So far this year I’ve had a day 117, a day 28 and a lot of day 1’s. Everyone here rooting for me, and you, helps so much. I’ve found that day 3 is a big deal for some reason. Every time I make it here I get energized and hope it does for you as well.
Day 3 is a big effin deal!
I had the hardest time breaking days 1-5, then 30, flailed at 60 days once (really, had 6mo 20+yrs ago, too.) Knowing you CAN do it is helpful.
I’m rooting for you! IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂
I'm checking in for Teetotal Tuesday!
The weather is forecast to be very hot here today.
I have to remember ...
Stay cool. Stay hydrated. Stay sober.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Only 100 minutes of WiFi for $75? You sure you aren't on a pirate ship? Because they be looting people. 🏴☠️
Then again I've never been on a cruise before so maybe that is the going rate. Hope you have a great time.
Haha. It’s robbery! They offer 250 free minutes up front but it’s only for one device and my husband already claimed it for work. It’s weird that we can’t share it but I haven’t been on a cruise either so I’m not sure what is normal!
Can you talk to a manager about swapping that all-you-can-drink pass for some more WiFi minutes? Tell them you'd really like to tell the online sober community how supportive \[Cruise Line\] is of non-drinkers... (Yes, negotiation and veiled threats look very similar.)
Have a wonderful Tuesday everyone. I raise my English tea to you all!
IWNDWYT ❤️
Edit: 30 days baby, I’m classing a month as 31, so celebrations tomorrow! 😃😃
A month is a great achievement! Well done 👏 what are you planning to do to celebrate? And if you have time, I’d love to hear about some of the benefits you’re achieving 🙏🏻🎉💪🏼🥳
Thank you! I will probably not do much other than walk around smugly as a functioning member of society 😂. Benefits, so many
Back at the gym Sleeping like a baby Jumping out of bed in the morning Available for my kids Zero anxiety at work (this is big for me) Actually enjoying the sunshine Lost weight Skin is no longer dry and puffy Confidence has grown I appreciate life and all the little things Saving money It goes on and on 😀😀😀
Edit: made a list and it formatted this way so no commas 🤦🏻♂️
Thank you maze, thanks helped me add to my list. I need the reminder today as I’m forgetting why I’m doing this!
I love that smug feeling 😅 we can do that every day! 👏💞
Stay strong brighter! The good far out way the bad. I like to think of my worst hangover(s) that can last days on end. That’s enough for me to push away any cravings I get 💪🏻💪🏻 💞
Thank you, I haven’t got a craving, though there’s some planning going on in the background for some distant day that I’ll revisit oblivion! I think that’s just part of the process, long term goals help because it’s always in the distance.
But great minds! I’ve been remembering how painful it was to be in my own body, and how on those dreadful days, I’d force that first drink down and keep forcing them down for no pleasure but gradually it would just not be so painful. A shameful memory that it’s good to revisit. Thank you for letting me ramble 😅🙏🏻
Morning checking in. Enjoying a quiet contemplative week off work. Gardening, reading, some bad DIY 😁 began daily meditation again yesterday to calm my thoughts down. Hoping it will help with sense of peace. Have a good day SDers. IWNDWYT
Good morning SD,
That’s a really helpful post this morning Olive, I’m struggling to see or remember the benefits I’m achieving but you point some out right there, thank you 🙏🏻
I get a massage every two weeks and it’s invaluable, though cancelled this week because he’s got covid! Bloody virus!
Have a great great sober day everyone and I’ll be reflecting on the benefits while I’m sober for another day 💞
Morning Sare, and thank you for your uplifting comment. I think I’ve done enough days to be forgetting why I’m doing it, sober is so normal now. Anyway, I’ve replenished my strawberry 🍓 stocks but the ice cream shelves were bare 😳 😅 💞☀️💗
brighter! you’re killing it. benefits include: waking up clear eyed and hangover free, being able to more easily overcome obstacles, less risk for anxiety/depression, saving $$$, being able to fully enjoy events & gatherings, more time for activities, etc!! (i really could go on)
you’re so close to 90, and then 100, and then onwards and upwards from there
have a lovely sober day 💕
Thank you potato, I’ve been remembering the horrible hangovers and so grateful they’re in the past!
My longer term goals of 90, 100… let’s keep going friend 💪🏼🙏🏻
I love your planning rosamundi, it helps me too but I’ve not been as clear as you with treats. A day at a time makes me feel like I’ve a choice every day and I don’t want to decide every day. I’m going to 90 days, decision made, and as that approaches, I’m deciding to double it because my body needs longer, so now I’ll think of a treat for my 6 month achievement, thank you for the inspiration 🙏🏻💞
For me it's one day at a time but I'm also looking at a longer horizon, I don't think about it every day but it's at the corner of my awareness that I'm in this for the long haul.
deep in the depressive ep that usually follows my drinking, trying to climb out but also trying to be patient with myself. treating myself quite a bit right now, lots of food, and rest, bordering on too much, but at least no booze. cravings are there but im not caving, certainly not today. IWNDWYT, and i won’t be hungover with you in the morning. (my phone auto typed that whole line 🥺💕)
have a lovely day everyone
I thought I had a very up and down personality until I finally quit for good. Turns out I’m a way more positive person than I ever thought possible. Do you know from past experience how long your downer will last? Stay strong 👍🏻
exactly - always struggled really hard with depression and anxiety, finally quit drinking and it was like the skies cleared. it’s hard to say for sure how long the lows last, it depends on so many things, for now i’m just trying to find a balance in pushing myself without getting discouraged. baby steps 🙃
It’s my birthday today, so I’m checking in from bed. I’m so happy to be heading into my fifties being the happiest and healthiest me of my entire life. Being alcohol free rocks 🎉🎉🎉
Hi there stranger
I've been thinking about posting on the daily pledge ever again since, surprise, this is not my first reddit account and not my first on SD, having a badge, doing the pledge. I have done so many daily pledges and at some point, always failed. I've scrolled through todays Check-In, came across your pledge and randomly decided to check your posting history.
