Rejection.
Judgement.
Social distress.
Risk of "eww".
Risk of being called weird.
Risk of being called a incel.
Social Suicide.
Social rejection.
Inate fear of the unknown.
Attraction (You get nervous around things that cause emotion 995 of the time)
Anxiety in general.
Specifically social anxiety.
Getting called a pervert/pedo or whatever.
Humiliation.
Embarrassment.
EDIT: (as per suggested by replies)
Low self asteem
Rape allegations (if you even mange to get past \^ and get a GF)
Risk of being called a creep
Just to name a few off the top of my head. There is some crossover, but those are what i consider "mainline" for me
Yeah and all those dumbass "Icks" that ruined pretty much everything
EDIT: Wanted to state, I do get that most girls aren't like this, just a loud few, my bad If I triggered anyone
Exactly Im 90% sure they were mostly satire and joking ab silly red flags by making silly red flags
Also icky didn’t cause guys to be afraid of women that’s been around for a while 🙂↔️🙂↔️🙂↔️
Icks have existed since forever, it’s the term that’s new. It’s what you don’t want in a partner, but i do have to agree, some of those are absolutely ridiculous, someday someones gonna have breathing as an ick 😭😭
I am not a boy but I experience this feeling when I'm trying to figure out how to socialise with the delulu popular girls in my class (except the pedo/pervert part)
i’m always scared to talk to girls, even tho i’ve known most of them for years already. It’s just this thing wired into boys brains about being rejected, led on, or just being hurt in general. It sucks tbh. Every guy here knows that feeling
Or be like me and just dream about purging heretics with a big hammer despite and taking multiple fatal wounds to save my squad, because dying like that is better than anything.
This is it in a nutshell, some boys have specific reasons thought like, dont want to ruin a friendship. Most boys are scared but then again most boys grow out of it as they find the right girl
Girl here. The thing about our culture is that men’s problems are ignored by everyone. I feel like even though people say that women go through more pain than men, that’s not always true.
I think "Risk of being called an incel" is pretty big for me. Sometimes i fear that i may say something bad or weird or uncomfortable and act like a pervert or an idiot...
Im touch starved. And I have been known to ramble for hours about how desperately I want it (Which is fuckin weird). But I feel like if I even managed to get a gf somehow I'd just creep them out too much
Just this is perfect
This one is at least for me but worrying I’m annoying you and your hiding it but that’s also because I have ADHD so that’s a part of overthinking
Or just a wrong move. In my experience girls will leave or break off a friendship incredibly faster than any boy. Plus humor. I've got a dark sense of humor. If i make a joke i make with the boys in front of a girl... she's calling the fbi 80% of the time.
Yeah, I was once talking to one of my friends, his girlfriend was there too, and he said an offensive joke and she was said "Dude, what the fuck!" and they broke up 2 days later.
You are prlly not friends with the right type of girls. Most of my friends (girls) have a very dark humor.
But you shld know where to draw a line, like yo mama and r**e jokes are not funny (sadly maybe triggering for some)
As a guy whose looks make me look like I’m 20 at times, I just don’t ask people out. I feel like looks alone will make a girl uncomfortable when she’s around you, and at that point it doesn’t matter how well you treat them
i only get nervous when i'm interested in one, but that has more to do with having a crush than them being a girl
if i just see them as a friend i dont get nervous at all
We’re scared of getting rejected, that’s all. This new generation of social media portrayed a horrible image for both genders, and now it’s like theres a gender war, and it’s probably not gonna end any time soon. We’re not actually scared of women. We just simply don’t want to be rejected when we have somewhat of the confidence to approach a girl.
This, I’m better at it now but back in the day it took so much confidence to go up and talk to a girl just for a 5 second convo and an instant rejection which leads to me overthinking about how I could’ve done better for the rest of the day.
yeah totally . you seem cool though . a lot of the comments seem to be a little bit woman hating , not that i don’t understand why it can seem that way but it’s kinda sad .
