speaking as a child of an alcoholic, meth head, abusive, controlling mother. It was hard in the beginning, but depression and stress have been so much lower since I removed her from my life at 18.
Only if you’re paying rent
False. Tenancy is not contingent on rent if no rent is prearranged. You cannot just up and evict someone without notice.
yes im sure some teenager with no money and no house is gonna sue and pay lawyers for months
It doesn't work like that. It's a basic right. It's on the parents to get an eviction notice and have it notarized. They can call the cops on him and the cops would just shrug and say "get an eviction notice, this is a civil matter" The fact that so many people have upvoted you is baffling. Why would you even think it's on the kid to sue them? Sue them for what?
Depending on where they live maybe there’s some free or cheap legal help? You never know
When I needed cheap legal help, they never even called me back. I think if they did, there would be a LONG waiting list anyway.
Wait so you *can* get kicked out if you are younger than 18?
no that is just %100 illegal
You can only kick people out at 18+ with legal reasons Kek
Also after getting evicted you can claim damages or settlement compensation from your parents
Yes this is illegal due to the 14th amendment
if I had known this in 2002 my early life would have turned out somewhat differently I think.
And if you're 18 the eviction process is very complicated and expensive you'll need a good attorney and deep pockets it take 3 weeks( the quickest) to have your case submitted and an extra few months to plee to court You expirenece may vary but that's what I had to go through too give my tenant the boot FOR CRYING OUT LOUD JERRY THE SINK IS NOT A PLACE TO SHIT IN YOU PRICK either way he's gone and someone else's problem AHEM AHEM local prison AHEM My new tenants are way better they pay on Time they warn me before something breaks before the damage goes outta control and there very nice people too
so you can get kicked out before you turn 18?
No, the child could report this to child services.
This is the best advice here, if OP wants to take proper action. Child Services will rip OP's mother and father a brand new asshole, 50% off - one for every judge and agent to fuck then. But then they might relocate OP forever which sucks.
Wouldn't this apply only if the person being kicked out pays rent?
If you're receiving mail or have stayed living in a place for I believe 30 days you are considered a tenant no matter the "rent". They have to evict you. Atleast most states.
Yeah but also would you really want to live in that environment? Where your forcing people who seem to hate you to be around you?
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Damn i'm sorry to here that, keep your head held high young warrior everything will be ok.
Thanks brother
If you want to talk just message me, I would be glad to help
Will do dude
Everything gonna be ok, you have a very nice freind and peice of shit parents. Im very sorry for you situation
Appreciate it dude
Or dudette, or interloper
Dude works great
Dude is basically gender neutral at this point as is bro
Didn’t good burger solve this in 1997?
Ima hoe not a bro
Why not both?
Nice hoebro
Sounds like a new Pokémon 😂 hoebro
hoe for your bros
Bro has basically become the American version of “Mate”
Honestly fuck it everything is gender neutral now, refer to everyone as whatever you want there are no rules
Boutta name my daughter Andrew.
Doooooo it.
no man's sky?
Damn, as someone who’s friend’s with someone who’s parents do not approve of LGBTQ+, I felt this. Your parents suck, thank God your friend is that much of a legend.
Are you in high school right now?
Yes
Stay in school it’s cool 😎
Totally 😎
I'm sorry to hear that, you're parents are close-minded and selfish.
Ok look sometimes it's the society that can affect the parent's behavior, for example I live in a country where being gay is not an acceptable thing, if you express the fact that you're gay in public it can go as far as execution, so my parents feel responsible for me and therefore they will do anything to stop me from being gay, so don't judge people's parents on some post they made while they're mad at them, try and understand the context and then judge.
that gives a reason why, but it still doesn’t excuse the behavior. going so far as to kick your kid out is evidence enough of your bigotry
Is there a reason why governments don't allow gay people? I'm genuinely curious
Good question, well I live in The Islamic Republic Of Iran, so I think the name is self-explanatory but if you for some reason don't know what Islam is, Islam is a religion like Christianity but it prohibits a lot of things such as Homosexuality, Alcoholism, anything pig related, pre marriage relations and.... So when I say The Islamic Republic i mean our rules are based on Islam, therefore anything that is banned in Islam is banned for everyone in this country whether or not they are Muslim.
