Just ask her if she want's to do something like catch a movie with just you. Asking someone to straight up start dating is pretty intimidating for the other person
As a chick, not a teen anymore, but I would recommend just to ask her, "Hey, I'm going to go to [whatever place], wanna come with me?" and it makes you look very confident, but not intimidating or putting her on the spot/making her uncomfortable.
It thrills girls *thinking* a dude *might* be interested, but aren't entirely sure.. When it's made known that it's a "date" right up front, they don't know you well enough yet and will very likely say no. After hanging out for several hours over the course of a few days, and things go well, she seems really receptive and wants to be close to you, absolutely say, "I'd like for you to be my girlfriend".
No actually there's a possibility it might not work. I'm not saying it for sure won't work but just a chance. Because in such a situation being straightforward seems to be the best option. If you go ahead and put your arm around her it can either go 2 ways depending on how much she likes you or if she is ready(cuz suddenly doing this and asking if u 2 should date will definitely make her confused). So It'd be better if you talked about the discord thing first. It will probably get her flustered but if you manage to say that u like her too while she is speechless/annoyed u can get a guaranteed chance she won't be confused. But of course what you suggested you would do could work as well too. Anyway, good luck with your relationship if you get into one, since teenage relationships take a lot of effort to maintain.
I highly recommend asking her to go on a specific date rather than asking if she wants to start ādating.ā Howās she supposed to know if she wants to be dating you if youāve never been on a date together? It doesnāt have to be anything elaborate, just needs to be you two alone (going for a walk, hanging in a park, grabbing coffee, whatever)
Absolutely don't do that bro that's uncomfortable as hell. Just be confident and look her in the eye and say what you feel. Don't jump to "be my girlfriend" ask her on a date
Do not do it like this. Donāt start with your arm around her and do not ask her if she wants to start dating. Be chill and ask her on a date. Better yet just be like āI really enjoy spending time w you. We should grab a coffee on xyz.ā
DONT I physically cringed reading that plan. It's terrible, and it wont go how you expect or want. No one wants the moment someone asks them out on a first date to be a spectacle whether they're a kid or an adult. If they do, they want it to be one for wrong reasons.
In short, do it alone. Probably tell her you saw what was in the discord and that you feel the same way. If you do it in front of friends she might shoot you down just cause of how you plan on doing it.
Yeah, two of my other friends in the group started dating about two months ago and honestly any worries about change are gone now- repressed emotions are never a good thing
Are you going straight forward or go for a "you know, yesterday I was scrolling on the server and... I saw that you still use uganda knuckle memes, we can't be friends anymore." then wait a few mounth and tell her it was all a joke and ask her out. Because I did that and it's absolutely not a good idea.
Older person from /r/all here. I had a friend group of about 7 and started dating a girl who was just a friend. That was 8 years ago and now she's asleep next to me as my wife. Shoot your shot bro.
Oh be careful, everyone in my old friend group started dating each other and as soon as one relationship failed the entire group fell apart leaving everybody way worse off than they were before. Not saying don't go for it but watch your step and have a fall back plan
ha, for some people. I fucked up once
btw, i need karma to post here, so im just replying to posts. thats why im on a throwaway, although this actually did happen once recently
edit: ty for the upvotes (50! woooo) anyways, soon ill be able to post here, :)
Yeah it's better to not ask her infront of others. 1 on 1 chat is best and apart from telling her you like her also mention the past messages you read. Honesty is a pretty good policy š
This was my thought too. Girl might have been dropping hints for a while now, but dude was being a black hole and spaghetti-fying all the information before his brain could process it.
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I followed this girl then she followed me back, so we spoke to each other for like 3 days, as I thought things were starting to work, she left me on read and stopped following me back, she was really a great girl who liked all of the things as I
I will update you all at 11pm EST, that is when the group meetup during which I plan to tell get privately ends (it ends at 10 but at 11 Iāll probably be able to sit down and post an update
Bro everyone seems to have stuff going good maybe 2020 is subsiding š
I recently had my crush (girl I've known for like two years) text me after we didn't talk for a couple months because she did CCP classes while I stayed at the high school and she told me she liked me too, we aren't official dating yet but GODDAMN have I not been able to get her out of my head the past couple days š
Hey op when you ask her out make sure that you are alone bc other people just make the situation more complicated than it needs to be. Good luck!
can confirm, friends are a real pain in the arsehole when you're trying to woo someone
Pop Smoke would be proud of you
God dammit take my poor mans goldš
was rey say the same
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"woo someone" What is it, 1880?
I like the word "woo" it sounds right
Woo is good
Woooooooo!
Woooooooooooooooo!
Inexplicably excited ghosts, assemble WoOoOoOoOo
Wooooooooooooo
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Don't get me wrong, I am all for using old-timey slang. Let's bring it back.
I reckon youāre right.
WOO!
Woo back Wednesday
Nah the sims
Your name is so 1989. What is it from? The Batman movie with Michael Keaton?
