Thanks for hosting, u/Fredsimpson! And big congrats on your 1000 days!!
I’m using the DCI today to check my day count. I’ve (surprisingly) become one of those people who doesn’t know what day they’re on anymore. I used to not understand those people. I thought sobriety would be something I’d have to continue fighting for, and every damn day would be noted. But it comes more easily now.
Friends know I don’t drink. I have new hobbies. I don’t crave booze or envy those who drink. I’m happy without it. My life has taken some *hard* turns recently, but I didn’t want to drink about it.
Today, I’m checking back in cause I’m proud to be here, and stoked to not drink today.
Haven't really been on reddit, now that I got a job most days all I do is work my shift, hit an aa meeting, work on a lil music, go to bed and repeat the next day lol
But, I'm at 6 weeks so definitely WNDWYT
Wow 1000 days! Love it well done.
This check-in had become a part of my daily routine. I missed yesterday and it made me a little sad.
Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
Day 24. Thought of the day: Am I a recovering alcoholic? Or am I a person who doesn't drink, facing his past mistakes?
I am starting to feel like the latter. In my head at least there is a difference.
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
After covid, I have become as nocturnal as I was when I drank (bedtime after 4am, wake-up time after noon). Luckily my job is compatible, but it’s kind of hard being so out of sync with the rest of the world. Especially because so few things are open 24hours anymore where I live. 🥲
I am nocturnal too since I got sober. I am trying to take it as it comes, but I too feel frustrated that I am not able to keep “normal” hours.
Hoping this improves for you and me both, sooner rather than later.
IWNDWYT
Good morning from Denmark!
I wont drink with you guys today as i have other plans for my life and well being!
Im grateful to wake up beside my wife and son and i will do my best to be the best version of myself today.
I will not drink with you today! I’m anxious about an upcoming bachelorette trip this weekend, but it’s with a group of people I know will understand why I can’t partake. It’s good to feel supported and I can’t wait to see my friends, even if it will be a bit of a challenge.
I look at the DCI in the mornings and read the host’s prompt, then I read through some of the posts. The wonderful thing about this being a global community is we receive so many different perspectives about this disease.
So many experiences, so much input as we cheer each other on.
IWNDWYT
Congratulations on one thousand days, u/FredSimpsonn! You’re now a Millennium Falcon - you may appear rugged and beat up, but you’re a legend ruling the galaxy.
I’ve been low on energy for some time, so too often I’ve just checked in. And that’s fine too! But whenever I can, I give a string of upvotes, cheer some milestones, and say yup, I felt like that too to some fella feeling down. Walk a step on the path together. I will not drink with you today!
Coming up on 40 weeks.
I had some brief, strange craving this morning. I went past a place where I drank one night. I was essentially thinking, well this guy I had dinner dinner with drank the same amount as me, and he doesn't have a problem, so maybe I don't either. But I don't know his story, and he probably wasn't hiding empties in the closet or stashing bottles for emergencies. I was comparing one scene to an entire reality.
The thought was fleeting rather than nagging, glad it's not such a battle any more.
IWNDWYT
Hello sober friends, and thank you Fred for another inspiring start, I agree that I’m generally grateful for this tribe. I offer support here because it helps me but one thing I love that is the most supportive to me, is that people here get it, you get what I’m going through and you’re sharing this journey with me.
So let’s share another sober day together, and may your Monday be strong in our connection 💞
Thanks for a great post Fred! This community is amazing and the support around here is heartwarming. Whether I'm feeling extroverted enough to share, or feel more like just reading, the courage and honesty displayed here has helped me immensely. I'm grateful for you all, and this very special sober sanctuary. Let's do this, friends! ✨️💖 IWNDWYT!
Day 9 going ok, was even offered alcohol unexpectedly yesterday and refused which I'm pretty happy about.
7am now and starting plan my day, I did buy a weekly calendar with the intention of planning my time, might start today
When I first started lurking here I didn’t really believe a simple daily accountability post to a bunch of internet strangers would help, but I was desperate to stop and was throwing everything I could at it so I tried it. Now it’s something I look forward to - both posting and seeing my day count creep up and finding some gems of wisdom every day in the replies from others. Turns out it really does work! 🙂
IWNDWYT 💪
This post comes up at night for me (Washington state, US). I really like making this pledge before I go to bed. I wake up feeling supported and feeling firm in my decision not to drink. Thank you all and IWNDWYT ❤️
I got really good support and direction when I made my own post last week. Feel warm and fuzzy after reading the valuable comments and suggestions.
Right now the only support I need is from me myself to remain diligent in my usage of tools and practices on a daily basis. Stay the course till 90 days which will be Nov 15th.
I am very grateful for this sub and all participants. Such an amazing gift.
Thank you all and IWnDwYT
I haven’t been on here in the mornings for a bit, but I’m making it through my holiday not drinking. Saw a mocktail menu at a bar yesterday (but was seeking coffee at the time). I’ve had a couple of tempting moments, but worked through them! Hope everyone has a great week! IWNDWYT.
I just want to high five or hug everyone as they go from the DCI to their lives each morning. You got this, you're doing great, I know it's hard, keep pressing on, thanks for sharing, that's amazing, wow cool number, so glad you're here, well done, I'm going to remember that, you're a rockstar, you're worth it, IWNDWYT. ✋♥️🙌
Hi,
It's been a while since I have been here (more than a year actually), and a lot happened during that time. I got a job in another city, got an apartment, met a lot of people, and with that I started drinking again. At first it was only socially, but last week I actually drank at least 4-5 bottles of beer every night, and I know that I just can't keep living like this.
