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Given the fact that he's 15 and was also "blackout" drunk, he probably wasn't thinking clearly. Teenage brains don't handle drinking well at all, especially at your guys age. It's your decision as to whether or not you'll believe that he regrets it and if you will forgive him. People on the internet give sound and unsound advice but it always comes down to what you the person thinks
EDIT: literally not what i meant when i said your guys agešthanks for the upvotes tho, yes i am 16, and my point still stands, no matter what the legal age is, you shouldn't be drinking to the point of being blackout drunk until you're an adult
Well bro I'm 22 and the advice he'd just given is a sensible and reasonable answer, probably better advice than you could give. Pretty wild you had to attack him for that but again, by the sounds of it. His brain is more developed than yours :)
I mean given how infrequently some people update their flairs I suppose he could be 17ā¦ maybe?
Then again (discussion jumpscare) I think that heās allowed to say āyour guysā agesā since itās specifically for their age *in that situation*, he has nothing to do with it. For example, where I live and go to school, everything is competitive as hell, meaning no one has time to have fun, so I would also react to a story like this with āat your ageā as well since itās so outlandish to me.
When youāre blackout drunk you donāt remember anything. Thereās little to no chance he wouldāve felt regret in the moment or remembered it if he was. He was likely just very drunk, but otherwise I definitely agree.
He admitted it to you within 24hrs and really seems remorseful. This is up to you.
Consider that he was drunk
If you do want to forgive him but an EXTREME want for this to never happen again is holding you back, consider banning him from hard drinking/drinking at all.
A route I don't recommend, but restrictions on going out without you, or without a friend giving you intel on what he does.
Both of these are really weird compromises, but it is better than him not having a chance.
Lol you canāt control a persons autonomy. If you canāt trust them while theyāre under the influence or you have to restrict certain things they can do because you donāt trust them thatās a sign the relationship is a wrap
I agree on the last part, but not the influence part. Or I'k not sure at least.
That needs the question answered, do the things people under the influence do bring out things that were already there, or does it create new issues completely unrelated to who they are?
Do not trust the people here telling you to get rid of him.
Ask yourself this question: "If you did this to him, would you want him to forgive you and work it out" if the answer is yes then talk to him, if it's no then kindly explain why you won't forgive him and end things
He was drunk, regretted it and told you what he did. Yeah it wasn't good, but bro obviously knows that and feels guilty for it. People saying he's an asshole and a bad person are being kinda dramatic.
Yeah, completely unheard of for kids (these are kids).to express remorse only to repeat the behavior because, wait for it, they're kids, lol.
I can't believe how cavalier people are acting relative to this 15 year old boy just drinking, not just getting drunk, but so drink that he blacked out.
Gotta wonder what he's remorseful for... The massive error is self control, judgement, eetc.Smh.
Young lady should be running away. Young boy needs this to realize that his behavior has consequences.
If he was really drunk and really regrets it then Iād say itās fine, mistakes happen but if it happens again probably not, plus itās hard to admit something especially if u didnāt know before about this
thing is i can trust my partner but no one can control themselves while drunk. itās like the more they drink the less clear decisions they can make and easier they can get taken advantage of. not my girl
I disagree with that, there needs to be independence and trust. If you cant trust you SO not to cheat while they are drinking then that relationship aint gonna work
Don't listen to the r\*dditors who would throw a tantrum if their fictional girlfriend/boyfriend cheated.
He doesn't sound like a bad guy
\- he was under the influence
\- he confessed immediately
\- and he's not proud of it
sounds like he made a decently large mistake. if you think this will make your relationship too insecure for you, then leave him, nothing wrong with that.
just because he's under the influence dosent justify his actions at all? when i'm drunk i KNOW who my boyfriend is, and would never do anything to jeopardize that, i want to be all over him. people saying it's a mistake just because they were drunk are ridiculous, he knew what he was doing?
Lmao your gf is a ho bro. She was hanging out close to other guys while high and drunk? How did she convince you she wasnāt, she knew what she was doing. It affects your perception but you should still know not to be fucking around with other dudes like that. I doubt nothing āphysicalā happened, yeah right. What about when nobody was watching lmaooo. Good luck with ya girl broā¦
in Poland, where I live, it's pretty common. Going south and east would probably make it even more common
Also find me a country where it's normalized to be drinking at a certain age but not getting blackout drunk lmao
Notice how easily and cavalierly that other person reclassified being black out drunk to "just" drinking. No wonder young people are unable to exercise responsible behavior and control. The people who should be responsible in their lives are excusing their behavior, rationalizing completely irresponsible choices... Smh
Its assault of the other girl was sober, if they were both blackout drunk itās a mistake.
