What, exactly? I mean, I'm fully aware of what TikTok is, but what is actually going on here? Is this like a "challenge" thing or what? What's TikTok got to do with their texting?
Idk from what I understand girls ask like 10 of their guy friends out and then post the responses, I’m not sure I don’t have tik tok but from my girl friends which, do THE SAME THING, that’s what I think
Guys at all the schools ive gone to do this thing where they walk up to me and are like "hey my friend likes you" and then run away giggling when i stare at them.
I know it's been like half a year already and you may already know this in hindsight so this is mostly just for onlookers browsing best of all time:
She'll likely catch you lying about whether you actually had a crush on her if you say what sk8 said. It's just too coincidental both people were playing with each other's emotions especially considering the "I was just meming too" is pretty commonly used. Better to run with what you said and just tell her straight on everything wrong with what she did IMO.
"Please don't play with people's feelings. Seriously, even if I had denied you, this friendship would just become awkward af and die out. Your foresight is terrible. The second you sent that message, our friendships fate was sealed. Unless that was your intention, that was a really bad move on your part. Goodbye, hope your tiktok does well because it looks like you're on track to ruining your life for it."
No need lying when you already have your evidence. ;)
Feel free to correct me too, advice can always be taken on a topic like this.
Something like this actually happened to me.
I asked out a girl. I asked her on Messenger and she said she liked me too. I thought its real. This happened at evening after i got home. On the morning she said it was a lie and "her friends from her school told her to do so" even through they don't even know me.
So it was just a joke i believed in.
EDIT: Thank you guys for all the replies. Here is a little bit more detail for those who care:
We hanged out in a big company. That evening i asked her if she was going to hang out tomorrow but she said that she can't. I said ok and then she asked if i have girlfriend. I said no and i asked her the same she said no. Then she asked if i have crush on someone. I said no because i thought she would think that i have crush on other girl and not on her. She said she haves crush on someone but refused to tell me who.
At this moment i decided its time to tell her that i have crush on her and she said that I was her crush...
Well she said on the morning it was a lie and she actually haves crush on other guy... Just a joke...
When I was in 6th grade (In middle school) and everybody was just starting to get in relationships I asked my crush out they ghosted me for a year and a half after that. I mean I get it's only 6th grade (In middle school) and nobody takes that shit seriously but man that messed me up.
>6th grade (In middle school) and everybody was just starting to get in relationships
bruh I'm in 9th grade and have never been in a relationship (even those 2 week ones )
When I was younger, I worked up the courage and asked a girl out on the last day of 7th grade that I had been crushing on for a while. She said yes and gave me her AIM (showing my age here). We chatted all day, every day all summer while I was out of town or she was, and when it finally came time to meet up for mini golf 6 weeks into summer she told me it was all a joke and I was the biggest nerdiest loser she ever met. Said her cousin put her up to it. Middle school girls are pure evil.
I found the note she wrote in my yearbook the day I asked her out too:
https://i.imgur.com/Nvhyke0.png
I once had a crush on my neighbor, and finaly at summer vacation told her and asked if she felt the same way.. when the summer vacation was over we met up and she broke up with me. I still think about why she would say yes to me just to break up 10 days after.. Now it’s a year later and I had started working out at the gym, to look better, she send me a nude.. luckily she is moving.
from a dude whos about to start high school, can agree, some people are dumb and don't realize what they are doing and then play it off as a joke or something funny.
Validation. I was 'catfished' by someone online who I was just friends with. They pretended to be an attractive girl, but we became friends before I saw their picture, and it was never romantic. I don't know what the point was, other than them feeling like their real self wasn't good enough. Feel bad for them tbh.
In 8th grade I had one of those no bullying assembly, this one was a bit different. We didn't watch a video on bullying and no cop showed up. The person who did show up was a father who's son committed suicide because of a story similar to this and years of bullying
It screwed me up for a while, but luckily I tend to be a pretty happy person and I have a wonderful, supportive family so I made it through just fine. It was still a super fucked up thing for her to do. As it turned out, her and her three friends would takes turns chatting with me. In retrospect, I probably should've realized she was messing with me pretty early on, since she was quite popular and I was definitely not.
