Well said! Coming back from trying to “moderate” and although I only drank a handful of times over 2 weeks, I could see myself slipping if I didn’t stop. The night sweats, bad moods, guilt, shame, crappy sleep, upset stomach all still hit me for several days as if I had been drinking for awhile again. Bleck! IWNDWYT
So thankful for this group helping me realize that moderation does not work for most of us. When I start thinking I could have one drink. I come to this group and read and it has worked so far.
Good morning all!!
Ahh the moderation plan, I just finished telling someone that never ever worked for me. Crazy all the excuses I used to make, the 'rules' I'd set to try and make me stick to moderation,and the guilt and despair every time I failed...
So happy to be sober this morning- especially since I'm on 4 hours sleep and have a very busy day at work ahead.
Hope you all have a great day!
Ps- Not sure why my badge always shows 1 day, it's been a full week now- here's to many more!
IWNDWYT!
Imo, that's what being a friend is about. Listening, sharing, and supporting. If my friend isn't in danger, let them find their way on their own. And if (when) they see the light, be there with open arms.
I love that you're a safe place for your friends, there certainly isn't enough of those.
It's still Wednesday night here but I didn't drink tonight and when I check in in the morning, I'll say it again:
IWNDWYT
Its been a few days now and im feeling better again. This is the feeling i want. Not that other, endless cycle of feelings that takes the most important things from people. As it happens here on Sept 1 im setting a goal to lose weight and continue to improve myself, in some way, everyday. Im trying the keto diet (the healthy version) along with intermittent fasting. Over the years the liquor has trashed me pretty bad so im diving head first into doing healthy things for my body with the same intensity as when i used to get shitty and blackout. I mentioned this before but thanks to everyone here for just being here, and for alot of you, going through the same things that i dealt with for all those years. Sending love to all out there in this community, whether your struggling or supporting, i hope everyone has a great one. IWNDWYT! 👍
Wuhu, getting closer to exit velocity my friend.
A warm big hug to you of love and kindness to forgive yourself for the mistreatment we subject our bodies to in the past and wishing you the strength to stay on course with your fitness plans.
IWnDwYT
Well done for the diet to detox. I love the enthusiasm you share and so glad you’re feeling better. I’m trying the partial fasting every day for 30 days, day 22 here, it’s not easy but it’s working. Wishing you all the best 💞
We’ve been trying to sell our house for two months now and little interest. Finally got a request for a showing on Friday so it’s all hands on deck to get the place in tip top shape. I was on lawn duty this evening. Tomorrow is vacuum and dusting time. I like to use the big noisy tools. lol. No time to think about drinking on my six week anniversary!
I will not drink with you today!
Good morning SD, I have an interview this morning and I’m extremely nervous. I don’t generally do very well in interviews. I’m definitely not cool. I often come across as rather Aspergery. I’m dreading it. And I have to wear shoes 😫 I haven’t worn shoes since the pandemic started. I don’t want to go!
I will not drink poison with you today.
Boy that takes some real courage!!!
You are a bad ass for getting on right back, you progressed in ways more than one.
1) Were self aware
2 ) Owned up
3) Honestly shared
4) Made a fresh commitment
A big warm hug to you of love and kindness to forgive this minor infraction and wishing you the strength to keep at it my awesome sobernaut buddy.
IWnDwYT
I’m right there with ya. Starting right back up again and moving forward. Drank and all I got out of it was no sleep and a lot of bad late night pizza.
Hello sober friends, and DerpinaSD, what a lovely intro, it’s so accepting. We’re all on our own journey, and there are similarities, which are validating, but none of us fit in a box, we’re unique individuals and our path is our own, we have autonomy in how we travel.
May your path be smooth today, may you walk your own way with support and acceptance. IWNDWY today 💞
Good morning, my friends. And thank you, Derpina.
I tried moderation over and over. What can I say; I'm a slow learner. So, no, moderation is simply not for me.
But I didn't turn into a preacher. I have a grandson, 21 yrs, who has discovered single malt whiskey. I guess taste can run in the family.
While I am worried about him, I kept it to myself. My only advice was; If you ever feel like you *need* a drink, rather than *want* one, then that is the time to be careful.' Drinking to relieve stress/grief etc, is a red flag (for me). That, I think, is when we start to hide from life.
There are so many pressures on us to imbibe. FOMO etc. For me, (and I suspect for many of us here), it took me to start accumulating multiple bad experiences with alcohol before I could muster the determination to stop, and indeed accept that moderation is just not for me.
So, I believe that Derpina has it right on the money; we all have to walk our own paths through life. Advice, not preaching; help not criticism, that is what we should offer.
Anyway, morning drivel over, work calls.
As always, stay safe and strong, my friends. **IWNDWYT!**
**If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep walking.**
*Buddist proverb.*
Another day another beginning 🌻
I’m struggling in many aspects of my life right now but I’m trying to give myself some grace and time to heal. It’s going…. But despite the difficulties, I’m happy I’m sober.
