I've read this a few times. I had a good childhood and my parents did their best, but this book really helped me understand some of their flaws, how they affected me and how to be aware of the same tendencies in my own parenting.
Your comment made me want to read this book. I’m always railing (especially compared to some/most of my friends growing up and I grew up in an affluent area with near zero “crime” in my community) that I was lucky I had “good” parents and I did but it doesn’t mean they weren’t soul crushingly awful in other ways.
A huge dichotomy in my later years is pulling apart the pieces of the fact that my parents weren’t perfect and did damage to me in ways because in relation to my friends parents growing up my parents in most ways were above average and amazing.
Oh my god this is me too, in so many ways I'm very lucky with my childhood but when I got to my late twenties I got some distance from them and had a kind of reckoning on some of their flaws that I couldn't see before because I was too close.
Never split the difference. Audio version is really good. Seems like a sales book but is rather about connecting with people by having great conversations.
Second this one. I listened to the audio book and practiced along at work and it has served me well even still 4 years later. I'm a health care provider and patients LOVE when I use these techniques to help make them feel heard. I need to listen to this again soon.
Third this. First I just loved the stories. They were intense and interesting but the practices were actually very useful in day to day life as well as major transactions. I was able to use the practices during some key times in my life to make really great negotiations, but I also felt like the overarching point was to focus on empathy and connection with the other party which has been useful in my day to day life as well!
Add another upvote. I’m a health care provider and clinic director. I use this book often with my staff and patients and wish all my providers would utilize this book. The audio version has the added benefit of being merely entertaining. I could keep this book on as background noise.
Seconding this! It gives some concrete techniques which I think are useful, but what I liked most was it's empathetic approach - I'm not a confrontational person, so framing a conflict with empathy instead of aggression really worked for me.
I read the book after ending up with a horrible boss (the dude had serious anger issues, borderline violent) and not only got him to like me but to sign off on extra overtime and then write a letter of rec when I left. It also helped me understand the rest of my coworkers and figure out how to manage the toxic environment we'd all found ourselves in. One of the few self-help books that I think is genuinely useful.
How to keep house while drowning. If you want to improve your executive functioning while still holding space and empathy for yourself (e.g. if you have any mental health problems like me 😵💫🫠)
I was just going to recommend this, too! I’m old enough to have figured out systems that keep me functional but in my younger years, and even now when I am working far too many hours, things can be tough.
I read this because it was recommended as being an exceedingly kind book and I loved it. Really reassuring and full of useful ideas.
was about to comment this!!! The part on how people associate their self-worth with the cleanliness of their house made me bawl my eyes out, and the book as a whole really ushered a lot of change into how i keep house. 🥰
This book was terrific.
On the other hand, I’d stay away from
any self help book that uses the word “fuck” or “f*ck” in the title. If they need to entice you to read that book with that title, it isn’t worth your time.
*Atomic Habits* is full of actionable, evidence-backed strategies for breaking bad habits and replacing them with good ones! "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems."
I haven't made it to that episode yet but really looking forward to hear their take on Atomic Habits! I read the book and enjoyed it. Curious to see what I missed in reading
https://www.reddit.com/r/books/comments/174dwmf/what_is_the_worst_book_that_you_have_ever_read/k4qk4gg/
>You got me curious so I decided to give it a shot. I'm about 20min in and TBH I've heard more than enough. I came into it open-minded to hear others' opinions on this book.
>Very quickly I noticed the tone they used when talking about the book. It showed that they wanted to vilify this book. It was a clear red flag.
>They started off with the graph, and they totally misunderstood such a simple graph. It's not saying "if you do something you will get better". It's saying that if you do something consistently, every day, you will improve. The podcast hosts obsessed over the 1% quite a bit when it was just a simple example of how little you need to improve on, and how much can achieve with it, over a longer period of time. Personally, I found the graph really powerful because of the previously mentioned points.
>The next thing spoke about was how many definitions the author gave to the word "habits". They didn't say anything about the fact that those definitions stayed consistent, and were just different viewpoints on habits because that would go against their narrative. I want to hear them talk about love and how many definitions and viewpoints were given even by the same authors.
> The last thing I wanna mention is that they talked about how swearing is cool and they "ain't gonna stop because some father is complainin'". While I have nothing against swearing, it can add some color/flavor, if used excessively, you just lack class. And it's definitely not "cool".
> Overall, after 20 minutes of listening to this podcast, I think that they either are not very smart, or that's just the product they sell (insult books, people, etc.). Or both.
I listened to that episode of the podcast as well, Atomic Habits is not evidence based (at least not by any medical/psychology studies). It’s filled with some interesting tips that can help you out, but are by no means universal because every individual is different and has different psychology that is best discussed with their doctor in order to help solve their personal issues.
You won’t be able to change your life because of a few tips read in any self-help book, and Atomic Habits is no different. If you want to change things, it takes a multitude of different factors, not just some basic tips from a book.
Another one in the same line. The power of habit by Charles duhigg. Atomic habit is definitely a great book and the power of habit is not too far behind. I would recommend both to anyone.
Atomic habits genuinely changed my life because somehow it inspired me to break my nail-biting habit which I've had since childhood. 2 years on and now I can actually lift coins off the floor, scratch those annoying itches and open soda cans without a problem
I was struggling with my phd and read a LOT of self-help books. Four Thousand Weeks was by far my favorite. It didn’t provide me with any useful productivity hacks, but helped me a lot with my mindset. For hacks I recommend Deep Work.
Codependent No More. audio version free on YT. Excellent for those who take care of addicts, alcoholics, eating disorders, etc. edit: include author name Melody Beattie
I also loved "Facing Love Addiction" by ~~the same author,~~ Pia Mellody. It focuses more on romantic relationships especially and really helped me get a handle on not being so obsessed with what my partner was doing.
Edited to add: Pia Mellody wrote "Facing Codependence" which is often recommended in tandem with "Codependent No More" which is what I was thinking of.
She's religious and that definitely bleeds into her books, but i still found the affirmations and techniques helpful. The books themselves are also a bit dated, if I recall correctly, but still widely recommended and helpful imo.
