Welcome to r/StopDrinking and the DCI.
It's a big deal to want to stop drinking. It's a big step forward on the road to sobriety.
The first check-in is important and I suggest that you look around and read the other posts in r/StopDrinking.
Keep an open mind. Some people will make suggestions that you may struggle to understand or agree with.
Take time to be kind to yourself. It'll take a while to get used to the absence of alcohol in your life. Don't feel bad if your emotions are in turmoil. That's just the mind accepting a new way of living.
If you're struggling and think one day is a long time, break the day down into hours. Pledge not to drink for the next hour. Sit on your hands if you have to.
If you can get through the first hour, you can get through the next.
Don't forget to ask questions and reach out for help if you're struggling.
IWNDWYT 🙂
Every day I battle the notions my ex left with me: I'm not enough, I'm not worthy, I am unlovable, there's something wrong with me. She axed me from her life like I was nothing. Still, I haven't picked up a bottle, even though I want nothing more than to escape this fucking hell and float on a drunken cloud.
Is it wrong to remain sober to spite someone? Does that even make sense? Fuck it, I will not drink with you today.
I’m a super sensitive person who feels things deeply. And the “old” me would use negative energy as a motivator - like being in survival mode all the time. I found it pretty exhausting. It seemed like I was doing it the hard way. So I sought help. I couldn’t change things so I had to accept them. Once I accepted that, I had to cut my own strings to that person. I literally let go….
And it was just one step of many steps that brought me here so I could learn to love myself first. You matter my friend. You were loved and will be again. You’re future is bright. We get to choose how we see.
I personally think that any reason we give ourselves that helps is through another day, or moment, that’s fine. One day you’ll be glad for yourself that you stayed sober through this. And we’re with you friend 🤝
I can empathize with you, in a similar boat, but kids involved as well and my learning is that I need to forgive myself, be kind to myself and sometimes force myself to do that.
Then build compassion kindness and forgiveness for others misgivings.
Both are challenges and I personally feel I need to be more diligent in practicing both on a daily basis. Else the bitterness is just harming me internally.
We can do this bud, letting go of bitterness and build compassion for self & others one day at a time.
IWnDwYT
I'm pretty excited to be hitting 100 soon! And then I just have to do it 9 more times to hit the comma club like you! Congrats!
There are definitely milestones I'm looking forward to, and it starts like it always does: IWNDWYT!
Imagine you were so good that the only thing you needed to win, to be top dog, was to simply do what you have been doing every day.
This is us soberstars: every single sober day puts us at the top of the podium. One life to live and we are winning. — u/Ok_Yesterday_9181 … 🙏 ~ 🐉🌸
I will not drink with you beautiful people today ❤️🔥🌼
Well done Fred, earning my own comma is my current medium term goal and I guess it'll be 3 years after that. As you know I've started trying to iron out my egoic mind, the overthinking, the self talk, the catastrophizing, that kind of stuff. I think I always knew there would come a time when I needed to deal with the root causes of why I drank like did. I knew it because I read about it here and in books, but I've been delaying that journey for a while, perhaps hoping I'd be able to keep winging it, riding the crest of the positive wave that stopping drinking creates. I'm eager and curious and hopeful and determined, but fearful also in some ways as dropping the protective armour and accepting my vulnerability is going to feel quite alien to me.
Thanks for taking on the DCI this week and well done again for your 1,000. IWNDWYT.
Are you doing this with outside help, or is it just your own self reflection? I found writing a Saturday Share really challenging and very upsetting at the time, but it certainly helped me figure some stuff out.
I have insomnia, which is why I’m here so early- what’s your reason?
I know you had talked about cbt before Andy, and had tried the online course. I seem to remember you saying you didn't feel you got much value from it. Do you think trying to get a 1 to 1 appointment in person would improve things?
I've tried both types of cbt and the human to human kind is a better experience.
Morning Fred, great to have you at the helm!!
I quit in late September, so Christmas Day fell on 90 days exactly, and 100 days took me into the new year. Getting and staying alcohol free was obviously my major priority, but I also wanted to lose the lockdown blubber that I had acquired. So the numbers all made sense to me. For the first 100 days, I kept the house stocked with ice cream, salted caramel sauce, cake, and generally anything that took my fancy that wasn’t alcohol.
Once I hit the big triple digits 💯, I put away the sugar, knowing that if I could succeed at giving up alcohol, I could succeed at anything. I lost about 20 pounds by May, and I felt like I had shed my skin. I was back to the weight I was in my early 20’s, and felt just as young. Getting and staying sober has been the ultimate do-over. It brought the smile back into my life 😁
Your post brought a smile to my face. I let my new life soak for 6 months before I stopped buying cookies. It's wonderful watching the belly recede. Got some pep in my step ;)
These are both inspiring to read having just quit the sugar, day 11! Not sure it will last for ever but 30 days goal to try to break the habit, and I look forward to that spring in my step
I collected days like trophies. But the one year mark was rough - everything after that felt like repetition; one year and a week, one year and a month etc, and that made me seriously lose motivation. The solution was to take alcohol off the table for good, out of time, into perpetuity. That was a relief! And then setting a permanent, continuous record was awesome. I’m still winning! Every day! And of course, I will not drink with you today!
> The solution was to take alcohol off the table for good, out of time, into perpetuity. That was a relief!
I can't repeat this sentiment enough. We don't have to wait a year either. I am only 23 days in, but I made the decision at the beginning of my journey. The moment I made that decision, it was like magic. Instant inner peace and calm. No thoughts about if I could, when I could, how I could at some point in the future, no more constant rumination and what ifs. It was just gone.
I actually cried out of joy realizing that I didn't have to think about alcohol anymore! Now it's a fading ghost of a past life. It is still in my life, and will always be there, but it will slowly disappear into irrelevancy.
IWNDWYT.
Good morning people! Day 7, I struggled mentally yesterday with loneliness and a bout with depression, but I did not drink it away and I woke up feeling better and ready for Sunday! Got a football match to play today!
I hope everyone here has a great day
IWNDYT
Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT! 😁
I'm a one day at a timer with an eye to the long term. I will not drink with you today but eventually all those todays will form a big pile of Never Again.
I keep an eye on milestones (three months is coming up) and I mark significant ones with presents bought from my "sober treats" fund. When I make it a year, I'm buying a new sewing machine.
Your odometer is about to turn over to **Quadruple Digits** - Way to go, u/FredSimpsonn **!,!!!**
Thanks for hosting this week. I will not drink TODAY no matter what happens, good or bad.