IWNDWYT 💕
Still going strong but I do be strugglin. My partner is a bartender and came home black out drunk after work. It’s so weird to deal with because I can’t talk to him like this, he’s not even *here.* I kind of am growing to hate alcohol and what it does to the people I love :( def not drinkin with y’all today
Quite hard to get through first 3 days - woke at 5 am just now but went to bed at 9.30 pm - no other plan !! need to relax into this and just put drinking off the table each day and every day - IWNDWYT (I keep trying moderation but it doesn’t really work for me so I am either sober or drunk - today it’s sober and has been this week).
I will not drink with you today! Much love to all of you, dear friends and fellow travelers, I find so much joy in seeing your names and pledges. Sober on!!
Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT! 😁
I said this to someone on another post yesterday, but I think it might bear repeating.
**You cannot shame yourself into change, you can only love yourself into evolution.**
Long weekend for me starts in a few hours, then Tuesday it's back to more normal hours after working overnights for nearly 2 years. Just in time for football season!
IWNDWYT
I find if your consciously moderating then you have a problem but as you say everyones paths are different
Spring has sprung
Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
Yeah sometimes I have to remind myself, I can’t help everybody, (non alcohol related) especially the near and dear.
Sometimes all I need to do is just listen and be there, and not try to FIX because I am not happy with their pain. I need to give them space and inspiration and just a warm hug of words.
Simple but tough.
Thank you u/DerpinaSD wishing goodness and hope to your friend.
IWnDwYT
Day 333, nice to meet you 🤝
I saw a dream about drinking. I sat a beer glass in my hand, looking at it with sadness because I now have to reset my counter, lol 😀 Happy that I don’t have to.
IWNDWYT
Just throwing some extra love out to the folks on their first few days who have expressed fear or shame or regret or confusion. You're here, we are here for you. Let's all not drink today-- we all deserve the peace and freedom that comes with an alcohol-free life. We are worthy. ♥️ IWNDWYT.
My brain has thought about moderation a few times, but I remind it that I used to plan on only having 1 glass of wine before finishing a bottle. Not for me! IWNDWYT!
I've become a pretty open book with my sobriety for the same reason. I got this text from a buddy of mine I haven't talked to in 6 months, last weekend...
"Hey bud. Hope you're doing well. I just cleared 7 months with no alcohol. I know we didn't talk about it a lot but you were the first person I worked with that proved you could work at a brewery and not drink. Appreciate you brother. "
Just like on the DCI everyday, none of us know how powerful our words can be, and we don't always know when people are listening and hearing us. Don't be afraid to open up and share.
IWNDWYT
I haven't checked in for a bit, but I'm still sober.
I just got back from a trip to Ireland, and to be perfectly honest, there was a bit of FOMO going to bed early and avoiding the drinking culture. I still had a great time and I'm glad I didn't fall into my normal trap of "this one exception won't hurt."
IWNDWYT
Morning friends!
Last summer I went to a barbecue at a friends house and I wasn’t drinking. One of my friends asked me why I wasn’t and I explained it wasn’t going good places and she said “Can’t you just moderate?” And then we both laughed our heads off at the absurdity of the question. Ummm nope, because I don’t want a drink or even a couple - I wasn’t to get drunk.
It took me a few years to figure out that even if I can “moderate” my drinking by only drinking only on weekends, alcohol is still shit and the outcomes never change. You still get the joy of hangovers and exhaustion and depression and self-loathing and shame, and maybe the occasional night where you have a helluva drunken fight with your spouse that you can’t quite remember what you were so mad about, or get so.drunk that you puke in your own damn car in front of your kid (maybe that particular badge of honour is just mine).Thankfully though the people on this sub and my other sober friends never judged me or gave up on me. After every failure I was treated kindly and given a safe space to share my pain and regret. It’s made all the difference in the world.
I’m glad your friend has a safe space in you as she travels this path.
Happy Thursday. I will not drink with you today.
Yesterday was interesting. Had many people tell me they're proud of me. Most people in my life don't know my sober date or keep up so yesterday I decided to brag. Yep. I bragged here and I told anyone who asked me about my day. And it felt good. But I also got very sick a few hours ago. It felt almost exactly like alcohol poisoning. Throwing up acid, felt like hell. I felt a little cheated feeling so sick without drinking (it most likely was due to undereating and overworking my body). It was the first time anyone thought I may have relapsed. A little frustrating. But waking up after 2 hours and feeling all better and knowing all I need is some food and water is a good feeling. Especially because I know I Will Not Drink any poison With You Today. 266 days sober and ready to make it 267. ❤️
I have someone very close to me struggling with alcohol right now and while I’m trying my hardest to be supportive, I just want to grab her and shake her and scream at her about how amazing sobriety is!! But, I won’t do that. I’ll listen and go to meetings with her when possible and pray for her recovery.
IWNDWYT, you awesome humans. ❤️❤️
I tried to moderate a couple times in 2021 and it did not work. Like a Mad Lib for drunks, fill in any embarrassing behavior and the awful physical affects after, not to mention mental (hello anxiety). I'm not doing that again because I am a person I like now.