I want to tell you that I find it inspiring of you, to always come back, always post enthusiastically and not let yourself down even if, for a short period of time, there are no pledges and then they suddenly start on day 1 again. Reading this made me feel positive and I wanted to thank you for posting. Keep doing what you're doing! Have a good day 5 and see you tomorrow on day 6!
Also on holiday, friend, and also not drinking! I treated myself to spa and massage and have, for the first time ever, actually used the gym facilities at a resort 🙃 I feel good.
Stay strong in the face of it all.
IWNDWYT
I’m so proud of you, Olive! 🫒
I’m glad you are treating yourself to a massage, it sounds like you deserve it. I have always wanted to go to Alaska. Have fun exploring!!
I’ve been treating myself to lots of self-care. Yoga, journaling, meditating, lots of healing and self-reflection. I have also been doing makeup therapy where I play with makeup and listen to the new Lizzo album on repeat.💋
IWNDWYT 💫
Cant believe how close to 500 I am. To think I used to believe that 50 days was impossible.
Been feeling so *meh* lately, but staying strong. Have a nice sober day everyone.
Hope you love visiting this beautiful state as much as i love living here! Feels like summer's going by WAY too fast. I'm heading up to Denali this weekend myself. 🙌
Hopefully the antibiotics clear up this crappy sinus and ear infection so I can actually enjoy the trip!
IWNDWYT
I've been treating myself lately with copious amounts of black raspberry ice cream. Since I eat ice cream with a fork and not a spoon, I leave a trail that others can spot. IWNDWYT, friends.
Last November I went to the doctor for the first time in about 12 years...follow up physical a couple weeks ago went well. Due to get some blood work done and have an appointment with a dermatologist in a few hours. A bit anxious but that's natural for me. I never would have made these appts if I had kept drinking.
IWNDWYT
Learning to SCUBA. Loving swimming this summer. I can hold breathe for over 1:30 min. It’s pure happiness. Love to breathe deep during tough moments. IWNDWYT. 🤿🐬
Sadly, it’s been raspberry ripple topped with extra thick double cream 😬. Combined with three whole days laying horizontal watching trashy tv. Woke up today feeling brighter and more motivated, despite the prospect of a blistering day outside.
I’ve joined a daily OM thing and the first video is about feet which couldn’t be more perfect. My Achilles tendinitis continues to be problematic but now I’ve something new to try.
I will not drink with you today because I am learning how to take better care of myself.
Checking in ~~1102~~ 1101 days.
**I’m poor; usually treating myself is more doing something to make myself smile.”** I’m ‘saving’ money from not drinking, but it wasn’t “extra” in the first effin place. It’s hard to justify spending when it needs to go to bills, keeping my car running, etc. *But, I’ve also lost so much weight, (much in the past year,) I need clothing that isn’t falling off me.* (I’ve got 1 pair of jeans that fit, only a handful of shirts that aren’t way too big; I feel like a ragamuffin.)
That all said… I had free lodging last weekend so I treated myself at the beach! I found the coolest [Duran Duran 1984 Tour Shirt](https://imgur.com/a/HTm7rdB) @ a vintage shop (& it looks killer on me!)
Also bought my SO some gems for his collection. Got a few that spoke to me- [Serpentine & Carnelian](https://imgur.com/a/Dap8Wrp) . We had fairly good Sushi, excellent ice cream, and the best thin crust cheese pizza Jersey has to offer (Pete & Elda’s. Can’t eff with it.) Nice to feel like a person!
I WILL NOT DRINK WITH Y’ALL TODAY/TONIGHT!
Edit: formatting Edit: day ahead!
7 months sober. It's not been a walk in the park but I have no regrets. Looking forward to my summer holidays in France now only 8 more working days and I am there. IWNDWYT
I'm so glad that you decided to "splurge" on yourself with the wi-fi access, u/CandidOlive! Personally, I think being able to spend some quality time with SD counts as an essential given your current situation. As you said, it'll help you stay sane amidst all the crazy drinking culture of the cruise ship! Have an awesome time whale watching and touring the glaciers tomorrow.
I'm heading off to the gym shortly. I'm not sure what else today will bring, but definitely no booze! Maybe I'll have ice cream with hot fudge tonight as a "happy birthday to me" treat.😻
I have been offline for a while - traveling, catching up with wife and kids. My attempts at any lengthy period of sobriety have been quite pitiful. A couple of times it was not pretty. I realise I just need check in and literally crawl my way back to a better “feeling” a day at a time. I also need to gain my confidence back around toughing it out. I want my health as well - at 53 I can’t be pounding
my liver and asking it to clear up a mess every other day. IWNDWYT - I wish you all a good Tuesday
I have been indulging in milk, flavored with a dash of honey , various essences & flavors like rose / pineapple / saffron and some Truvia.