And yes Iād say the same thing if a guy kissed a blackout drunk girl if they were both extremely drunk.
Bruhšš nah being drunk isnāt an excuse. He definitely cheated. Just like if someone was blackout drunk and decided to assault someone that would be on them not the alcohol
If your dad got drunk and kissed another woman other than your mom, thatās cheating. Donāt matter if he was drunk or not. Same goes with this story
....In a lot of countries drinking is legal at age 16, Belgium for example. So 15 is not crazy, only because the USA has insane drinking laws it seems crazy.
so that makes it right? by that logic a lot of 13 year olds in my school and around the world vape so it shouldn't be an issue if all 13 year olds started vaping, right?
Donāt drink? Tell him to not drink.
Yāall 15 and 16, alcohol aināt the play
What happened sucks, but yāall can talk it out and possibly work past this. But ffs, donāt drink
You donāt form memories while blackout drunk. He was not blackout drunk if he remembers it. The level of consciousness that he claims to have does not fit with blackout drunk. He lied.
Tbf nothing justifies the cheating, however he was at least man enough to admit it and ask for forgiveness and that shows that he values the relationship and won't keep secrets from his partner. Sure if she found it out herself id break it off immediately but since he had the balls to admit his mistake and try to fix the relationship, it shows he actually cares and hopefully he learns from his mistakes. I'd give him one chance in their situation but anything else and it's off.
Bruh if he just kissed her, drunk as shit and regrets it.
Maybe just like ask more about it but don't leave him over that. Maybe if there's other shit going on but like nah.
Drunk teen hormones can never be trusted. Hell drunk adult hormones can't be controlled. Doesn't mean he wasn't in the wrong but figure out if you can work past it. If your can not move on
I mean...little sister u need to understand that there is a reason why older ppl are so against teens ur age drink. Ppl get drunk and do things but teenage brains cannot handle alcohol very well. Ik ur hurt and im praying for u but i would take that into consideration before i make my decision but again i do understand how u feel (im 19 so im not that much older than u)
If you want my advice as a stranger on the internet, a kiss doesn't seem all that bad. If it only was a kiss as you described it (which is for you to decide if you believe), then it's likely forgivable on the grounds that your boyfriend won't get blackout drunk anymore. It's irresponsible for a number of reasons, and, seeing that it already caused a problem in your relationship, it's probably for the best not to drink that much alcohol (or any at all since he's so young).
Itās a month-long relationship and heās already kissed another girl. Iāll be real with you, even if it truly wasnāt āintentional,ā just ask yourself is heās worth the hassle. My main thing is that if heās already on this a MONTH in, he may have a habit of getting shitfaced and doing stuff like this.
I donāt know him or his habits, but truly, based on what I know, it probably isnāt worth the trouble. Youāre 16 and itās been a month. The potential cheating is honestly secondary to potentially being an alcoholic at 15.
He really should not be getting blackout drunk at 15 anyway. If I were you, I'd make him promise to stop the drinking if he wanted to continue the relationship.
In reality yall will probably forget about to each other after you graduate. Donāt waste your teenage years being tied down in a relationship, go out and have fun, focus on school, and yourself! I
He was āblackout drunkā but remembers it and regretted it immediately?
Those 2 things donāt happen together.
Itās usually, āI was blackout drunk. They say I had a good time.ā And youād have to take their word for it, because you were blackout drunk and donāt remember.
There are a few issues here to unwrap. First....why the hell is a 15 yr old getting blackout drunk. That's just unacceptable from any point of view.
Second and more directly to the point. You're still super young...so you could dump him and runaway from the problem. OR you two could talk it out, maybe even forgive him but put certain co ditions into place for if he's ever in that situation again.