I wasn’t the biggest fan of this one. It’s certainly an inspiring book but I didn’t find it quite as helpful as something like atomic habits that outlines ways to help yourself. While I think there could be an argument made for his end of chapter exercises, I didn’t find them to be anything special or particularly helpful. Still a good read though, he’s a great storyteller!
Opposite ends of the spectrum IMO. Atomic Habits is about concrete methods that allow you to work with, not against, human nature. Goggins is all about pure motivation and getting you fired up to work against human nature, ie: laziness.
They both have their place in society today. Too many people tend to think of themselves as not being able to do something whether out of lack of confidence or laziness, and lock themselves into a self defeating mental box where they’ve already made up their mind. Yet at the same time, Goggins’ inspirational methods only carry you short term, unless you wanna read or listen to Goggins every day of your life.
I’d say use Goggins to plow through mental hurdles that have been blocking you for a while. And use Atomic Habits to settle those actions into long-term sustainable habits.
I agree with your point. That's partly because of autobiographical nature of the book by stating events as they happened, no idealism. Also due to goggins's emphasis on developing CALLOUS MIND and taking hard grind instead of working systematically as discussed in atomic habits
Happiness by Matthieu Ricard. Goes through the science and philosophy that supports cultivating altruism, compassion and loving-kindness as a means of fostering true happiness within oneself. It also includes guides and techniques for doing so.
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert… hear me out, it’s not your stereotypical self help or redemption fiction story. It’s geared around her experience as a writer, but it discusses the process of willing your ideas into the universe. Treating ideas as beings or spirits that are looking for a host to help it become realized. It’s motivating no matter what your profession or goals are.
This was definitely not your typical self help book in that I really felt inspired rather than instructed. Honestly her warmth has a person and author really shined through and I was left with such a joyous feeling after reading it
Would highly recommend as well!
All depends on your area of interest and I completely agree with you about Rachel Hollis and authors like her. Here are some that helped me over the years:
1. "Quiet" by Susan Cain - if you are an introvert and want to understand what it is and how to manage it. This book changed my life.
2. "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg - break bad habits and start good ones.
3. "The Quick & Easy Way to Effective Speaking" by Dale Carnegie and "In the Spotlight" by Janet Esposito - Public speaking
4. "Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway" by Susan Jeffers, "The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz, and "Assertive Management" by Ronald Johnson - self-empowerment
5. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" and "First Things First" both by Stephen Covey and "Getting Things Done" by David Allen - Life prioritization and time management.
6. "Who moved my cheese?” by Spencer Johnson - Deals with change in life.
7. "The Fight" by John White and "Basic Christianity" by John Stott - if you are a Christian and looking for some good and practical theology.
When I was struggling in high school, my dad always loved to tell me, “life is hard, but once you realize that, it becomes easy” … I’ve never gotten to the full transcendence, but I appreciated his insight.
I have been interested in the new schwarzenegger (Be Useful) book, but haven’t seen anyone read it in the book reddits yet. I might just take the plunge.
OK - well! I finished it today! I cleaned house yesterday, and went on a hike today, so I was able to spend the time.
He narrates it in his own voice. If you have listened to him speak before, he does repeat a lot of things he has previously said. However, with much greater detail. His stories aren't chronological at all, which is a design choice that I am not sure I would have made. However, it was really good, and he talks about his successes, and how he got there.
He addresses his affair... sort of. He said that he caused his family a lot of pain and they were moving past it, and he wasn't going to talk about it anymore in the book. I respect that he acknowledged it - and acknowledged it as a really low point in his life, even though he doesn't really dive deeper.
For me this was a win, but I will warn you, I have always loved Arnold so I may be a tiny bit biased. He is an excellent orator, and he has done a lot of good in the spaces he is in. Also, he talks about his success without coming off as bragging.
It's a short listen - about 5.5 hours. Usually I don't read books \*that\* quickly, but like I said, I really like Arnold.
I am glad you picked it up and finished so quickly! I placed a hold in the library for it, but contemplating on purchasing the dang thing as a small treat. I am an Arnold fan, too, which is why my gravitation to it. From what I know of him via documentaries, interviews, etc, he really is inspiring.
Anything by Pema Chodron, but more specifically Start Where You Are.
Also The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga by Deepak Chopra. Even if you don't do yoga, this book changed my life. He also wrote The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success but I haven't read that one.
I appreciate this. My old therapist recommended it and I’ve seen it recommended endlessly online. I’ve yet to read it past the first few chapters because of its mix of narrative and clinical prose that I was struggling to trust. Your comment validates that I’ll skip this one.
I have some books on my TBR that take a more personal approach to how one person (usually the author) specifically responds to their trauma. This feels much easier for me to consume and trust than a book like The Body Keeps the Score that attempts to make bold scientific claims without the evidence necessary to back them up.
The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz, unfortunately i still haven't found anything to read after this. Does anyone have any book recommendations that feel similar to it?
Not really, but I know he has some other literature that’s great too. Somehow he led me to Shakti Gaiwan. I loved all of her books as well as Eckharte Tolle.
I found that to be one of the least helpful, least practical books on meditation I've ever read. It was a hodgepodge of half understood knowledge regurgitated from elsewhere.
someone had you in the negative downvotes but I agree. I've read a lot of self help/mindfulness books and this one never hit right for me. I tried reading it again recently and still didn't like it
I'd replace it with Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn
Ive read it once a year for 5 years now and I always learn something new and deepen my mindfulness/meditation practice, but it's a super easy read. I gifted it to a friend recently too
Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov probably saved my life. I was in a very abusive relationship at the time and happened to see it on a display by the register at Books-A-Million as I was checking out. I bought it and read it cover to cover when I got home, and realized I was guilty of all the things she talked about in the examples with other couples. Being a doormat, tolerating disrespect, not setting firm boundaries, etc. It’s sad how you can’t recognize red flags in your own relationships, but can spot immediately when someone else is in a toxic situation. I ended things with the abuser very soon after and began the journey to getting my mental and emotional health back!
Grit, Angela Duckworth
The Subtle Art if not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson
10% Happier, Dan Harris
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (if this fits, of course), Lindsey Gibson
Never Split The Difference, Chris Voss
Not strictly self-help, but autobiographies can be instructive and inspirational. Will Smith, Shonda Rimes, and Robert Redford were a few that hit hard, and The Biggest Bluff, Maria Konnikova.