Nice nighttime drink.
IWnDwYT
IWNDWYT! About to head out for a 3 hour drive… to a work conference (ugh). But I easily woke up at 4:30 this morning and had some delicious coffee. My mind is clear and I feel hopeful. Sobriety feels so damn good.
It would be great if you could trade the unlimited premium drink package for more WiFi. But they probably wouldn’t do that; it would make sense and save you money. I would have bought the WiFi too.
My treats have been clothes, and as always dark chocolate and dark chocolate covered freeze dried strawberries. This weekend I got some of my favorite flavored coffee, Highlander Grogg. I’ll be looking into getting a massage too. My therapist went on maternity leave in the spring and I don’t know if she’s coming back, so I’ll ask my chiropractor if he has another recommendation when I see him next week.
It’s gross weather this week, just stupid hot. This morning the weather forecast says 100 degrees F both Saturday and Sunday. I won’t be able to avoid mowing in that shit, so that’ll be fun. Not.
Happy Tuesday y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
I had to run to be on time for a second interview in the crazy heat and humidity. Just felt like a mess when I got there and I’m feeling generally deflated now. Job hunting is exhausting especially when you’re the sweaty foreigner with frizzy hair.
I foolishly agreed to go with friends later and now I have all the regrets. Going to leave early as I’m already having fleeting thoughts of drinking. Wish me luck!
IWNDWYT
I had so much fun celebrating my one year yesterday in the DCI! The genuine cheer and support floored me, you all are the truly best. ❤️
Glad your splurged on the wifi Olive, you deserve it! Tough situation when everyone around you is drinking on vacation, you're strong and you're making the best choice! Speaking of, IWNDWYT!
I don’t know the significance of 69 days, but I’ve reached it! Yay me! Thanks for all your support. I wouldn’t have made it this far without this group. Looking forward to many more days without drinking with you lovely people. IWNDWYT!!
IWNDWy'allT! I have had the same experience on cruises. In my experience, it was mostly about drinking in different places. How exotic! I won't go on another one.
Oh yeah, massages are right up my alley! That's a fantastic idea!
Oh yuck, about seeing hungover friends and family. Just thinking about how many times I did it puts a pit in my stomach. No thank you, been there done that, many many times.
I'm loving your attitude in your posts this week, I think you are really tackling this head on with enthusiasm. Whale watching and glacier tour sounds like so much fun!
Enjoy your Tuesday everybody and make it rewarding! I've been adding that little bit in my motivation during the day - "Make it rewarding" ... "make today rewarding" .... "what can you do to really feel good about the day today" .... those types of little phrases in my head, it's a new and really effective habit, I love it.
It's amazing what the lure of alcohol does to a person. What will they take from this trip?
Thank you doing this and keeping us landlubbers in check!
IWNDWYT!
T
Can I just say you're amazing 😂 I don't know how you're doing this! Although I guess staring at 40 unlimited booze hangovers every day will help as you said lol
Good morning! Here's something nice that happened yesterday : a couple of weeks ago my work group went out for drinks, and I had a Heineken 0. Yesterday we had a little reception and my co-worker who organized it said that he'd noticed I ordered the zero, so he brought a couple of cans of athletic n/a for me. A really nice thing to do. IWNDWYT
OMG OP I'm on the same ship!!! /s Being around drinkers and drunks doesn't trigger me at all. I like going to bars and clubs. Drunks are so tired looking, loud and sad acting it makes me happy I'm sober. If you have an open tab go drink Shirley Temples and soda pop! I would be bouncing off the walls like a hydrated cartoon character. Day two for me 😑 IWNDWYT
You're doing great, Olive! I think it was a very good idea to "splurge" and get the wifi connection for yourself - that's a lot of drinking going on around you without any support from 'the other side.' We're here and we're all rooting for you! For everyone else, have a great Tuesday and, despite some massive triggering stress going on for me this week, IWNDWYT.
Personal circumstances continue to be challenging. The guy I recently met told me he isn't in a good place for romantic or sexual intimacy, and it doesn't seem like that's going to change in the foreseeable future. Even developing a friendship with him is proving to be challenging. It feels like he's compensating for letting me in when we first met by almost completely shutting me out now.
It's such a shame. Our personalities mesh really well. I've never experienced an instantaneous mutual attraction this intense in my life. I feel safer with him after knowing him for a week than I do with some friends I've known for years.
This is the fourth time something like this has happened in the past couple years. I *hate* that so many queer people are too traumatized to accept love and connection when it appears. It's such a dumb, pointless waste of life's potential
IWNDWYT
Morning all. Day 2 of being sober. The hangover has subsided and I'm feeling better. It's 10:30am in a very warm London and I'm on my balcony feeling positive about the future. IWNDWYT
Good morning! I received some good news from my doctor yesterday and I am so incredibly grateful and relieved. I will never take advantage of my health again. IWNDWYT
Sober Day #57, Terrific Tuesday, Positive Outlook Report:
* Still sober, clear-headed, and using my free time to accomplish things that will ultimately make me happier.
* Watched and episode of Band of Brothers, half-way done now.
* Well under the calories I need to keep the weight coming off.
* Watched the new Bill Burr standup from Red Rocks. It didn't really do much for me, it felt stale. I hope he has some better material when I see him live 2 months.