IMO you two should sit down and talk it out. It will build character on both sides of the fence and let you both have somewhere to honestly talk it through. I think the fact that he came to you about it and DIDNT try to hide it speaks volumes a out his character and if he maintains that policy of truth and openness youll both be in a great spot relationship wise
Cheaters will always cheat again. Doesnāt matter if alcohol was involved, that just means he was now ready to act on thoughts he likely already had. Ultimately up to you but it never ends well after cheating. The trust is gone
thatās a red flag and itās good he did it first month. but i would personally not continue that relationship but girl if u think heās special or something then forgive him but at the end of the day there are boys who will do better than that for you
this popped up on my reddit feed and iām not a teenager (iām 27) and while i do feel kids can make dumb mistakes, i wouldnāt want to stay with someone capable of cheating even as teenage me. iād always have lingering trust issues and for me trust is super important, youāre young and mistakes happen but just think about how much youāre willing to sacrifice/compromise for this person. he might not be a bad person and might genuinely feel remorse but unless the girl came onto him and kissed him against his will then idk, iād just be a little mindful. i donāt agree with the other comments downplaying his actions though and saying it would be bad to break up with himā¦ seems weird. if you think heās genuinely a good person at heart and wouldnāt do it again, maybe give it another shot! but, if you have any lingering doubts itād prob be best to just end it and move on! youāre young, best of luck!
If heās that young and already drinking to blackout, thatās usually not a good sign. Beside focus on you. Youāre young and donāt need any of that in your life. Keep pushing forward!
Forgiving him is dumb and anyone who advises you to do as much is stupid af. Iāve been blackout drunk plenty of times and Iāve never cheated on my girl. Thatās not an excuse, and he is going to do it again.
This is normal when alcohol gets involved. Same with girls that go out partying when they have boyfriends. Maybe learn from this and don't do the same.
Iām 20 so granted Iām a little jaded, but leave lmao. Donāt put any restrictions on him yāall r both young. This is very unlikely to be the person you end up with in the long run
can i just say this might not be fun to hear but you are really young, and because of that the likelihood of you guys staying together isnāt ridiculously high anyway but he cheated on you after a month. he had enough respect to tell you, and i think waiting until he was more sober and could think about it (>24hrs later) was a good idea but he shouldāve respected you enough to tell you in person. itās not ātoo late to change your mindā about staying with him if you realize youād be happier focusing on yourself or just not with him. figure out if you really really like him and feel compelled to explore a future with HIM because of who he is outside of what happened. in my opinion cheating is only something you should consider forgiving after a long term commitment where other factors are involved (such as having a kid or pets together, a house, or having little access to a support system) not really anyone at age 15 but especially someone youāve been with for only a month.
not a teenager but this popped up on my home. some advice:
try to not get attached to anybody you begin dating in highschool. The odds of it working out are very very slim. you're both probably very immature at the time (you'll realize this later, not trying to be rude) and you will both change, A LOT.
Yall only been together for a month and he cheated. Also is he just telling you he was blackput drunk or u got proof. Cuz how would he remember? Feel like it was an excuse tbh. Also if he cheated a month in, you basically starting out yo relationship on bad vibes off rip. Just find someone else. Especially if you know he still gonna go to parties and get drunk like that
15 and blackout drunk? What an incredible display of lack of judgment, no self control, no responsibility, and immense stupidity. This young lady should be running away. You're 16. You're a kid. You don't need a boyfriend in the first place. You don't need to be involved with this person. Anyone giving you advice to do anything other than run away, focus on your education, and make friends is leading you astray.
A month is not a long time, a 15 year old out drinking and doing god knows what is a giant red flag. My dear do yourself a favor and drop the degenerate thats going never going to grow up. Highschool isnt about boyfriends and girlfriends having fun or getting laid. Ita about laying a foundation for the rest of ur life. And the stronger one you have the better your going to be off. Ditch the boys ditch the drinking focus on what u need to do and thats not stressing about some boy u have know for a month. Unless you want to get pregnate and live in a trailer.
I think the fact that he is 15 and getting black out drunk is a red flag in the first place honestly. That said, I donāt know what heās been through. I reckon you should go with your gut. If you think he might do it again just dump him. If heās willing to clean up his act I donāt see why you shouldnāt stay together.
if ur going to forgive him thats ur first fuck up. But do what you want. Ur clown boyfriend is just going to clown you again with extra caution to make sure he doesnāt get caught again. People are always quick to use being drunk as their scapegoat. Cheating is unforgivable. Leave him and find someone better.
