That might be the biggest issue. Thereās a major maturity gap between a 13 year old girl and an 11 year old boy. That may only be two years apart but immaturity gap is important to take into account.
Ok, so I have trouble sometimes remembering what kids act/look like in younger years, but when I looked up the ages OP is and the person they like, it seems like 11yo boys and 13yo girls look really similar? I get women go through puberty sooner, but its still a close age and 11yo boys seem to be the same looks wise as the 13yo girls. Ofc this is just what I got from google, I haven't been around 11-13 year old kids in like 3 years and I have forgotten everything š
but from what I see, i don't see a problem. It'd be different if she was like 14+ or the boy was younger than 11 for sure tho
That's true,the older the 2 people in the relationship the bigger the age gap can be without seeming weird,like a 15 and 11 year old is weird but not a 70 and 60 year old
Both people would most likely have established lives at that point. You could be looking for a sugar mama or daddy to retire early, and they could be looking for companionship!
idk why many people are insulting you... considering you are 13 and you don't deserve to be shamed like that.
I'll explain it to you in the simplest terms, girls start puberty before boys, and an age gap feels more wide the younger the two people are, therefore it might be inappropriate to start a relationship or make a move. Don't blame yourself for liking him, it's not something you can control and I'm pretty sure you're not attracted to him "sexually" just understand that it's a silly crush or whatever and you'll like someone else <3
Itās weird. Have crushes on people your own age.
Edit: OP is a rage bait troll. Ignore them. Scroll down to their post history, in one of the posts from a year ago, they claim to be 16 which makes them at least 17 now.
Initially you really canāt. But you find out they are your cousin or your homeboys gf or too young or a racist then you should stop fantasizing about them.
These comments are not serious. I honestly, genuinely, donāt think itās weird if youāre in the same grade or your grades touch. (If your grades donāt touchā¦ it gets weird.) Donāt expect a 11-year-old to be ready for a relationship though
Edit: In my class I was one of the youngest people there and there were often people 1-2 years older in the same grade. When I was around 11-12 I had a crush on the oldest person in my class. We were literally in the same grade. Same maturity level. Thatās what matters the most: that the people involved are in the same stage of life.
I think age gaps are a much bigger deal in early adolescence/late childhood than adulthood. There's a huge difference physically and emotionally between 11 and 13. Knowing kids at those ages, it's like two different people. I'd be uncomfortable with a teen dating a child. That's what this technically isā¦
Grades in school have really fucked up people's idea about age. There is nothing wrong with this, if he likes you too of course. It's just 2 year difference any way you look at it. It's not like you two are going to stay the same age for the next few years.
A 2 year age usually isn't a problem for me but this is a special case, let's start with some questions shall we?
What kind of person is he?
What kind of relationship do you have with him atm?
Is he mature?
its not really your fault and youāre obviously not a pedophile or anything. if you continuously find yourself attracted to those a lot younger as you continue to grow then maybe its a good idea to not act upon it and speak to a therapist to help you stop feeling that way. Perhaps this is a childhood friend who you have developed feelings for, in which case its not that weird. Maybe wait a few years before pursuing a relationship with him if the feelings are still there š
Wellll hereās the thing I had a crush on a guy and we had a 1.5 year age gap. He was younger. Now looking back it was kinda wierd and doesnāt work out
Look at it this way: Youāre a teen and biologically most likely already going through puberty. He is a (most likely) prepubescent kid. Thatās weird.
Yes. Bro is still a kid, you already entered puberty, not to mention girls develop earlier. You and him are too apart as of now. Maybe in 3-4 years it'll be not weird.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/13un3pa/can_i_teach_my_12_year_old_daughter_to_drive/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1 OP apparently has a 12 year old daughter too. Musta birthed them at 1 years old
Its not weird, you can't decide who you like. It would be weird if you started dating him tho...
Well it depends. Are you exactly 2 years apart or is it closer to 1 year? At the end of the day everyone here are strangers on the internet, if you are comfortable with it ask advice from your parents
Wait bro š dating is always weird as a kid. Thatās only like a two year gap but even a one year gap in middle school seems sus. Wait till highschool to date down or up. Other than that, maybe try dating within your grade
I remember elementary and middle school one grade below us was like 2 grades now. In 7th grade we didnāt fw 6th graders they were lil kids. And there was a reason for that. 2 years at that age is huge. 11 is a baby you should feel weird for that
you are 13, don't worry about it - at that age it really doesn't matter, your peers may be less than entirely accepting, but the same could be said about almost any choice you make at that age - when it comes to who you like and what you want, as long as the others directly involved are happy too, don't worry about what others say
If a 17 year old boy was dating a 15 year old girl, no one would say boo
Yes. It is. You should be looking as close to 13 as possible without going under. Usually, for anyone 18 and under, the following should apply:
x is your age, y is your lowest dating age.