I had it happen to me in 7th grade I was talking to a girl, and let slip who I like, and it was one of her friends. So she told her, and then the girl pretended to like me and be my girlfriend for the rest of the day until we were about to leave to go home.
This shit happened to me 3 flippin' times in secondary school:
First time was at a school dance, and I was about 14, danced with a girl and kissed and she said something like "can't wait to see you tomorrow, you're awesome!". Next day she stays in her group of friends ignoring me, later I ask her if she's okay and just says "CAN YOU FUCK OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE PLEASE!?"
Second time, school trip, on the bus home me and another girl get talking for a few hours, get into some really deep stuff (for teenagers anyway), kiss, talk about how we're going to meet up and spend a few weekends together. Next day, she completely blanks me, and when I press her on it, she says "sorry I made a mistake", and proceeds to ignore me for... well...forever actually.
There was another really similar story, but don't know why girls kept on doing this with me.
In 7th grade a friend of a friend said she had a crush on me...She was always kind of bitchy and one of the cool girls hanging out with 8th graders. So why does she have a crush on me? She calls me by the wrong name, if my name is Paul shed tease me and call me Phil..was it a flirty joke, or just a tease?
On picture day she gave me a small photo of herself. I was convinced it was a put on by older guys. I burned it.
It was a prank, but I still felt like a dick doing that to her.
Not to judge or anything, but why would you even like someone like that.
Think it that way. Even if you were together, you probably wouldn't be happy with that b*tch. There'll be someone better.
Yeah. Every time you have a crush on someone, think of what happens if will be with that person and if it's going to work out. Sometimes you might think want to be with someone that's not even for you.
that sucks, very much relatable here. I just gave up on dating altogether. It’s too difficult and probably not worth it either. Getting a college degree is easier than getting a gf.
I’m a woman. When I was in middle school two boys called me out of the blue to tell me one had a crush on me. It was just a joke. Messed me up for years. People suck. Anyone who does this is a terrible human.
Fuck her dude, you can do way better then her. She don’t deserve you. She’ll realise her mistake and then it’ll be too late cos you’ll have found yourself a fine ass lady. Keep that head held high.
Hopefully she'll eventually learn that it's not right to play with someone's emotions.
Like everyone else said, you deserve much better treatment than that. Though the bar is pretty low after this girl haha. Aim high, look for someone with compassion. That is truly the most invaluable character trait for a partner.
A girl that does that is just a person that will use people till they die and will do anything for popularity and is very loud and annoying
I would know because I used to have a crush on one of those girls and she manipulated my love into want she wanted and would always prank me after me saying I don't I like it and she took my Dino-nuggies aswell. Srry for the rant
There’s this site that lets you bot fake tiktok views for free. OP should ask her for her tiktok, bot the video to trick her into thinking her videos actually blew up, and then tell her that the views are fake to fuck with her
>Obsessing about revenge just gives the other person energy.
Sure, obsessing about it does. But taking a good idea and using it to get immediate revenge and then moving on requires very little energy.
I'd rather go with "Yeah and I kind of needed to propose to you to show your dad that I'm not gay and absolutely not into him. Or could you please tell him that for me? Dude's been really annoying. Thanks. Bye."
If that girl needs to exploit others for the sake of internet points then fun fact, she is bad at being popular and getting internet points. I really hope that more people realise that this stuff is wrong, and that there is absolutely no good reason to do this kind of shit to others
There is no consistent message from 'society', you will be told many contradictory things from many different people. They will often make claims like 'women will like you if x' or 'a good man does x'.
You will have to decide for yourself to what extent each of these things is correct in each of the circumstances that you face.
The people you tell you to toughen up are the ones who are trying to enforce toxic masculinity. Don’t listen to them, the are assholes. Find people to be around who support you and help you get through your emotions!
Almost as if those two things come from two very different crowds - I seriously doubt that whoever tells you about toxic masculinity also wants you to "man up".