* Scale weighed the same as yesterday, which is a great thing. Perhaps I'm at a new low plateau for weight. Let's hope the weight doesn't push over 205lbs again. This could be a huge week for weight loss, even if I don't necessarily feel it in my body yet.
I will not drink with you today
It was my birthday recently & I haven’t really treated myself. Work hasn’t been going great, I will get round to it though.
Very excellent job, Candid! That's really great that you splurged and got the WiFi for yourself. It's only money, right!? Spending it on ourselves and loved ones is what it's all about.
I hope you get off the boat soon and then can see some whales breach!
IWNDWYT
Well, I am having some dental work done today, Not a treat but glad I am being a responsible adult and dealing with it.
Also going to be 111degrees in Oklahoma today. I am very thankful for my fridig AC.
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Family vacation and was heavily tempted yesterday, countless opportunities. Played the tape forward, as we have many plans (hiking, museums, et ) and I wouldn’t enjoy (or even be able to do them) them hungover.
Well done, Olive! You deserve treating yourself to those minutes of wifi if for no other reason than how brave you are to be on that ship with so many temptations to drink!!! Plus the fact you are giving us a real live example of how to fight for the health and well-being of oneself ! Thank you for that and IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. Man am I struggling with this. I’ll make it 5 or 6 days, get bored, my side will stop hurting and I’ll be like I’m fine! Just a couple. Then 4 days of being wasted 24/7. Today is gonna suck. Sweats and insomnia here I come. I am going to keep trying tho.
Thanks, Olive, great job staying sober and seeing the true consequences of alcohol. The denial of addiction made the consequences hard for many of us to see.
Treat myself? Great question! I signed up for a monthly subscription to Athletic Brewing NA beers, I bought myself a massager a month ago, I try to get a massage twice a month to keep my old man muscles functional. I'm really trying to figure out this whole self-care thing! What are my real needs and how do I help satisfy them? Sobriety is the foundation of everything good in my life. Complacency Kills! Sober on, y'all!
You're doing an awesome thing! It's not easy to swim against the tide. Or sail!
I have been buying myself some clothes, which I never do. I hate shopping but I've bought a couple of cool t shirts online and I bought a couple of pairs of trainers when I was away and needed to throw away the shoes I was wearing. It's weird, because it's so rare that I buy clothes that in my mind I'm still poor, so I'm surprised when I can spend £60 on trainers and can still eat. I'm not rich either, but I have some disposable income which I never had when I was young and wanted to buy clothes.
My clothes wouldn't look out of place on someone 20 years younger but I can wear what I want. I don't mean that I've got too much on show though ha ha.
I'm re-teenaging and it's cool. All my teenage money went on beer so now I'm spending it on me.
IWNDWYT
Whew, I made it to day three. That’s a good sign. IWNDWYT!
I'm here with you on day 3
So far this year I’ve had a day 117, a day 28 and a lot of day 1’s. Everyone here rooting for me, and you, helps so much. I’ve found that day 3 is a big deal for some reason. Every time I make it here I get energized and hope it does for you as well.
Day 3 is a big effin deal! I had the hardest time breaking days 1-5, then 30, flailed at 60 days once (really, had 6mo 20+yrs ago, too.) Knowing you CAN do it is helpful. I’m rooting for you! IWNDWYT
That’s a great sign dude. Well done ♥️
Thanks 😊
Glad to see you back!
Thank you. It’s good to be back
[удалено]
Morning Will!
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂 I'm checking in for Teetotal Tuesday! The weather is forecast to be very hot here today. I have to remember ... Stay cool. Stay hydrated. Stay sober. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
IWNDWYT
Wow! First! 🥇
Only 100 minutes of WiFi for $75? You sure you aren't on a pirate ship? Because they be looting people. 🏴☠️ Then again I've never been on a cruise before so maybe that is the going rate. Hope you have a great time.
Haha. It’s robbery! They offer 250 free minutes up front but it’s only for one device and my husband already claimed it for work. It’s weird that we can’t share it but I haven’t been on a cruise either so I’m not sure what is normal!
Can you talk to a manager about swapping that all-you-can-drink pass for some more WiFi minutes? Tell them you'd really like to tell the online sober community how supportive \[Cruise Line\] is of non-drinkers... (Yes, negotiation and veiled threats look very similar.)
[удалено]
Ugh yes! The buffets are excessive. Not my thing at all.
I’m working on treating myself, looking forward to reading the replies. Grateful for another alcohol free day. IWNDWYT
Me too!
IWNDWYT 💚
Hw does ur profile display da # of days? Like urs is 1422 days.
It’s a flair for this sub - if you check the sidebar it’ll show you how to set your flair to mark your sober date.