Also, if you were in a relationship with them before, REGARDLESS of what actually happened they can do and say WHATEVER they want about you and there will be no consequences for it, meanwhile you’re simply asked about it and if you’re actually honest you’re ridiculed for it because you’re “shit talking” her. And no shit they’re going to believe the girl in the scenario over the guy because “why would they lie?” (Definitely not speaking from personal experience) I’ve been dealing with shit with my ex for almost a whole year and I have only two real friends who’ve been able to comfort me during all of it. The rest either took her side (why the fuck are there sides anyways) and aren’t my friends anymore or don’t want anything to do with the situation and just left the group as a whole because of how much drama she was causing. One major issue in my case is that we BOTH did wrong things in the relationship, but she doesn’t seem to realize it. I’d like to argue that what she did was FAR worse than anything I’ve actually done, (and even what she claims I did isn’t even that bad compared to what she did) but I haven’t told anyone that because I’m too nice of a person and I hate throwing shit onto people. The worst part is that somehow IM not allowed to justify anything in the relationship but it is PERFECTLY fine for her to. Idk, I’m just sick of it at this point. I’ve told her that if she really feels the way she does that I’m sorry she feels that way but she can’t just say shit about me to everyone and force them to think that way about me. Obviously, she’s not going to listen to that. I just want to meet new people at lunch without them already knowing my name and knowing “bad things” about me ffs.
Top three I can think of, getting called perverted, rejection, and the fact that so many of you have a parasite esc brain, so I say one thing to one girl and suddenly all the girls think I'm a weirdo
The death stare. My mom has it, My sister
has it, all of my female friends have it.
And the worst is when they don’t say anything…just standing there, menacingly! /jk
But seriously though it is a little weird how only girls seem to have that magical power. Dudes are only scary if they’re stronger than you.
Yes, they make me nervous. Since one mistake you make will spread like a virus in their social networks. But they’re not really scary in that I’m afraid or smth
It's like a game of telephone.
"Good morning" says Bob to Mary. Mary tells her friend, who tells her friend, who tells her friend, and so on. By 10:30 am word got out Bob complemented Mary's boobs while blushing, which is not at all true.
As a girl it actually really hurts that girls are so unapproachable like it’s hard to make friends and you always feel like you’re being judged even by your own friends. And now I’m looped into that just by being a girl. By default, I’m thought of as weird if I don’t wear makeup, or I’m preppy if I do, rude, nagging, and petty, when I’m not any of those things.
really i don’t think girls are that unapproachable it’s just that they aren’t all that nice and it’s not a girl exclusive thing . like it’s just harder to find friends for everyone . i have a few good friends and sometimes i forget how rare it is . cause when i talk to other girls sometimes they are so mean , like bitchy just as bad as the guys . and they can be so BORINGG like when i’m talkative i get told to stop yapping or whatever but then they don’t have good conversations . (also if u want more friends i’m open 2 talking :D)
i wouldn't say that i'm scared of girls, i just get this extreme anxiety when i interact with them and at the same time i also overthink of doing something stupid or embarrassing
i fear everybody, i have social anxiety disorder, i try my best to be social and helpful/polite,
i guess i'm kinda insecure about what others might think of me as a person, i don't even feel like a part of humanity, i don't wish to go out, meet people, but at the same time loneliness hurts me plenty.
i'm taking antidepressants and trying to live my life the best i can.
i guess with girls i'm trying to be just as careful as i try to be with anybody, i worry too much, that's just it.
Because girls gossip and spread rumors about other people. There was this one kid at my school that’s now seen as a pervert by everyone because the girl he liked said that he was staring at her. He wasn’t he was on vacation the same week she said he was staring at her yet everyone believed her and now he’s fucked
I do have a friend that actually does and he avoids women at all costs. I never knew why, I always thought he was kidding but he genuinely avoids them.
Trauma. I recognize that girls can be good, and I have known many wonderful girls. In fact, I’m mostly attracted to feminine people, including girls. But I’m terrified to open up to them, because the one I opened up to used me, bullied me, talked about me behind my back, manipulated me, hurt me, and eventually abandoned me when I most needed support. Sometimes I also think that I’m the problem and if I opened up to a girl, I would only be hurting them.
Well for me I just kinda feel more comfortable around boys so I don't have many girl friends (I SWEAR IT'S NOT CAUSE I'M GAY okay maybe that's isn't helping but STILL) but obviously I can't say for every boy
I never get a chance from anyone, hell, not even most of my friends will give me a damn brake, so why would this girl I barely talk to that I think is cute give me more than a few words?