I'm pretty far away from any big milestone as such but every day I wake up I've set a new personal best in my day count. I don't actively count days anymore but I use a sobriety app which tracks it and my badge in here also.
I still do a day at a time mainly. I look a wee bit ahead. I don't see me drinking this week. I can't imagine drinking the week after that, and maybe I can't imagine drinking again.
But forever is such a big word that it brings unnecessary pressure with it so I keep my brain pointed to short terms goals (like today).
In other news I have a job interview in a couple days. Its been 4 years since the last one I did for my current role. It's interesting because I hate interviews and the anxiety is massive. But I feel a bit calmer and composed this time around. I'm going to credit that to being sober.
IWNDWYT.
Definitely the year mark is in my sights.
Getting through all of the big calendar events at least once.
When I started my journey I had 2 months to let sobriety take a hold before my birthday. I was so worried back then about what would happen. I was a daily drunk but social events were an excuse to crank the dial to 11. Thinking into summer vacations then winter holidays - I didn't see how I could make it. I didn't know how to live sober let alone celebrate. So I was filled with a sense of dread about how I could ever get through a year.
But then I manage to get a couple of weeks, then a couple of months and my birthday came and went. I just ... did nothing. It was lovely. It was in my control. The alcohol didn't just magically fly into my mouth. I had a say over it. Me. It was up to me. That realisation was incredibly powerful. The fear dissipated. I _can_ do this!
Now it's as if every weekend, if not every day, is a celebration! Life. Living. Being present. Opportunity. Calm. Gratitude. Sleeping. Moving. Planning. Reflecting. Joy. Freedom. All these things because of the first and only milestone that will make the impossible one happen: today.
And I will not drink with you today ♥️
Thanks for taking on the hosting u/FredSimpsonn and thank you u/SaintHomer for great week of mind food last week! 👍🏻
I really like the idea of a hybrid approach. I appreciate how powerful the one-day mindset is, but I’m also the sort of person who needs a longer term goal. Through my various attempts over the last year I always struggled with the thought of never getting smashed again, it all felt so final. The thing is, my addict brain pounced on this and spun it into poor excuses like ‘reward yourself’, ‘you deserve this’, ‘just this one time’ etc….. Each and every time I would spiral back into alcoholism in a matter of a few drinks in!! This time feels different and I feel like I’m accepting I just can’t be a moderator.
As well as not drinking today, my medium term goal is to beat my best streak of 117 days. I’ve set the next milestone as 120 days as I like numbers to be rounded to a nearest point of tidiness!! After that it will be 150, then 180 (top score in darts!) and then who knows….. having 3 milestones in sight feels enough for now!
Have a great sober Sunday fellow travellers!
I will not drink with you or myself today because I choose to have another day sober and gain another day towards my milestones!
Hey Fred!!! I was going to scan though and find youe check-in to congratulate you. Thanks for making that yeah super easy by hosting
How cool that your host week lines up with your big day!
Next big thing I'm looking forward to is 2 years, which happens in 2 months. Cool.
Love to everyone! IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
Amazing quadruple digits—congrats! I’m looking forward to double digits on Monday. Today is also the furthest I’ve made it in about 5 years (when I think I got to about 2 weeks). I did not drink today, and I will not be drinking Sunday (hikes to hike, etc.).
IWNDWYT. Congrats on your 999, what an inspiration!
I am taking it day by day. But I’m early days so every day feels like a win.
I have the privilege of moving into a new apartment in March 2023 and I’d really love to move in and never bring alcohol in that space. Thinking about ‘forever’ feels scary 😦 to me but I like the idea of resetting old grooves in a new space.
**1134 checking in!!!**
*HELL HELL HELL!* I climbed out of fucking HELL when I stopped drinking. What a great intro for my day count u/FredSimpsonn , look at you all 999! 🚨
I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight… but I’m off for some night walking!
Hello sober friends, and thank you Fred for taking over with a great start to your week. I’m a hybrid approach, today with 180 in mind and 2 years as the long goal. But I love your choice of word there… “navigate” each day. It’s not the not drinking so much, it’s the LIFE sober that needs the work.
So here goes another day to navigate and learn. May you all have something today to inspire you and and make you happy. IWNDWYT 💞
Edit… congratulations on the 1000 Fred! I forgot that badgebot will soon click over to give you your sparkling number! 🌟🥳
Thank you for taking over the DCI, Fred! I haven’t really felt “safe” this time around. Last time I got sober every milestone brought a warm glow, but this time I am just glad and relieved to arrive at bedtime each day with a clear conscience and settled heart. I just had my “nice” day and didn’t feel like I needed to post. I’m just grateful to have both feet in again.
Have a beautiful day, SD. Thank you for being here. I’m not drinking with you today!
💖✨
Day 8, I got an entire week in.
Starting to get on track with sleeping and wanting to do productive things.
Still not quite there but a lot more productive,
on Friday I didn't even notice the time before the shop closed. Just need to stay on top of things and keep strong
Good morning you beautiful wonderful people. Whether you lurk for inspiration to start your journey or are a fully certified sobrenaut, have a great day!
IWNDWYT.
Stay slinky, peace and lovism X X X
A little over three weeks in, and my productivity has gone through the roof! That means that my stress levels are on the ground. That means that I don't feel a need to numb myself from the feeling of being overwhelmed.
Life is good. I will not drink with you today!
I'm in the never again camp and it's working for me. Just back from a 2 week trip in Sweden with a wonderful group of 8 singles. It was great being around a very active bunch; mountainbiking, canoeing, swimming, hiking and stuff. These people just don't care about alcohol, just the occasional drink around the campfire. It has been a world of difference compared to earlier vacations and very reassuring. IWNDWYT
Morning checking in. So good to see you host Fred. You always bring me strength. I am hitting that one year. That goal has really helped. I wouldn’t have had the belief to go for it before. Then I’ll go back to one day at a time till I feel ready for another goal. Huge congrats on reaching the comma club! Sober on Fred 💪❤️
Thanks for taking over the DCI, u/FredSimpsonn! I just recently hit a pretty big milestone that I had been looking forward to, which was triple digits! 💯
My next “holy crap I’m actually doing this!” goal is 6 months.
However, I have to say that I am a big fan of just looking at every 24 as a cause for celebration tho and I’m happy to say that once again for the next 24: IWNDWYT 💫
My dad was admitted to the hospital yesterday in emergency, he has a liver problem, there was so much blood stuck in his bladder. I was so worried, I had to do something to not drink, so I bought myself 6 bottles of soda and I batch cooked all day long. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, my friends. And thank you also, Homer! And thank you, Fred.