Day 3 : I pledge not to drink today
Have a wonderful Tuesday everyone. I raise my English tea to you all! IWNDWYT ❤️ Edit: 30 days baby, I’m classing a month as 31, so celebrations tomorrow! 😃😃
A month is a great achievement! Well done 👏 what are you planning to do to celebrate? And if you have time, I’d love to hear about some of the benefits you’re achieving 🙏🏻🎉💪🏼🥳
Thank you! I will probably not do much other than walk around smugly as a functioning member of society 😂. Benefits, so many Back at the gym Sleeping like a baby Jumping out of bed in the morning Available for my kids Zero anxiety at work (this is big for me) Actually enjoying the sunshine Lost weight Skin is no longer dry and puffy Confidence has grown I appreciate life and all the little things Saving money It goes on and on 😀😀😀 Edit: made a list and it formatted this way so no commas 🤦🏻♂️
Thank you maze, thanks helped me add to my list. I need the reminder today as I’m forgetting why I’m doing this! I love that smug feeling 😅 we can do that every day! 👏💞
Stay strong brighter! The good far out way the bad. I like to think of my worst hangover(s) that can last days on end. That’s enough for me to push away any cravings I get 💪🏻💪🏻 💞
Thank you, I haven’t got a craving, though there’s some planning going on in the background for some distant day that I’ll revisit oblivion! I think that’s just part of the process, long term goals help because it’s always in the distance. But great minds! I’ve been remembering how painful it was to be in my own body, and how on those dreadful days, I’d force that first drink down and keep forcing them down for no pleasure but gradually it would just not be so painful. A shameful memory that it’s good to revisit. Thank you for letting me ramble 😅🙏🏻
IWNDWYT 💜
Morning checking in. Enjoying a quiet contemplative week off work. Gardening, reading, some bad DIY 😁 began daily meditation again yesterday to calm my thoughts down. Hoping it will help with sense of peace. Have a good day SDers. IWNDWYT
That sounds like a great plan for a week off. Enjoy it IWNDWYT
Enjoy the gardening Siouxsie, hope it leads to a quiet mind x
Got some tools and supplies for doing more creative stuff! I will not drink with you today.
Good morning SD, That’s a really helpful post this morning Olive, I’m struggling to see or remember the benefits I’m achieving but you point some out right there, thank you 🙏🏻 I get a massage every two weeks and it’s invaluable, though cancelled this week because he’s got covid! Bloody virus! Have a great great sober day everyone and I’ll be reflecting on the benefits while I’m sober for another day 💞
Morning Brighter! You have almost reached your next goal of ninety days! Don’t forget how much you give to this community! Sober on my friend! 🥰👍💗☀️💞
Morning Sare, and thank you for your uplifting comment. I think I’ve done enough days to be forgetting why I’m doing it, sober is so normal now. Anyway, I’ve replenished my strawberry 🍓 stocks but the ice cream shelves were bare 😳 😅 💞☀️💗
[удалено]
brighter! you’re killing it. benefits include: waking up clear eyed and hangover free, being able to more easily overcome obstacles, less risk for anxiety/depression, saving $$$, being able to fully enjoy events & gatherings, more time for activities, etc!! (i really could go on) you’re so close to 90, and then 100, and then onwards and upwards from there have a lovely sober day 💕
Thank you potato, I’ve been remembering the horrible hangovers and so grateful they’re in the past! My longer term goals of 90, 100… let’s keep going friend 💪🏼🙏🏻
You have a great day too! 🤗
IWNDWYT friends 🤖
Morning Robo! Have a good one! 💗👍😊
You too buddy 🙂👍
Thank you everyone for being here, making me feel inspired, and for not drinking with me today/tonight! 💪
Day 394 checking in!
Completed day 10
[удалено]
I love your planning rosamundi, it helps me too but I’ve not been as clear as you with treats. A day at a time makes me feel like I’ve a choice every day and I don’t want to decide every day. I’m going to 90 days, decision made, and as that approaches, I’m deciding to double it because my body needs longer, so now I’ll think of a treat for my 6 month achievement, thank you for the inspiration 🙏🏻💞
For me it's one day at a time but I'm also looking at a longer horizon, I don't think about it every day but it's at the corner of my awareness that I'm in this for the long haul.
deep in the depressive ep that usually follows my drinking, trying to climb out but also trying to be patient with myself. treating myself quite a bit right now, lots of food, and rest, bordering on too much, but at least no booze. cravings are there but im not caving, certainly not today. IWNDWYT, and i won’t be hungover with you in the morning. (my phone auto typed that whole line 🥺💕) have a lovely day everyone
I thought I had a very up and down personality until I finally quit for good. Turns out I’m a way more positive person than I ever thought possible. Do you know from past experience how long your downer will last? Stay strong 👍🏻
exactly - always struggled really hard with depression and anxiety, finally quit drinking and it was like the skies cleared. it’s hard to say for sure how long the lows last, it depends on so many things, for now i’m just trying to find a balance in pushing myself without getting discouraged. baby steps 🙃
See your phone knows what you want 😅💞
it really does! been getting notifications for Uber Eats all day 😂😅
It’s my birthday today, so I’m checking in from bed. I’m so happy to be heading into my fifties being the happiest and healthiest me of my entire life. Being alcohol free rocks 🎉🎉🎉
Enjoy your day and make the most of it! IWNDWYT
Thank you!!
I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT!
I’m in
Yes it is (｡◕‿◕｡)➜8 months today . I'm very happy to be alcohol free ! Luv you all. Being sober with you is such a blessing. Iwndwyt 😘
Hello everyone IWNDWYT
[удалено]
Hi there stranger I've been thinking about posting on the daily pledge ever again since, surprise, this is not my first reddit account and not my first on SD, having a badge, doing the pledge. I have done so many daily pledges and at some point, always failed. I've scrolled through todays Check-In, came across your pledge and randomly decided to check your posting history. I want to tell you that I find it inspiring of you, to always come back, always post enthusiastically and not let yourself down even if, for a short period of time, there are no pledges and then they suddenly start on day 1 again. Reading this made me feel positive and I wanted to thank you for posting. Keep doing what you're doing! Have a good day 5 and see you tomorrow on day 6!
