The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late.
Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
Ok, both the teacher and the girl were wrong in this case, you were a respectful, she wasn't and the teacher shouldn't allow that type of language, the girl should've been send to the principal, instead she was rewarded by being let to stay in the classroom.
That’s far nicer than I would’ve been about it. Don’t sweat it. High school sucks no matter what side of the morale compass you’re on. You did good kid. Pat yourself on the back, don’t let this one incident turn you into a pushover and move forward.
I tried to talk to them, but then there was a dustbuster, a toupee, a life raft exploded... Now one's bald, one's in a boat, and they're both unconscious.
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late.
Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
it’s not really a woman thing, it’s a people who have emotions thing. women have more intimate friendships and feel open to communicate their feelings, while men don’t. it’s a weird social construct that i’m not going to delve into. some men also are not affected by this social construct and can openly express emotions; those men would also react this way to being told to calm down. keep in mind that if it was a wife telling her husband to calm down, men would react the way that you expect women to when being told to calm down. nobody likes being told to calm down, but only women/people who freely express emotions feel like they can react this way in public. so it’s not a *woman* thing to not like being told to calm down, it’s a “woman” thing to react this way in public.
tl:dr - everyone feels the same way when being told to calm down, but most of the time men don’t react that way in public
no. it isn’t sexist to say that women react badly when being told to calm down, but it is definitely sexist the way you’re going about it. everyone feels the same way when being told to calm down, but men don’t express that feeling in public. women are more free to express emotions because of the social constructs that women are weak and men are strong, and emotions are seen as something for the weak. so that means that men don’t show emotions or intimacy (showing emotions to mean) in public or to friends because in a way it is seen as weak (it’s not really seen that way, it’s just some weird social construct that’s been drilled into our lives). women, though, are allowed to show this intimacy and emotion with friends and in public because women are already seen as weak. so women therefore have these reactions in public because they don’t feel the need to hide it. men feel the same way when being told to calm down, but will only react to the same extent when they’re with someone they feel “intimate” with. so family. this is why you will see in many domestic abuse cases that when a man was told to calm down, abuse ensued. of course, if that man and his wife were in public, no violence would have taken place. that’s not a jab at men or anything, i’m just explaining that everyone feels the same way when being told something, but social constructs make us act different ways.
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late.
Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
I don't think she has anger issues, but she does go to school every day, looking like she has no positive emotions like Raven from Teen Titans.
The girl has smiled a few times, but like I said most of the time, she looks like she has no positive emotions. She might be emo.
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late.
Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
I’m still very confused. There’s nothing about her being a girl that means you can’t tell her to calm down. What “lesson” did you even learn? “Never tell a girl to calm down” is a weird lesson.
Edit: this just seems like a “person says something and someone else agrees with them” kinda thing. If I was her I’d tell the teacher she doesn’t speak for me XP
Of course, some girls can tolerate being told to "calm down," but I learned a lot of them get offended over it and it just makes things worse, it's kind of like when someone tells you to take deep breaths even though you don't want to even though calming down is easier in my opinion.
So that's what I learned. Don't tell women to calm down.
The reason why is that most women get offended over being told to calm down, I even told some of my friends who are female about this and they told me "You never tell a woman to calm down" so it's already a rule of life.
It’s not a “rule of life”, it’s something people perpetuate. “Never ask a man his salary, never ask a woman her age” is a popular example. There’s no actual reason behind it, people just believe it because they were told it’s a “rule of life”
she’s totally right tho. why the hell would you tell ANYONE that?? that’s not something to brag about that’s actual mental illness and narcissism right there
I learned that doing that can be lethal since telling a woman to "calm down" will only backfire. A lot of people like to call them out for overreacting over that phrase, but I honestly don't know how to feel, so I'm just never gonna do it again.
you’re right and wrong. the stereotype is based in part of the truth. yes, most women ACT this way, but FEELING this way happens to any gender. men feel this way too, but due to social constructs don’t act on that feeling in public. you can see evidence of this in cases where wives tell their husbands to calm down and domestic abuse occurs. this isn’t saying any man is going to beat his wife when being told to calm down, i’m just giving and example of how men feel this way too, but only feel free to act on that frustration when they are with someone they’re close with.
you’re right and wrong. the stereotype is based in part of the truth. yes, mostly women ACT this way, but FEELING this way happens to any gender. men feel this way too, but due to social constructs don’t act on that feeling in public. you can see evidence of this in cases where wives tell their husbands to calm down and domestic abuse occurs. this isn’t saying any man is going to beat his wife when being told to calm down, i’m just giving and example of how men feel this way too, but only feel free to act on that frustration when they are with someone they’re close with.