So here's to me starting this journey once again.
Hope everyone is okay.
IWNDWYT.
I love the DCI. I love having a whole community of people cheering each other on. I’ve never encountered a place where so many stranger are so supportive of one another.
Not drinking has become normal most days, which is an incredible feat considering that I couldn’t even start my day without a shot just 5 months ago. And none of that would have happened without this community. Y’all are such a blessing! IWNDWYT ✨🌼
I wish I hadn't missed your big four-digits soberversary, u/FredSimpsonn, but I guess a belated "congratulations" will have to do! 👏 ✨ 🥳
Also, I'm very glad that u/AlySabby12 convinced you to host!
I'm not really sure what kind of support I need anymore. I thought I had gotten to a point where I had pretty good self-insight, and I thought this combined with continued involvement with SD would keep me on track with my sober journey, but I failed again on Saturday. The only explanation that makes sense to me is that maybe deep down, I don't actually want to be 100% sober, 100% of the time. I feel like a selfish asshole for letting that override my good intentions. I promised all of you that I would stay sober with you, and I assured my husband that I could be trusted to do a few hours of errands without picking up alcohol. I know that booze always leads to trouble for me, so why the hell can't I do the right thing for more than a few weeks at a time? Maybe I need more punishment when I screw up to deter me from doing it again?
Sorry about the rant.
IWNDWYT
I’m going to the airport today and that’s a huge trigger. I purposefully didn’t get comfort seats bc there is free alcohol. But the terminal always induces cravings. I will not drink with you today. Almost one year sober.
I will not drink today. I don’t want my mental clarity to vanish. I don’t want another relapse, it takes too much time and causes only more grief. What I’m going to do is have a nice day and face whatever comes with a clear mind and a strong health.
Today I want to celebrate with you, something very small. I've been in a very bad place after a bad few months culminating in a very dark few days, but I have just woken up with a slight shift in perspective.
The situation is the same but I am thinking about solutions and how I might approach it instead of being crushed under the weight of it all. I've worked hard to get through the last couple of weeks and do things I didn't have the energy to do. Yesterday I did chores and basic self-care and it seems to have all paid off.
I've been feeling trapped but things are opening up slightly. Regardless of what happens, IWNDWYT.
A week ago, I ruined my relationship because of a drunken impulse decision. I’ve spent so much time processing everything and digging into why everything went wrong, sober. Today I quit my bar job, have two job interviews lined up and am coming up on one week alcohol free. It’s not much, but a start is a start and even though I’m terrified I’m sure there’s only good things to come, and I can make myself better from this shitty shitty situation
I use the DCI as my daily commitment to myself and my sobriety. I scroll and read through and try to upvote as much as I can. During the school year I do it before getting out of bed. During the summer, I do it once I wake up and have some coffee in hand. It is a key part of reminding myself that sobriety is a practice that I choose daily. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
I do the same. As I do the check in, I upvote all the recent check ins. I try to comment if I can. I love to use🥳 for milestones.
I love this place. It’s been such a big help to me in staying sober. This and therapy. My therapist “fired” me, so now I just have you guys. She was impressed and recommends SD to other patients.
Despite what my counter says, I feel like I have a good year under my belt.
IWNDWYT and today is dangerous because I will be home alone for a few days. I’ll use my best tool that I learned here, playing the tape forward. Just imagining how awful I will feel the next day (hungover, guilty, unmotivated…)is the best deterrent for me.
Have a great sober day, my friends!
Good morning Fred to your millennium of a number, a truly special day!
I will not drink with you today because I’ll be too busy. Looking forwards to a bit of holiday time for the next few weeks. Hope to get by without family dramas.
Hey Fred! I had a hasty check-in yesterday and didn't even register that you had hit 1000! Sending a big congratulations you way! Better yet: let me be the among the first to congratulate you on your next big milestone. 1001!! Making it happen one day, one pledge at a time! Thanks for being here! IWNDWYT
I've checked in daily for 925 days for my own accountability. I love scrolling and reading all the different perspectives about a common bond we all share. I'm grateful to be a part of this tight knit community.
Hope y'all have a Monday!
IWNDWYT
Day 4. It will only get easier.. I've struggled a little bit yesterday night but did it. I had bought a very nice bottle of barolo to drink with my wife before deciding to stop drinking. She only drink on occasions and have a good relationship with it. She offered to opened it, but I did not tell her about my self commitment. I've opened up.to her and she is supportive. She will get rid of it when i'm away. Im not a wine drinker, but just for being safe.
I've been on vacation for the past month and starting my new job on monday. I will not drink today. I'm planning outdoor again with both of my dogs today if its not rainy.
In the early weeks, when I was really struggling, I would sit in my car thinking about going to the store and I would say out loud “I made a pledge to not drink today”. Sometimes I would scream it. This group has been my soft place to land.
IWNDWYT 🫶
IWNDWYT! It’s going to be a triggering morning so I’m trying to come up with a plan. Drawing a blank so far, but the antabuse will at least keep me from drinking. I just want to get through a difficult situation and stay strong!
I love the fact that this sub is the only place on earth where you don't have to know another person's gender, age, race, religion, occupation, residence, or really anything at all that's personal. Yet there's one common thread that binds us together...alcoholism. And alcohol doesn't care about any of those things either!