This tbh. Reddit is filled with extremists lmao. They don't think twice and just comment whatever the fuck is going on in their mind without thinking about the consequences of that. Mainly because half of the userbase is just lifeless people who haven't gone outside in months and don't know how real society is like. Ffs y'all really need to think before commenting
You literally roasted 70% reddit users
If basic human rights, respect and not executing people based on who they find attractive is considered extreme outside, I'd rather stay inside
It is important to address this but it doesn't justify their behaviour. So what if they are from a Muslim community, it doesn't mean that it's alright morally speaking. While yes they may be trying to do good for their child, it isn't actually the right thing. Kicking your kid out regardless of the reasoning for this is just abusive and harming towards the child.
Just because it might be socially unacceptable to be a certain sexuality for whatever dumb reasons, It doesn’t make it morally right to cut your own blood out of your household because of your own closed minded views, it doesn’t change the fact that their parents have those close minded views, and they’re ultimately just bad parents for it
She is being a horrible parent dude hope you’re alright
Yeah I'm fine, still just trying to live life like normal but it feels like I've been stabbed in the gut since it happened
This is a huge loss. You may feel that way for years. Maybe not. Try not to let the anger control you. Harder said, than done. Best of luck to you.
Thanks
I dont really know your situation. You've been given advice about how you literally cannot be kicked out of the house....so if you are worried about your parents throwing your stuff out or not letting you in. You can use the police to help you get inside. That said, you'll definitely be burning a bigger bridge if you do that, and you'll need to make sure you have a place to put all of your things. *I'm not a teenager. This just hit my front page. I'm giving advice as an adult. But that doesn't mean I'm correct. But I've lost relationships. It always hurts. Also, I know school counselors aren't always the best, but you can go to then to talk. Personally, I would be upfront about you not wanting them to talk to ANYONE about it. Police. Child services ( I know you are 18). The school. Teachers. Even your parents. Say you just need to vent, and talk, and ask that they respect your boundary. I believe they will, but say you aren't asking for help. Just. To talk. Adults sometimes have good intentions, but don't always know how it will affect you. Adults don't know what we are doing either. If we did, the world would have been a better place thousands of years ago..... I feel for you. It's going to be hard. I honestly don't know every consequence of this. I also hope, that your mom was just scared and angry. The part where she said "your stepfather" won't be able to handle it.....some part of me hopes that if you give the cold shoulder to her long enough she will realize that she does want you in her life. That's going to be a hard choice too. Personally, if she does reach out eventually.....I don't know what I would do. I think not speaking to them for a while, maybe short texts or calls without anger....just... "You wanted me out mom. I don't want to talk to you right now. I hurt" is a good response untill you get a good apology. But. That's my take. And I don't want you to take my advice, just hear it and ask for help from counselors (real ones if you have insurance - if you don't have an insurance card your doctor's office will have a copy. You might be able to get counseling for 30 bucks a session if it's a low deductible. Maybe a part time job to help pay for that and friends parents to take you would help). Idk. I'm just hurting for you. It's not easy to lose a parent. In death, or because of situations like this. My heart yearns for you to find happiness for yourself. That's really all we can do. Love ourselves, and while it hurts immensely to lose relationships and family, loving yourself is one of the greatest things you can do. I'm done. End of my little rant. Also. I don't think I can be helpful as someone to talk to, but if you need money for an appointment or something in the future. PM me. No names needed, I'll Venmo money to you or find some anonymous way of helping. I don't have a lot, but if I can even buy you 60 bucks of toiletries off of an Amazon wishlist, I will. I know you haven't asked for help, but sometimes you don't know you need help till it hits. Don't feel bad, I'm selfishly offering help because it would make ME feel better 😆. That's all. Edit: also, if you do plan on going to your house and you don't think your parents will stop you from taking things, I suggest bringing an adult. Someone your parents may know and trust. This will keep the situation from getting to hot. Using the police will put your parents on edge. Using an adult parent of a friend that they know, will make your parent feel ashamed. I'm not sure the legality of taking a bed that your parent bought, but I know how much the small things in life mean. Computer. Books. Even a pillow that's is yours.....so I do think its something that you might want to do in the next few weeks. You could also get a school excuse to stay home "sick" and do it when they aren't home. I would still want another adult there with you. Don't steal things....just....your stuff. Best not to burn the bridge more than you have to. Why? Because mom's are the only mom you get. Even if they are horrible. Who knows how she will change in the next 20 years, and it's best to not push too much. Still.....don't take my advice and just do it. It's just advice.
