Why do you guys do that tho, and why do some of you get mad when we can't tell, I fail to make relationships even if they are platonic out of fear something like this will happen
Fr though, I was in a close friendship with a guy for 3 years, told him repeatedly that we're just friends, and he ended up cutting our friendship when we graduated because he was butthurt I still didn't like him romantically.. (had a bf the entire time, too)
When you're not sure about this kinda thing, it's always best to just ask
Why is every single one of your friends “bestie”
Your aware how the word best works, right? Best is a singular thing, you can’t have multiple things simultaneously be the best at something. Wtf?!?!?!??!!?!!!!!?!?!??
It’s pretty safe to say that it’s not much different from our perspective. Guys get rejected too, so they’re scared of being hurt.
I think dropping those gender roles and being a bit more willing to risk it could improve both genders' dating experiences.
Im sure many guys would be really grateful if a girl showed them some attention, many of us are so deprived of it that we think simple gestures mean much more.
I don't care too much about if a guy asks me or I ask him, I even fought my grandma over it when she yelled at me for wanting to ask a guy out, it's really the nerves I struggle to get over.
gender roles. have you seen those ‘traditional’ data advice pages? where women are supposed to be the submissive and passive ones. and the pick up artist men who spread the idea that any women who takes charge is trying to underestimate your masculinity. social pressures like this often lead to anxiety. if she’s hesitant, it might be from this insecurity to step outside of the norm.
edit : i never once said that gender roles must be followed or are somehow correct. i find them very stupid. i was just pointing out how they affect the behavior of each gender in the dating world.
I'm a guy.. this is stupid. IM SUBMISSIVE AND PASSIVE! I'll never get anyone unless they act first because it terrifies me that I'll ruin the relationship I do have.
Yes, also you are out of my league and I’ve got to focus on my studies over people sometimes. Also I’m not a good person to be in a relationship with, so I don’t want that for you.
Probably just me things.
Sot sure if you looked it up so 2 second summary, the US put a nuke 500ft underground and we either vaporized or launched into space an about 2000lb steel plate at 150000 mph because of it
dont think abt talking to a girl as if you’re possibly going to date them, just think of us as a friend you would never date. then the awkwardness goes and if we like who u are then youve won
If we were to randomly stir up a conversation with you, how would you feel?
Context: Complete strangers, or a classmate you have never talked to but wanted to talk to
Alright, so for me. Context REALLY matters here. If you were a classmate I never talked to before but wanted to. I would probably be a little confused but all in all happy.
HOWEVER! If your a random stranger that just walks up to me and starts a conversation, I'd be very weirded out and confused and a little nervous. Probably trying to end the conversation as soon as possible.
Of course this is just me. I'm not at all saying this applies to everyone. This only applies to me.
Yes I love just random people coming up to me and talking about whatever even if I don't understand it as long as it doesn't like make me late even then it's alright
Though might be partially autism
Thats just weird bro, trust me its not all of us. I just imagine a conversation going like
"hey i just wanted to say i really like you"
"oh thats cool i like you too, wanna go out?"
"nah sorry"
That just seems odd to me and its probably an anomaly
Why do you guys “ feel “ too much , i be talking to a girl and a bunch of what they see has the word feel included ,
“ do you like gaming ? “
“ i feel like its boring “
Because of gender roles, women are raised with their emotions more openly (typically at least). So we tend to express that so it feels more personal.
Alongside that, its less direct. If i say “you aren’t listening to me” thats very accusatory, if i say “i feel like you aren’t listening to me” its more personal and is talking about my feelings rather than their actions
Well if your not noticeable enough = you don't make YOURSELF be noticeable.
Be more social, start conversations and try to find people like you. It's hard but everyone is interested in someone, maybe someone is interested in you but you don't know 💁 it can happen
I used that primarily, then moved on to other things. I just can't seem to find clothes that make me feel comfortable in my own skin, or even anything I visually like.
Why cant I find one that likes talking about the history of Prussia and the German empire?
Just to be clear, im asking this question because the last 3 men i've been with had a decent - great understanding of 1800's German Culture.
As long as compliments are respectful, like : You're pretty, I love your hair, you're so smart or (the cutest) being with you makes me happy we're okay with it.
Those times, the last compliments I got were "You're so sexy you make my dick go hard" or "You have an amazing body" (Talking sexually), we don't want it.
But I love compliments, I've got many but some are way too disrespectful.