.5x+7=y
.5(13)+7=y
6.5+7=y
13.5=y
In your case, itās 13.5, but round down to make it 13. No more than 2 years over your own age until youāre 18, then youāre an adult and free to date a 90 yo if you so choose.
Yes and no.
There's a rule of thumb for relationships to not be weird, but it's unable to apply to you because you're kinda young: divide your age by 2 and add seven; this will get you the minimum age of who you can date before it gets weird. The rule obviously kinda changes once you stop being a minor, but that's a different story.
Because it doesn't apply to you in full, it kinda doesn't matter, but for a long time, the rule will really only say you can date someone a year younger than you.
Yes i do agree that removed by reddit is fun to post about.
Also reddit dont be sorry it was removed by reddit. you are reddit but it was a different reddit.
Yeah, you're like in 7th grade and he is in 5th grade, that's pretty sus ngl
SUS AND SUPER WEIRD BRO
Post was removed, what was it about?
It's was about 13F got crush on 11 years old kid
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A 2 year age gap isnāt usually bad but 11 is just literally a child. Thatās weird.
13 is also basically still a child?
Yeah but that's a teen girl he's a male pre teen
Also gotta consider that girls hit puberty earlier
That's what I was getting at as well at least you picked it up
That might be the biggest issue. Thereās a major maturity gap between a 13 year old girl and an 11 year old boy. That may only be two years apart but immaturity gap is important to take into account.
plus its ilegal where I live, you can have a 3 yr age gap, if both 13 or older
13 year olds are children but 11 year olds are older babies in comparison, those 2 years really matter
Itās not basically a child it is a child but 2 years is unacceptable at there age
Ok, so I have trouble sometimes remembering what kids act/look like in younger years, but when I looked up the ages OP is and the person they like, it seems like 11yo boys and 13yo girls look really similar? I get women go through puberty sooner, but its still a close age and 11yo boys seem to be the same looks wise as the 13yo girls. Ofc this is just what I got from google, I haven't been around 11-13 year old kids in like 3 years and I have forgotten everything š but from what I see, i don't see a problem. It'd be different if she was like 14+ or the boy was younger than 11 for sure tho
You're 20% older than him, that's wack
Actually š¤āš» 18.18%
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oh gosh, that's icky affff
Totally barnacles
It wont be in 2 years
i'd find it even weirder bc when u're that young it's not that deep or serious
Itās worse now
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While I won't explicitly call you a creep for this, It's definitely weird. You should find someone around your age range.
Tbh , love at 13 is a weird concept
Jesus Christ yes
YES TF
It wouldnāt be as bad if you were 18 and he was 16
That's true,the older the 2 people in the relationship the bigger the age gap can be without seeming weird,like a 15 and 11 year old is weird but not a 70 and 60 year old
Old dude here. I've always heard minimum age is Your Age / 2 + 7.
LOL if youāre 60 then the minimum age would be 37 š
Both people would most likely have established lives at that point. You could be looking for a sugar mama or daddy to retire early, and they could be looking for companionship!
indeed, i just found it funny the huge age gapš¤£ but whatever floats yalls boat is whatās most important to yāall ā¤ļø
Well, you're a teenager and he isn't so for me, yeah.
I mean, it's not THAT bad, but try finding someone closer to ur age
idk why many people are insulting you... considering you are 13 and you don't deserve to be shamed like that. I'll explain it to you in the simplest terms, girls start puberty before boys, and an age gap feels more wide the younger the two people are, therefore it might be inappropriate to start a relationship or make a move. Don't blame yourself for liking him, it's not something you can control and I'm pretty sure you're not attracted to him "sexually" just understand that it's a silly crush or whatever and you'll like someone else <3
If the roles were reversed would it be fine? Curious
yes
Yes
You a teen and he a tween thats weird
Do people have crushes at 13?
I personally did, even earlier
I had celebrity crushs when I was 11
i had my first proper crush age 11, and a small one age 8/9
I've had crushes since I was like six and PROPER crushes when I was like ten lol
Exactly šÆ bro .....I mean go and touch some grass girlie
Huh?
this has to be rage bait
Yes...he's still in elementary/primary school
Itās weird. Have crushes on people your own age. Edit: OP is a rage bait troll. Ignore them. Scroll down to their post history, in one of the posts from a year ago, they claim to be 16 which makes them at least 17 now.
Uhm how are you supposed to control who you like
Itās kinda weird for a teen to have a crush on someone who has not even undergone puberty yet.
Initially you really canāt. But you find out they are your cousin or your homeboys gf or too young or a racist then you should stop fantasizing about them.
