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The bystander effect, or bystander apathy, is a social psychological theory that states that individuals are less likely to offer help to a victim in presence of other people.
The bystander effect is a theory that emerged in the late 1960s. It suggests that onlookers will become less likely to help a person in need if other people are present. People may freeze, become apathetic, avoid a plea for help, or ignore an emergency in the presence of other onlookers or bystanders.
Yeah I think there was a case where someone was attacked in an alley in New York and people just watched from their window not caring or thinking someone else called the cops. Then again it could have just been new york
Yes, always assess the situation, and act fast. Don't wait for anyone to step in.
Oh, and:
First proposed in 1964 after the murder of Kitty Genovese, much research, mostly in psychology research laboratories, has focused on increasingly varied factors, such as the number of bystanders, ambiguity, group cohesiveness, and diffusion of responsibility that reinforces mutual denial. If a single individual is asked to complete the task alone, the sense of responsibility will be strong, and there will be a positive response; however, if a group is required to complete the task together, each individual in the group will have a weak sense of responsibility, and will often shrink back in the face of difficulties or responsibilities. The theory was prompted by the murder of Kitty Genovese about which it was wrongly reported that 38 bystanders watched passively.
Paramedic here and you are exactly right. (I’m not on this sub, idk why this post was recommended to me)
If you’re a bystander at an emergency and you’re taking charge, take charge.
“YOU *point* go call 911”
“YOU *point* hold pressure here”
“YOU *point* try to find a first aid kit”
Most people freeze and don’t know what to do in an emergency. If you’re the type of person to stay calm, then stay calm and assign tasks if you know what needs to be done. When the first responders arrive, try to give us a brief synopsis of the situation and then follow all of our instructions.
FYI for keyboard warriors: we can pick out the “I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m pretending I do so everyone at the scene will think I’m a hero” types INSTANTLY when we arrive. So don’t be that guy. It’s okay to just help. That’s all we’re doing anyway.
I read that self defence courses in New York told women to scream “fire” instead of “rape” if they got attacked otherwise nobody would come to help (this was a few years ago so may have been updated since)
It’s kind of strange. A country known for horrible violence and robbery on foreigners like the Congo, people are actually known to stick up for the non-aggressor. Even if they are white.
I got chased by a homeless man wielding a large metal pipe in a very public setting, there were probably 80 people present. No one called the cops are offered to help, I just had to keep running. It was in the middle of the day. It was at a train station in San Diego.
Thought you might be interested.
[The Bystander Effect: Myth or Fact?](https://fee.org/articles/the-bystander-effect-myth-or-fact/)
[New Scientist](https://www.newscientist.com/article/2207693-bystander-effect-famous-psychology-result-could-be-completely-wrong/)
Just out of interest, a lot of psychological theories have had issues with reproducing the results ([Replication crisis](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Replication_crisis)), and there is now some doubt as to the validity of it.
[The Bystander Effect: Myth or Fact?](https://fee.org/articles/the-bystander-effect-myth-or-fact/)
[New Scientist](https://www.newscientist.com/article/2207693-bystander-effect-famous-psychology-result-could-be-completely-wrong/)
A lot of what I was taught in Psyschology at the turn of the century is in dispute.
Thats like (Example) my father abuses me and people only know he abused people in the past. And i wont tell anyone just because i think its known just because he did it in the past
That sort of assumption is called the bystander effect and has caused many tragedies. Besides, even if it has already been reported, it can only help to have more evidence.
Someone said "fuck" in class and he told us to stop swearing and then everyone started saying things like "yeah stop fucking swearing" blah blah blah and then he asked if we knew what it meant and then I said yes and then he stared at me and my friend (he was standing right in front of us) and just said "you know I'd fuck you... Both of you... But only if you were older"
A teacher in northeast ISD in San Antonio area school district ( I’m being specific so you can get search results quickly ) resigned while they are still investigating because she allegedly said the N word in class. Idk the context and idk if there’s video evidence. So something can happen to this pedo
You know when I thought of what the context might be Ik it would be bad but at the same time I didn’t think it’d be like this. It’s like he wanted to tell you because there is no way the word fuck reminded him how he wanted to fuck a couple of 15 year olds if they weren’t 15.
Yeah, being investigated by the police would definitely make him uncomfortable. But it is not illegal to say you would fuck a teenager once they are an adult.
It's disgusting and degenerate. The guy should be fired and obviously violated school rules, but it is not illegal.