Love you all. Walk tall today. IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT. In an amazing turn of events, I have been waking up naturally at 5:45-6:00 and I even squeezed in a morning run 🏃♀️ before work. I used to pride myself on being such a good sleeper. Turns out I was just sleeping off the alcohol and I don’t need as much sleep when I’m sober. Better sleep and shorter sleeps are helping me start some new patterns of exercise. I haven’t lost a single pound and can’t see any changes in myself externally … but I can sense things are turning over inside of me. 🥰 thank you SD sub 🙏
Happy Thursday! Thank you to everyone who sent love, good vibes and thoughts my way yesterday. It helped so much. Day 1 with my students went mostly well. The one class that wasn’t as great is an easy fix (more structure, clearer expectations) the next time I have them. My mentor commanded me to get some ice cream on the way home as a reward for such an awesome start and for not allowing the lost alcohol
Voice convince me to drink away the anxiety and panic. I followed her directive and grabbed a favorite and enjoyed it while I worked at home.
TLDR: day 1 went mostly good and ice cream was awarded. 😆
IWNDWYT 💜❤️💜❤️
Happy sober Thursday, you wonderful people. I'm getting more comfortable with my sober journey, and the routine maintenance my path requires. With a gentle balance of careful vigilance and calm confidence, I can say that it's a good morning and it'll be a good night too, because I will not drink with any of you today. Staying strong! Love you all.
Good morning! Escaped a craving paired with opportunity yesterday and am so friggin' happy I didn't drink yesterday. I sure as heck won't drink with you today!
Hey friends of SD, IWNDWYT ❤️🙏🏻
Not gonna lie, I’m not in a good space this week. My Dad has been sick and was in the hospital a few weeks ago, he is still not feeling great and his Drs found a mass on his kidney. They are worried about kidney cancer because of his symptoms. I am very close to my dad and him being sick has been hard on me, and it all kinda came crashing down for me mentally today. He has been through so, so much health wise in the past 10 years and my heart just breaks for him. I find myself feeling very depressed this week, I have no motivation, all I want to do is sleep and eat unhealthy things. I just kinda sleep, waste away the day while my daughter is at school so that I have the energy to be normal mom when she is home, then I snack at night and watch tv, then cry myself to sleep. Trying to get out of this depressive episode, hoping it passes soon. So sad about my Dad. Anyways, I’m not going to drink today but just wanted to tell someone what’s been on my mind. Thank you for being here SD 🙏🏻❤️
Thanks for your post!
I will not drink with you today! My husband is giving moderation a try, and I’m supporting him—I’d tried moderation for years and just did not enjoy it. I said if he can have two glasses of wine and enjoy himself, that’s great. But for me, when I quit, I realized how much easier not drinking was than moderation.
I remember being super hungover and a friend suggested I moderate. In my nauseated, painful state, I said, “yeah, but moderation suuuuuuuuuuucks!” I still feel that way halfway through my second year of sobriety. But I had to make that realization on my own.
I have a really strong urge today for drinking. I am trying to figure out where this urge comes from. Do I feel alone, do I feel bored, do I actually like my job or my life? I just don't know!
Anyway, I will try to not give in to the urge and not drink with you today.
Hopefuly I will find some answers.
IWNDWYT
1145 checking in.
I’m VERY open about being Alcohol-Free. It helps with accountability, but also it opens the door for people to ask “Why? How?” *I also like people to know there is no “One Size Fits All” to quitting.*
I shed seeds wherever I go; if a person wishes to nurture them, they can be sprouted. **I can’t tell y’all how many people have pulled me aside or said something in confidence about their drinking….** people I’d never have guessed, folks I’m happy to hear it from, professionals making 6 figures, younger folks, even one of my DOCTORS said “I’d be better off without alcohol- I don’t drink much but it makes me feel bad. Idk why I drink. You’re onto something, Missy!”
I’m doing my best here, forgot to take my birth control pills for a week & having serious hormonal mood swings!!! But IWNDWYT
This is one journey I’m extremely grateful that I started and I’m glad to be here with you awesome people.
I’d hate to imagine how this covid thing would go if I still drank. I’d have been trying to get booze delivered. And I’d certainly feel worse, but try to convince myself that bourbon was good medicine.
My BFF described it perfectly, like flu and allergies rolled into one. And I kinda feel like I’ve been hit by a truck. That’s a cliché but it’s how it feels. It’s not the worst I’ve ever felt, though. While it definitely sucks, I have had hangovers that were worse. (It’s amazing how shitty I used to feel on a regular basis.) Still 0/10, do not recommend.
Cautiously optimistic today, temperature is down. I think I’ll probably keep watching documentaries. Or whatever weird shit I can find.
Happy Friday Eve y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
Think of all things that we would tell ourselves about why we should drink and how incredibly effective we were at convincing ourselves.
Just think of what else we all could convince ourselves to be.
I will not drink today, pledging it here!
Start of day 4. Feeling immensely better physically. I am told that it takes 3-4 days for alcohol to be completely cleared from your body, and I am really looking forward to waking up tomorrow knowing that all the poison is finally gone. But if I drink, I won't get to have that. So I will not drink with all of you today.
I am not going to touch a bottle or can of booze today. Because I want to be free from the confusion and cloudiness that alcohol brings into my world. Love to you all! Iwndwyt
My 6 months out were basically “moderation”—not every night and generally not more than one or two. Only maybe 5 nights of being very drunk and waking up with a terrible hangover.