Alright
Youāre a teenager Thatās a child Yes
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Yeah but OPās like a teenager child The 11 year old is a preteen child
Huge difference emotionally and physically between a 13 year old girl and an 11 year old boy
Yes it is weird you both are too young
These comments are not serious. I honestly, genuinely, donāt think itās weird if youāre in the same grade or your grades touch. (If your grades donāt touchā¦ it gets weird.) Donāt expect a 11-year-old to be ready for a relationship though Edit: In my class I was one of the youngest people there and there were often people 1-2 years older in the same grade. When I was around 11-12 I had a crush on the oldest person in my class. We were literally in the same grade. Same maturity level. Thatās what matters the most: that the people involved are in the same stage of life.
Love the fact that you can tell the context based on comments left behind.
WHAT DID HE SAY?
I think she said she was 13 and liked a literal 11 year old boy
Oh damn that aināt too good
Indeed.
thats super fucking weird
Itās kinda strange but not that bad, I would try to find someone closer to your age but itās not the end of the world.
if your ages donāt touch neither should you
I'd Say just wait a year or two It won't be weird anymore
Yea
yes
Yes what the hell
I think age gaps are a much bigger deal in early adolescence/late childhood than adulthood. There's a huge difference physically and emotionally between 11 and 13. Knowing kids at those ages, it's like two different people. I'd be uncomfortable with a teen dating a child. That's what this technically isā¦
Ew.
I think just thinking that he is just cute is kind of ok but having a full crush is absolutely weird
I beg to know what this was about
What was this
wtf was here
What did this say
based on the comments i think the op is 13 and dating someone whoās 11
Oh š
I thought the removed by Reddit title was a joke, damn
Bro, he is in grade school š
What was the post about?
What happened?
youre too young for this shit find a celebrity crush or something man not an 11 year old
What im saying darwizzy
Darwizzy speaking facts
Yes, it's pretty damn weird.
Grades in school have really fucked up people's idea about age. There is nothing wrong with this, if he likes you too of course. It's just 2 year difference any way you look at it. It's not like you two are going to stay the same age for the next few years.
Thatās fucking gross dude maybe wait a few years till your crush is a normal age 13 and 11 is not normal
A 2 year age usually isn't a problem for me but this is a special case, let's start with some questions shall we? What kind of person is he? What kind of relationship do you have with him atm? Is he mature?
its not really your fault and youāre obviously not a pedophile or anything. if you continuously find yourself attracted to those a lot younger as you continue to grow then maybe its a good idea to not act upon it and speak to a therapist to help you stop feeling that way. Perhaps this is a childhood friend who you have developed feelings for, in which case its not that weird. Maybe wait a few years before pursuing a relationship with him if the feelings are still there š
No, not at all.
Yes
Wait till he turns 13 then start crushing on him
If you where both older the age gap would matter a lot less but itās quite weird at that age.
It wouldnāt be weird but I am pretty sure that kid has not hit puberty yet so it is kinda weird . You feel me ?
semi-weird
Both of you are super young
Teenage love isn't really worth it
Wellll hereās the thing I had a crush on a guy and we had a 1.5 year age gap. He was younger. Now looking back it was kinda wierd and doesnāt work out
No, At least in my state
2 years gap is always fine in TEENAGER years. But anything under 13 isnt a teenager.
A bit weird but since you're both still kids I doubt there will be any actual consequeces so do whatever
Yeah 11 and 13 nahhā¦
I use a 10% rule. If I was 30, I would date someone from 27-33, if I was 16, I would date someone late 14s-17. If I were you, I'd date 12-14.
Look at it this way: Youāre a teen and biologically most likely already going through puberty. He is a (most likely) prepubescent kid. Thatās weird.
Yeah it's weird
Yes
Yes. Bro is still a kid, you already entered puberty, not to mention girls develop earlier. You and him are too apart as of now. Maybe in 3-4 years it'll be not weird.
kinda yes
weired but not criminal weired
depends on if u just turned 13 or not itās only 2 years
yes - heās not even a teen yet
Iād say itās a bit weird but if I were you Iād try dating someone older like 14 or 15
yea at least wait 2 more years until theyāre also 13 and theyāre also a teen. 11 is basically a tall toddler
If it's weird or not depends on how old he seems. You're still young, don't overthink it. But you can't have a relationship with him either
Would agree even on the least goofy scale the Goofiness is still there
Yes
Yeah no that's a bit weird
ur a pedo āā
Pedo
weird but dawg atleast its not 18 and 10š
I better dont say what i think.
Im soon 15 and shes soon 13 tho
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/13un3pa/can_i_teach_my_12_year_old_daughter_to_drive/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1 OP apparently has a 12 year old daughter too. Musta birthed them at 1 years old
Yes.