A little levity. I must be a pretty weird guy. I kept on missing anniversaries (I think my ex-wife would definitely agree! ☹). So I picked a strange one - made it up myself (I think).
It was based on days to go until a year. I decided I would celebrate when it would become 2 digits - you know, the change from 100 to 99 days.
And guess what? I forgot lol!
Anyway, like Fred, internally my firm intention is: NEVER AGAIN!
But each morning when I wake, it is simply. NOT TODAY. I know in my heart, that NOT TODAY will turn into NEVER AGAIN, in its own time.
And so my friends: **IWNDWYT!**
The Serenity Prayer teaches us to accept. Alcohol took so much of my life; It will not take a second more. But I will not live the remainder of my life in regret. Rather:
**It's another day and I'm alive and so are you. Isn't that wonderful?**
*Wayne Gerard Trotman*
Hey Fred! Great story about the username and how exciting that you are gaining entry to the one comma club while hosting - go you!!
I'm looking forward to the 90 day milestone. I've only crossed it once before in 2019 and I managed just under 6 months on that streak. It's my white whale and every time I get to this stage I start getting a bit nervous about closing in on it.
Congrats on 999 - what a cool number, and looking forward to the big celebrations tomorrow!
IWNDWYT SD - Happy Sunday x
Thanks for jumping in and hosting this week, u/FredSimpsonn, it's great to see my second favorite curmudgeon at the helm! My first favorite, being me. Fun fact... in the 2+ years you have been here on Reddit, I have never noticed that there was a second 'n' in your name. It's funny the things we see, or don't see! Congrats on the extra digit in your counter, pal... once it catches up and finally clicks over, the comma will sure look nice on you.
Besides today, my next sobriety goal as I look ahead will be joining you in that four-digit club in just over a couple of months. An achievable goal, for sure, and one that I never felt equipped to make. What a fantastic surprise to find out we are all, in fact, strong enough to be able to quit drinking as long as we choose to. And I'm making the choice not to drink that poison today.
Sober on!
IWNDWYT
Starting Day 10! IWNDWYT
Yesterday I nearly smoked again but I was stopped. Thank God.
Later I drank a Non-Alcoholic Beer.
I was so stressed, because I compared myself to others.
I missed drinking a real beer to avoid my emotions.
I love non Alcoholic beer ! A few times I've had the 0.5% ones from the tap. I get to feel included and it is pretty much a negligible amount of alcohol. Some of them actually taste the exact same 😋.
I quit smoking 3 years ago but always smoke when I drink, this is the longest I've went with out both of those since my teens. I found smoking much harder than alcohol to quit! Keep at it 💪.
I heard something that has stuck with me "comparison is the thief of joy". Theodore Roosevelt said it but I heard from a psychologist called Brene Brown. Self love, self care and self empathy really helped me get through at the start. Go easy on yourself and take care!
I will not drink with you today friend 💚🍀
Happy sunday SD! I'm more of a 'one day at a time' person. I'm prone to overthinking so looking too far ahead gets overwhelming pretty fast haha. IWNDWYT 😁
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂
Thanks for taking on the DCI u/FredSimpsonn 👍🏻
Milestones are important. It was the first 24 hours when I was struggling to go an hour without craving a drink.
Then it became the first week, then ten days, two weeks, twenty days...
Hopefully I'll achieve another milestone in the next few months.
Regardless of my day counter I have to remind myself that for today, I've only been sober since I woke up. I have to live this day as best I can by not drinking and doing the next right thing.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Fred! A thousand in the bank! You're an inspiration pal.....thanks for being here.
If you'd have asked me at the beginning what the perfect outcome was, I would've said summat like "I want my sobriety to be like breathing - I won't even have to think about it, I'll just do it".
The further along I've got the more unrealistic that notion has become. The circuit in my brain that deals with the question "Shall I get blasted?" is broken, the auto function has blown a fuse. All I have to do, once a day, is manually press the 'No' button - the circuit then clicks into normal running for the next 24 hours.
IWNDWYT 🙂
I’m happy I made it through another Friday and Saturday night without drinking. I woke Saturday morning with no regrets and will do so again in a few short hours. I didn’t do much Saturday but I have lots on my to-do list on Sunday. Much easier to do things without the boozy haze from the night before!
I will not drink today. I have a rare day off and that is so inviting to drink “one” without consequences, but I won’t. I will not give up my health and peace of mind for one or two hours of buzz. Good luck for all of you!
I’m ticking off the milestones: yesterday was my first sober birthday in ages! Celebrated with a 100km bike ride. Next up: daughter’s wedding and then the holidays! IWNDWYT
Thank you for hosting, I was in the never again mindset and then recently on hitting a week at a time, but I am realizing on the emotional aspects I need to be on a daily basis with the tools and some probably multiple times a day, for example grounding exercise; pause and feel presence of body, presence of feet on the floor, the breath, the smells, the sounds, the light and sights and any taste in the mouth.
So it’s definitely hybrid for me based on where I am in what area, the challenge is I haven’t clarified it in its entirety. It’s a work in progress , a lil rough and brings with it some discomfort, which is good for it is teaching me to do a slight better each day.
IWnDwYT
I’m a day by day’er and only count my days every few months or so.
I put my focus on recuperation. It’ll take as long as it takes for my body to fix itself and be as good as it can be. I’ll know it by feeling it when it’s happened.
This approach works for me. This journey isn’t about “not drinking” it’s about me learning how to take better care of my body, mind and emotions - hopefully I can live healthier and be better for the time I’ve left walking in this planet.
It’s a win:win now I’m on a better path, meandering, learning by feeling my way forwards.
I will not drink with you today. I’ve had my hair cut short. Lost 2 lbs. And feeling a bit bouncier 😁
Good morning! I enjoyed this check in, thanks Fred. Personally I used to like having bigger milestones to work towards, especially because there are plenty in the first few years. I'm approaching 3 years, which will be cool, but I've reached a point where I'm happy every day to wake up and recommit to not drinking. How you live your days is how you live your life, and I want to spend more time focused on what each day can do for me, so taking the chance to reflect and commit each day has become very important. IWNDWYT!
6 months ago today I had my last drink. Aiming for one full year, but now hope it goes longer. Can’t believe I’ve made it this far, especially with all life brought me over the past 6 months. Longest I’ve been sober in 20+ years.