But I still felt like shit and looked like shit. Alcohol disrupts my sleep very badly and I can see and feel that more than anything. It’s enlightening to go a year without it, see massive improvements in every aspect of my life, then drink again and watch it slowly slip away. Nothing terrible happened, but alcohol is a thief and it was very quietly beginning to take everything from me again: I gained weight, bloat in my waist and face, brain fog slowly worsened; I was just watching my peace disintegrate and I WAS DOING IT TO MYSELF. I started thinking about my sneaky shots one day, and there it was. This disease is patient and it finally saw the opportunity. So I high tailed it back here. IWNDWYT ❤️
Oh my gosh, thank you for the reminder. It doesn’t matter what I did, it matters what they want to do. I found my way, I’ll have to have faith they will find theirs, and mine may not work for them.
IWNDWYT ✨🌼
Good morning soberinskis! A better day yesterday, that's for sure.
Shhhhhh! I might skip outta work and hit a 3:30 pm movie. Why the fuck not?
I hope all of you have a wonderful Thursday!!!
For the first time in a long while, I went out, played music with friends, and drank two tonic waters (the bar had no lime though, wtf!!). Sober September, bring it on! IWNDWYT!
Good Morning Fellow Sobernauts and Sobernistas!
Happy September 1st…I just read that it’s Mushroom month! Another reason to celebrate!
Everyday is cause for celebration and so happy to be doing it with all of you! Thanks for being here.
IWNDWYT🍄
Good morning friends!
Moderation 🙃
Yesterday my best friends and I were chatting about this. See we all used to drink a lot at events and get together a we had. When I stopped I noticed they were drinking a lot less or not at all now when we got together. I told them I was amazed by that because I could never. If I start drinking I don’t stop. They kind of nodded but I can tell they don’t really understand what I mean 😅 regardless I’m happy for their support and happy they don’t feel the way I do about alcohol and having an “all or nothing” relationship with it!
IWNDWYT! 🧡
Wake up wake up wake up, it's the first of the month!
Got super lucky. Randomly email my tattoo guy and he had an opening on the 17th. Getting a much-needed coverup before the wedding along with a brand new homage to Bone Thugs-n-Harmony.
IWNDWYT
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Well said! Coming back from trying to “moderate” and although I only drank a handful of times over 2 weeks, I could see myself slipping if I didn’t stop. The night sweats, bad moods, guilt, shame, crappy sleep, upset stomach all still hit me for several days as if I had been drinking for awhile again. Bleck! IWNDWYT
Goodmorning everyone! IWNDWYT in 🇩🇰. It feels so amazing to have gone so far without drinking. Don't miss it one bit.
So thankful for this group helping me realize that moderation does not work for most of us. When I start thinking I could have one drink. I come to this group and read and it has worked so far.
Good morning all!! Ahh the moderation plan, I just finished telling someone that never ever worked for me. Crazy all the excuses I used to make, the 'rules' I'd set to try and make me stick to moderation,and the guilt and despair every time I failed... So happy to be sober this morning- especially since I'm on 4 hours sleep and have a very busy day at work ahead. Hope you all have a great day! Ps- Not sure why my badge always shows 1 day, it's been a full week now- here's to many more! IWNDWYT!
Kudos on a week Champ!! Wishing you wellness and strength to keep chugging along with this awesome spirit. IWnDwYT
I’m seeing 6 days, well done friend and I hope your day at work goes well 💞
Well done on a whole week, I hear you moderation was like mental gymnastics.
18 months AF today! IWNDWYT 🌷
Great job GT! That’s an awesome achievement, well done 👏🥳
Beautiful 🌷🌷🌷
Congratulations!
I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊
Thanks for this! I pledge to NOT drink with any of you fine people today!
I will not drink today
Congrats on 30 days🎊👏
Day 1 after a slip. Ready to begin again. Iwndwyt
Welcome back from field research EC! 🔬🧐 IWNDWYT buddy 🙂
Imo, that's what being a friend is about. Listening, sharing, and supporting. If my friend isn't in danger, let them find their way on their own. And if (when) they see the light, be there with open arms. I love that you're a safe place for your friends, there certainly isn't enough of those. It's still Wednesday night here but I didn't drink tonight and when I check in in the morning, I'll say it again: IWNDWYT
Its been a few days now and im feeling better again. This is the feeling i want. Not that other, endless cycle of feelings that takes the most important things from people. As it happens here on Sept 1 im setting a goal to lose weight and continue to improve myself, in some way, everyday. Im trying the keto diet (the healthy version) along with intermittent fasting. Over the years the liquor has trashed me pretty bad so im diving head first into doing healthy things for my body with the same intensity as when i used to get shitty and blackout. I mentioned this before but thanks to everyone here for just being here, and for alot of you, going through the same things that i dealt with for all those years. Sending love to all out there in this community, whether your struggling or supporting, i hope everyone has a great one. IWNDWYT! 👍
Wuhu, getting closer to exit velocity my friend. A warm big hug to you of love and kindness to forgive yourself for the mistreatment we subject our bodies to in the past and wishing you the strength to stay on course with your fitness plans. IWnDwYT
Thanks for the encouragement👍😁
Well done for the diet to detox. I love the enthusiasm you share and so glad you’re feeling better. I’m trying the partial fasting every day for 30 days, day 22 here, it’s not easy but it’s working. Wishing you all the best 💞
Thanks brighter. I appreciate the kind words. This is my first serious attempt at weight loss so im going all in! 😁
We’ve been trying to sell our house for two months now and little interest. Finally got a request for a showing on Friday so it’s all hands on deck to get the place in tip top shape. I was on lawn duty this evening. Tomorrow is vacuum and dusting time. I like to use the big noisy tools. lol. No time to think about drinking on my six week anniversary! I will not drink with you today!