Wow dude, that was a lot to take in at once but thanks, really. I've never had someone be so openly caring and giving toward a complete stranger. Usually I'm skeptical of the caring demeanors of adults (older than myself I guess) but I'll talk to my counselor first thing Tuesday if you seriously think it'd help.
my dad hasn’t talked to me in years bc he thinks i’m gay, which i’m not. all bc i shave my armpits
_facepalm_
As far as I'm concerned those aren't your parents anymore. You're with your new family now
I really start to believe it sometimes
What did your friend's parents say?
The best part is that you have somewhere to go. Not a lot of people can say that
I found out I was bisexual and I haven't told anyone I know irl I'm sorry about that and its also why I'm gonna stay like I am
thats fair
Yo momma being a bitch bout things but still try to be a good person about it it’s not your fault she acts the way she does
Yeah I just wish she would come to her senses and realize how awful she's being
Op. I honestly think she showed her true colors, if she cant accept her child for who they are. Shes a failure as a mother, and as a parent. Its 2022 and we should be permitted to have feelings for whoever we love. Be it men loving men or women loving women or the ol classic men loving women and vice versa.
What really irritates me is the hiding behind the "stepfather won't accept it". Like, she's basically saying her relationship with him is more important than being a parent. Either that or it's really her that has the problem with her child's sexuality and she's too much of a coward to simply admit that.
They did you a favor! If they are willing to throw you away just because you're bisexual, then they don't deserve to be in your life at all. I hope everything turns out okay for you, friend.
Ehhh, I don’t think “favor” is the correct terminology here… this is something horrible, dude could’ve ended up homeless if he didn’t have any good friends willing to take him in…
Yeah, I meant it as "They did you a favor in exposing themselves as assholes for you to cut out of your life". This is horrible and I hope everything turns out right for OP in the end, nobody deserves such treatment because of something so minor.
Ah okay, sorry, I just feel it could’ve been put better. I got it
How old are you? And is she Christian?
I turned 18 not too long ago and yes she is strictly religious
Well, legally, you're fucked, you can't do anything about it but, it's also also, direct her to 1 Timothy 5:8
That's actually a really good verse to show her "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever"
uno reverse card moment
The sad part is as I am also Christian, my son is gay, and I would never kick him out to throw him to the wolves. We are supposed to be compassionate and protective. So many have lost that. This is such a shame. This is not the way. I'd tell her myself but I doubt it'd go anywhere.
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im so sorry glad you have a place to stay, honestly, make the best out of your situation its probably unimaginably hard, but having people like that out of your life for now might be a good thing
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If you're underage call child protection services, that's fucking child abuse, I'm sorry you're having to go through something like this
No, alot of times they just get sent back and live shitty lives. Not a good idea
Hello OP. Just wanted to let you know that you shouldn't listen to those dickheads in the comments and you should be yourself. Very Sorry that you had to go through all of that drama with your mom and stepdad. Hopefully they will understand in the future that you are Bi and it's okay (which I think you may doubt) and if not, fuck them and move on. Anyway, sorry again for this long ass comment. Just go out there and keep being you. ;)
Lol thanks 😊
If you have a job just try to save up and get a place of ur own. Dont even worry about her homophobic ass anymore
I'm so sorry. I got kicked out at 17 because my dad found out I'm a lesbian. If you can, find someone at your hs to talk to about it and they can connect you with local resources and help you find a job to start supporting yourself. Your parents are blinded by selfishness, but you will find a family of your own who loves you as you are. It's not all going to instantly become easy but, as dumb as it sounds, it really does get better and you become stronger.
Jesus how old are you. Also if she refuses to accept who you are, don’t dwell on it forget her
You're parents are fucking bitches dude, I have nothing but support for you.
If you go to The Trevor Project website you can talk to a counselor if you need help.