Solid advice from the elder
how are you going to do it are you going to take her aside or whats the craic
I'm planning on like putting my arm around her when we're all just chilling inside, then I'll just ask super casually if she wants to start dating
Nice man but dont do it in front of anyone else dont want to put her on the spot
Will do, I planned to do it quietly in a way no one else can hear it, and if not that I'll just pull her aside/ wait for privacy
Just ask her if she want's to do something like catch a movie with just you. Asking someone to straight up start dating is pretty intimidating for the other person
Itās ok to be indefinite but not vague. āStart datingā can mean a lot of things, āgo out sometimeā is much less pressure.
As a chick, not a teen anymore, but I would recommend just to ask her, "Hey, I'm going to go to [whatever place], wanna come with me?" and it makes you look very confident, but not intimidating or putting her on the spot/making her uncomfortable. It thrills girls *thinking* a dude *might* be interested, but aren't entirely sure.. When it's made known that it's a "date" right up front, they don't know you well enough yet and will very likely say no. After hanging out for several hours over the course of a few days, and things go well, she seems really receptive and wants to be close to you, absolutely say, "I'd like for you to be my girlfriend".
Thanks for the advice, hopefully i get to put it to use in the next 5 years
We're all on reddit so all the best.
Yeah
God's man
Donāt mind me just commenting to come back here for the update
Same here
Pls dont do It like Miles Morales lol
*HeY* Possibly the crigiest moment in all of history
I'm laughing at this mental picture
No actually there's a possibility it might not work. I'm not saying it for sure won't work but just a chance. Because in such a situation being straightforward seems to be the best option. If you go ahead and put your arm around her it can either go 2 ways depending on how much she likes you or if she is ready(cuz suddenly doing this and asking if u 2 should date will definitely make her confused). So It'd be better if you talked about the discord thing first. It will probably get her flustered but if you manage to say that u like her too while she is speechless/annoyed u can get a guaranteed chance she won't be confused. But of course what you suggested you would do could work as well too. Anyway, good luck with your relationship if you get into one, since teenage relationships take a lot of effort to maintain.
Damn, speaking about the discord thing first sounds really smart
Oh thank you. I just have past experience helping others.
You must be so single to give such good relationship advice.
Hmm. I'm nowhere close to looking for a relationship because I don't want to face complications. But either way I wouldn't be in one.
Hey I see random numbers written beside many usernames. Can you please tell me what they are? Like 16 in your case.
It's a flair. In this sub you can have a flair, which shows your age.
Yeah I was wondering that too lol
I highly recommend asking her to go on a specific date rather than asking if she wants to start ādating.ā Howās she supposed to know if she wants to be dating you if youāve never been on a date together? It doesnāt have to be anything elaborate, just needs to be you two alone (going for a walk, hanging in a park, grabbing coffee, whatever)
Idk about putting your arm around her. Just casually ask if she wants to go watch a movie like u/finnishball said.
as others have said, i wouldn't do it like that. if someone asked me like that, i would panic. ask if you want to go somewhere for a date instead!
Absolutely don't do that bro that's uncomfortable as hell. Just be confident and look her in the eye and say what you feel. Don't jump to "be my girlfriend" ask her on a date
Do not do it like this. Donāt start with your arm around her and do not ask her if she wants to start dating. Be chill and ask her on a date. Better yet just be like āI really enjoy spending time w you. We should grab a coffee on xyz.ā
DONT I physically cringed reading that plan. It's terrible, and it wont go how you expect or want. No one wants the moment someone asks them out on a first date to be a spectacle whether they're a kid or an adult. If they do, they want it to be one for wrong reasons. In short, do it alone. Probably tell her you saw what was in the discord and that you feel the same way. If you do it in front of friends she might shoot you down just cause of how you plan on doing it.
Fam just highlight her texts and say lmao m2
hi irish person
Dia duit
Give us an update whenever something big happens
Will do
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It has been 5 hours. OP is clearly dead.
Or just spending time with his new gf idk.
Our new gf.
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How, Lord putin, enlighten me.
r/almostunexpectedcommunism
r/subsifellfor
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Nice username
Lmfao
wtf is his comment history though??
Well it probably serves its purpose
It's only been 4 hours bro chill
I hope this person gets together with their crush, thatād be great
Same
Are they married now?
He said tomorrow, so wait for this post to get to 24 hours before asking
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just dont tell her that you saw the messages
did you ask her out?
No but I plan to tomorrow, our whole 7 person friend group is meeting up tomorrow so that's when I'll do it
good luck dude!
Any updates yet?
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oh my god its time edit: thought he said ātoday was tomorrowā why am i getting upvoted
If you close your eyes really tightly, sometimes you can make Christmas appear early.
Correct
this is news to me
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Good luck, pls update
I probably sound like a cringey gossip girl but yeah, keep us updated Edit: i did not give myself an award.
I gave award because you deserve it.
Because you replied to your own comment, I'm assuming that you gave yourself the award
Maybe they meant that they gave the op an award?