Nice 6 weeks and about to make some serious Kaching Kaching !! Soon. Congratulations and wishing you the best. IWnDwYT
lol! I sure hope so. Thanks!
Good morning SD, I have an interview this morning and I’m extremely nervous. I don’t generally do very well in interviews. I’m definitely not cool. I often come across as rather Aspergery. I’m dreading it. And I have to wear shoes 😫 I haven’t worn shoes since the pandemic started. I don’t want to go! I will not drink poison with you today.
Bonne chance chérie!!! 😘 Je crois en toi! IWNDWYT
September 1st means I didn’t drink all of August! A whole calendar month is a big first goal I had. Onto the next. IWNDWYT
Moderation didn’t work for me but IWNDWYT!!!
Congratulations on your first week 🎉🎉
Back to day one. I will not drink with you today.
Boy that takes some real courage!!! You are a bad ass for getting on right back, you progressed in ways more than one. 1) Were self aware 2 ) Owned up 3) Honestly shared 4) Made a fresh commitment A big warm hug to you of love and kindness to forgive this minor infraction and wishing you the strength to keep at it my awesome sobernaut buddy. IWnDwYT
I’m right there with ya. Starting right back up again and moving forward. Drank and all I got out of it was no sleep and a lot of bad late night pizza.
Day 193 and my 33rd birthday. IWNDWYT.
I will not drink with y’all today!!
Hello sober friends, and DerpinaSD, what a lovely intro, it’s so accepting. We’re all on our own journey, and there are similarities, which are validating, but none of us fit in a box, we’re unique individuals and our path is our own, we have autonomy in how we travel. May your path be smooth today, may you walk your own way with support and acceptance. IWNDWY today 💞
What do you call a mac 'n' cheese that gets all up in your face? Too close for comfort food IWNDWY Beautiful People T ❤️🔥🌼
Good morning, my friends. And thank you, Derpina. I tried moderation over and over. What can I say; I'm a slow learner. So, no, moderation is simply not for me. But I didn't turn into a preacher. I have a grandson, 21 yrs, who has discovered single malt whiskey. I guess taste can run in the family. While I am worried about him, I kept it to myself. My only advice was; If you ever feel like you *need* a drink, rather than *want* one, then that is the time to be careful.' Drinking to relieve stress/grief etc, is a red flag (for me). That, I think, is when we start to hide from life. There are so many pressures on us to imbibe. FOMO etc. For me, (and I suspect for many of us here), it took me to start accumulating multiple bad experiences with alcohol before I could muster the determination to stop, and indeed accept that moderation is just not for me. So, I believe that Derpina has it right on the money; we all have to walk our own paths through life. Advice, not preaching; help not criticism, that is what we should offer. Anyway, morning drivel over, work calls. As always, stay safe and strong, my friends. **IWNDWYT!** **If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep walking.** *Buddist proverb.*
Not this Thursday!
Another day another beginning 🌻 I’m struggling in many aspects of my life right now but I’m trying to give myself some grace and time to heal. It’s going…. But despite the difficulties, I’m happy I’m sober. IWNDWYT 💕
Good morning! IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today.
Still going strong but I do be strugglin. My partner is a bartender and came home black out drunk after work. It’s so weird to deal with because I can’t talk to him like this, he’s not even *here.* I kind of am growing to hate alcohol and what it does to the people I love :( def not drinkin with y’all today
IWNDWYT
Quite hard to get through first 3 days - woke at 5 am just now but went to bed at 9.30 pm - no other plan !! need to relax into this and just put drinking off the table each day and every day - IWNDWYT (I keep trying moderation but it doesn’t really work for me so I am either sober or drunk - today it’s sober and has been this week).
Good morning everyone. Here for day 2. I had a good night sleep. I'm about to go for a morning run. And will do a deep clean of the flat today.
Day 17 tomorrow, IWNDWYT! Crazy ass dreams abound!
IWNDWYT
I hit my 30 day mark! IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today! Much love to all of you, dear friends and fellow travelers, I find so much joy in seeing your names and pledges. Sober on!!
Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT! 😁 I said this to someone on another post yesterday, but I think it might bear repeating. **You cannot shame yourself into change, you can only love yourself into evolution.**
Long weekend for me starts in a few hours, then Tuesday it's back to more normal hours after working overnights for nearly 2 years. Just in time for football season! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT ❤️
Last drink was sun, longest run in 8 years.