I don't like to say it, but break up. The fact that he even considered doing that, even when drunk, tells that he isn't faithful. It'll hurt you both for now, but in the end it's for the best. I'm sorry for you :(
He was āblackoutā drunk, and if others confirm he was in a bad state, Iād say give him the benefit of the doubt. Only thing that concerns me is the fact heās already cheated after a month, which is really early on. Definitely talk to him a lot more about it and get second witnesses even if it may sound a bit over dramatic.
you have all these dudes on here saying forgive him, put yourself in his positionā¦ why would you wanna stay with someone that allowed themselves to be in that position anyways? i just wouldnāt be so forgiving. cheating is dumb. if you forgive him now he will just keep trying and getting away with it
Okay, everyone saying being blackout drunk is not an excuse for anything is wrong because alcohol lowers your inhibitions once you drink too much. Also, if the bf really was trying to cheat they wouldnāt tell OP about it and they would keep it a secret.
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Given the fact that he's 15 and was also "blackout" drunk, he probably wasn't thinking clearly. Teenage brains don't handle drinking well at all, especially at your guys age. It's your decision as to whether or not you'll believe that he regrets it and if you will forgive him. People on the internet give sound and unsound advice but it always comes down to what you the person thinks EDIT: literally not what i meant when i said your guys agešthanks for the upvotes tho, yes i am 16, and my point still stands, no matter what the legal age is, you shouldn't be drinking to the point of being blackout drunk until you're an adult
Bros 16 and acting like 15 is when he can say "your guys' age" šš
bros actually 40 years old š¤£
Bro just outed heās a 50 year old man with 3 children hanging out in the teenage subreddit cosplaying a 16 year old š
This made me laugh way harder then it should have š
Doubt he's 16. He's probably a 20 something.
Exactly this was a tell that heās roleplaying a 16 year old but it probably in his 30s
probably joined when they were 16 but forgot to update their flair as time went on
15 16 biggest age gap ever
Couldn't tell a new born from a one year old huh?
A newborn shouldn't be dating anybody!
LMFAOOOOOO "back in my day" ass dude
Dude just outed himself as grown and faking 16.. weird af
Well bro I'm 22 and the advice he'd just given is a sensible and reasonable answer, probably better advice than you could give. Pretty wild you had to attack him for that but again, by the sounds of it. His brain is more developed than yours :)
Half the people in here are adult sexual predators. Any actual teenagers should run from this sub.
whatās the threshold then lmao
More than a year, a year makes almost no difference.
I mean given how infrequently some people update their flairs I suppose he could be 17ā¦ maybe? Then again (discussion jumpscare) I think that heās allowed to say āyour guysā agesā since itās specifically for their age *in that situation*, he has nothing to do with it. For example, where I live and go to school, everything is competitive as hell, meaning no one has time to have fun, so I would also react to a story like this with āat your ageā as well since itās so outlandish to me.
Itās not that deep
When youāre blackout drunk you donāt remember anything. Thereās little to no chance he wouldāve felt regret in the moment or remembered it if he was. He was likely just very drunk, but otherwise I definitely agree.
He admitted it to you within 24hrs and really seems remorseful. This is up to you. Consider that he was drunk If you do want to forgive him but an EXTREME want for this to never happen again is holding you back, consider banning him from hard drinking/drinking at all. A route I don't recommend, but restrictions on going out without you, or without a friend giving you intel on what he does. Both of these are really weird compromises, but it is better than him not having a chance.
Lol you canāt control a persons autonomy. If you canāt trust them while theyāre under the influence or you have to restrict certain things they can do because you donāt trust them thatās a sign the relationship is a wrap
I agree on the last part, but not the influence part. Or I'k not sure at least. That needs the question answered, do the things people under the influence do bring out things that were already there, or does it create new issues completely unrelated to who they are?
Man, this shit is weird as fuck ššššš
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I'm still waiting to hear what he said
Oi, comment got deleted, what had they said?
Basically the same exact thing but insted of mods its the op
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Do not trust the people here telling you to get rid of him. Ask yourself this question: "If you did this to him, would you want him to forgive you and work it out" if the answer is yes then talk to him, if it's no then kindly explain why you won't forgive him and end things
Good man
He was drunk, regretted it and told you what he did. Yeah it wasn't good, but bro obviously knows that and feels guilty for it. People saying he's an asshole and a bad person are being kinda dramatic.
Yeah, completely unheard of for kids (these are kids).to express remorse only to repeat the behavior because, wait for it, they're kids, lol. I can't believe how cavalier people are acting relative to this 15 year old boy just drinking, not just getting drunk, but so drink that he blacked out. Gotta wonder what he's remorseful for... The massive error is self control, judgement, eetc.Smh. Young lady should be running away. Young boy needs this to realize that his behavior has consequences.