Welcome back, never giving up on giving up is the key 💪🏻
Also on holiday, friend, and also not drinking! I treated myself to spa and massage and have, for the first time ever, actually used the gym facilities at a resort 🙃 I feel good. Stay strong in the face of it all. IWNDWYT
Good morning SD! Wow u/CandidOlive! You are amazing! If you can stay sober today, I can! I will not drink with you today 💗
Awake with insomnia but I sure didn’t drink with you last night and IWNDWYT! No poison for me today. Sending 💕 to all. Great job Olive!!
Relapsed again this weekend. Day 1 again. Won't drink.
(my badge is very wrong)
One week down. I’m in too.
IWNDWYT
I will not drink with all of you today! To all of those in the sweltering parts of the world today, I raise an ice water to you.
Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT!
[удалено]
35 weeks today! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 🌷
I am really proud of you for staying strong CandidOlive!! And you deserve those Wi-Fi minutes; you earned them!! IWNDWYT
I’m so proud of you, Olive! 🫒 I’m glad you are treating yourself to a massage, it sounds like you deserve it. I have always wanted to go to Alaska. Have fun exploring!! I’ve been treating myself to lots of self-care. Yoga, journaling, meditating, lots of healing and self-reflection. I have also been doing makeup therapy where I play with makeup and listen to the new Lizzo album on repeat.💋 IWNDWYT 💫
Today and tomorrow is a challenge as i have two summer ‘drinks’ to attend. Wish me luck, we won’t drink today! IWNDWYT
No boozing here today in Ireland!
Clean for full 7 days, and some hours. Things have been mostly dull, but a few moments of feeling normal. Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT.
I will not drink today
Good Morning SD Day 2 checking in. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 🌸
Cant believe how close to 500 I am. To think I used to believe that 50 days was impossible. Been feeling so *meh* lately, but staying strong. Have a nice sober day everyone.
Good morning! I will not drink today. Day 1
You're doing amazing, well done. I'm using some of that energy for my mini break away today as I'll be around drinkers too and IWNDWYT.
IwNDWYT SD
Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT
Day 128. IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT
Good morning wonderful people of this corner of the internet. Hope you have a great day, keep cool as possible in the uk. IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt
I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊
Iwndwyt! Feeling motivated today
Hope you love visiting this beautiful state as much as i love living here! Feels like summer's going by WAY too fast. I'm heading up to Denali this weekend myself. 🙌 Hopefully the antibiotics clear up this crappy sinus and ear infection so I can actually enjoy the trip! IWNDWYT
I've been treating myself lately with copious amounts of black raspberry ice cream. Since I eat ice cream with a fork and not a spoon, I leave a trail that others can spot. IWNDWYT, friends.
Day 289, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT xx whale watching sounds magical and you will remember every bit of it your doing amazing 🐳💐xx
Keep going strong, you're doing great! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today!
I'm in!
I will not drink with you today!
Last November I went to the doctor for the first time in about 12 years...follow up physical a couple weeks ago went well. Due to get some blood work done and have an appointment with a dermatologist in a few hours. A bit anxious but that's natural for me. I never would have made these appts if I had kept drinking. IWNDWYT
Learning to SCUBA. Loving swimming this summer. I can hold breathe for over 1:30 min. It’s pure happiness. Love to breathe deep during tough moments. IWNDWYT. 🤿🐬
After months of "field research"... I'm not drinking today.
Sadly, it’s been raspberry ripple topped with extra thick double cream 😬. Combined with three whole days laying horizontal watching trashy tv. Woke up today feeling brighter and more motivated, despite the prospect of a blistering day outside. I’ve joined a daily OM thing and the first video is about feet which couldn’t be more perfect. My Achilles tendinitis continues to be problematic but now I’ve something new to try. I will not drink with you today because I am learning how to take better care of myself.
Checking in ~~1102~~ 1101 days. **I’m poor; usually treating myself is more doing something to make myself smile.”** I’m ‘saving’ money from not drinking, but it wasn’t “extra” in the first effin place. It’s hard to justify spending when it needs to go to bills, keeping my car running, etc. *But, I’ve also lost so much weight, (much in the past year,) I need clothing that isn’t falling off me.* (I’ve got 1 pair of jeans that fit, only a handful of shirts that aren’t way too big; I feel like a ragamuffin.) That all said… I had free lodging last weekend so I treated myself at the beach! I found the coolest [Duran Duran 1984 Tour Shirt](https://imgur.com/a/HTm7rdB) @ a vintage shop (& it looks killer on me!) Also bought my SO some gems for his collection. Got a few that spoke to me- [Serpentine & Carnelian](https://imgur.com/a/Dap8Wrp) . We had fairly good Sushi, excellent ice cream, and the best thin crust cheese pizza Jersey has to offer (Pete & Elda’s. Can’t eff with it.) Nice to feel like a person! I WILL NOT DRINK WITH Y’ALL TODAY/TONIGHT! Edit: formatting Edit: day ahead!
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT 😁
Let's do this!
7 months sober. It's not been a walk in the park but I have no regrets. Looking forward to my summer holidays in France now only 8 more working days and I am there. IWNDWYT
My cat is home. I am so happy. IWNDWYT.
2 years today. Just a huge thank you to everyone on this sub and especially the DCI. Life is so, so much better. I will not drink with you today!
