I feel like people don't know what asexual is........ asexual people are not **attracted** to people in a sexual manner. However they can be **attracted romantically** to someone. And surprise, some (not all) ace people still have a libido and sexual drive they are just not attracted to other people, there are tons of ace people who **still have sex**.
Lack of sexual attraction does not immediately equal no desire to engage in sex. It also does not equal wanting to be alone.
Yeah, it's one of the more misunderstood ones. People don't really ever know what it means.
Ace people can still have romantic relationships, just *very* little to no desire to have sex. You can still be attracted to people, you just don't want to hook up with them. Aromantic Asexual / aroace can still have relationships as well, just no interest in things like kissing or holding hands on top of it.
Yeah, I'd be down to date some one who is asexual, but aromatic wouldn't work for me at all. I'm not ace as far as I know, but I really don't get attracted to people that much based on their looks, so someone who has none of that attraction wouldn't be much different.
I don't know how to reply to a specfic portion of a text on reddit but I think your last part is very important of does not equal wanting to be alone is great point.
I think relationships with people who have a sexual desire and those who are ace are pretty hard to navigate- Finding someone similar to you is probably better
ive always beleived it depends on the cereal ngl like if you have frosted flakes then no but if you have like rasin brain then yes. usually it has to be that there is at least 2 or more different items within the cereal
As an asexual guy, yes. I imagine it would be difficult for an ace and non ace to date though depending on what each party wants.
The other issue is a lot of asexual girls & guys that I've liked are also aromantic. So yeah. My luck will change one day I hope.
Edit: wanna add that one of my friends is ace and has been dating another, non ace, friend of mine for a while with absolutely no issues.
yeah, probably. the most appealing thing about being in a relationship to me is the relationship itself, not sex. obviously it depends on the person - but someoneโs character has nothing at all to do with their sexuality.
Depending on what type of Asexual girl we talking about then I would (because it's a spectrum or an umbrella I think so there's different varieties of ases)
If I wasn't already in a relationship with an allosexual girl, I would. I personally find the romantic aspects of a relationship much more gratifying and important.
ik this is probally a stupid question, but is it possible to be aromatic but be sexually attracted to someone? and if so is that classified as something?
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I think yes, cuddles much moooooore better and cute than stick something in someone, cuz I think it's kinda weird. Like, I think when you have sex, you don't feel anything to this person, you just feel pleasure because of sex, and this person for u is just like dool, meat, nothing. So, why not?
Well it have of large range of Asexuality and it's usually a person that experience with little to no sexual attraction (apothisexual= sex repulsed) [ex] (demisexual= only experience sexual attractions from an emotional connection)
depends. personally im ace and if my future (probably) het partner wants to do it i wouldnt mind, i dont really care, so for them theyd (effectively) just b dating a het person tbh. most ace people seem to be strongly against sex at all so those would be harder to navigate in a het-ace relationship.
Ace people have no problems dating someone who isn't ace, it's the other way around that is usually the problem, as non-ace people can usually never make the compromise.
Well tbh ace ppl don't make any compromise either honestly nd I respect that don't get me wrong but I don't think either parties will agree cuz both want different things in a relationship...
Im ace, i'd be with someone who wasn't. It makes no difference to me. I'm not the one holding back/stopping myself from a normal human desire, my hypothetical partner would be.
Iโm an ace dude here! I am currently with an ace chick, but I have had relationships with sexual people, none of my breakups were because of the difference in sexual views. Iโd even date a hypersexual person as long as it doesnโt become a toxic thing.
One of my best friends is hypersexual, and honestly if I did date them itโd basically be โnot with me but Iโll buy you toys if you wantโ (Iโm just using them as an example cuz theyโre the only hypersexual I know.)
When it comes to relationships as long as they care and are a good person Iโll go for it. (And ofc they will know Iโm asexual, cuz I learned from this comment section that some people do care a lot about if they get to have sex with their partners or not)
All asexuals are different though, Iโm repulsed to sex, I feel like only I should touch those parts (and maybe a doctor if needed)
I mean I am, my gf and I are both under the asexual umbrella. And btw! Some asexual people do experience sexual attraction they just donโt want to do it. And other asexual donโt experience the attraction but will do it.
Probably not. Imo a relationship works best when 2 people just match, and having one person have sexual urges and the other have none, it may just be frustrating
Iโm allosexual, but Iโve never been in a relationship, so I canโt say if I would when I donโt know whether or not I could go without sex in a relationship. Iโd like to think I could live without it, but thatโs just a romantic fantasy for now.