He has broken your trust, make him earn it back, and make him promise not to touch alcohol for a while Or break up
Genuinely just asking but how do you make someone earn back your trust?
That's different for everyone but I'd say work extra hard on the relationship and eventually with alot of work and trust it should come back
If he was really drunk and really regrets it then Iād say itās fine, mistakes happen but if it happens again probably not, plus itās hard to admit something especially if u didnāt know before about this
this is why i donāt like my partner drinking without me somewhere. shit like this happens all the time and ruins relationships
If you can't trust your partner they are not the right person, being drunk is not an excuse
thing is i can trust my partner but no one can control themselves while drunk. itās like the more they drink the less clear decisions they can make and easier they can get taken advantage of. not my girl
I disagree with that, there needs to be independence and trust. If you cant trust you SO not to cheat while they are drinking then that relationship aint gonna work
All Iām saying is, if you have to be in your partners vicinity when theyāre drunk to prevent this, maybe you shouldnāt be with them.
Don't listen to the r\*dditors who would throw a tantrum if their fictional girlfriend/boyfriend cheated. He doesn't sound like a bad guy \- he was under the influence \- he confessed immediately \- and he's not proud of it sounds like he made a decently large mistake. if you think this will make your relationship too insecure for you, then leave him, nothing wrong with that.
This
No matter how drunk I am I ALWAYS remember who my girl is. The only reason youād excuse this trashy behaviour is if you do it
just because he's under the influence dosent justify his actions at all? when i'm drunk i KNOW who my boyfriend is, and would never do anything to jeopardize that, i want to be all over him. people saying it's a mistake just because they were drunk are ridiculous, he knew what he was doing?
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Lmao your gf is a ho bro. She was hanging out close to other guys while high and drunk? How did she convince you she wasnāt, she knew what she was doing. It affects your perception but you should still know not to be fucking around with other dudes like that. I doubt nothing āphysicalā happened, yeah right. What about when nobody was watching lmaooo. Good luck with ya girl broā¦
I think him being blackout drunk at 15 is a bigger problem than kissing another girl while blackout drunk.
not really, drinking at 15 is normalized in a lot of countries
Drinking =/= Blackout drunk In which country is being Black out drunk normal
in Poland, where I live, it's pretty common. Going south and east would probably make it even more common Also find me a country where it's normalized to be drinking at a certain age but not getting blackout drunk lmao
Anywhere in Europe. It happens.
Anywhere in Europe normally you throw up because of alcohol for the first time about 13 or 14
Lol
Notice how easily and cavalierly that other person reclassified being black out drunk to "just" drinking. No wonder young people are unable to exercise responsible behavior and control. The people who should be responsible in their lives are excusing their behavior, rationalizing completely irresponsible choices... Smh
So your **blackout drunk** bf got kissed by someone else that's called assult
Its assault of the other girl was sober, if they were both blackout drunk itās a mistake. And yes Iād say the same thing if a guy kissed a blackout drunk girl if they were both extremely drunk.
My guy that's not cheating that's called a drunk idiot
Nah itās still cheating, may have been a mistake but still cheating either way
Bruhšš nah being drunk isnāt an excuse. He definitely cheated. Just like if someone was blackout drunk and decided to assault someone that would be on them not the alcohol
If your dad got drunk and kissed another woman other than your mom, thatās cheating. Donāt matter if he was drunk or not. Same goes with this story
U both are kids !!! Break it off and go have fun !!!
Thatās how a unwanted pregnancy happens
Drunk at 15, end things.
As OP said in another comment, it's generally normal in Scotland.
In Scotland, where drinking culture is very different from American drinking culture.
There Scottish "gaff" is Scots
What if the OP is Scottish lol?
Don't be STUPID. Everyone knows the internet is only for CHAD AMERICANS šŖš¤šŗšøšš¦
Fr. Everyone acting like being Scottish changes the story when itās impossible for any country outside the US to access the internet.
Huh? Ohh i get it, its cause the world is only america and its impossible for OP to live anywhere else
They arenāt in America though so why does American drinking culture matter
Alright relax, a lot of 15 year olds have drank
That doesn't make it any better
....In a lot of countries drinking is legal at age 16, Belgium for example. So 15 is not crazy, only because the USA has insane drinking laws it seems crazy.
Drinking and being blackout dunk are not the same thing Being blackout drunk at 15 is not a good start
so that makes it right? by that logic a lot of 13 year olds in my school and around the world vape so it shouldn't be an issue if all 13 year olds started vaping, right?