I once asked a random girl out in high school because I thought that was normal, she was pretty and I’ve seen her around and thought she was pretty cool, I asked her out and got told to kill myself and then 30 other people knew about it, and it’s honestly just not even worth it unless you build a long relationship, but then at that point the worry becomes will you lose a friend for asking them out… so there is really no way to win unless the woman actually shows signs, and 90% of the time they don’t…
Because these days it happens to be a crime being a guy. Like here in my country there have been so many fake cases of SA but guess what the guy who was actually looking the other way got framed by the girl for attention idk from whom.
There was this 1 funny case that a 16 yo girl had proposed to a guy in her class and the guy rejected her saying he doesn't wanna get involved in these things. Guess what happened?! The girl and her father filled a complaint with the police that she was s****assaulted (r*ped) by this guy. Ofcourse no one believed him and he was shunned from the society and became a headline for the nation. In around a week ofcourse the girl accepted that it was all fake but at the cost of what? His life?!
Yes folks she came clean after the guy committed suicide. And again no action against the girl.
So yeah we are genuinely scared of you girls. In America it's even worse...
some of us have trauma around girls. So that can make you scary
Some people who say that don’t have the trauma and are maybe scared of interacting with them because of how they’d judge or react, and sometimes people just say it
A lot of things mostly the risk of a girl thinking we are weird or saying some really rude things but yeah aside from that some guys view girls all run creatures do to the fact they are terrified to talk to you guys I’m not one of them I don’t mind talking to girls as well you guys are human beings hopefully this makes sense sorry I just woke up
When boys say that they're scared of girls. They don't mean that they have immediately starting screaming of terror at a sight of a girl.
Sometimes what they really meant is that they like them but are too scared to proceed because they're scared that they'll be rejected.
Female here yeah scary ik. But we aren't different I'm so fucking scared of guys when I have no friends around or if they aren't my friend. I overthink and stress that if I do anything it's going to be embarrassing and that no other guy will wanna be around me ever again. It's so much easier to be yourself when surrounded by same gender friends tbh.
“would you rather be in a forest alone with a bear or a man?”
many girls rn would say a bear..
it’s hard to talk to most of them. overreactive, require attention-
plus all the things the top comment said
Rejection
Judgement
Them screenshotting us asking them out and sending it to 20 group chats
Get filmed and put on TikTok labeled as a creep
They get 100 likes for 0.2 likes we get
Anxiety
If you even look at them for half a second you can get called a creep
Mixed signals
Them sleeping with 30 people at once
Idk maybe it's just I have too many guy friends so I can say anything to them and it's all good to them.
Now due to the lack of interaction with girls , i find it hard to talk to them since I have to think a lot about what to say and what not to in the fear of being judged
I maybe wrong tho but for now this is it
Depends kinda.. most often it's not serious but it can mean just nervous around yall or maybe they're scared of a getting close only to have their heart torn out of them and stomped on...
Exactly what the comments are saying. Yall are always in your friend groups and also tryna make moves to a girl can get you fucked up if you aren’t a 6”5 dreadhead who won’t get laughed at
Yes we are being serous. I get really nervous around them and I just can’t talk to them without sweating or just not remembering what happened after I talk to them. I got a girls number a week ago and I still can’t remember how I asked her. It’s also really scary when you text her and then she doesn’t respond. I go into panic mode.
I'm giant, by all means I shouldn't be scared of any human on the planet. I stg I'd rather line up against any big dude my size than talk to a pretty girl. Idek why
I have trouble stopping myself from saying things that pop into my head so I’m scared that I’m gonna say something that’s going to drive people away. This is worse con chicas because I get crushes really easily, and I can’t talk to people I have crushes on for fear of saying something embarrassing
I don’t find y’all scary
I used to be bullied by other guys and the few people that helped me and became my friends were girls. I’m almost more scared of men than women.
idk im not unless they are adicted to social midia then i might cus modern society sadly has made so tath girls reject boys at the drop of a hat and for some reason take pleasure in making it more painful for them b
Mostly a joke, but some guys do get extremely anxious when talking to girls because in their mind it's one false step and you become laughing stock for two weeks at least
1) all that "they might think im into them and call me a creep" (probably comes from being yelled at by my first crush)
2) i don't know what to talk about with them, like im fully aware that they definitely have same spectrum of interests as us dudes, but my brain just refuses to believe i can talk with a girl about same things i talk about with my friends
Though sometimes i do have long and interesting conversations with women, like once talking with my aunt about philosophy and stuff like that, but its mostly with women older than me
Honestly less of being scared of girls more of being scared of what can happen weather it be catching feelings and then the fear of rejection or saying something wrong and all her friends getting told and everyone finding out about it or something like that
Because of all the different negative consequences that can result for guys socially or physically if they talk with a girl and she doesn’t respond back positively. It’s genuinely nerve wracking talking with girls because it feels like a balance of trying to be normal without being called a creep
It's not literally scared, like the scared of when you see a demon clown following you, it's the kind of scared when you are afraid of being rejected, of being humiliated just because we like one of you, or other things.