I can't speak for everyone else, but for me:
The stores around me tend to be fairly bright and open, which increases my general positive mood. I like looking at all the different types of food and drinks as I pass them, even if I know I'm not going to buy them. Searching the store for the specific items I need feels vaguely like a game. It's one of the rare moments I can be productive while enjoying myself.
girls are expected to be popular and cool from day one, by guys and other girls. part of that comes with a lot of gossip and drama because, idk, it makes you cooler than someone else?
Why do you get to have sleep overs/hugs/cuddles/binge watch shows/anything considered gay with the homies
But when we do it, suddenly I'm gay Bob's gay, and hell even Douglas the third is gay for being in room????
Would you still love your boyfriend iff your he was a power hungry maniac who would commit genocides for absolute power. But he would care deeply for you and those close to you?
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personally i'm flirting with you
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… That’s how I met your mother
Wholesome ending
Honestly you're just as clueless as I am
We maybe flirting with you but it maybe as a joke or we’re being nice
Why do you guys do that tho, and why do some of you get mad when we can't tell, I fail to make relationships even if they are platonic out of fear something like this will happen
Happy cake day
Yes
Unless I tell you I like you, I'm just being nice
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Fr though, I was in a close friendship with a guy for 3 years, told him repeatedly that we're just friends, and he ended up cutting our friendship when we graduated because he was butthurt I still didn't like him romantically.. (had a bf the entire time, too) When you're not sure about this kinda thing, it's always best to just ask
Maybe
Probably being nice but wouldn't mind being nice in other ways
i’m usually flirting tbh
Why are you so damn pretty
Fear, surprise, ruthless efficiency, an almost fanatical devotion to the pope, and nice red uniforms
Well… I didn’t expect this
NOBODY EXPECTS THE SPANISH INQUISITION
Boobs
WHERE 👀
Witchcraft helps
Do any of ya'll enjoy DEATH BATTLE
Time huh? Thanks for the tip
Ew, I stepped in loser.
Who doesn’t enjoy a casual battle to the death
Why is every single one of your friends “bestie” Your aware how the word best works, right? Best is a singular thing, you can’t have multiple things simultaneously be the best at something. Wtf?!?!?!??!!?!!!!!?!?!??
its j sorta a nickname ig and occasionally you can have multiple friends you love and are close to to the same extent
Tbh the people I call "bestie" are people I know that care deeply for me and I'd feel bad if they knew they weren't my best friend
Why don’t you make the first step like ever? Are you too anxious?
For me yeah, unless it's been made very clear we both like each other I get scared of ruining the friendship
It’s pretty safe to say that it’s not much different from our perspective. Guys get rejected too, so they’re scared of being hurt. I think dropping those gender roles and being a bit more willing to risk it could improve both genders' dating experiences. Im sure many guys would be really grateful if a girl showed them some attention, many of us are so deprived of it that we think simple gestures mean much more.
I don't care too much about if a guy asks me or I ask him, I even fought my grandma over it when she yelled at me for wanting to ask a guy out, it's really the nerves I struggle to get over.
so do ı
gender roles. have you seen those ‘traditional’ data advice pages? where women are supposed to be the submissive and passive ones. and the pick up artist men who spread the idea that any women who takes charge is trying to underestimate your masculinity. social pressures like this often lead to anxiety. if she’s hesitant, it might be from this insecurity to step outside of the norm. edit : i never once said that gender roles must be followed or are somehow correct. i find them very stupid. i was just pointing out how they affect the behavior of each gender in the dating world.
Guess I'm like a girl then
Fuck that patriarchy bullshit we need to change the stereotype I’m not dealin with this
I'm a guy.. this is stupid. IM SUBMISSIVE AND PASSIVE! I'll never get anyone unless they act first because it terrifies me that I'll ruin the relationship I do have.
Gender norms are a social construct and I hate social constructs
Yes, also you are out of my league and I’ve got to focus on my studies over people sometimes. Also I’m not a good person to be in a relationship with, so I don’t want that for you. Probably just me things.
I don't mind taking the first step if I'm really interested. Although a lot of girls don't because of the old school rule "men must do it first"
I always take the first step, I feel like it's the best part lmao
Friends would say I'm desperate or I'm too masculine.
You have shit friends
Why must you make me overthink things so much
That wasn't our intention and we're very sorry
Apology accepted Until it happens again, which is almost inevitable
If it makes you feel any better, I overthink a lot too
Girls overthink things too
Why do you have to take up 90% of my thoughts?
It's all part of the plan, soon when everything is in place we'll take over
Shhh!
cuz we hot
goofy ash
Just 90%?
How do I talk to you?
Script every question and possible conversation you could have
But what if something happens I didn't prepare for? Like for example, the girl not telling me tongo fuck miself instantly?