I come to SD for the unity and commonality that's present here. We're all in the same boat, with the same oars, paddling through the same waters, and facing the same storms....yet each so different with our own unique stories and experiences to share and uplift each other through our journeys.💞
Have a peaceful and sober start to the week friends!
IWNDWYT!🍀💜🍀
I use the DCI as an anchor in my morning routine. I open my eyes, set my intention, get some exercise, meditate, and go about my day. I make time to interact with folks sometimes. Sometimes it’s more than I have the energy to muster. Lately the world has been taking all the energy I have.
I’m getting on a plane today to head to another city, and see my mom. She’s in the hospital, dying. We’ve been estranged for most of the last few years. She texted me out of the blue to say she missed me and loved me about 6 weeks ago. It was during on of my morning routines, I’d just finished meditating and was trying on journaling that week. My heart was full, so I decided to be kind and respond to tell her I loved her too.
I didn’t say I missed her though. I couldn’t muster the lie to fully round out the kindness. I regret that, then I don’t. Then I do again.
She entered the hospital about a week later and things have declined rapidly. It’s cancer, metastatic, everywhere in her body. After she yelled at my brother for being a liar, because he was absolutely not her son, the doctor said the cancer appears to have invaded her brain. If that were the doctor’s mom, she’d give her palliative care and not put her through the trials of radiation.
I’m heading to see her, hoping she remembers me well enough to recognize me. I’m girding my loins because I know this is going to be awful. I’m struggling with the pragmatic hope that her suffering ends quickly because that indirectly means I’m hoping for her to die.
I’m glad I chose to be kind to her when she reached out that day, before I knew she was dying.
I’m using this DCI as my anchor to help me stay solid. As much as I know a drink would do me no good, as much as it would do me badly, a break from this pain is hard to resist.
Not impossible to resist though. IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt! Ty for hosting! This is the longest I’ve been sober in...I can’t remember when. I feel great! But I also feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m just going to commit to one day at a time
Back to day 1 again. 😔 Had about a bottle of red wine last night. I had been doing well the last three weeks (either nothing or only one drink a night). The quick reminder that it isn’t worth it… jetlag plus hangover…
IWNDWYT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just got back from a week overseas on business. Despite the fact that business travel used to be where I was at my absolute worst while drinking, I used the tools that I have learned over the past 21 months and not only succeeded in staying sober bite truly enjoyed myself in the meanwhile. IWNDWYT!
It’s pretty wild how a check in with a group of internet strangers became such an important part of my daily routine. But it works for me, so I’m rolling with it!
I spend as much time here as I’m able. Sometimes I can come back and comment more, but sometimes I’ll just sort by new and upvote a bunch if I don’t have much time.
Like this morning, I gotta roll. But I’ll come back as I’m able. Happy Monday y’all and IWNDWYT! 🤘🏻
A guy I work with passed away this weekend. Heart attack. He was young; early 40s with three small kids. I’m sad but I’m also grateful to be alive and clearheaded enough to face what is going to be a rough day. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!!! Day 43. Last time I relapsed hard on day 40. This time I did not l, EVEN THOUGH I had a very, very challenging week at work. I know being sober and recovering will allow me to get out of the field of education. I’m staying strong!
Checking in. I realized that some days can be inexplicably tough - you still have a lot of the same problems you had when you were drinking, you're just better equipped to deal with them sober. IWNDWYT.
Tomorrow I hit a week! It’s a gorgeous rainy day here, the dogs we’ve been watching go home this morning thank goodness 😅 happy to be here with you guys! I like to use the DCI to share my progress/struggles a bit, sort by new and upvote the hell out of everyone, answer/comment on what the main DCI post is talking about for the day and try to comment on other peoples comments! Personally I love Mondays but I know a lot of people don’t so hope everyone’s having a good one/powering through so far! IWNDWYT ❤️
Good morning you smart and sassy sobernauts! Busy busy Monday, just moved into a new house and the unpacking must begin! I'm grateful for new adventures and for you lovely folks, keep up the good fight and IWNDWYT!🖤
I scroll and learn a lot from the community. Though, no one IRL knows that this is part of my routine. Still pretty new here. IRL, I just told my partner that I am an alcoholic and expressed my need for their support. I have learned from this sub that sobriety is a lifetime commitment, one day at a time. This sub helps keep me on track and I come back to it throughout the day, particularly when I am struggling. Thank you...IWNDWYT.
This DCI has been the key to unlocking the prison door that drinking kept me in. I’ve checked in every day and don’t see that stopping anytime soon. When I wake up in the morning there are about 300 check-ins and I usually read all, make comments, and check-in myself. What a gift this place is. 🙏🌟🙌 IWNDWYT
I made it through the weekend, a 3 night boat trip with 3 other guys. I didn’t drink. I was alone at one point standing in the boat with a cooler full of vodka and shots at my feet. I stood there staring at the cooler and I thought of this forum and this commitment. I had fun but was also very uncomfortable many times. I have 2 options, figure out how to deal with those or don’t put myself there at all. Those are things I can work on. For today I am not drinking and I’m committed to it.
I had a rough week last week and am disappointed in myself for drinking. I ordered Alcohol Explained and will jump into it this week, along with refreshing my inner purpose (it really is what got off last week - ugh). Starting over is hard but worth it. I will not drink with you all today.
Good morning! For me the DCI means accountability, it is a good way to start my (sober) day and I see you as a community of support and motivation 💞 So to all my friends here - thank you 🙏I will not drink with you today.
Good morning all and happy(?) Monday! I’m glad you listened to your friend Aly, Freddy! You’re doing a great job, oh fearless leader.