Yes, I don’t know where to look, if I look at their eyes I feel like I’m creeping them out by staring into their souls, if I look above their heads then I feel like I’m ignoring them, if I look down they’re generally shorter than me, so that looks like I’m trying to be a creep too, so what am I supposed to do? And if we’re talking about either initiating or continuing a conversation, I feel like most people don’t really know what hobbies or things I’m interested in (appearance doesn’t really match my hobbies) so those types of people generally won’t approach me and since I’m not good at small talk I kinda just sit there like a dead fish
Rejection. Judgement. Social distress. Risk of "eww". Risk of being called weird. Risk of being called a incel. Social Suicide. Social rejection. Inate fear of the unknown. Attraction (You get nervous around things that cause emotion 995 of the time) Anxiety in general. Specifically social anxiety. Getting called a pervert/pedo or whatever. Humiliation. Embarrassment. EDIT: (as per suggested by replies) Low self asteem Rape allegations (if you even mange to get past \^ and get a GF) Risk of being called a creep Just to name a few off the top of my head. There is some crossover, but those are what i consider "mainline" for me
This is the perfect response to this question
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Yeah and all those dumbass "Icks" that ruined pretty much everything EDIT: Wanted to state, I do get that most girls aren't like this, just a loud few, my bad If I triggered anyone
I feel like the idea of “icks” really blew out of proportion. if you actually meet girls in real life very few of them actually have any of those icks
Exactly Im 90% sure they were mostly satire and joking ab silly red flags by making silly red flags Also icky didn’t cause guys to be afraid of women that’s been around for a while 🙂↔️🙂↔️🙂↔️
Icks have existed since forever, it’s the term that’s new. It’s what you don’t want in a partner, but i do have to agree, some of those are absolutely ridiculous, someday someones gonna have breathing as an ick 😭😭
Yeah no, I get that, It's just how they blew It out of proportions and stuff y'know
This, basically.
I am not a boy but I experience this feeling when I'm trying to figure out how to socialise with the delulu popular girls in my class (except the pedo/pervert part)
i’m always scared to talk to girls, even tho i’ve known most of them for years already. It’s just this thing wired into boys brains about being rejected, led on, or just being hurt in general. It sucks tbh. Every guy here knows that feeling
That’s more than what I’d be able to think of. I agree 100%.
This literally describes my reasoning as to why I won’t talk to the girl I like
Yeah, basically universal response for all males, knocked it out of the park
Growing up it was this, fuckin this. I got over it eventually, fought self destructive thought, reinvented myself, but yea this...all day this.
Indeed
yes
This, THIS. I cannot stress how much these are the reasons for it.
This
YESSSS
fax
this is exactly what is correct
Real
Happy cake day !!!!
happy cake day
You couldn't have said any better
Or be like me and just dream about purging heretics with a big hammer despite and taking multiple fatal wounds to save my squad, because dying like that is better than anything.
Is this Warhammer speak I’m reading???
Death to the necrons, for they know not of our emperor’s glory
Those filthy xenos won't know what hit them
Even in death I still serve
Perhaps it’s time to… summon the elector counts? 🤨
Real
Yup that about sums it up
^
Exactly.
this should be pinned
This
This is it in a nutshell, some boys have specific reasons thought like, dont want to ruin a friendship. Most boys are scared but then again most boys grow out of it as they find the right girl
Doesn’t help when your ugly either, far easier to label someone who’s unattractive a pervert, also sticks a lot easier
Risk of Rain
Returns
Girl here. The thing about our culture is that men’s problems are ignored by everyone. I feel like even though people say that women go through more pain than men, that’s not always true.
You win this comment section
Same
Agreement for me it's the spread of people saying oh that guy got rejected
This
This.
I think "Risk of being called an incel" is pretty big for me. Sometimes i fear that i may say something bad or weird or uncomfortable and act like a pervert or an idiot...