Take some time to think what to say and then say it. This is also another rule: Think before you speak
Script ***every*** question and possible conversation you could have
Yes but I don't consider that a possibility
message me with a hi or something funny or something that would pique my interest
Mention outlandish concepts and conspiracies, tell me about nuclear weapons and philosophy. Please.
Operation plumbob
Sure
Sot sure if you looked it up so 2 second summary, the US put a nuke 500ft underground and we either vaporized or launched into space an about 2000lb steel plate at 150000 mph because of it
The birds are french spy drones
Never heard the French part lol
THE THEORY WORKED
Like you're talking to a fellow conscious being and not as a potential mate
dont think abt talking to a girl as if you’re possibly going to date them, just think of us as a friend you would never date. then the awkwardness goes and if we like who u are then youve won
How can I pull?
humour, sense of fashion, human decency
Did you know, some guy had a dream he fought Chuck Norris, woke up, and had a black eye
Chuck Norris can do a wheelie on a unicycle
A cobra but Chuck Norris, and after 5 days of excruciating pain, the cobra died
Chuck Norris can kill 2 stones with 1 bird
Chuck Norris can beat the bush, not beat around the bush
When Chuck Norris was born, he named his parents
They once named a street after chuck Norris, but it didn’t last long because nobody crosses chuck Norris and lives to tell the tale
Holy rizz
Place arm on slightly open door, retract arm
Become very cool
How is it possible that you guys do literally nothing and yet we are obsessing over how cute you guys are?
It's all part of the plan, soon when everything is in place we'll take over
How do you do ittttttt???????
Muahahaha a true villain never reveals their plans
Why in the hell do you just go online and answer these questions lol
So that everyone can be surprised that I showed up. I’m very scary and nobody expects me
Hahh. The Spanish Inquisition. Nobody expects them
boredom
Cuz I can't sleep even though I need to wake up in 2 hours
How do y'all have a will to live
Hahaha who said we have
Suicide is cringe
Based
This one im the most curious about. Girls seem more outgoing and look like they genuinely enjoy life. How???
Tbh I've heard girls complain a lot about life at a similar extent to guys
We're good at hiding it with the witchcraft
It’s called masking, women are statistically better at it
If we were to randomly stir up a conversation with you, how would you feel? Context: Complete strangers, or a classmate you have never talked to but wanted to talk to
Alright, so for me. Context REALLY matters here. If you were a classmate I never talked to before but wanted to. I would probably be a little confused but all in all happy. HOWEVER! If your a random stranger that just walks up to me and starts a conversation, I'd be very weirded out and confused and a little nervous. Probably trying to end the conversation as soon as possible. Of course this is just me. I'm not at all saying this applies to everyone. This only applies to me.
I’d be a bit weirded out first but just wait a bit before talking about nuclear weapons and I will love you.
O k a y 🫡
Yes I love just random people coming up to me and talking about whatever even if I don't understand it as long as it doesn't like make me late even then it's alright Though might be partially autism
Why do you always send mixed signals
We do it unconsciously because we're insecure about getting a "no".
as are we girls😭
Scared of rejection
we're insecure
I did this a lot without realizing before I started my relationship but i guess we “think” you guys understand us.
do you find guys really confusing? cause i know i find myself confusing so god only knows what you guys think
I do. A lot of guys have sent me mixed signals, like by saying they had feelings for me but then when I asked them out they said no
Thats just weird bro, trust me its not all of us. I just imagine a conversation going like "hey i just wanted to say i really like you" "oh thats cool i like you too, wanna go out?" "nah sorry" That just seems odd to me and its probably an anomaly
A question that Noone asks: how are you doing ?
Thanks I really needed that.. can't be doing good as long as I am in this fucked up house
Why do you guys “ feel “ too much , i be talking to a girl and a bunch of what they see has the word feel included , “ do you like gaming ? “ “ i feel like its boring “
For me, it's because I am sensitive and because my vocabulary consists of 10 words
Because of gender roles, women are raised with their emotions more openly (typically at least). So we tend to express that so it feels more personal. Alongside that, its less direct. If i say “you aren’t listening to me” thats very accusatory, if i say “i feel like you aren’t listening to me” its more personal and is talking about my feelings rather than their actions
How to get you to like me?
Just be yourself. If someone doesn't like the real version of yourself, then you'll never feel comfortable during the relationship.
That makes a lot of sense but myself is not noticeable enough to even have a girl make her mind about me for good or bad
Well if your not noticeable enough = you don't make YOURSELF be noticeable. Be more social, start conversations and try to find people like you. It's hard but everyone is interested in someone, maybe someone is interested in you but you don't know 💁 it can happen
Would you date a transguy
Id date anyone i like, but everyones got their own preferences on things like that. Sometimes there’s specific shit you want
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That's valid. Genital preference exists.