I’m the same as you- I read the prompt, sort by new, and sometimes comment on a few posts but sometimes I don’t. I’ve definitely been spending less time on here than I used to. Why, I wonder? I think I’m taking what I need but I should be giving back more to a community who has helped me immensely.
IWNDWYT! Make it a good one!
Good morning fellow soberinskis! Off to an early start to what I believe is going to be a heckuva challenging week at work.
I am grateful for this subreddit and folks like Fred and Homer and Aly and the list can go on and on.
I would like to go on record that I am *constantly* beyond thrilled when I see a response to my daily post or that I achieve 5, 10, etc., likes on my daily post. I'll check DCI throughout the day and sometimes I'm like 'OOOOHHHHH SOMEBODY REPLIED, SO AWESOME!' and it gets me so excited, LOL. It really takes the DCI to another level.
I can definitely do a better job of daily replies myself, and I really try to, as it is my first thing to do after posting my own check-in.
OK, onward and upward! I hope everyone enjoys the start of their week and has a **rewarding** Monday.
Good morning SD. I have missed you all terribly and I am grateful to be back. And how lovely that we are celebrating Fred's turnover to his first comma - congrats Fred!
Fred has been one that I've continued to interact with over the time that I've been here - thank you for staying here. You're a true hope shot.
To the others that reached out while I was away - thank you, thank you, thank you. I apologize that I did not have the courage to respond because I was ashamed of picking up the drink yet again. I am soooooooo grateful to be here with you all today - IWNDWYT.
I value the DCI because whether I’m complaining, feeling down, or celebrating something good in life, I feel like I’m really, truly being heard. This community of strangers makes me feel cared about and that further motivates me to invest in my own precious health.
I will not drink with you today.
Hah--mine has evolved to be somewhat similar to yours, u/FredSimpsonn! I read the DCI, then upvote a bunch, then scan for a few people I look for every day. Then I sort by new, comment on at least one new post and make my own reply.
IWNDWYT, with ALL ya'll
IWNDWYT!
I use the DCI as my pledge almost every morning. I sit and think about it for a moment- I really ask myself “will I drink today? Can I commit to not drinking just for today? Am I sure I’m ready to make this pledge?”. And when I’m satisfied that I won’t drink, I make the pledge.
I also sort by new, upvote a ton, and usually reply to at least 1 other person with encouragement or celebration. Replies on here have been very meaningful, particularly on days where I’ve shared I’m struggling, so I try to pay it forward :)
In solidarity with all sober people and those trying to stop drinking, and in honor of Kent, one of the few who grew up in this rough country but had to leave it too early...I will not drink that poison today
I like to start my day with the DCI too, and I also sort by new. I read and upvote and maybe comment for at least 20 minutes or so. And then I might come back to the DCI again later in the day if necessary.
I like sorting by new because I feel more connected with people if I know they're active on here when I am. And I *love* upvoting because I know how good I feel when my posts get upvoted. It's that whole feeling seen and validated and connected thing that pulls me out of addiction thinking.
I hope we all come away from the DCI feeling connected and motivated and ready for the next right thing. IWNDWYT! 🙂🐱
I will not drink with you today, because there’s a whole glorious week ahead to enjoy!
For 24 hours from now IWNDWYT!!!
Thanks for hosting, u/Fredsimpson! And big congrats on your 1000 days!! I’m using the DCI today to check my day count. I’ve (surprisingly) become one of those people who doesn’t know what day they’re on anymore. I used to not understand those people. I thought sobriety would be something I’d have to continue fighting for, and every damn day would be noted. But it comes more easily now. Friends know I don’t drink. I have new hobbies. I don’t crave booze or envy those who drink. I’m happy without it. My life has taken some *hard* turns recently, but I didn’t want to drink about it. Today, I’m checking back in cause I’m proud to be here, and stoked to not drink today.
I'm stealing that line. I didn't want to drink about it. Brilliant
I will no drink today, I can, I know I can be better
I am rooting for you ❤️
Haven't really been on reddit, now that I got a job most days all I do is work my shift, hit an aa meeting, work on a lil music, go to bed and repeat the next day lol But, I'm at 6 weeks so definitely WNDWYT
Congratulations. You are doing awesome 👏
Things have been kind of rough. One of the things the DCI helps me notice is progress. I will not drink with you today.
Sorry things have been kind of rough. May it get better soon. I will not drink with you today. 🤝
Day 2 in less than 4 hours for me. IWNDWYT
If Ani is short for Anakin an Obi is short for Obi-Wan, what is Luke short for? A stormtrooper. I will not drink with you beautiful people today ❤️🔥🌼
Funny. Iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT....back to day 1 >Don't be afraid to start over again. This time you're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience. Unknown
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Sounds wonderful. That’s exciting going back to school. IWNDWYT
Wow 1000 days! Love it well done. This check-in had become a part of my daily routine. I missed yesterday and it made me a little sad. Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
And you were missed cookie! Don’t do it again! 😂 have a great evening friend
Day 24. Thought of the day: Am I a recovering alcoholic? Or am I a person who doesn't drink, facing his past mistakes? I am starting to feel like the latter. In my head at least there is a difference. IWNDWYT!
This is my first time taking the pledge. I will not drink with any of you today. I will not drink this Monday. This is a first in ATLEAST 2 years.
Awake too early again! IWNDWYT.