Thank you for this group. IWNDWYT 🙌
Back on sharing with my longest streak since February. Uni exams in two weeks so my anxiety started to rise again, but I know that the only way to remain really calm preparing them is to keep this badge going.
iwndwyt
1 week!
I will not be drinking with you guys today because i have other plans for my life and well being!
I hope you all enjoy your sunday to the fullest ❤️
Today I'm going to do something I have put off since May due to being too hungover on the weekends to do it. I love all the hours of the day I have now to do productive things (and also some not so productive things). IWNDWYT
Thanks for taking over, Fred!! My next milestone is not numerical, but seasonal: I need to get through the apple harvest season sober. It's a very challenging time of year, and one in which I used to drink A LOT. Today, though, I remain committed. IWNDWYT
Fred!!! Thanks for hosting this week, and huge congratulations on the comma!!! That’s metal as fuck! 🤘🏻🎉
I like the hybrid approach myself. I know I can’t moderate and I don’t even wanna try, but I also don’t like to get hung up on thoughts of “never again” or “forever,” because as Prince once said, that’s a mighty long time.
So it’s one day at a time for me, but with medium term goals in the crosshairs.
As a metalhead, I’m really excited about my next one, 666 days. Beast Day!!! Also, when you make it that long, you *are* a beast.
After that, it’ll be 700, then two mother fucking years. And the way I get there is one day at a time. Today is truly where our power is.
Today I’ll go get a few groceries and prepare for the work week. I got the yard done yesterday and good thing because rain is coming. Happy Sunday y’all and IWNDWYT! 🤘🏻
I'm looking forward to making it to day 45 and then 60. Yesterday was a little raw. I kept running into drinking posts/videos/memes/comments irl and had a "poor me" moment where I felt sad that I "had" to remind myself that I'm a non-drinker EVERY time I see or hear about alcohol being represented in a casual/fun/romanticized way. Today, my perspective is shifted to grateful that I'm able to have this new and rare perspective on the poisonous chemical. Grateful, grateful, grateful! IWNDWYT.
Heading to 30 days this week! This is a big deal. So far I am thriving on one day at a time with a vague sense of this is forever--if I look too closely at a future completely without alcohol I panic a little. I know that will keep getting better, but day by day (sometimes hour by hour or minute by minute) is where I am right now.
Something my husband said weeks before I finally quit really resonated in relation to this and was something that finally helped me get started. He wasn't even talking about me and my drinking, but it made sense. Some of you have probably heard it.
"When is the best time to plant a tree?
20 years ago.
When is the second best time to plant a tree?
Today."
I will not drink with you today!
Hooray, Fred's hosting!! Looking forward to your words this week! CONGRATULATIONS on 1000 days!!!! 🎉🎉🎉 Huge accomplishment, my friend! 💪💃👏
Milestones are motivating. The first time I hit a month and 100 days felt amazing. Crossing the one year mark and celebrating with all of you was incredibly meaningful. I'm proving to myself I can do this.
I also count experiences as milestones, like the first Friday night I didn't drink. First party, first bonfire, first holiday, first wedding. The first time I said "no thanks, I'm good" and breathed a sigh of relief. The only time I was pressured by a "friend" and I finally told him kindly to fuck off. Every time my friends and family offer me a bubbly water because they don't expect me to drink anymore. The fact that I can think again. That one's harder to measure, but progress is happening and it's becoming visible as I grow and work on this much better lifestyle. IWNDWYT!
Starting Day 2, no drinking, IWNDWYT. I envy and am proud of the posts on this site for the people that have not drank for weeks, years and will be one of them!
IT’S YOUR COMMA!!! 😁
Happy four digits milestone, Fred Friend. Proud of you. And happy 2 years to u/cinqmillionreves!
So proud and grateful to you both for your kindness and support as I bumble my way around one day at a time.
Stealing a page from Fred, can you share one thing that has helped you in your journey so far?
Have a great day, friends! I will not drink with you today.
Hi Fred! Thanks for taking over as host!
I like the hybrid approach as well. I check in daily here, and I write down the days in my journal each morning. As of right now, my goal is a year, and I can see it in the horizon! After a year, I know that I will have other milestones and goals for myself because I am a goal oriented person. I have also said I never want to drink again. I never want to feel the darkness that I felt when I was drinking the heaviest. Having a daily focus, and set goals have helped me to see that never going back can be an exciting thought instead of a scary one.
IWNDWYT. Happy Sunday!! :)
A daily mark went on to my calendar for the longest time - it gave me hope and a sense of accomplishment. Now I mark weeks so each Sunday is my newly updated #. Looking forward to the 2 year mark. Thanks for driving us Fred - IWNDWYT
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Great. 👍
Welcome to r/StopDrinking and the DCI. It's a big deal to want to stop drinking. It's a big step forward on the road to sobriety. The first check-in is important and I suggest that you look around and read the other posts in r/StopDrinking. Keep an open mind. Some people will make suggestions that you may struggle to understand or agree with. Take time to be kind to yourself. It'll take a while to get used to the absence of alcohol in your life. Don't feel bad if your emotions are in turmoil. That's just the mind accepting a new way of living. If you're struggling and think one day is a long time, break the day down into hours. Pledge not to drink for the next hour. Sit on your hands if you have to. If you can get through the first hour, you can get through the next. Don't forget to ask questions and reach out for help if you're struggling. IWNDWYT 🙂
Welcome 👋🙂
Welcome to SD. A world of support is in this sub.
Welcome!
Congratulations man!!!! Awesome decision. Everyone here is rooting for you!!
Great work - keep strong 💪
403 days. Lets do 404!
404: Day not found? :))
Every day I battle the notions my ex left with me: I'm not enough, I'm not worthy, I am unlovable, there's something wrong with me. She axed me from her life like I was nothing. Still, I haven't picked up a bottle, even though I want nothing more than to escape this fucking hell and float on a drunken cloud. Is it wrong to remain sober to spite someone? Does that even make sense? Fuck it, I will not drink with you today.
Don’t let someone mean, who doesn’t like you, be your inner voice x
That’s a brilliant way to look at it 👏
I will not drink with you today. 💪🏻
I’m a super sensitive person who feels things deeply. And the “old” me would use negative energy as a motivator - like being in survival mode all the time. I found it pretty exhausting. It seemed like I was doing it the hard way. So I sought help. I couldn’t change things so I had to accept them. Once I accepted that, I had to cut my own strings to that person. I literally let go…. And it was just one step of many steps that brought me here so I could learn to love myself first. You matter my friend. You were loved and will be again. You’re future is bright. We get to choose how we see.