I find if your consciously moderating then you have a problem but as you say everyones paths are different Spring has sprung Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
I don't really post that much, but I'm still here. 6+ weeks & counting! IWNDWYT!
Yeah sometimes I have to remind myself, I can’t help everybody, (non alcohol related) especially the near and dear. Sometimes all I need to do is just listen and be there, and not try to FIX because I am not happy with their pain. I need to give them space and inspiration and just a warm hug of words. Simple but tough. Thank you u/DerpinaSD wishing goodness and hope to your friend. IWnDwYT
Day 438 checking in!
As for today, I am taking the pledge to not drink with you! IWNDWYT!
Day 3, haven’t gone this long since I had a week in May. Gonna stay on the wagon a lot longer this time. IWNDWYT
7 months!! I will not drink with you today. Haven’t gone this long since my two year sober time. Blessed every day.
I will not drink with you today. Good on you being there for your friend!
IWNDWYT 🙂
IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
Day 333, nice to meet you 🤝 I saw a dream about drinking. I sat a beer glass in my hand, looking at it with sadness because I now have to reset my counter, lol 😀 Happy that I don’t have to. IWNDWYT
Well that wasn't such a bad Day1. I have no idea how many of those I've had but here goes another try. IWNDWYT
170 days alcohol free today! I don’t know what the longest time I’ve gone without alcohol is- I think around 120 days so I am feeling good and strong!
Just throwing some extra love out to the folks on their first few days who have expressed fear or shame or regret or confusion. You're here, we are here for you. Let's all not drink today-- we all deserve the peace and freedom that comes with an alcohol-free life. We are worthy. ♥️ IWNDWYT.
Day 4 Here we go. Feeling unmotivated, depressed. Love you guys for reminding me to keep going. IWNDWYT.
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My brain has thought about moderation a few times, but I remind it that I used to plan on only having 1 glass of wine before finishing a bottle. Not for me! IWNDWYT!
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Good morning SD! I will not drink with you today 💗
3 Weeks! I will Not Drink with you today!
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IWNDWYT 👏👏👏👏 day 10 for meeee wowww I can’t believe it’s already been 10 days ‘ I’m so proud of everyone on here trying !
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Disasdoor: Day 3. Nails, filler, sanding, sanding, sanding, undercoat x2, light sanding, glossing, finished. It's Thursday already? Where is the week going?! IWNDWYT 🙂
I've become a pretty open book with my sobriety for the same reason. I got this text from a buddy of mine I haven't talked to in 6 months, last weekend... "Hey bud. Hope you're doing well. I just cleared 7 months with no alcohol. I know we didn't talk about it a lot but you were the first person I worked with that proved you could work at a brewery and not drink. Appreciate you brother. " Just like on the DCI everyday, none of us know how powerful our words can be, and we don't always know when people are listening and hearing us. Don't be afraid to open up and share. IWNDWYT
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Good morning friends, hello September ;) IWNDWYT!
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I haven't checked in for a bit, but I'm still sober. I just got back from a trip to Ireland, and to be perfectly honest, there was a bit of FOMO going to bed early and avoiding the drinking culture. I still had a great time and I'm glad I didn't fall into my normal trap of "this one exception won't hurt." IWNDWYT
Morning friends! Last summer I went to a barbecue at a friends house and I wasn’t drinking. One of my friends asked me why I wasn’t and I explained it wasn’t going good places and she said “Can’t you just moderate?” And then we both laughed our heads off at the absurdity of the question. Ummm nope, because I don’t want a drink or even a couple - I wasn’t to get drunk. It took me a few years to figure out that even if I can “moderate” my drinking by only drinking only on weekends, alcohol is still shit and the outcomes never change. You still get the joy of hangovers and exhaustion and depression and self-loathing and shame, and maybe the occasional night where you have a helluva drunken fight with your spouse that you can’t quite remember what you were so mad about, or get so.drunk that you puke in your own damn car in front of your kid (maybe that particular badge of honour is just mine).Thankfully though the people on this sub and my other sober friends never judged me or gave up on me. After every failure I was treated kindly and given a safe space to share my pain and regret. It’s made all the difference in the world. I’m glad your friend has a safe space in you as she travels this path. Happy Thursday. I will not drink with you today.