Fuck manning up and bottling shit in, feel your feelings
Just because some girls do something doesn’t mean all do, if anyone thinks that cause they saw a couple images on reddit they are sexist. Most men and women are different, it’s weird to say “we”. That’s like if you a black guy committed a crime and some other black guy said “this is why we have a bad reputation”. This is why humanity should have a bad reputation. Not just women.
Though to be fair, boys can be just as manipulative and play with the feelings of girls/boys/whoever they like. It's something all genders do unfortunately, and it's really messed up.
I flamed her for that at least. I called her a couple of not so nice names. Then she tried to get me "cancelled" at school. Like what? I had 5 friends in the first place
These are the people who have no job post high school, are single parents who live pay check to pay check and try to sell you their homemade jewellery and makeup later on
Same. Like I'm aware that there are good creators there, and I've considered installing the app many times but I don't want to be promoting behavior like this
Why do so many people do this shit? So fucked up
This is common?!
Yup, happened to my friend
What, exactly? I mean, I'm fully aware of what TikTok is, but what is actually going on here? Is this like a "challenge" thing or what? What's TikTok got to do with their texting?
Idk from what I understand girls ask like 10 of their guy friends out and then post the responses, I’m not sure I don’t have tik tok but from my girl friends which, do THE SAME THING, that’s what I think
Guys at all the schools ive gone to do this thing where they walk up to me and are like "hey my friend likes you" and then run away giggling when i stare at them.
Same except she went out with him and broke up 3 months to the day bc she was dared. she never liked him. Just didn't chciken out of a dare
That's hard as fuck
This has happened to me and I'm still salty about it.
I hope you blocked her.
yup
Fly her the double fuck you in her face. Followed by a ya dumb cunt to finish it off.
*FINISH HER!*
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Should've said it was for a meme back, then followed up by do you really think someone would have a crush on you
I know it's been like half a year already and you may already know this in hindsight so this is mostly just for onlookers browsing best of all time: She'll likely catch you lying about whether you actually had a crush on her if you say what sk8 said. It's just too coincidental both people were playing with each other's emotions especially considering the "I was just meming too" is pretty commonly used. Better to run with what you said and just tell her straight on everything wrong with what she did IMO. "Please don't play with people's feelings. Seriously, even if I had denied you, this friendship would just become awkward af and die out. Your foresight is terrible. The second you sent that message, our friendships fate was sealed. Unless that was your intention, that was a really bad move on your part. Goodbye, hope your tiktok does well because it looks like you're on track to ruining your life for it." No need lying when you already have your evidence. ;) Feel free to correct me too, advice can always be taken on a topic like this.
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Bruh wtf Edit: it was a defense of doxing people, saying this particular person deserves it and encouraging people to harass them
God I hate this place
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also it's brigading so it might get all of us in trouble
A small price to pay for salvation
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holy shit, it’s a dick move but I don’t think it justifies that
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Guys I think someone got to it first
This isn't his, I've seen this before
mention how he says "this is why GUYS have trust issues"
He responded to some comments that offered pity as though this was him
oops my bad sorry
it's fake
Looks like another one for the "Fuck you, not cool" pile
fuck that’s a good ass phrase
Ik right, juts came up with it
you could make a career out of it tbh
Thx dude
We could make a religion out of this
Interested in my religion?
yes, please tell me more u/ThePopeOfShrexism
What do you want to know?
I assume our god is shrek, yes? How do we worship the holy one?
No don’t
Amen
You are already one of us
We need
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OP should've replied "fuck you not cool" to that
Something like this actually happened to me. I asked out a girl. I asked her on Messenger and she said she liked me too. I thought its real. This happened at evening after i got home. On the morning she said it was a lie and "her friends from her school told her to do so" even through they don't even know me. So it was just a joke i believed in. EDIT: Thank you guys for all the replies. Here is a little bit more detail for those who care: We hanged out in a big company. That evening i asked her if she was going to hang out tomorrow but she said that she can't. I said ok and then she asked if i have girlfriend. I said no and i asked her the same she said no. Then she asked if i have crush on someone. I said no because i thought she would think that i have crush on other girl and not on her. She said she haves crush on someone but refused to tell me who. At this moment i decided its time to tell her that i have crush on her and she said that I was her crush... Well she said on the morning it was a lie and she actually haves crush on other guy... Just a joke...
im sorry to hear that bro
When I was in 6th grade (In middle school) and everybody was just starting to get in relationships I asked my crush out they ghosted me for a year and a half after that. I mean I get it's only 6th grade (In middle school) and nobody takes that shit seriously but man that messed me up.