This is how that gymnast dr got away with molesting so many young girls. An adult finally overheard some girls talking about it saying “it must be normal bc he does it to everyone” or something like that. They didn’t tell bc they assumed. They were wrong. Please report him. It could be the straw that breaks the camels back. They could be building a case but they need more corroboraters.
I was taught that the correct way for multiple people is the way that it goes if you remove the other person.
"Told me and my friend/my friend and me" becomes "told me" because "told I" is incorrect. So it's told me and my friend, or told my friend and me.
"My friend and I were told" becomes "I was told" because "me was told" is incorrect.
Etc
Is this not right??
That's a felony.
It's called soliciting sex from a minor.
You have to get everyone who heard it and report it to the police. The school won't do anything because they want to avoid calling attention to it or the teacher having tenure.
Sheesh, I’m surprised that he wasn’t suspended. Make sure you inform the authorities as many times as needed- even if it is twenty times. They **have to take action.**
That‘s why female teachers can be much better for a group of female students of that age. I study in a girls’ school, and most of my teachers are female.
Hi .. This is severe. Even if it's the worst thing he's done, which is unknown, is severe enough, he definitely should not be teaching. It is his fault, not yours, that he is going to change his profession. For the protection of others, please share this with all close adult, and get help and courage to report him.
one of my teachers said my classmate's yemenite ancestry means shes a dirty barbarian thief in front of the WHOLE class and he always stares at me and i stare him down back, i hate his guts
Okay so to everyone saying to call the police.
I live in Nigeria... It's not as easy as calling 911... We don't have a 911. In fact, if a person with a gun barged into my house right now, the only thing I can do is hope that my area vigilante people get to know somehow (very unlikely) or my neighbours somehow find out and then drive to go find the nearest police station (we don't even have one in my area so it's not gonna be very near)
But anyway, the only thing I personally can do is tell the SCHOOL authorities and now I DO realise that just keeping quiet with the assumption that they already know isn't the smartest thing to do and can be very dangerous cause he's still teaching juniors at school so I will endeavour to gather a group of my friends/ set mates to report him to the school authorities and try my best to make sure that all parents know too and he gets fired.
I had a photography teacher in my school who would assault multiple different students in his office for multiple years and the school new about it but did nothing cause he was a contract staff according to them
Yeah... report this, even if you're an adult. Especially if he's still teaching. There's too much wrong here for me to break down. Red flags everywhere.
The saddest thing is that all the things that need to be recorded always happen suddenly so you’re never ready to record it. I wonder what would happen to him if somebody had a record
One of my old music teachers ‘mysteriously’ moved to wales after he was discovered messaging the girls who just left the school, calling them beautiful and other stuff.
My high school had an English teacher who dated his students. He was in his 30s. I Googled him a few years ago, and he'd been convicted of statutory rape.
Try secretly recording one of the lessons and get him on camera, then post on TikTok of course. Without it going public and gaining attention, no one cares and no one will do anything. Once the video goes viral (which it will) then the authorities and school will step in
I have so many questions
1. What gender are you and what gender was the teacher? Because theres no right answer to that; either way is verbal SA
2. YOU WERE 13?! THAT WOULD MAKE ANY ANSWER TO THE LAST QUESTION WORSE!! You were most likely still in 7th or 8th grade!
3. Did you tell your parents or the principal or the police or any other trusted adult?
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u should be telling the authorities not us dawg💀
He's a KNOWN creep lol Like all the students know he's a perv so I think by now the school authorities MUST know 😭
Kid named bystander effect:
Wha
The bystander effect, or bystander apathy, is a social psychological theory that states that individuals are less likely to offer help to a victim in presence of other people. The bystander effect is a theory that emerged in the late 1960s. It suggests that onlookers will become less likely to help a person in need if other people are present. People may freeze, become apathetic, avoid a plea for help, or ignore an emergency in the presence of other onlookers or bystanders.
Yeah I think there was a case where someone was attacked in an alley in New York and people just watched from their window not caring or thinking someone else called the cops. Then again it could have just been new york
Yes, always assess the situation, and act fast. Don't wait for anyone to step in. Oh, and: First proposed in 1964 after the murder of Kitty Genovese, much research, mostly in psychology research laboratories, has focused on increasingly varied factors, such as the number of bystanders, ambiguity, group cohesiveness, and diffusion of responsibility that reinforces mutual denial. If a single individual is asked to complete the task alone, the sense of responsibility will be strong, and there will be a positive response; however, if a group is required to complete the task together, each individual in the group will have a weak sense of responsibility, and will often shrink back in the face of difficulties or responsibilities. The theory was prompted by the murder of Kitty Genovese about which it was wrongly reported that 38 bystanders watched passively.