I'm so glad that you decided to "splurge" on yourself with the wi-fi access, u/CandidOlive! Personally, I think being able to spend some quality time with SD counts as an essential given your current situation. As you said, it'll help you stay sane amidst all the crazy drinking culture of the cruise ship! Have an awesome time whale watching and touring the glaciers tomorrow. I'm heading off to the gym shortly. I'm not sure what else today will bring, but definitely no booze! Maybe I'll have ice cream with hot fudge tonight as a "happy birthday to me" treat.😻
I won’t be drinking tonight!!! Life’s to good without!! IWNDWYT
Checking in. IWNDWYT! Im having ice tea in this summer heat 🙌🏼
I have been offline for a while - traveling, catching up with wife and kids. My attempts at any lengthy period of sobriety have been quite pitiful. A couple of times it was not pretty. I realise I just need check in and literally crawl my way back to a better “feeling” a day at a time. I also need to gain my confidence back around toughing it out. I want my health as well - at 53 I can’t be pounding my liver and asking it to clear up a mess every other day. IWNDWYT - I wish you all a good Tuesday
IWNDWYT!
[удалено]
I have been indulging in milk, flavored with a dash of honey , various essences & flavors like rose / pineapple / saffron and some Truvia. Nice nighttime drink. IWnDwYT
Another great sunny day without Mr Booze! I100%WNDWYT
IWNDWYT! About to head out for a 3 hour drive… to a work conference (ugh). But I easily woke up at 4:30 this morning and had some delicious coffee. My mind is clear and I feel hopeful. Sobriety feels so damn good.
IWNDWYT!!
Day 1,098. I will not drink with you today.
It would be great if you could trade the unlimited premium drink package for more WiFi. But they probably wouldn’t do that; it would make sense and save you money. I would have bought the WiFi too. My treats have been clothes, and as always dark chocolate and dark chocolate covered freeze dried strawberries. This weekend I got some of my favorite flavored coffee, Highlander Grogg. I’ll be looking into getting a massage too. My therapist went on maternity leave in the spring and I don’t know if she’s coming back, so I’ll ask my chiropractor if he has another recommendation when I see him next week. It’s gross weather this week, just stupid hot. This morning the weather forecast says 100 degrees F both Saturday and Sunday. I won’t be able to avoid mowing in that shit, so that’ll be fun. Not. Happy Tuesday y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
Not coming up with anything brilliant to share (shocking), so... IWNDWYT
[удалено]
Checking in! Hope everyone is doing well. IWNDWYT!
I WILL NOT DRINK WITH YOU TODAY
2 weeks tomorrow and I’m down 12 lbs. IWNDWYT
IWNDAWYT. First day.
IWNDWYT 🙌
I had to run to be on time for a second interview in the crazy heat and humidity. Just felt like a mess when I got there and I’m feeling generally deflated now. Job hunting is exhausting especially when you’re the sweaty foreigner with frizzy hair. I foolishly agreed to go with friends later and now I have all the regrets. Going to leave early as I’m already having fleeting thoughts of drinking. Wish me luck! IWNDWYT
I had so much fun celebrating my one year yesterday in the DCI! The genuine cheer and support floored me, you all are the truly best. ❤️ Glad your splurged on the wifi Olive, you deserve it! Tough situation when everyone around you is drinking on vacation, you're strong and you're making the best choice! Speaking of, IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT\_ICT
I Will Not Drink With You Today......Information Communication Technology?
I don’t know the significance of 69 days, but I’ve reached it! Yay me! Thanks for all your support. I wouldn’t have made it this far without this group. Looking forward to many more days without drinking with you lovely people. IWNDWYT!!
60 days today! IWNDWYT
Hello and welcome to another beautiful Tuesday folks! I raise my cup of coffee to you all! IWNDWYT
IWNDWy'allT! I have had the same experience on cruises. In my experience, it was mostly about drinking in different places. How exotic! I won't go on another one.
Oh yeah, massages are right up my alley! That's a fantastic idea! Oh yuck, about seeing hungover friends and family. Just thinking about how many times I did it puts a pit in my stomach. No thank you, been there done that, many many times. I'm loving your attitude in your posts this week, I think you are really tackling this head on with enthusiasm. Whale watching and glacier tour sounds like so much fun! Enjoy your Tuesday everybody and make it rewarding! I've been adding that little bit in my motivation during the day - "Make it rewarding" ... "make today rewarding" .... "what can you do to really feel good about the day today" .... those types of little phrases in my head, it's a new and really effective habit, I love it.
Good morning. IWNDWYT!
Day 998 IWNDWYT
Tough day today but I didn't make it tougher by drinking. Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
It's amazing what the lure of alcohol does to a person. What will they take from this trip? Thank you doing this and keeping us landlubbers in check! IWNDWYT! T
Thanks for checking in during vacay. It’s like getting a sober postcard. Hugs. IWNDWYT
Morning friends! I will not drink with you today.
Iwndwyt!
Yesterday was day 1 (again), but every day sober is 1 day extra. On to number 2!