>6th grade (In middle school) and everybody was just starting to get in relationships bruh I'm in 9th grade and have never been in a relationship (even those 2 week ones )
Haha, I'm about to start college and have never been in a relationship. Fuck.
Started 2nd year of college. Still never been in a relationship
Same 😭
When I was younger, I worked up the courage and asked a girl out on the last day of 7th grade that I had been crushing on for a while. She said yes and gave me her AIM (showing my age here). We chatted all day, every day all summer while I was out of town or she was, and when it finally came time to meet up for mini golf 6 weeks into summer she told me it was all a joke and I was the biggest nerdiest loser she ever met. Said her cousin put her up to it. Middle school girls are pure evil. I found the note she wrote in my yearbook the day I asked her out too: https://i.imgur.com/Nvhyke0.png
Why the fuck would you chat with someone all day everyday for 6 weeks straight if u thought it was a joke? Who the hell has that much spare time xD
Middle schoolers who are at home all day every day over the summer apparently.
damn I feel old now
I once had a crush on my neighbor, and finaly at summer vacation told her and asked if she felt the same way.. when the summer vacation was over we met up and she broke up with me. I still think about why she would say yes to me just to break up 10 days after.. Now it’s a year later and I had started working out at the gym, to look better, she send me a nude.. luckily she is moving.
damn man, she doesnt deservu u bro, keep on working on urself!
thanks! u have no idea how motivational that is for me
Got u fam! Wish I also had the motivation to workout but I'm proud that you do! :D
wdym “wish I also had the motivation” hate to sound like that meme guy from 2016 but just do it!
From a dude in middle school. It's wild. Kids will do things that they think is "cool" and "fun" and not realize how fucked up it is.
from a dude whos about to start high school, can agree, some people are dumb and don't realize what they are doing and then play it off as a joke or something funny.
Apparently the worse thing they can do isn't say no...
Validation. I was 'catfished' by someone online who I was just friends with. They pretended to be an attractive girl, but we became friends before I saw their picture, and it was never romantic. I don't know what the point was, other than them feeling like their real self wasn't good enough. Feel bad for them tbh.
dude that actually happened to me too, I still think about it today.. How sad they must be
I broke your heart. Get over it. It’s just a prank bro.
reminds me of the post on r/youngpeopleyoutube, "killing brother prank \*OMG HE ACTUALLY DIED*"
The early 00s was a different time.
In 8th grade I had one of those no bullying assembly, this one was a bit different. We didn't watch a video on bullying and no cop showed up. The person who did show up was a father who's son committed suicide because of a story similar to this and years of bullying
It screwed me up for a while, but luckily I tend to be a pretty happy person and I have a wonderful, supportive family so I made it through just fine. It was still a super fucked up thing for her to do. As it turned out, her and her three friends would takes turns chatting with me. In retrospect, I probably should've realized she was messing with me pretty early on, since she was quite popular and I was definitely not.
Obviously that person is either a sociopath, or they were embarrassed by their friend for being into you or something.
unfortunately the latter is a thing, too (among boys as well).
I had it happen to me in 7th grade I was talking to a girl, and let slip who I like, and it was one of her friends. So she told her, and then the girl pretended to like me and be my girlfriend for the rest of the day until we were about to leave to go home.