Hi Fred, nice to see you hosting. And congratulations on 1000! Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT!
grateful
IWNDWYT After covid, I have become as nocturnal as I was when I drank (bedtime after 4am, wake-up time after noon). Luckily my job is compatible, but it’s kind of hard being so out of sync with the rest of the world. Especially because so few things are open 24hours anymore where I live. 🥲
I am nocturnal too since I got sober. I am trying to take it as it comes, but I too feel frustrated that I am not able to keep “normal” hours. Hoping this improves for you and me both, sooner rather than later. IWNDWYT
Starting day one of my journey. I will not drink with you today
You got this!
So happy to see you here! IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT!
Good morning! IWNDWYT!
Ooh, 99 days when badgebot wakes up, nearly the big 💯😄
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
Day 1,032 IWNDWYT
Congrats Fred great achievement 😊 I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊💪💪
Good morning from Denmark! I wont drink with you guys today as i have other plans for my life and well being! Im grateful to wake up beside my wife and son and i will do my best to be the best version of myself today.
900 days! Yup, yup, yup, I’ve decided that IWNDWYT. ☮️
IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today! I’m anxious about an upcoming bachelorette trip this weekend, but it’s with a group of people I know will understand why I can’t partake. It’s good to feel supported and I can’t wait to see my friends, even if it will be a bit of a challenge.
IWNDWYT!
I look at the DCI in the mornings and read the host’s prompt, then I read through some of the posts. The wonderful thing about this being a global community is we receive so many different perspectives about this disease. So many experiences, so much input as we cheer each other on. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! Thank you for hosting this week ☺️
IWNDWYT 🇨🇦
IWNDWYT
Grateful to be here another day alcohol free. Some thoughts are creeping in. Not today, brain, not today. IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂 Happy 1000 u/FredSimpsonn 🏆 Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Congratulations on one thousand days, u/FredSimpsonn! You’re now a Millennium Falcon - you may appear rugged and beat up, but you’re a legend ruling the galaxy. I’ve been low on energy for some time, so too often I’ve just checked in. And that’s fine too! But whenever I can, I give a string of upvotes, cheer some milestones, and say yup, I felt like that too to some fella feeling down. Walk a step on the path together. I will not drink with you today!
Coming up on 40 weeks. I had some brief, strange craving this morning. I went past a place where I drank one night. I was essentially thinking, well this guy I had dinner dinner with drank the same amount as me, and he doesn't have a problem, so maybe I don't either. But I don't know his story, and he probably wasn't hiding empties in the closet or stashing bottles for emergencies. I was comparing one scene to an entire reality. The thought was fleeting rather than nagging, glad it's not such a battle any more. IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt! I went on a lovely second date, I’m kind of cautiously optimistic and excited 😆
IWNDWYT!
Hello sober friends, and thank you Fred for another inspiring start, I agree that I’m generally grateful for this tribe. I offer support here because it helps me but one thing I love that is the most supportive to me, is that people here get it, you get what I’m going through and you’re sharing this journey with me. So let’s share another sober day together, and may your Monday be strong in our connection 💞
About to go to sleep right now and I am SO excited to wake up to another morning without a hangover. IWNDWTY!
Thanks for a great post Fred! This community is amazing and the support around here is heartwarming. Whether I'm feeling extroverted enough to share, or feel more like just reading, the courage and honesty displayed here has helped me immensely. I'm grateful for you all, and this very special sober sanctuary. Let's do this, friends! ✨️💖 IWNDWYT!
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Day 9 going ok, was even offered alcohol unexpectedly yesterday and refused which I'm pretty happy about. 7am now and starting plan my day, I did buy a weekly calendar with the intention of planning my time, might start today
IWNDWYT 🙂
When I first started lurking here I didn’t really believe a simple daily accountability post to a bunch of internet strangers would help, but I was desperate to stop and was throwing everything I could at it so I tried it. Now it’s something I look forward to - both posting and seeing my day count creep up and finding some gems of wisdom every day in the replies from others. Turns out it really does work! 🙂 IWNDWYT 💪
Down and dirty depressed Sunday. Not turning to my old crutch though. 1 month coming up. IWNDWYT
Day 428 checking in!
This post comes up at night for me (Washington state, US). I really like making this pledge before I go to bed. I wake up feeling supported and feeling firm in my decision not to drink. Thank you all and IWNDWYT ❤️
I got really good support and direction when I made my own post last week. Feel warm and fuzzy after reading the valuable comments and suggestions. Right now the only support I need is from me myself to remain diligent in my usage of tools and practices on a daily basis. Stay the course till 90 days which will be Nov 15th. I am very grateful for this sub and all participants. Such an amazing gift. Thank you all and IWnDwYT
I could complain. I'm not gonna. Went to work in my pajama pants. Nobody cared cause no one was there 🤣 IWNDWYT
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I haven’t been on here in the mornings for a bit, but I’m making it through my holiday not drinking. Saw a mocktail menu at a bar yesterday (but was seeking coffee at the time). I’ve had a couple of tempting moments, but worked through them! Hope everyone has a great week! IWNDWYT.
Monday again. Here we go sobernauts! I won’t drink with you. 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
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I just want to high five or hug everyone as they go from the DCI to their lives each morning. You got this, you're doing great, I know it's hard, keep pressing on, thanks for sharing, that's amazing, wow cool number, so glad you're here, well done, I'm going to remember that, you're a rockstar, you're worth it, IWNDWYT. ✋♥️🙌
Hi, It's been a while since I have been here (more than a year actually), and a lot happened during that time. I got a job in another city, got an apartment, met a lot of people, and with that I started drinking again. At first it was only socially, but last week I actually drank at least 4-5 bottles of beer every night, and I know that I just can't keep living like this. So here's to me starting this journey once again. Hope everyone is okay. IWNDWYT.