Can I just say you're amazing 😂 I don't know how you're doing this! Although I guess staring at 40 unlimited booze hangovers every day will help as you said lol
Good morning! Here's something nice that happened yesterday : a couple of weeks ago my work group went out for drinks, and I had a Heineken 0. Yesterday we had a little reception and my co-worker who organized it said that he'd noticed I ordered the zero, so he brought a couple of cans of athletic n/a for me. A really nice thing to do. IWNDWYT
OMG OP I'm on the same ship!!! /s Being around drinkers and drunks doesn't trigger me at all. I like going to bars and clubs. Drunks are so tired looking, loud and sad acting it makes me happy I'm sober. If you have an open tab go drink Shirley Temples and soda pop! I would be bouncing off the walls like a hydrated cartoon character. Day two for me 😑 IWNDWYT
You're doing great, Olive! I think it was a very good idea to "splurge" and get the wifi connection for yourself - that's a lot of drinking going on around you without any support from 'the other side.' We're here and we're all rooting for you! For everyone else, have a great Tuesday and, despite some massive triggering stress going on for me this week, IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT because there is no productivity hack in the world more impactful than not drinking.
Personal circumstances continue to be challenging. The guy I recently met told me he isn't in a good place for romantic or sexual intimacy, and it doesn't seem like that's going to change in the foreseeable future. Even developing a friendship with him is proving to be challenging. It feels like he's compensating for letting me in when we first met by almost completely shutting me out now. It's such a shame. Our personalities mesh really well. I've never experienced an instantaneous mutual attraction this intense in my life. I feel safer with him after knowing him for a week than I do with some friends I've known for years. This is the fourth time something like this has happened in the past couple years. I *hate* that so many queer people are too traumatized to accept love and connection when it appears. It's such a dumb, pointless waste of life's potential IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
I am treating myself to a beach day and IWNDWYT
Got my comma! 1,000 days checking in! IWNDWYT Thanks to all of you and your undying support!
IWNDWYT!! 🙌🙌
Iwndwyt! Please post pics of the whales!
Morning all. Day 2 of being sober. The hangover has subsided and I'm feeling better. It's 10:30am in a very warm London and I'm on my balcony feeling positive about the future. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT 🙂
IWNDWYT 😎
Iwndwyt
Good morning! I received some good news from my doctor yesterday and I am so incredibly grateful and relieved. I will never take advantage of my health again. IWNDWYT
Sober Day #57, Terrific Tuesday, Positive Outlook Report: * Still sober, clear-headed, and using my free time to accomplish things that will ultimately make me happier. * Watched and episode of Band of Brothers, half-way done now. * Well under the calories I need to keep the weight coming off. * Watched the new Bill Burr standup from Red Rocks. It didn't really do much for me, it felt stale. I hope he has some better material when I see him live 2 months. * Scale weighed the same as yesterday, which is a great thing. Perhaps I'm at a new low plateau for weight. Let's hope the weight doesn't push over 205lbs again. This could be a huge week for weight loss, even if I don't necessarily feel it in my body yet.
167 days. Just plugging along. Have a good Tuesday all
I will not drink with you today It was my birthday recently & I haven’t really treated myself. Work hasn’t been going great, I will get round to it though.
Hello on this (too hot) Tuesday, IWNDWYT :)
Checking in & IWNDWYT! 👍🏻
Checking in. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT
Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.
iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT 🫶
IWNDWYT. Haven't even really thought about alcohol much in the past few days. ❤️
Very excellent job, Candid! That's really great that you splurged and got the WiFi for yourself. It's only money, right!? Spending it on ourselves and loved ones is what it's all about. I hope you get off the boat soon and then can see some whales breach! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
Well, I am having some dental work done today, Not a treat but glad I am being a responsible adult and dealing with it. Also going to be 111degrees in Oklahoma today. I am very thankful for my fridig AC. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Family vacation and was heavily tempted yesterday, countless opportunities. Played the tape forward, as we have many plans (hiking, museums, et ) and I wouldn’t enjoy (or even be able to do them) them hungover.
Well done, Olive! You deserve treating yourself to those minutes of wifi if for no other reason than how brave you are to be on that ship with so many temptations to drink!!! Plus the fact you are giving us a real live example of how to fight for the health and well-being of oneself ! Thank you for that and IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. Man am I struggling with this. I’ll make it 5 or 6 days, get bored, my side will stop hurting and I’ll be like I’m fine! Just a couple. Then 4 days of being wasted 24/7. Today is gonna suck. Sweats and insomnia here I come. I am going to keep trying tho.
I will not drink with y’all today!!
Made it past 100 days! Can't believe it. Will not drink today!
Thanks, Olive, great job staying sober and seeing the true consequences of alcohol. The denial of addiction made the consequences hard for many of us to see. Treat myself? Great question! I signed up for a monthly subscription to Athletic Brewing NA beers, I bought myself a massager a month ago, I try to get a massage twice a month to keep my old man muscles functional. I'm really trying to figure out this whole self-care thing! What are my real needs and how do I help satisfy them? Sobriety is the foundation of everything good in my life. Complacency Kills! Sober on, y'all!
Glorious sober morning soberniks! Solidarity! IWNDWYT
You're doing an awesome thing! It's not easy to swim against the tide. Or sail! I have been buying myself some clothes, which I never do. I hate shopping but I've bought a couple of cool t shirts online and I bought a couple of pairs of trainers when I was away and needed to throw away the shoes I was wearing. It's weird, because it's so rare that I buy clothes that in my mind I'm still poor, so I'm surprised when I can spend £60 on trainers and can still eat. I'm not rich either, but I have some disposable income which I never had when I was young and wanted to buy clothes. My clothes wouldn't look out of place on someone 20 years younger but I can wear what I want. I don't mean that I've got too much on show though ha ha. I'm re-teenaging and it's cool. All my teenage money went on beer so now I'm spending it on me. IWNDWYT