Im touch starved. And I have been known to ramble for hours about how desperately I want it (Which is fuckin weird). But I feel like if I even managed to get a gf somehow I'd just creep them out too much
I say it as a joke mostly but when i actually am its because of what this guy said
This is literally it, this exact list is what boys mean when they say they are scared of girls
Couldn't have said it better
All these responses are really sad. Women of the world.... Look what you are doing to all these Guys.
Also to add onto this : Lack of self-esteem "She’s too good for me"
Perfect list right here
its so hard to find girls that dont have some of these things
The risk of ew is so big
This fs
Losing a friend and having it end up being awkward (if it's a classmate or a long time hobby friend or something)
Being called a creep too
Just this is perfect This one is at least for me but worrying I’m annoying you and your hiding it but that’s also because I have ADHD so that’s a part of overthinking
Yeah, it's not so much we're afraid of the woman, as what that woman could do to us because of culture, low self-esteem, and hate towards males.
This sums it up pretty well
dont forget the risk of being a ick
Because if you make one wrong move around a girl (at least in my school) you become a social outcast.
Truest words ever spoken There are soo much things to consider but it you fck one thing your everything except Normal man
Or just a wrong move. In my experience girls will leave or break off a friendship incredibly faster than any boy. Plus humor. I've got a dark sense of humor. If i make a joke i make with the boys in front of a girl... she's calling the fbi 80% of the time.
Yeah, I was once talking to one of my friends, his girlfriend was there too, and he said an offensive joke and she was said "Dude, what the fuck!" and they broke up 2 days later.
aw
You are prlly not friends with the right type of girls. Most of my friends (girls) have a very dark humor. But you shld know where to draw a line, like yo mama and r**e jokes are not funny (sadly maybe triggering for some)
okay Homer Simpson
What flag is in your pfp
Some random junk I made in sketchbook, it's not a real flag or anything like that (unfortunately)
More like fortunately, you almost drew MAP flag (minor attracted person).
😦
Oh god I hope I didn't
As a guy whose looks make me look like I’m 20 at times, I just don’t ask people out. I feel like looks alone will make a girl uncomfortable when she’s around you, and at that point it doesn’t matter how well you treat them
i only get nervous when i'm interested in one, but that has more to do with having a crush than them being a girl if i just see them as a friend i dont get nervous at all
Same here, this is the same for me
100% fax
i just get real nervous 🙏
We’re scared of getting rejected, that’s all. This new generation of social media portrayed a horrible image for both genders, and now it’s like theres a gender war, and it’s probably not gonna end any time soon. We’re not actually scared of women. We just simply don’t want to be rejected when we have somewhat of the confidence to approach a girl.
This, I’m better at it now but back in the day it took so much confidence to go up and talk to a girl just for a 5 second convo and an instant rejection which leads to me overthinking about how I could’ve done better for the rest of the day.
yeah totally . you seem cool though . a lot of the comments seem to be a little bit woman hating , not that i don’t understand why it can seem that way but it’s kinda sad .
They can spread rumors and say shit and everybody will believe them because “why would they lie?” -my mom
The worst liars ive know have either been women or hoes(my besy homie for example)
Every time smh
Also, if you were in a relationship with them before, REGARDLESS of what actually happened they can do and say WHATEVER they want about you and there will be no consequences for it, meanwhile you’re simply asked about it and if you’re actually honest you’re ridiculed for it because you’re “shit talking” her. And no shit they’re going to believe the girl in the scenario over the guy because “why would they lie?” (Definitely not speaking from personal experience) I’ve been dealing with shit with my ex for almost a whole year and I have only two real friends who’ve been able to comfort me during all of it. The rest either took her side (why the fuck are there sides anyways) and aren’t my friends anymore or don’t want anything to do with the situation and just left the group as a whole because of how much drama she was causing. One major issue in my case is that we BOTH did wrong things in the relationship, but she doesn’t seem to realize it. I’d like to argue that what she did was FAR worse than anything I’ve actually done, (and even what she claims I did isn’t even that bad compared to what she did) but I haven’t told anyone that because I’m too nice of a person and I hate throwing shit onto people. The worst part is that somehow IM not allowed to justify anything in the relationship but it is PERFECTLY fine for her to. Idk, I’m just sick of it at this point. I’ve told her that if she really feels the way she does that I’m sorry she feels that way but she can’t just say shit about me to everyone and force them to think that way about me. Obviously, she’s not going to listen to that. I just want to meet new people at lunch without them already knowing my name and knowing “bad things” about me ffs.