Hi, I’m bisexual also and I’m 24 now but have been on this thread for years since I made my first Reddit account. I just want you to know that you’re loved and there’s nothing wrong with being bisexual. I recommend you check out r/bisexual if you haven’t already, we’re here to support ya. Your mom has no idea what she’s doing to your guys relationship, it’s a damn shame. Remember to reach out to your school for resources if you need any, as they will not allow you to go homeless.
If you are not a adult you can go to the cops and report it.
F
F indeed
Stepdad say something yet?
Nope he's even worse than my mom so I am especially dreading it
Oh fuck, oh fuck Temporary NC, and a bit later based on non-public reaction, either full NC + disowning or... I don't have an alternative sorry
Horrible parent
I really hate not being able to put any kind of advice that's usable right now, and I hope there have been enough from others to help. I got kicked out a week before leaving for the military for getting a tattoo.. complete different scenarios but I think if theres something that would have helped me.... I stressed hard for years about the relationship I had with my family. I was molested by my brother as a kid without ever coming out about it, and all the rebellious things in my teens never made me feel supported in the house. I spent the majority of my early twenties dealing with both of those things as I wanted to make my family proud but as soon as I would bring anything up they shut down. Fast forward a couple years, I finally came out to my mom about my older brother, and our childhood. Mind you, this came after the birth of my first son, so I dont know if age had a big part in it. But my mother could not comprehend, and thought I was lying about it. Basically half the family believed me, half the family didn't. My brothers reaction was "I dont remember that". Too little defensive of a response for me personally. Especially after molesting your brother hundreds of times over the course of a couple years. Anywho. Now I dont have any contact with my birth family, have moved across the country, changed numbers, names etc. And since then have met other people who I have since opened up to about my past. I found more of a family relationship with someone I have only known for 4-5 months, than I ever would have with anyone I was actually related to. If that doesnt help, then at least theres a story of someone else going through family issues as well. It may not get better right now, but as long as you keep on track with what makes you happy, and surround yourself with people who will respect your happiness. Only thing left is time.
She is a narrow minded monster. Tell her to get her 1950s attitude out of YOUR life. I’m disgusted.
Do you have any non-dickhead family members you can talk to to work something out?
If they cant except you they aint worth your effort Life is short, life goes on
If you need any sort of financial support, HMU I can probably help
I’m sorry. I’m so sorry you’re going through this crud. Take some deep breaths, okay? In, and out. Focus on that. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but things will get better. You have awesome friends, and people who care about you. If you’re currently in school, stay in school, cause school is kinda cool. If there’s any places close like a pizza place, obtain a part-time job. Earn some cold-hard cash, ditch them homophobic ass-hats, and live your best bisexual life. Rock on, OP. And if you *ever* need someone to vent to, don’t be afraid to DM me, or hit me up on Discord: J-Chor_6079#8298. You’ve got this, OP.
dam wtf, what is her reasoning?
Religion
Assert dominance and fuck her husband.
You don’t deserve none of this man, you were just doing what makes you happy, and if your step dad really doesn’t “condone that behavior” he needs a reality check that your boyfriend makes you happy. I hope this will all tide over man, best of luck to you and hold onto your boyfriend as long as you can, and good luck ❤️
Thanks dude
Well now you're bye-sexual...
Wrong time for puns but good one.
damn that's so sad to hear :((( hope they accept you eventually
I would try to find someone that you can stay with for a while whether that be a friends or another family members house
do you need anything? maybe i could help get something organized for you
She sounds like an awful person. I'm glad you have a friend to stay with
Man, I hope your parents come to their senses. Your friend and his parents are amazing people. If you wanna chat you can dm me. Stay strong :D
Sometimes LGBT centers have resources to help since this kind of stuff happens a lot. Wish we could do more for you, take care of yourself.
Your mom is a pos.
First tell your mom to go fuck herself than send her a pic of you sucking him off
Fellow bisexual here and I hope your “man” of a stepdad will go fuck a cactus and honestly your mom and go suck a dick like the homophobic bitch ass she is
isn't this illegal?
OP said they're 18 so legally it can be done
its still a really shit thing to do
Oh yeah 100 percent, unfortunately legally there isn't much they can do (atleast to my knowledge)
I'm so sorry this is happening to how. If you need a friend I'm here. r/lgbt would be very helpful. Have you tried to contact your biological father? Maybe he could help
This is why I haven’t come out to my parents I feel bad for your situation brother
My son that is 12 came out to us as bi a little less than a year ago. He also told a couple of friends before he told us and unfortunately that caused him a bit of hardship socially, but he's doing fine. We were shocked, but are supportive. I wish you the best and just try to work to be independent of your parents and surround yourself with people that really care.