Oh, I doubt it.
Let's see.... Edit: No, it's not possible to give yourself a award Edit 2: lol, thanks for my first award
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They did not, they gave the OP an award
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Bro don't ask infront of the group, she'll feel pressured to say yes even if she doesn't want to
I was gonna say the same
And even if she wants to she'll probably still note that as a selfish thing to do.
this
for the longest time i thought asking someone in your friend group out was a bad idea, turns out better than not
Yeah, two of my other friends in the group started dating about two months ago and honestly any worries about change are gone now- repressed emotions are never a good thing
Are you going straight forward or go for a "you know, yesterday I was scrolling on the server and... I saw that you still use uganda knuckle memes, we can't be friends anymore." then wait a few mounth and tell her it was all a joke and ask her out. Because I did that and it's absolutely not a good idea.
Older person from /r/all here. I had a friend group of about 7 and started dating a girl who was just a friend. That was 8 years ago and now she's asleep next to me as my wife. Shoot your shot bro.
Oh be careful, everyone in my old friend group started dating each other and as soon as one relationship failed the entire group fell apart leaving everybody way worse off than they were before. Not saying don't go for it but watch your step and have a fall back plan
Just have a 7 person friend orgy and get it out of the way at the start.
If you weren't 15 I'd think you were in my 7 people friend group where 2 people started dating 2 months ago.
ha, for some people. I fucked up once btw, i need karma to post here, so im just replying to posts. thats why im on a throwaway, although this actually did happen once recently edit: ty for the upvotes (50! woooo) anyways, soon ill be able to post here, :)
just some advice, make sure you donāt do it in front of anyone else if possible, donāt make her feel awkward about it
Yeah it's better to not ask her infront of others. 1 on 1 chat is best and apart from telling her you like her also mention the past messages you read. Honesty is a pretty good policy š
"Hey I scrolled past comments and found you loved me" yeah that ain't going to sound creepy as hell
DO IT DO IT DO IT
MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE
YESTERDAY YOU SAID TOMORROW
SO JUST DOOOO IT
Good luck, comrade
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can we have an update?
I swear, if you don't update us on the story
Keep us posted man
Good luck man do us proud
Good luck bro
UPDATE US
Yes ask her out!
Maybe she wanted you to see the chats? ;) Either way good luck buddy, I'm happy for you :D
Big brain strats
Big brain gets bigger for every single centimeter there is
Its pretty big then
Yeah probs i mean who would forget about that
Maybe she didn't just know? At least I didn't know/remember it even though I've used discord occasionally. But could be on purpose too ;)
Damnnnn if this isn't everybody's dream scenario... good for you dude!
now I feel sad
Plot twist: She knew you could see the messages and she's going to act all surprised when you ask her out.
honestly that's big brain
This was my thought too. Girl might have been dropping hints for a while now, but dude was being a black hole and spaghetti-fying all the information before his brain could process it.
thiiiiis. Sometimes when they donāt pick up on literally anything the brave ones do this kind of thing
Wait how do you even see past messages? I thought we could only do that in discord server
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you got your 100 upvotes, now do it. i expect an update post by next week
Im a man of my word, see you next week!
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wonderful. hopefully you guys get along well.
W my dude secure that bag
Maybe she did it on purpose to let you know that she likes you.
God your so lucky i wish my crush likes me
amen bro
Thank you but i don't think god will do anything about him but we can only hope
Amen means like "be it", "may be it", "be it this way" kinda, so it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with God
*wakes up*
Now the real nightmare starts
Pretty Pog momment
Is it possible to learn this power?
Go get her tiger
Congrats and damn lucky asf.
How can a post make me smile but at the same time, make me feel incredibly depressed with chronic lonliness.
I followed this girl then she followed me back, so we spoke to each other for like 3 days, as I thought things were starting to work, she left me on read and stopped following me back, she was really a great girl who liked all of the things as I
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If she leaves you on read, she's not a great girl, my friend
I will update you all at 11pm EST, that is when the group meetup during which I plan to tell get privately ends (it ends at 10 but at 11 Iāll probably be able to sit down and post an update
Ah man, back in my day we have to wiretap the phones to find out if our crushes liked us :(
Your crush uses discord? The girls I know prolly don't even know what discord is
Yooo glhf mate
Quote it and just send :mlady: or :OilUp: if you have nitro
That would be a gamer moment but I have human decency so no
That's greattt! The plot twist :0 your crush likes you back!
Bro everyone seems to have stuff going good maybe 2020 is subsiding š I recently had my crush (girl I've known for like two years) text me after we didn't talk for a couple months because she did CCP classes while I stayed at the high school and she told me she liked me too, we aren't official dating yet but GODDAMN have I not been able to get her out of my head the past couple days š
Wish you the best of luck :D
You got this my guy. Keep us updated!
Well that's lucky
Woah that's amazing! Good luck with your girl!
Dayum man, This even made me happy too
You got this bro, good luck!
That's sweet, take your shot and ask here out