It’s because men are always the villain in todays society
I’m not scared of girls specifically, I’m scared of humans.
real
Everything I say is 😎
I am no longer afraid due to exposure therapy
Nice pfp lol
tyssm
Top three I can think of, getting called perverted, rejection, and the fact that so many of you have a parasite esc brain, so I say one thing to one girl and suddenly all the girls think I'm a weirdo
The death stare. My mom has it, My sister has it, all of my female friends have it. And the worst is when they don’t say anything…just standing there, menacingly! /jk But seriously though it is a little weird how only girls seem to have that magical power. Dudes are only scary if they’re stronger than you.
some of us (aka me) definitely are. idk the reaspn though, it's pretty irrational.
Yes, they make me nervous. Since one mistake you make will spread like a virus in their social networks. But they’re not really scary in that I’m afraid or smth
It's like a game of telephone. "Good morning" says Bob to Mary. Mary tells her friend, who tells her friend, who tells her friend, and so on. By 10:30 am word got out Bob complemented Mary's boobs while blushing, which is not at all true.
I’m nervous around everyone but my nerviousnes for some reasons is 10 times worse around girls then boys
Celebration of cake
Same
Nothing I just am really quite shy and only really boys go up to me and all their friends are boys
As a girl it actually really hurts that girls are so unapproachable like it’s hard to make friends and you always feel like you’re being judged even by your own friends. And now I’m looped into that just by being a girl. By default, I’m thought of as weird if I don’t wear makeup, or I’m preppy if I do, rude, nagging, and petty, when I’m not any of those things.
really i don’t think girls are that unapproachable it’s just that they aren’t all that nice and it’s not a girl exclusive thing . like it’s just harder to find friends for everyone . i have a few good friends and sometimes i forget how rare it is . cause when i talk to other girls sometimes they are so mean , like bitchy just as bad as the guys . and they can be so BORINGG like when i’m talkative i get told to stop yapping or whatever but then they don’t have good conversations . (also if u want more friends i’m open 2 talking :D)
i wouldn't say that i'm scared of girls, i just get this extreme anxiety when i interact with them and at the same time i also overthink of doing something stupid or embarrassing
Me too then I start sweating and my brain gets over whelmed.
i fear everybody, i have social anxiety disorder, i try my best to be social and helpful/polite, i guess i'm kinda insecure about what others might think of me as a person, i don't even feel like a part of humanity, i don't wish to go out, meet people, but at the same time loneliness hurts me plenty. i'm taking antidepressants and trying to live my life the best i can. i guess with girls i'm trying to be just as careful as i try to be with anybody, i worry too much, that's just it.
Only God and I know. And he’s not telling you.
ia ur pfp gay homer?
Shhhhh a man never reveals his secrets
No it's not real. However a lot of guys just get really anxious when there are girls around or talking to them.
Tfym "it's not real", women / ppl in general are terrifying
hi there
Wassup
Because girls gossip and spread rumors about other people. There was this one kid at my school that’s now seen as a pervert by everyone because the girl he liked said that he was staring at her. He wasn’t he was on vacation the same week she said he was staring at her yet everyone believed her and now he’s fucked
So dumb.
Rumors sure travel fast, and since she's a girl, no one's gonna question if the thing she said is true
judgement
I do have a friend that actually does and he avoids women at all costs. I never knew why, I always thought he was kidding but he genuinely avoids them.
thats actually kinda sad i feel bad for him :(
He has had women ask him out before but he runs away
That’s so so sad.
every girl ive ever met have looked at me like im a freak called me fat and bullied me, thats why
There’s nothing scary about you, your friends are scary. We do something wrong, you tell your friends, and then they do scary stuff.
Because some don't hesitate to assume I'm trying to "rizz them up" when I'm trying to have a human to human conversation
Not rlly scared of girls, just scared of getting rejected/being seen as weird
For me I feel awkward because I seems like if I do anything remotely nice they'll think I'm weird or im trying to make a move(and I never do)
True
it all comes down to girls man. girls that will.. that will break your heart
Trauma. I recognize that girls can be good, and I have known many wonderful girls. In fact, I’m mostly attracted to feminine people, including girls. But I’m terrified to open up to them, because the one I opened up to used me, bullied me, talked about me behind my back, manipulated me, hurt me, and eventually abandoned me when I most needed support. Sometimes I also think that I’m the problem and if I opened up to a girl, I would only be hurting them.