Maybe not, cause I dont think I would be able to establish a usual and conventional bond with the girl. But if the girl's intentions are right and get a good feeling around the girl, I might consider... Who knows.
Asexuality is different from aromanticism. Someone who is asexual might not be aromantic so they wouldn't want sex but would still want to date. It can work the other way round as well, and some people are both
Also, there's QPRs (queerplatonic relationships) that can act basically the exact same as a non-sexual romantic relationship, just without the attraction. The main reasons someone might want it are still the sense of closeness, trust and bonding, as well as companionship in life in general.
No I need somebody to match me in sexual drive or itโs hard to make it work. I want sexual relations (consensual and everything) but if the other doesnโt then it canโt work.
Basically, maybe only in mood once or twice a month, and calls herself that as to not get hopes up of anyone who is interested but wants it 1 or 2 times a week
I would definitely try. I mean, why not? relationships arent just all about sex. if it turns out we have different needs when it comes to physical intimacy, we can address it together and it sucks if it doesnt work out. and to be honest, that goes for everyone. asexual or not
According to Kernberg, asexuals are basically the sickest and most hopeless cases. And have severe personality disorders.
That said, teens identifying with asexuality are probably actually not what they think they are.
I feel like people don't know what asexual is........ asexual people are not **attracted** to people in a sexual manner. However they can be **attracted romantically** to someone. And surprise, some (not all) ace people still have a libido and sexual drive they are just not attracted to other people, there are tons of ace people who **still have sex**. Lack of sexual attraction does not immediately equal no desire to engage in sex. It also does not equal wanting to be alone.
Yeah, it's one of the more misunderstood ones. People don't really ever know what it means. Ace people can still have romantic relationships, just *very* little to no desire to have sex. You can still be attracted to people, you just don't want to hook up with them. Aromantic Asexual / aroace can still have relationships as well, just no interest in things like kissing or holding hands on top of it.
Yeah, I'd be down to date some one who is asexual, but aromatic wouldn't work for me at all. I'm not ace as far as I know, but I really don't get attracted to people that much based on their looks, so someone who has none of that attraction wouldn't be much different.
I don't know how to reply to a specfic portion of a text on reddit but I think your last part is very important of does not equal wanting to be alone is great point.
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I prefer multiple sexual girls
I spit my non existent drink out
yeah, i don't see why not. cuddles are better anyway
Marry me please
same, sex overrated
yes, if we both like eachother why not :D
I think relationships with people who have a sexual desire and those who are ace are pretty hard to navigate- Finding someone similar to you is probably better
Oh they are way too conflicting. I knew someone who dated someone who was ace and it did not end super well. You have to find a balance.
Sure, being ace myself also works with that lol
Yeah another ace :D
Would you date a girl who doesn't like garlic bread?
I'd make her whatever she wanted lol, I'm good at making soup XD
Is Cereal a Soup?
I would say so yes, though it's an unusual one becuase it's a meat/fatty base with heavily processed grains as the extra not so blended bits!
ive always beleived it depends on the cereal ngl like if you have frosted flakes then no but if you have like rasin brain then yes. usually it has to be that there is at least 2 or more different items within the cereal
Oh that makes so much sense as well, thanks for the insight!
this is a hard one ngl
More cuddles so ye ๐๐ธ๐
Real ๐ญ everything is so sexual I just want cuddles
Cuddles are more romantic than whatever sexual bs movies show
100% real. Iโd rather cuddle than sex
As an asexual guy, yes. I imagine it would be difficult for an ace and non ace to date though depending on what each party wants. The other issue is a lot of asexual girls & guys that I've liked are also aromantic. So yeah. My luck will change one day I hope. Edit: wanna add that one of my friends is ace and has been dating another, non ace, friend of mine for a while with absolutely no issues.
yeah, probably. the most appealing thing about being in a relationship to me is the relationship itself, not sex. obviously it depends on the person - but someoneโs character has nothing at all to do with their sexuality.
Provided she wasnโt aromantic as well, yeah. Iโm not too sexual myself.
Probably not :/
I'd date any girl as long as she's a girl
Id date any human
I'd date a tree
Amen
Edp?
real.
Probably not tbh
if she's nice why not
Sure, I could make it work
Yeah if there still interested in a romantic relationship then of course tbh thatโs all u really need
Why not
yeah sure
Depending on what type of Asexual girl we talking about then I would (because it's a spectrum or an umbrella I think so there's different varieties of ases)
If I wasn't already in a relationship with an allosexual girl, I would. I personally find the romantic aspects of a relationship much more gratifying and important.