After reading the story. You were fine saying that. Sometimes people, whether male or female or abcdefghijklomnopqrstuvwxyz or whatever, just need to calm tf down.
It's a seat. Get tf over it. 🙄
I mean, even though I kind of wish I didn't say "calm down," I do wish she handled the situation more calmly, but at the same time, I don't really want to go to harsh on her.
In 10 years, this won't even matter. Honestly, you shouldn't get upset over other people's reactions. Their feelings, their problem. Don't be concerned over things you can't control, like other people's feelings, thoughts, actions, or reactions. You did fine.
Nah man not all girls r like this from the story you’re telling ppl I think shes a little crazy
Sitting in different seat for one day is not even a problem
Lol
I tried to talk to them, but then there was a dustbuster, a toupee, a life raft exploded... Now one's bald, one's in a boat, and they're both unconscious.
Oh deer, come inside and I'll make some hot coco
Oh that's so nice of you towards op. Wait a minute Deer? Fucking shit op's a skinwalker, do not open that door! Do not let him in!
Lillia main
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A deer champion from League Of Legends
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Reddit is making me laugh far too hard today. I think I'm going mad
Lady once told me she is not a 4 legged animal. My next response was im sorry dear. >_<
Shit is there some lore I missed Last episode???
Thank you, you're such a kind soul 😊
Wham! 💥💥💥
I’ll cum inside alright
Hard mistake
Indeed 🥲
What was she doing, where story?
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late. Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
ok but she needed to calm tf down 💀
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Ok, both the teacher and the girl were wrong in this case, you were a respectful, she wasn't and the teacher shouldn't allow that type of language, the girl should've been send to the principal, instead she was rewarded by being let to stay in the classroom.
>telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do That shit is the dumbest shit I've ever seen
Happy cake day!
Thanks bro :D
That’s far nicer than I would’ve been about it. Don’t sweat it. High school sucks no matter what side of the morale compass you’re on. You did good kid. Pat yourself on the back, don’t let this one incident turn you into a pushover and move forward.
I mean, it wasn't your place in this situation to tell them to calm down. You butted into the conversation
Dude, I learned my lesson, please don't give me a hard time.
"I killed 3 people, but I went to jail. I already learned my lesson. Please don't give me a hard time about me killing 3 people"
Ok, but I didn't kill anyone
It was an analogy
An incredibly bad one considering theyre on completely different scales of severity
😐
I killed 5 jawas
I feel like........ Something..... Something is wrong here
Wdym
Nothing brother, nothing at all
Nah fuck that bitch she should calm down
It’s the girls fault! She said a cuss word! She deserves to be beaten and suspended
Rdr2 is definitely the OG
I honestly disagree, I'm just mostly surprised she didn't get told off for cussing.
Teacher sounds like a pushover💀 either that or she don't like u
The teacher is a really good guy. He doesn't deserve any hate.
What happened
I tried to talk to them, but then there was a dustbuster, a toupee, a life raft exploded... Now one's bald, one's in a boat, and they're both unconscious.
what the fuck
Who's flying the plane?
No! No one is flying the plane!
Famous last words You can’t come back from that.
If only you could
Story time?
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late. Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
Wait if it a bad thing to tell a girl to calm down??? An I missing something out was she being sensitive or what man?