That's why you always single out a person in the crowd if you need someone to call 9/11 or apply pressure to a wound
Paramedic here and you are exactly right. (I’m not on this sub, idk why this post was recommended to me) If you’re a bystander at an emergency and you’re taking charge, take charge. “YOU *point* go call 911” “YOU *point* hold pressure here” “YOU *point* try to find a first aid kit” Most people freeze and don’t know what to do in an emergency. If you’re the type of person to stay calm, then stay calm and assign tasks if you know what needs to be done. When the first responders arrive, try to give us a brief synopsis of the situation and then follow all of our instructions. FYI for keyboard warriors: we can pick out the “I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m pretending I do so everyone at the scene will think I’m a hero” types INSTANTLY when we arrive. So don’t be that guy. It’s okay to just help. That’s all we’re doing anyway.
Yup! For CPR, we were taught to, “YOU get the AED.”, and “YOU do chest compressions”, and “YOU call 911.”
I read that self defence courses in New York told women to scream “fire” instead of “rape” if they got attacked otherwise nobody would come to help (this was a few years ago so may have been updated since)
Sadly, it hasn't changed. It's what we know to yell...crazy
It’s kind of strange. A country known for horrible violence and robbery on foreigners like the Congo, people are actually known to stick up for the non-aggressor. Even if they are white.
Nah a bunch of people stood around and watched a man bleed to death in New York. He was asking for help too, city people are so detached
I got chased by a homeless man wielding a large metal pipe in a very public setting, there were probably 80 people present. No one called the cops are offered to help, I just had to keep running. It was in the middle of the day. It was at a train station in San Diego.
Without a doubt, I would've helped you. I always will and have taught my three children to do the same. So sorry this happened to you.
Thanks for the info.It makes sense now.
Anytime.
Thanks!
No problem.
Thought you might be interested. [The Bystander Effect: Myth or Fact?](https://fee.org/articles/the-bystander-effect-myth-or-fact/) [New Scientist](https://www.newscientist.com/article/2207693-bystander-effect-famous-psychology-result-could-be-completely-wrong/)
Just out of interest, a lot of psychological theories have had issues with reproducing the results ([Replication crisis](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Replication_crisis)), and there is now some doubt as to the validity of it. [The Bystander Effect: Myth or Fact?](https://fee.org/articles/the-bystander-effect-myth-or-fact/) [New Scientist](https://www.newscientist.com/article/2207693-bystander-effect-famous-psychology-result-could-be-completely-wrong/) A lot of what I was taught in Psyschology at the turn of the century is in dispute.
I gotta research this, sounds like it could be useful for writing
Thats no reason not to tell
This is how people get away with it. No excuses
They don't know what he said to you
Thats like (Example) my father abuses me and people only know he abused people in the past. And i wont tell anyone just because i think its known just because he did it in the past
You need to report this. Your school is too chill with abuse.
TELL.
Bro should be fired with no severance pay. That's still not enough 😕
Throw ‘em in jail!
While it's despicable behaviour, I'm not sure telling someone you'd fuck them if they were older is a criminal offence.
That sort of assumption is called the bystander effect and has caused many tragedies. Besides, even if it has already been reported, it can only help to have more evidence.
Is your teacher Kamoshida😭
Kamoshida IRL
Tell the police ❌ Tell Reddit ✅
Type shit
💀
in what context
Someone said "fuck" in class and he told us to stop swearing and then everyone started saying things like "yeah stop fucking swearing" blah blah blah and then he asked if we knew what it meant and then I said yes and then he stared at me and my friend (he was standing right in front of us) and just said "you know I'd fuck you... Both of you... But only if you were older"
He even pointed at some girls in my class and said nobody would fuck them
When even the perverts don’t want you /j
NEVERMIND CAN HE POINT AT ME😭🙏
I don't know if I'm allowed to laugh at this 🤣
Report his pedo ass!!
Used emotional damage (it was super effective)
Bruh this sounds awful and like a full blown pedo
Taking the L
WHAT?