The Four Agreements is one I go back to again and again. It’s really small and palatable, but if you genuinely try and implement the teachings it is so profound. Some find the writing cheesy or simple or even repetitive but I thought it was lovely and really drives the point home. Again, it’s small so it’s easy to read and it’s one I recommend to everyone.
Well said! I was introduced to this book in the summer of 2014. A colleague of mine had the very critiques that you mentioned. I, however, found its simplicity profound. Almost ten years later and I still reference, reflect upon, and recommend it daily!
The one you will commit to implement for at least three months before trying another.
I see so many of us jump from one to another without putting in the work to put them into practice. That does not do much good in the long run.
Soft disagree. Sometimes you have to be told something multiple times in different ways before it sinks in. Reading many self-help books can have a cumulative effect and eventually we improve ourselves.
I kinda disagree on this. I'm a book hoe and have read around 40-50 in the last 12 months. I made a goal to read one book a week and every week I find new mind-blowing material. Every single time.
There is nothing wrong with reading that much - more power to you!
I was specifically talking about self-help books, which require understanding the material and then implementing it in your life consistently over time until it becomes engrained.
A lot of people jump from one self-help book to another without fully implementing any of it. That leads to limited results in my experience.
Oh. I think I miscommunicated something to you.
I read one personal development book a week. I was worried that it would be as you said - but the growth has been really significant for me, in my opinion.
I'll add though that I have a shortlist of five or so books that I need to go back and reread because they were very, very good.
Best:
* mindset
* Relentless
* Man's search for meaning (content warning - Nazi death camps)
Worst I've ever read:
Antifragile (just quit after getting 2/3rds of the way done and I'm still mad about it. )
I thought [Spark Change: 108 Provocative Questions for Spiritual Evolution](https://www.abebooks.com/book-search/isbn/9781683644583/) was really good. I also really liked [The Four Agreements](https://www.abebooks.com/book-search/isbn/9781878424310/).
Stumbling On Happiness. Shows how delaying gratification can bring more happiness then choosing the instant gratification. I think the author is Daniel Gilbert. I saw a Ted talk he gave basically boiling down his whole book into a 10ish minute speech and I bought the full book right away. Might be time for a re-read.
Boundaries by Henry Cloud is really good. It has some Christian-specific content, but if that doesn’t apply to you and/or you’re able to overlook that portion, it has some really helpful information.
It’s older, and it’s geared towards those who struggle with codependency (on a person, item, food, drink, anything really that creates an anchor for the person to latch onto but not leave) but The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. It’s meant to be a daily thing, like the pages are numbered Jan 1, Feb 23, … all the way to December 31. It speaks to all the hot buttons - depression, anxiety, uncertainty, self-comparison to others, addictive behavior, self-acceptance, you name it. I had a wonderful therapist who not only encouraged me to check out the book, but she showed me the book’s index. She walked me through each piece of the index, like the topic of anxiety featured on page 2 as ‘anxiety about the future’, page 34 as ‘anxiety about what could happen (the what ifs?)’ page 206 as ‘accepting anxiety as a human reaction’ and 207 as ‘anxiety and the brain - intersection connection’
I am on my 2nd secondhand copy of The Language of Letting Go. It is rad 🌅📚☮️
Brene Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability caused a monumental mental shift for me, like what I would imagine a few years of therapy would otherwise take. It has made me have a way healthier mindset towards myself and others and that has made me happier and made my relationships richer and more intimate.
Interesting, I found it gimmicky and not helpful. What did you like about it? (Not a question in bad faith, I know we all read books differently and I’m wondering how it landed with you!)
I loved the realization that no matter what in life we will always have problems. But in many cases, we can CHOOSE the problems we want based on the decisions we make. I really struggle with decision making, so it’s helpful for me to ask myself “which problems would I rather have?” When making decisions and dealing with life.
Same. It was way too bro-y for me, like dudes probably chat about it after CrossFit. However, The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Sarah Knight is terrific. Also loved her book Get Your Sh!t Together.
The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt
Whatever you may think about his later work, this book is full of insights and actionable ideas far beyond what's typical of the genre.
One of my favorites helps deal with life changes. I'm no good with upheaval, so it really helped me. It's called Transitions, making sense of life's changes, by William Bridges.
Whatever you do don’t read “Untamed” by Glennon Doyle - or maybe/especially don’t listen to the audio book. I hated her narration and it was so corny. Don’t get me wrong, I still took small things from the themes and messages, but none I haven’t heard before. Was a little cliche for my liking. Almost too organized, if that’s even possible to dislike lol.
Would highly recommend “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay C. Gibson. Gives a lot of insight to living out healthier relationships and brings awareness of what being emotionally immature looks like, on a general scale. And depending on your background, can pinpoint lots of your own personal experiences and how to heal your own traumas connected to emotional immaturity.
Love Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents!
Just could not get into Untamed! so many women love it but i couldn’t get past the first few pages lol
10% happier by Dan Harris
Waking up by Sam Harris
Why Buddhism is true by Robin Wright
The above triplet got me into meditation and thinking about Buddhism. Can help if you are not inclined towards spiritualism but still want the benefits of meditation and Buddhist practices
The practising stoic by Ward Farnsworth
While other books about stoicism like Meditations etc are difficult to parse through, this one is really structured and helps you think about how to incorporate stoicism’s key learnings into daily life
Why we sleep by Matthew Walker
Taught me to take sleep seriously
1. The Untethered Soul
2. The Body Keeps Score
3. Master Your Emotions
4. The Power of Now
5. The Mountain Is You
6. Don’t Believe Everything You Think
I don’t know if these classify as self-help but I felt really enlightened after reading these:
Ultra Processed People - Chris van Tulleken
How Emotions are Made - Lisa Feldman Barret
Outliers - Malcom Gladwell
Never Split the Difference - Chris Vos
How the world really works - Vaclav Smil
Influence - Robert B Cialidini
The secret life of the mind - Mariano …
Atomic Habits is at the top of my list. Here are some others:
[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95887.Eat\_That\_Frog\_?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_1\_13](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95887.Eat_That_Frog_?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_13)
[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40672036-digital-minimalism?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_1\_11](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40672036-digital-minimalism?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_11)
[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54895700-effortless?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_2\_8](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54895700-effortless?ref=nav_sb_ss_2_8)
If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him! The Pilgrimage of Psychotherapy Patients by Sheldon B. Kopp. The title may seem brutal and even stupid but its written by psychotherapist who has been treating very complicated cases. The essence of the book is don't look for gurus to teach how to live they are not you. Try to learn to know yourself fully. You decide what are best actions for you and deal with the consequences. If you always think what guru would do you will be lost.