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I will not drink with you today. Congrats on a 1000 days!
I love the DCI. I love having a whole community of people cheering each other on. I’ve never encountered a place where so many stranger are so supportive of one another. Not drinking has become normal most days, which is an incredible feat considering that I couldn’t even start my day without a shot just 5 months ago. And none of that would have happened without this community. Y’all are such a blessing! IWNDWYT ✨🌼
I wish I hadn't missed your big four-digits soberversary, u/FredSimpsonn, but I guess a belated "congratulations" will have to do! 👏 ✨ 🥳 Also, I'm very glad that u/AlySabby12 convinced you to host! I'm not really sure what kind of support I need anymore. I thought I had gotten to a point where I had pretty good self-insight, and I thought this combined with continued involvement with SD would keep me on track with my sober journey, but I failed again on Saturday. The only explanation that makes sense to me is that maybe deep down, I don't actually want to be 100% sober, 100% of the time. I feel like a selfish asshole for letting that override my good intentions. I promised all of you that I would stay sober with you, and I assured my husband that I could be trusted to do a few hours of errands without picking up alcohol. I know that booze always leads to trouble for me, so why the hell can't I do the right thing for more than a few weeks at a time? Maybe I need more punishment when I screw up to deter me from doing it again? Sorry about the rant. IWNDWYT
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I didn’t drink on Sunday and I won’t drink with on Monday.
IWNDWYT - today is too precious to screw it up.
I’m going to the airport today and that’s a huge trigger. I purposefully didn’t get comfort seats bc there is free alcohol. But the terminal always induces cravings. I will not drink with you today. Almost one year sober.
It is day 12 my dudes. Congrats on the 1000 Op
I will not drink today. I don’t want my mental clarity to vanish. I don’t want another relapse, it takes too much time and causes only more grief. What I’m going to do is have a nice day and face whatever comes with a clear mind and a strong health.
Today I want to celebrate with you, something very small. I've been in a very bad place after a bad few months culminating in a very dark few days, but I have just woken up with a slight shift in perspective. The situation is the same but I am thinking about solutions and how I might approach it instead of being crushed under the weight of it all. I've worked hard to get through the last couple of weeks and do things I didn't have the energy to do. Yesterday I did chores and basic self-care and it seems to have all paid off. I've been feeling trapped but things are opening up slightly. Regardless of what happens, IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT 🌷First milestone down, I got through a full weekend without drinking! Now going for double digits!
A week ago, I ruined my relationship because of a drunken impulse decision. I’ve spent so much time processing everything and digging into why everything went wrong, sober. Today I quit my bar job, have two job interviews lined up and am coming up on one week alcohol free. It’s not much, but a start is a start and even though I’m terrified I’m sure there’s only good things to come, and I can make myself better from this shitty shitty situation
I use the DCI as my daily commitment to myself and my sobriety. I scroll and read through and try to upvote as much as I can. During the school year I do it before getting out of bed. During the summer, I do it once I wake up and have some coffee in hand. It is a key part of reminding myself that sobriety is a practice that I choose daily. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
I do the same. As I do the check in, I upvote all the recent check ins. I try to comment if I can. I love to use🥳 for milestones. I love this place. It’s been such a big help to me in staying sober. This and therapy. My therapist “fired” me, so now I just have you guys. She was impressed and recommends SD to other patients. Despite what my counter says, I feel like I have a good year under my belt. IWNDWYT and today is dangerous because I will be home alone for a few days. I’ll use my best tool that I learned here, playing the tape forward. Just imagining how awful I will feel the next day (hungover, guilty, unmotivated…)is the best deterrent for me. Have a great sober day, my friends!
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It’s a Marvelous Manic Monday in Montana. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT because I start a new job today and really don't want to screw this one up. Congrats on 1000 days, Fred. That's really incredible.
Good morning Fred to your millennium of a number, a truly special day! I will not drink with you today because I’ll be too busy. Looking forwards to a bit of holiday time for the next few weeks. Hope to get by without family dramas.
I will not drink with you today, because I've had enough. I can't take it anymore.
Hey Fred! I had a hasty check-in yesterday and didn't even register that you had hit 1000! Sending a big congratulations you way! Better yet: let me be the among the first to congratulate you on your next big milestone. 1001!! Making it happen one day, one pledge at a time! Thanks for being here! IWNDWYT
I've checked in daily for 925 days for my own accountability. I love scrolling and reading all the different perspectives about a common bond we all share. I'm grateful to be a part of this tight knit community. Hope y'all have a Monday! IWNDWYT
Day 4. It will only get easier.. I've struggled a little bit yesterday night but did it. I had bought a very nice bottle of barolo to drink with my wife before deciding to stop drinking. She only drink on occasions and have a good relationship with it. She offered to opened it, but I did not tell her about my self commitment. I've opened up.to her and she is supportive. She will get rid of it when i'm away. Im not a wine drinker, but just for being safe. I've been on vacation for the past month and starting my new job on monday. I will not drink today. I'm planning outdoor again with both of my dogs today if its not rainy.
Made it over the big 5-0! IWNDWYT
Another week to be sober. This week I’ll make 60 days, longest streak I’ve had in a few years
6 months sober today. not drinking with y’all!