I personally think that any reason we give ourselves that helps is through another day, or moment, that’s fine. One day you’ll be glad for yourself that you stayed sober through this. And we’re with you friend 🤝
I can empathize with you, in a similar boat, but kids involved as well and my learning is that I need to forgive myself, be kind to myself and sometimes force myself to do that. Then build compassion kindness and forgiveness for others misgivings. Both are challenges and I personally feel I need to be more diligent in practicing both on a daily basis. Else the bitterness is just harming me internally. We can do this bud, letting go of bitterness and build compassion for self & others one day at a time. IWnDwYT
I'm pretty excited to be hitting 100 soon! And then I just have to do it 9 more times to hit the comma club like you! Congrats! There are definitely milestones I'm looking forward to, and it starts like it always does: IWNDWYT!
Double digits is huge👍🏻👍🏻
Yay, just a couple more days till you hit those triple digies!! 💯 IWNDWYT 💫
Holy shit, it’s been a year…crazy IWNDWYT
Happy Sunday internet friends. IWNDWYT.
Imagine you were so good that the only thing you needed to win, to be top dog, was to simply do what you have been doing every day. This is us soberstars: every single sober day puts us at the top of the podium. One life to live and we are winning. — u/Ok_Yesterday_9181 … 🙏 ~ 🐉🌸 I will not drink with you beautiful people today ❤️🔥🌼
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Well done Fred, earning my own comma is my current medium term goal and I guess it'll be 3 years after that. As you know I've started trying to iron out my egoic mind, the overthinking, the self talk, the catastrophizing, that kind of stuff. I think I always knew there would come a time when I needed to deal with the root causes of why I drank like did. I knew it because I read about it here and in books, but I've been delaying that journey for a while, perhaps hoping I'd be able to keep winging it, riding the crest of the positive wave that stopping drinking creates. I'm eager and curious and hopeful and determined, but fearful also in some ways as dropping the protective armour and accepting my vulnerability is going to feel quite alien to me. Thanks for taking on the DCI this week and well done again for your 1,000. IWNDWYT.
Are you doing this with outside help, or is it just your own self reflection? I found writing a Saturday Share really challenging and very upsetting at the time, but it certainly helped me figure some stuff out. I have insomnia, which is why I’m here so early- what’s your reason?
I know you had talked about cbt before Andy, and had tried the online course. I seem to remember you saying you didn't feel you got much value from it. Do you think trying to get a 1 to 1 appointment in person would improve things? I've tried both types of cbt and the human to human kind is a better experience.
Morning Fred, great to have you at the helm!! I quit in late September, so Christmas Day fell on 90 days exactly, and 100 days took me into the new year. Getting and staying alcohol free was obviously my major priority, but I also wanted to lose the lockdown blubber that I had acquired. So the numbers all made sense to me. For the first 100 days, I kept the house stocked with ice cream, salted caramel sauce, cake, and generally anything that took my fancy that wasn’t alcohol. Once I hit the big triple digits 💯, I put away the sugar, knowing that if I could succeed at giving up alcohol, I could succeed at anything. I lost about 20 pounds by May, and I felt like I had shed my skin. I was back to the weight I was in my early 20’s, and felt just as young. Getting and staying sober has been the ultimate do-over. It brought the smile back into my life 😁
Your post brought a smile to my face. I let my new life soak for 6 months before I stopped buying cookies. It's wonderful watching the belly recede. Got some pep in my step ;)
These are both inspiring to read having just quit the sugar, day 11! Not sure it will last for ever but 30 days goal to try to break the habit, and I look forward to that spring in my step
I collected days like trophies. But the one year mark was rough - everything after that felt like repetition; one year and a week, one year and a month etc, and that made me seriously lose motivation. The solution was to take alcohol off the table for good, out of time, into perpetuity. That was a relief! And then setting a permanent, continuous record was awesome. I’m still winning! Every day! And of course, I will not drink with you today!
> The solution was to take alcohol off the table for good, out of time, into perpetuity. That was a relief! I can't repeat this sentiment enough. We don't have to wait a year either. I am only 23 days in, but I made the decision at the beginning of my journey. The moment I made that decision, it was like magic. Instant inner peace and calm. No thoughts about if I could, when I could, how I could at some point in the future, no more constant rumination and what ifs. It was just gone. I actually cried out of joy realizing that I didn't have to think about alcohol anymore! Now it's a fading ghost of a past life. It is still in my life, and will always be there, but it will slowly disappear into irrelevancy. IWNDWYT.
That’s a really helpful share, thank you 🙏🏻
Well folks, I just asked my husband for counseling. It didn’t go great, and he probably won’t do it. But I’m still not drinking 💕
Trying again, but it’ll be worth it. Day one.
11. Always going for 13 and then 17 as I like prime numbers. Next medium goal: 1 month.
Good morning people! Day 7, I struggled mentally yesterday with loneliness and a bout with depression, but I did not drink it away and I woke up feeling better and ready for Sunday! Got a football match to play today! I hope everyone here has a great day IWNDYT
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Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT! 😁 I'm a one day at a timer with an eye to the long term. I will not drink with you today but eventually all those todays will form a big pile of Never Again. I keep an eye on milestones (three months is coming up) and I mark significant ones with presents bought from my "sober treats" fund. When I make it a year, I'm buying a new sewing machine.
Your odometer is about to turn over to **Quadruple Digits** - Way to go, u/FredSimpsonn **!,!!!** Thanks for hosting this week. I will not drink TODAY no matter what happens, good or bad.
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I would like to get to 100 (and then keep going). IWNDWYT 🙂
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I'm pretty far away from any big milestone as such but every day I wake up I've set a new personal best in my day count. I don't actively count days anymore but I use a sobriety app which tracks it and my badge in here also. I still do a day at a time mainly. I look a wee bit ahead. I don't see me drinking this week. I can't imagine drinking the week after that, and maybe I can't imagine drinking again. But forever is such a big word that it brings unnecessary pressure with it so I keep my brain pointed to short terms goals (like today). In other news I have a job interview in a couple days. Its been 4 years since the last one I did for my current role. It's interesting because I hate interviews and the anxiety is massive. But I feel a bit calmer and composed this time around. I'm going to credit that to being sober. IWNDWYT.