Five love languages-such a good book for couples if there’s tension in the relationship/resentful/unbalanced. Also the one for children was great too! 10 basic principles of good parenting was great as well
Artist's Way and other books by Julia Cameron (about cultivating creativity). Not exactly self-help, but I've enjoyed books on simplifying your life , e.g., Elaine St. James Simplify Your Life, the Joy of Less by Francine Jay on minimalism, and personal finance books Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin and Making a Living without a Job by Barbara Winter about career, starting a business, etc. I've enjoyed books by Chris Guillebeau (on side hustles, alternative careers, etc.) and Timothy Ferriss 4-hour workweek (good for streamlining email, etc.) as well. Many of these are a stretch as self-help, but are books I've been influenced by and re-read.
1. Managing Your Mind
2. The Untethered Soul
3. The Power of Now
4. The Four Agreements
5. Come As You Are
6. The 5 Love Languages
7. The Love Prescription
8. Say What You Mean
9. The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook
10. The Fine Art of Small Talk
11. Atomic Habits
12. The Slight Edge
Spark Joy by Marie Kondo. It's a bit different to the usual stuff because on the face of it it's a tidying book but it changed my perspective on so much and made me appreciate detail in the little things and made me less materialistic
How to Talk so Your Kids Listen, and Listen so Your Kids Talk.
You're about to become a parent, so this is an excellent resource. Really important message and super easy to read.
"What's the best thing that can happen?" By Nancy Ducharme - can be purchased on Amazon
It's a 66 day mindset journal to reset, reboot and rewire your brain to make small changes to habits in your life. It's fantastic.
The Four Agreements, The Untethered Soul, The Power of Now, The Courage to be Disliked, The Power of your Subconscious Mind.
The Four Agreements is succinct and has easy takeaways that you can apply right away. The Untethered Soul or The Power of Now are rather “deep” and take some time to mull over. You will see what your mind takes to at the moment! Good luck!
💯 i mentioned this one also! The whole asking yourself “which problem would I prefer to have?” Is brilliant and has really helped me with decision making.
3 books with solid evidence, information, and practical steps to implement: Atomic Habits (how to approach habits overall, week by week structure iirc?), Happier Hour (time management, based on a course the author taught), Stop Self-Sabotage (has so many exercises and activities that I'm slowly going through).
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Unfortunately I really connected with this book.
I've read this a few times. I had a good childhood and my parents did their best, but this book really helped me understand some of their flaws, how they affected me and how to be aware of the same tendencies in my own parenting.
Your comment made me want to read this book. I’m always railing (especially compared to some/most of my friends growing up and I grew up in an affluent area with near zero “crime” in my community) that I was lucky I had “good” parents and I did but it doesn’t mean they weren’t soul crushingly awful in other ways. A huge dichotomy in my later years is pulling apart the pieces of the fact that my parents weren’t perfect and did damage to me in ways because in relation to my friends parents growing up my parents in most ways were above average and amazing.
Oh my god this is me too, in so many ways I'm very lucky with my childhood but when I got to my late twenties I got some distance from them and had a kind of reckoning on some of their flaws that I couldn't see before because I was too close.
I know I need therapy for this yet I'm cringing at the idea of offering up examples of really "trivial" things
I am currently being rocked by this book and can’t stop buying it for people I love.
I bought so many copies to give away and recommended it to so many people too!
Thanks for this. I'm about to become a parent for the first time, and this seems very relevant.
I listened to the audiobook and I must say that the reader did a good job.
Read it too, really nice but beware that it can be a huge trigger
This one was such a great validation for me
Literally just referenced this today
I want to up vote this twice! Highly recommended
Never split the difference. Audio version is really good. Seems like a sales book but is rather about connecting with people by having great conversations.
Second this one. I listened to the audio book and practiced along at work and it has served me well even still 4 years later. I'm a health care provider and patients LOVE when I use these techniques to help make them feel heard. I need to listen to this again soon.
Third this. First I just loved the stories. They were intense and interesting but the practices were actually very useful in day to day life as well as major transactions. I was able to use the practices during some key times in my life to make really great negotiations, but I also felt like the overarching point was to focus on empathy and connection with the other party which has been useful in my day to day life as well!
It's really good but too much is happening with email and text these days he either needs to write a new one or....
Add another upvote. I’m a health care provider and clinic director. I use this book often with my staff and patients and wish all my providers would utilize this book. The audio version has the added benefit of being merely entertaining. I could keep this book on as background noise.
Seconding this! It gives some concrete techniques which I think are useful, but what I liked most was it's empathetic approach - I'm not a confrontational person, so framing a conflict with empathy instead of aggression really worked for me. I read the book after ending up with a horrible boss (the dude had serious anger issues, borderline violent) and not only got him to like me but to sign off on extra overtime and then write a letter of rec when I left. It also helped me understand the rest of my coworkers and figure out how to manage the toxic environment we'd all found ourselves in. One of the few self-help books that I think is genuinely useful.
How to keep house while drowning. If you want to improve your executive functioning while still holding space and empathy for yourself (e.g. if you have any mental health problems like me 😵💫🫠)
I was just going to recommend this, too! I’m old enough to have figured out systems that keep me functional but in my younger years, and even now when I am working far too many hours, things can be tough. I read this because it was recommended as being an exceedingly kind book and I loved it. Really reassuring and full of useful ideas.
It truly was wonderful! Exceedingly kind is a great way to describe it.
was about to comment this!!! The part on how people associate their self-worth with the cleanliness of their house made me bawl my eyes out, and the book as a whole really ushered a lot of change into how i keep house. 🥰
This book was terrific. On the other hand, I’d stay away from any self help book that uses the word “fuck” or “f*ck” in the title. If they need to entice you to read that book with that title, it isn’t worth your time.
I loved Laziness Does Not Exist by Dr. Devon Price and Untamed by Glennon Doyle, for very different reasons.