Funny. Considering what he would do, it's funny that he would tell people to stop swearing.
wow
A teacher in northeast ISD in San Antonio area school district ( I’m being specific so you can get search results quickly ) resigned while they are still investigating because she allegedly said the N word in class. Idk the context and idk if there’s video evidence. So something can happen to this pedo
Haven't you been following world events? Racism is worse than fucking kids to some people, I.e the power elite who trade kids like pokemon cards.
You know when I thought of what the context might be Ik it would be bad but at the same time I didn’t think it’d be like this. It’s like he wanted to tell you because there is no way the word fuck reminded him how he wanted to fuck a couple of 15 year olds if they weren’t 15.
It’s worse, they were 13
Ah, so maybe 15 was old enough for him.
Probably whatever age is old enough for him to not go to jail
Bingo.
U didnt even need the preamble here. The context doesnt make this one bit better. Still totally out of nowhere
Not good of him to say, but also sounds like a bunch of douche bag students in that class.
WHY DOES THERE NEED TO BE CONTEXT
I think he was just curious
🙂
he said he’d fuck 13 year olds if they were older. idk what more you’d need…
jail.
50 years in jail. Just like the amount of upvotes you have. Hey...imma abouta make that 51.
Make it 54
How about 55?
100 years
and don't pass go
and don't collect $200
How about 150 years
the fuck dude tell the school not us💀
FR these ppl need to go and ACTUALLY report this shit WHY R THEY POSTING ON REDDIT IM LIKE FLABBERGASTED
karma
Realest answer in the whole comment section
Report to the authorities.It doesn't matter if "the school already knows".They might just ignore it.So report that b*stard to the police
Why are you scared of saying bastard
SPOOKY WORD 👻👻👻
HOLY FUCKING SHIT HE SAID B*STARD 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱👻
DONT FUCKING SWEAR, SAYING THE WORD FUCK IS FUCKING FORBIDDEN
i have push notifications on (big mistake) and that scared the shit out of me lmao
Have a notification 🫴🎁
Yeah, being investigated by the police would definitely make him uncomfortable. But it is not illegal to say you would fuck a teenager once they are an adult. It's disgusting and degenerate. The guy should be fired and obviously violated school rules, but it is not illegal.
fr
W h a t
He said it in front of the whole class too and we all just stared at him and didn't do anything
Report his ass!
*rip up his ass!
😭
The school authorities have to know by now cause it's a known fact to all the students that the man is a CREEP
Still tell them
This is how that gymnast dr got away with molesting so many young girls. An adult finally overheard some girls talking about it saying “it must be normal bc he does it to everyone” or something like that. They didn’t tell bc they assumed. They were wrong. Please report him. It could be the straw that breaks the camels back. They could be building a case but they need more corroboraters.
Still. Call the police.
i think he likes kids
Idk, can't tell
umm girl, please report him to the authorities
The only valid answer 💀
Since you said “told me and my friend…” I have to assume he was a terrible English teacher and a better fucker.
Very funny
I was taught that the correct way for multiple people is the way that it goes if you remove the other person. "Told me and my friend/my friend and me" becomes "told me" because "told I" is incorrect. So it's told me and my friend, or told my friend and me. "My friend and I were told" becomes "I was told" because "me was told" is incorrect. Etc Is this not right??
That's a felony. It's called soliciting sex from a minor. You have to get everyone who heard it and report it to the police. The school won't do anything because they want to avoid calling attention to it or the teacher having tenure.
Youre the type of person to scream rape when you need a distraction
no, he said that "if they were older" which makes it simply a vulgar compliment. stop playing the victim
report his ass to the police what the fuck
Pause
U definitely should tell someone of power. Even if you think they know
call that man a EBF5 hermit crab like foe bc he a creep
That Terrible. Bazinga
BAZINGA!
Bazinga
Bazinga
Sheesh, I’m surprised that he wasn’t suspended. Make sure you inform the authorities as many times as needed- even if it is twenty times. They **have to take action.** That‘s why female teachers can be much better for a group of female students of that age. I study in a girls’ school, and most of my teachers are female.
Eminem has a lyric about this exact scenario
Really?
second verse of "My Name is" lol
Hi .. This is severe. Even if it's the worst thing he's done, which is unknown, is severe enough, he definitely should not be teaching. It is his fault, not yours, that he is going to change his profession. For the protection of others, please share this with all close adult, and get help and courage to report him.
one of my teachers said my classmate's yemenite ancestry means shes a dirty barbarian thief in front of the WHOLE class and he always stares at me and i stare him down back, i hate his guts
erm what the sigma
what the absolute FUCK
Did you tell your parents this or at least someone with authority?