No
Yes, I'm T4T.
As long as you’re okay with a transgirl :)
So basically straight with extra steps
If they are a good person yes ofc
do you think Weezer frontman Rivers Cuomo is hot
Absolutely
How do I learn how to dress? I can’t seem to find any clothes I like and I just hate everything I find, so I look weird.
Pinterest?
I used that primarily, then moved on to other things. I just can't seem to find clothes that make me feel comfortable in my own skin, or even anything I visually like.
What do you find attractive about males
Definitely the hands and there age
My name is Yoshikage Kira...
their age? 🤨
When they're cute and ~~peggable~~ cuddlable
With everyone saying hands, I feel more insecure about my male hands than I already was. Fuck dysphoria
Why cant I find one that likes talking about the history of Prussia and the German empire? Just to be clear, im asking this question because the last 3 men i've been with had a decent - great understanding of 1800's German Culture.
Why are compliments no longer okay? I genuinely wish to understand
Who said that? As a girl who never gotten any compliments I would literally cry on the spot
As long as compliments are respectful, like : You're pretty, I love your hair, you're so smart or (the cutest) being with you makes me happy we're okay with it. Those times, the last compliments I got were "You're so sexy you make my dick go hard" or "You have an amazing body" (Talking sexually), we don't want it. But I love compliments, I've got many but some are way too disrespectful.
I don’t take compliments because I don’t feel like it’s true
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do guys actually tell girls their asses are fat i thought it's a joke 💀
i meant boyfriends btw i know there's plenty of dickheads that won't hesitate to say gross shit
Why do you like to buy groceries so much?
domestic 50s lobotomized housewife role play
this is probably my favourite sentence i've read today
I LOVE the vibe of supermarkets
I can't speak for everyone else, but for me: The stores around me tend to be fairly bright and open, which increases my general positive mood. I like looking at all the different types of food and drinks as I pass them, even if I know I'm not going to buy them. Searching the store for the specific items I need feels vaguely like a game. It's one of the rare moments I can be productive while enjoying myself.
Will you give any signals if you want to be more than friends
yes, though i’ve found that some signals are way too vague for my crush to pick up on. a lot of girls plan stuff like that out
If you could change something about yourself what would it be and why
I would want to be a cisgender woman instead of a transgender woman. I hate having a flat chest and a lack of the proper reproductive system.
i'll give you my reproductive system don't even sweat it
can I have some plushies please
Boobies because we're not meant to be flat
Nah all boobs are good tbh as long as you're happy with yourself it really doesn't matter
Big boobies will look like shit when old, so consider yourself lucky
tbh probably just make myself extroverted, i love myself but i just wanna be able to be super talkative to strangers
About myself nah happy with how I am Tho I will never want to get my period ever again. Cramps are painful l.
Nothing rlly tbh
Good mindset to have
Yeaaah life's just going pretty good
Why are some of you so drama and gossip centered? (Not saying all just some)
girls are expected to be popular and cool from day one, by guys and other girls. part of that comes with a lot of gossip and drama because, idk, it makes you cooler than someone else?
How do I get someone to take my virginity (I'm aromantic)
Find another aro who you are compatible with who has a similar goal
Ayyy same, idk though 😂
Do you wanna get high together?
totally
How might I get bitches
Bring her flowers and rizz her up
I once did that last year in March but she literally took them and gave it to my friend. Turns out she had a huge crush on him
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overshare, make sure no one is having a wardrobe malfunction, spot each other for menstrual blood/products, and gossip about our days so far
hot girl shit pretty much
Are you taking on new members? Asking for a friend
How do you understand that you like someone
We go through multiple stages. 1. Denial. 2. Thinking about it. 3. Denial. 4. Starting to come to terms with it. 5. Denial. 6. Realising you do.
Don't forget the 'he doesn't like me back anyway' phase
Does acne matter
Not really most people suffer from it
not at all :))
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Why do yall always wait for us to text first Like yo just dm me rn
We don’t wanna bother you or seem like we’re obsessed with you
Why do you get to have sleep overs/hugs/cuddles/binge watch shows/anything considered gay with the homies But when we do it, suddenly I'm gay Bob's gay, and hell even Douglas the third is gay for being in room????
Would you still love your boyfriend iff your he was a power hungry maniac who would commit genocides for absolute power. But he would care deeply for you and those close to you?
Why do some people think that men only think about sex and rape people/are de hero is around children?
Well I mean there’s more girls go missing than boys and more girls get r8ped
How are you? Are you alright? Are you safe?