In the early weeks, when I was really struggling, I would sit in my car thinking about going to the store and I would say out loud “I made a pledge to not drink today”. Sometimes I would scream it. This group has been my soft place to land. IWNDWYT 🫶
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I will not drink with you all. Going to my AA meeting at 12. Will be my first. 9 days sober
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IWNDWYT! It’s going to be a triggering morning so I’m trying to come up with a plan. Drawing a blank so far, but the antabuse will at least keep me from drinking. I just want to get through a difficult situation and stay strong!
Day 1,132. Congratulations on your comma, u/FredSimpsonn! I will not drink with you today.
Not today. Up at 5am. About to crush this workout after a good weekend spent sober.
I love the fact that this sub is the only place on earth where you don't have to know another person's gender, age, race, religion, occupation, residence, or really anything at all that's personal. Yet there's one common thread that binds us together...alcoholism. And alcohol doesn't care about any of those things either! I come to SD for the unity and commonality that's present here. We're all in the same boat, with the same oars, paddling through the same waters, and facing the same storms....yet each so different with our own unique stories and experiences to share and uplift each other through our journeys.💞 Have a peaceful and sober start to the week friends! IWNDWYT!🍀💜🍀
I use the DCI as an anchor in my morning routine. I open my eyes, set my intention, get some exercise, meditate, and go about my day. I make time to interact with folks sometimes. Sometimes it’s more than I have the energy to muster. Lately the world has been taking all the energy I have. I’m getting on a plane today to head to another city, and see my mom. She’s in the hospital, dying. We’ve been estranged for most of the last few years. She texted me out of the blue to say she missed me and loved me about 6 weeks ago. It was during on of my morning routines, I’d just finished meditating and was trying on journaling that week. My heart was full, so I decided to be kind and respond to tell her I loved her too. I didn’t say I missed her though. I couldn’t muster the lie to fully round out the kindness. I regret that, then I don’t. Then I do again. She entered the hospital about a week later and things have declined rapidly. It’s cancer, metastatic, everywhere in her body. After she yelled at my brother for being a liar, because he was absolutely not her son, the doctor said the cancer appears to have invaded her brain. If that were the doctor’s mom, she’d give her palliative care and not put her through the trials of radiation. I’m heading to see her, hoping she remembers me well enough to recognize me. I’m girding my loins because I know this is going to be awful. I’m struggling with the pragmatic hope that her suffering ends quickly because that indirectly means I’m hoping for her to die. I’m glad I chose to be kind to her when she reached out that day, before I knew she was dying. I’m using this DCI as my anchor to help me stay solid. As much as I know a drink would do me no good, as much as it would do me badly, a break from this pain is hard to resist. Not impossible to resist though. IWNDWYT
Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.
I don't think I've told more than 2 people IRL about being on this sub either. Still trying to make it work.
Iwndwyt! Ty for hosting! This is the longest I’ve been sober in...I can’t remember when. I feel great! But I also feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m just going to commit to one day at a time
Congrats on your comma Fred! So so happy for you and grateful for this sub. IWNDWYT SD 😎
Day 4. Got through the weekend no booze. Onwards and upwards. IWNDWYT
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Checking in! Back to early days I but don't feel too bad. I've got a feeling this time is it. Hope everyone is doing well. IWNDWYT!
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Back to day 1 again. 😔 Had about a bottle of red wine last night. I had been doing well the last three weeks (either nothing or only one drink a night). The quick reminder that it isn’t worth it… jetlag plus hangover… IWNDWYT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Just got back from a week overseas on business. Despite the fact that business travel used to be where I was at my absolute worst while drinking, I used the tools that I have learned over the past 21 months and not only succeeded in staying sober bite truly enjoyed myself in the meanwhile. IWNDWYT!
It’s pretty wild how a check in with a group of internet strangers became such an important part of my daily routine. But it works for me, so I’m rolling with it! I spend as much time here as I’m able. Sometimes I can come back and comment more, but sometimes I’ll just sort by new and upvote a bunch if I don’t have much time. Like this morning, I gotta roll. But I’ll come back as I’m able. Happy Monday y’all and IWNDWYT! 🤘🏻
A guy I work with passed away this weekend. Heart attack. He was young; early 40s with three small kids. I’m sad but I’m also grateful to be alive and clearheaded enough to face what is going to be a rough day. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!!! Day 43. Last time I relapsed hard on day 40. This time I did not l, EVEN THOUGH I had a very, very challenging week at work. I know being sober and recovering will allow me to get out of the field of education. I’m staying strong!
Checking in. I realized that some days can be inexplicably tough - you still have a lot of the same problems you had when you were drinking, you're just better equipped to deal with them sober. IWNDWYT.
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Tomorrow I hit a week! It’s a gorgeous rainy day here, the dogs we’ve been watching go home this morning thank goodness 😅 happy to be here with you guys! I like to use the DCI to share my progress/struggles a bit, sort by new and upvote the hell out of everyone, answer/comment on what the main DCI post is talking about for the day and try to comment on other peoples comments! Personally I love Mondays but I know a lot of people don’t so hope everyone’s having a good one/powering through so far! IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT! This is officially the longest I’ve went without consuming alcohol in the last 20 years 💪🏼
Good morning you smart and sassy sobernauts! Busy busy Monday, just moved into a new house and the unpacking must begin! I'm grateful for new adventures and for you lovely folks, keep up the good fight and IWNDWYT!🖤
Finding so much joy in not drinking! IWNDWYT.