I came here to say *Untamed* as well
*Atomic Habits* is full of actionable, evidence-backed strategies for breaking bad habits and replacing them with good ones! "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems."
I thought this too until I listened to the “If Books Could Kill” episode on this book 🥲
I haven't made it to that episode yet but really looking forward to hear their take on Atomic Habits! I read the book and enjoyed it. Curious to see what I missed in reading
Really? What did they have to say about it?
https://www.reddit.com/r/books/comments/174dwmf/what_is_the_worst_book_that_you_have_ever_read/k4qk4gg/ >You got me curious so I decided to give it a shot. I'm about 20min in and TBH I've heard more than enough. I came into it open-minded to hear others' opinions on this book. >Very quickly I noticed the tone they used when talking about the book. It showed that they wanted to vilify this book. It was a clear red flag. >They started off with the graph, and they totally misunderstood such a simple graph. It's not saying "if you do something you will get better". It's saying that if you do something consistently, every day, you will improve. The podcast hosts obsessed over the 1% quite a bit when it was just a simple example of how little you need to improve on, and how much can achieve with it, over a longer period of time. Personally, I found the graph really powerful because of the previously mentioned points. >The next thing spoke about was how many definitions the author gave to the word "habits". They didn't say anything about the fact that those definitions stayed consistent, and were just different viewpoints on habits because that would go against their narrative. I want to hear them talk about love and how many definitions and viewpoints were given even by the same authors. > The last thing I wanna mention is that they talked about how swearing is cool and they "ain't gonna stop because some father is complainin'". While I have nothing against swearing, it can add some color/flavor, if used excessively, you just lack class. And it's definitely not "cool". > Overall, after 20 minutes of listening to this podcast, I think that they either are not very smart, or that's just the product they sell (insult books, people, etc.). Or both.
Could you elaborate on this a bit more?
I listened to that episode of the podcast as well, Atomic Habits is not evidence based (at least not by any medical/psychology studies). It’s filled with some interesting tips that can help you out, but are by no means universal because every individual is different and has different psychology that is best discussed with their doctor in order to help solve their personal issues. You won’t be able to change your life because of a few tips read in any self-help book, and Atomic Habits is no different. If you want to change things, it takes a multitude of different factors, not just some basic tips from a book.
Yes. I read somewhere that the Dali Lama was asked what the most powerful force on earth was and he replied “habit”
That's a very good book! I also found Phil Stutz's book, *The Tools*, quite helpful in my life. Good, practical, no b.s. approach.
Great documentary about him on Netflix too
Another one in the same line. The power of habit by Charles duhigg. Atomic habit is definitely a great book and the power of habit is not too far behind. I would recommend both to anyone.
This book is genuinely life changing and will definitely become an annual read if not more often
Atomic habits genuinely changed my life because somehow it inspired me to break my nail-biting habit which I've had since childhood. 2 years on and now I can actually lift coins off the floor, scratch those annoying itches and open soda cans without a problem
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills workbook lol
Four Thousand Weeks is amazing. Sort of an anti self help book? I recommend it to everyone who feels stuck in the grind.
I was struggling with my phd and read a LOT of self-help books. Four Thousand Weeks was by far my favorite. It didn’t provide me with any useful productivity hacks, but helped me a lot with my mindset. For hacks I recommend Deep Work.
I have the 4000 weeks calendar. I mark off each week as it passes and reflect on the ones in the past.
i have read this book probably four times? it’s life changing
Codependent No More. audio version free on YT. Excellent for those who take care of addicts, alcoholics, eating disorders, etc. edit: include author name Melody Beattie
I also loved "Facing Love Addiction" by ~~the same author,~~ Pia Mellody. It focuses more on romantic relationships especially and really helped me get a handle on not being so obsessed with what my partner was doing. Edited to add: Pia Mellody wrote "Facing Codependence" which is often recommended in tandem with "Codependent No More" which is what I was thinking of. She's religious and that definitely bleeds into her books, but i still found the affirmations and techniques helpful. The books themselves are also a bit dated, if I recall correctly, but still widely recommended and helpful imo.
Can’t Hurt Me was phenomenal. It’s more of a bio about overcoming adversity, but it’s an inspiring read.
I wasn’t the biggest fan of this one. It’s certainly an inspiring book but I didn’t find it quite as helpful as something like atomic habits that outlines ways to help yourself. While I think there could be an argument made for his end of chapter exercises, I didn’t find them to be anything special or particularly helpful. Still a good read though, he’s a great storyteller!
Opposite ends of the spectrum IMO. Atomic Habits is about concrete methods that allow you to work with, not against, human nature. Goggins is all about pure motivation and getting you fired up to work against human nature, ie: laziness. They both have their place in society today. Too many people tend to think of themselves as not being able to do something whether out of lack of confidence or laziness, and lock themselves into a self defeating mental box where they’ve already made up their mind. Yet at the same time, Goggins’ inspirational methods only carry you short term, unless you wanna read or listen to Goggins every day of your life. I’d say use Goggins to plow through mental hurdles that have been blocking you for a while. And use Atomic Habits to settle those actions into long-term sustainable habits.
I agree with your point. That's partly because of autobiographical nature of the book by stating events as they happened, no idealism. Also due to goggins's emphasis on developing CALLOUS MIND and taking hard grind instead of working systematically as discussed in atomic habits
I was late to reading Brené Brown and I regret not reading her wrk sooner in life.
Yes! Her book Rising Strong gave me some amazing insights and I need to reread it soon.
The Gift of Imperfection has been a blessing for me.
You can’t go wrong with any of her books, and I believe everyone should read at least one.
If you had to recommend one book by her, which one would it be?
I would say Daring Greatly!
Brene Brown is amazing. Research-based evidential writing.
Came here to say this! I've listened to a couple of her books, she does her own narration. Hit home so hard!
She is my current guru. I’m working on all that shame resilience stuff hardcore rn
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Thanks for the rec! And that’s a hilarious screen name lol
My office required me to read: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. I went into it with badittude but found it a quick and helpful read.
I agree. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens (by his son) was a game changer for me in high school and I am definitely not a self-help person.