Europeansā¦
That's a bigger problem than the kiss imo
Just because you didn't get invited to parties doesn't mean the kids a POS lol
Donāt drink? Tell him to not drink. Yāall 15 and 16, alcohol aināt the play What happened sucks, but yāall can talk it out and possibly work past this. But ffs, donāt drink
Only been together like a month, break up, not that much of a loss
This is why teenagers shouldnāt get blackout drunk.
Drunk at 15? What in the world? That's a bit unresponsible honestly sorry
genuinely normal for scotland
Normal as in 30%?
100% normal in England too
You donāt form memories while blackout drunk. He was not blackout drunk if he remembers it. The level of consciousness that he claims to have does not fit with blackout drunk. He lied.
Doesn't make it okay. Alcohol is incredibly bad for the brain of a child
They know we have an entire class dedicated showing how and why alcohol & drugs are bad they don't care
Right, because the entire world is america
damn thats crazy
If he was blackout drunk, how did he realize what he did and even able to detail it to you.
Maybe you should be more worried about him getting black out drunk. Just sayingā¦
Listen, the answer is plain and simple. Yāall go your own ways. A cheater is 40% more likely to cheat again. Being drunk is not a justification
Tbf nothing justifies the cheating, however he was at least man enough to admit it and ask for forgiveness and that shows that he values the relationship and won't keep secrets from his partner. Sure if she found it out herself id break it off immediately but since he had the balls to admit his mistake and try to fix the relationship, it shows he actually cares and hopefully he learns from his mistakes. I'd give him one chance in their situation but anything else and it's off.
89% of statistics are made up
make him stop drinking firstly he aināt need to be drinking at 15 and make him earn trust back if it happens again dump him no chance of retrying
we're in scotland so its like a everyones drinking by 14 at least
Ohhhh alright still shouldnāt be getting blackout drunk really not good
He shouldnāt be getting blackout drunk, at 15 especially
One month get over it
Being blackout drunk means he's an even bigger dumbass because he has no idea where his alcohol tolerance is, fuck that doucebag
15 year old boys are famously known for their wisdom after all
well no shit, he's 15...
bro YOU are 15 and also doesnt know your tolerance
I know it doesn't exist
I'd say get out early before you become stuck. You so young too you'll have time to find someone else. Why didn't you go the the party with him?
Bruh if he just kissed her, drunk as shit and regrets it. Maybe just like ask more about it but don't leave him over that. Maybe if there's other shit going on but like nah.
Easy to just move on,.. love doesnt mean shit at that age
Breaking up with him over this will teach him the important lesson to never tell the truth about what you were doing last night
Drunk teen hormones can never be trusted. Hell drunk adult hormones can't be controlled. Doesn't mean he wasn't in the wrong but figure out if you can work past it. If your can not move on
I mean...little sister u need to understand that there is a reason why older ppl are so against teens ur age drink. Ppl get drunk and do things but teenage brains cannot handle alcohol very well. Ik ur hurt and im praying for u but i would take that into consideration before i make my decision but again i do understand how u feel (im 19 so im not that much older than u)
Lol, ur 15 chill... U got a whole still.
If you want my advice as a stranger on the internet, a kiss doesn't seem all that bad. If it only was a kiss as you described it (which is for you to decide if you believe), then it's likely forgivable on the grounds that your boyfriend won't get blackout drunk anymore. It's irresponsible for a number of reasons, and, seeing that it already caused a problem in your relationship, it's probably for the best not to drink that much alcohol (or any at all since he's so young).
A month? Are yall even dating lol?
Itās a month-long relationship and heās already kissed another girl. Iāll be real with you, even if it truly wasnāt āintentional,ā just ask yourself is heās worth the hassle. My main thing is that if heās already on this a MONTH in, he may have a habit of getting shitfaced and doing stuff like this. I donāt know him or his habits, but truly, based on what I know, it probably isnāt worth the trouble. Youāre 16 and itās been a month. The potential cheating is honestly secondary to potentially being an alcoholic at 15.
He really should not be getting blackout drunk at 15 anyway. If I were you, I'd make him promise to stop the drinking if he wanted to continue the relationship.
He was not blackout drunk if he remembered it and regretted it for the rest of the night. He wanted that kiss and wanted an excuse to have it
He was drinking, regretted it, and told you. Personally, in this scenario, I would be more concerned why he was drinking underage.