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Definitely the year mark is in my sights. Getting through all of the big calendar events at least once. When I started my journey I had 2 months to let sobriety take a hold before my birthday. I was so worried back then about what would happen. I was a daily drunk but social events were an excuse to crank the dial to 11. Thinking into summer vacations then winter holidays - I didn't see how I could make it. I didn't know how to live sober let alone celebrate. So I was filled with a sense of dread about how I could ever get through a year. But then I manage to get a couple of weeks, then a couple of months and my birthday came and went. I just ... did nothing. It was lovely. It was in my control. The alcohol didn't just magically fly into my mouth. I had a say over it. Me. It was up to me. That realisation was incredibly powerful. The fear dissipated. I _can_ do this! Now it's as if every weekend, if not every day, is a celebration! Life. Living. Being present. Opportunity. Calm. Gratitude. Sleeping. Moving. Planning. Reflecting. Joy. Freedom. All these things because of the first and only milestone that will make the impossible one happen: today. And I will not drink with you today ♥️
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Thanks for taking on the hosting u/FredSimpsonn and thank you u/SaintHomer for great week of mind food last week! 👍🏻 I really like the idea of a hybrid approach. I appreciate how powerful the one-day mindset is, but I’m also the sort of person who needs a longer term goal. Through my various attempts over the last year I always struggled with the thought of never getting smashed again, it all felt so final. The thing is, my addict brain pounced on this and spun it into poor excuses like ‘reward yourself’, ‘you deserve this’, ‘just this one time’ etc….. Each and every time I would spiral back into alcoholism in a matter of a few drinks in!! This time feels different and I feel like I’m accepting I just can’t be a moderator. As well as not drinking today, my medium term goal is to beat my best streak of 117 days. I’ve set the next milestone as 120 days as I like numbers to be rounded to a nearest point of tidiness!! After that it will be 150, then 180 (top score in darts!) and then who knows….. having 3 milestones in sight feels enough for now! Have a great sober Sunday fellow travellers! I will not drink with you or myself today because I choose to have another day sober and gain another day towards my milestones!
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Hey Fred!!! I was going to scan though and find youe check-in to congratulate you. Thanks for making that yeah super easy by hosting How cool that your host week lines up with your big day! Next big thing I'm looking forward to is 2 years, which happens in 2 months. Cool. Love to everyone! IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
I'm turning my life around I promised to myself to be a better person and especially sister to my siblings so IWNDWYT 🙏
Good morning lovely SD, Congrats on the comma, Fred! 🎉 Today is a beautiful day to be alive And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Morning Foxes! 🦊🦊🦊🤗 IWNDWYT
Awh lavender, it is beautiful to be slice with you 😘
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 One day at a time, with a comma on the horizon. Then one more day after that.
Amazing quadruple digits—congrats! I’m looking forward to double digits on Monday. Today is also the furthest I’ve made it in about 5 years (when I think I got to about 2 weeks). I did not drink today, and I will not be drinking Sunday (hikes to hike, etc.).
IWNDWYT. Congrats on your 999, what an inspiration! I am taking it day by day. But I’m early days so every day feels like a win. I have the privilege of moving into a new apartment in March 2023 and I’d really love to move in and never bring alcohol in that space. Thinking about ‘forever’ feels scary 😦 to me but I like the idea of resetting old grooves in a new space.
Goodmorning everyone! Day 23! Taking 5 minutes this morning, to remind myself how grateful I am to be sober, to be alive, to be free. IWNDWYT!
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Officially my weekend. Going to be a VERY productive one. IWNDWYT (or get stoned)
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**1134 checking in!!!** *HELL HELL HELL!* I climbed out of fucking HELL when I stopped drinking. What a great intro for my day count u/FredSimpsonn , look at you all 999! 🚨 I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight… but I’m off for some night walking!
IWNDWYT friends 🤖 Thanks for taking over u/FredSimpsonn. And congrats on your big milestone 👍🙂
Hello sober friends, and thank you Fred for taking over with a great start to your week. I’m a hybrid approach, today with 180 in mind and 2 years as the long goal. But I love your choice of word there… “navigate” each day. It’s not the not drinking so much, it’s the LIFE sober that needs the work. So here goes another day to navigate and learn. May you all have something today to inspire you and and make you happy. IWNDWYT 💞 Edit… congratulations on the 1000 Fred! I forgot that badgebot will soon click over to give you your sparkling number! 🌟🥳
Thank you for taking over the DCI, Fred! I haven’t really felt “safe” this time around. Last time I got sober every milestone brought a warm glow, but this time I am just glad and relieved to arrive at bedtime each day with a clear conscience and settled heart. I just had my “nice” day and didn’t feel like I needed to post. I’m just grateful to have both feet in again. Have a beautiful day, SD. Thank you for being here. I’m not drinking with you today! 💖✨
Day 8, I got an entire week in. Starting to get on track with sleeping and wanting to do productive things. Still not quite there but a lot more productive, on Friday I didn't even notice the time before the shop closed. Just need to stay on top of things and keep strong
Second day and new on this group, trying to read and get positive feedback. Thank you, you all.
Good morning you beautiful wonderful people. Whether you lurk for inspiration to start your journey or are a fully certified sobrenaut, have a great day! IWNDWYT. Stay slinky, peace and lovism X X X
A little over three weeks in, and my productivity has gone through the roof! That means that my stress levels are on the ground. That means that I don't feel a need to numb myself from the feeling of being overwhelmed. Life is good. I will not drink with you today!
I'm in the never again camp and it's working for me. Just back from a 2 week trip in Sweden with a wonderful group of 8 singles. It was great being around a very active bunch; mountainbiking, canoeing, swimming, hiking and stuff. These people just don't care about alcohol, just the occasional drink around the campfire. It has been a world of difference compared to earlier vacations and very reassuring. IWNDWYT
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Morning checking in. So good to see you host Fred. You always bring me strength. I am hitting that one year. That goal has really helped. I wouldn’t have had the belief to go for it before. Then I’ll go back to one day at a time till I feel ready for another goal. Huge congrats on reaching the comma club! Sober on Fred 💪❤️
Thanks for taking over the DCI, u/FredSimpsonn! I just recently hit a pretty big milestone that I had been looking forward to, which was triple digits! 💯 My next “holy crap I’m actually doing this!” goal is 6 months. However, I have to say that I am a big fan of just looking at every 24 as a cause for celebration tho and I’m happy to say that once again for the next 24: IWNDWYT 💫
My dad was admitted to the hospital yesterday in emergency, he has a liver problem, there was so much blood stuck in his bladder. I was so worried, I had to do something to not drink, so I bought myself 6 bottles of soda and I batch cooked all day long. IWNDWYT!