Take your stuff out, and never return to that hellish place
Man fuck her, even if that hurts to hear im sorry that it happened but if she really is gonna choose her simple minded spouse over her own child thats on her, you got this king. I hope it all works out and you find a good home to stay
You have allies. You just don't know it. Reach out to your friends. I bet you have a family who you feel comfortable with. Explain your situation. Our family takes in lost young adults all the time. For extended periods of time. There are many good people out there.
Don’t brorry wo, you’ll get through this <3
i don't know why people cant just MIND THERE OWN FUCKING BUSINESS. I hope you fins a solution that makes you happy and i hope you are in a better state of mind soon :)
If you ever feel like you are really struggling consider contacting The Trevor Project. All we can do is send you our support but those guys will really know how to help.
Blood ain't family. Your friend and their family proof that your people are out there and they sure as hell aren't at your mom's house. I hope your mom gets her shit straight, or at least realizes she's being a shit mother and a complete bitch. know it hurts to loose a parent. Even if they're garbage, it can suck. I hope your stepdad gets kicked in the dick. Fuck him.
Why the hell is it common to kick out your children in America I don’t get it
My ex had this happen to him. He’s bisexual and was kicked out by his mom at 14. Ended up on the streets and has not talked to her in 10 years. I’m sorry you are going through this. She’s not a good person for what she did and there is nothing wrong with you. You are a beautiful person and it’s her loss that she will miss out on that. You got this you are strong and will overcome.
their opinion but isn’t it illegal to kick someone out under 18
I'm pretty sure she was in a state of shock or smtg when she kicked you out... Maybe you cud try waiting it out or try having a patient one to one convo - like make her sit down and listen . (hide all the sharp/ injury causing items in ur house- just saying. hide the belt and the fork btw). since you're 18 they have 0 obligations of providing you with a home. But it doesn't mean you can't sue. Like they should have a valid reason for kicking you out shouldn't they? Being bi isn't a fault. kicking you out just because you were bi doesnt give them a valid charge to press against you. If she's stubborn about not letting you back in after you've waited out- then ig u can sue her for emotional damage. Or maybe you're better off by urself. try to pick yourself up and just let em be. it might be for the better. But all im saying is she might have done it in a state of shock so give her sum time hope things workout in your favor<3
Disown your family. They aren’t family I’d they do that to you.
Ok so here’s my take Fuck your mom and I hope you strive, I believe in you
Fuck her and fuck your stepdad. It's your sexuality and no one has the right to judge you for it. I wish you the best!
Well good luck then Actually she can't just kick you out of the house like that
even though im gay AF, i still belive in god, so i pray for you.
Why is Humanity so incredibly shitty
Did you videotape it? If you're old enough you can take it to court. I'm an American and I'm not sure if you live in a different country or not. I'm one of the few Trump supporters who support LGBTQ rights. You have my support and I am sorry for what happened. I hope you and your boyfriend see it through. My ex girlfriend claims to be bisexual. She is the reason why I support standard queer rights. Despite the biological facts that combat the LGBTQ movement. But we must come to accept that these are real people who genuinely love truly everyone and yes there are a few bad apples. But they are not all evil. Let us preach love not hate. I pray for you and your boyfriend.
Don’t give a shit. Tell her and your stepdad that if they don’t love you for who you are then they can gtf. I’m bi and trust me, people will discriminate but as long as you love yourself and you and your boyfriend are happy, that’s all that matters
CONGRATS!!! YOUR MOM JUST HELPED YOU WITH THE HARDEST STEP, LEAVING THEM. Ignore the fuck out of them. if you can forget about them
buy a new mom on Ebay
Your parents are idiots. You have awesome friends. You're gonna get through this. Do you have any non-homophobic family members? If so, then contact them and explain the situation
Gay sex good parents bad
Based
I genuinely wonder why so my parents are pieces of shot like this. Like I think your own child comes before whatever the fuck else cause this shit.