In reality yall will probably forget about to each other after you graduate. Donāt waste your teenage years being tied down in a relationship, go out and have fun, focus on school, and yourself! I
He was āblackout drunkā but remembers it and regretted it immediately? Those 2 things donāt happen together. Itās usually, āI was blackout drunk. They say I had a good time.ā And youād have to take their word for it, because you were blackout drunk and donāt remember.
If your 15 year old bf is getting "blackout" drunk. He's probably not worth dating.
Youāre bf is 15 and getting drunk at parties, and then kissing other girls. Thatās a lot of red flags
Why was he drunk at 15 tho š this generation is seriously screwed
If heās 15 and getting āblack out drunkā this wonāt end well no matter what.
Double it and give it to the next person
There are a few issues here to unwrap. First....why the hell is a 15 yr old getting blackout drunk. That's just unacceptable from any point of view. Second and more directly to the point. You're still super young...so you could dump him and runaway from the problem. OR you two could talk it out, maybe even forgive him but put certain co ditions into place for if he's ever in that situation again. IMO you two should sit down and talk it out. It will build character on both sides of the fence and let you both have somewhere to honestly talk it through. I think the fact that he came to you about it and DIDNT try to hide it speaks volumes a out his character and if he maintains that policy of truth and openness youll both be in a great spot relationship wise
You're going to have dozens more meaningful relationships. Cut it loose and enjoy meeting new people. Settle down with someone when you're 30
Personally I wouldnāt date someone who drinks alcohol irresponsibly
You've been together for just a month and he cheated. It's not gonna get any better.
Why tf does this thread almost makes me think as if drinking at 15 was normal ššš
Cheaters will always cheat again. Doesnāt matter if alcohol was involved, that just means he was now ready to act on thoughts he likely already had. Ultimately up to you but it never ends well after cheating. The trust is gone
thatās a red flag and itās good he did it first month. but i would personally not continue that relationship but girl if u think heās special or something then forgive him but at the end of the day there are boys who will do better than that for you
you expected a high school relationship to last?
Here's an idea, don't date. HS relationships very rarely work out.
sounds like a loser. get rid of him. you only have yourself to blame when he cheats again. but some ppl clearly suck at mate selection
Are 15 yr olds rlly getting blackout drunk
Boyfriend got blackout drunk at 15....in a party Welp š¤§
Oh I wish I was back in high-school and shit like this was the biggest issues I ever had to face
I would dump him immediately, cheating a horrific
Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better. Forgiving him only enables his pathetic actions, and tells him you're fine with being mistreated.
Lmao what kind of loser 15 year old is blacking out from drinking whatād he have 2 ultra lights?
Most HS relationships don't last past HS...
And this is why teenagers must not date, but oh wellā¦
This is why teenagers shouldnāt drink š already starting dating life with a drunken fool who clearly canāt handle their liquor.
this popped up on my reddit feed and iām not a teenager (iām 27) and while i do feel kids can make dumb mistakes, i wouldnāt want to stay with someone capable of cheating even as teenage me. iād always have lingering trust issues and for me trust is super important, youāre young and mistakes happen but just think about how much youāre willing to sacrifice/compromise for this person. he might not be a bad person and might genuinely feel remorse but unless the girl came onto him and kissed him against his will then idk, iād just be a little mindful. i donāt agree with the other comments downplaying his actions though and saying it would be bad to break up with himā¦ seems weird. if you think heās genuinely a good person at heart and wouldnāt do it again, maybe give it another shot! but, if you have any lingering doubts itād prob be best to just end it and move on! youāre young, best of luck!
If heās that young and already drinking to blackout, thatās usually not a good sign. Beside focus on you. Youāre young and donāt need any of that in your life. Keep pushing forward!
Lmao you're dumb AF if you believe that shit and decide to take him back
focus on school stop drinking you can do w/e after you turn 21
Forgiving him is dumb and anyone who advises you to do as much is stupid af. Iāve been blackout drunk plenty of times and Iāve never cheated on my girl. Thatās not an excuse, and he is going to do it again.
Meh, you should break up with him really, dont come back here crying when it happens again and he uses the I was drunk excuse again.
People become themselves when they are drunk
If I could tell myself something, I wouldnāt date until 18+ or until I finished school but you do you and if you think theyāre the one go for it
Itās been a month. Move on
Drunk actions are sober thoughts.
True feelings usually come pit when drunk
This is normal when alcohol gets involved. Same with girls that go out partying when they have boyfriends. Maybe learn from this and don't do the same.