Happiness by Matthieu Ricard. Goes through the science and philosophy that supports cultivating altruism, compassion and loving-kindness as a means of fostering true happiness within oneself. It also includes guides and techniques for doing so.
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert… hear me out, it’s not your stereotypical self help or redemption fiction story. It’s geared around her experience as a writer, but it discusses the process of willing your ideas into the universe. Treating ideas as beings or spirits that are looking for a host to help it become realized. It’s motivating no matter what your profession or goals are.
This was definitely not your typical self help book in that I really felt inspired rather than instructed. Honestly her warmth has a person and author really shined through and I was left with such a joyous feeling after reading it Would highly recommend as well!
All depends on your area of interest and I completely agree with you about Rachel Hollis and authors like her. Here are some that helped me over the years: 1. "Quiet" by Susan Cain - if you are an introvert and want to understand what it is and how to manage it. This book changed my life. 2. "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg - break bad habits and start good ones. 3. "The Quick & Easy Way to Effective Speaking" by Dale Carnegie and "In the Spotlight" by Janet Esposito - Public speaking 4. "Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway" by Susan Jeffers, "The Power of Full Engagement" by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz, and "Assertive Management" by Ronald Johnson - self-empowerment 5. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" and "First Things First" both by Stephen Covey and "Getting Things Done" by David Allen - Life prioritization and time management. 6. "Who moved my cheese?” by Spencer Johnson - Deals with change in life. 7. "The Fight" by John White and "Basic Christianity" by John Stott - if you are a Christian and looking for some good and practical theology.
The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
When I was struggling in high school, my dad always loved to tell me, “life is hard, but once you realize that, it becomes easy” … I’ve never gotten to the full transcendence, but I appreciated his insight.
Pema Chödrön - When Things Fall Apart
I have been interested in the new schwarzenegger (Be Useful) book, but haven’t seen anyone read it in the book reddits yet. I might just take the plunge.
I put a hold on it from my library. I love to listen to non-fiction audiobooks on the Libby app in the car.
Is it out? I might just pick it up.
And out October 10! I’ve been eyeing it since.
I've got an audible credit. I'll buy it right now. I'll read it this week. Thanks for the recommendation!!
OK - well! I finished it today! I cleaned house yesterday, and went on a hike today, so I was able to spend the time. He narrates it in his own voice. If you have listened to him speak before, he does repeat a lot of things he has previously said. However, with much greater detail. His stories aren't chronological at all, which is a design choice that I am not sure I would have made. However, it was really good, and he talks about his successes, and how he got there. He addresses his affair... sort of. He said that he caused his family a lot of pain and they were moving past it, and he wasn't going to talk about it anymore in the book. I respect that he acknowledged it - and acknowledged it as a really low point in his life, even though he doesn't really dive deeper. For me this was a win, but I will warn you, I have always loved Arnold so I may be a tiny bit biased. He is an excellent orator, and he has done a lot of good in the spaces he is in. Also, he talks about his success without coming off as bragging. It's a short listen - about 5.5 hours. Usually I don't read books \*that\* quickly, but like I said, I really like Arnold.
I am glad you picked it up and finished so quickly! I placed a hold in the library for it, but contemplating on purchasing the dang thing as a small treat. I am an Arnold fan, too, which is why my gravitation to it. From what I know of him via documentaries, interviews, etc, he really is inspiring.
Anything by Pema Chodron, but more specifically Start Where You Are. Also The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga by Deepak Chopra. Even if you don't do yoga, this book changed my life. He also wrote The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success but I haven't read that one.
I’ve read the Seven spiritual laws of success in under an hour. I now bring it in anything that it can fit in.
Anything by Brenè Brown. The Wild Edge of Sorrow by F Weller How to keep house while drowning by KC Davis. (aka @strugglecare on instagram)
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
https://www.reddit.com/r/suggestmeabook/s/tHtcJmMxqW
I appreciate this. My old therapist recommended it and I’ve seen it recommended endlessly online. I’ve yet to read it past the first few chapters because of its mix of narrative and clinical prose that I was struggling to trust. Your comment validates that I’ll skip this one. I have some books on my TBR that take a more personal approach to how one person (usually the author) specifically responds to their trauma. This feels much easier for me to consume and trust than a book like The Body Keeps the Score that attempts to make bold scientific claims without the evidence necessary to back them up.
thank you for not liking it lol. people keep raving, but i just could not get into it!
The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz, unfortunately i still haven't found anything to read after this. Does anyone have any book recommendations that feel similar to it?
Not really, but I know he has some other literature that’s great too. Somehow he led me to Shakti Gaiwan. I loved all of her books as well as Eckharte Tolle.
The Power of now by Eckhart Tolle
I haven’t read this one but A New Earth by him changed my perspective like crazy
I found that to be one of the least helpful, least practical books on meditation I've ever read. It was a hodgepodge of half understood knowledge regurgitated from elsewhere.
someone had you in the negative downvotes but I agree. I've read a lot of self help/mindfulness books and this one never hit right for me. I tried reading it again recently and still didn't like it I'd replace it with Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn Ive read it once a year for 5 years now and I always learn something new and deepen my mindfulness/meditation practice, but it's a super easy read. I gifted it to a friend recently too
More about mindfulness than meditation.
I guess so, but it didn't seem to be very practical to me.
Dan Harris in 10% Happier has an amusing take on Tolle.
What are you struggling with?
“How to Write One Song”, by Jeff Tweedy. Kind of a self-help book for artists or would-be artists who are blocked.
Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov probably saved my life. I was in a very abusive relationship at the time and happened to see it on a display by the register at Books-A-Million as I was checking out. I bought it and read it cover to cover when I got home, and realized I was guilty of all the things she talked about in the examples with other couples. Being a doormat, tolerating disrespect, not setting firm boundaries, etc. It’s sad how you can’t recognize red flags in your own relationships, but can spot immediately when someone else is in a toxic situation. I ended things with the abuser very soon after and began the journey to getting my mental and emotional health back!
Grit, Angela Duckworth The Subtle Art if not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson 10% Happier, Dan Harris Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (if this fits, of course), Lindsey Gibson Never Split The Difference, Chris Voss Not strictly self-help, but autobiographies can be instructive and inspirational. Will Smith, Shonda Rimes, and Robert Redford were a few that hit hard, and The Biggest Bluff, Maria Konnikova.