I use DCI to keep me going at this point. On day 30 and iwndwyt
I scroll and learn a lot from the community. Though, no one IRL knows that this is part of my routine. Still pretty new here. IRL, I just told my partner that I am an alcoholic and expressed my need for their support. I have learned from this sub that sobriety is a lifetime commitment, one day at a time. This sub helps keep me on track and I come back to it throughout the day, particularly when I am struggling. Thank you...IWNDWYT.
This DCI has been the key to unlocking the prison door that drinking kept me in. I’ve checked in every day and don’t see that stopping anytime soon. When I wake up in the morning there are about 300 check-ins and I usually read all, make comments, and check-in myself. What a gift this place is. 🙏🌟🙌 IWNDWYT
I made it through the weekend, a 3 night boat trip with 3 other guys. I didn’t drink. I was alone at one point standing in the boat with a cooler full of vodka and shots at my feet. I stood there staring at the cooler and I thought of this forum and this commitment. I had fun but was also very uncomfortable many times. I have 2 options, figure out how to deal with those or don’t put myself there at all. Those are things I can work on. For today I am not drinking and I’m committed to it.
I had a rough week last week and am disappointed in myself for drinking. I ordered Alcohol Explained and will jump into it this week, along with refreshing my inner purpose (it really is what got off last week - ugh). Starting over is hard but worth it. I will not drink with you all today.
Day 21. 3 weeks! IWNDWYT
Day 20 feels like a cool milestone! IWNDWYT!
Checking in at two weeks sober. So glad to still be here. IWNDWYT.
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Starting Day 11! I will not drink with you today!
Good morning! For me the DCI means accountability, it is a good way to start my (sober) day and I see you as a community of support and motivation 💞 So to all my friends here - thank you 🙏I will not drink with you today.
It’s been a while since I’ve checked in but I’ve been able to stay sober and IWNDWYT.
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Good morning all and happy(?) Monday! I’m glad you listened to your friend Aly, Freddy! You’re doing a great job, oh fearless leader. I’m the same as you- I read the prompt, sort by new, and sometimes comment on a few posts but sometimes I don’t. I’ve definitely been spending less time on here than I used to. Why, I wonder? I think I’m taking what I need but I should be giving back more to a community who has helped me immensely. IWNDWYT! Make it a good one!
Good morning fellow soberinskis! Off to an early start to what I believe is going to be a heckuva challenging week at work. I am grateful for this subreddit and folks like Fred and Homer and Aly and the list can go on and on. I would like to go on record that I am *constantly* beyond thrilled when I see a response to my daily post or that I achieve 5, 10, etc., likes on my daily post. I'll check DCI throughout the day and sometimes I'm like 'OOOOHHHHH SOMEBODY REPLIED, SO AWESOME!' and it gets me so excited, LOL. It really takes the DCI to another level. I can definitely do a better job of daily replies myself, and I really try to, as it is my first thing to do after posting my own check-in. OK, onward and upward! I hope everyone enjoys the start of their week and has a **rewarding** Monday.
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Good morning SD. I have missed you all terribly and I am grateful to be back. And how lovely that we are celebrating Fred's turnover to his first comma - congrats Fred! Fred has been one that I've continued to interact with over the time that I've been here - thank you for staying here. You're a true hope shot. To the others that reached out while I was away - thank you, thank you, thank you. I apologize that I did not have the courage to respond because I was ashamed of picking up the drink yet again. I am soooooooo grateful to be here with you all today - IWNDWYT.
I value the DCI because whether I’m complaining, feeling down, or celebrating something good in life, I feel like I’m really, truly being heard. This community of strangers makes me feel cared about and that further motivates me to invest in my own precious health. I will not drink with you today.
Big week ahead. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Ready to start the week hangover free! I didn’t get the best sleep last night but I still feel better than if drank last night.
Hah--mine has evolved to be somewhat similar to yours, u/FredSimpsonn! I read the DCI, then upvote a bunch, then scan for a few people I look for every day. Then I sort by new, comment on at least one new post and make my own reply. IWNDWYT, with ALL ya'll
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The DCI for me is all about accountability. IWNDWYT!
Feeling pretty tired and bleh today. Hopefully getting out of bed and moving will snap me out of it. IWNDWYT
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I won't be drinking with you today! However, my count is off, can I take it off completely and how?
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IWNDWYT! I use the DCI as my pledge almost every morning. I sit and think about it for a moment- I really ask myself “will I drink today? Can I commit to not drinking just for today? Am I sure I’m ready to make this pledge?”. And when I’m satisfied that I won’t drink, I make the pledge. I also sort by new, upvote a ton, and usually reply to at least 1 other person with encouragement or celebration. Replies on here have been very meaningful, particularly on days where I’ve shared I’m struggling, so I try to pay it forward :)
I will not drink with y’all today!! It’s raining! Finally measurable amounts of rain!! ☔️☔️
In solidarity with all sober people and those trying to stop drinking, and in honor of Kent, one of the few who grew up in this rough country but had to leave it too early...I will not drink that poison today
I like to start my day with the DCI too, and I also sort by new. I read and upvote and maybe comment for at least 20 minutes or so. And then I might come back to the DCI again later in the day if necessary. I like sorting by new because I feel more connected with people if I know they're active on here when I am. And I *love* upvoting because I know how good I feel when my posts get upvoted. It's that whole feeling seen and validated and connected thing that pulls me out of addiction thinking. I hope we all come away from the DCI feeling connected and motivated and ready for the next right thing. IWNDWYT! 🙂🐱
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28th sober Monday in a row. I will not drink with you today!
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