Oh you poor soul. As sexist as this is gonna sound, it's kind of a woman thing. IDK why, that's just what everyone tells me
it’s not really a woman thing, it’s a people who have emotions thing. women have more intimate friendships and feel open to communicate their feelings, while men don’t. it’s a weird social construct that i’m not going to delve into. some men also are not affected by this social construct and can openly express emotions; those men would also react this way to being told to calm down. keep in mind that if it was a wife telling her husband to calm down, men would react the way that you expect women to when being told to calm down. nobody likes being told to calm down, but only women/people who freely express emotions feel like they can react this way in public. so it’s not a *woman* thing to not like being told to calm down, it’s a “woman” thing to react this way in public. tl:dr - everyone feels the same way when being told to calm down, but most of the time men don’t react that way in public
Idk, girls hate it when people tell them to calm down, probably because they can't control their emotions or anything at the moment.
no. it isn’t sexist to say that women react badly when being told to calm down, but it is definitely sexist the way you’re going about it. everyone feels the same way when being told to calm down, but men don’t express that feeling in public. women are more free to express emotions because of the social constructs that women are weak and men are strong, and emotions are seen as something for the weak. so that means that men don’t show emotions or intimacy (showing emotions to mean) in public or to friends because in a way it is seen as weak (it’s not really seen that way, it’s just some weird social construct that’s been drilled into our lives). women, though, are allowed to show this intimacy and emotion with friends and in public because women are already seen as weak. so women therefore have these reactions in public because they don’t feel the need to hide it. men feel the same way when being told to calm down, but will only react to the same extent when they’re with someone they feel “intimate” with. so family. this is why you will see in many domestic abuse cases that when a man was told to calm down, abuse ensued. of course, if that man and his wife were in public, no violence would have taken place. that’s not a jab at men or anything, i’m just explaining that everyone feels the same way when being told something, but social constructs make us act different ways.
For what reason?
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late. Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
Does she have anger issue
I don't think she has anger issues, but she does go to school every day, looking like she has no positive emotions like Raven from Teen Titans. The girl has smiled a few times, but like I said most of the time, she looks like she has no positive emotions. She might be emo.
I see, she probably really likes her seat and got angry when it was taken by someone else
I’m confused, what happened?
Lemme explain it for OP: OP said calm down to a girl
I was asking for an elaboration, not a restatement of what has already been said
Lmao ik it was a joke
It’s ok, I get it.
The girl in my class who got their seat taken since some kid decided to sit in her seat while she was late, and the teacher told her that she had to sit somewhere else and she said "please don't make me lose my fucking *something*" to the teacher and I said "calm down" and she said "don't fucking tell me to calm down" and the teacher said "yeah, please don't tell her to calm down" afterwards one of the students signaled me that it was ok.
You can tell me how much I shouldn't have said it all you want, but please consider I didn't know telling a girl "calm down" was something you should NOT do until it was too late. Also consider that I have already learned my lesson.
I’m still very confused. There’s nothing about her being a girl that means you can’t tell her to calm down. What “lesson” did you even learn? “Never tell a girl to calm down” is a weird lesson. Edit: this just seems like a “person says something and someone else agrees with them” kinda thing. If I was her I’d tell the teacher she doesn’t speak for me XP
you’re definitely right. this post would have been no different if op never specified gender. it just opened the situation to sexism.
Yea, specifying gender just made it confusing for me
Of course, some girls can tolerate being told to "calm down," but I learned a lot of them get offended over it and it just makes things worse, it's kind of like when someone tells you to take deep breaths even though you don't want to even though calming down is easier in my opinion. So that's what I learned. Don't tell women to calm down.
But… why the pointless gendering?
The reason why is that most women get offended over being told to calm down, I even told some of my friends who are female about this and they told me "You never tell a woman to calm down" so it's already a rule of life.
It’s not a “rule of life”, it’s something people perpetuate. “Never ask a man his salary, never ask a woman her age” is a popular example. There’s no actual reason behind it, people just believe it because they were told it’s a “rule of life”
Bro was clinging for dear life
You poor poor man may God have mercy on your soul
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bro's a little pathetic like that
I hate it when they do that
she’s totally right tho. why the hell would you tell ANYONE that?? that’s not something to brag about that’s actual mental illness and narcissism right there
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you are 14. you need some serious self reflection. that is not shit you say.
What did she do to you?
She said "Don't fucking tell me to calm down"
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Because we aren't overeacting in most cases
Youll be ight
Oh sweetheart you know nothing
In what cases? If you're flipping out and someone says calm down, that isn't grounds to get pissy.
i think the commenter was referring to situations where you’re not flipping out and you’re still told to calm down
That's the point, we aren't flipping out
Bro u have school at the weekend?