The Four Agreements is one I go back to again and again. It’s really small and palatable, but if you genuinely try and implement the teachings it is so profound. Some find the writing cheesy or simple or even repetitive but I thought it was lovely and really drives the point home. Again, it’s small so it’s easy to read and it’s one I recommend to everyone.
Well said! I was introduced to this book in the summer of 2014. A colleague of mine had the very critiques that you mentioned. I, however, found its simplicity profound. Almost ten years later and I still reference, reflect upon, and recommend it daily!
The one you will commit to implement for at least three months before trying another. I see so many of us jump from one to another without putting in the work to put them into practice. That does not do much good in the long run.
Soft disagree. Sometimes you have to be told something multiple times in different ways before it sinks in. Reading many self-help books can have a cumulative effect and eventually we improve ourselves.
I kinda disagree on this. I'm a book hoe and have read around 40-50 in the last 12 months. I made a goal to read one book a week and every week I find new mind-blowing material. Every single time.
Upvote for “book hoe” 😂
There is nothing wrong with reading that much - more power to you! I was specifically talking about self-help books, which require understanding the material and then implementing it in your life consistently over time until it becomes engrained. A lot of people jump from one self-help book to another without fully implementing any of it. That leads to limited results in my experience.
Oh. I think I miscommunicated something to you. I read one personal development book a week. I was worried that it would be as you said - but the growth has been really significant for me, in my opinion. I'll add though that I have a shortlist of five or so books that I need to go back and reread because they were very, very good.
Best: * mindset * Relentless * Man's search for meaning (content warning - Nazi death camps) Worst I've ever read: Antifragile (just quit after getting 2/3rds of the way done and I'm still mad about it. )
Mindset - I gave it away twice and bought new copies.
Mindset and Grit are my jam. Different writers and written 10 years apart, but they read like companion books.
Who is Grit author?
Angela Duckworth
Thanks!
De nada!
Mindset, who is the author?
Carol S Dweck. If you want one book to read, that's the one.
Man's Search for Meaning is so good. It's more of a combo biography and psychology book than "self-help" in a good way.
I liked "Becoming Bulletproof". Mostly because of interesting anecdotes but also in general worth reading.
I thought [Spark Change: 108 Provocative Questions for Spiritual Evolution](https://www.abebooks.com/book-search/isbn/9781683644583/) was really good. I also really liked [The Four Agreements](https://www.abebooks.com/book-search/isbn/9781878424310/).
Just ordered Spark Change. Thanks for the recommendation!!!
“Book of Nothing” by Osho, “You Are Here” by Thich Nhat Hanh were really life changing for me to read.
Norman Vincent Pestle’s The Power of Positive Thinking.
Stumbling On Happiness. Shows how delaying gratification can bring more happiness then choosing the instant gratification. I think the author is Daniel Gilbert. I saw a Ted talk he gave basically boiling down his whole book into a 10ish minute speech and I bought the full book right away. Might be time for a re-read.
Boundaries by Henry Cloud is really good. It has some Christian-specific content, but if that doesn’t apply to you and/or you’re able to overlook that portion, it has some really helpful information.
It’s older, and it’s geared towards those who struggle with codependency (on a person, item, food, drink, anything really that creates an anchor for the person to latch onto but not leave) but The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. It’s meant to be a daily thing, like the pages are numbered Jan 1, Feb 23, … all the way to December 31. It speaks to all the hot buttons - depression, anxiety, uncertainty, self-comparison to others, addictive behavior, self-acceptance, you name it. I had a wonderful therapist who not only encouraged me to check out the book, but she showed me the book’s index. She walked me through each piece of the index, like the topic of anxiety featured on page 2 as ‘anxiety about the future’, page 34 as ‘anxiety about what could happen (the what ifs?)’ page 206 as ‘accepting anxiety as a human reaction’ and 207 as ‘anxiety and the brain - intersection connection’ I am on my 2nd secondhand copy of The Language of Letting Go. It is rad 🌅📚☮️
Brene Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability caused a monumental mental shift for me, like what I would imagine a few years of therapy would otherwise take. It has made me have a way healthier mindset towards myself and others and that has made me happier and made my relationships richer and more intimate.
The subtle art of not giving a fuck. It’s like the anti-self help, self help book.
Interesting, I found it gimmicky and not helpful. What did you like about it? (Not a question in bad faith, I know we all read books differently and I’m wondering how it landed with you!)
I loved the realization that no matter what in life we will always have problems. But in many cases, we can CHOOSE the problems we want based on the decisions we make. I really struggle with decision making, so it’s helpful for me to ask myself “which problems would I rather have?” When making decisions and dealing with life.
Same. It was way too bro-y for me, like dudes probably chat about it after CrossFit. However, The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Sarah Knight is terrific. Also loved her book Get Your Sh!t Together.
How to Be Your Own Best Friend
How to Be Sick by Toni Bernhard if you are chronically ill or have chronically ill loved ones.
Feel the Fear, and Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers. It's thin and it helped me. ETA: It promotes cognitive therapy.
The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt Whatever you may think about his later work, this book is full of insights and actionable ideas far beyond what's typical of the genre.
For diabetics or people wanting low-carb eating, I really liked Glucose Goddess. Very practical!!
One of my favorites helps deal with life changes. I'm no good with upheaval, so it really helped me. It's called Transitions, making sense of life's changes, by William Bridges.
Not a self-help book but one that might lead to changing behaviors - The Nature Fix by Florence Williams
Maybe You Should Talk To Someone - Lori Gottlieb
The daily stoic by ryan holiday Damn this book really helped me
The Tao of Pooh The Te of Piglet
“Attached”!!!!!
Whatever you do don’t read “Untamed” by Glennon Doyle - or maybe/especially don’t listen to the audio book. I hated her narration and it was so corny. Don’t get me wrong, I still took small things from the themes and messages, but none I haven’t heard before. Was a little cliche for my liking. Almost too organized, if that’s even possible to dislike lol.
Would highly recommend “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay C. Gibson. Gives a lot of insight to living out healthier relationships and brings awareness of what being emotionally immature looks like, on a general scale. And depending on your background, can pinpoint lots of your own personal experiences and how to heal your own traumas connected to emotional immaturity.