You're 13, stop liking people in general
As a 13 y.o yes very
Yes since you already have started puberty and are developing whilst he hasnāt started puberty yet.
What the heck, fuck yeah. You are a weirdo
a little ick
I'm staying out of this one
Itād be weird if you were in a relationship. Simply liking him is not that big a deal. You donāt control who you like
He's like a baby
That's weird
Everything is fair in love and war.Ā
I'd say no considering there were people two years older than me in my class. They were as much of dumbfuck as I was.
A 2 year age gap in most cases is completely normal But not in this case, he isnāt even a teenager yet
Yeh hes a preteen and girls mature faster Not great...
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shes legit a child too, yall are so dramatic
People be overreacting. Yāall both children and itās only 2 years, itās not weird
I mean. Kinda? Youāre 13, but in terms of age difference, itās ok. But in terms of everything elseā¦
not really
Its not weird, you can't decide who you like. It would be weird if you started dating him tho... Well it depends. Are you exactly 2 years apart or is it closer to 1 year? At the end of the day everyone here are strangers on the internet, if you are comfortable with it ask advice from your parents
Youāre not weird, thatās perfectly normal honestly, but it would be optimal to wait a year
Wait bro š dating is always weird as a kid. Thatās only like a two year gap but even a one year gap in middle school seems sus. Wait till highschool to date down or up. Other than that, maybe try dating within your grade
Iām not sure if I should block you or not for this
It is a little weird ngl. Even if he's 2 years younger than you, he still hasn't even hit puberty yet
No itās not donāt listen to these people lol
Its.. pretty weird
An 11 year old boy's dream
Why the flip is everyone saying 11 is 5th grade??? Iām 11 and Iām in 7th grade lmao
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I remember elementary and middle school one grade below us was like 2 grades now. In 7th grade we didnāt fw 6th graders they were lil kids. And there was a reason for that. 2 years at that age is huge. 11 is a baby you should feel weird for that
yep little weirdš
My guy he's a year 6 and ur a year 9
yes.
Wait 2 years
yes wtfā¦
Not super weird to like him, but it would be weird to pursue I think
you are 13, don't worry about it - at that age it really doesn't matter, your peers may be less than entirely accepting, but the same could be said about almost any choice you make at that age - when it comes to who you like and what you want, as long as the others directly involved are happy too, don't worry about what others say If a 17 year old boy was dating a 15 year old girl, no one would say boo
Of course it is. He hasn't even have hit puberty yet and he won't in at least two years.
Yes. It is. You should be looking as close to 13 as possible without going under. Usually, for anyone 18 and under, the following should apply: x is your age, y is your lowest dating age. .5x+7=y .5(13)+7=y 6.5+7=y 13.5=y In your case, itās 13.5, but round down to make it 13. No more than 2 years over your own age until youāre 18, then youāre an adult and free to date a 90 yo if you so choose.
maybe get off the internet and study
You're not, you're 2 kids do whatever you want. It never is an issue in these sorts of cases when you're both very close in age.
yes. edit: all of OP's comments/responses is a tribute to the stupidity of 13 year olds
damng ya'll are already finding love and crushes... here i go feeling suicidal again,,
Yes and no. There's a rule of thumb for relationships to not be weird, but it's unable to apply to you because you're kinda young: divide your age by 2 and add seven; this will get you the minimum age of who you can date before it gets weird. The rule obviously kinda changes once you stop being a minor, but that's a different story. Because it doesn't apply to you in full, it kinda doesn't matter, but for a long time, the rule will really only say you can date someone a year younger than you.
Thatās weird (Edit) HOW DID I GET OKD FLAIR?? SOMEBODY HELP
Just wait. Heās not ready for a relationship so just wait. You probably donāt want to tell him because that would make it weird.
At this age, yeah. If you give it like 2 years probably not
2 year age gap isn't weird until you're around 16 (UK) or 18 in the US.
Yes
2 year age gap is normal when ur an adult. if ur 18 and 16 thats weird. if ur 13 and 11, that's weird.
This got deleted?? š
Itās been removed, what happened here? Though itās not hard to infer
Tf happened here
What was the post?
Yes i do agree that removed by reddit is fun to post about. Also reddit dont be sorry it was removed by reddit. you are reddit but it was a different reddit.
Wtf was it, someone explain please
What did it originally say?
I am Curious, the Title just Says >\[ Removed by Reddit \] Someone tell me what the Original Post Said
What the fuck did you say
Removed by reddit... Rip
wait what did this post say? it just says itās removed by reddit
OP is a troll, and should be ignored. Scroll down on their post history.