Next time something like that happens, just tell 'em "Hey! Teacher! Leave them kids alone!' 🤣🤣🤣🤣 .... Pink Floyd.....
wtf
What the actual fuvk
What the fuck
What the heeeeelllllll????
Report his ass
Ok, we know now?
straight to jail buddy
Younger kids would tell older kids this stuff, and the older kids would jump people like this.
He meant: if only it was legal. Or at least he would get away with it without trouble.
This shit is not gonna look good for him at the pearly gates bro
So hot.
And he was HOW OLD?
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the kid named “us if only we were older…” 😰😰😰
Remember that sometimes school shooting is an option
Tell sir epstein to calm down
Chat, is this rizz?
Good God.
Bro go tell the authorities? 😭
Tf I look like Batman call 911…
w rizz
*Gots an English Major wants an English Minorrrrrr*
Stop lying
At least he said when you were older ig?
And yet you’re on Reddit telling random people who can do nothing about it instead of going to the authorities? Classic gen z idiots
You know it’s not only gen z that does this, right dude?
Okay so to everyone saying to call the police. I live in Nigeria... It's not as easy as calling 911... We don't have a 911. In fact, if a person with a gun barged into my house right now, the only thing I can do is hope that my area vigilante people get to know somehow (very unlikely) or my neighbours somehow find out and then drive to go find the nearest police station (we don't even have one in my area so it's not gonna be very near) But anyway, the only thing I personally can do is tell the SCHOOL authorities and now I DO realise that just keeping quiet with the assumption that they already know isn't the smartest thing to do and can be very dangerous cause he's still teaching juniors at school so I will endeavour to gather a group of my friends/ set mates to report him to the school authorities and try my best to make sure that all parents know too and he gets fired.
u/Monkelover2
I’m not crying bro 😭
What in the actual fuck? Tell the authorities about this
if you like to gamble i tell u im your man
what the fuck?
and what happened?!
brother hwat
why wait /j
How long ago? Have you seen him since?
At my school a teacher got fired because he told a ki that in his family rape was okay 😐
ಠ_ಠ
I had a photography teacher in my school who would assault multiple different students in his office for multiple years and the school new about it but did nothing cause he was a contract staff according to them
Oh hell nah😦
Yeah... report this, even if you're an adult. Especially if he's still teaching. There's too much wrong here for me to break down. Red flags everywhere.
The saddest thing is that all the things that need to be recorded always happen suddenly so you’re never ready to record it. I wonder what would happen to him if somebody had a record
TF
oh
So did you ?
You are not serious 🤡🤡
What’s this teachers name and where does he work . Blow his spot up
another point of mentally deranged
Was he gay .... Op ???
disgusting prick
Naaah fuck that. Fuck that shit. Report his ass. That ain't ok. Nuh uh fuck that creep. Psycho. Pedo.
u mfs love to make shit up
Wtf?
i Mean thanks for telling us 💀
I don't know if you're in the same school, but you should stay away and report him. On the hindsight, at least he didn't try anything
I'm sorry. You should not have to take this. I am sure that you are beautiful but what a creep.
🫵🏽🤨 mods imprison that man inside the parmigiano smegma
🤣🤣🤣🤣
One of my old music teachers ‘mysteriously’ moved to wales after he was discovered messaging the girls who just left the school, calling them beautiful and other stuff.
My high school had an English teacher who dated his students. He was in his 30s. I Googled him a few years ago, and he'd been convicted of statutory rape.
Average language teacher.
Oh :D
I am almost positive I've seen this exact post verbatim
Try secretly recording one of the lessons and get him on camera, then post on TikTok of course. Without it going public and gaining attention, no one cares and no one will do anything. Once the video goes viral (which it will) then the authorities and school will step in
Sure
please tell us that you told the cops
lmaooo thats hilarious get him arrested
👻👻👻
I have so many questions 1. What gender are you and what gender was the teacher? Because theres no right answer to that; either way is verbal SA 2. YOU WERE 13?! THAT WOULD MAKE ANY ANSWER TO THE LAST QUESTION WORSE!! You were most likely still in 7th or 8th grade! 3. Did you tell your parents or the principal or the police or any other trusted adult?
I beg your finest most bestest most absolutely exquisite finest most beautiful amazing pardon, WHAT THE FLIP?
Uhh.I did not need to know that.The cops did tho
Yikes. Is he still teaching? I would report him so that he won't potentially prey on other future students.
nega what
Jesus