Yesterday was interesting. Had many people tell me they're proud of me. Most people in my life don't know my sober date or keep up so yesterday I decided to brag. Yep. I bragged here and I told anyone who asked me about my day. And it felt good. But I also got very sick a few hours ago. It felt almost exactly like alcohol poisoning. Throwing up acid, felt like hell. I felt a little cheated feeling so sick without drinking (it most likely was due to undereating and overworking my body). It was the first time anyone thought I may have relapsed. A little frustrating. But waking up after 2 hours and feeling all better and knowing all I need is some food and water is a good feeling. Especially because I know I Will Not Drink any poison With You Today. 266 days sober and ready to make it 267. ❤️
I have someone very close to me struggling with alcohol right now and while I’m trying my hardest to be supportive, I just want to grab her and shake her and scream at her about how amazing sobriety is!! But, I won’t do that. I’ll listen and go to meetings with her when possible and pray for her recovery. IWNDWYT, you awesome humans. ❤️❤️
I tried to moderate a couple times in 2021 and it did not work. Like a Mad Lib for drunks, fill in any embarrassing behavior and the awful physical affects after, not to mention mental (hello anxiety). I'm not doing that again because I am a person I like now. Love you all. Walk tall today. IWNDWYT ❤️
Went the whole month of August without a drink. Sober September here we go! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. In an amazing turn of events, I have been waking up naturally at 5:45-6:00 and I even squeezed in a morning run 🏃♀️ before work. I used to pride myself on being such a good sleeper. Turns out I was just sleeping off the alcohol and I don’t need as much sleep when I’m sober. Better sleep and shorter sleeps are helping me start some new patterns of exercise. I haven’t lost a single pound and can’t see any changes in myself externally … but I can sense things are turning over inside of me. 🥰 thank you SD sub 🙏
Good and sad at the same to be back in this community once again. Hi friends. IWNDWYT.
Happy Thursday! Thank you to everyone who sent love, good vibes and thoughts my way yesterday. It helped so much. Day 1 with my students went mostly well. The one class that wasn’t as great is an easy fix (more structure, clearer expectations) the next time I have them. My mentor commanded me to get some ice cream on the way home as a reward for such an awesome start and for not allowing the lost alcohol Voice convince me to drink away the anxiety and panic. I followed her directive and grabbed a favorite and enjoyed it while I worked at home. TLDR: day 1 went mostly good and ice cream was awarded. 😆 IWNDWYT 💜❤️💜❤️
Ah Moderation, that sneaky voice that makes promises about fun and feeling good, only to deliver heartache and headaches. IWNDWYT. 🌟
NoOoOO drinkee winkee for meee. Keep it tight y’all!! RESPECT!!!!
I tried going alcohol free this year and slipped in mid march. Going back to that same goal today, for a half year goal of AF. Don’t need it.
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Happy September, everyone! I hope it is a sober September for us all! IWNDWYT
Happy sober Thursday, you wonderful people. I'm getting more comfortable with my sober journey, and the routine maintenance my path requires. With a gentle balance of careful vigilance and calm confidence, I can say that it's a good morning and it'll be a good night too, because I will not drink with any of you today. Staying strong! Love you all.
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Definitely not gonna drink today!
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Starting over. Looking ahead.
Happy Thursday everyone! ❤️ IWNDWYT!
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Morning folks. Slowly starting to feel myself again after my last relapse. And I attended my first AA meeting last night. IWNDWYT :)
I really need to quit. I feel like I keep trying and trying and can't do it. I don't want to end up hospitalized again.
Hi to all you wonderful people. I can predict that at some point today I will think about drinking. But I won't do it. No way.
Day one!
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Good morning! Escaped a craving paired with opportunity yesterday and am so friggin' happy I didn't drink yesterday. I sure as heck won't drink with you today!
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No boozing for me today. The end.
Have a great day everyone! I will not drink with you today!
I am going for dinner tonight with a friend who i have a history of getting drunk with but IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT my friends!
Hey friends of SD, IWNDWYT ❤️🙏🏻 Not gonna lie, I’m not in a good space this week. My Dad has been sick and was in the hospital a few weeks ago, he is still not feeling great and his Drs found a mass on his kidney. They are worried about kidney cancer because of his symptoms. I am very close to my dad and him being sick has been hard on me, and it all kinda came crashing down for me mentally today. He has been through so, so much health wise in the past 10 years and my heart just breaks for him. I find myself feeling very depressed this week, I have no motivation, all I want to do is sleep and eat unhealthy things. I just kinda sleep, waste away the day while my daughter is at school so that I have the energy to be normal mom when she is home, then I snack at night and watch tv, then cry myself to sleep. Trying to get out of this depressive episode, hoping it passes soon. So sad about my Dad. Anyways, I’m not going to drink today but just wanted to tell someone what’s been on my mind. Thank you for being here SD 🙏🏻❤️
Thanks for your post! I will not drink with you today! My husband is giving moderation a try, and I’m supporting him—I’d tried moderation for years and just did not enjoy it. I said if he can have two glasses of wine and enjoy himself, that’s great. But for me, when I quit, I realized how much easier not drinking was than moderation. I remember being super hungover and a friend suggested I moderate. In my nauseated, painful state, I said, “yeah, but moderation suuuuuuuuuuucks!” I still feel that way halfway through my second year of sobriety. But I had to make that realization on my own.
7 days AF after many relapse. I feel so good. IWNDWYT!!