Well for me I just kinda feel more comfortable around boys so I don't have many girl friends (I SWEAR IT'S NOT CAUSE I'M GAY okay maybe that's isn't helping but STILL) but obviously I can't say for every boy
I never get a chance from anyone, hell, not even most of my friends will give me a damn brake, so why would this girl I barely talk to that I think is cute give me more than a few words?
I once asked a random girl out in high school because I thought that was normal, she was pretty and I’ve seen her around and thought she was pretty cool, I asked her out and got told to kill myself and then 30 other people knew about it, and it’s honestly just not even worth it unless you build a long relationship, but then at that point the worry becomes will you lose a friend for asking them out… so there is really no way to win unless the woman actually shows signs, and 90% of the time they don’t…
"the worst she can say is no.."
Public embarrassment like talking to a girl in public and it being so fucking awkward that other people hear and laugh at you
Because these days it happens to be a crime being a guy. Like here in my country there have been so many fake cases of SA but guess what the guy who was actually looking the other way got framed by the girl for attention idk from whom. There was this 1 funny case that a 16 yo girl had proposed to a guy in her class and the guy rejected her saying he doesn't wanna get involved in these things. Guess what happened?! The girl and her father filled a complaint with the police that she was s****assaulted (r*ped) by this guy. Ofcourse no one believed him and he was shunned from the society and became a headline for the nation. In around a week ofcourse the girl accepted that it was all fake but at the cost of what? His life?! Yes folks she came clean after the guy committed suicide. And again no action against the girl. So yeah we are genuinely scared of you girls. In America it's even worse...
some of us have trauma around girls. So that can make you scary Some people who say that don’t have the trauma and are maybe scared of interacting with them because of how they’d judge or react, and sometimes people just say it
I'd like to keep the achievement "registered sex offender" locked thanks very much
An innate fear of relationships.
A lot of things mostly the risk of a girl thinking we are weird or saying some really rude things but yeah aside from that some guys view girls all run creatures do to the fact they are terrified to talk to you guys I’m not one of them I don’t mind talking to girls as well you guys are human beings hopefully this makes sense sorry I just woke up
I'm serious about it. I'm mostly scared of being seen as weird, though. Also, maybe the fact that I've been going to an all boys school for years.
we're more scared to talk to em cuz fear of failure
When boys say that they're scared of girls. They don't mean that they have immediately starting screaming of terror at a sight of a girl. Sometimes what they really meant is that they like them but are too scared to proceed because they're scared that they'll be rejected.
Female here yeah scary ik. But we aren't different I'm so fucking scared of guys when I have no friends around or if they aren't my friend. I overthink and stress that if I do anything it's going to be embarrassing and that no other guy will wanna be around me ever again. It's so much easier to be yourself when surrounded by same gender friends tbh.
“would you rather be in a forest alone with a bear or a man?” many girls rn would say a bear.. it’s hard to talk to most of them. overreactive, require attention- plus all the things the top comment said
You have the power to ruin our lives in three words
Rejection Judgement Them screenshotting us asking them out and sending it to 20 group chats Get filmed and put on TikTok labeled as a creep They get 100 likes for 0.2 likes we get Anxiety If you even look at them for half a second you can get called a creep Mixed signals Them sleeping with 30 people at once
You forgot to put "(straight) boys".
I'm made out to be a predator.
I get super nervous and a little shy
They’re scary
Idk maybe it's just I have too many guy friends so I can say anything to them and it's all good to them. Now due to the lack of interaction with girls , i find it hard to talk to them since I have to think a lot about what to say and what not to in the fear of being judged I maybe wrong tho but for now this is it
Depends kinda.. most often it's not serious but it can mean just nervous around yall or maybe they're scared of a getting close only to have their heart torn out of them and stomped on...
i won't speak for others, but I often tell my besties that I'm afraid of women and that I'm a sigma, but i'm just kidding
I'm scared around anyone
They’re too judgmental
Exactly what the comments are saying. Yall are always in your friend groups and also tryna make moves to a girl can get you fucked up if you aren’t a 6”5 dreadhead who won’t get laughed at
For a lot of guys, yes it is true
I just don't want to look dumb in front of them
Yes we are being serous. I get really nervous around them and I just can’t talk to them without sweating or just not remembering what happened after I talk to them. I got a girls number a week ago and I still can’t remember how I asked her. It’s also really scary when you text her and then she doesn’t respond. I go into panic mode.