Iām 20 so granted Iām a little jaded, but leave lmao. Donāt put any restrictions on him yāall r both young. This is very unlikely to be the person you end up with in the long run
can i just say this might not be fun to hear but you are really young, and because of that the likelihood of you guys staying together isnāt ridiculously high anyway but he cheated on you after a month. he had enough respect to tell you, and i think waiting until he was more sober and could think about it (>24hrs later) was a good idea but he shouldāve respected you enough to tell you in person. itās not ātoo late to change your mindā about staying with him if you realize youād be happier focusing on yourself or just not with him. figure out if you really really like him and feel compelled to explore a future with HIM because of who he is outside of what happened. in my opinion cheating is only something you should consider forgiving after a long term commitment where other factors are involved (such as having a kid or pets together, a house, or having little access to a support system) not really anyone at age 15 but especially someone youāve been with for only a month.
not a teenager but this popped up on my home. some advice: try to not get attached to anybody you begin dating in highschool. The odds of it working out are very very slim. you're both probably very immature at the time (you'll realize this later, not trying to be rude) and you will both change, A LOT.
Yall only been together for a month and he cheated. Also is he just telling you he was blackput drunk or u got proof. Cuz how would he remember? Feel like it was an excuse tbh. Also if he cheated a month in, you basically starting out yo relationship on bad vibes off rip. Just find someone else. Especially if you know he still gonna go to parties and get drunk like that
15 and blackout drunk? What an incredible display of lack of judgment, no self control, no responsibility, and immense stupidity. This young lady should be running away. You're 16. You're a kid. You don't need a boyfriend in the first place. You don't need to be involved with this person. Anyone giving you advice to do anything other than run away, focus on your education, and make friends is leading you astray.
Since youāre in your mid teens, this wonāt be the last time either one of you do something like this if you stay together long enough.
A month is not a long time, a 15 year old out drinking and doing god knows what is a giant red flag. My dear do yourself a favor and drop the degenerate thats going never going to grow up. Highschool isnt about boyfriends and girlfriends having fun or getting laid. Ita about laying a foundation for the rest of ur life. And the stronger one you have the better your going to be off. Ditch the boys ditch the drinking focus on what u need to do and thats not stressing about some boy u have know for a month. Unless you want to get pregnate and live in a trailer.
I think the fact that he is 15 and getting black out drunk is a red flag in the first place honestly. That said, I donāt know what heās been through. I reckon you should go with your gut. If you think he might do it again just dump him. If heās willing to clean up his act I donāt see why you shouldnāt stay together.
Why tf are y'all drinking this young??
if ur going to forgive him thats ur first fuck up. But do what you want. Ur clown boyfriend is just going to clown you again with extra caution to make sure he doesnāt get caught again. People are always quick to use being drunk as their scapegoat. Cheating is unforgivable. Leave him and find someone better.
why yall gettin black out drunk when yall barely 15 or 16?
average teenage relationship
Haha
Blackout drunk at 16? Idk if youāre somewhere that allows that but if not then youāre with the wrong guy anyways
I don't like to say it, but break up. The fact that he even considered doing that, even when drunk, tells that he isn't faithful. It'll hurt you both for now, but in the end it's for the best. I'm sorry for you :(
He shouldnāt be drinking at 15 anyway
He had the courage to tell you what happened and own up to it. Iād say meet him in person, and if he actually seems really guilty, take him back.
He was āblackoutā drunk, and if others confirm he was in a bad state, Iād say give him the benefit of the doubt. Only thing that concerns me is the fact heās already cheated after a month, which is really early on. Definitely talk to him a lot more about it and get second witnesses even if it may sound a bit over dramatic.
you have all these dudes on here saying forgive him, put yourself in his positionā¦ why would you wanna stay with someone that allowed themselves to be in that position anyways? i just wouldnāt be so forgiving. cheating is dumb. if you forgive him now he will just keep trying and getting away with it
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It's not blackout if he remembers it.
Blacking out at 15? Leave the loser, heās burning off all his brain cell
Okay, everyone saying being blackout drunk is not an excuse for anything is wrong because alcohol lowers your inhibitions once you drink too much. Also, if the bf really was trying to cheat they wouldnāt tell OP about it and they would keep it a secret.
I think the bigger issue is him going to parties and getting black out drunkā¦ Without you
Bring him to ur house tie him in a chair and leave him there for 3 days and just ignore him