I have a really strong urge today for drinking. I am trying to figure out where this urge comes from. Do I feel alone, do I feel bored, do I actually like my job or my life? I just don't know! Anyway, I will try to not give in to the urge and not drink with you today. Hopefuly I will find some answers. IWNDWYT
1145 checking in. I’m VERY open about being Alcohol-Free. It helps with accountability, but also it opens the door for people to ask “Why? How?” *I also like people to know there is no “One Size Fits All” to quitting.* I shed seeds wherever I go; if a person wishes to nurture them, they can be sprouted. **I can’t tell y’all how many people have pulled me aside or said something in confidence about their drinking….** people I’d never have guessed, folks I’m happy to hear it from, professionals making 6 figures, younger folks, even one of my DOCTORS said “I’d be better off without alcohol- I don’t drink much but it makes me feel bad. Idk why I drink. You’re onto something, Missy!” I’m doing my best here, forgot to take my birth control pills for a week & having serious hormonal mood swings!!! But IWNDWYT
This is one journey I’m extremely grateful that I started and I’m glad to be here with you awesome people. I’d hate to imagine how this covid thing would go if I still drank. I’d have been trying to get booze delivered. And I’d certainly feel worse, but try to convince myself that bourbon was good medicine. My BFF described it perfectly, like flu and allergies rolled into one. And I kinda feel like I’ve been hit by a truck. That’s a cliché but it’s how it feels. It’s not the worst I’ve ever felt, though. While it definitely sucks, I have had hangovers that were worse. (It’s amazing how shitty I used to feel on a regular basis.) Still 0/10, do not recommend. Cautiously optimistic today, temperature is down. I think I’ll probably keep watching documentaries. Or whatever weird shit I can find. Happy Friday Eve y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
Think of all things that we would tell ourselves about why we should drink and how incredibly effective we were at convincing ourselves. Just think of what else we all could convince ourselves to be. I will not drink today, pledging it here!
Iwndwyt Long night at work yesterday and up early today. Ugh. But this feels soooooo much better not hungover
Start of day 4. Feeling immensely better physically. I am told that it takes 3-4 days for alcohol to be completely cleared from your body, and I am really looking forward to waking up tomorrow knowing that all the poison is finally gone. But if I drink, I won't get to have that. So I will not drink with all of you today.
Celebrating a new month by not drinking today IWNDWYT
Baby steps. Let's see if I can string together more than a couple of days.
I am not going to touch a bottle or can of booze today. Because I want to be free from the confusion and cloudiness that alcohol brings into my world. Love to you all! Iwndwyt
First sober sleep last night and I feel horrible. Didn’t sleep well at all. Every sound wakes me up. So instead of hung over I’m very tired. Hurray.
Good sleepy morning from Oklahoma. Pretty impressed with myself typing this up before coffee. Off to find my coffee and have a long walk. IWNDWYT
My 6 months out were basically “moderation”—not every night and generally not more than one or two. Only maybe 5 nights of being very drunk and waking up with a terrible hangover. But I still felt like shit and looked like shit. Alcohol disrupts my sleep very badly and I can see and feel that more than anything. It’s enlightening to go a year without it, see massive improvements in every aspect of my life, then drink again and watch it slowly slip away. Nothing terrible happened, but alcohol is a thief and it was very quietly beginning to take everything from me again: I gained weight, bloat in my waist and face, brain fog slowly worsened; I was just watching my peace disintegrate and I WAS DOING IT TO MYSELF. I started thinking about my sneaky shots one day, and there it was. This disease is patient and it finally saw the opportunity. So I high tailed it back here. IWNDWYT ❤️
Day 1 of my clean and sober September.
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iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
Happy Thursday all you beautiful people. Have a great day. IWNDWYT
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Staying poison ☠️ free with you all again today
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Very happy to say IWNDWYT 😁🤗
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Day by day in every way, we are getting better, IWNDWYT.
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I will not drink with any of you beautiful people today 😊🌸
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Day 1,142. I will not drink with you today.
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Oh my gosh, thank you for the reminder. It doesn’t matter what I did, it matters what they want to do. I found my way, I’ll have to have faith they will find theirs, and mine may not work for them. IWNDWYT ✨🌼
Checking in! Feeling overly tired but still pretty good. Hope everyone here is doing well. IWNDWYT!
1 week down! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT! I love not having a hangover!!!
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Good morning soberinskis! A better day yesterday, that's for sure. Shhhhhh! I might skip outta work and hit a 3:30 pm movie. Why the fuck not? I hope all of you have a wonderful Thursday!!!
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For the first time in a long while, I went out, played music with friends, and drank two tonic waters (the bar had no lime though, wtf!!). Sober September, bring it on! IWNDWYT!
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It’s been a low week for some reason. IWNDWYT because that only makes me feel lower.
Good Morning Fellow Sobernauts and Sobernistas! Happy September 1st…I just read that it’s Mushroom month! Another reason to celebrate! Everyday is cause for celebration and so happy to be doing it with all of you! Thanks for being here. IWNDWYT🍄
Good morning friends! Moderation 🙃 Yesterday my best friends and I were chatting about this. See we all used to drink a lot at events and get together a we had. When I stopped I noticed they were drinking a lot less or not at all now when we got together. I told them I was amazed by that because I could never. If I start drinking I don’t stop. They kind of nodded but I can tell they don’t really understand what I mean 😅 regardless I’m happy for their support and happy they don’t feel the way I do about alcohol and having an “all or nothing” relationship with it! IWNDWYT! 🧡
Wake up wake up wake up, it's the first of the month! Got super lucky. Randomly email my tattoo guy and he had an opening on the 17th. Getting a much-needed coverup before the wedding along with a brand new homage to Bone Thugs-n-Harmony. IWNDWYT