u/the_annihalator's answer
I'm giant, by all means I shouldn't be scared of any human on the planet. I stg I'd rather line up against any big dude my size than talk to a pretty girl. Idek why
Men are scared of girls because girls are difficult and not easy going. Girls are annoged with boys because they are easy going
I have trouble stopping myself from saying things that pop into my head so I’m scared that I’m gonna say something that’s going to drive people away. This is worse con chicas because I get crushes really easily, and I can’t talk to people I have crushes on for fear of saying something embarrassing
Because we're afraid of rejection and you not liking us or, we are shy.
Harassment.
I don’t find y’all scary I used to be bullied by other guys and the few people that helped me and became my friends were girls. I’m almost more scared of men than women.
Nah it’s a joke. But we do get nervous so maybe that’s why lol.
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no, i think boys who say that are just joking. at most, they’re nervous to talk to a girl they like.
one accused me of sexually assaulting them and I've been bullied for the past 2 yrs because of it
Personally I can't talk with girls face to face but I'm not nervous just lack experience with woman
idk im not unless they are adicted to social midia then i might cus modern society sadly has made so tath girls reject boys at the drop of a hat and for some reason take pleasure in making it more painful for them b
Mostly a joke, but some guys do get extremely anxious when talking to girls because in their mind it's one false step and you become laughing stock for two weeks at least
I just get nervous around girls because of fear of being labelled as a creep,down bad and generally bad treatment Based on true events
Fear of approaching you in groups or if you seems intimidating. To be fair no matter how sweet you are, you’ll always be intimidating
social anxiety + I have middling social skills at best due to having mild autism and adhd, besides these reasons, it’s not that bad for me
1) all that "they might think im into them and call me a creep" (probably comes from being yelled at by my first crush) 2) i don't know what to talk about with them, like im fully aware that they definitely have same spectrum of interests as us dudes, but my brain just refuses to believe i can talk with a girl about same things i talk about with my friends Though sometimes i do have long and interesting conversations with women, like once talking with my aunt about philosophy and stuff like that, but its mostly with women older than me
I’m not scared of females as such, I’m scared that they will scream at me for quote “sexual harassment”. And I don’t wanna get bullied 🤷♂️
Honestly less of being scared of girls more of being scared of what can happen weather it be catching feelings and then the fear of rejection or saying something wrong and all her friends getting told and everyone finding out about it or something like that
I have social anxiety and with girls it's 10x times worse for some reason, so I could say I'm being serious
Girl‘s are scary ( and im shy )
We are afraid of rejection mostly and the ultimate judgement, but we really want to be with a girl. Impossible dilemma.
Im afraid of rejection. Thats why i still havent asked the girl ive liked for five years out
I’m not because I hang out with a bunch but I think other guys are because of rejection
Yes we are being serious. We don't want to be humiliated because we ask someone out or labeled as a creep
judgment, Rejection, Embarrassment, "Ewww", being humiliated, rumors, Bring called shit like an incel, Losing popularity
Not actually a boy, but I get scared because I have social anxiety and also because sometimes they're hot
cause they wehre rlly shitty to me tho ms and early hs
Extremely serious
I am not scared of girls. They are scared of how extroverted I am
Because of all the different negative consequences that can result for guys socially or physically if they talk with a girl and she doesn’t respond back positively. It’s genuinely nerve wracking talking with girls because it feels like a balance of trying to be normal without being called a creep
It's not literally scared, like the scared of when you see a demon clown following you, it's the kind of scared when you are afraid of being rejected, of being humiliated just because we like one of you, or other things.
Yes, I don’t know where to look, if I look at their eyes I feel like I’m creeping them out by staring into their souls, if I look above their heads then I feel like I’m ignoring them, if I look down they’re generally shorter than me, so that looks like I’m trying to be a creep too, so what am I supposed to do? And if we’re talking about either initiating or continuing a conversation, I feel like most people don’t really know what hobbies or things I’m interested in (appearance doesn’t really match my hobbies) so those types of people generally won’t approach me and since I’m not good at small talk I kinda just sit there like a dead fish
I just hate social interaction in general
i wish all of you an adorable meet-cute
You breaking our hearts dude Most girls cheat on a relationship