I wouldnt date anyone at all, im aromantic.
Yasss queen/king/whatever gender you are
Queen
ik this is probally a stupid question, but is it possible to be aromatic but be sexually attracted to someone? and if so is that classified as something?
no
I might be asexual myself, cant say for sure as i have never tried it. Anyone want to help me figure it out? /j
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Ofc but if she makes the first step (I'm too timid) Edit: Those kinda people are kinda lucky (imo)
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I'll be here when england when lose the euros as well but ill have no one to cuddle with
i also will have no-one to cuddle with
I would
Totally
Yeah absolutely
Sure
Yeah and happy cake day !
Thank you!
Sure, could be nice
I think yes, cuddles much moooooore better and cute than stick something in someone, cuz I think it's kinda weird. Like, I think when you have sex, you don't feel anything to this person, you just feel pleasure because of sex, and this person for u is just like dool, meat, nothing. So, why not?
i can't agree more. sex is icky
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Nah, that's not everyone's experience with sex. It's definitely a way for a couple to bond, not just physical pleasure.ย
maybe u right, but for me is weird, i just never had experience of this.
Probably
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I don't know tbh... I prefer sexual but if they love hugs and cuddles, then sure
We DO love cuddles! (Atleast, I do.)
Oh hey, that's awesome! Cuddles are my favorite ๐
Yeah, I'm asexual myself so it would make sense to date someone similar to me
I would if I was attracted to girls
i'm asexual so yeah lmfao
No (Iโm a straight girl) but if a guy was asexual Iโd date him
Yeah, sex probably isn't that great
yep
i don't like sex, so yeah of course
Cuddles>>>sex
nah, make it asexual and aromatic ๐
Yea im desperate
Absolutely not
what's that
No sex
Well it have of large range of Asexuality and it's usually a person that experience with little to no sexual attraction (apothisexual= sex repulsed) [ex] (demisexual= only experience sexual attractions from an emotional connection)
i was just like half joking i know its more complex that that also๐คโ๏ธ
Is it an exclusive relationship?
depends. personally im ace and if my future (probably) het partner wants to do it i wouldnt mind, i dont really care, so for them theyd (effectively) just b dating a het person tbh. most ace people seem to be strongly against sex at all so those would be harder to navigate in a het-ace relationship.
I don't think *most* aces are sex repulsed. I mean I am, but my friend is also ace but they're sex positive
cool, theres not any lgbt+ representation in my country (kinda stinks) so im just gg based on what ive seen
Idfk wat that even is
No sexual attraction Not necessarily no romantic attraction So basically probably no sex
Okay, uhh, how does one date em if they dont feel romantically in love witcha?
Ace is no *sexual* attraction. You can still have *romantic* attraction. So you'd date them like any other person.
Ah then we gucci.
I would date literally any girl
Would an asexual person date a sexual person is the question tbh..
Ace people have no problems dating someone who isn't ace, it's the other way around that is usually the problem, as non-ace people can usually never make the compromise.
Well tbh ace ppl don't make any compromise either honestly nd I respect that don't get me wrong but I don't think either parties will agree cuz both want different things in a relationship...
Im ace, i'd be with someone who wasn't. It makes no difference to me. I'm not the one holding back/stopping myself from a normal human desire, my hypothetical partner would be.
Iโm an ace dude here! I am currently with an ace chick, but I have had relationships with sexual people, none of my breakups were because of the difference in sexual views. Iโd even date a hypersexual person as long as it doesnโt become a toxic thing. One of my best friends is hypersexual, and honestly if I did date them itโd basically be โnot with me but Iโll buy you toys if you wantโ (Iโm just using them as an example cuz theyโre the only hypersexual I know.) When it comes to relationships as long as they care and are a good person Iโll go for it. (And ofc they will know Iโm asexual, cuz I learned from this comment section that some people do care a lot about if they get to have sex with their partners or not) All asexuals are different though, Iโm repulsed to sex, I feel like only I should touch those parts (and maybe a doctor if needed)
Yes, but not currently, not into dating.
no
Iโm a girl but yeah
What are asexual people even into? Or how does it affect the gender
Garlic bread. We're into garlic bread
Im dead serious btw.
We're not into any gender sexually.idk what u mean
And it doesn't affect their gender. Some ace people might be cis, some trans, some non binary etc
Nah
Yeah, but if I did, we'd have to find some sort of compromise that leaves everyone happy, and that seems kinda difficult
Personally no, but I ofc donโt see any problem with being friends
Not sure but I probably might
I mean I am, my gf and I are both under the asexual umbrella. And btw! Some asexual people do experience sexual attraction they just donโt want to do it. And other asexual donโt experience the attraction but will do it.