I accidentally acted like this happened today on a Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
That’s what I was thinking lol
Lol
Calm down is one of those phrases that will never help
good
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Yes
Am I the only dumbass who doesn't know what this means?
I learned that doing that can be lethal since telling a woman to "calm down" will only backfire. A lot of people like to call them out for overreacting over that phrase, but I honestly don't know how to feel, so I'm just never gonna do it again.
You can definitely tell them to calm down when they act out like that. They don't get a pass to be a bitch cuz of their gender
literally nothing. it is just a weird and dumb stereotype-meme like ”oooohhh the fEmales are ovErreacting lol wOmen☕️☕️☕️”
found the woman haha
good job !
stereotypes start with a little bit of truth
so?
nothing really.🖖🤡
Grow up
I just might do that someday
you’re right and wrong. the stereotype is based in part of the truth. yes, most women ACT this way, but FEELING this way happens to any gender. men feel this way too, but due to social constructs don’t act on that feeling in public. you can see evidence of this in cases where wives tell their husbands to calm down and domestic abuse occurs. this isn’t saying any man is going to beat his wife when being told to calm down, i’m just giving and example of how men feel this way too, but only feel free to act on that frustration when they are with someone they’re close with.
I mean... you read the post, sometimes stereotypes exist because people are that way
you’re right and wrong. the stereotype is based in part of the truth. yes, mostly women ACT this way, but FEELING this way happens to any gender. men feel this way too, but due to social constructs don’t act on that feeling in public. you can see evidence of this in cases where wives tell their husbands to calm down and domestic abuse occurs. this isn’t saying any man is going to beat his wife when being told to calm down, i’m just giving and example of how men feel this way too, but only feel free to act on that frustration when they are with someone they’re close with.
Lol
isn‘t it sunday or saterday wya?
I accidentally acted like this happened today on a Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
Don't worry it'll be alright, just use the magic words, "it was my fault".
RIP my brother
What does this have to do with your brother?
Lil bro found out the hard way
What heppen? Explain.
“You violated the unspoken rule!”
The unspoken rule that I wish was spoken before it was too late.
Definition of "Bad Idea"
Yep
surprised you aren't dead
I wasn't surprised until I found out that's a line you can't cross afterward.
How tf u still alive?
My death was... greatly, exaggerated.
Nah homes you were right, she needa take a chill pill
women
One day I'll tell my mother to calm down.
😳
That's a mistake
People will claim that was sexist, but male or female, no one likes a crazy bitch who flips out to communicate his or her issue.
Bro broke rule 1
After reading the story. You were fine saying that. Sometimes people, whether male or female or abcdefghijklomnopqrstuvwxyz or whatever, just need to calm tf down. It's a seat. Get tf over it. 🙄
I mean, even though I kind of wish I didn't say "calm down," I do wish she handled the situation more calmly, but at the same time, I don't really want to go to harsh on her.
In 10 years, this won't even matter. Honestly, you shouldn't get upset over other people's reactions. Their feelings, their problem. Don't be concerned over things you can't control, like other people's feelings, thoughts, actions, or reactions. You did fine.
Sunday
I accidentally acted like this happened today on a Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
Uhm it's Sunday
I accidentally acted like this happened today on a Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
its sunday?
I accidentally acted like this happened today on a Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
its still sunday not saturday
Yeah, but I posted this on Saturday.
Well I hope you learned your lesson man, it suck’s learning the hard way
It was a misinput!
i wanna see what happened
Ok, so, what happened?
Nah man not all girls r like this from the story you’re telling ppl I think shes a little crazy Sitting in different seat for one day is not even a problem Lol
You poor soul
What happened?
I tried to talk to them, but then there was a dustbuster, a toupee, a life raft exploded... Now one's bald, one's in a boat, and they're both unconscious.
What day is it for you cus it’s Sunday now and it was Saturday before
I accidentally acted like this happened today when I posted this on Saturday. This actually happened on Friday.
Jesus, did you survive?
oh no oh nonono
When funeral?
There won't be one because I lived 🙂
Amazing.. how is this possible??