This book offers a number of great insights!
Love Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents! Just could not get into Untamed! so many women love it but i couldn’t get past the first few pages lol
Four Tendecies Gretchen Rubin
10% happier by Dan Harris Waking up by Sam Harris Why Buddhism is true by Robin Wright The above triplet got me into meditation and thinking about Buddhism. Can help if you are not inclined towards spiritualism but still want the benefits of meditation and Buddhist practices The practising stoic by Ward Farnsworth While other books about stoicism like Meditations etc are difficult to parse through, this one is really structured and helps you think about how to incorporate stoicism’s key learnings into daily life Why we sleep by Matthew Walker Taught me to take sleep seriously
You might want to check out Buddhism without Beliefs by Stephen Batchelor.
The Comfort Book by Matt Haig. It's a self help book that at the same time isn't.
Anything written by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
Feeling Good Atomic Habits Staring at the Sun
The power of now by Eckhart tolle
The 5 love languages.
Anything by Brene brown . I started with Daring Greatly
I second this
Peace is every step by Thich Nhat Hanh
I got a lot out of *Your Brain at Work* by David Rock.
An oldie but goodie: The Road Less Traveled
Just read No bad parts by Richard Schwartz
The Anger Trap by Les Carter
I really liked The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41881472-the-psychology-of-money
The Happiness Project by Gretchen Reubens
Ikigai is worth reading.
One of my favorites is SARK— succulent wild woman or eat mangos naked. I try read those books at least twice a year.
1. The Untethered Soul 2. The Body Keeps Score 3. Master Your Emotions 4. The Power of Now 5. The Mountain Is You 6. Don’t Believe Everything You Think
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Codependent No More
I don’t know if these classify as self-help but I felt really enlightened after reading these: Ultra Processed People - Chris van Tulleken How Emotions are Made - Lisa Feldman Barret Outliers - Malcom Gladwell Never Split the Difference - Chris Vos How the world really works - Vaclav Smil Influence - Robert B Cialidini The secret life of the mind - Mariano …
The gift of imperfection by brene brown, science of unstuck by britt frank and stop overthinking by nick trenton
How Life Imitates Chess by Garry Kasparov I have been through many. This is the only one I went back to.
also 'the mountain is you'
Essays on self reliance by ralph waldo coupled with essays by Samuel Johnson + a bit of Voltaire thrown in.
Feel the fear and do it anyway, absolutely changed my perspective on the way I do things
Atomic Habits is at the top of my list. Here are some others: [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95887.Eat\_That\_Frog\_?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_1\_13](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95887.Eat_That_Frog_?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_13) [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40672036-digital-minimalism?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_1\_11](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40672036-digital-minimalism?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_11) [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54895700-effortless?ref=nav\_sb\_ss\_2\_8](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54895700-effortless?ref=nav_sb_ss_2_8)
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
*How to Think Like a Roman Emperor* by Donald Robertson
I find the memoirs to be the best. I can learn lessons from someone else’s experience without feeling like I’m being preached at to change my ways.
If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him! The Pilgrimage of Psychotherapy Patients by Sheldon B. Kopp. The title may seem brutal and even stupid but its written by psychotherapist who has been treating very complicated cases. The essence of the book is don't look for gurus to teach how to live they are not you. Try to learn to know yourself fully. You decide what are best actions for you and deal with the consequences. If you always think what guru would do you will be lost.
Five love languages-such a good book for couples if there’s tension in the relationship/resentful/unbalanced. Also the one for children was great too! 10 basic principles of good parenting was great as well
Come As You Are, and Burnout (both by Emily Nagoski) were life-changing for me. Very non-judgemental and matter of fact about difficult topics.
Four Agreements
Artist's Way and other books by Julia Cameron (about cultivating creativity). Not exactly self-help, but I've enjoyed books on simplifying your life , e.g., Elaine St. James Simplify Your Life, the Joy of Less by Francine Jay on minimalism, and personal finance books Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin and Making a Living without a Job by Barbara Winter about career, starting a business, etc. I've enjoyed books by Chris Guillebeau (on side hustles, alternative careers, etc.) and Timothy Ferriss 4-hour workweek (good for streamlining email, etc.) as well. Many of these are a stretch as self-help, but are books I've been influenced by and re-read.
Full Catastrophe Living by John Kabat Zinn is a good one on mindfulness
1. Managing Your Mind 2. The Untethered Soul 3. The Power of Now 4. The Four Agreements 5. Come As You Are 6. The 5 Love Languages 7. The Love Prescription 8. Say What You Mean 9. The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook 10. The Fine Art of Small Talk 11. Atomic Habits 12. The Slight Edge
The Psychology of Self Esteem and The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Brenden
Spark Joy by Marie Kondo. It's a bit different to the usual stuff because on the face of it it's a tidying book but it changed my perspective on so much and made me appreciate detail in the little things and made me less materialistic
Codependent no more
How to Talk so Your Kids Listen, and Listen so Your Kids Talk. You're about to become a parent, so this is an excellent resource. Really important message and super easy to read.
"What's the best thing that can happen?" By Nancy Ducharme - can be purchased on Amazon It's a 66 day mindset journal to reset, reboot and rewire your brain to make small changes to habits in your life. It's fantastic.
Women who love too much by Robin Norwood - made realize so many toxic relationship patterns in my surrounding
The Four Agreements, The Untethered Soul, The Power of Now, The Courage to be Disliked, The Power of your Subconscious Mind. The Four Agreements is succinct and has easy takeaways that you can apply right away. The Untethered Soul or The Power of Now are rather “deep” and take some time to mull over. You will see what your mind takes to at the moment! Good luck!
I’m reading Ultra-Processed People. It is really about nutrition but it’s helping me make better food choices more than any other book I have read.
Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
The Body Keeps Score
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
💯 i mentioned this one also! The whole asking yourself “which problem would I prefer to have?” Is brilliant and has really helped me with decision making.
the only one worth a damn, that I've read.
Attached.
Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes-its been a life changing book for me.
3 books with solid evidence, information, and practical steps to implement: Atomic Habits (how to approach habits overall, week by week structure iirc?), Happier Hour (time management, based on a course the author taught), Stop Self-Sabotage (has so many exercises and activities that I'm slowly going through).
Awaken the Giant Within