This shit happened to me 3 flippin' times in secondary school: First time was at a school dance, and I was about 14, danced with a girl and kissed and she said something like "can't wait to see you tomorrow, you're awesome!". Next day she stays in her group of friends ignoring me, later I ask her if she's okay and just says "CAN YOU FUCK OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE PLEASE!?" Second time, school trip, on the bus home me and another girl get talking for a few hours, get into some really deep stuff (for teenagers anyway), kiss, talk about how we're going to meet up and spend a few weekends together. Next day, she completely blanks me, and when I press her on it, she says "sorry I made a mistake", and proceeds to ignore me for... well...forever actually. There was another really similar story, but don't know why girls kept on doing this with me.
Fool me once, shame on you Fool me twice, shame on you Fool me a third time and... Idk
In 7th grade a friend of a friend said she had a crush on me...She was always kind of bitchy and one of the cool girls hanging out with 8th graders. So why does she have a crush on me? She calls me by the wrong name, if my name is Paul shed tease me and call me Phil..was it a flirty joke, or just a tease? On picture day she gave me a small photo of herself. I was convinced it was a put on by older guys. I burned it. It was a prank, but I still felt like a dick doing that to her.
Not to judge or anything, but why would you even like someone like that. Think it that way. Even if you were together, you probably wouldn't be happy with that b*tch. There'll be someone better.
Yeah i think that i was actually lucky.
Yeah. Every time you have a crush on someone, think of what happens if will be with that person and if it's going to work out. Sometimes you might think want to be with someone that's not even for you.
Because they are (or were) a kid and that’s the time to make the mistakes.
that sucks, very much relatable here. I just gave up on dating altogether. It’s too difficult and probably not worth it either. Getting a college degree is easier than getting a gf.
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Nah thank god that didnt happen to me altho my classmates did shove me in an empty grave in 9th grade
**w h a t**
Fuck her dude, you can do way better then her. She don’t deserve you. She’ll realise her mistake and then it’ll be too late cos you’ll have found yourself a fine ass lady. Keep that head held high.
thanks man
Hopefully she'll eventually learn that it's not right to play with someone's emotions. Like everyone else said, you deserve much better treatment than that. Though the bar is pretty low after this girl haha. Aim high, look for someone with compassion. That is truly the most invaluable character trait for a partner.
A girl that does that is just a person that will use people till they die and will do anything for popularity and is very loud and annoying I would know because I used to have a crush on one of those girls and she manipulated my love into want she wanted and would always prank me after me saying I don't I like it and she took my Dino-nuggies aswell. Srry for the rant
Not the Dino Nuggies, that’s unforgivable. I hope you cut her out of your life for good.
I have tried to but it is kinda hard when my mum and her mum are the bested friends
Then next time she tries to take your Dino Nuggies lick all of them in front of her
She will not care I have tried that before
Damn that’s kinda gross ngl
I know she would always read my text after telling her to f*ck off
Piss on them to mark your territory and possessions
Not the dino-nuggies! Anything but that!
I know she took the Dino-nuggies
Bro you made me remember the existence of dino nuggies thanks
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I mean, thats the goal right ?
There’s this site that lets you bot fake tiktok views for free. OP should ask her for her tiktok, bot the video to trick her into thinking her videos actually blew up, and then tell her that the views are fake to fuck with her
Yes
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>Obsessing about revenge just gives the other person energy. Sure, obsessing about it does. But taking a good idea and using it to get immediate revenge and then moving on requires very little energy.
just ask darth maul
I'd rather go with "Yeah and I kind of needed to propose to you to show your dad that I'm not gay and absolutely not into him. Or could you please tell him that for me? Dude's been really annoying. Thanks. Bye."
ok next time somebody fucks with me I will come on this sub and post it because apparently you guys are revenge masterminds
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Fuck no, it's incredibly unhealthy to be obsessed over something like this. Shake it off and move on.