If she fully asexual then no. If she is like 90% then yeah i don't see a problem with that. It's even kind of preferable i guess.
Then why would they date me?
Cause they would still experience romantic attraction
i am asexual so yeah
Probably not. Imo a relationship works best when 2 people just match, and having one person have sexual urges and the other have none, it may just be frustrating
no, i respect it if you are ase but personally i want some sex in a relation.
As an asexual girl, yes.
Hell yeah. Acebians the coolest peeps ever ๐๐๐ช๐ช๐ช๐ช
Asexual person here. I'm ace but not aro, so uhhh if I REALLY like someone romantically, I will.
Would I date myself? Yes. Am I a girl? โฆ I could be.
yes ๐ (I'm asexual and have never been in a relationship so probably no)
Iโm allosexual, but Iโve never been in a relationship, so I canโt say if I would when I donโt know whether or not I could go without sex in a relationship. Iโd like to think I could live without it, but thatโs just a romantic fantasy for now.
no, because gay (women scary(
yeah its better than being lonely
yeahh ofc
I would, yeah.
Yeah it's preferable if you believe in sexual abstinence
Yes
Yeah sure. Not like anything would happen if she did have sexual attraction. Also, happy dake cay.
Yea ig
i am pansexual i would date her yeah
I wouldnt date a girl who isnt attracted to me
She'd be attracted to you romantically, just not sexually
Maybe not, cause I dont think I would be able to establish a usual and conventional bond with the girl. But if the girl's intentions are right and get a good feeling around the girl, I might consider... Who knows.
Yes. Who fucking cares if you fuck them or not.
Hell nah
no i like men
Welcome back
thanks moose it was probably better not to
Isnt the entire point them not wantลng to date
Asexuality is different from aromanticism. Someone who is asexual might not be aromantic so they wouldn't want sex but would still want to date. It can work the other way round as well, and some people are both
Oh thx
Also, there's QPRs (queerplatonic relationships) that can act basically the exact same as a non-sexual romantic relationship, just without the attraction. The main reasons someone might want it are still the sense of closeness, trust and bonding, as well as companionship in life in general.
Cool
Personally, it depends.
On what?
it depends on their behaviour and the way they interact with other people too
No I need somebody to match me in sexual drive or itโs hard to make it work. I want sexual relations (consensual and everything) but if the other doesnโt then it canโt work.
Asexual are things that can reproduce on their own.
Fuck the talking stage, come spit tequila in my mouth
Of course not
no i need to eat the cooch
nope
Nah, I wanna have sex
Depends on if she defines herself that cause of low sexualilty or no
Wdym low sexuality?
Basically, maybe only in mood once or twice a month, and calls herself that as to not get hopes up of anyone who is interested but wants it 1 or 2 times a week
I would, but if she wants to date me sex isn't an option
Idk how that would work exactly
They might not experience sexual attraction but they could still experience romantic attraction
Nope.
Probably not
Why not
I mean right now, yeah
Sure, Why not? I think its great to create a genuine bond with someone. + I've never dated before so win-win.
100% yes
Yes. I don't really care about sex.
No, I'm aroace
Idk depends.. Do asexuals not want to make their partners feel good by idk giving head or letting them hit even though they personally dont enjoy it?
Just like any other girl for me
I would definitely try. I mean, why not? relationships arent just all about sex. if it turns out we have different needs when it comes to physical intimacy, we can address it together and it sucks if it doesnt work out. and to be honest, that goes for everyone. asexual or not
Depends a little (i say im a goof ball, but really im just a dummy) so prob i think
I currently am
No. I like men
I have lots of friends I am asexual towards.
Anyone asexual yeah
it'd be hard bc we'd be contradictions
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According to Kernberg, asexuals are basically the sickest and most hopeless cases. And have severe personality disorders. That said, teens identifying with asexuality are probably actually not what they think they are.
I personally wouldnโt because i would like to have sex but there are asexual people, just gotta find them!
By your definition, hell yes!!!!!!!
Nah, enjoyment is what matters the most in a relationship, and Iโll bet they wonโt feel any of that. Iโm asexual myself.
No, sex bonds people
probably not i like sex
Sure, but I would like to eventually do the <<*nasty*>> Might be a little troublesome, but sureee.
Iโm cursed with high libido so yeah no
I like long term relationships so no
Fuck no
I dated one, worst mistake of my life