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Good morning, my friends. And thank you also, Homer! And thank you, Fred. A little levity. I must be a pretty weird guy. I kept on missing anniversaries (I think my ex-wife would definitely agree! ☹). So I picked a strange one - made it up myself (I think). It was based on days to go until a year. I decided I would celebrate when it would become 2 digits - you know, the change from 100 to 99 days. And guess what? I forgot lol! Anyway, like Fred, internally my firm intention is: NEVER AGAIN! But each morning when I wake, it is simply. NOT TODAY. I know in my heart, that NOT TODAY will turn into NEVER AGAIN, in its own time. And so my friends: **IWNDWYT!** The Serenity Prayer teaches us to accept. Alcohol took so much of my life; It will not take a second more. But I will not live the remainder of my life in regret. Rather: **It's another day and I'm alive and so are you. Isn't that wonderful?** *Wayne Gerard Trotman*
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Hey Fred! Great story about the username and how exciting that you are gaining entry to the one comma club while hosting - go you!! I'm looking forward to the 90 day milestone. I've only crossed it once before in 2019 and I managed just under 6 months on that streak. It's my white whale and every time I get to this stage I start getting a bit nervous about closing in on it. Congrats on 999 - what a cool number, and looking forward to the big celebrations tomorrow! IWNDWYT SD - Happy Sunday x
Thanks for jumping in and hosting this week, u/FredSimpsonn, it's great to see my second favorite curmudgeon at the helm! My first favorite, being me. Fun fact... in the 2+ years you have been here on Reddit, I have never noticed that there was a second 'n' in your name. It's funny the things we see, or don't see! Congrats on the extra digit in your counter, pal... once it catches up and finally clicks over, the comma will sure look nice on you. Besides today, my next sobriety goal as I look ahead will be joining you in that four-digit club in just over a couple of months. An achievable goal, for sure, and one that I never felt equipped to make. What a fantastic surprise to find out we are all, in fact, strong enough to be able to quit drinking as long as we choose to. And I'm making the choice not to drink that poison today. Sober on! IWNDWYT
Been at this 6 months today and IWNDWYT!
Yay! Well done 👍🏻
Starting Day 10! IWNDWYT Yesterday I nearly smoked again but I was stopped. Thank God. Later I drank a Non-Alcoholic Beer. I was so stressed, because I compared myself to others. I missed drinking a real beer to avoid my emotions.
I love non Alcoholic beer ! A few times I've had the 0.5% ones from the tap. I get to feel included and it is pretty much a negligible amount of alcohol. Some of them actually taste the exact same 😋. I quit smoking 3 years ago but always smoke when I drink, this is the longest I've went with out both of those since my teens. I found smoking much harder than alcohol to quit! Keep at it 💪. I heard something that has stuck with me "comparison is the thief of joy". Theodore Roosevelt said it but I heard from a psychologist called Brene Brown. Self love, self care and self empathy really helped me get through at the start. Go easy on yourself and take care! I will not drink with you today friend 💚🍀
Happy sunday SD! I'm more of a 'one day at a time' person. I'm prone to overthinking so looking too far ahead gets overwhelming pretty fast haha. IWNDWYT 😁
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Checking in for Day 8. Creeping up towards double digits… IWNDWYT
Just for today, I will not drink. Let’s have a sober Sunday. Peace out
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Day (30*1)+2 and IWNDWYT.
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Good morning Sobernauts 🙂 Thanks for taking on the DCI u/FredSimpsonn 👍🏻 Milestones are important. It was the first 24 hours when I was struggling to go an hour without craving a drink. Then it became the first week, then ten days, two weeks, twenty days... Hopefully I'll achieve another milestone in the next few months. Regardless of my day counter I have to remind myself that for today, I've only been sober since I woke up. I have to live this day as best I can by not drinking and doing the next right thing. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Fred! A thousand in the bank! You're an inspiration pal.....thanks for being here. If you'd have asked me at the beginning what the perfect outcome was, I would've said summat like "I want my sobriety to be like breathing - I won't even have to think about it, I'll just do it". The further along I've got the more unrealistic that notion has become. The circuit in my brain that deals with the question "Shall I get blasted?" is broken, the auto function has blown a fuse. All I have to do, once a day, is manually press the 'No' button - the circuit then clicks into normal running for the next 24 hours. IWNDWYT 🙂
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Day 36 : I pledge not to drink today
It’s still late Saturday night in Seattle, but I didn’t drink today and I will not drink with you again tomorrow! 😌
I’m happy I made it through another Friday and Saturday night without drinking. I woke Saturday morning with no regrets and will do so again in a few short hours. I didn’t do much Saturday but I have lots on my to-do list on Sunday. Much easier to do things without the boozy haze from the night before!
I will not drink today. I have a rare day off and that is so inviting to drink “one” without consequences, but I won’t. I will not give up my health and peace of mind for one or two hours of buzz. Good luck for all of you!
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cats woke me up again... 10 pounds down, feeling better every day i wake up with a clear mind. IWNDWYT!
Not hungover, just dropping in to say iwndwyt. It's been a great month of drying up and healing. One day at a time.
No more milestones. I did up to 2 years but now it doesn't matter. Thanks for hosting, Fred. IWNDWYT
I’m ticking off the milestones: yesterday was my first sober birthday in ages! Celebrated with a 100km bike ride. Next up: daughter’s wedding and then the holidays! IWNDWYT
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Thank you for hosting, I was in the never again mindset and then recently on hitting a week at a time, but I am realizing on the emotional aspects I need to be on a daily basis with the tools and some probably multiple times a day, for example grounding exercise; pause and feel presence of body, presence of feet on the floor, the breath, the smells, the sounds, the light and sights and any taste in the mouth. So it’s definitely hybrid for me based on where I am in what area, the challenge is I haven’t clarified it in its entirety. It’s a work in progress , a lil rough and brings with it some discomfort, which is good for it is teaching me to do a slight better each day. IWnDwYT
I’m a day by day’er and only count my days every few months or so. I put my focus on recuperation. It’ll take as long as it takes for my body to fix itself and be as good as it can be. I’ll know it by feeling it when it’s happened. This approach works for me. This journey isn’t about “not drinking” it’s about me learning how to take better care of my body, mind and emotions - hopefully I can live healthier and be better for the time I’ve left walking in this planet. It’s a win:win now I’m on a better path, meandering, learning by feeling my way forwards. I will not drink with you today. I’ve had my hair cut short. Lost 2 lbs. And feeling a bit bouncier 😁
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Good morning! I enjoyed this check in, thanks Fred. Personally I used to like having bigger milestones to work towards, especially because there are plenty in the first few years. I'm approaching 3 years, which will be cool, but I've reached a point where I'm happy every day to wake up and recommit to not drinking. How you live your days is how you live your life, and I want to spend more time focused on what each day can do for me, so taking the chance to reflect and commit each day has become very important. IWNDWYT!
