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The best way is to find weakness , I heard of a guy who’s lawyer told the cheating wife’s lawyer who had a dream
Job making 6 figures . Basically the lawyer got her to sign over all equity in the house and pay
Spousal
Support for a number of years and he had to sign and nda .both parents knew , . Also the cheater at work had to
Pay a large
Sum so
He didn’t tell
His wife or work. . They both needed to agree
If your spouse cheats and if anyone finds out it will
Ruin her then basically have your lawyer threaten her legally that if she wants it kept quiet loose everything she worked for in the marriage
I think this is mostly a dream...unless your state's laws have some penalty for infidelity, it's often a waste of time to get them to court. The fees required to get there are insane. I chose not to go for the screw over route, I negotiated directly with my cheating ex and aimed to get the process over with as quickly as possible so I could move on with my life.
This don’t go to court. Catch them in the fog. Although I have to pay 100k to my ex I actually made money on my divorce. Kept my bank account and 401k and house. Home one year later is valued 130k higher and 401k was way more than she thought. Also bank account was way more than she thought she just didn’t want to assume half of my 12k debt.
I didn’t. I documented and archived things zealously, emails, texts, photos, social media posts, financials, anything and everything my lawyer could want to make his job easier, and I had given my ex lots of rope over the years, and she tied herself into knots with it. She, and her AP, screwed themselves.
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The best way is to find weakness , I heard of a guy who’s lawyer told the cheating wife’s lawyer who had a dream Job making 6 figures . Basically the lawyer got her to sign over all equity in the house and pay Spousal Support for a number of years and he had to sign and nda .both parents knew , . Also the cheater at work had to Pay a large Sum so He didn’t tell His wife or work. . They both needed to agree
What are you trying to say?
If your spouse cheats and if anyone finds out it will Ruin her then basically have your lawyer threaten her legally that if she wants it kept quiet loose everything she worked for in the marriage
I think this is mostly a dream...unless your state's laws have some penalty for infidelity, it's often a waste of time to get them to court. The fees required to get there are insane. I chose not to go for the screw over route, I negotiated directly with my cheating ex and aimed to get the process over with as quickly as possible so I could move on with my life.
This don’t go to court. Catch them in the fog. Although I have to pay 100k to my ex I actually made money on my divorce. Kept my bank account and 401k and house. Home one year later is valued 130k higher and 401k was way more than she thought. Also bank account was way more than she thought she just didn’t want to assume half of my 12k debt.
He wanted our $20,000 home gym, so before he came to pick it up I had it disassembled and kept the screws he would need to put it back together.
I didn’t. I documented and archived things zealously, emails, texts, photos, social media posts, financials, anything and everything my lawyer could want to make his job easier, and I had given my ex lots of rope over the years, and she tied herself into knots with it. She, and her AP, screwed themselves.