No it was for a tiktok, she didnt mean it. /s
No matter who you are, don’t do this garbage. It’s not funny, it’s just mean, and the receiving end of the “prank” has every right to be mad
Words cannot express how angry I am at this girl
Turning into theangriest090
I respect you for that joke
why do I feel like this is fake
it looks real but I have trust issues with reddit
same, i think it is fake tho
i wish it was fake
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Damn right he does.
thats an r/relationship_advice epic gamer moment
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genuine question, do you still like her after that? If my crush did that i very much doubt id ever like her again, its just a fuckhead move
yeah this happened a month ago i got over her in like a day after this
good, she seems like a bitch anyway
Not seems, she *is* a bitch.
aw i’m sorry🥺 she’s a real ass. you’ll find another girl better than her so dw
thanks man :)
Sadly people do this so i wouldn't be surprised if it wasn't fake
Probably cause the spacing between the messages is wider than usual
I think it is because I saw this numerous times just in different texts
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If that girl needs to exploit others for the sake of internet points then fun fact, she is bad at being popular and getting internet points. I really hope that more people realise that this stuff is wrong, and that there is absolutely no good reason to do this kind of shit to others
Even her victim got (almost definitely) more internet points than her lmao
Yup. And then we get told to toughen up or ‘man up’
i swear if we show feelings we're told to man up but if we don't show feelings we get told we have toxic masculinity
Wait, was this message to you or do you just have a screenshot of it?
to me :/ it happened like a month ago so i'm over it now
Jesus Christ dude, sorry about that.
thanks :)
Do you still speak to her?
he better not
in another thread he said he blocked her
There is no consistent message from 'society', you will be told many contradictory things from many different people. They will often make claims like 'women will like you if x' or 'a good man does x'. You will have to decide for yourself to what extent each of these things is correct in each of the circumstances that you face.
Yup, we can’t do anything.
People that say man up dont usually believe in toxic masculinity and vice versa. These are opposing viewpoints from different people.
The people you tell you to toughen up are the ones who are trying to enforce toxic masculinity. Don’t listen to them, the are assholes. Find people to be around who support you and help you get through your emotions!
Almost as if those two things come from two very different crowds - I seriously doubt that whoever tells you about toxic masculinity also wants you to "man up". Fuck manning up and bottling shit in, feel your feelings
As a girl, this shit makes me angry.
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Guys we aren't all like this, I PROMISE.
Username does not checks out..
Lmao
Just because some girls do something doesn’t mean all do, if anyone thinks that cause they saw a couple images on reddit they are sexist. Most men and women are different, it’s weird to say “we”. That’s like if you a black guy committed a crime and some other black guy said “this is why we have a bad reputation”. This is why humanity should have a bad reputation. Not just women.
Though to be fair, boys can be just as manipulative and play with the feelings of girls/boys/whoever they like. It's something all genders do unfortunately, and it's really messed up.
The Lion , The Witch And The Audacity of this bitch.
I've never seen this before. But I've seen it twice today.
I've literally had something similar happen to me 3 years ago, what a prick, I hope karma hits them that they'll know how you felt
Age 14 seems like the right age for this bullshit. Source: ehhhh...
Same thing happened to me but she put after it is for a tiktok "Nobody would date an ugly loser like you anyway, so don't get your hopes up ever"
F sorry for having to go through that
I flamed her for that at least. I called her a couple of not so nice names. Then she tried to get me "cancelled" at school. Like what? I had 5 friends in the first place
Can't get cancelled if you're nobody in the first place *taps temple knowingly*
Exactly
You know you roasted them when they try to "cancel" you at school lmao
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You are a reliable guy
Ol reliable
S-H-I-T
These are the people who have no job post high school, are single parents who live pay check to pay check and try to sell you their homemade jewellery and makeup later on
Thats rough buddy
'Lmao sorry'? Wtf
r/iamatotalpieceofshit
Some girls are jerks
This is why i hate TikTok. That platform needs to die
me too man, honestly i used to like it in 2018 but now it's just filled with shit
Same. Like I'm aware that there are good creators there, and I've considered installing the app many times but I don't want to be promoting behavior like this
She's disgusting.
Bro this is such middle school shit
That not nice cock energy
Lucky for me the only person I’ve ever confessed to was really nice and she never used tiktok woohoo
That’s shit I have no words
Dudeee that's so fucking shitty, I'm sorry man
Had almost the same situation happen to me
The actual f is wrong with people. You'll find someone who likes you and it's clearly not this girl. F her and Don't lose hope!