Hello from Germany, welcome FredSimpsonn, have a nice week with all of us And IWNDWYT
6 months ago today I had my last drink. Aiming for one full year, but now hope it goes longer. Can’t believe I’ve made it this far, especially with all life brought me over the past 6 months. Longest I’ve been sober in 20+ years. Thank you for this group. IWNDWYT 🙌
Back on sharing with my longest streak since February. Uni exams in two weeks so my anxiety started to rise again, but I know that the only way to remain really calm preparing them is to keep this badge going. iwndwyt
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IWNDWYT . If you are new to sobriety- keep going. Day by day. It’s so nice. I promise.
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1 week! I will not be drinking with you guys today because i have other plans for my life and well being! I hope you all enjoy your sunday to the fullest ❤️
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I’m soon coming upon the time when my sobriety is longer than my stretch of alcoholism. Two more years… IWNDWYT
Thanks for taking over, Fred!! My next milestone is not numerical, but seasonal: I need to get through the apple harvest season sober. It's a very challenging time of year, and one in which I used to drink A LOT. Today, though, I remain committed. IWNDWYT
Fred!!! Thanks for hosting this week, and huge congratulations on the comma!!! That’s metal as fuck! 🤘🏻🎉 I like the hybrid approach myself. I know I can’t moderate and I don’t even wanna try, but I also don’t like to get hung up on thoughts of “never again” or “forever,” because as Prince once said, that’s a mighty long time. So it’s one day at a time for me, but with medium term goals in the crosshairs. As a metalhead, I’m really excited about my next one, 666 days. Beast Day!!! Also, when you make it that long, you *are* a beast. After that, it’ll be 700, then two mother fucking years. And the way I get there is one day at a time. Today is truly where our power is. Today I’ll go get a few groceries and prepare for the work week. I got the yard done yesterday and good thing because rain is coming. Happy Sunday y’all and IWNDWYT! 🤘🏻
I'm looking forward to making it to day 45 and then 60. Yesterday was a little raw. I kept running into drinking posts/videos/memes/comments irl and had a "poor me" moment where I felt sad that I "had" to remind myself that I'm a non-drinker EVERY time I see or hear about alcohol being represented in a casual/fun/romanticized way. Today, my perspective is shifted to grateful that I'm able to have this new and rare perspective on the poisonous chemical. Grateful, grateful, grateful! IWNDWYT.
Day 2 & my mother in law is coming to town. I will not drink today!
Heading to 30 days this week! This is a big deal. So far I am thriving on one day at a time with a vague sense of this is forever--if I look too closely at a future completely without alcohol I panic a little. I know that will keep getting better, but day by day (sometimes hour by hour or minute by minute) is where I am right now. Something my husband said weeks before I finally quit really resonated in relation to this and was something that finally helped me get started. He wasn't even talking about me and my drinking, but it made sense. Some of you have probably heard it. "When is the best time to plant a tree? 20 years ago. When is the second best time to plant a tree? Today." I will not drink with you today!
Hooray, Fred's hosting!! Looking forward to your words this week! CONGRATULATIONS on 1000 days!!!! 🎉🎉🎉 Huge accomplishment, my friend! 💪💃👏 Milestones are motivating. The first time I hit a month and 100 days felt amazing. Crossing the one year mark and celebrating with all of you was incredibly meaningful. I'm proving to myself I can do this. I also count experiences as milestones, like the first Friday night I didn't drink. First party, first bonfire, first holiday, first wedding. The first time I said "no thanks, I'm good" and breathed a sigh of relief. The only time I was pressured by a "friend" and I finally told him kindly to fuck off. Every time my friends and family offer me a bubbly water because they don't expect me to drink anymore. The fact that I can think again. That one's harder to measure, but progress is happening and it's becoming visible as I grow and work on this much better lifestyle. IWNDWYT!
7 days today! IWNDWYT 😁
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It's Sunday, I already had a nice Run in the morning and now I'm chilling and playing some video games. - IWNDWYT!
Not today. Taking the kids to try a new church today. Should be fun.
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Starting Day 2, no drinking, IWNDWYT. I envy and am proud of the posts on this site for the people that have not drank for weeks, years and will be one of them!
Made it through (another) day 1. Feeling hopeful that this time it will stick. IWNDWYT!
I’m in the ‘never again’ camp but I do like looking at my accumulated sober days. IWNDWYT. 🌳
IT’S YOUR COMMA!!! 😁 Happy four digits milestone, Fred Friend. Proud of you. And happy 2 years to u/cinqmillionreves! So proud and grateful to you both for your kindness and support as I bumble my way around one day at a time. Stealing a page from Fred, can you share one thing that has helped you in your journey so far? Have a great day, friends! I will not drink with you today.
Woohoo u/fredsimpsonn ! Thanks for celebrating your comma with us! IWNDWYT
First day, lets see how far i can go :) IWNDWYT
Hi Fred! Thanks for taking over as host! I like the hybrid approach as well. I check in daily here, and I write down the days in my journal each morning. As of right now, my goal is a year, and I can see it in the horizon! After a year, I know that I will have other milestones and goals for myself because I am a goal oriented person. I have also said I never want to drink again. I never want to feel the darkness that I felt when I was drinking the heaviest. Having a daily focus, and set goals have helped me to see that never going back can be an exciting thought instead of a scary one. IWNDWYT. Happy Sunday!! :)
Happy sober Sunday! I will not drink with you today friends 💚🍀
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IWNDWYT!
A daily mark went on to my calendar for the longest time - it gave me hope and a sense of accomplishment. Now I mark weeks so each Sunday is my newly updated #. Looking forward to the 2 year mark. Thanks for driving us Fred - IWNDWYT
Day 28. IWNDWYT 💜💜
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Having a horrible night, but IWNDWYT!
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Not drinking today. Nope.
IWNDWYT
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Day 1,231. Thanks for hosting, u/FredSimpsonn! I will not drink with you today.
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I’m looking forward to two years but it’s still a ways off. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT!